My ex at first would seem calm but then after awhile he lost it by yelling at me and then slowly putting his hands on me psycho

He silent now becouse he get a new suplay,but he dont block me when before and he come to me somethimes .Jes I brock with him but he tried again and he gone again

Accept that they cannot do love. As of love is a skill, some people are better at it than others. For instance being a good cook, or sporty, or musician. Some are naturally talented, some are basic and with training and guidance can get decent or above average. And some just do not have it. And are also not motivated to do so. They can maybe get by through a facade, like judging a sports team from the side lines, or ordering food at a good restaurant to serve at home and then accepting the thank you from guests. Don’t make these people CEOs of your personal and love life! They’ve shown you they lie, take advantage and cheat. Say you’re fired. The NFL wouldn’t allow a person like that to play. No skills? No incentive to learn? No f*ing JOB.

the part from 8:00 is where i disagree fully with you and as a diagnosed narc you shouldn't spill any beans in this subject! but what do i know about narcissists who take on a relationship with someone who has been in this stage of life and has been put right back to that place by the *drum-roll* the narcissist!!! after been plucked dry from hopes dreams etc. so seriously Lee stfu about psychology you cannot phantom and give advice about that.... (no wonder a private session costs so much with you...) a true narcissist cannot handle the truth and or experience remorse of their taken actions. when you stop caring about humans around you your slowing turning into a narcissist yourself also narcissists will simply stop communicating because it becomes tiresome for them constantly having to ask for things ugh....

"They don't need/want you to be happy!!"

Boi!!!!!! That shit is crazy and play games with your information and whatever to stay close to you

Oh my God my narcissist mother-in-law was screaming at my toddler and his face, but now I'm crazy for standing up for him and I😂😢

9:09 right make sure your boundaries are stronger than that one submersible made out of carbon fiber 😂 too soon? Ill get on the bus.

And the reason for me being perfectly this fine is a stranger admired your hairstyle. The eye twitching had me rolling 😂

I lost my brother to cancer 3 months ago, and had gutsfeelings and signs my spouse was already cheating in the week I lost my brother. A week after the funeral I had a miscarriage 😢 We broke up 2 weeks ago and it feels hard to let go of a “dream” that wasn’t realy there

This is what’s going on definitely in me and my bf’s situation. His ex wife is a narc and we noticed that his daughter comes back to us moody, after a few hours that tension dissipates, but when it’s time to drop her off again, she picks up a little bit of an attitude on the drive to her mom’s place or wherever the drop off point is. I noticed it pretty quickly. My bf wondered what the deal was and I told him “she’s overwhelmed”. Her mom has a new baby, has signed his daughter up for tons of sports, and there’s huge pressure for her to do good at school. She wants to stay with us more, but she’s terrified that if she stays with us, it means more arguments with mom. Her mom makes it difficult for her to stay here, including blowing up all our phones nonstop, and having screaming fits if none of us answer because we are busy at the park or something. Also if his daughter forgets ANYTHING at our house, her mom punishes her for it. His daughter even had a panic attack once, screamed and cried because she left a jacket at her friends house and she kept repeating “mom’s gonna beat me, we have to go get it back NOW!” We tried to calm her down and say “your mom isn’t going to beat you, we will explain to her what happened, and we’ll go get your jacket.” And she screamed even harder “YES SHE WILL! You don’t get it, she has a stick in the pantry that she spanks me with if I forget clothes!” We tried to talk about this to her mom but of course all we get is “she’s exaggerating, there’s no stick” or “I don’t beat her, I’m just gonna ground her”. Which grounding a kid over forgetting clothes is wild, especially at 8-9 years old. She’s totally got adhd like her dad, they both forget things allll the time. Punishing a kid for that is wild to me. Anyway so she stays at mom’s to avoid conflict but now she’s incredibly moody, depressed and overwhelmed by the pressure her mother puts on her. I’m so happy to say we are a place where she can decompress and feel safe, but it’s heartbreaking to see her mood totally switch in the drive over to drop her off… she sometimes ask if we can take her back later, but we explain to her that her mom makes that difficult, and she sighs deeply and says “… ya I know, she makes everything difficult”. She’s only 11 and just now starting to see the irrationality and inconsistency of her mothers behavior. Pray for us, I hope her mother doesn’t do too much damage…

My now ex-husband would do this.

Nothing will be different! Geesh I feel attacked

Numbers of letters is worse 😂😂😂

My sons dad did that..he'd come home and tell me his dad said he misses me and wishes we were a family again..while he's with the girl he proposed to to make me jealous that he doesn't even like 😂

Awwww man…. I just got to the part about the wife who showers once a month! Boy I spoke tooo soon!😱😷

Shtttt hope she left never came back. That coming close in her face and talking to her like that. Hope she choose herself ❤

The “I take one bath a week”😂😂😂😂😂😂 I really hope you have never heard that as a reason out of someone’s mouth.🤣😂🤣😂🤣

I've witnessed this and it's extremely unsettling!

Yeah but when you wont forgive them they guilt trip you with you are horrible for not forgiving them. So they actually pressure you to let them stay!

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Lol even the self-aware narcissist speaking about the negatives of narcissism threw in a quick “My sibling get’s on my nerves because they dont take my advice” blaming the sibling for not taking advice. You can see the negative blaming thought process in real time. Big respect to this guy though ‘cause it seems like he sees the benefits of self improvement beyond narcissistic traits but it’s wild to see how powerful the toxic coping mechanisms can be for these people. My brother does the same thing. I asked him why he’s always negative and commenting how he thinks other people are always doing things wrong. Then he says something like “well everyone around me is always saying/doing stupid stuff that’s really inconvenient to me.”. Like yeah everything is always going to have an element of inconvenience to it but that’s why patience and kindness is a virtue. Want to buy something? You’ll have to pay for it. Inconvenient, but necessary. Need to shop for groceries? You’ll have to wait in line. Inconvenient, but necessary. Want to go to the club/or a concert for fun? Get ready to experience belligerent drunk people at a venue that sells alcohol. Still Inconvenient, but still necessary. Anything you want in life will be at the cost of either inconvenience, discomfort, or insecurity in some form. The answer to that isn’t to bully your way into getting what you want. There’s too many things and people in the world to criticize until you get your way. Learning to be patient to persevere through inconvenience and being positive to create pleasant experiences through adversity is what makes you worth being around and what helps keep you smiling through the tribulations of life that we all have to deal with. Happiness comes internal perspective, not the external comforts of life. Getting over yourself and being patient and kind isn’t “rewarding injustice”, or “letting yourself get taken advantage of”, its a gift you can give yourself, that also benefits the people around you.

They want to control your life even after you leave.

I fell for the lies & moved back in . I was able to see the truth . Took me 1 year to financially move out . I’ll not break my truth for their lies ever again . Even though my sister was rewarded with an RV getting me to move away it was really a win .

This is one of my favorite vids from you, Lee.

8 days no contact - every day I have struggled not to contact. They have not contacted me either

Would they sleep with anyone if their low on supply or have lost all supply?

Great acting, Lee!! 🤣🤣🤣

Play ignorant mind games with your heart and mind. They are not is a relationship with you. They care about their ego instead of relationship.

You have no idea how much I needed to see this video, with perfect timing. While driving to visit family this weekend, I checked the pet camera only to see my wife going down on another woman. I highly doubt there was any remorse for her actions and there will be no guilt on my end for leaving and choosing me. 2025 is going to be my year of healing for me. Thank you for your videos Lee, they've helped me for so long ❤

Nope im half way though this divorce

facts

It was soo painful but i never went back

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Good Godv😂 thats bad! But when they harrss you after the break up then you know

All the lies today another one I heard omg. I feel nothing anymore when he tells me. I just feel like right again you fucked up the relationship with lies. But I left. I stopped justifieing. still traumabonded but whatever

I like you in bright blue

Oh I was ready for him to go

my 29m ex did this... he was highly narcissistic.

My ex narc really wanted to see my son. So I took him to court for his latest smear campaign, saying it's my fault that my son disowned him for putting his hands on him. Hell yes it's my fault, my son needed protection. Now the ex sees him each court session. 😂 we went through all that Lee describes for almost 20 damn years, first. These demons are manipulative af.

Is it a red flag if he has a code to unlock his phone but it's always face down? He also takes his phone and is on his phone in the shower every time

Great, on point insights, Lee 💯 EXACTLY

My narcissistic partner made me get an abortion and wasn't there for me at the hospital and didn't even pick me up. He was with his ex's partner instead and was moving furniture for our new house.

It's demonic Lee.

Well, it's OK, Lee. The Most High said, some of you are born unto the devil. He'll for sure. 😮😮😮

That smile and title on the thumbnail is wild Lee 😂😂

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Thank you Lee. This is way I stop buying my narcissist husband anything and I don't anything for him. He never appreciated anything I did for him or to help him.💯🙏👏I'm focusing on healing myself 😊

Haha he can have them if they chose. But it will cut the ties between me and the mutual person. Consequences means no contact.

Ok ok. You’ve convinced me to subscribe. Oh wait, I already am