A Surprising Truth About The Problems That Plague Us: Reb Shimon Russell, LCSW, and Rabbi Shais Taub

Rabbi Shimon Russell, LCSW, and Rabbi Shais Taub on let's get real with Coach Menachem, Sunday, March 15, 2021. Episode # 46
Looking More Deeply at OUR Struggles and How to Overcome Them
Raising a Loving Family - Essential Guidance from the Talks and Wisdom of Rabbi Shimon Russell: amzn.to/3F0Uwyv
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[@musicfromtheheart646]

Thank you Reb Shimon and Reb Shais. It feels like you are speaking directly to my situation

[@yakovgutman8765]

Thanks!

[@DanSmith-pm4gv]

Epigenetics is the science of gene expression. Your DNA is written in permanent marker; it can’t be changed or erased. Epigenetics is written in pencil: How our genes are expressed can change, thus we change our tune throughout our life.

[@DanSmith-pm4gv]

If a youth or even adult is having a hard time or struggling with religion or life in general, essentially, the advise here is to find fault and the problem rooted in the circumstances of that persons life circle; either their parents, rebbe's, rabbi's, teachers, relatives, religion, education system, upbringing, epigenetics or a slew of other circumstances that caused this person to effectively live thru and make life choices based on their trauma.

[@Historian212]

As the saying goes, don’t ask “What’s wrong with you?”; ask: “What happened to you [or to your direct ancestors]?”

[@nathanglueck2632]

Let me tell you about the elephant in the room. The greatest of out traumas is the sense of being abandoned by Hashem. It is the knowledge that והיא שעמדה לטובתינו ולנו, means that כלל ישראל survives, but not individual jews. The guy who flies off the handle is indeed in survival mode. His messy home on shabbos morning means to him that he is about to be thrown away by hashem for the shape his house in in, or alternatively, his messy home symbolizes his own desire to take it easy and relax...which he cant do. Because if he ever did, his rage against hashem would blow up, and then he would be guilty enough to be sent to the gas chambers. I know this from my own heart. I am a very from person, because I want to be, because I love hashem torah and mitzvos with all my heart. I can daaven with great dvekus and kavanah but honestly, I can't rationally understand why.

[@applecom1de509]

I think the problem starts when you say something like "how AB made us", instead of recognizing how me makes us new every moment

[@Historian212]

If you have a scar from an old injury, it doesn't suddenly go away because AB creates the world new every moment. Get real.

[@Historian212]

Many thanks for this amazing session. Very excited that this knowledge is being brought to the frum world. It must be pointed out that there’s a difference between going through a traumatic experience and later on developing PTSD. Yes, everyone experiences trauma at one point or another. But not everyone experiences long-term traumatic effects. The difference: PTSD arises a year or more after the event, and means that the person continually re-lives the trauma - which is different from remembering it - or manifests feelings and behavior that reflect deep inner damage. I don’t think that R. Taub is correct that emotions come from the frontal lobe. He separates emotions from “feelings”; he’s wrong to assert that fear is a cognitive state. Fear arises from the limbic system, not the frontal lobe. You can control some aspects of your behavior, but you won’t avoid feeling fear. The Hasidic master was not unafraid; he was controlling his behavior. If your body is shaking, you’re afraid. Denying that or labeling it “not-fear” is extremely harmful. R. Taub is inflicting shame upon people with his language around pushing away the natural feelings of fear that arise. First, acknowledge fear - then, work with your response. It bothers me that Reb Russell wasn’t permitted to respond to that directly.