A lot of narcissist want you to be the one that leaves the relationship

[@Diane-v9e]

You are working to save the marriage and they are intentionally trying to run it.

[@amandakohler8810]

With my ex he CONSTANTLY told me everything I was doing wrong. Cleaning, cooking, intimacy, etc. If I told him that I'd I was SO terrible at everything he could always divorce me. He would IMMEDIATELY accuse ME of wanting to leave. And then if I did threaten to leave he would call me out on it. When I left the first time he love bombed and blamed his parents for his problems. When I left for the last time he accused me of leaving for another man, and ran to his friends to do a smear campaign. But, he was with another woman just a couple of weeks later. When we were going through the divorce he asked me if I would come back. BUT he would also talk about the woman he was "hanging out with" and all the fun things they were doing.

[@Lunaticaceleste]

They suck so bad... I feel you 🤗

[@louieraines755]

@amandakohler8810 - I gotta laugh cos it's almost like there's a playbook... 😂😫😂

[@nikiabutler899]

And when you accept it they go ballistic😲🤯🙃🤡😆🤦🏽‍♀️

[@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp]

And I'm glad he got rid of me thank you Ben and thank you Lee 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@nicolebreland3381]

They also want to make you feel guilt. You become the villain. They may also want to do something or to be with someone, hoping you'll be so upset you won't check up on them or watch what they are doing 🧐

[@Lunaticaceleste]

The part of avoiding you to check what he or she is doing couldn't be more wrong... In fact, they enjoy letting you know that they're happy, that they've found another partner, to fake happiness towards us and the rest of the world.

[@nicolebreland3381]

@Lunaticaceleste my son is a diagnosed narc, so maybe it is different for some. I know they want to show off that they are doing great, but when We lived together, I beieve he felt watched and restricted from doing crazy things. But of course, after being in diferent households he can tell me any story. As far as the guilt, it is something he knew I had a serious issues with abandonment, which I promised I would never do to him, thus making me the villain.

[@FaithfulandTrue777]

True they do bare minimum, get mean & slow fade to reverse discard. Its great that you used the collaboration with ben tailor- God bless you Lee ❤🙏🏻

[@tyraharris2090]

I went through this last year with a narc and the whole experience was a nightmare from hell.

[@CindyLee-d5y]

Every time I leave he finds a way back.

[@never4saken165]

Facts and pretend to pursue you afterwards so when they move on to the victim that can say, well you left me

[@ifeomaamalu6189]

That is what happened to me!! He just wouldn't leave, and did all that.

[@rebeccalucas6063]

Richie said to me while we were on vacation "I'm wondering when you're going to leave" I didn't at the time take it as him WANTING me to leave. I took it as since his ex wife leaving him for another man (so he claims, because I wasn't able to talk to her to get her side) When he said that to me, I took it as him being scared and vounarable, so i responded "I will not leave, I'm loyal as long as you don't abuse, hit or cheat on me" Literally that SAME WEEK the discard wound up tightening up, and 3 weeks later he told me "I need my space" so I left hurt and soon realized it was his version of a reverse discard. He has his space, all 2005 square feet of that house!

[@angelandrews2276]

💯 bullseye

[@RedeemedRestored]

I experienced this with my ex- wife and someone I dated for a year. They both started be insufferable to be around and started doing things to trigger me. And so the gaslight was me believing everything was my fault in the end. They played psychological games on me that I could never forgive.

[@irenehamilton2981]

I was fine with leaving just not the way I left I didn't want to leave like that 😮

[@colibri7-m1h]

He was pushing for me to end it.

[@florence3701]

I realized my narc parent has been financially abusing me for years. I want to leave but the narc parent has no job and for whatever foolish reason, I feel bad knowing they will suffer. Also I have a strong suspicion they will target my younger brother as the replacement scapegoat. How can I leave knowing the suffering that will ensue? I already feel guilty

[@miaqueen9578]

Thats exactly what my husband did, EXACTLY. He even messaged my dad and tild him HE WILL not carry that sin of breaking up a family. As a christian it is extremly hard for me to accept the fact I made the decision to leave my husband because divorce is not really the best option for chrisitans. Bit i couldnt do it anymore. id rather ask God for forgiveness in that area that stay in a marriage where I hate another person and he treats me awful.

[@brandnewday-nov2024]

clearly.

[@leiamorris4947]

My ex narc did this and now tells our little son “well I would have stayed married. Your mom is the one who wanted a divorce.”

[@resilient8788]

Something you get the discard flip, yet they (narc) won't leave. They are not finished squatting, apparently. Yes, men, this happens to us women, too.

[@misst3116]

Why is it that when you leave.. they pop up when you don’t want them to? If they want you to leave

[@alfredochicken5150]

Cause they're stupid

[@Hazelnut3988]

Facts n I keep telling him to go n he said he wasn't go anywhere but kept doing BS so I could leave but little did he know I was glad to leave had enough of the repeated crap.

[@gaby1980v]

Same goes for friends, my former best friend is so toxic, I think she is or very close to being narcisistic.

[@shalesevaulx8702]

Nonsense!!! That's why everything is mine. U can go! Anytime!!

[@entertainmeimboredplease4250]

Wow how cowardly just be honest. I'm starting to think narcissistic people not human 😂😂😂

[@MentalHealness]

🤭

[@ABCD-si7px]

Good.

[@nataliesolomon08]

Facts

[@Vivi921]

Mine wanted me to leave during the dating days I just didn’t know then. We got married and I joined him abroad and he wanted me to die instead. He was constantly wishing me death almost on a daily basis. I ran away on a certain day when he was at work with our kids and now he is begging everyone to ask me to come back that he has changed.

[@ebonyapplepy3906]

🤔 Hey Lee, what's your skin routine? Can you do a video on it, pls?

[@user-wc5dw2qx9i]

Mine won't. 😩.

[@timjackson1233]

If this is case why do they come back

[@ana_boogie7168]

Supply. They don’t want you and they might even despise you, but they sure will try to hold on to the supply!

[@candyc6057]

or just stalk for life

[@KKP20111]

💯

[@MissReneeMichelle]

My ex tried this shit.

[@MsTery-ul7pw]

Lazy

[@feebee2599]

He can disconnect financially, as long as my name is still on all accounts. And it is!😂😂. Living with a narcissist ain’t for the weak. Been in mine for 45 years. He just got diagnosed last year . He thought he was winning . However, I have always kept myself up on his dime and will continue to keep myself up until he walks out. I’m not going anywhere, 😂😂😂Believe that . I am vested😂😂

[@FreeBrunoPowroznik]

Narcissists tend to litter their comments with 100s of laugh emojis. Almost like they are trying to convince themselves what they are saying is actually funny.

[@davidscarlett6400]

🪬🪬🪬🪬🪬

[@MentalHealness]

‼️

[@constancejenkins3867]

Facts on top of FACTS 🤌🏽 💯

[@Cece79518]

Why do they do it then turn around and literally cry for you to come back, it’s like a roller coaster ride with them so confusing. 🫤 luckily I was already watching you and I refused to get sucked back in. 😊

[@Vivi921]

Same here

[@Joy.1111]

💯