A CATCH UP Q+A Lily Pebbles

[@fionafrazer8820]

Lily - I am probably one of your oldest subs (72), and thought this video was wonderful! It gives be so much insight into the way things are different these days with motherhood and helps me understand some of the challenges that couples who both have careers face. You are both so fortunate in being able to participate in Grey's upbringing like this. it's a I wonderful thing, and I wish it was available to more families - it an only be an asset to you all. Keep doing what you're doing!

[@lilypebbles]

Thank you so much for your positivity, I really appreciate it xx

[@HannahGeer_LoudNewMedia]

Love this x

[@Linda-zd4gt]

I love how you keep talking about paternity leave and fathering! Keep bringing attention to that! Dads are capable parents too! And your kitchen still gets me every time! So beautiful!

[@lilypebbles]

I love how many likes this comment has had!! So glad we are all on the same page x

[@jenznwachukwu]

I’m not even a mum but I’m thoroughly enjoying your videos and I honestly believe it’s because you’re just being you and sharing your life journey. You are a captivating story teller and I think that’s what makes you quite simply endearing. Thanks and again congrats on being a mum.

[@sarahibowles7934]

Jennifer Nwosu absolutely! What an amazing comment

[@annie6224]

Couldn't agree more!

[@lilypebbles]

Thank you so much, that's so kind xx

[@brightside119]

Absolutely agree! I could watch and listen to Lily for hours 👌🏼

[@b_arose]

THIS! I agree!

[@heatherrobson6058]

YES to an update on your home decor! xx

[@carysbatcup5052]

Thank you for being so open and honest, it was really interesting to hear especially the end about you both sharing the parenting, very inspiring!

[@lislweapon]

I appreciate your blunt honesty SOOOO much! Especially when it comes to motherhood. Keep creating content that is authentic to you. Parenthood, work/life balance, Mom guilt, these are all things your viewers are going through as well. And it´s always a sigh of relief to me, when I see everyone has their struggle, and that I am not alone. I struggle with mom guilt. HARD. But nobody shames me, I put it on myself. It really weighs me down at times, I can´t help it. I´m an ER physician and love my job. My husband is wonderful and supportive and my son absolutely loves daycare. But still I worry someone someday may comment on the fact, that I should be there more for my child. I feel selfish at times, that I love to work, and that I would go mad being at home full time. But my family is healthy and happy. That´s most important to me. But I have to relieve some pressure on myself. Your videos help me with that :) Thank you from Germany

[@pdaniels6606]

Wow thank you for sharing. I'm a medical student and i often wonder how I'm going to handle having kids with such a demanding job. Thanks for giving your perspective and for the awesome job you do

[@usch5271]

I love how you’re splitting your work days, I bet Rich is so glad to see his daughter more! You sound like such a power couple 🤗 also yes to a house update

[@ValenzuelaMCamila]

I love how you're talking with all honesty about your journey as parents, going back to work, shared parenthood. I really admire you Lily!! Hope you do great and go back like feeling like yourself (or your new self! which I think is always better)

[@Makeawishbecometrue]

Lily I totally am here for whatever content you want to put out! Will always watch xx

[@kapitalistkamaratka356]

Totally normal to still be in maternity jeans post-partum! Give yourself 6-12 months of exercise and healthy eating before you should expect yourself to fit into old clothes

[@ankigatoni6967]

Same for the belly line....

[@surlespasdondine]

Unless the hip bones are wider apart, many women never fit into their pre-pregnancy clothes again...

[@emmaociee]

@@surlespasdondine AMAZING point. It's not a requirement to force your body back down...and for a lot of people it's just not possible.

[@carlacampbell1220]

Agree 100% Why are we so hard on ourselves.

[@irinabugai1022]

Mediocre people tell themselves that just because they had a baby they have to be fat ugly slobs. Let’s not spread lies and tell people that it’s ok to be fat. Stop eating and maybe you’ll loose the weight and the belly. You had a baby, you’re not sick nor handicapped.

[@foreverrray]

I, for one, can’t wait to see more mum and baby stuff from you. I’m an OG subscriber and I’m also pregnant so I’ve loved following your journey into parenthood so far ❤️

[@siskykeane009]

I really appreciate that you’re focusing on your most authentic self and “doing less” online. And talking about how you feel about it! For me, doing less meant deleting Instagram, leaving work on time, using my evenings to be with my boyfriend and our friends!

[@pineapple8641]

Lily, thank you so much for being truly honest about your feelings of motherhood especially the effect it has had on your body! I have so much respect for you. Love you videos!

[@d26s10]

Hey Lilly! Nice to see you back, the shorter hair looks so good! Appreciated your honesty here, it’s brave to face your difficulties head on but you’re doing great x

[@MarianTHickey]

I really love your videos, I hope your back in the swing of making videos. Your very genuine and real with no BS, my kind of person 👍🏼😁

[@beeh7946]

Such a lovely catch up, Lily. I've been following you pretty consistently for the last 5 or 6 years and love your realistic, steady approach to life, especially navigating big changes. Your authenticity really shines through! What a blessing to have Rich at home with Grey too! Rest assured that what ever may come with you and your content, there are many of us that will support you! ♥️

[@kgbhastings]

After my second csection, I never regained feeling in my lower stomach. It is weird. My true feeling is: you are not same person as you were before. You are in a new chapter of your life. Buy some jeans that fit now. It will make you feel beautiful. Also, remember your daughter listens and watches...and you are the most beautiful woman she knows. Be very kind to yourself. I wish I could say more...but it is hard to do it thru a comment. Hehe

[@eitak6452]

I haven't either, my 1st C-section ( and probably last!) Numb from my belly button to below my scar. Took me so long to heal too. I wasn't prepared for that! It's been 6.5 months. How long for you since your last one? X

[@jannit7763]

Lily, I just felt the need to write this to you - and I don’t think I have ever commented on any of your videos despite following you for years - but I will always follow you, wherever your path will lead you, if you want us to be a part of your journey. Simpley because I think you have so much to say whatever the subject may be. So don’t be scared about the future. Just go with the flow and enjoy the ride! ❤️

[@miriamsemmel2517]

So great how you and Rich are splitting work time and baby time! It's an inspiration for all of us women who do not have kids yet and are anxious about giving up our career when having kids.

[@naomiappanaitis5963]

I am a speech pathologist and was working in a school in the US. I was expected to go back to work after 6 weeks, which is all that is allotted to teachers and school professionals here. Crazy how different maternity leaves are in different places and in different work settings. Enjoy your time with Grey! She’s beautiful.

[@emmaradd5357]

I appreciate that you're so honest and transparent. This is why I continue following you and keep up with your content. It is so quality. Glad to have you back!

[@bethm7256]

I adopted two cats that were 'indoor' cats from birth and they absolutely refuse to go outside. They are so happy and content watching the world go by from their window seat, napping and cuddling each other. They also will have a much longer life without any of the dangers of the outdoors to threaten them.

[@Deeags]

You are soooo right Lilly!!! There is no balance when you are mom. you always feel quilty when you work and sometimes quilty when you can't work. loved your video!! great content! authentic!

[@lanyreads8725]

Your honesty and personality really shine through in your videos, thanks for answering such personal questions! :)

[@Ania_In_UA]

I appreciate the honesty of you saying that friendships change after you have a baby and it's often coming NOT from the side of the person who's not a parent, but from the new parents. Parents are often uninterested in what is going on in the lives of their childless friends because it just can't be important enough.

[@karli06]

Lily I forgot to comment the other day but it is so nice to see you back here. Don’t fret about pleasing us, your videos are always great and you are so authentic. I’ve loved watching you move through such momentous life changes xx

[@Sweetxs]

Your Q and As are so good! You go through so many questions and you answer them so well, short and to the point. Never boring! Yeah, weird comment, I know, but I had to say it.

[@elizabethwhiteman8167]

Nice to see you back Lily. I love your mummy & home decor content.

[@saramonix]

I’ve been following you for years, I rarely comment, but I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this Q&A. you’re so genuine and honest, it’s a pleasure to follow your videos :)

[@jennys2176]

Great to have you back Lily!! I could totally see you having a brand centred around interior design!!

[@amyjeannejosephine]

Hai Lily. I'm just catching up on your content. I love to see you so involved with getting back into work while still finding the balance of personal life that works for you, big hands up to that. Love your honesty with all of these questions and also feel so connected with your personality of both Mummy Lily and Lily Lily! I definitely see your product range as reed diffusers, candles and maybe even skin care if you're pushing the boat out! Massive love to your new little family. Wishing you and Rich the best start into parenthood 💛

[@ellen9018]

It’s the least important thing but every time you pop up on KZbin lately I think how great you look! Thanks for sharing with us so honestly xx

[@GinaGorst]

Great to have you back Lily- loved this video, would love to see home decor updates

[@clairreads1965]

I love how honest you are in this ❤️ Also, in relation to indoor cats - you could always adopt or foster an elderly cat that’s always lived indoors :)

[@Georgesmomsu]

Or get a kitten that doesn’t know any different

[@sammygee87]

Loved this, you’re always so honest and refreshing. I also thought you really looked like you in this video, the lipstick shade is perfect for you and I hope you feel like your old self again soon 😘

[@lilypebbles]

Thank you ❤️

[@susannegruner6940]

Thank you so so much. I am also a self employed mom and I was crying remembering how hard it was in the beginning. I am a lawyer and also thought it will be no problem, taking my 3 month old baby to the office and failed so hard. Beeing not enough at work and as a mom felt terrible. Now he is 5 and it got so much better. I am free to take of when I want to spend time with him. I really wish you all the best.

[@susanhull1098]

You are so adorable; you would never lose your followers. I haven’t been on KZbin forever, so it is so nice to see you happy and healthy and mommyed. ❤️❤️❤️

[@noreenearley4850]

Lily love your videos,I’m not a mom but really enjoy all your videos,you are so authentic and organic,so it’s great to see you back and congrats on your gorgeous daughter x

[@gemandblueskies]

I think it’s a really positive thing to evolve your content as you do and to create content that you’re genuinely interested in. So many of us are growing up with you (in a way) and it’s great to relate to you and feel connected even if we’re not entirely the same.

[@sharrlizz]

I find your content so interesting and informative no matter what the subject is. You're doing great Lily - just wanted you to know that. I would love if you and Anna would do more At Home With podcasts in the future if you ever both find the time! 😊

[@lubeeluonline]

As a teacher it’s so refreshing to hear someone consider how their child will feel about their name later in life. I’ve taught so many kids named Gracie, Evie & Maisy who are desperate to be Grace, Eve & May later in life.

[@victoriamalliaras8606]

This is fantastic Lily! Thank you for sharing and being so open. I think it’s amazing that Rich can be at home 2 days a week, I hope when I have kids and go back to work part time (hopefully) my husband can work a 4 day week at work. The responsibilities of the baby should be shared between parents and this is a great example of that

[@stephaniestyle91]

So lovely to see your face in my subscription box again. I think you’re doing such a fantastic balance of work and motherhood. Pat on the back 😊 xx

[@jessicapowell6295]

One thing I found massively helped my mental heath and self esteem was to invest in one or two pairs of jeans that fit and that I felt like myself in. The maternity jeans were a constant reminder that I wasn’t the shape I was before. Suddenly wearing real jeans again and feeling good was such a boost! Same with bras. When I threw out my maternity bras after failed attempts at nursing and went and got new bras that fit I was like a new person! Definitely recommend getting a couple of things 😊

[@naomikilpatrick7205]

Love how real and honest you are Lily. So refreshing and good to see! ❤

[@alicerosfield3409]

Well done on coming back with a lovely video. I relate to so much of this...I thought I knew about babies before I had one (I was an auntie, I had younger brothers etc), I didn't know! I knew about 2% of what it took. We just had our second a week before Grey and it's a whole new world all over again. I love watching videos that include so much of my own life so thank you (off to go dangle a toy over mini one or take big one for a wee now).

[@inavitale3223]

Love your authenticity, Lily! Whatever content you feel like putting out is 👌 so no stress

[@MiaL1997]

I find it so interesting to get to know your opinion on things because you really seem to think about stuff and then build your own unique opinion. Loved this catch up! Honestly I could always watch those kind of videos!

[@isuwi]

Welcome back💕 vote for the house update 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@sarahibowles7934]

Lily, thanks for answering the questions so honestly. I missed your videos. So real! A lot of people are changing and I don’t like it here on KZbin. I love when people grow and develop but for some people the popularity they are gaining is completely shifting who they were as a person. You always keep so true and you are doing such a great job as a mommy. Please focus on KZbin and your blog. I really dislike IGTV and find it so unnecessary and repetitive. Stay true to who you are and we will be here! Welcome back!

[@kate2186]

Great video Lily. Thanks for explaining how you both juggle childcare and work. It’s so good to hear people talking about different options. X

[@marilenarega]

Welcome back Lily :) I love that you are always honest and real! Don't stress about work too much, things will fall into the right place eventually if you love what you do! ;) Looking forward to more content from you Xxx

[@marcevella9675]

I loved this video Lily. So nice to see a video from you and I love how honest you are about how you feel on every level. X

[@baileycook4136]

You’re doing amazing. It’s really incredible to watch this progression. I’ve been a longtime subscriber and I will continue to support you and your career. Thank you and congratulations, Lily and Rich. Xo

[@andreinaurdaneta3147]

Business idea.. create or design trainers... I always love your trainers collection and it has inspired me to buy some of the same that you have/recommend... just a thought! Great video, happy to ha e you back

[@chickflick1680]

So excited you’re back!! Can you do a recap of your pregnancy skincare and other pregnancy must haves? I loved your first trimester survival and would like to know what your essentials are from the pregnancy overall!

[@jillsbills9346]

I could listen to you all day Lily, lovely to have you back 💕

[@gracek.2251]

So glad you’re back, Lily!!! On the subject of blogs, I think Louise Pentland does such a good job of balancing having her babies occasionally in vlogs for “mummy days” and more work vlogs... Also, I think it would be so cool if you vlogged clips of figuring out how to get back into work for the first month and then edit them together. Like the ones you and Anna have done about the process of writing a book! Then it wouldn’t be focused on Grey, it’d be a solid amount of content, and I think it’d be really interesting going along on that journey with you. Especially since you and Anna have that new project coming up in fall!

[@chana6184]

Love the vases you have in the background. 😊

[@ellabraitman3688]

Lily, I love you! It's so good to have you back and see your videos!!! :)

[@twifreak34]

Loved this video! It's always so good to see you here, Lily. Glad to see that you and Rich are finding a parenting/working solution that works for you at the moment. Hope all continues to go well. Wishing you guys all the best! Can't wait for your next video.🤗❤️❤️

[@brookehoddy5489]

Loving seeing you back on KZbin, and I love your mum / baby content. Thanks so much for all you share 😊

[@58mummybear]

It's so nice to see you back, thank you for being so honest about how your feeling about your postpartum body. It's amazing that you and Rich can share work/Grey time, it should be seen as the norm. why should father's only see their children on weekends? They shouldn't. X

[@Semapho0ore]

Your Q&A is the only one worth watching on youtube lol. Really appreciate you answering the last question.

[@bethany1922]

I don't have kids (yet) but am still really enjoying your content right now - I find your honesty so refreshing and also really thought-provoking - you are making me think a lot about how I might handle parenthood (in the future!) alongside a legal career I enjoy and have invested a lot of time and effort in. From an outsiders perspective you and Rich are being a great team and doing an amazing job! :) xx

[@katieparrish6425]

I loved this video, Lily! I love having you appear in my sub box again 😍. And my favorite moment of KZbin in 2019?? Your “memory” for August 22nd. AMAZING. BEST MOMENT EVER 😂

[@MrsBrent]

Love how open and honest you are!

[@ecdewey1992]

I absolutely love your honesty, I’ll be sure to rewatch all your baby videos when the time comes for me, I find u extremely inspiring and your doing an amazing job, keep it up and we’ll always keep watching your videos ☺️ FYI - I prefer the name Grey! xxx

[@lr7066]

I think you're doing great! I'm so glad you are willing to be so open with us!

[@jessbuckman]

Thanks so much for your refreshing honesty I this video. Love the approach you guys are taking to raising a family.

[@MrsKuhtipp]

I would love to see fashion content! The journey of dressing your „new body“ maybe Anna can help you again with your closet??

[@Becky_Lamb]

I love the balance of this. I had twins almost two years ago and I absolutely understand you here. It is tricky to find that balance with everything but you are already realising this and understanding what you need and that is the key. Good luck, you’ll be mastering it in jo time ❤️❤️

[@Cozyknitsandreads]

I love everything you're sharing about yours and Rich's parenting style / work-parenting-balance. It is really interesting to hear more about paternity as well. Great that you're working as a team. Wishing you all the best :)

[@hunand]

In Hungary fathers get 5 day paternity leave for one baby and 7 day in case of twins, 9 in csse of triplets... Ridiculous!! My twin girls were 7 months old and I was still 11 kg heavier. I felt so down. And I gained all this weight while nursing them. So I went on ketogen diet and it was the best decision. I lost 12,5 kg in 2 months, I never felt hungry I felt full of energy. Although my milk dried up but I had to do it for my mental health and I feel no shame. Fed is best! I'm so happy you are back and I love your content. You are one online person I follow daily (insra or youtube) even after having twins :) ps one of my daughter is called Lili :)

[@electrictwilight]

Every mom watching in the US is like "a year of maternity leave?!"

[@pumpkinlattelover]

A year is standard in Canada too but you can also opt for 18months. Can't imagine less than a year! Yikes! 😞😬

[@charlotte092689]

@@pumpkinlattelover lol my pregnant colleagues got 12 weeks - including using all their vacation. That's American Exceptionalism for you!

[@lilypebbles]

I think it's technically 9 months here and then people usually take unpaid leave, but yeah compared to the states it's way better. I used to work for an American company and I was shocked at the amount of holiday days.

[@MichelleMehnert]

I love how organized you were with this list! It has a really good flow! Also, love the name Grey- will be a really strong name as she gets older too!

[@ma.8251]

Yes to house update videos. We are in the process of building our own house and i alredy took som egreat ideas from your videos. Always happy for new tipps and tricks and interior inspiration

[@luciebonin7803]

It's so good you're back! Thanks for talking about post-baby body confidence, that really is an issue. It's hard but give it time... 9 months for your baby, 9 months for your body ;)

[@kiuka]

Loved your last answer, you are always so inspiring and unique in finding your own way - even for your family. Thank you for sharing and I’ll be supporting you as much as possible so the pressure is off a little!

[@Ms888Red888]

So excited you’re back (to making videos) and really looking forward to whatever you’ll be making :-) is love to see a house update! And thanks for being so honest and open as always- my sister felt the same as you after both of her kids and she said one day she just started feeling like herself again- I’m sure you’ll be the same when the time is ‘right’ :-)

[@kerenleah]

Lovely catch up Lily. I'm not into babies or Mum life at all but for some reason I enjoy listening to you chat about it - I'm not this way with anyone else!! I think it's because of your personality, so I hope you don't every worry that your non-Mum followers will abandon you 😃 Oh and I'd love an updated house tour 👍 xx

[@ritaobstetter]

That's a Q&A we all missed! Thank you to whoever asked about blogging + fulltime job. The answer was really helpful! Thank you Lily ❤️

[@Emmyradrad]

Hey Lily :) Good to see you back

[@tashycc4223]

Hey lily, congrats again on Grey. As a mom of 2, i totally get the "not feeling like myself". For me, i usually feel better when I start working out and losing the weight. Once you lower you body fat percentage, you'll feel less broad in your upper body. There's no time limit on feeling like your old self to be honest, so the 1 year cap isn't definitive. Bisous

[@chaigal295]

Great video! I think that your perfect thing is design- specifically interior design! You did your home renovation so beautifully!! I found it to be unique and a breath of fresh air! I feel that after you, I began to see so many people (including you tubers) do the dark cabinets and walls! If you were to set up a design consultancy of some sort, I would buy! Like a Lilly edit at some homeware shops/outlets

[@magvivian]

Great to have you back Lily! Love your honesty about things! x

[@SamarkandChan]

I'd say SPF is the most important skincare product.

[@lilypebbles]

Keyholder yep. That too! My moisturiser has spf 30 in it x

[@SamarkandChan]

@@lilypebbles that's great. Two in one 😊

[@melanieailsa9336]

You can get Pixi on ASOS. It’s the skincare I use because it’s very affordable! X

[@ClairMatthews]

Great video. Love your honesty (as always!) try not to have too much ‘mum guilt’ you’re doing an amazing job! x

[@ShugAveri]

Just want to say that I actually felt your absence and I look forward to whatever content you've got planned! I appreciate your point of view and honesty and altho there are other people I enjoy watching you're the last of a dying breed my friend! I also really like how you and Rich worked out the childcare!

[@jennarose1867]

Lily I love how honest you are. Please don’t feel like you need to do it ‘all’. I don’t know anyone who follows someone like you who watches all the content- Instagram tv, live, twitter etc. don’t you think people find the social media they like and follow just that? I know I do not have time to watch IG stories and TV and KZbin and checkout a blog post. Put your time effort and love into quality content. Ha ha there is your unasked for advice. And my baby is suddenly a year old. My husband and I are sharing the care too. It’s a cliche but it goes SO FAST. Enjoy x

[@petrakantorova9981]

Hi Lily! I have always loved your honest attitude towards life and I still love that very much about you! I hope you have enough energy for the shifts in your life because I can only imagine them and MAN, they must be huge. Lots of love :)

[@sarahsteen897]

😍 Hi Lily!! Great to see you back xx

[@mirjanazgela1384]

Lily, such a good video and nice to hear what have you been up to and how is the work situation and share of the responsibilities. Looking forward to new things!

[@donnawoo5107]

Please be confident in yourself ... like you say your body did an amazing job and it took 9 months so it takes at least that to make yourself feel a bit like your old self x Hips move etc they take time to go back. You look amazing 😉. Good to see you back xxxx

[@tamarajt3792]

sooooooo happy to see u back. it felt like a friend that I haven't seen for a long time. You are doing amazing !! love your honesty. looking forward to see more. xoxo

[@haileyssecondchannel]

WHAT I HEART TODAY omg that just threw me back in time!

[@pinkladies205]

Thank you for your honesty. You’re going to help a lot of people out there :)

[@nossrednAailuJ]

Not all cats like being outdoors. Maybe there's a shelter for cats that have older cats that a like to hang around indoors and just chill. I have an old cat lady that never want to be outside. Also good to adopt of course😊

[@conniehill4961]

Love that you are back, you were sorely missed❤️