a q&a where we probably spill too much tea and also got in a fight

[@laurendavis3333]

As a girl who lives and grew up in Utah, I really appreciate Asypn “calling out” Parker on his lack of being affected by Utah culture. Utah culture/Mormon culture is all framed around men. To them, it’s probably pretty great, because as women, we are much more likely to be passive and accommodating to them.

[@carlieolney123]

I love Aspyn so much. She literally is not scared to speak what she feels and how she thinks. It's really refreshing. I feel like Cove and Lola are being raised so well.

[@OsnapitsChristine]

Parker I support you in filming a super boujee artsy house tour, you genuinely seemed so excited about doing it!!

[@joeliz9082]

It is so nice hearing how aware Aspyn is of the Utah culture affecting girls, and I can tell she really wants to keep her daughters safe from that. I know Parker likely feels defensive of his own experience and that is why he is having a hard time admitting that his experience as a boy growing up in Utah is likely very different from the lives of most girls growing up in Utah. But it's just not the same experience, and Aspyn is right about that. It can be a harming environment even if you are not part of the specific community that is the big force in creating that culture because it is so prevalent and cannot be escaped there. I wish that guys were more willing to ask and learn about these differences rather than so quickly dismissing them if they did not experience it themselves.

[@kaitlinmarks8990]

I would like to see Parker filming the house tour in his way. I like the more real, raw style vlogs but that’s exactly what it is.. real life and if Parker wants to show something or put in the extra work he should be able to! I think everyone would appreciate the effort. If someone is passionate about something people feed off of that. Just like Oscar and how he films, he’s extra. People feed off that.

[@ashleewalker8193]

I think it’s a good idea for Parker to do the creative content for the house tour! You can tell he’s really passionate about it. Not saying that you will have to always do it for future Vlogs, I hear you Aspyn! Probably too much work but if Parker wants to do it once in a while…why not!? Thanks for sharing guys!

[@babyannie4196]

I admire Parker so much, in my culture we were raised to have a mom do everything and a das bring the money and food home and it's so admiring to see Parker so involved in the girls schedules and lives.

[@xoch8905]

As a girl that grew up in that “culture” and did not really have it effect me, I STILL disagree with Parker. Even though you have your own standards of what your life is like being surrounded by the culture and judged for not behaving like them is very annoying and sometimes gets you left out of friend groups, or peoples parents just don’t want you hanging around their kids cuz you don’t share the same beliefs! It’s insane. So even though I stuck to what I believed in it definitely still sucked being in it as a girl cuz men simply aren’t held to the same standard.

[@paigedunkel1065]

Aspyn is in her villain feminist era and I’m here for it!!

[@madisoncrosson6937]

I would love to see Parker film that video of the house in the way he envisioned it! It seems like he is really excited and passionate about it, and it might be a good way for him to branch out for a little bit, and a fun little creative break in the normal vlogs ❤

[@Ccccccmmag098]

You guys are so refreshing! Love the discussion of dads being involved. Your channel always shows such a good example of being a parenting team! Also, It sucks being in a funk and I hope it passes soon cause you guys are such a joy to watch and hear from!

[@kaylarussell2506]

Thank you Aspyn for standing so firm about the unfair treatment that girls receive under the umbrella of religion. It is so important that we can empower the new generations of women to be strong and confident about themselves!!♥️🙌🏻

[@emdale3]

Parker is a really great husband and father. He should be very proud. And Aspyn and him have a good partnership and balance it seems, which is so important. You both should be proud of the parents you are and partners you are to each other!

[@lyla7097]

Growing up in Utah as a woman is different. It varies in severity FOR SURE but it truly is different for women in Utah. Modesty, career expectations, raising kids. It’s a lot placed on your shoulders at an early age for sure

[@astrocutie37]

In terms of the video concept for the new house tour, I think Aspyn is right when it comes to youtube - casual vlogs perform better, BUT I agree with Parker, nicely filmed/highly produced short form content (tik toks) of a house is much more popular and would perform way better! So you defs should do both, because both styles will perform well on their respected social sites (youtube vs tik tok)

[@Doddie5676]

I do love the comments about Parker being involved and you guys are so right, a lot of dads are not as involved and I’m envious of Parker being such a good dad.

[@Lwhiteside23]

100% would LOVE to see both versions of the house tour 🥰 I definitely see both sides of this. It makes sense to not fix what’s not broken AND I wonder if also incorporating some of those more complicated videos would attract another type of audience and lead to more growth. Either way, I am just interested in both because I think it would be cool lol

[@juliadawndesigns4522]

As an ex-mormon living in Utah, I SO appreciate you being willing to share what it's like for so many of us in this culture. People who think that all is well in "zion" have just not personally experienced the unhealthy aspects of it like so many of us have. If you fit into all the cultural norms and expectations (cisgendered, heterosexual, able-bodied person that believes in and supports the patriarchy) then you might not have been harmed by it. Parker seems like a great guy and I appreciate his willingness to listen to what Aspyn was sharing. We still have a LONG way to go in this culture with trying to understand the experiences of others outside of the cultural norms, but I do appreciate this conversation. Love listens and Parker seems to be trying. :)

[@shysop]

Loved to see you stand up for the point you were making, Aspyn! So true about women being affected more by misogynistic/sexist culture

[@dandelion9375]

I’m a SAHM and my husband works 15 hour days working a blue collar job. And he still shows up for his family and cooks cleans puts the kids to bed and makes sure I’m all good as well. I agree with Aspyn don’t settle for less! Know that having babies takes two people to love and care for them not just the mom.

[@marie-pascaledupuis787]

Aspyn ur new title style kills me lol such a queen for keeping it real💓

[@kimholdredge]

As a creative person sometimes it’s not about doing too much ‘unnecessary’ work - but having fun! And being proud of the work you created down the road ❤

[@megancurtis9502]

Aspyn is 100% correct. If you are a young girl in Utah there is no way to avoid having issues with the Utah culture. Random ladies and girls will say judgmental things to you. I suppose there’s blatant sexism everywhere but Utah is different because it truly represents the majority and the norm. Same goes for many small towns and the South.

[@alyssadiaz2623]

my mom recently became an empty nester and shared with me that she struggles with feeling empty because she lived for me and my siblings. i think it’s super important to have time for yourself of course your kids are small so it may be completely different or more complicated but don’t forget about your self care in the long run! now that we’re out of the house my mom gets to do stuff for herself but she has moments of sadness too.

[@gill3110]

I feel like Parker should totally do his idea of the nice camera/videography as well as you do the casual vlog. Even if his video doesn’t do well on KZbin it will def do well on TikTok. Those vids are super popular right now. Plus it’ll be nice to have those great quality shots and vids of all the hard work you two put into that house! 😇😇

[@samanthamills8899]

Yesss for gentle parenting. As a preschool and an ECE, you are doing wonders for your kids. They’re human beings and they deserve respect and love, just because they are little does not mean that they should be robbed of that.

[@totalH20]

I actually hear both sides of their points throughout this video. It's okay to have disagreements and it's actually really healthy to have these conversations as a couple especially when you won't agree on points

[@taybreef5452]

No because Aspyn is spot on with the Utah culture. We just moved to the east coast because I have two daughters and couldn’t put them through that.

[@estherszabo7313]

I would love to hear you guys talk about how you first got into real estate and how you guys have managed your holdings over the years. Love you guys and your beautiful family!!

[@MsDancechic98]

I live in Utah and am not religious and I have to agree with Aspyn, the culture totally affects you like Aspyn said

[@lindseymo516]

Loved the Q&A!! I feel like there could be a way to incorporate the "nicer" shots in your future house tour and still do like a vlog style whether it's like transitions or b-roll over y'all talking about it, but either way I'd personally be happy to watch whatever y'all decide to post!

[@tashaleigh96]

Aspyn was meant to be a girl mom! Y'all are amazing parents, take a breathe and remind yourself how great you're doing! :)

[@tashaleigh96]

P.S. Parker, love to see you here, Thanks for being honest and vulnerable here!

[@kellieevans9173]

You two are such good parents and can tell you both vibe so well together as far as parenting goes. Also, I WISH all dads were as great of fathers as Parker is. P.s. I think it would be great to see Parker’s cool creative video!!!! (I like the casual style too) but that would be such a fun creative project and honestly we would all realllllly enjoy that too!

[@marlyndiazn]

It’s really nice to see your view on Utah culture Aspyn! Seeing you both grow from high school to now has honestly been so cool. You’re both genuinely good people and i love seeing that represented online!

[@alinel102]

I think it would be a wonderful idea for Parker to do a “fancier” video of the house I think it would do so well especially on tiktok !

[@sophiej1987]

Aspyn is soo right about the religious culture affecting girls growing up- I love that she said that about wanting to protect her daughters from that because I know that’s such a real and prevalent issue for so many girls that they carry into adulthood. 💕

[@ThaniaAbigail]

"Most dads can't, because they're TRASH" haha I get how that sounds like a blanket statement but I agree completely. Most dads, even involved ones, don't know enough to be able to take care of the kids completely.

[@xiomara4362]

Parker is such a good dad. Like Aspyn is a given. She’s structure and has all the right instincts to raise her girls well but I feel like with dads it takes EFFORT and he makes all the effort for his daughters. They’re gonna feel and recognize that as they grow older 🥹 all the time and love he gives them.

[@kaylamonet9766]

Aspyn is so authentic and such a beautiful person in and out…. Keep being you girly!! We love it ♥️

[@mackenzieengebretsen3336]

I would prefer to see Parker's house tour. And I think you should allow him to have fun with it, even if you don't believe it will do as well. With that though, Aspyn you should do a house tour in more of your style as well. That way we can see both versions.

[@kassyvlogs1651]

Love you guys!! I’ve been watching y’all since you were in high school! Seeing y’all grow as a couple your brand and the girls is so exciting to see

[@akirababe101]

I got excited when Parker said he wanted to do the house tour and it would nice to still have a more vlog style that maybe goes more in-depth on details in the home.

[@H-fd4wc]

Parker is SUCH a great example of a thoughtful involved dad. Sadly I wish that wasn’t a phrase “involved dad” you never hear people say involved mom but the number of single moms has grown exponentially because of fathers failing their kids. Thank you for showing us that didn’t grow up with fathers what a healthy relationship looks like 💖🤍

[@brij4007]

I really appreciate the rawness and reality of your vlogs. I hope you never stop posting them. Love you guys!

[@Alexia0candy]

I think this channel is def the vibe” casual “ rather than more vogue style house show and tell, this style connects more with the viewer! Although a seperate quick video would be nice in the fancy way!

[@allierae254]

I am obsessed with this Q&A this is the most real conversation I’ve seen on KZbin and such a long time it’s refreshing thank y’all for being so transparent and just for being yourselves I really appreciate you sharing your life!

[@alexismaria1]

I love the long content I’m all here for it!! 🎉

[@Yatesdrake101]

I would LOVE to see both a casual vlog tour and also Parker’s view with a nice camera. that would be so fun! i love both styles but get what you say, casual being easier and performing better but personally as a long time viewer i would love to see both!

[@kayleeparr8635]

i love aspyn’s opinion on the culture, so true!!!

[@rachdupree]

Love the idea of Parker doing a nice high quality house tour video. I LOVE watching @thelifestyledco home videos with their home decor, designs and walk throughs. That is the style and video quality that comes to mind. :)

[@abbypersicketti5024]

My son is 2.5 and I feel so weird hanging out with adults without him around. It's like I'm living and enjoying my time to be alone, but in the back of my mind I feel like I'm supposed to be doing "mom" things. It's a very drastic change in many ways, so I totally get what you mean about not knowing how to live. It's not a negative feeling either. It's just one I wasn't expecting and I have a feeling it won't really go away haha

[@Janae2000]

2:02 it’s called being a good mom Aspyn! You’re so use to taking care of your little munchkins and you’re so good at it that you’ve completely changed the way your brain works to be a good mom and now you see things from that perspective 🖤

[@Genuinelycuri0us]

“The internet is getting more sensitive” I felt that.

[@ellachalpeno6241]

I’m so happy you loved Austin, we love hearing that 🤍 come back soon!! Love you 🖤

[@cassim.2625]

The Utah culture is sooooooo toxic. The church is obsessed with controlling every little single thing that you do in your life. My life has drastically changed since I moved out of Utah in 2020 and tbh I NEVER want to go back hahahah. I’ll always love going to visit my family but living there is no longer something I want. So happy to see how aware you are Aspyn!

[@ashlyndickey6707]

I’m all for Parker upping the content game! Love seeing that stuff

[@Sweetie1650]

It is so refreshing seeing a dad like Parker! He is so involved and is actually a parent. All of my friends' husbands/partners act like they are just the money source while the mom is the parent, homemaker, etc. Like Parker said, dad's being parents/husbands should be the norm!

[@alieshabradford7045]

I appreciate that this "tea" and conversation was unfiltered.

[@amberr_xx]

Parker please do the house tour how you want!! I’d love to see it! You seem so excited about it, it’d be a shame if you didn’t do it.

[@a1terrel]

Let's see both! Parker seems so excited to do it. It would be good

[@secretariat4ever98]

I agree that it’s sad that people assume dads can’t take care of their kids. I know not everyone has good dads or parents, but there are those phenomenal dads out there. We should hold dads to a higher standard

[@Daymickey]

So glad Parker said that about dads. It should be offensive for people to assume dads can’t take care of their kids. That’s like saying they’re not parents! Let’s erase that narrative and expect all parents to parent. 👏🏽 best believe my husband will be able to fully take care of the baby we’re having in Feb. And if he wasn’t I wouldn’t have chosen him to start a family with.

[@comedykrazy]

Would love to see a high quality video tour of the new house like Parker said. Would be great to see his creativity shine!

[@nadiasan1554]

Thank you for always being real Aspyn. One of the best KZbinrs!

[@coreyh8589]

Girl our brains DEFINITELY work differently as moms! I mean it makes sense bc our babies are almost literally a part of us…so we can’t help but thinks about them! I think that just means you’re a great parent 😍

[@naisharuiz989]

Ive always looked up to your guys’ dynamic. Love Aspyns candid call out of trashy dads lol you make me push my partner to know be more responsible with our kids! It was also nice to hear you voice that its offensive for people to think you cant care for your own kids Parker!

[@alexisgoff859]

Moved from Idaho to Utah at 16 and I 100% agree with Aspyn! Utah culture SUCKS. Especially for women, but my husband was effected, too and he grew up here.

[@BrittLyons]

I feel like you guys should do both for the house tour! Make a casual vlog and have Parker edit in the more high quality footage as you're talking about the home!! And the clips he takes can also be used for TikToks!

[@LemonJMG]

I loved this q&a, the honesty from both of you about Utah was awesome

[@justinetaylor6113]

Aspyn is so spicy I love it. “MOST MEN ARE TRASH”

[@lindsayminn9101]

My husband has always been less anxious about doing certain things with our little ones. He's so great with them ❤️

[@melamster]

When the girls are much older, I think you’re gonna love that they’re so close in age! I have a sister who’s just under a year and a half younger than me, we’re in our early 20’s now and she’s my best friend :)

[@danas61490]

Absolutely loved the honesty in this video!

[@delilahforever1]

Yes Parker!! Dads should know how to take care of their kids

[@LMbzvDan]

I would love to see both versions of the home tour!!!

[@chalenem373]

Going to watch this once I put my daughter down for bed, but my excitement to get a 27 min q&a is too much! Love the title and love following along with what you share!

[@rchlhrpr300]

I’d love to see both versions of the house tour!

[@rebekahmcdermott5504]

Preach Parker! I never understand women who are afraid to leave their kids with their husbands 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@taylortutkaluke6099]

I absolutely loved to hear that conversation in the car! I’m sure you guys are making such a positive impact on local youth!

[@Vrsenese1095]

I’d love to see a switch up of Parker’s version of a house tour!!

[@StephanieJarman]

I would love to see Parker bring back the super secret at the end of the videos and maybe film something cool in the basketball court in the new house, like a BIG3 style game! I also miss seeing the shopping at target for pillows!

[@Grace-hv2gw]

I agree that people love more casual videos but for tik toks, I see good quality house tours and I think that would be a good platform to have Parker post them! Also, if Parker just wants to get back into more quality videos for fun, he should just post them on his channel :) just ideas

[@ashleyfeeder8457]

Aspyn is so right about the way girls get treated when it comes to Mormonism. As someone who grew up in Gilbert, AZ, I wasn’t even raised Mormon but still was impacted by it because of how prevalent the LDS church is in that area. The casual sexism and misogyny within the LDS church literally effected the way I grew up and how I viewed things.

[@Violettt0o1]

Aw Parker sounds like such a good dad! And you’re a great mom Aspyn! The girls seem so happy with two amazing parents so you’re winning!!

[@kathrynnicholas9409]

I WANT TO SEE PARKER’S VERSION OF THE HOUSE TOUR!! yassss PLS! I totally see where you are coming from Aspyn but I do love a GOOD house tour 🤩🥹

[@teresamantei4818]

I would love to see a more “formal” video style house tour on Parker’s Chanel!

[@jessicaripko]

I totally agree with the age gap for the kids. My kids are 18 months apart and it has definitely taken a toll on me and my husband. It’s so tough. I know as they get older it will be easier, but she’s 2.5 years old and he’s 1. We are right in the thick of it. So I would agree that 3 years is a good age gap. Also, Most moms are with their kids for 40+ hours a week and most dads are working 40+ hours a week. My husband works from 4am-12:30pm and has an hour commute both ways, so he doesn’t get to spend as much time with our kids as we would like. He’s a phenomenal dad. He is so exhausted when he comes home, but he somehow musters up the strength to still play with our 2 year old and 1 year old until dinner and again after dinner. I was able to get the kids on a similar schedule to his so that when he is off work we all wake up around the same time and go to sleep at the same time. We do know a lot of dads that aren’t as involved with their kids. They play a lot of video games or go hang out with their friends alot.

[@KiaraBell00]

I have been watching/following you guys since before you got engaged and it is so crazy to see how much yall have grown! I love how honest and chill Aspyn is with everything now🤍

[@kmac23]

literally been watching since the aspyn and parker adventures!! you guys are my fav

[@caarmenhuang]

Please do both house tours, I would love to see Parker’s take on it!

[@summerdreyer8440]

A lot of vets even say not to let your husband bring your pets in because they don’t know what’s going on. A lot of men (boys) don’t care to know (weaponized incompetence) and make their wife do everything. Parker is an anomaly but we need more men like him to be involved to change the expectations. Moms work too yet they’re expected to do everything, and dads are just expected to exist. You wouldn’t Believe how many dads don’t even know their kids birthdays. I have worked in the medical field for four years now and dads rarely know their kids birthdays.

[@GabrielleMcHargue]

Every word when you were doing your makeup is on point. Idk how to “live life” anymore. Like my comfort zone is doing things with my baby, so when he’s gone, everything is off… and PLEASE keep us updated on the flights to Europe with the girls! Definitely could use advice, would love to hear your experience.

[@selflovesammie]

I want to see Parker’s extra nice house tour!!!

[@kylieeeeep]

"Most dads can't cause they're trash" Lmao go off aspyn

[@aubrielle3612]

I love the openness you’ve been sharing!

[@nestfulloflove]

I’d love a detail tour of the house when it’s done! Both would be great.

[@makiyastewart166]

"So I'm like, did we keep them?" BAHAHAH I love Aspyn

[@JonasBeiberGirl]

SPICY ASPYN HAS ENTERED THE CHAT!!!!

[@sarahduran42]

I was feeling guilty about leaving my babies and going to Texas at the end of the month, this is my sign that I need a break! 💝

[@Souza_Tiu]

Parker you’re an amazing dad!