A Friend Sent My Fiance Inappropriate Pictures "By Mistake" And I Called Her Out r/Relationships

[@Bluetree0502]

I accidentally messaged my boss a pic. It was of a case of toilet paper with the note, “Is this the brand you like, Bun?”

[@yurionice1131]

And? What did they say???

[@Bluetree0502]

He has a good sense of humor, even for a VP. He told me that it was a good brand and to drop it off at his office

[@Bluetree0502]

Charmin.

[@videofan1010]

​@@Bluetree0502 This is great 😂

[@Kati_P]

You could always wrap up a package like a belated Christmas gift and leave it in his office, lol. 😉😁

[@catandrobbyflores]

Im all for calling people out on their sh*t publicly. Because if you can't handle your dirty deeds aired out on social media, don't freaking do it in the first place.

[@Rairyuujin]

All of this 🤟🏾

[@Kati_P]

Agree 💯!! 💜

[@vanzy01]

👍🏿💯

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

You're absolutely right.

[@ZombieSazza]

As a child abuse survivor this is EXACTLY what I did when cutting all contact with my biological family, they’d long attempted to slander, bully, harass and threaten me online and I’d never responded, I only ever made one very long post, with a LOT of evidence, asking folk to respect my wishes to go no contact and I’d have no problem blocking anyone supporting the abusers (mother and brother) and blaming the victim (me). What was great was several people shared the post with their own stories about my brother, how he treated women (a lot of non-consensual activity that my mother knew about) and this led to a lot of support for me, and stupidly my own brother shared the post and tried telling his coworkers that I was “spiteful” and “hateful”.. he got fired. There had already been complaints about his behaviour towards the female staff at the restaurant he worked at and potential theft of credit cards/fraud, a lot of information I posted lined up with stuff that happened at the restaurant and they read stories in my replies from women who’d had the misfortune of knowing him, that further lined up with complaints from female workers and he got fired. He only ever shared it once after that to try and slander me, all that happened was a few of his friends contacted me saying they had no idea how horrible he truly was and they were scared of him and asked for advice, and his then girlfriend (now ex and baby mamma) could finally see who he truly was, how our mother would always protect him and lie about his violence, and knew it was time to run. She contacted me, apologised, asked for advice, and contacted her family (that he’d been isolating her from) to escape when he was out drinking one day, just came home to find her belongings packed and gone. Who knew one really long essay length post about surviving abuse from my mother and brother throughout my life would lead to such a glorious downfall! Of course to this day they still blame me, and honestly even tho I’m not responsible for their behaviour, I’ll happily take the blame.

[@alg94]

story 1: if op is surprised that people like Lila are teachers she should see what kind of girls become nurses

[@lms1068]

The stories I could tell about the teachers I've worked with. The lies and the appallingly comments.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I didn't know that she was a teacher! That was news to me! 😳 I shudder to think how she treats her students or how she flirts with the parents of her students. 😰

[@LoveK1]

The mean girl to nurse pipeline is real and VERY short.

[@ugojlachapelle]

Not only teachers and nurses; where I'm from, narcissists are a plague among social workers, especially those in CPSs.

[@jikook7457]

100%

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "I sent it to the wrong person" wrong person or not, the "You're not married yet" comment still makes her a shitty person, cause it means she's likely hitting on someone in a relationship either way. I just know in my soul she's the type to pull this but would be livid if it happened to her and would drag the person through the mud for it. "Op bullied me!" Cry harder, maybe don't hit on a taken person next time.

[@funkijote]

Classic “crybully” dynamic

[@darkmask5933]

You heard it from Mark; "Consequences have actions!". XD

[@Mephistofeles]

Dude did a shirou emiya on the video lol

[@robertx8020]

Well, it actions have consequences should,'t consequences have actions too? 🤣 Yeah I know it isn't the correct saying...justr supporting Mark 🙂

[@ayana_0150]

See I wasn’t sure if I heard him right or if I was having another one of those dyslexic moments

[@Frostfern94]

I thought he said that 😂

[@jasminemp3298]

Lmfao 😂 I was like wait what rewind.

[@hi_stranger9156]

*"She accused me of gaslighting…Then she tried to explain what happened again which went from it was sent to the wrong person, it wasn’t even a big deal, Josh has always lead her in so she thought he wanted it…she was so wasted she doesn’t really remember sending it and finally blaming Addison for not trying hard enough to hook her up."* The Narcissist’s Prayer, anyone? That didn't happen. (Gaslighting) And if it did, it wasn't that bad. (Wrong person) And if it was, that's not a big deal. (…not a big deal) And if it is, that's not my fault. (Josh lead her on) And if it was, I didn't mean it. (Drunk, doesn’t remember) And if I did, you deserved it. (Addison’s fault!)

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

I was thinking exactly that!

[@iononcantomascrivo]

I see you've met my stepmom. I'm curious. How expensive was the séance?

[@darabounds6671]

Yes, I was thinking that too!!!

[@ZombieSazza]

@@iononcantomascrivoI think her spirit is living in my bio mother, haven’t spoken to her in years but she believes she has the weight of the world on her shoulders

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Nice. My stepmom was like that, too, but anyone who held her accountable or took her to task for her boundary trampling behavior, she claimed that they were just jealous of how “hot” she was. Believe me when I tell you, this woman was nothing to look at. She had blonde poofy hair like a crevecoeur chicken. I think I can safely say, without fear of successful contradiction, the only time my frigid witch of a stepmom was ever hot, was when she was cremated.

[@wasabipea57]

A few years ago, I went into quite a nice clothes store directly from my work. I was a little self-conscious as I was wearing high-vis and workboots. A sales assistant came up to me within a few minutes and said “ah, yellow! You are radiant.” It’s so easy to be kind.

[@ArcanineEspeon]

I can't put my finger on what makes that compliment so...cute!

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Story 1: If Lila was a man pursuing a woman, everyone would think it was creepy as hell. It's no less creepy when a woman keeps trying to push a man into a relationship with her. Good on Josh for shutting that down. OP found a great guy. Lila needs therapy.

[@ElleD308]

What are you talking about? EVERYONE is disgusted with Lila's actions... Why are you bringing gender into something like this?

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

​@@ElleD308Because usually Reddit sees the first line I am male and the rest of the story rarely matters. He's automatically the AH. But when it's a woman rarely would it matters if she was the AH. Reddit is biased and she would be declared NTA.

[@cniknik9863]

​@Mew_Mokuba_Akari I have never seen a bias against men as a whole on reddit. Majority of reddit users are male

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 1: wait Lila is a teacher?! Honestly that’s really concerning, imagine if she flirts with students parents or something

[@shylavender]

Or worse, an actual student!? 🤢

[@randomgeneration7781]

@@shylavender Both. Probably.

[@lorddaegoth]

As much as this bitch is crazy, i dont think jumping straight to accusations about professional conduct is exactly classy. Anecdotal, i know, but a friend of mine who had a drug habit in her early teens, has self harm scars on every limb and exclusively dates guys nearly twice her age. She's a decent and professional teacher who also happens to be a mess. But when her ex bf (not husband) made a stink about her cheating (she didn't, i was the other named party so i should know) to the school, she lost her job. OPs "friend" is a piece of shit, but there's no reason to bring professional practice into it with zero information. Instead, blame her for what she's actually done instead of "where there's smoke, there's fire"

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Not necessarily. These kind of people's Achilles's heel is that they never send inappropriate things "by mistake" when there are real repercussions

[@Steph-yz4tn]

That's a stretch. There is a huge difference in flirting with men and being a pedophile.

[@jasminedavis8640]

Same thing happened to my mom. She and her siblings had sold my grandparents house. She was flush. She went in with my dad and four kids. We’re all black. The sales rep took one look at us and started helping a white couple. Another rep came over and started to help my mom. She bought a washer dryer, a video player and a video game console ( I forget which but it was the 90s so I think it was an NES ) and a stove. When she was ringing up her purchases the first guy came back and was all upset. My mom dismissed him.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 2. I had my own "pretty woman" shopping moment about 2 years ago. At the time of the incident, I was a week from turning 50. I have many visible tattoos, including one arm sleeved (it was summer and I had a tanktop on). I also have about 20 piercings, and my hair is always a different color (I believe when this incident happened, it was turquoise). I also dress a bit flamboyantly (think Betsey Johnson). So, I was looking for a pair of boots to wear for my 50th birthday party, and went into a high-end shoe store, and the first thing I noticed was someone immediately following as though I was going to steal. I walked around a bit and found a pair of open-toe boots I fell in love with. They came in 2 colors I liked, so I asked the guy that was following me to see them in the white in my size, and the sales guy looked me up and down then told me the price of the boots ($2,500) and asked if I was sure I could afford them. I told him to just please get me the boots. As I was waiting, a young saleswoman (maybe 21) asked if there was anything she could help me with, I told her the other sales person was getting what I needed. We continued to talk and got on to tattoos. She showed me a couple of hers, and she asked if my septum piercing hurt when I got it. You know things like that. When the sales guy brought the boots out, I tried them on and loved them, but his attitude was pissing me off more and more. When I took the boots off, he actually took out a cloth and started wiping them down as if he was trying to get my filth off of them. The young lady looked at me and gave me an "I'm sorry" look. At that point, I had 2 choices, 1-buy the boots and give this ass a nice commission, or 2- don't buy the boots and let him think he was right about me. But, then I realized there was a choice 3. So, I told him no thanks, and he mumbled, "I thought so." I then quietly asked the girl if the manager was in, and she said he was at lunch, but do back in 20 minutes. So, I left the store. I went back 30 minutes later and went right to the sweet saleswoman and asked to see the boots in my size in black. While she was gone, the sale guy again followed me around like I was going to steal. She came back with the boots, and I told her I wanted them. When we got to the cash register, the sales guy came over and demanded he ring them up because I was his customer. I stopped him and asked her to get the manager. When the manager came over, I said to him, "When I walked into this store 45 minutes ago, this gentleman treated me as though I was scum. He didn't want to show me the boots at first, asking if I could afford them. He treated me in a way that if any employee in my boutique (I own a consignment boutique) treated a customer the same way, they would be fired immediately. So, I decided not to get the boots from him because I felt he didn't deserve the commission. However, as I was getting coffe I thought about how sweet the saleswoman was, she offered help without asking, and even when I told her I was being helped, she still engaged me, and we had a wonderful conversation. So, I decided to come back to the store and asked her to get the boots for me but in a different color, as I felt she did deserve my business and commission. Now, your salesman, who was rude, condescending, arrogant, and judgmental, is demanding that he deserves the commision. What is your opinion?" The manager looked at the saleswoman and told her to ring me up, then had the salesman follow him to the back. As the young woman rang me up she told me this wasn't the first time he had treated customers rudely when he thought the couldn't afford to buy anything in the store, and management has spoken to him about it in the past. I thanked her and left with my boots. I went back to the store about 2 weeks later, as I was curious about the outcome, and was happy when the young woman told me the jerk salesman was let go that day! I am a very layed back person and am usually very understanding and forgiving. But, the way this guy treated me and spoke to me brought out the "No one F's with me" attitude I got from growing up on the means streets of Brooklyn, NY. It's an attitude I've learned to surpress, but once it rears its ugly head, all bets are off.

[@chamab.6800]

Such a satisfying read. I’ll never understand that snooty attitude while working on commission. Dude, you work in retail…k no o shade but shade.

[@Ivy94F]

Nice! I enjoyed hearing this story. Funny how when these things happen, you learn it was the umpteenth time they behaved like this.

[@barbwong]

Good for you!!! 👍👍👍

[@RockinTheBassGuitar]

I accidentally sent a "good morning my love" message meant for my husband to my grandma... Lol. She called us cute.

[@crowdemon_archives]

To be fair, it's an innocuous comment for family members lol

[@devlyn873]

Story 2: Have people learned nothing from Pretty Woman?

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

Haven’t seen it

[@jgw5491]

@@jokestermasteroflaughter7754 It's a good film with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. He is a rich guy who hires a hooker and then sends her out to buy a nice outfit, and she gets rejected by the staff of a posh boutique. He ends up taking her himself to another shop and buys her bags of "offensively" high price purchases of designer goods. She rocks back into the first store with two fistfuls of bags from the other expensive store. She tells the b sales woman who refused wait on her, "BIG mistake!"

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Story2: A rich person has no need to flaunt it.

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

Wealth whispers

[@peterhobson3262]

The man who founded Mercury Marine (manufacturer of Mercury Outboard Engines) was E.C. Kiekhaver. Every year he'd buy a new Mercedes and run a lottery with his employees for last year's model, proceeds going to charity. One year he went to the Mercedes dealer and his usual salesman was out that day. Instead there was a new salesman. Kiekhaver was dressed in jeans and a plaid shirt. The new salesman studiously ignored Kiekhaver and, when E.C. approached him, was rude. So Kiekhaver went down the road to the Rolls-Royce dealer. The salesman there was polite and made a sale, getting a large commission. Kiekhaver then went back to the Mercedes dealer, went up to the rude salesman, and said: "Want to see my new car?"

[@rf159a]

Story 2: I had that happen to me when I went to buy a new truck. I worked construction so I was in my work clothes. The salesman acted like I was some bum that couldn't afford a toothpick!! Went to another dealership and bought a truck from them. They didn't care how I was dressed!!

[@Draggonny]

It's a refreshing change when someone who needs a truck buys a truck. Its so rare that it probably wasn't covered in their staff induction.

[@gmun2248]

Years ago, my Aunt went into a car dealership & eventually someone asked her if she needed any assistance. She said she was looking for a new car. Without asking her anything, the guy took her to a wee Fiesta & started talking it up. "Great wee car for a lady" kind of stuff. She said that wasn't really what she was interested in and he finally asked her what her current car was. She pointed across the car park at her Porsche, thanked him.and left. She wasn't 'scruffy', just female. She bought her next car somewhere else.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

Can’t judge a book by its cover. My grandpa was a legit millionaire and he wore sweatpants from Walmart and coffee stained polos every where he went. My grams shopped exclusively at TJ Maxx and Marshall’s. The only way you’d know they were wealthy is if you know anything about jewelry. lmao

[@laraq07]

I had that happen to me when I (40 yrs old female at the time) went to buy a car. I went with my SIL and we were both dressed nicely but I had some questions and the salesman told me to come back when I was serious about buying. We drove out of town to another dealership and I rage bought it there. Even got reduced interest payments when they had a deal the week after I bought the car and we called to ask for it to be applied since it had been such a recent purchase.

[@michaellange7381]

Consequences have actions!!!! Don’t forget! 😂

[@BlackTheBerserker]

lol, had to search if anyone else caught onto that one too.

[@animepiglover]

Yes that's what brought me here lol xD I love it though!

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

I was scrolling through the comments to see if anyone else noticed 😂

[@neil999ish]

As in the duel in the last John Wick movie. Lol.

[@tabeaspengler9966]

Thank you 😂😂

[@abelink9229]

9:54 if you feel fear of your "friend"'s reaction to no longer indulging them, that should be your clue that this is not a friendship.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yeah. Allison is clearly dealing with a snake disguised as a friend. And it's a shame that she doesn't realize that until Leila lost her mind. (⁠٥⁠↼⁠_⁠↼⁠)

[@AndyyWithAY]

This reminds me of when Mom and I went into a store, I believe a Saks. We had gotten on the road super early and I had an interview, so we were dressed casually and I was going to change. The associates just acted like we didn't exist. We had no plans to buy anything, but you can't treat people this way. I've been hearing more about rich people and they often dress very casually and down to earth. No flash. It's just bad business to mistreat any would be customer anyway

[@jennysmith38]

One of my best friends went car shopping with another friend of hers. Her friend needed a car that she could fit pet carriers in the back of a station wagon, or other type of car, where she could see the dogs in the very back. Now, my friend and her friend, often dressed very casual, my friend had even had people think she was homeless.l, but, they both owned their own houses and had a fair amount of money. Anyway, they went to a car dealership, and the sales people were quite rude, and wouldn't even let them take a car for a test drive. They ended up going to another dealership, where she bought the car out right, then drove up to the other dealer and let them know what they missed out on. Never ever judge a book by it's cover.

[@OSR-go5cg]

I became the owner of the store. the cloths were like 20-40usd to@@jennysmith38

[@redsnow1973]

I worked in retail a long time ago and learned that most people that have lots of money are not flashy with it and very down to earth

[@ScooterBond1970]

The "Pretty Woman" Effect is real.

[@OSR-go5cg]

not in this case it can be male or female if you don't rich you get treated badly. and even when i did have mt hair and makeup done still got treated badly because i didn't have my nice cloths on and i used to be a model when i was a kid@@ScooterBond1970

[@stuckinmopro8533]

Re story #2: I’m a woman who stopped at a local car dealership and no one would help me. I then drove down the road to a different brand car dealership. The sales person helped me right away. I had done all of my research ahead of time and it was between essentially the same model that each brand carried. Within an half hour I had bought the car and within another hour they had detailed the car and readied it for me to take. I drove back across the street, walked into the sales manager’s office. I told him about the way I was treated and then pointed out the window and said, “That’s my new car.” I then walked out!

[@Jjudes9665]

Comment on story 2. True story…My late Mum was working in London back in the 1940’s/50’s for a law company. She was shopping in Harrods as a personal request from one of her bosses. She watched a staff member refuse to serve a lady that was dressed casually. After the lady stormed off in a huff, my Mum went up to the cashier and asked why she had not recognised Queen Elizabeth’s sister Princess Margaret?? Mum was overheard by a supervisor who immediately marched the cashier off to management to deal with. I suppose even princesses have a day to dress casual in their fave loungewear!!❤

[@OpaxVex]

That is so cool! I never get to hear about the stories of the princesses just being casual. That is awesome! They should be able to have a day to relax.

[@jogermaine8600]

The only thing about that story that surprises me is that Princess Margaret just went off in a huff. By all accounts was a ripping old dear, and it would have been much more in character for her even as a young woman to have torn a strip off the saleslady.

[@juliegarrett8389]

Some years back I was in a large retailer (furniture, appliances, electronics, etc) and got talking to the salesman. Some time prior a man came in, dressed in dirty paint covered clothes, wanting to look at kitchen appliances. Nobody would help him because he looked scruffy, except the salesman I was talking to later. Turns out scruffy dude was a contractor that was renovating a whole block of units, I think 20 plus? He ended up purchasing appliances for 20+ kitchens that day, and our salesman scored all the commission.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@8:30 “No one can read someone like a fabulous gay man.” Confirmed. It's true. 🏳️‍🌈

[@carolroberts4614]

I'm sorry he had such a small part in this story! I wanted to hear more!

[@cheskydivision]

Handling someone’s bad behavior privately only protects the bully.

[@pyrus0zero]

lol who wants to bet all those who said ‘it should have been handled with grace’ are trying to say ‘be the bigger person’?

[@catsncrows]

Mark please don't listen to people who say you are too empathetic. The internet is the angry angry place full of people at varying levels of dealing with or not dealing with their emotions. Empathy with a proper level of boundaries is a very good thing!

[@BraveryWing26]

I am so glad first OP and everyone else went NC. I hope Addison's lesson sticks.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 1: I can smell the clam chowda from here with how thickly OP's New England accent bleeds through to her writing! I dig it, it gives the post some wicked panache!

[@wolfkitteh]

I interpret the saying "If you have to ask the price you can't afford it" differently from most people. If the store can't be bothered tagging an item with a price then they don't have the interest in running their store effectively and I don't want to buy from them. I have no problem paying a higher price for a quality item but don't want to waste my time hunting around for a price no matter if it is a high end store or an ordinary department store. You want my money you work for it!

[@MandyLina123]

I accidentally sent my boss a text of a price tag at work because I was sending it to a friend who works at the same company, but different area to compare prices lol. I am extra careful not to accidentally send inappropriate texts to the wrong person. He didn’t care. But yeah, I’m pretty sure that wasn’t a mistake. It seems too deliberate.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

Omfg, ive never heard that dildo of consequences line before but it took me 5 minutes to stop laughing enough to type this out. Ill definitely add that into my book of wise quotes

[@alexmerrin9634]

Same here ROFL!!! That line deserves a Nobel Prize

[@NoOne-fo1di]

I dated a girl who used to have me go to Buckle with her because the sales people there would hassle you every step of the way to get commission but since i wore hoodies and polo jeans and boots they assumed we couldnt afford enough to bother with lol jokes on them her family was LOADED.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Lila is such typical of narcissist: That didn't happen. (Gaslighting) And if it did, it wasn't that bad. (Wrong person) And if it was, that's not a big deal. (…not a big deal) And if it is, that's not my fault. (Josh lead her on) And if it was, I didn't mean it. (Drunk, doesn’t remember) And if I did, you deserved it. (Addison’s fault!)

[@ellicerslavic]

All I could think of!

[@Vasilia4]

Stop calling everything 'gaslighting'. It cheapens actual cases of gaslighting. 'Lying' or 'deception' sufficiently describe the situation*

[@blank_801]

Ah the narcissist prayer

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

You just read the narcissistic prayer.

[@katphish30]

​@@Vasilia4Telling someone something didn't happen when it did is exactly what gaslighting is.

[@DuckStuffStudio]

When I worked in a md to high en store, the people dressing fancy never would spend that much money. They usualy would spend 1-2 k each time. Really rich people were always in casual clothes, a old t-shirt, short, sandals, were the ones to apend 15 - 20k in one go. These people and the old ladys in handmade dresses.

[@lauraanderson9614]

Story #2 happens waaay too often. I've worked customer service for over 15 years and the worst thing you can do is the old "judge a book by its cover" baloney.

[@laurameier7069]

Story 2: "Big mistake. HUGE!"

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Mark, I think that your empathy is one of your best qualities (from what we see on this channel anyway)!

[@Tammohawk1]

Toxic friendships can be the worst to deal with. I would have put someone on blast if they had of done that to my husband and myself. We cut anyone out of our lives who wasn't a friend to our relationship. Just because your dad didn't get to witness any karma, I bet there was some after he left. After all, the woman who waited on your dad told that nasty woman to go to the back. Yeah, there was karma.

[@jeannebuttons5301]

Book By It's Cover I've had a lot of interactions with the opposite end of of this spectrum. I work in a department that fabricates custom items to the specifications a customer brings me, I am always upfront with all of my customers that custom fabricated items are a magnitude of cost more expensive than prefabricated tems. To throw some numbers around a similar prefabricated might be $100, but when made custom it can be up to $1,000 if certain features and fabrics are added. Ive had people who come dressed up to the nines, suit and ties, dresses and jewels, they look like they're ready to go attend a wedding or fancy dinner party; I sit down with them and quote them the price of what it will be based on their wants and they look at me like I'm stealing from them. I have had one customer literally clutch their pearl necklace as a reaction. Most of my customers who walk in who are wearing street clothes and sneakers that would make Forrest Grump's running shoes look clean tend to be the ones who don't question the prices and are more prepared to go forward.

[@dr.jasminebryant2872]

Story 1 OP wickedly let the whole Boston fly! Lol loved it

[@kateworkman921]

I can't remember if my dad knew this woman or just heard about this, but my dad's worked in comics since the seventies, so he has a ton of interesting stories. One is that there was a woman, I think involved in movies or something like that in the eighties. In any case, she was *rich.* She loved Star Wars to the point that she had bought a Star Wars lunch box and carried it around as her purse. She was once removed from a store because they only wanted "upper crust clientele" coming in. Yeah, she literally could have bought that store, that's how rich she was. Yet she was told to leave because instead of a regular purse, she carried a Star Wars lunchbox.

[@deettekearns9092]

Last story - Couldn't be more true. Some of the richest people dress very simply or understated. And they are the ones to take out a platinum American Express to pay. Again, don't judge a book by its cover.

[@cattyanamontes5724]

So true. I’ve always worked in fitness (currently a pe teacher) and i usually live in sweats, tees, sneakers and hoodies. Love taking out my platinum card and seeing their reactions lol

[@Nellipusen]

Don't worry, Mark, your empathy is one of your best features

[@Pidgeyato]

"Consequences have actions" - mark narrations 2024

[@cattyanamontes5724]

I chuckled at that

[@cattyanamontes5724]

Just got confirmation cinci public schools has a snow day tomorrow. I’m a teacher so I get to stay home too. Yesterday was a cold closure so I still had to go in while my daughter went to daycare instead. Excited to be lazy in pjs all day. :)

[@jannekelind1220]

Enjoy your day

[@ZombieSazza]

Enjoy your day! I don’t have kids but they’ve had a few snow days here in northern Scotland now, I’ve absolutely made a snowman and just enjoyed being a big kid!

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

Ok but Josh just handing the phone guilt free with no worry that OP will assume he’s creepy is peak healthy relationship

[@fantasmablue13]

4:39 "consequences have actions" Well that's the first time I've ever heard someone put it quite like that before lol 😂

[@BraveryWing26]

I loved the final OP. That was rock star level epic.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

The first story: Absolutely NOT the butthole. OP is badass. So Lila had her designs set on OP’s fiance and, out of sheer jealousy, kept trying to break up the happy couple because she wanted him? Wow. She tried to be a covert hoe and was overtly called out. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She easily could have saved herself the humiliation, in the very least, by not pursuing a man who was unavailable and made it abundantly clear that he was not interested in her. Anyone who defends Lila obviously has some very skewed morals and are living in a version of reality that is somewhat altered. I totally agree that OP and her fiance need to go completely no-contact with Lila as well as anyone who are slightly defending her actions. Confronting this kind of tomfoolery needs to be dealt with head-on. That's something I've learned to do as I get older: call people out on the spot on their bullshit. When they're blindsided, they have no time to come up with one of their prerehearsed justifications, rationalizations or excuses for their absolutely toxic, boundary trampling behavior. They tend to play the victim after the fact anyway because, after all, that's a narcissist. At bare minimum, they have no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word no being a complete sentence and nothing resembling accountability. If they did understand any of those things, or care about how they treat others, then they [wait for it] wouldn't be a narcissist.

[@Kalossupremacy3356]

Yeah op is great, plus I don’t even think she exposed cause she was offended primarily (still there obv). Seemed she did it cause she was sick of Lila harassing her fiancé.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@Kalossupremacy3356 Agreed. However, it did come out that Lila, in addition to repeatedly hitting on OP’s fiance, did throw herself at someone else's boyfriend. So there's a pattern there. She needs to be cut from the friend group.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

Yep, and now that she’s been ostracized by everyone and not getting what she wanted, she’s throwing a tantrum like a spoiled brat.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@BersealiaDreamheart That's essentially what a narcissist is. At best they're nothing more than an overgrown middle school bully who never mentally or emotionally matured past the age of 11 or at worst, a toddler who has not yet learned how to regulate their emotions or comprehend that they can't always get what they want.

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

@@iononcantomascrivo That’s also why I always say you can’t fix a narcissist. Because the AHs are convinced there’s absolutely nothing wrong with them. And you can’t force a person to change against their will, no matter how much of an AH they are.

[@Cthulus_left_tentacle]

Hey Mark, I’m a grad student and one of my favorite wind-down hobbies is to listen to KZbin stories and play sudoku on my phone. I love the personal touches you give with stories about you and your family. I love your channel, thank you!

[@acatnamedm4529]

Story 2: I worked an overnight inventory shift and in the morning I stopped by a store to pick up a Christmas gift for my dad. I was pretty scruffy. Couldn't get the time of day from the sales person. Never shopped there again.

[@thebeebz9511]

Lila went through all of the lines of THE NARCISSISTS PRAYER in one conversation over the phone

[@debrabigart7976]

I love the petty revenge! I work in retail selling furniture and I always strive to treat all my clients with respect and kindness

[@DerekScottBland]

Story 1 - "Bullying," "gaslighting." I'm sick of this shit. EVERYONE claims to be victimized now. It only serves to desensitize people for when it really happens. Story 2 - When I was in my late teens, I went to buy my mom a gift. I was in a jewelry store, and everyone was ignoring me because I wasn't in a suit. I was your typical late 80's metalhead - long hair, blue jeans, concert shirt. After waiting for about 20 minutes, I walked to the counter, pulled out $1k in cash, spread it on the counter, and said "this is the money your store isn't getting because you decided I didn't look worth your time."

[@ZombieSazza]

Story one literally has bullying and gaslighting you muppet

[@DustyMom_]

Oh my goodness! What did they say?

[@DerekScottBland]

@@DustyMom_ - they tried to convince me that they were just busy with other things, but they never greeted me when I walked in, they helped people who came in after me, etc.

[@user-fe8gx3ie5v]

Exposing someone's malicious inappropriate messages isn't "revenge porn."

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

She meant not wanting to send the inappropriate pics along with the texts. And it was a smart decision, that would be similar enough to revenge porn that if OP's state has a law against it, Lila could've had her charged with a crime. The texts Lila sent to Josh were enough to condemn her in everyone else's eyes.

[@user-fe8gx3ie5v]

@@hodgeelmwood8677 I know. That still wouldn't be revenge porn just because it happens to include half-naked pics. They wouldn't be distributed with the intent of simply breaching privacy. The pics are relevant to exposing the malicious action (sending pics to try to entice someone to cheat).

[@Princetonian4eva]

@@user-fe8gx3ie5vYou’re reaching

[@coreymartin6486]

A bright spot in this is that now addison knows there are many people who will have her back against lela....

[@Regrettable-Username]

Story 2: I haven't personally faced something simular, but my great grandfather did. He was a hardworking man who earned *_a LOT_* of money, but didn't really dress like it. Blue collar - boots, overalls, baseball cap etc. Well, one day he was car shopping with his wife and when she found the one she wanted the sales rep got _very_ excited about coming up with a payment plan for them. Was going on and on about how it could be affordable with monthly payments for a few years. Then my papaw held up his hand and asked "what's the price of the car?" The salesman was like "excuse me?" "How much money would it take to buy it outrite right now?" The answer was a large sum, which Papaw nodded at before pulling out his wallet and paying for it with cash. Guy was *loaded* but looked like he'd barely have two nickles to rub together lol.

[@HaleyJo1992]

4:42 "...consequences have actions." Yes, they usually do!🤣

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2 - This reminds me of something I heard of about a butcher. The story I heard is the butcher had a store over in the really classy North Shore area of Sydney (north of the CBD, closer to the coastline), but the majority of what he was selling was sausages and mince. He ended up moving out to Western Suburbs (inland, closer to the Blue Mountains) and there he was selling a lot more of the better cuts. Now maybe this is a bit of a reverse image to the casual dress in a designer store, but I feel it says that rich people can frequently take the "lower class" option because it is either money saving or just damn comfortable. In this story's case, I am sure OP like casualwear because it is comfortable, and that is great, OP should keep doing them, and the I am glad the Junior employee is the one who got the commission for that sale.

[@Mrsbraynen08]

I always love hearing you talk about your dad! Blessings to you!

[@dracawyn]

That petty revenge story has immaculate Pretty Woman energy

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

I drove transport cross countries in my younger days, just for a lark. Canada to the USA. After getting back from driving 12 hours decided I needed a new car. So I went to my bank got the cash, went to a dealership and was ignored for the first half hour. I picked out the newest young lady once she wS free. Pointed to a car and bought it. She got the commission of course. You could see the others doing the mouth drop when I placed cash on her desk. To be fair, I was dirty and likely a little ripe lol.

[@jacearmor5274]

It's good OP called her out. People should stop trying to get with people they know are married or are in relationships.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Story 1: I think OP nailed it, it’s not even about the boyfriend/fiance specifically for Lila - it’s about control. The attitude towards her ‘bff’ and the others in the group make that clear

[@onepieceisking5493]

Story 1, NTA. She couldn't stand that he already had a GF and that it wasn't her. She kept trying to take him from op by trying to get him to dance with her and be by her. I bet she was fuming once the announcement came out that he proposed to op. But she refused to give up and tried to send inappropriate pics of herself as a last effort to seduce him. I'm not surprised that she tried to gaslight and back peddle when she called out by op. When it's obvious that she wants op's fiance and has been trying to take him from op because she believes she's superior and she should be his fiance/GF. People like her have no morals, are narcissistic, toxic and vile. They don't care that the guy is taken instead they believe they should be in significant other's place like their entitled to the BF/ fiance. She knew what she was doing by crying to her friend that op was "bullying" her and it was to make op look bad as well as to stop op from shutting her down. Update, anyone that sends op hateful comments, messages and say op needs to give the witch grace plus forgive let alone not confront her after EVERYTHING she's done are just as bad as her. Talk about completely skipping over how she was disgusted that op was his GF, kept trying to seduce him by getting him to dance with her and be by her. Then she refused to congratulate him on proposing to op because, more than likely, fuming at how he's not paying attention to her and still loves op. She clearly has no morals and doesn't care that he's taken. She only cares about getting her claws into him and get op out of the picture and herself in it. It's also obvious that she's lying about "accidentally" sending those pictures and the stupidity to think he wouldn't tell op. She did that as an attempt to seduce him and stop him from marrying op. Plus to go crying to friend, she knew what she was doing and did to stop op from being able to shut, her attempts at seducing a man who's taken and obviously doesn't want her, down. Yep, I figured she was just a toxic entitled brat. She just clings onto Addison because of a free place to stay and uses her. Addison's husband sees her for who she is but Addison doesn't want to. At least he got through to his wife and no surprise that the entitled toxic brat believes plus blames op for Addison putting distance and boundaries. Why am I not surprised that she spout a bunch of stuff that contradicted and made no sense when she tried to blame op and somewhat, Josh. Then the stupidity to blame Addison for not helping her get with Josh. Yeah, if she went into the house I wouldn't put past her to harm someone specially Addison or op as retaliation for her not getting her way and not being enabled. Not surprised that she hung up after Josh threatened her with cops if she dared to show up at the house because she knew she lost and no chance of ever getting her claws on Josh. Happy Addison realized how horrible that brat is and I don't blame her for not wanting to deal with a person like that's wrath. I seriously doubt that the brat is going to come back and probably just went ahead cut everyone off since she's now seen that she was NEVER going to get Josh and Addison was no longer enabling her. Oh probably haven't heard the last of her, I wouldn't put past her to go really psycho or retaliate.

[@fairly-celestial4715]

‘Consequinces have actions’ 😂 how often have I had mishaps like that lol.

[@purpleiguana208]

That last story totally reminds me of that scene from Pretty Woman. "You guys work on commission, right? Big mistake. BIG. Huge!"

[@zarennaangel1198]

Story 2: I've experienced the same thing but at a apartment complex in a more affluent part of town just because I was wearing a hoodie and jeans and was told i could not afford an apartment in the complex.

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 2 reminds me of a few years ago. There was a small independent shop in our town that sold all kinds of things, from home furnishings to jewellery. My sister and I wanted to club together and buy a really nice set of crystal-like wine glasses for our parents' anniversary. I was freshly out of school and still quite young-looking, while my sister was on her last year or so school. We went in and politely asked if we could buy the wine glass set. The rather snooty staff members kept giving us the eye and saying things like "what, THOSE ones?" and "They are quite expensive, you know" (we assured her we had the money) and "these aren't just standard drinking glasses" (we kept telling her these were for our parents' anniversary). She begrudgingly tilled us up and finally shut up when we produced the money and paid for them. I had heard similar stories about that place, like when they almost refused to sell a piece of jewellery to my friend's mum because she went in there just after she'd finished her shift as a cleaner and was still in her cleaner uniform, and the staff kept saying "we're not sure if this would be in your price range" I wouldn't mind, but they were a fairly higher end shop in a small home town, not Harrods 😑

[@MizzShortai]

Lol when she started back peddling saying it was meant for someone else I'd have pointed out "so you know someone else who isn't married yet and want to try to steal away the groom.?"

[@DemonAngel]

I truly feel that anyone, after multiple times of saying "knock it the F off" and they dont (add in that everyone knew!) Knock it the F off, you need to be ready to what happens

[@nicholerubes2959]

The thing I learn most when dealing with a toxic person. They are going to have people backing up their bs. Because this circle includes this person. However you do not have to include the toxic person or people who back up that bs. Call it out and never mind what others opinions are. Theirs do NOT matter. Always focus on the people in your circle who love you over them.

[@debbiemclaughlin3214]

I. I really like the malicious compliance stories. I wish you would do more of those. I do love any story you do!!!!

[@jessiesfrosties]

Story 1: Actions, meet consequences. Nothing more to it. She f'ed around and found out.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Petty Revenge story: I've heard it a couple of times, now. All that comes to mind is this; HAS NO-ONE SEEN PRETTY WOMAN? Snobs like that don't deserve their jobs! Period!

[@browniewin4121]

1) Wow, that was really trashy and unacceptable. After being told from the start he has no interest in her she keeps pushing and being nasty towards OP, and Mistake is BS. Good for letting the group know how inappropriate her ongoing behavior is. NTA. After comments: It's about time someone who behaves like that will be iced out of the group. After update: Congrats to OP and her boyfriend on their engagement. I think it's good the husband of this girl's best friend had a talk about how the friend is a problem and there needs to be more distance and that will be happening now. I'm glad the rest of the friend group is strong.

[@ayapomstra3283]

Story 2: we had a simulator experiance with a car dealership years ago. We ( my hubby and I) had to dress up for work so on our free time we dressed in jeans and sweatshirts. We arrived by bike to buy our first car: a peugot 205 , at that moment THE car for the young people ( we were +/- 25). We were ignored, the salesmen ( 3) just were discussing weeken plans. After 20 minutes trying to get help we were furious and told them we had cash but would go somewhere where with better customer service. We than walked out and ride our bikes to the renauld dealer and bought a renauld 5 instead within 20 minutes after entering the shop. Loved that car.

[@coletuquila]

Last story, about the store. Lol gave me pretty woman movie vibes from the dismissive sales lady's side😂 she thought she could reenact that famous scene.

[@ebrown7338]

Hello Mark! Listening now! Have a great evening!!

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

I don’t know why, but I just picture you saying this like an order Demanding that he have a great evening.

[@dakotasan8719]

“Consequences have actions” -Mark

[@Pugiron]

4:40 Consequences Have Actions

[@Psibound]

Story 1: NTA, they have been doing it behind the scenes for a while. Then this she crossed a line of being polite. That is what I would have told them.

[@DanniSoRude]

So i worked at quite a few casinos in Tunica, MS. There was a guy who always came in to the snack bar for a Philly cheesesteak and Coke, no ice .... He was a farmer with dusty coveralls and muddy boots 😂 The cocktail waitresses always gave him the side eye until they found out he owned damn near a whole county of land and was a millionaire 😂

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: NTA. I would have included *EVERYTHING*, and yes, that means the nxdes too. Don't pull that sh!t with me. And OP best friend's wife sounds like an enabler. "Should have been handled privately"? Bish, she started it, OP finished it. Update: I called it. Addison is/was an enabler. I'm glad Matt put his foot down with that whole mess of a trashcan.

[@natnuss98]

I would have went to the police instead. Unsolicited nude exposure is a criminal offence here and that would have been real justice!

[@ashaduplessis2772]

Would you want someone blasting your nudes? To total strangers nonetheless. Did you consider the danger you could put them in. Letting it be known inappropriate pictures were sent is enough to justify your anger but you don't do that. Imagine how you would feel if it were you or someone you care about.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@ashaduplessis2772 They wouldn't be able to, because I'm not that dumb to take pictures of myself naked.

[@nentash8566]

I agree, consequences totally have actions 😂😂

[@Lillith.]

I've had the opposite of the last story. The security were actively barring some people from entering, I don't know why, and when I walked by they tried to usher me in. It was really weird and not something I'd ever seen before. I don't wear designer clothes because I think it's overpriced and go for artisan stuff that's made for me.

[@aejispoe]

"this is a case of consequences have actions" lmao that made me laugh so hard XD (just teasing)

[@nataliereeves3594]

They needed to post those text ASAP before things escalated, and she started saying op is paranoid or dhes having an affair with ops fiancee. That's what people like her do till their shut down.

[@skyelindsey687]

One day my fiancé and I were at our local mall and he was taking me into various stores to see what I like clothing wise. He was wearing shorts and a basic graphic tee while I was wearing blue jeans and a grey short sleeved shirt. We went into White House Black Market and the look on all the employees faces was “they’re not worth our time” and they kept hovering as if we were gonna steal something. We decided then that they weren’t getting our business at all.

[@heathercontois4501]

Story 2- Very Pretty Woman but they dressed in the opposite direction. Love it!

[@lorrainemontagnon1537]

Afternoon Mark! Much love to everyone ❤️

[@alicewilloughby4318]

18:20 - WHO THE HELL HAS A FEW GRAND TO SPEND ON A BACKPACK?!?

[@83gemm]

“But my finance’s best friend’s wife thinks-“ I’m gonna stop you right there. That’s not someone on your team. Way too far removed and loyal to the crazy girl.

[@iamallaboutfood7242]

There is a well know shoe brand which has a particular sole shade that is the trademark of the brand. Just when it was blowing up as a brand I walked into their store to check out their shoes. We were sightseeing with my mom so we were dressed super casual, very comfortably, no flashy clothes, probably mostly Primark. I was ready to purchase 2-3 shoes if anything caught my eye. The sellers were so rude and dismissive of us that I have vowed never to buy anything from that brand ever and I have kept to it. I have only entered their store once with a friend since and there the seller was super kind but it was not enough to change my mind.

[@MMKMoore1]

Story 1 - It sounds like that "friend" has never heard the saying "if he leaves her for you, you've merely created a job opening". I hope Addison gets some therapy to help her heal from this toxic relationship. Story 2 - Some people have never watched the movie "Pretty Woman", and it shows.

[@camillepepin8512]

"Consequenses have actions" if it wasn't voluntary, go take a nap Mark you deserve to rest

[@elvisneedsboatsbennett2455]

The petty revenge story happened to me at a car dealership, we bought a car from the dealership next door.

[@britnicox3929]

I went into a Chico’s near me - which is pretty fancy but not designer by any means - and the sales rep was so dismissive and passive aggressive to me that I’ve literally never stepped into one again. I’ve never understood the thought process in that

[@itsjonna5070]

Story 2: i have experienced this Manny Times in romania. My dag is from there but no one in my family looks romanian. We are blonde or brunetes with paler complexion. So the sales people did not give is ANT attention as we came dressed in vacation clothes and not brand or office clothes. The amount of side eye they gave us as soon we took a step over the doorstep was crazy. We never bought anything even tough we could afford it. 😂 everything was so extremely flashy and the sales personal was so rude

[@gcarr1089]

Last story - I once pointed out to a friend. Me - "See that old lady over there" Friend - " the bag lady" Me- " she's not a bag lady, she's a millionaire" The lady had lost her husband and went down hill from there. 😢😢. Again shouldn't judge a book by it cover.