A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal w/ Dr. Stefanie Carnes (FULL EPISODE)

Experiencing sexual betrayal is unique. Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful or sexually acting out outside your marriage bed is soul-crushing. Is there hope for those experiencing betrayal trauma? We have Dr. Stefanie Carnes, President of the International Institute for Trauma & Addiction Professionals, on the podcast today to give us guidance for conquering betrayal in a marriage/relationship. She walks us through disclosure, rebuilding trust, and how to heal relationships after sexual betrayal.
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[@Ruby-wise]

As a Betrayed Partner I didn’t have the vocabulary to even describe my feelings. After being gaslighted…lied to…love bombed..etc, etc. for decades… Nowadays we can describe, to those who want to help, what has happened to us partners and be compassionately understood. I suffered a legit case of PTSD. Many thanks to you for this program.

[@brendagriffin7628]

Absolutely LOVED this episode. Thank you for having Stefanie Carnes on the show, she was fantastic. There were so many great, practical pieces of advice - thank you! I love Pure desire, and all the great work you are doing, and resources you share. I don't know where I would be on my healing journey without you. ❤️❤️

[@PureDesireMinistries]

Thank you, Brenda! So glad you enjoyed it!!

[@Dawn-tv1bk]

Healing takes as long as it takes. 3-5 yrs is a theory. If you are being retraumatized then the clock starts over to a large degree. If the addict is in therapy but still acting out or acting in, the relationship can’t heal. The betrayed can heal but if you keep giving them things to heal from then you can throw any timeline out the window

[@MsFireproof777]

Seriously.....a betrayer not being patient with the anxiety and insecurity they created prevents any movement towards reconciliation and trust building. It makes the one betrayed cautious and keeps walls up. If not changed.... the wounded spouse will stop caring.... stop trying.....

[@eileenpillmeier3270]

Throw on it his parents were involved in the lies and deception for years.

[@northdakotaful]

No mention of looking to Jesus for help and the Bible. Without Christ and the church community there is no deep healing.

[@PureDesireMinistries]

No question! Community with God and His people are ESSENTIAL!!

[@dhamon-pi6os]

Maybe being betrayed and having to see people putting my kids and relatives on sex sites and other crap so always watching to make sure they are all right so fu

[@dhamon-pi6os]

And have reached out to all of you and none of you will help or talk so fu too again

[@dhamon-pi6os]

And nobody has answered any.of my questions

[@dhamon-pi6os]

We t to recovery for my problems and had relatives, and doppelganger there to screw with me then frigging poisoned me and got cut open for no reason

[@PureDesireMinistries]

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