a big life change...

[@owem_feybi]

We love you jem This is the number of people who love jem ⬇️

[@thecreativegeek7886]

“at the end of the day, i understand myself better than everyone else” yas, jem!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@maggiemayer8843]

Its ok girl, u do u, I hope u find peace in your year off, its ok, deep breaths, u got this

[@LovingCandyXOxo]

I have never related to something more. I always got very upset and sad thinking about the future in my academic studies. I never whole heartedly invested in my classes, I felt like I was just trying to get through and survive. I learned that it’s time to take my own pace and understand what I want and hopefully you will figure yourself out during this year off :)

[@julean5171]

I can relate so much more

[@hyacinthgrows]

@@julean5171 I have found my people. I'm constantly putting pressure on to myself because I don't think I'm good enough, and my brain just goes into overload and so now I'm trying to be happy.

[@Justluffyyy]

"Blinding following what other people are doing because I am unsure about what I want to do" that hit me hard. I've been doing this all my life. Time to change that.

[@strattee2995]

Totally support you, Jem...if it makes you feel better, I’m also taking some time off of school. Our experiences seriously align so similarly, and I think a lot of young people have a similar experience. It’s a really tough decision because society/social media/etc. makes it feel necessary to complete this "pre-determined" path, which in reality, isn’t what life is about. I’m so happy to hear you’re trusting your gut and doing what makes you happy - only way to go through life. So proud of you, and all the emotions you are feeling have plagued/blessed so many of us! We’re witchu!

[@bluerae_]

I think education is super important and I really value it. But very honestly I think college is overrated. I went to college just because I thought it was the right thing to do. I did enjoyed my major I thought it was very interesting, however now that I graduated I feel like I have nothing. Just a paper and social approval. I can't get a nice job because I didn't learned anything pratical. It kind of frustrates me like my mom spent all this money, I studied so much, all the stress and anxiety... for what? I think a lot of people feel like this. Even though I still don't regret going to college I admire you for having the courage to follow your own path. Like my dad says "don't make plans for life, because life migth already have plans for you." Good luck 💗

[@minyummm]

Hi Jem, as a former grad student at UW(Started my Masters), I can relate so much. I dropped out after a school year as the pressure, work, expectations, and everything else was just too much. I was in campus doing work for 12-14 hours a day. It was so stressful and shitty. I was miserable, depressed and not taking care of myself. All the friends that I have that went to Waterloo, hate the university. You are not alone in this. My partner is finishing grad school there and hates every second of it. That same year I got into another masters in Germany and I had such a wonderful time, met amazing people and learnt in a safe environment. UW is just stressing people for the sake of stressing them out. The bell curve game is insane in courses ( I was a TA for 3 courses during that time) so what is the point of making exams so difficult and stressing students about assignments and shit? I was doing research from the beginning, taking 2 courses per term + working as TA to make ends meet. I struggled financially as well. I am so glad I am done with it. I do not recommend UW to anyone. It's a shitty place to be in.

[@CarolinaMendivil]

youngminus the Seattle campus?

[@minyummm]

No, the UW campus - University of Waterloo in Canada.

[@chardonnaykay474]

What was the Name of the uni in Germany ? I am german hihi

[@minyummm]

@@chardonnaykay474 at TU Dresden! :) I don't speak German and my degree was in English

[@Kimberly-zn5nw]

Not being a debbie downer, but girl once you reach junior and senior year in uni, it's a scary ride, so it's good that you're taking a year off. Hopefully, you will recover and find yourself, you got this!

[@iLastStar]

r u a senior? :P im a senior n ya, post-grad sounds scary

[@Kimberly-zn5nw]

Son M I graduated

[@iLastStar]

@@Kimberly-zn5nw ha, 2 word answer. anyway, hows post-grad life

[@Kimberly-zn5nw]

Son M it’s aight, slightly “stress-free”

[@ginnydraper2677]

I took a year off to seriously work on my mental health after I tried and failed to take classes my sophomore year of college. I ended up withdrawing both semesters and my GPA took a hit; I just finished my first day of classes and I feel refreshed and ready to get back to work. I commend you for having the presence of mind to realize what’s best for YOU before you were in the hole! The path doesn’t look the same for everyone, best of luck!

[@minemine2917]

Whatever you want to do is up to you; and no matter what, I and everyone else totally supports you!

[@07tandu]

Jem can I just say I relate to your story so much. When I graduated highschool I just enrolled in uni because everyone else was doing it,I dropped out 2 years into my degree and am now taking a year off (to work overseas, travel and think) to see what I wanna do. You aren't alone.

[@user-kd4rt1lf7t]

i took a year out due to anxiety and my friends and parents thought I was crazy. But now I'm going back to uni in a couple of weeks and I couldn't be in a happier place. At the end of the day, you know yourself and what's best for you better than anyone else x

[@blazereho811]

How have you been? Always trust your gut, you know what makes you happier better than anyone else :)

[@Saadysalma]

I sense that you might fit in a creative environment.. Something like graphic design or video production for example. It's a normal process. I went into academia thinking this where I wanna be..now I can't wait to get out xD

[@francesca9566]

We will always love and support you!

[@777goncharovv]

thanks

[@cgl23_]

@@777goncharovv xD

[@onlysunny]

I know exactly how you feel and what you went through, I went through EXACTLY the same thing. Being unsure, being scared of the thought of school, the thought of everything happening so quickly and not being able to handle the pressure. I took that break and I can tell you that I don't regret, I instantly felt better and I just want you to know that I'm on your side and I hope you find your happy place again, you can go back to education whenever you're comfortable. I look forward to your journey of happiness ♡

[@jayne2598]

It's crazy because I feel like my situation in life atm, and your situation is very similar but also like the opposite lol!!! when I graduated from high school (2 years ago) everyone I knew was going into college or university right after school. unfortunately I wasn't able to get into university and I felt very discouraged by it. I didn't know what to do with all my free time and felt like my life wasn't going anywhere. Although I was sad majority of the time, I had a lot of time to myself and kinda was able to know more about me and what I loved. I applied for school again this fall and I still am not sure if I will be accepted or not and it gives me loads of anxiety. So I feel like I really relate to what you're saying and I think it's best to do whatever you believe is good for YOU and what will make YOU happy

[@iLastStar]

i took a year off as i didnt get into my dream school, did summer school n nightschool to up my grades, re-applied and luckily got into my dream school -- all the best !

[@blazereho811]

Last year I always had the same put in my stomach about going back to my dorm. I don’t have the best family household, so I loved living on my own, but every time I visited home I would get crazy anxious to go back to school. It always took me a few days to recover after being back and my parents never understood why I felt that way. Heck, I don’t really understand why either. I tried transferring to another school but ended up doing something stupid and couldn’t attend anymore, so now I’m going back to the other college next month and I feel the same anxiety times a hundred now that I’ll be going back to no friends, not being able to call my boyfriend every day (mistake at last college caused us to not be able to legally talk until the issue is resolved ugh), and the fact that I’m the shyest person I’ve ever met. I hate how the school makes me feel but I love college and being independent, so I’m just going back to rack up transfer credits and leave. Anyway, my point is that I’m so happy to hear that other people are going through the same thing with the uneasiness and not really doing anything outside of homework and studying. These past few months I’ve learned almost an entire programming language on my own, whereas if I was in school, I’d only learn the language being taught to me and spend my free time watching Netflix and stuff.

[@gisellevasquez8377]

I'm a 4th year student. School has been extremely stressful and I wish very much to take a year off but sadly I can't, I'm almost done. I regret not taking that year off because now I'm at my lowest point. Sure I almost habe my degree but my mental health isn't the best. I'm so glad you are taking a year off and focus on YOU. People need to understand that taking a year off is not bad. We all support you here 💜💜

[@carlaaburnet]

im so porud of you jem, thank you for being such a good role model! i will always support and be there for you.

[@nemo4574]

It doesn't matter if you let others down as long as you don't let yourself down. It's so good that you took this step. I felt the same pressure but somehow got to my fourth year (god i wish i had taken a break earlier). I took an extra year because i woke up one morning and just went "well, i'm not very happy with this whole thing so lemme just apply to a program that will take me halfway around the globe but at least i won't have to study and hate myself". And turns out a break was all that i needed, give yourself all the time you need, you'll be surprised at the rate of mental recovery you'll have once you go back to doing what you love and once you don't force yourself. It's not easy but it's so worth it, good luck my dude

[@TanujPandya]

Jem this sounds like a wonderful idea. Taking the year off will really help you explore yourself, your passions and maybe you will find something that makes you feel inspired. There is no point in finishing the degree if you are not passionate about it. We will support you through anything.

[@oliveyerrface]

Says “year off” Me: year off of what?!? School?!!? KZbin?!??!? Starts talking about school Me: oh thank god, just school. Hope everything works out ~ I took a year off of school as well. Went back, graduated, and now working at the schools advisement center. You got this girl!!!

[@zariyah3281]

I really thought about yt and i stpped watching thinking that and a few days i saw her updated and like "whut? I thought u will year off of yt?!" hahaha i dont want jem to stop yt tho

[@slyvanose_]

I support you 💯. Hopefully you’ll figure everything out and find your way in life. I feel the same way about future. Anyway I wish you the best of the best and just follow your heart and go with the flow. We’ll be waiting for the new content but also take care of yourself and take some time for your health in general. 💜

[@angelANDpeace]

We are here to support you, Jem!!!! 💕💕🌸🌸🌸 I haven’t finished watching the whole video yet but I just wanted to let you know that. :)

[@kenziereid9162]

I completely understand. I, myself, had to take a break from college after my sophomore year to really try and understand what I wanted in life and what direction I wanted to take. You know what you need and don’t let anyone else tell you what you should and should not do!

[@alohaxck]

This isn’t related to the video but you are so pretty 💛🤩

[@ash-qh7hz]

alohaxshay thank you

[@oh-ohstinky5819]

Ashlynn Hogan ?:/

[@emily-yr6qr]

Ashlynn Hogan confused.com

[@haneefamusat]

@@emily-yr6qr She was joking numbnut

[@emily-yr6qr]

Haneef Amusat No need to be rude.

[@blueparks9845]

we support you 100% jem!. i’ve been watching your videos for while now and you honestly made me better myself and get myself together. i’m really happy to hear your taking a year off, i think that taking a year of will help a lot with what your going through so that you won’t be stressed with school work and stuff. i hope everything gets better. love you jem! シ💛

[@fifi-uw9rt]

I had literally the exact same situation happen to me last year the mere thought of going to the university that i got accepted to gave me huge anxiety, even to the point where i would feel nauseated. I felt like such a burden to my parents and huniliated but hey, i decided that i wasn't living for my family/friends and took the semester off. Jem its totally ok to put yourself first and figure your passions out. Believe me, after i took those 4 months for myself i learned soooo much about myself and what o wanted to do :)

[@NooksChillTunes]

I needed to take a year off due to personal problems that didn’t allow me to get the best grades to study medicine. I felt so bad because I thought I was letting people down, that I was not enough, that I wouldn’t ever study medicine. And here I am, 1st year of medicine, my dream being a reality at last. It’s ok to have a year for urself, to think, to rest, to give urself space, and that doesn’t mean u are not enough, we are all human and we all are capable of everything, we just need time and self-care. Love u Jem

[@bananafish3231]

During the first half of my year off was really bad. The feeling of not going anywhere was really hard on me. Im so glad i took a year off but just be warned you might have a rough time at it at first.

[@whitelily_2366]

What do u mean by rough time?

[@bananafish3231]

@@whitelily_2366 getting used to the lack of structure and having to be completely self motivated i geuss.

[@shajanah7663]

Yes I feel you. I’m half way rn in my year off, and I’m struggling. When you’re so used to having a routine and schedules and now You got months of free time. Everything is just new ._.

[@mel-jd2ro]

You are so inspiring.. keep it up 🥺🥺

[@aligrace8135]

I totally get you. I just recently had to take an extra year to finish school. School gave me such bad stress and anxiety. I was very sleep deprived. You're not alone. I felt like a lot of friends were going to judge me for doing it, but I felt that I needed more time. I started loosing all my passions. My love for music and art just faded because I was constantly consumed in my school. But this year, I feel so relaxed. A lot of my friends were supportive of it. I'm so glad I'm not alone. I totally feel you. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope this year goes well for you. Stay strong. I'll pray for you! I'm glad you did what was best for you.

[@laviniavieira5463]

Exactly one year ago I was going through this same problem you are right now. Believe me, this is just a phase and as soon as you start focusing on what you really love and find your purpose everything will be clearer and start working out. Wish you all the best!

[@krisfam]

It’s ok to change your mind and figure out what works for you. I’m glad you made peace with your decision. 🌸

[@dai7302]

I relate to everything you have said. I really encourage you to go out there and figure yourself out, a degree it’s not always what paves a way to a person but your choices in life does!! I really support your decision i cant wait to see more healthy in terms of mental wellness, i wish you nothing but success in your new chapter💜

[@hollypotter1424]

University is really hard for me too mentally, so I feel you. I’m proud that you are doing this for yourself 💛 do what is best for you. My volunteering with mental health work and art based therapy is helping me with my passions, and cope with this last year of university. You are still a wonderful role model 💛💛

[@KuruAnimeShoujo2000]

Hey Jem !! It’s okay to take a year off, I agree that university life can be stressful cause my second year affected my mental health as well and it’s good to take some time off to understand yourself and your goals! So I’m going to support your big decision and everything will be okay 🤗

[@manalmuhammadd]

i can understand you very much ! i have same experience but i was not courage enough to say No to my family .. so i kept in the same circle . of course you feel happy about your decision but also afraid , don't make this feeling step you back . support you to be you and to make your own big future decisions . all love 💖

[@shirley8253]

i actually went to uwaterloo too and just graduated (think i've seen you on campus one time!) - but yeah that place is depressing (especially during winter terms cuz it's so ugly). i probably needed a year-long break when i was still in school, so I commend you for making this tough decision!!!

[@jocelyn9085]

we support you jem! take all the time you need, love you 💗💗

[@beani.t]

you’ve got this! i know that school is tough and if taking a year off from school is healthy for you; that’s good. i’m so happy for you that you’re deciding what -you- want. we’re here for you!

[@chillwithtams9336]

I have the same feeling sometimes, it's very hard to explain it. you are not alone!!! we support you, just do what makes you happy, at the end of the day only thing that matters is you!!!

[@laitstrawberry]

UWaterloo took a toll on me too and I didn't realize until getting home for the summer. I cried tears of joy and I didn't fully understand why. I have passion for my program, but the act of going through the "boring" aspects of it forced me to close doors to my goals and interests. I still don't know if it's me just not wanting to grow up or me realizing I shouldn't be there. Thank you for sharing, Jem :) Waterloo is tough and toxic and more people need to hear this.

[@Giappotarallo89]

Its been 3 years since someone commented. Thats a long time. I just found this vid through a podcast and u are really calm and have perfect opinions.

[@frenchfries749]

this is what exactly i felt during my first year in college and now thinking back i wish i did this, i wish i was brave enough to take a stand on my own. Huhu now im a graduate of the degree that i don't want/like in the first place anw im so happy for u huhu luv u

[@glennjammin]

i'm on the same boat, college wasnt something i personally wanted to pursue but bcs society says this is what's next after high school and all my friends went, i applied. i have zero idea what i want to do or where i want to be as an undecided major so i really feel with you on feeling like you dont have a clear "path"

[@mayome]

We're here for you, Jem. It's okay. I dropped out of college twice due to my mental health, disability and the school refusing to honor my accomodations, but now, at 24, I'm going back to a different school that genuinely wants to help me achieve what I want and not be held back by my limitations. Life is hard, it's okay to take time to breathe and figure out where you wanna go, when you have the option to. Best of luck

[@snowhatthing]

I 100% understand where you're coming from. I'm actually doing the same sort of thing! I just graduated with a degree in Anthropology and I don't know where I want to go next (in an academic sense), so I'm taking a year off to figure it out! You got this! Looking forward to your next video!

[@bairurusov8888]

I’m so proud of you. I’ve been watching your videos, and they are amazing. I think if you have passion in the art and media sphere you have to choose your own way!

[@SaraLeanne]

You are such a brave woman! I personally really enjoy my education in uni, but it is important to understand that education can be found in maaany other places. Just because you are talking a year off does not mean you leave your education behind, luv u ❤

[@saralopez3976]

you do you boo, i'm so glad that you are putting yourself and your mental health before the standards that people want you to meet. i truly believe in taking your time to do things bc you'll still reach the end goal. love you jem!!💗💗

[@Qq-me3vb]

Hey Jem, just know that you're not alone and there are so many other people in the same boat. I'm in my "second" year of university now but in my first year I went into science thinking it was for me because I had the peer pressure of my high school friends and being surrounded by motivational and driven people who all went into STEM. I "liked" science and didn't even bother to explore what other options the universities had to offer because I felt so pressured into going into what all my peers were going into and never once thought about whether or not it was the best fit for me. I definitely regret holding on to what people thought of me. I went to university everyday not being satisfied with life to the point where I was in danger with my own life. I felt so alone and afraid to the point where I felt so disconnected to life I attempted to end it. I went to several sessions of therapy but even that didn't help on why I felt this way. And then it clicked. The reason why I wasn't content with living was because I wasn't doing something I enjoyed. I was commuting to school, attending lectures I didn't even care about, coming home, and repeating it every.single.day. I was always interested in arts but often felt if I went in there would always be backlash among my peers and society. I knew if I switched majors, I would be looked down upon and seem like I "gave up" but I knew I had to follow what I wanted to do and not what others say. I was too fixated on people's opinions that I didn't step back and figure out what was best for ME and not for OTHER PEOPLE. I know for me, taking a gap year is not an option of mine but I luckily had the opportunity to apply to switch majors and got in. I'm going to be one year behind all my peers because I'm basically restarting my degree but I know this decision will be the best for me and I'm looking forward to going into university with a new mindset of making my own decisions despite what people think. I hope this gap year will help you know yourself a little better and to develop and grow more. . Not sure if you're into this but myers brigg mbti helped me a lot to figuring out who I was. (I know the human mind is too complex to sort into 4 letters but it gives a good base). Totally support you 100% in your decision. Wishing you all the best

[@ashleycamacho98]

I relate to this in so many levels. I'm glad you're doing this for yourself! I was not able to do so because I was too scared of leaving school and not wanting to come back - I really wish I took time after my first year to reflect and think if I was fit for whatever I am currently doing. I am now in my senior year of uni just suffering through it all but I'm hanging on... Hope you're able to reflect and figure out whatever you need to figure out during this break. Stay strong!

[@desireeford3742]

This is a little late for a comment, but I understand where you're coming from and I just want to say thank you. I have been dealing with depression this semester and wasn't sure about how my experience in college was going and it clouded my mind A LOT. And let me just say, you do you. A bright future will only happen when you find your true goal in life.

[@smalldoggo7997]

We support you 100%, school can be extremely stressful and taking a year off is definitely a good window for self discovery!

[@paulinabarragan8560]

Can I just say, I just started my second year of college and its a relief to know im not the only one who doesnt know where I am going. And I want to say that you are so brave to do this (I would be terrified to even bring up that subject to my parents). Im excited to see where your journey takes you!

[@fresajpg4262]

Jem, you have always inspired me to change my lifestyle for the greater good, for feeling better you have all my support of following your beliefs and taking a break life is weird and always have weird twists that make us feel bizarre but it’s ok I know that your life will get better again support and hope vibes for you! 💛💛

[@soranakajima2109]

i feel like crying right now because i relate to this too much. all power to you for speaking up about it. i wholeheartedly hope that you find the peace of mind that you seek. ♥️

[@ayudal2314]

Girl thank you for this video, you remember me that our lifes are our own life and we need to create our own paths :) yes education is important but how you feel is more important ! hope this year will be intense and good for you, I wish you the best love u :D

[@cla6786]

This is me. Listening to this feels like listening to what was on my mind for several years. I’m not good with words but you just spoke what I was feeling. I thought I was the only one who feel like that. I never thought you had that feeling and experiences. I hope you’ll find peace and happiness. 🧡 There’s hope, Jem 🙏🏻

[@isabelahamasaki7622]

you are so incredibly inspiring, jasmine!!! i’m so happy that ur able to do what’s best for u! ilysm! ~ i’m proud of the amazing person you’ve become over these past years! 💕

[@Juuhazan_]

Hello, just found your channel. Proud to see someone talk about a topic like this. Don't be too bummed over taking a break from school! I know many people who've done the same, and they're no less of a student for it, and neither are you. Take care of yourself!

[@eunicepasamic]

I've been going through a similar situation and I understand what you're going through. Thank you for sharing this, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way as well... I luv and support you and wish you the best journey! 💕💕

[@kritikasharma6212]

You are really brave..not many have the guts to cut the wind and move where your heart tells💓

[@esteebee1874]

All the best dear do what is best for you and your mental health. One thing I always have in mind and say to others is that if you study what you love and have passion for, you will not struggle. Don’t do things to satisfy others. It only hurts you more. Enjoy your time off and explore. Lots of love from here dear 🥰💖💕

[@its.a.depi.thing_]

PLEASE READ !!! I know this is a big rant but it needed to be said. I hope this helps anyone who is thinking of taking a year off or a gap year. Wow this video described my mindset 100%! I had to re-take my entrance exams this year ( which means I already am a year behind for the normal college student) and the results came in yesterday. Not gonna lie, I really like the University I passed in but I don't feel ready for as big of a change. As Jem said in her video, things feel like they happen way too fast. I am 19 years old and most of my peers will be on the second year of Uni this year and that - to me at least - sounds insane! How am I supposed to make life decisions and achademic choices ( the extra subjucts on a specific achademic course for istance ) that will affect my degree and therefore whole future career-wise at 19 years old? With these thoughts in mind, I decided to take a gap year and just focus on the things I always wanted to do as a teeanger but either didn't have time to due to all the school work or was too exhausted to actually do when I had the chance. I want to travel a bit, figure myself out more, learn a new language ( I am planning on learning German ), take my driver's license ( I live in Greece and here you have to be 18+ when it comes to cars ) and lose all the weight I gained through my high school years! I also want to develop habits that will benefit my future self and the indepedent life she will have to lead. So yeah.. it's nice to see that I am not the only person who had felt trapped in a system and now realised that they have control over it and actually took the courage to do something about it. For many, the people that take years off or take a gap year seem lazy or at least as people who live way more conveniently than others. In reality, that's simply not the case. No one wants to feel "excluded" from the 'normal' and nobody wants to feel like they are behind on their life experiences but each one of us have made that decision consciously and after a lot of consideration. It more than likely is a self care thing and not related to laziness and having fun.

[@bellla6831]

Despina Mouratidou I completely agree to this

[@anbuX101]

Hey, Jem! My name's Kris, I'm currently a 4th year in GBDA. What you said really resonated with exactly how I felt when I was in my second year of the program. I can tell you in retrospect that 2nd year GBDA is the most "academic" and challenging year with classes like Stats and especially CS, which drove me crazy every day. I didn't really find any strong value in GBDA for my personal growth until I hit the latter half of 3rd year and got lucky enough to land an internship where I realized how my skills could apply in the real world, which school doesn't really give you the chance to do. Basically, GBDA is 100% not for everyone and the disconnect between its students and administration only makes it worse. I hope you have a great year, and are able to focus on yourself and your passions. If you happen to have any other questions about GBDA though, feel free to reach out to me! x

[@missbeafromnyc]

If it makes you feel better, I start school in 6 days and my school’s middle school is pretty strict. It may be not much to you, but it gives me a little internal panic attack every time I think about the fact I’m going back. My stomach always twists thinking about it. Especially with some things that can interfere, it’s hard. Especially for hardworking beautiful and creative people like you. Keep calm. Life won’t always be perfect, I’ve been where you have/felt what you’ve felt. Feel better 💓

[@shineinstars]

dang, school just started for me today. im extremely anxious ugh

[@missbeafromnyc]

輝くshine Jeez, sorry! School may be a pain in the butt, but it’ll be over before you know it. Enjoy being in school, though. My dad says by the time he blinks I’ll be 18. Time flies. Even though I have a while to go, you probably do too. Enjoy being young while it lasts.

[@shineinstars]

@@missbeafromnyc mhm! i understand that all, the anxiety is kind of overwhelming, that is all. time really does fly right past ya. at one moment you are just entering first grade, next moment you're in high school. enjoy being young as well! hope life treats you well 💗

[@missbeafromnyc]

輝くshine same to you. School may be hard, but in the blink of an eye you’re an adult. Appreciate everything 💗

[@shineinstars]

@@missbeafromnyc yes. 💗 best of luck in life!

[@minsgoyangi5712]

jasmine, me and the vast majority of your fans support you with all of our hearts. don't doubt your decision, taking breaks are very crucial when it comes to mental health, and we all want the best for you. please rest lots on your break, don't worry about what others think about your decision and continue to be you!! although school is important, your well being is just as important and i feel like people tend to overlook that. i hope you start to feel better and i'm vv excited for this new content!!

[@thisismymagicshop1142]

I'm graduating uni and I still don't know what I want haha! Sending lots of love and hugs, Jem. Please remember you are never alone, don't let your thoughts convince you. It'll align itself when it's time, just keep pushing through this time you're taking off. I'm hoping you find peace and some sort of sense of direction, whatever your heart desires.

[@user-pl6bc4pr8k]

Same but i am in 10th grade and don't know what i want to do in the future!!!

[@charlienewyork1678]

I'm going through the same exact thing. I'm like halfway my year off, and it's been good for me so far. I felt so related to everything you said. I wish you the best in your path.

[@jayne]

i am so happy that you are focusing on yourself. best of luck to you! we will always be here to support whatever path you take. it is your life after all.

[@whitelily_2366]

Honestly the obstacles u face or the weakest points in ur life r when u realize who u truly are. Becomes it's brings out the strength in u and u realize that there r certain things ur capable or incapable of doing.

[@user-we8dn5ub9z]

I'm so proud of you for doing what is best for you! I was in a situation similar to you with my part-time job a couple of years ago. It was at the point where I was crying every day and had basically checked out of life. I'd be there with my friends but not really there and my anxiety was at max all day every day to the point I wasn't enjoying anything anymore. It felt like my chest was tight and that black, sinking feeling was in my stomach all the time and when I thought about my work. Eventually, I quit and took a break from working and it took a while but I'm in a much better place mentally now. It sounds absolutely stupid to be so worked up about something other people seem to do with ease. Heck, it's even hard for me to understand how you're feeling because I genuinely love uni and haven't ever felt those anxious feelings about it. But it doesn't matter what's causing it or how 'important' it is. Anxiety and your brain in general doesn't let you pick and choose what to be worried about. My life was torture just because of a stupid part time job for goodness sake! I want you to know most of all that what you're feeling is REAL and justified. That's all I ever wanted to hear from people but most of the time I was dismissed and told to push through. And that's not okay. No matter how silly or dramatic it seems like you're being, if it's making you feel terrible then it is time to cut it out. There's nothing worth wasting days, weeks, months and especially years of your life suffering on! Absolutely NOTHING. The mindset of having to persist through everything because it will be "better afterwards" is outdated, unhealthy and just plain wrong and if you have that mindset you are never going to be satisfied with your life. Your life is yours to live alone and there's no reason why you can't do it at your own pace on your own terms. Please know you're making the right choice whatever happens - take your time, do what you want to do, travel and see new things if you have the time and money, and find out more about yourself and what you truly want out of life. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find your way and remember we'll be here on your side even if we're just strangers on the internet 🥰🥰

[@TubeDeviant]

I Lubb You Jasmine. Believe me when I say I know what you're feeling. Just remember that most people don't know what they're doing and aren't happy like how it may seem. Nothing on IG is reality. It's common to not know what you want to do in life because you simply haven't experienced a whole lot compared to what is out there in the world. A big part of finding what you are passionate about is DOING something. Another big thing is not putting that pressure of and not allowing others (like your parents) to put that pressure on you to choose something to devote your life to. They want what's best for you, but in the end, they have NO IDEA who you are on the inside. What interests you, what wakes you up in the morning, what does NOT feel like work to you.. In my experience, a lot of finding my path wasn't figuring out what I was passionate about, but what I did NOT WANT IN MY LIFE. Have you thought about things like that..?? Narrow things down by listing what you don't want to do in life, what your non-negotiables are. An example for myself is that I couldn't see myself working a typical 9-5.. I needed a sense of purpose, a sense of gratitude, satisfaction that you don't get from most jobs. Dedicating myself to a greater cause than myself, helping others, and getting paid to do it. My entire life, it never crossed my mind to become a paramedic, but that's what I'm focusing on now and putting my mind to. Hoping I make it..!! So try to reverse engineer your situation if that makes sense. It's common to not know what you want to do in life and to need time to focus on ONLY figuring that out. A lot of anxiety and depression surrounds that major issue. A lot of people out there are working unfulfilling jobs to make money to survive. Out of necessity. But what is sacrificed is personal well being and health. Emotional, psychological and physical. On the other side of the spectrum, there are plenty of people who make a lot of money, but aren't happy and have addiction issues. Why..?? Because they aren't living their purpose in life, for on reason. And that bleeds over into every other aspect of your life, your family, friendships, relationships, decision making..

[@user-qp4qi1of7n]

Mental health is so important, I am so happy that you’re putting it first. I hope your year off helps your soul and gives you time to contemplate what direction you’d like to go in later in life. I hope your creativity flourishes and you get all your good feelings back. Always here for you!

[@alexbricenox]

You can do whatever you want, it’s always good feel comfortable with what you’re doing, I think you took the right decision

[@aangelazhao]

You’re on your own path in life, you don’t have to follow the crowd. you got this❤️

[@Chhan4]

You are the most genuine youtuber ive come across. You are brave and you’ll make it. JemFam always ❤️

[@sarahpineda6701]

Hi Jem!!! , some changes are very difficult but they always bring many opportunities and learning, I hope u find what u are passionate about and I'm sure it will be.

[@jasmine-bw3ll]

hello jem! firstly i wanna say thank you for making this video and telling us about how you genuinely feel about these things that’s troubling you! and pls know that we’re all here to be a pillar of support for you

[@katharine1287]

Im so proud of you jem! Making life changing decisions, especially ones that go against the standard are super hard to do but i can really tell youve matured and grown alot ❤️ mental health always comes first and this break will be good for you. I hope you can find what you are passionate about and further explore your interests this year! I honestly dont know where i want to go after high school but i think it will be a choice i have to make for myself, not anyone else. Hope youre well, love you lots 💕💓

[@foreverspringmorning2536]

Sharing this with us, I personally feel a lot less anxious about not knowing what I want to do with myself either, having also been more of a follower for most of my life up until the last year of high school. I’m happy to see you excited and wish you luck with whatever you want to do💓

[@soranakajima2109]

to some people the whole thing will not even seem like it’s something huge because one doesn’t always show and tell whatever they’re feeling. outwardly one seems all fine and doing great etc but only the person going through when they realise things are getting bad know how toxic it is on both the mind and body

[@longkumer_9629]

Jem... Thank you for posting this. I graduated last year... And I too have always been a follower all my life. That's how I got messed up in my academic life. Am too taking a break from higher studies. Hoping I can figure out my life soon enough and excel in my academic life😊 Hope you can too figure yourself out during this break and kick start your uni life once again😊❤️🌼

[@leiaic]

We're here for you and love you

[@topazgirl124]

It's always crazy how much you never really know whats going on with someones life, even if they are acting like they are okay, people sometimes are only left w their own thoughts TT i hope you know that whatever choice you make is the right one and wherever you end up is where you are MEANT to end up!

[@emjayen4235]

I can relate to that sick pit in the stomach feeling so much...and unfortunately in my case I had to push through two years of that to do what I knew I wanted to do. But at the end of it I felt and still feel so much better and glad I hopefully NEVER have to do that ever again 😅

[@katiey381]

I'm really happy for you, you go Jem!! It's awesome that you're taking your life by the horns and ensuring that you're doing what's best for you and what you want. You rock! We're all supporting you!! I don't mean to make stereotypes, but as someone with Asian parents (Chinese), I understand the pressure there is in the family and friends to follow the "correct", mainstreamed path. I am working towards the day that I will be able to be brave like you and figure out what I want, and not what they want; after all, everyone has their own life, so there shouldn't have to be one way of living.

[@ithaly98]

I hope you enjoy your year off and can finally breathe with more ease! School is incredibly stressful and I feel you when you say it changes you and takes a toll on you emotionally (I don’t think I’ve ever cried as much than when I’m in uni especially bc I don’t enjoy my major lol). I truly hope you can find what you’re passionate in and can be happy, I know myself and others will be here supporting you! 💕

[@mariezoe1495]

I got through that once and it's really uncomfortable feeling. We support you with your decision whatever it is, you are a smart girl and will know what to do.

[@kei-ls9wb]

I'm also taking year off from uni. It has been 5 month and i'm still afraid of my future and have to figure out lots of things but I've been learned many things about myself and my mental health is getting better... taking some break is good for you. you can't take a break when you're older and have more responsibility.

[@mirrorsandpotatoes]

it’s really nice to know that we have similar experiences. 17 yr old me would not have thought that she’d drop out of 2nd yr uni, take a year off and switch to a program at a college. but life is funny that way. i support u 100% and i hope this new chapter in your life treats you well!

[@starguardian7032]

i'm glad you had the courage to do this x i hope you'll get better soon!! remember how important your mental health is and i hope your parents will understand someday. you will always have your friends' and our support, we love you xx

[@shajanah7663]

I feel you jem 😭 I stopped halfway in my first year of college bec I was diagnosed with depression and severe anxiety 💔 and I’m also taking a year off and it’s very difficult and for some reason, I’m even more anxious in going back to school than before 💔 Watching your videos gives me an idea on what to do while taking a year off bec I can relate to your vids A LOT. Stay safe xx

[@isle1858]

take your time Jen

[@noufdaifallah6084]

I had similar experience in my first year on uni It was hard i was scared .. every weekend i got back home never enjoying anything I'm always crying like crazy cause of all the stress and everything .. my mom always pushed me to go back but I couldn't i took half year off it helped a lot now I'm happy with where am going to .. now i care about me more than family , the time i took off was good for me I spent it doing things i like and more thinking ... my experience was a success I really hope you end up loving what you're doing and really know how to deal with things cause that I definitely know about even though I don't feel you but I understand it i have been through something but sure someday it will be a good story to tell ❤️ Thank you for sharing this ! All my love and support ❤️❤️!!

[@steph_games]

I understand your decision. And I hope this year in which you will have a rest will be happy and will be filled only with good emotions and you will begin to revive what you like with renewed vigor.🙂✨

[@dianagonzalezalvarez2601]

I feel like everything you said in this video is how I feel, I know how it feels doing something that you think is correct and that everyone tells you is the right thing, but deep down you just don't feel okay, I really enjoy your content and I wish the best to you🌻🌻🌻