A Very Personal and Honest Pregnancy Q&A | Plus a Biscuit Recipe

[@jlit1336]

Girl, you had a garden large enough to scare most people and then you bought a house and moved....while pregnant. You rock. Best wishes for you and your families.

[@denieraadams4924]

Yessssss ❤ A phenomenal woman is what she is.

[@marthalewis1017]

Oh my gosh - that says it ALL!

[@fatimaabreu8596]

Well done you said everything

[@isobelmunoffilm5694]

😆yup

[@nseni31385]

Right?! I feel so underachieved watching her omg she does so much stuff 🤣

[@rdb4996]

You are so considerate to the women who struggle with miscarriages, can't get pregnant or who do not relate to having children. The more women openly talk about fertility and pregnancy, the more everyone can make informed decisions and support each other.

[@AnnSumner9348]

I've had 2 miscarriages, and God has blessed me with 5 beautiful girls.

[@shockingdocumentaries4255]

@@AnnSumner9348 God bless you and your kids. 😘

[@queenbee3647]

@@AnnSumner9348 You lucky woman! ❤️

[@chrissihr1031]

I just wanted to thank you for publishing this as a stand-alone video that’s clearly labeled as pregnancy content. I’m one of those pregnancy is a sensitive subject for and, so often, in the excitement of new baby news, sometimes creators forget that not everyone is in a place in their heart where they’re ready to share in every detail of someone else’s pregnancy yet. I just wanted to let you know how kind and thoughtful it was of you to consider your subscribers this way. It’s a kindness I won’t forget. Thank you. ♥️

[@aliciadupuy9228]

I hope you find healing for your soul. Xxoo 🙏

[@kaylabryson1932]

We can be happy for her during our healing . I had 5 miscarriage and learned thru it all to be happy for others joy. It helped heal

[@jgauz23]

Thank you for normalizing difficulties and loss. It sucks for you! Much love sent to you! ❤❤❤❤

[@bravehearticus]

Sending you love xx

[@Mygardencraftcabin]

❤

[@bruhanna]

The comment Josh made about you taking care of the baby for the first 9 months and him being excited to help take over when baby is here is the cutest most loving and supportive thing I’ve ever heard. Brought tears to my eyes. Hope baby comes on Dec 2. That’s my birthday and Dec 2 people are awesome 😂. ❤

[@carolbarnes2947]

I am 78 years old and listening to you today was like an echo of exactly how I felt during both of my pregnancies. All these years I never shared how I felt cause I have been afraid of what people would think of me so to hear someone else has those same thoughts and feelings is such a revelation......... and relief. Thank you so much for having the courage to share. I am sure you will be an amazing parent, as long as you keep being true to yourself, don’t let those loud voices get to you, follow your gut!

[@smallspaceswithGloria]

I was miserable too and had toxemia with all 3

[@greenorchard9735]

I hated being pregnant . I was sick from beginning to end for both of children. It was not fun. Loved my kids but not the Pregnancy part.

[@Teddydoggie]

I had 4 pregnancies and had 4 healthy children. Two pregnancies had life threatening issues. Those who expect every woman to be a pregnant goddess are making it hard on those of us that didn’t have perfect pregnancies. I’m 70 years old and had nightmares of finding out I was pregnant again- as a younger woman of course. In my dream I would say, oh nooooo what did you do?!

[@janicebattle6456]

I am 70 years old and although I didn't have uncomplicated deliveries, I treasure the memories of those beautiful moments after the birth. I also agree with her thoughts and feelings regarding the pregnancy. Enjoy.

[@melitapeters7698]

Dear Becky IT´S OK to be scared IT´S OK to not like everything about pregnancy IT´S OK to be emotional Just listen to yourself and Josh....and everything will be ok Love from Germany

[@hartleyfamily5451]

What a lovely comment!

[@jkdruid]

Best advice ever! Love from uruguay

[@PlowAndPantryHomestead]

Ditto!

[@pattynelson305]

Yes!! All of this. You are not alone.

[@marielastevens2972]

Absolutely the truth. Crazy thing is once baby is here we tend not to remember the bad as much.

[@Sara-xk1ns]

I have 1 tip for the garden: when you’re planning the layout, make sure you can fit the width of a baby stroller/wagon of some sort. I’d have Josh look up potential models you’re interested in and might possibly get as baby grows bigger, then plan the layout around the largest measurement to be safe. My mindset…..I saw a guy unable to drive his golf cart thru one day to haul something and now I’m thinking as a mom, if I had my garden I’d love to be able to bring baby out with me, let them sleep in their stroller/wagon all comfy, or go on little walks to help harvest, etc. lots of ways for baby to garden and not have to be worn by mom or set in a playpen. It would just suck to build your dream garden and then have 2 inches make it so baby can’t wheel down the rows with mama.

[@lucymiddleton8266]

Good point.

[@pax9864]

Absolutely.

[@janetroyal6009]

In case no-one told you lately, you are an amazing person full of kindness, strength, and honesty. That is why I love following you and learning from you. You are a beacon of hope for many of us on your channel who think we can't do some things. I'm 58 and learn something from you every time I watch your videos. Your baby will be blessed to have you as a mother. Take care of you and everything will fall into place as it is meant to. Pregnancy and motherhood is different for every woman, you do what is right for you and yours. One of your biggest fans in NJ. You got this.

[@Tia-vj9ox]

Dearest Becky, your honesty, sensitivity and openness about the realities of pregnancy and parenting are admirable! My granddaughter just had a baby and had planned a “natural “ birth. I told her that all births are natural! She felt inclined to apologize when she ended up having not only an epidural but a C-section. I told her that she is no less a mom because she had to have medical intervention. Thank God we live in a time with options that make the process easier for mom and baby! Your levelheaded attitude will serve you and your child well! Please know that we are all cheering for you and Josh and Baby Jones! Love!

[@conniecrites5148]

Amen on all you said

[@veronicaluna7369]

I stifled my feelings of disappointment after my unplanned c section and put on a brave face, because I felt that people would judge me. How could I not be happy, I had just been given the gift of this healthy child. The c section went so smoothly, I had minimal physical pain and recovered beautifully. But that feeling I bottled up festered, it wasn't until I was able to speak about the disappointment openly and have a good cry that I was able to move beyond it. I hope you can continue to lend your granddaughter an ear and allow her to let it out.

[@rachelmcgee6189]

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[@martivani]

YES!!! What Tia said!!!

[@cindywieler5273]

Exactly what Tia said…..God Bless you and your family….you are a remarkable young lady Becky! What you decide to do will be the right thing.

[@rebeccajones9735]

Your pregnancy, your birth, your child...what you and Josh do is YOUR CHOICE!! No one out here has any business telling you how it should be done! I am so excited for you two.

[@lizheuserbevan6564]

How very true

[@hallie-dawn1022]

100% absolutely. I wish more people understood this.

[@debrak7085]

You are amazing and I felt everything you are feeling and saying do what is best for your family.

[@sandimanson375]

Becky, it always hurts my heart when the people I follow on KZbin feel they need to explain their reasons for their life choices. You and Josh do what’s best for YOU!! Your concerns are the same concerns for all new moms, you are just showing the courage to say it out loud🙂 Enjoy the journey friend!!

[@tamramuse5136]

Ditto! You need to do what is the most comfortable for you and Josh

[@loriheller2500]

Perfectly said!

[@JanuaryLisa]

Agreed! She doesn't need to explain a single da** thing to us--and I often wish she wouldn't, because it just brings out troll-like behavior and I'm sure it increases her anxiety. 💔 She seems like the type of person who just wants everyone to be happy...but that isn't possible. I, for one, have never thought Josh "wasn't helping"...and it breaks my heart to hear her address this due to one person's thoughtless comment! We love them both and they must do what is right for them and not worry about all of us! 💚

[@darlenearchibald9478]

If you do cloth diapers you might want a top loader. For soaking and draining pre-washing. Get Josh to research dry and wet solutions. For storing the dirty diapers before the wash. Some people soak in vinegar and water and others just store it in a lidded bucket or zippered bag. Don’t do what I did and try to do cloth and disposables and forget about cloth ones. My cloth ones got mouldy 😢. But your idea of the hybrid sounds great. I’ve been a breastfeeding educator and support person for 33 years. Josh can do everything else and you will both find your groove. You are so sensible. New mothers will benefit from listening to how you think of things and how accepting you are and allowing yourself and others to do whatever is right for yourself & them. I so enjoy watching your channels

[@Wotsthatskip]

“Indoor Pram/Bassinet” with 2 dogs the best way to move the baby around safely is in your second stroller used only in the house. One for the car, one for the house! Its higher, can be tilted for baby, has mosquito covers etc and the dogs can’t get to it as easily! Then baby goes to sleep at night in a bassinet!

[@bubbelshome8803]

I am a maternity nurse in the Netherlands. I would like to say how wonderful I think it is how you prepare for childbirth and motherhood. I've seen so many mothers who already had their plans in place, but things turned out differently and that often ends with an unhappy/depressed mom. So I think you are doing great not planning to much!! Get to know your baby and be a happy mommy, that's all that matters. A happy mom is a happy baby :)

[@Zibutegerard]

A mother doesn't have to hold on to their birth plan with a vice grip! However, without planning and research the mom (baby and dad) are at the mercy of the "medical professionals" who often seem to want to take over and dis-empower women and babies. When did pregnancy become a medical condition?

[@bubbelshome8803]

@@Zibutegerard You obviously don't know anything about Dutch birth care ;) But I'm not here to get into that discussion. You clearly have a certain opinion about birth care in your country. I sincerely hope it's not because you've had a bad experience yourself. Becky solved this well by hiring a doula to ensure her wishes

[@Zibutegerard]

@@bubbelshome8803 Thanks. I'd love to know about Dutch birth care. I'll check it out. I had very good natural birth experiences which were very empowering for my babes and myself (one with a doula) and why I feel called to help inform if I can...

[@bubbelshome8803]

@@ZibutegerardI have the most beautiful and rewarding job in the world. This also only exists in the Netherlands. When the birth starts, I go with the midwife to the family or the hospital (this is the choice of the baby's parents). After the birth I keep coming back to the family every day for 8 to 10 days. In those days, I teach new parents everything they need to know about their newborn. I check whether mother and baby are in good health, I help with feeding, I provide healthy meals, hygiene, baby massage, explain the baby language, take care of the other children in the family and even pets, I also take care of visitors. I get to spoil the family and make sure they get off to a good start :)

[@Zibutegerard]

@@bubbelshome8803 Wow that does sound like the best job in the world! We chose similar birth experiences and they were quite wonderful! Mom's in the US are unaware of how good the birthing can be and are left to wing it and rely on "the system" as is the case with many other issues here. Thank your sharing, I had no idea this civilized support was available there. Keep up the great work. This is inspiring and encouraging to me.

[@emilypogoda1484]

This is a breath of fresh air. I'm so tired of seeing the influencers doing all the crazy things like gender reveals and lavish photoshoots. Just enjoy your baby! Body dysmorphia is really a common thing so don't feel bad. Also I was the same as you with wanting the hospital birth but also a home birth. I ended up accidentally having my baby on my bedroom floor after 40 min of active labour 😬 so really nothing ever goes to plan and I'm so glad your open to whatever happening!!! That's my biggest tip to most people!

[@christinah5126]

YES to everything!

[@jostrom1362]

Excited for you both! Best advice I ever received was, "Listen to all advice, graciously...nod, say thank you and then sift through all and extrapolate only the stuff that feels right for you!" Enjoy the journey!

[@karenoutar2893]

Becky, congratulations on your new addition. As someone who has PCOS and went through 6 years of fertility treatments, IVF with no success to end with an Endometriosis diagnosis , thank you for your approach to this video. Despite my own challenges, I am happy for you and every woman who is pregnant. I don’t think we give women enough credit for what our bodies do and endure. Your videos are so calming. You are an inspiration with your freezer meals, gardening, food prep and cooking. While I don’t see myself setting up a homestead like you, you’ve taught me about food preparation and processing. Thank you for your content and thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. You and Josh will be amazing parents.

[@nmfn2011Pine]

do not give up sweetie. many women with PCOS do have children and many have diets that help with the PCOS. do some research.

[@dogmadre6597]

I also was PSOC……and it sucks…..I am an elementary school teacher so I just say I have many children…..

[@sarahapel9]

Choosing to let your family grow without expectations for pregnancy or a birth plan is so impressive. We can plan our lives away and it almost never happens the way we expect. I wish I had that wisdom when I had my son. Such a smart woman!

[@kimt3880]

Becky, I’m a 63 yr old grandmother and I just want to tell you how much I enjoy your videos. I learn so much from you and you’ve inspired me to start canning this year and I love it! You have the best attitude towards birth and parenting. Do what’s best for yourself and your family.

[@oldprepper2338]

I'm just a little older than you, but I so agree. Becky is such an inspiration to all who get to share in her life even if its only through her wonderful videos. She rocks as a person so I'm sure she will rock as a mom.

[@Thebrokenturtle]

This is a very refreshing video. I'm 37 and have been married for 10 years, no children. I love kids but never had the burning desire to be a parent. The comments I get as I'm getting older about having kids is something that has really messed with me mentally and emotionally. It's taken me a while to realize it's OK to not have children, ok to have them and ok to not know the answer to that question. I love that you are so honest about your experiences with your pregnancy 💕

[@Roadtaken-fi1cd]

Good for you on finding your peace with not having kids. I’m almost 55 and never wanted kids, so didn’t have them. Every woman gets to make that choice. It doesn’t mean we are less than.

[@hmmmblyat]

@@juliethrone7007 i have 4 kids, and i had to justify that. What you do is only your Business. And we shouldn‘t have to live like others picture it for themselves . They dont have the right to judge.

[@TheAmericaninOz]

I am in the same boat as you and I love how she is handling this whole pregnancy. Hands down the most relatable KZbinr I have seen.

[@wickedwinnie]

I don't have children by choice. It always irritated me when I was younger people would say "oh you'll regret not having them when you're older" ... well I'm 56 now and I don't regret it for a minute. I'm just NOT into kids. I never wanted my life to revolve around kids and I'm happy I didn't cave to pressure. I have plenty of nieces and nephews and I get to be around them for the fun stuff... then I go home :) You do what's right for YOU and don't worry about what the buttinskis are saying ;)

[@carolynandjerry5184]

@@wickedwinnie My husband and I don't have any children either! I lost my mom at 8 years old and that has really been an issue for me, I really felt ill prepared to be a mom for that reason! I missed that mother daughter relationship so much and I felt I wouldn't be a good mom because of that. But, I think becoming a parent is a very personal choice and people should mind their own business! I love children and I worked at our small local elementary school as a Paraprofessional and Loved it. So when someone would ask if I had children, my answer was yes, 300 of them!!

[@loiscassels8966]

If I didn’t know you were pregnant, Becky, I’d barely notice. I’m amazed at how strong you are and how much you accomplish. Carry on! ❤️🇨🇦

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

Right?! She doesn't even look pregnant at all lol.

[@mattandbarbhartt2860]

This was such a blessing to me! You are so wise! I’m a 52 year old empty nester. As I listened to you I thought of this quote “prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child”. Love you Becky! You’re going to be a great mama!

[@LorettaLJ]

I recently did some research for my DIL about diapers. What I found is there is virtually no difference between cloth vs disposable in terms of Climate Change/what’s best for the Earth, etc. The amount of water used to clean cloth diapers makes cloth more energy intensive than one would think. So, do what makes sense for you. 😊

[@kimcritchfield5796]

I love your gentle ways of saying what you mean. “I really appreciate your thoughts, but I don’t need any more STUFF! I’m a minimalist!” I also can’t wait for that honest 5 minute Vlog that says “I’m a new mom and exhausted. Freezer meals are for now! Baked oat meal for a week of breakfast, and I’m throwing these stuffed peppers in the oven, and going back to bed. Have a great day folks!” 😂

[@barbaratate423]

I agree 100%

[@maddison9510]

Me too ahha ❤

[@TheEmbrio]

Or even, we’re eating cereals and ordeing in, i won’t be in front of the camera ’cause i don’t feel like it ! Cheers ! ;)

[@tabby1848]

I can't even imagine being pregnant and on KZbin. You have handled it with grace and steady wit. Reading the comments gives me pride in being part of this community. No judgment and endless support. All the best to you, Josh and baby.

[@debbiesalyer6038]

Becky, thank you for this pregnancy update. I love that you shared this video with us. I could tell this video was very difficult for you, but I appreciate you being honest and real! Do you know why most of us love your channel? Because of YOU and your personality and contagious smile! I have learned so much from you and I'm ready to learn more. I'm old enough to be your mother... but the only advice I would give you .... If you become overwhelmed, need a nap or just want a relaxing shower do not feel embarrassed or down on yourself to ask for that help... I'm sure grandparents, siblings and friends would love to help if needed. You and Josh are going to be amazing caring parents!

[@judithbutler9695]

True confessions…..I did not enjoy nursing either. Back in the day there were no pumps. I loved that my husband could feed the baby. You are the kindest most genuine person ever!

[@tinak3700]

Sweet girl...as a mom to two now adult boys and two very different pregnancies, you made me tear up. You will get alot of advice from everywhere (from family to strangers) and they do mean well, but just do what works for you and your little family. There is no one size fits all and don't let anyone make you feel less than, for doing what works best for you and baby. You are doing great and you look beautiful and radiant! Listen to your body, it knows what to do and when you need rest. Lean on your support system, they will lift you up when you need it. Sending you hugs momma!

[@barbaratate423]

well said!

[@SaraBerry907]

As a mama of two (2.5 year old and a 3 week old), this is the best advice anyone could ever give! Thank you for sharing this Tina, this reminded me that it’s okay to not be perfect or live up to everyone else’s expectations towards being a parent. ♥️

[@meganfarr7834]

Hi Becky, I have been a long-time viewer but have never come to comment on your videos! My daughter is 13 and we love watching your videos together. Your video today was so real, and I had to come say Thank you! You are correct, pregnancy is scary, parenting is HARD and guess what... it's not always fun and games!! I remember when I didn't fall in love at first sight with my babies, I thought something was wrong with me. Nope! It took a few days! I love my two kids, being a parent is life changing! I'm so proud of you! I actually live in Washington State about an hour north of Seattle. I had to go to Portland this last weekend and I thought about you the whole way!! You are making a positive impact on this world, and you should be proud Sister!

[@dlsdyer9071]

All mine are grown. It goes fast! Put them down for a nap and they wake up looking different, lol. Thank you for the honest and not “romanticized” instantaneous bond guru. My mom once made a comment, “motherhood is one big guilt trip.” Personal perfectionism and the expectations of others can rob a mom of her joy if she lets it. Thank you.

[@nightmar3.]

The baby is incubating in your belly made from scratch 😍 You are so adorable Becky! Thank you for sharing what you want too.

[@christinainmichigan6726]

Plus that baby is homegrown. Both things Becky loves to do. 🤗

[@tagurit913]

As someone who also struggles with body image and didn’t want pictures taken of me pregnant, I think that having at least one picture of you with your bump and one with you and josh and the bump will be treasured. Not only by you later but by your child. They love looking at pictures of their young parents and making fun of your funny clothes. 😂 But more importantly, they really love seeing how happy you are to be looking forward to meeting them.

[@augustethompson3964]

Agreed. I have no pictures from my first pregnancy and it makes me sad.

[@ashleysinniah6789]

It also might help you feel better about your body after as it slowly recovers.

[@dianatennant4346]

I only really had one maternity picture taken and that was at the doctor's office it was something they did on what the doctor thought was going to be your last visit I'm sure some people didn't end up getting it done but he had a cute cut out that you stood beside of a stork and they just had you turn sideways or 3/4 ways anyway and snap the picture on an instant camera at that time and I just took it home and included it in my son's baby book. I wasn't really into having all the maternity pictures taken although it wasn't that much of a thing at the time but I have enjoyed seeing how big I really got and what my baby bump look like compared to some other people's I see and also how different people really carry their children depending on their body shape size height all of that. I kind of hope you consider something like that I just put it in the baby book along with the ultrasounds my picture and his pictures that they took at the hospital just kind of a progression of the pregnancy.

[@KarlainChrist]

Exactly as someone who was betrayed and done HORRIBLY during my pregnancy and therefore was so depressed I didn’t take pictures I really regret. I have one picture of my bump PRAISE GOD 🙌🏼. TAKE THE PICTURES trust us… plus you will look back and praise God HE got you through that. Overcomer 🙌🏼👑

[@juliev1043]

100% agree. I've been through 3 pregnancies and only have one picture, it was taken towards the end of my first. I'm sad I don't have more.

[@kellys405]

Girl coming from a non hugger, I am wrapping you up mentally and giving you a big ol’ hug. I lost my mom suddenly at 21 and it has messed with me and I chose to not have kids and I have gotten SO much kick back from family and so called friends. Everyone had a plan for my ovaries -Anyways I applaud you and you got this! and this community here is rooting for you and we love ya little momma

[@karenmcelroy2958]

I applaud you for sticking to what you think is best for you. This society is so messed up trying to make everyone to fit into a mold. That is why so many have mental health issues is by trying to do what society thinks is best and not what is best for them.

[@kellys405]

@@karenmcelroy2958 thank you I was told many times I am selfish but I knew what I wanted was not that. I have my fur babies and I am at peace with that.

[@harblinshaven6303]

You stay strong in your wants and needs, your decision is for you. No o e has the right to tell you to have or not to have children. My heart goes out to all women who struggle with having children and those who choose not to. It is there choice.

[@tanyahunt9476]

Wanted to send you a virtual hug too 🫂 I lost my mum very young and also struggled the same . I hope you’ve got good friends who care for you and support you too x ❤

[@Nilesedge]

I don’t want kids either and I’m 42 and have never changed my mind for a second. That whole ‘it’s selfish to not want kids’ argument makes no sense!!

[@lynsmith2698]

This was so refreshing. As a woman who never had children, I was shamed for not wanting Children and later finding out I couldn’t have kids anyways. People back when I was your age, expected you to have children and I was called selfish for not wanting one. I respect and understand all your honest answers. Especially the photo thing. I have struggled with weight all my life so understand. This is you and Josh’s baby and you need to do what you want and feel is right. I am so happy for you and love your channel. 🇨🇦💕🌷

[@susanhamilton1707]

I too was not able to have children and I felt that people pried when they ask why no children. It is a sensitive subject and women that over share makes me uncomfortable. When I reply to people that I found out at 26 that I was unable to have children then, back surgeries made it difficult to carry a baby...

[@vikkijohnson5117]

I didn’t want children until I was told that I couldn’t have them. People assume that because I’m in my 40’s and I don’t have kids that I don’t like them and that I’m a nasty person… My Nieces and Nephew are my life! I love them with all of my heart.

[@bmarie73]

Well said.

[@staceylousherman]

I too appreciated Becky's honesty; I never had children either and wow- peoples comments were "off the chain" over the years! Thankfully, I'm almost 61 now so people have quit asking me when we are going to start a family! 🤣🤣🤣 I work in a female dominated career, and I've seen a lot; there's always "that one chick" that wants to scare the beejeebers out of a newly pregnant young woman with horror stories of 97 hours of labor with no drugs, tearing, breast soreness for 12 years, etc etc etc, so even though I had no personal experience, I'd often pull the new soon to be mom aside and whisper, "Ignore her; women have had babies for thousands of years. You'll be fine and besides- I'm not busy with my own -so I'll show up and give you a hand any time you need it!" Becky is sooo down to earth- she's gonna do great!

[@saltycat662]

I like kids but I never wanted children either. I later learned I was also barren but thankfully the desire for children never hit me or I would have been devastated. I can't imagine the pain and yearning a woman goes through when she wants a baby and can't have one. My heart breaks for these women. I was also told I was "selfish" and that my husband would leave me if I didn't give him children. My husband told me before he married me that he was okay with no having kids. I didn't pay any attention to these people. God has a different purpose for all of us and He has a plan for me. Not having children isn't a sin or something to be ashamed of.

[@cselke]

Your insecurities, questions, fears...etc. are absolutely real and valid, most women just don't talk about them. I love that you and Josh have nothing 'set in stone' and are open to whatever nature puts in your path. Ultimately, you and Josh being healthy in all ways will be felt by baby. You have a phrase that you say often that I think fits so many situations, 'Give yourself grace'. One last thing, a small word of advice in a way...when baby comes and Josh takes that little bundle into his arms for the first time watch his face, its going to be a memory that will live with you the rest of your life, its just that special.

[@nancybest21]

I so completely agree!!! Family needs to be there taking pictures of you both because it will matter later.💙💙💙Sending you much love and prayers you are a beautiful soul

[@jinglejacs]

I did that, I was in awe watching my husband, who had very little interaction with any kids, hold this precious tiny being that we made. It is honestly one of my most treasured memories, no photo's of it unfortunately but the memory is seared into my brain over thirty years later x

[@pjk1714]

That's when the name fits.

[@beckybrann1427]

You have such a way with words. I'm plagued with bluntness. Just found your site! WTched Thanksgiving prep with you and your mom. Publishing the whole countdown would be helpful to anyone trying to get the meal on! Give yourself grace on pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting. We all do the best we can! Can't think of anyone that has stayed up at night plotting how the could sabotage any of that! May the Lord be with you and his peace.

[@hollyu48]

Oh Becky I am so grateful that you shared the harder physical and mental parts of becoming a parent. I felt like I was the only one that did not deeply enjoy being pregnant. I also worried that I wouldn’t be a great parent as I really never gravitate towards kids, but I always gravitated to my own when they came. You are a normal person .

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

I'm a Holly too and I second this =)

[@tahbooge]

I was pregnant at the same time as a friend. Our children were born two weeks apart. I was miserable the whole time and it took everything for me to be happy for her joy when all I wanted to do was cry. I cried my whole pregnancy. Getting weighed at my appointments would stress me it was a very stressful experience. I had so much guilt about. Then my postpartum depression did not help. It took years for me to get over my experience. Now I see others sharing their experience and wish it was something people shared back then.

[@rhondaalbrecht]

Honestly, that is a fear that EVERY pregnant mom has, when they're pregnant with each child. Because until you get to that moment in your pregnancy, you can't answer it, and NO one can tell you otherwise. Even taking labor prep classes, they can tell you the stages of labor and delivery, but everything is all dependent on what happens and all of that is unforeseeable until you're there in the hospital or wherever. The classes help ease your fear, because you learn the different things to expect, but some may apply and some may not, to your own pregnancy, so it's still an 'unknown' until you get to that moment. That's why I think it's great that Becky is going to have a doula who can act as her knowledgeable advocate on her behalf at that time when she needs one most, to intervene and help her and Josh through it. That's a good decision to help ease her fears.

[@tonivizgirda296]

I’m wondering if this is what my daughter was going through while pregnant but didn’t know it was okay to express it. I’m so grateful that Becky was so honest here. I know she just spoke for sooooo many women.

[@emilyalexander4439]

I despised being pregnant. I was so sick the first time I couldn't move without being sick. That pregnancy ruined my gallbladder. My second was rough because I had high blood pressure and gestational diabetes, the high BP continued a month after baby came and I got sciatica from the spinal block. So no more babies for me but I'm so happy that I have my two perfect (to me) babies.

[@futurefolk9919]

I'm not crying, your crying 😪! Thank you Becky for sharing such heartfelt thoughts with all of us "friends". You're going to be a great Mom. You have a wonderful example to go by with your own Mom. ♥️

[@susanmurten6178]

I'm pretty sure we're all crying 😭

[@denisederosa945]

The mention of Becky’s mom draws a few extra tears. Not all of us we raised by loving mother’s. I love how she enjoys stepping into the videos with something relevant to say. Her energy and unconditional love and support of her family are golden traits. I’m thankful for all the blessings shared Becky and her family.

[@rondamcbride6607]

Becky I’m 65 and I think you are working through this very smartly. I’m beyond excited for you and Josh. If we’re honest we all feel all those things you describe. I’m only five foot so I looked like a big pumpkin, not fun😁. You will love this little one more than you can comprehend and God will be with you and your precious blessings from the Lord. 🥰

[@tiffanysannicolas448]

Becoming a mom is a big deal. Watching your body change beyond your control is a big deal. There is so much going on. Huge changes to you, to your future. There are parts of you and your life that you grieve. It's hard. Becoming a mom is a beautiful transformation process (physically, emotionally, spiritually). Just because it's good, doesn't mean that it's not hard. You are the best mom for that baby, no matter what. You're doing great.

[@Cole_Cross]

[@shadegarden7375]

Well said!

[@jerrielizarraraz9883]

Oh momma. Your “non plans” are great plans. Go with the flow. That’s the way it happens whether people like it or not. You’ve got this. You’re doing amazing.

[@melaniel8848]

You know the saying, when man plans, God laughs, so you're doing it all correctly-the Becky Way.

[@YasuTaniina]

We didn't use the baby nursery the first 9 months because I quickly realized how much less stressed my babies were being in our room, so I wouldn't stress the nursery for a while

[@kristadpickett]

There is so much in our culture that can make you feel alone if you don’t love pregnancy. Just had my third baby and feel SO much better not being pregnant anymore 😂 we waited 7 yrs into our marriage to start our family and loved having that time together first like you did. Also just want to encourage you to at least have Josh take a couple of bump pics in clothes that make you feel good so you have the memory - you can look back if you want to and don’t have to look if you don’t want to! ❤

[@kristadpickett]

P. S. We are enjoying our freezer meals I made while pregnant because of your inspiring meal prep videos!

[@kattgreene4294]

I didn’t find pregnancy pleasant. I had HG with both and bed rest. Even when I was able to get around pregnancy was not for me. I love my kids and wanted kids. I think people associate whether we like being pregnant with the love we have for our babies.

[@anitalee3289]

@@kattgreene4294 Well said. I love my kids, but didn't enjoy being pregnant AT ALL. I also didn't enjoy the "baby" stage. I enjoyed being a mother so much more, or at least enjoyed my children more, once they started having personalities, making sentences, doing things, and interacting with me, at about a year.

[@kattgreene4294]

@@anitalee3289 Thank you. I used to say the same thing she did when people asked. I would say, nope, I do not like pregnancy, and some people understand and some people didn’t. My kids are awesome though. 😊

[@marieneu264]

And PLEASE don’t stress on breastfeeding! My friends that suffered from the worst postpartum depression are my friends that couldn’t make breast feeding work, but they tried and tried until they were a hot mess and were pressuring themselves due to the standards and the molds that society has laid out for them. Once they finally let it go, and switched to formula, their stress and anxiety all went away. Fed is best, no matter the means. Do what works best for you and baby!!!

[@melanieortiz712]

Low carb diet would help with the post partum depression and breastfeeding problems.

[@jenniferdavidek677]

Oh my gosh this is so true. Breastfeeding issues were so hard for my mental stability after my first baby was born. I tried so hard and was shamed when I didn't produce. This go around if I can I will. If not, he will still be fed and that is still good.

[@betsysmucker3708]

It’s a vitamin B deficiency. Eat brews yeast to correct it. Simple fix for both.

[@nikkibayo]

Amen!

[@ercieberwick1513]

Words of wisdom!!!

[@theresawilliams7327]

Thank you for separating pregnancy and your usual content. I am infertile. I have miscarried 9 children. I grew up wanting only to marry and have 12 kids. I prepared for it by learning from my father how to provide and cook for a large family (I am the last of 9). I was so happy to find you on here doing bulk storage and stocking a pantry having no children! I was so encouraged! Then you mentioned in a video that you were doing this even when you were single! LOVE THIS! Thank you for all I have learned. Looking forward to learning more!

[@heidiquayle5054]

Sorry for all those losses, Theresa. I had similar experiences, and even failed adoptions. I now have 3 loves of my life from other mama's tummies and my husband and I have fostered more than 30 kids in our home along the way. I pivoted and just kept trying, knowing that I would be a mother, whether from my body or not.

[@monicas2461]

Sending love your way ❤️ My mom has 12 siblings and I always thought I would have many children. Unfortunately, it is probably not happening.

[@gilliandawson6567]

🤗❤

[@summerberkemeier2196]

I had five miscarriages and two healthy pregnancies but suffered from hyperemisis. So, I can relate to struggles with pregnancy. I'm sorry for your losses. The pain is so intense

[@tylerj6182]

❤

[@kelliknight126]

As a disabled person, one tip I can share is to sit before you need to! Sit down for any task you can from start to finish, even if means dragging a stool over to the stove as you stir things.

[@elizabethanne6361]

Yes! This is great advice!

[@kelliknight126]

Another thing I'll add is that your worth is not based on your body size. Pregnancy or not. For me, learning about my internalized fatphobia that is the basis of the negative feelings we have about our body changing (for whatever reason of course) was extremely life changing.

[@katrinaavila3859]

My fiancé and I are, and will remain, child-free by choice, so my words might only mean so much...but I truly admire and respect your attitude and stance on pregnancy, birth, and raising your baby. You have such a level-headed perspective on things and it is SO okay to not love every second of pregnancy. It changes bodies and wreaks havoc on mental states. The fact that you've remained so positive through it all (even when you don't feel very positive) is incredible. I'm so excited to see where the journey of parenthood takes you and Josh - you are both already amazing parents and you will only continue to get better!

[@Cole_Cross]

Kid-free married couples rock! few and far between

[@maryannroche5650]

Having a child is a lifechanging event, from day one, and it is truly such a miracle! You will be fine, I was terrified and worked so hard not to show it to please every one else, but in the end, it was me who was pregnant, it was me who was delivering a life into this world and me who was taking this little human home, with no experience at all. You are so right to do what feels right to you, I am so proud of you for not "going with the populace", I had to sit through two showers, and it was awful, I also hate being the center of attention. I had so too much of everything, and none of it was chosen by me . . . so, having said that, I am so proud of you for doing it your way. You take the time and enjoy the absolute awe of creating a life, and when you first see and hold that child, you will be so very awed and astounded that you actually did this beautiful thing, God bless you and Josh, you will both do fine!!!!

[@loriarmes7153]

Every first time Mama is worried about the same things. If they say they aren’t, they aren’t being truthful. Formula is okay. Disposable diapers are okay. All you and Josh have to do is love that baby and love each other. Everything else will fall into place. You guys are going to be great parents. ❤

[@VickiTheCraftAttic]

You are a powerhouse… I see you doing so much; filming videos and all that goes into that; editing etc. All the lugging, planting; harvesting, processing, AND moving and setting up a new house… you are amazing!

[@neffthegirlneophyte]

Hip pain during your first pregnancy is completely normal. You don’t have to feel like you’re the only one who’s experienced it. I also consider it the worst part of pregnancy because it’s so consistent and terrible. Your body is preparing to birth a human. You take on a lot of tasks and it’s incredible how much you manage to achieve. You are so strong and I can already tell that you’re going to be an amazing mom

[@Cowtownmama1951]

Smart Momma hiring a Doula!! Lots of prayers from North Texas for a safe healthy pregnancy, delivery and baby. It is SUCH an exciting time!!

[@ririroblox-c5l]

Omg I love how Josh said “ you have been taking care of the baby for the last 9 months and it’s his turn when baby comes “ ❤️❤️❤️

[@Iamagremlin123]

I wasn’t one for taking belly pictures either but I always took a picture of my pregnant belly before delivery, just for my kids to look back on. They do think it’s pretty neat to see a picture of me with a big belly and know that it was them in there!

[@erbie-wan521]

Me too! Five babies and I’m so glad my husband took that one photo right before delivery. Not sorry I didn’t take progressive photos though.

[@melissaisrael3905]

Such a humble person. That is what I really like about Becky. You can tell that she is really down to earth. Her videos are relaxing and nice to watch after a long day at work. I love to watch people cooking, it seems so cozy and wholesome. Your videos are just so all around normal and warm and cozy after so much caos in the world. They really help my anxiety.

[@JamerrillStewart]

Becky, this has been so fun to watch through. You’re giving mega loads of inspiration and encouragement to so many ladies. Being open to adapting through the experiences really gives you and Josh a lot of freedom. Love it all ❤❤❤

[@AcreHomestead]

Aw Thank you!

[@cararyan6646]

How josh has been supporting you brings a tear to my eye. Well done josh 👍 and well done Becky for getting through this :)

[@McdanielJenHome]

Absolutely 100%, having a partnership like that must be so reassuring and very lucky baby x

[@RobertaStonequist]

tears, just all the love and acceptance you emulate is so so beautiful. i’m a second-time mom this pregnancy, you hit the nail spot on. you often say you are not eloquent, but take heart, the Lord has given you every word and it speaks volumes! thank you for sharing so kindly. i pray you get a peaceful labor and delivery, feel empowered and accomplished the moment you hold your new little joy. all the love 🥲♥️

[@nancybridges4447]

I just found your channel recently and have already watched many videos. I like your channel because I turn 70 this month and grew up with a father who loved gardening and a mom who loved cooking and canning. My husband and I have been married 52 years. I miss our family gathering because both our parents are with the Lord now. So I love seeing you do the things I so loved in my life. I bless you with safety for you and baby and I bless you and your little new baby with the ability to sleep soundly at night. You are already a beautiful and wise mother. I will be keeping you and your family in our prayers.

[@pattynelson305]

You have the most kind heart and so great at putting words together. The care that you take of your viewers shows. Also, I commend you on not setting up a registry and “expecting” others to buy. It’s great if they do send you presents but the fact you don’t expect it and state that you and Josh can and will provide, shows what a great person you are. And what great parents you’ll both be. I’m excited to see how things change and a new life around.

[@spookyfish24]

You have such a wonderful, realistic take on your pregnancy and how you're sharing it. I love how you've done this, and I hope that the rest of your pregnancy is comfortable and goes quickly for you. I also MASSIVELY respect you for setting up a boundary on what your channel is. This is your voice. Thank you for sharing it truthfully!

[@robynbryant6945]

Thank you for being so open and beautifully honest! My 1st pregnancy was a nightmare 😩 Found out later that I was having gallbladder attacks while pregnant. My 2nd pregnancy was amazing! We need to normalize having bad pregnancies. Yes, pregnancy is a beautiful gift, but the toll it takes on our bodies is a real thing. I'm so happy for you and you're going to be amazing parents ❤️

[@luluzorkol]

We don’t need to normalise bad pregnancies, we need to normalise pregnancy symptoms. Our bodies do amazing in growing babies, and we should expect it not to be all flowers and butterflies, getting one’s body in shape with exercise is painful, demoralising but in the most part we keep going on our health journey. Luckily as you say second pregnancy is often easier, that’s because women usually have developed strength keeping the first baby well, there is no bigger task in life than bringing up that first baby❤

[@kayyy2788]

sweet becky.. at the start of the video when you mentioned how this pregnancy has been rough and hard on you, i thought to myself "normal, its your first". then you mentioned the progression and how youve felt as your body has been changing and i thought "normal, its a lot to take in" and shortly after you mentioned how you didnt want a baby shower and werent feeling up to being the center of attention and i thought "oh becky! have a baby shower girl, you deserve it!" then you ended all your questions and got so emotional about how the toll of this pregnancy has taken on your spirit and confidence and i about cried with you. i felt SO insensitive to have those thoughts about your choices or feelings when YOU are the one dealing with something very emotionally taxing and heavy and for that im sorry becky! i pray that you see how much strength you have inside you, it truly radiates! i have never watched a single video and thought otherwise you make it look so effortless EVEN if its not. you power thru hardwork, youre honest when things dont work out but you keep at it and you do it SO lovingly and with so much gratitude and humility. i know you dont see or feel it now but your nurturing nature is whats going to carry you thru motherhood, i know it. even though your fears and sentiments on your pregnancy are 100% justified, we all know, that you will be an INCREDIBLE mother and its already begun. of course labor and delivery are always going to be parts unknown but with gods loving favor, you will pull thru & have a beautiful new gift to show for it! thank you for sharing this side of you with us when you didnt have to. hoping for a smooth transition into a new season of your life and all the love and support to you and Josh! 💕

[@edieandmemiller4649]

I'm a grandma with lots of experience. However, I was very much like you when I had my kids. Thank you for sharing, being vulnerable, and saying it's ok no matter how you feel. "Childbirth is a means to an end." "There's no glory in pain." Mottos that got me through the unknowns of giving birth.

[@denisespotts6867]

Becky, my sister made all of her own 'baby food' as well. She did exactly what you are talking about. She just took whatever they were having and ground it up finely in her food processor and stored 'cubes' of it after freezing it in ice cube trays. When she would travel with the kids, she had to resort to store bought baby food for convenience, but her kids did not like the store bought. There wasn't enough bulk in it and they were constantly hungry. They were always happier with the homemade stuff and at 15 and 17, now have a well developed palate.

[@Lilo.-.]

What a cool mamma

[@Sara-xk1ns]

I loved making my adult food into kid dinner as my son got older. My favorite thing when my son was little (14 years ago) was finding tiny little alphabet pasta lol I had only ever seen it in premade soup before so finding it plain made me so happy. It was just so cute and I could add whatever to it. Make it Mac and cheese, soup, or just tomato sauce. Those little noodles just made my heart happy. I’m sure there’s many more pasta options nowadays and this seems dumb but I’ll always think fondly of those noodles lol

[@spontaneousun]

@@Sara-xk1ns I love hearing these happy memories and simple joys. Thanks for sharing :)

[@rochelleappiah6334]

Becky, You strike me as a very, very compassionate, kind and humble person. You will pass on to your child such a warm and loving spirit.

[@cafarm4827]

When I finally had a viable pregnancy (with twins) I was soooooo sick! I remember feeling so ungrateful because we had tried to get pregnant for so long and now I was miserable. I clearly remember an older woman at church that I didn’t even really know told me ‘just because you aren’t loving being pregnant doesn’t mean you are ungrateful or will be a bad mom’. It was some of the best advice I ever heard during my pregnancy. Gratefulness is shining all over your face so don’t ever feel like you can’t have bad days. You will be such a wonderful mama!!!

[@rebacrow5604]

Becky, I say this in love. I do not mean this in any way to be unkind. I think that you are excited for your precious baby, I think that you are more excited for Josh. Believe me when I tell you that when you see this creation that you and Josh love for each other created words fail me when I say that you won’t have the words to explain the love you have for this baby. I promise you it’s gonna be that way for you. I pray that you have a great Devilettes. Millions of women have done it. You can too. I love you

[@magsstewart5488]

I would suggest that you rewatch this a year from now. Mom used to write family update / coming plans Christmas letters every year. It was so funny to go back and read them the following year. :)

[@elizabethanne6361]

I love that idea!

[@pamc.2553]

I just watched the pregnancy Q & A episode and just wanted to say how much I appreciate your vulnerability. I am a mom in my fifties and I only started watching KZbin this past year. I stumbled upon your Chanel and thoroughly enjoy it mostly due to your personality. I love the fact that you leave the “mistakes” in your episodes which are actually real life events. I appreciate the fact that you are a real person when sometimes KZbin hosts can seem a bit too perfect. I pray that the remainder of your pregnancy goes well and once again I appreciate all that you shared. Women definitely need to hear that others have the same thoughts, fears and concerns that you do and that these are all normal and ok. Best wishes.

[@SaniusTejedora]

Lovley Becky: It's ok if you don't talk much about you and/or your baby throughout this pregnancy. We just want to know because we love the 3 of you (Josh included). Never feel forced to talk about this, it's yours to enjoy. Sending all mi support and ❤️

[@RunninUpThatHillh]

Absolutely!!! And in addition, maybe the child won't want to be public when they're older. My kids are teens, they've always not wanted me posting private moments or really any pictures at all. I think it's fair. I'm interested in Becky's journey but I know it's none of my business and she's not obligated to share a single thing. I'm ok with that.

[@lexicrunglebiscuits]

So great to hear a youtuber respecting their child’s privacy and autonomy and not putting them online. Kudos to you for that and I really enjoy your videos!

[@randomnielle]

Thanks for the pregnancy update! I love how realistic and true to yourself you are. I am 35 weeks pregnant with my 7th. It’s hard to deal with the comments and looks when we’re out in public but we love our family. My sister decided in elementary school she did not want children and she still does not want them almost 20 years later, but she loves being an aunt! People are different, parents are different, and children are all different. It’s refreshing to have this community who understands that 😊

[@wendyr435]

Congratulations! Every baby in a family is a celebration!

[@randomnielle]

@@wendyr435 thank you so much! ☺️

[@My-LifeMyWay]

I just wanted to say that I am so grateful to have found your channel! You are one of the most genuine, sweetest, and caring people. if more people were like you the world would be a much better place! Baby is going to have the best momma and daddy!

[@meganmackenzie5993]

You are amazingly centered, open, and kind, Becky. I'm so amazed at your ability to articulate your thoughts, joys, fears, and the room you leave for yourself to be lovingly vulnerable while also setting healthy boundaries. This video made me admire you all the more. As a mom of 3, my view is that you and your husband seem to have your heads on straight about this whole parenting thing. 😊

[@NotSoJadedJade]

Thank you for being so vulnerable. You are such a good soul, and you are going to be such a great Mom! That kid is going to have such an amazing childhood!

[@nicholefranklin513]

Awe just love you! My sister hated being pregnant as well and had a hard time with sickness. You're not alone and I'm so so thankful you are open to what's best and not putting a bunch of expectations on yourself for the birth or parenting because it really is a very individual thing and only YOU know what's best for you and your family! You are doing great and I appreciate all your raw honesty. Josh is totally going to be a great dad. It's so awesome you guys had 8 years together before starting a family. Too often people jump into that (myself included) and have a hard time. You two work so well together and will be amazing parents

[@jcav7]

Just a thought about breastfeeding- sometimes, we (society/moms) confuse determination with pressure. I didn’t pressure myself into breastfeeding, and I always answered much like you when asked how we would feed baby. However, I was *determined* to breastfeed my baby, and I worked through a hard few weeks to be successful. Five kids later, I am so glad I was so determined the first time around, as breastfeeding my children has been a great joy. That’s just my experience, and I hope it inspires someone else to be determined in their own journey.

[@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683]

amen yes true

[@samanthaw1419]

Yes I agree, .my first had my toes curling in pain for a week, with bleeding cracked nipples. I didn't get the lovely natural birth I wanted, but I was determined to breastfeed. I fed each child for a year and its my fondest memory of having babies. It's an amazing bonding time.

[@jcav7]

@@samanthaw1419 yep- toe curling, intense pain that lasted about ten seconds EVERY latch, for about two weeks. It was that way with the first three. Four and five were much better.

[@samanthaw1419]

@@jcav7 Two children was enough for me, but the second was much less painful. I cried when I stopped feeding them, such a lovely time for a mum.

[@nkwarren3362]

My sister was so determined to breast feed her children and despite her best efforts and working with a lactation nurse she was not able to produce enough milk to sufficiently feed either of her children. The pressure she felt and the shame she received from other women and the health care system was terrible and truly broke her heart when it was something she couldn’t control. Fed is best, whatever that looks like!

[@kekeur]

damn Becky, you made me tear up at the end! my sister is having her first baby in a couple of weeks and it will be the first grandchild for our parents, so this video made me understand a bit more what pregnancy can be like for some women, thanks so much for being brave enough to show your vulnerability and being honest about your feelings and experience as a pregnant woman. I love your philosophy on parenthood and your child is lucky to have you and Josh (who I can already tell will be a wonderful father) as parents. Please don't feel pressured at all to post videos every other day postpartum. Take all the time you and baby and Josh need to feel comfortable enough to go back to your regular schedule, we love you for who you are and we will wait as long as it takes for you to be able to be your wonderful self and film all your amazing videos!

[@pjk1714]

Even being excited and micromanagement in place, when know ones looking the tears can flow.

[@virginiaodonnell7144]

I cried with you a little at the end....I am done having children after having 7 in 12 years (with a set of twin in there) and yet you still encouraged me! You seem to have the same mindset as we had raising our children. Pregnancy and birth can be a little scary...they are all different no matter how many times you have done it. Same with each child....out of my seven kids they are all as different as they are similar. I truly believe you are doing fantastic coping with the unknown and you both will fantastic parents. I try not to give advice other than enjoy every moment, every first, coos and smiles, little curl, tiny toes....soak it in because it goes so quickly....even on the nights when you just feel so overwhelmed and exhausted you will make it through because those hard times are just temporary moments. So, so happy for you both!

[@marshanunley5197]

I found your channel by accident and have enjoyed it so much. I told my husband that I admire you so much. At your young age you know so much and handle everything so great. I am 75 and don’t have have the knowledge you have. I learn something every time I watch. We live in Kentucky. I can’t believe you are 33 weeks. Never a complaint from you with all you do. You are amazing and I will continue to watch.

[@taraemerson2835]

I just love Becky's channel. I'm way past my birthing years also but hearing her raw feelings brought tears to my eyes. I feel like she's family and I care so much about her and baby. Thank You for being you and sharing your thoughts and feelings. Love you Becky ❤❤❤

[@bellaboopixi]

Hello fellow Kentuckian! You totally hit the nail on the head, Becky is awesome

[@saraspara9365]

It has been a nice experience seeing you go through your pregnancy while keeping the privacy of yourself and your baby in mind. ❤

[@lelesis04]

I am delighted that you have hired a doula! 10000 % worth every Penny! So proud of you! You’ll be an awesome mom!

[@mamab8175]

I wish I’d have had that option 35 years ago….doctor’s??? Next thing you know a resident is delivering your baby. Uncomfortable to say the least.

[@pearljamin]

A close friend of mine chose a card of “encouragement during my illness” instead of a baby related card to gift me. I was tremendously sick through my pregnancy which made it very difficult to enjoy. I was still amazed and grateful but it was not what I expected based on what I had learned pre pregnancy. I felt very alone. I’m grateful when for every story shared as pregnancies are very different

[@audreywy1743]

You're growing a human being, it's not fun with all the things you're body goes through but, looking back it's a beautiful journey. Give yourself plenty of grace and rest, lots of rest! As for the weight, I started out a size 10 and ended up a 16/18 post pregnancy. I didn't want pictures either, so whatever you feel comfortable with and you won't have any regrets.

[@kewpiefan72]

It broke my heart to hear your emotions that made you tear up. Never doubt yourself, you will be the kind of person who always does what she thinks is best. And who can do better than that! My daughter is in her 40’s now and I can tell you, when I look back, I’m satisfied I couldn’t have tried any harder or made better decisions. I think she turned out pretty darn awesome! And even though I was fairly poor, she thinks she had a great childhood. You baby is so lucky to have you and Josh as their parents!

[@cathey514]

Becky, I was thrilled with this video. I love that you are so strong. The words, " I may not breastfeed " ...people can be so ugly. You and Josh are going to be awesome parents because you are beautiful inside and out. I am praying for you and your sweet little family. Congratulations, mama....whatever you do with baby will be right. 💕 P.S. I adore that sweater!

[@kathrynreynolds4167]

You are so beautiful inside and out with your love, kindness and uplifting words. Just stay focused on the Lord he will comfort you and guide each day in the fruit of his spirit Gal chapter 5🙏 We love you and are so excited for you both, all that God is doing in and through you it's so sweet brought tears to my eyes ❣️

[@annabarona6531]

Becky, you are amazing. I am pregnant also and due this week. It is SO tough, and unless you've been pregnant, it can be hard to understand how much your body goes through to create a human! A few things I wanted to say: I am so happy Josh has been such a great support to you; my husband is also an amazingly, helpful man, and it's wonderful to see how much you can depend on the person you chose. I am grateful we spent four years together before having kids. Also, it is totally okay to dislike pregnancy and still see it as a miracle. I have had a rough time the whole time, and my sister gave me good advice saying that every experience is different, and it's okay if you don't follow the trend and want pregnancy photos, weekly bump pics, and all that stuff. What's important is you getting your rest, letting your kicking baby bring you a bit of joy, and finding some things to help you feel happy despite the challenge. I've been crafting away (maybe too much 😅), but it's helped distract me and teach me patience for little guy to arrive. Congrats!

[@cbass2755]

My God…I’m listening to mentally stable women. I agree with everything you said. It’s your pregnancy, your feelings and I support all your choices. Your channel is about cooking, homesteading….not about your child. We’ll see your child soon and celebrate with you! I’ve commented this before. It’s refreshing to see a pregnant women who’s not an invalid! My goodness, my friends (mothers) become slaves to their daughters and their not sick, nauseous. These women get up, shower, dress and sit like princesses on the couch! Good Lord…Becky, your refreshing

[@lillie9117]

I didn't get through even a quarter of your video and decided to thank you for being you! I hear your voice when you're uncomfortable but you continue. I am thankful I found your channel I'm an older senior and love all you do and am amazed at your energy and drive. Take care of yourself and that lucky little one, they will learn lots from you.

[@kgs2127]

Absolutely agree with you. I love this community 🥰

[@courtneyrenegar4329]

I love how honest you are about pregnancy not being rainbows and unicorns. I wish more people would be honest about that. Just because you don't love being pregnant doesn't mean you don't/won't love the baby. ❤️❤️

[@julieagain]

Every pregnancy is different. My 1st was wonderful, 2nd sick & tired. Maybe if you choose to have another your 2nd will be full of wonder & grace.

[@sgp1489]

It seems pretty normal to have a little anxiety mixed with excitement. You've got this Becky.

[@Mama_Terri]

I love your honesty and realistic approach to your pregnancy. It’s not always pleasant, and you’re right, the good days and bad days do come. God has bless you with a husband that respects and support you. My favorite thing you shared is that it’s been fun watching Josh!! That tells me you are going to be a wonderful mother, your joy comes from watching others’ happiness.

[@Gangan-xw9xt]

My husband and I were married for 7 years before we had our son this year and I am so grateful that we had that time as just us. Also totally feel you on not taking pictures of getting bigger. Wait till that little baby is in your arms and all the struggles of pregnancy are so worth it.

[@Meadowchar]

My kids are 25 and 18 and I am sad I don't have photos to look back on, let alone professional ones.. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of the way I looked.. Better to have pics than be sorry!

[@desert_sage_homestead]

I cried with you. I had 4 kids in only 4 years! Back to back.... It was hard, depressing, scary. I had a hard time. Hearing your talk about all these things brought me back. I am so happy that you're making the best decisions for you and your family, mental health is underrated. I am so happy for you. Take care, prayers to you, God bless your and your family ❤️

[@kellywhittam3442]

Don't feel bad if you don't get the almighty wave of love for your child when it's born.. This is totally normal too. I was in so much shock after having my first child, I couldn't even hold her. Now, she's the best thing that ever happened to me, I wouldn't change her for the world and I couldn't imagine life without her. That love at first sight doesn't happen for everyone xx

[@catiehays3361]

Same way 4 me as well..

[@Cole_Cross]

I feel like this is such an important conversation to have. A lot of my friends did NOT have a "joyful" pregnancy experience. Let's make real-talk NOT taboo. Thank you for sharing this with us. I hope the rest is smooth sailing for you. You look beautiful. You've always been sooo glowy and curvy and lovely. I hope you see that someday soon

[@shirleyperry8593]

3 babies 3 different pregnancy experiences. It's worth it all xxx

[@amanda-sv7qr]

It's great that you have a doula, Becky! I had one for both my first and second daughters' deliveries. The first doula rubbed my back for five hours straight when I was having back labor. I agree that having a doula is *so* helpful, especially as a first-time mom. If there's one thing I wish I had known before I gave birth, it's that it's a workout, especially the pushing part. It's not dissimilar from high intensity interval training. I actually think it's great that you don't have a birth plan, since labor seldom goes the way that we expect it to. Praying for less hip pain and nausea for the remainder of your pregnancy and a smooth delivery!

[@molliejonte2732]

Becky, you talking about how supportive and helpful Josh is being during this pregnancy, and how he plans to be after the birth. brought tears to my eyes. That is all so sweet, this love. It is wonderful to have so much love in a marriage and family. Both of y’all are going to be fantastic, and this new child is so lucky.

[@sharongodbout3275]

My Son and his wife surprised us with a key chain.... said...You have now graduated from having grand doggers to being grand parents! It was so sweet! congrats to you both and your Family!

Being a childless woman of 53, I really appreciate your attitude towards motherhood. In a society where people are obsessing too much over everything, you have such a sound and healthy attitude towards this. Life is pressure enough without having to feel the pressures of what society wants you to do or ‘how you’re supposed to do everything’. As long as you’re comfortable in your decisions, those are your decisions to make as we are all unique. I wouldn’t say I’m sensitive towards pregnancy videos (as I have *chosen* not to have children) but I do find that whenever I follow someone on social media and they become pregnant (which *is* a blessing, don’t get me wrong here), it takes over their whole lives (and social media) and I end up not watching. It’s such a life-changing event (I might be childless but I’m not cold hearted) but I end up switching off as it doesn’t appeal to me. Even so, I understand that you feel you want to answer some questions and to do it in a separate video like this, is very much appreciated and, I think, smart and shows that your head and heart is in the right place. With that, I want to wish you and Josh all the best with everything. X

[@Cole_Cross]

THIS 100% this. People cannot fathom why, at 37, and my husband and I have no interest in children. I really like our lives, our dogs, and our current focus and from what we've both seen, that doesn't remain post-child. I'll adopt if I change my mind.

[@questionmark9819]

Child free not childless, I think there can be a negative connotation with the term childless with some people.

@@questionmark9819 For sure but English is my second language so I apologise if I have offended anyone.

@@Cole_Cross I’ve always lived by this: live and let live and love and let love. I could have a whole conversation about how I’ve been treated, as a woman who has chosen not to have children, but we’d be here for hours ☺️ I absolutely love that there are people in the world who have children and who love being parents but I also wish that, quite often, the same people would love the fact that I’ve chosen a life without. Adoption is a really wonderful way of becoming a parent. There are so many unwanted kids out there who needs a parents love and a stable home. Good luck in whatever you chose to do and stay blessed ☺️🙏🏼

[@questionmark9819]

@ oh I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to offend either, please accept my apologies. No, it was just something I thought I would mention just because of the difference. Kind regards.

[@rachelhowe7592]

Practical sleep saving parent tip, layer baby's bed with waterproof protection and fitted sheet, waterproof protection and fitted sheet. That way when there is a diaper blowout or spit-ups at night all you need to do is take off the first layer of sheet and protection and set it aside to deal with in the morning. No needing to try and make a bed in the middle of the night when you are tired. There are many different waterproof protection options out there from fitted sheet style to mats and soft cover to thin plastics so you can find what would work for the sleep set up you decide on for baby.