Second story. It's only one dish. If she'll bring casserole make a similar one

S2 Op sounds like the person who tries to keep everything in the family functioning by keeping the more unhinged people under control (guessing wildly there were parents who said "keep an eye on your sister" probably why she's stressing, this could totally not be the case) . She needs to just let things explode.

This girl giving Sibby vibes ... the dark romance girlies know

S1: So let me get this straight. This women is in a relationship with a person that is not real, talking to this phantom because he gives his opinion to some things and is wiping him out to influence descisions in her actual relationship with a real person. Yeah here a several problems: 1) OP is a stand-in for her "real partner". he is there to provide what the phantom can not, something physical between his legs. 2) OP should ask himself if he really wants to stay in a a realzionship with someone this distorted. I mean this is like asking for a stabbing, whenever "Tom" goes of the rails.

It's bad that I'm laughing at the sister from Story #2 bringing terrible food and sharing good vibes, lol.

Tom OP - Just imagine hiw Reddit would jave reacted to a BF who did the following: Created an imaginary girlfriend Made her absolutely perfect Constantly brought her up while in a relationship with a real woman Had "her" cast the deciding vote for all disagreements. He would have been torn to shreds in the comments.

HOLY FUQ! This mother WTF! You forced your daughter to allow the younger one drive the car that she doesn’t even put gas in. WTF adhd as an excuse to not being forced to accept accountability?? If Casey cuts contact it’s all because of you and your arrogant husband

Story 1: OP needs to run. This gal needs serious psychiatric help for her delusion and OP cannot provide that. Story 2: Sister is also delusional and the family needs to stop enabling her delusion. Just let her bring what she wants and when everyone thinks it's terrible and she throws a fit invite her to leave and take her crap food with her. Then gift her with cooking lessons in basic dishes from the entire family as a Christmas present. OP also needs to have a serious talk with whichever parent of theirs who did the majority of the cooking for the nuclear family when OP and Sister were growing up about their total failure to teach Sister anything about cooking.

Invisible Friend Story: OP, your question is irrelevant. You deserve whatever you get for staying with Batshitcrazy GF.

Story 2- She's doing it on purpose. I come from a huge family. We do group call, a month before to sort out who's bringing what so that the host isn't constantly feilding questions. Just this last year we made a online check list and people picked what they wanted to bring.

Honestly, story 2, some of those dishes sound pretty good in concept, I bet she's overdoing it on what she's adding. Like, I'd probably enjoy the cranberry sauce or mac and cheese if she minced up the jalapeno/horseradish real fine and watched how much she added.

For sis with the weird food contributions. I wonder what she tastes when she makes these combos. Her taste pallette must be seriously off. Some day the family will look back and say"remember when auntie made that dressing with cinnamon or whatever other monstrosity she comes up with. It will be the stuff of legend and great humor. I say let her have it and make an edible green bean casserole to counteract the nasty one. It's a small thing that OP is letting live rent free in her head in the wrong context. Enjoy it for the extra weird it is. Like I said, it will be something to remember. Let it bring laughter instead of stress.

I have a real question abou story 2 though. Does *SHE* eat her own creations? Like, does she fill up her plate with a good sized portion of her own creative dishes and actually eat it? Because if she does, she's probably being genuine, sadly.

Story 1 made me smile so much. I hope they’ll continue to be happy for many years to come.

Maladaptive daydreaming is a BITCH! I do this imaginary friend too but never with others.

The sister needs to be careful with weird ingredients and label what's in those messes. People can be allergic (or not tolerate spicy well). And don't badger people to eat that slop.

OP Story 1 needs to 🏃🏾‍♀️ run! OP in Story 2 is NTA sister cant cook and pressures people to eat her shitty food. Itll blow up in her face eventually

Story 2: I’m getting the impression the sister ENJOYS seeing people suffer from her food. 16:53

Story 2: that this point I'd not host honestly. I'm not a traditionalist when it comes to Thanksgiving but it's really not the time to experiment with food. This is why I just go out lol, no clean up and no dealing with crazy lol.

why are people calling the 2nd OP the AH? i wouldn't want to be harassed into eating garbage food every family gathering either

Story 8 if someone you know does this. Ask the garbageman next time. The almost all set this kind of things aside to bring them to thriftstores. My uncle was a garbage man and told me about this. If its a collection in one box they do this..

People need to be honest. Tell her it sucks and/or you are not going to eat "sardine and carrot" salad or whatever. Sometimes people need to hear "no".

2 and 1/2 minutes in and I'm already against the parent. If the younger daughter has ADHD so bad that she can't get a job then she also has ADHD so bad she should never drive.

So she has approximately 1 + i friends. Impressive, the first complex system of relationship

Story 1 nah I would have doubled down after hearing that Tom was some imaginary boyfriend from high school. I would have told her straight up look I get that he's helped you through a lot but it makes me really uncomfortable knowing that this third party entity that you've been using to win fights and manipulate me is your imaginary high School boyfriend. I would then go on to tell her that I think that she needs to see a therapist about letting go of her imaginary high School boyfriend, I don't know that I could be supportive after that explanation

Story 1: I would have definitely have asked, "Who the F is Tom?" Within 6 months of the relationship. Curiosity would have gotten the best of me haha

I'm just so confused about story 2. Why even MAKE it a battle? It doesn't have to be. Just let her bring her dish, and when she asks why nobody likes it, tell her it tastes bad. That's all it has to be. You don't even have to eat it. It'll take up the space of 1 single crockpot at most. Quit trying to make it into a battle. Edit for update: imposing a 1 dish limit would be completely reasonable, though. Yeesh.

He probably knew it was her and thought to teach her a lesson. I absolutly don't blame him though.

Omg the tom story! My husband calls my period TOM (time of month) and we will have conversations like "toms in town and hes angry" he will nod and get me chocolate, other than that he never gets brpught up. My husband likes using the name tom just because he feels odd saying period, yes he will get me pads and chocolates and what not but hes just that way. Whayever makes him feel better

Story 1- Girlfriend has some real mental health issues if she's pushing 30 and still talking to an imaginary friend.

S2 - just don't eatthe shit she brings- - YTA - noone ever eats it - who gives a F?! You people need to be honest with her. Tell her you are hopsting, and you do not apprreciate her beinging all that crap - tell her to bringa d=sise diah and that's it - she can do more when she hosts..

Dating these days is like walking into an insane asylum and trying to find the least damaged person there.

I'm fully invested in the Thanksgiving drama and can't wait to find out what the mysterious "trio" is that sister is creating.

For Thanksgiving (or really any holiday) dinner, please don’t “experiment.” Experiment on yourself in your own time. Of course not everyone’s tastes are the same, but you’d better know that you well like it before subjecting others to it. 😂 * My aunt is a terrible cook, so she always brings beverages.

Story 2 reminds me of my grandma. Every year at Easter she bought the family an Italian cream pie that was truly awful. We'd have a piece at her house every year. She was so happy getting us that pie and no one had the heart to tell her we hated it. She passed away when I was 18 and I miss those god-awful pies!

Yeah no. OP’s girlfriend is nuttier than squirrel shit and he’s a bit nuts too for staying.

Mother victim story : NTA OP. I assume you've said as much to her privately but she has not taken it on board or addressed the issue at all. Therefore, you had no choice but to meet the issue as your mother presented it. Think of three main points where your mother's behaviour causes problems for you and write them down. Give the list to her privately, or fairly privately, and leave it with her. See what happens. Good luck

Uuuuh... I'm schizoaffective and experience hallucinations/delusions on the regular...and this is weird to me. I don't interact with my voices because it makes the delusions stronger. ...wait. What? How did her explanation make this better for OP?!

Smart funny gorgeous mentally ill. Don't get her pregnant and get away from this loon.

As a person who doesn't celebrate Thanksgiving, all I want to when is it and what happened 😂😂😂😂. I want to every juicy detail of it 😂😂😂😂

Ever see that one viral video a few years ago where at Thanksgiving dinner, the aunt was berating a relative because she decided to experiment with the mac and cheese? “Don’t experiment on Thanksgiving! Don’t experiment on Thanksgiving!”

I'm more concerned that Tom is a ghost or some sort of demonic psychiatrist

Story 2: I think OP needs should relent and tell sister that half the family are enthusiastic, and make sure to plop an extra big portion on her mums plate

Story1. Its really a problem so many looney tunes run around loose in society. To many mental institutions have closed the doors.

Let your sister bring her nasty food! No one is forcing the family to eat the weird stuff.

Maladaptive Daydreaming gone too far. It's already considered a mental disorder and she needs profesional help.

The mom and dad are stupid and entitled. Both need to have their rights removed and all ability to have kids removed.

S2: I would just cancel Thanksgiving, "hey guys I finally understood what You were telling me, so I've decided that it would be best for all if my sister is the host this year, I want to thank my parents for this idea and their willingness to help host with my sister as the Anfitrion" and just throw that mess to them.

S1 - YTA for STAYING in that relationship! LOL!!

S1. She is going to need therapy before she can keep a long term relationship. While Tom is a boyfriend any more, her subconscious still see him as the ideal boy. So any time her partner does something she doesn't like tom will make it worse by pointing it out and compare how he doesn't do that or it can "fixed."