A Costly Lesson in Trust: My Ordeal with a Deceptive Solicitor

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

I have had a few comments by people who find my delivery too slow. It annoys them. This is just the way I speak. Because I don't use a script, I have to think about what I want to say and to recall what I want to say I look to the side....not for any other reason. What I would suggest is that you go to the small cog wheel at the bottom of the screen and there you will see PLAYBACK SPEED. There you will be able to adjust the speed at which you hear this video to suit you. Much love Imi xxx❤

[@cathyandresiak]

I like that you speak clearly and slowly , it is calming to me! Don’t listen to the criticism! People can be so mean!

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much for your reassurance. I must confess that I was concerned that I might be annoying people and had endeavoured to speed things up but was failing miserably Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, so much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

They can indeed Cathy, especially when they're sitting at their keyboard and have anonymity. xxx

[@TheUrbanmeister]

@@finbohannon9581 I completely agree! Well said.

[@TheUrbanmeister]

@@cathyandresiak Well said. It is calming isn't it? As you say, Imi should not listen to the criticism and yes, people can be so mean. Why though? It says more about them methinks.

[@Alfieruben-j1l]

You are too nice for your own good my dear girl, but Finally you are starting to embrace your wisdom and are now shining your wonderful light. Well done you. You have learned how to be strong in spite of all of it. Thank you for sharing and you’re a delight to listen to.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much for such a kind and considerate comment Alfie. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@cathyandresiak]

It is amazing the lengths a women will go to when trying to be loved when being abandoned and abused in childhood! Your stories all make perfect psychological sense considering your early life of abuse! I truly hope you are happy now because my God, Lord you have overpaid your dues ! Parents have no understanding of how they can cause a life of heartache and pain by their selfish sick behavior!

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

I think it has ever been thus Cathy. Until women start educating their daughters to believe in themselves, the cycle will continue. The women in my life are all strong and know their own worth thank goodness. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@MYKEYCARD]

Bless You Thank You For You're Heartfelt Share 🙏💜🌍💜🌍💜🙏

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you for your kind words dear heart. I'm glad you found my experience valuable.

[@Rainbowtree3]

You come across as a kind, generous soul. Sorry you went through all of that experience. Many of us women have and we have to learn. It has taken me years. Now I'm a lot stronger. You are strong now. I really enjoy your videos as it is real life and we all make many errors in life. Keep your lovely kind personality. You are helping many women through these videos. It may take many years for us to learn but awareness does come in and I think we become better people and have empathy for others suffering the same experiences.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful comment. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@wilM26]

I have watched all your videos, and have been through many similar things to you lovely. I am different now, in that, I now know that if anyone wants anything more than your love, respect and simply you, they aren't authentic. An authentic person wants your company simply because they accept you and the person that you are. I have a strong and much more balanced head on my shoulders now, but I still always have basic trust in people, because I feel to look at every person with sinicism, would turn the world into a depressive, miserable world. I am kind, caring and respectful, and I always will be. However, I will be forthright and ask direct questions, in a respectful and nice way! If people are genuine and authentic, they have no issue whatsoever with this! The world needs kind, loving people, but people who also care enough about themselves to put themselves first! I applaud you for coming through all your harrowing experiences, and still being a beautiful and kind lady 💗💗💗💗 I think, due to your neglectful and abusive childhood, you were stuck in a pattern. I think you probably dissociated from all the severe pain, and it took, metaphorically, you being battered over the head over and over again, for you to come out of the dissociation and realise how much pain you were in. It took a similar thing for me to come out of this too! I spent years and years, allowing myself to be abused, but dissociated and thinking it was just normal life! ❤❤❤❤

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Goodness darling, I relate so much to your comment. We almost seem to be the same person. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@TheUrbanmeister]

This was an insightful, thoughtful and supportive response. It is clear how strong you are now. My respect to you.

[@margarettrio9480]

I’m not sure why anyone would judge anything you have done. You have been in survival mode your whole life. You are such an amazing person, not stupid.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Oh Margaret, thank you for being so kind and gentle. xxx Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, so much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

You are so kind thank you darling xxx

[@susancinek5803]

Thank you for sharing your deep and painful journey. The lessons are for each of us! Carry on!!1

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Oh thank you so much Susan, I do hope that those that watch my lifetime of errors see something they can relate to and not repeat the mistakes I have made. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, so much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@lovearttherapyalways]

I am amazed that you were not bitter. I went through something similar and was bitter for a while. I am no longer bitter. I am much wiser and have learned some costly lessons as well but I no longer trust people. I used to be so innocent and now I see disturbing behaviours all over the place even in friendships. Thanks for sharing your videos as they are quite interesting and may help many. God bless you!

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you for your thought provoking comment. I decided not to be bitter because that would eat me up inside and give me nothing. By making the decision to view it as a course i what not to do I was able to shift the paradigm to something more positive. It helped me to stay positive and never become a victim even for a short while. I still choose to trust people...until the first signs of their not being worthy of that trust and then I stop. I no longer make excuses for their behaviour. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@lovearttherapyalways]

@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc You are very wise indeed! You would probably like Jordan Peterson as he is also a wise voice on you tube. Finding Peace in Surrender||#JordanPeterson, #MotivationalSpeech, #Surrender, #PersonalGrowth Jordan Peterson Now

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

I'll have a peek at his channel. Thank you darling xxx

[@thefannclanspreadinggodshe8074]

I can’t tell you how much you sharing your life story and you being so vulnerable has helped me through a very hard time in my own life. Just as you shared, I am choosing to never become a bitter or angry person no matter what betrayal or heartbreak I face. But to choose to let myself become more soft and empathetic, and then through my own experiences to be able help others through their own painful life journeys.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

What an inspiring comment 🩷. I found that by actively choosing to see the experiences I have been through in my life as something positive, it has allowed me to remain able to cope with anything. It has given me strength and compassion for others going through hard times and the will to do something about it. I applaud your mission darling and wish you all the luck i the world with your quest.🩷 Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@TheUrbanmeister]

By choosing never to become a bitter or angry person you show your full strength and power. You are not allowing those who would hurt you to enter your mind where their toxic, destructive behaviour would cause so much damage. Kudos to you and I have no doubt you will continue to grow and succeed in what is important to you. Be well. Be strong.

[@annahayes9009]

Love lady Have you ever thought of staying single and be best friend to yourself.That way you won't ever be let down or taking advantage of .I have been Divorced and stayed single no drama no one to be drained by .Love how calm you are .

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you Anna. I did eventually meet a man. He is gentle kind, thoughtful and he loves me just the way I am. We have been together for 14 years now and still laugh every day, hold hands whilst watching the TV every evening and when we go to sleep. I have at last got my Happing Ending xxx Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@annahayes9009]

@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc So happy for you.

[@connien7690]

Imi, you have sure been through a lot with these fellows. You are too good for your own good. I love the way you talk. You are such a smart person to be able to speak like you do. Now I am looking forward to the next chapter. Hoping this is the best of all of them. A good and kind person. You sure deserve the best. Have a great rest of the weekend. Hugs! Connie

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you Connie for your continuing support darling. I hope to record another chapter today xxx

[@TheUrbanmeister]

Stupidity? Hmm, there but for the grace of etc. It's so easy for some to take a holier than thou approach but they weren't there. They weren't you at that time. I have met other equally intelligent women who have had similar experiences. You are not alone. Hopefully others will learn from this. An excellent video, Imi. It shows how manipulative some people can be. The good thing is that you learned from this. Others will as well, of that I have no doubt. That you are not bitter says so much that is positive about you and your growth.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much for your kind and supportive comment Urbanmeister. Thank fully I have grown so much since those days and don't think I would be quite so foolish again, thankfully . Much love Imi xxxx

[@Emilia-ps2th]

You tell it all so nicely🌸

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you Emilia. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@romalester1079]

You are a very strong woman

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you. I am at long last the woman I should have been for all those years Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@belindamurone5516]

I absolutely love hearing about your life x

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much Belinda I shall endeavour to carry on to get you up to date xxx Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@belindamurone5516]

@ Merry Christmas xx

[@aperfectplace]

Hello, you speak very nicely, I enjoy listening to you… Merry Christmas to you..🎄🎅🏻.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you so much and a very Merry Christmas to you and yours 🎄🎄🎄

[@dorotalenartowska1891]

Merry Christmas for You and your loved ones. God bless You❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

And a very Merry Christmas to you dear heart xxx

[@josimpson7999]

Oh dear 😥 I would never loan anyone money - especially men. I have given friends the odd £20 some of which I got back, some I didn’t, but that was all. Like you, I absolutely loath tight-fisted people. I knew someone called Pete whom I always called ‘parsimonious Pete’ (not to his face), but nearly did a few times 😲. It’s such an unattractive trait, especially when they are comfortable off as was airline pilot Pete. I wish you lived nearer to the Cotswolds…..I’d invite you round for some vino and we could swop stories 😊

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you darling, i've been to the cotswolds and it's such a beautiful area of the country! I agree with you wholeheartedly. Yes Pete would have been more than wealthy enough not to count the pennies but chose to have a scarcity mentality. I have always been rich, whether or not I had money. It really is a state of mind I think. I have met many very rich, poor people and visa versa. And yes I think we could certainly swap stories! Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love 🩷 Imi xxx

[@josimpson7999]

@ Dear Imogen, I’ve just had to watch the video about your ‘darling boy’. Ah, so delightful…almost had me in tears. Obviously not ‘parsimonious Pete’! To quote a saying from ‘Bridges Of Madison’ ‘This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime’, absolutely love that quote and it’s so apposite for you given (what I’ve gleaned) from a couple of your videos. As a single 60 something woman myself (ex airline crew - can you believe) I’m still waiting for much of the same. My time will come 🤞. In the meantime, I’m now subscribed! Looking forward to the next one! Wishing you, your ‘darling boy’ and family, a wonderful Christmas and much ❤️ for a very happy 2025.🎄😊

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Not parsimonious in the slightest. I too believe your time will come darling xxx

[@PalmSpringsCindy]

Ignore the haters

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you Cindy, I'm still relatively new to this and am still learning

[@KwertyKeys]

What a story! It could be a drama series or film 😮

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

I know but it would certainly be one of those films where the leading lady was so foolish you'd be shouting at the screen I think 🙄

[@KwertyKeys]

@ No! We would all secretly think ‘Oh I’ve been there, there are some well practiced charming liars out there…’ But the good thing is, you did get away and lived to tell us the tale, and let it be a lesson to us all. We have definitely all experienced at least one person like that, sometimes it’s a fake friend too. So lovely to find your channel, I’m subscribed now, and look forward to catching up with your other videos. Have a great day! 😊

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Unfortunately I think you may well be right! There are so many of us out there 😟

[@jilllisa5724]

You remind me of Raquel Welch, youare so sweet, Do not put up with anyone that doesn't adore you.

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Soon I intend to make a video letting everyone know how I sought help to change my mindset. It made a world of difference to me and I never looked back. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@bjfontana5760]

I'm only part way through and I'm thinking - this guy either has a gambling addiction or another addiction!!!

[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

I think he had an addiction to being work shy. Also trying to find his next 'mark' whilst taking other women out to lunch🙄 xxx

[@TheUrbanmeister]

@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc You got that right!

[@dorotalenartowska1891]

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[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

Thank you for all the hearts darling xxx Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx

[@wilM26]

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[@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc]

How very odd. I have just found your comment Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx