Aba and Adam22 Discuss How Sleeping With Tons of Women is Overrated

Aba explains the mental and physical down side of sleeping around with several different people.
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[@ErK61]

aba is a really good example of a humble, principled, cool, smart man. a rarity in that industry

[@silvami]

faxxxx

[@KaluArt]

U guys really falling for the act? If u have to remind people that u are humble and have integrity. Chances are u have none

[@tss8735]

@@KaluArt Facts, people are really naive and fall for virtue signalling. Most people are not bright enough to see through the virtue signalling

[@KaluArt]

@@tss8735 💯

[@KaluArt]

I said what i said lol

[@BodyLotionVideos]

This is one of the realest videos i’ve seen. Fucking around for a long period of time just leaves you empty.

[@theboyt8324]

shit happened to me bro

[@JohnPierre-lz6vb]

F- cking around and realising that you're just a body for the women you f with and nobody to talk to or cry in their arms is just depressing.

[@theboyt8324]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb bro foreal!!! I had to stop

[@e.cforest5422]

Damn straight bro

[@TopFlightSecurity415]

It def gets played out , for me women are just too time consuming

[@scotttaylor7274]

Can’t believe there’s actually some mature content on here. Really important conversation with nothing but truth in it. Don’t let your insecurity have you with multiple partners. That sh*t drains your spirit and is the worst for your self esteem.

[@chriswoodard8497]

That word "insecurity" is key! If u wanna ve a hoe, do it bc you WANT to do so not bc you feel you NEED too for whatever reason.

[@sla1746]

What is the difference between want and need?

[@noshotnova2432]

@@sla1746 a brain

[@TheSaltiestPickle]

@@sla1746 you may want too cuz you feel you can, it’d be beneficial, it may better your life and you can deal w whatever it comes w. If you feel like you need too, you feel like it may better your life and you’re going to pursue it no matter how detrimental it may be and or even if u can’t handle it.

[@jaebrowne6780]

Aba and preach probably the most level headed people on KZbin

[@GA-gm4xq]

Most down to earth creators.

[@AzetheReal]

Think you forget Pewdiepie. Mans is on the highest pedestal and still has the humility to look at others as if he is the one below.

[@BrutalSp0rtz]

Hell no

[@doubledown9]

I wouldn’t go that far... 😂

[@JayTs3233]

Yes

[@Glowfish88]

Finally. I’m so glad these guys are having this conversation. Sex is meant to be significant. It’s meant to be a connection, not a a tally system for a man’s sense of accomplishment. All these men in the media rolling through women and bragging about it, are going to be the ones alone at the end of a lifetime.

[@e.cforest5422]

Yea I realized a while back I had a eureka moment where I figured out that worthless sex is just a form of self harm just like alcohol and smoking or drugs.

[@raymondotoole2600]

I agree that bragging is stupid. Doesn’t help yourself or people around you. However you are wrong about “ sex is meant to be significant. It’s meant to be a connection”. If what you’re looking for is settling down type of thing then sex yes is meant to be a connection thing. But if you’re looking for sex and sex only, then going on dates makes zero sense because to get to know someone just for sex seems so irrelevant. Like yes or no do you wanna smash and you smash. You don’t waste any emotional time by going on a date to “ get to know someone” that only increases the chances of a connection forming which is dangerous and not what you’re out there for.

[@raymondotoole2600]

@@e.cforest5422 interesting. So I’ve never had worthless sex. My sex is great. I keep healthy, I’m in shape, I’m fantastic in bed so if you’ve experienced worthless sex I would either say you want something more then sex or if you don’t then work on yourself. The complete, gym physique ( athlete physique) read books, develop your own psychology, study men and women and biology, sex and all those things that will make sex feel great. it’s not about connection. It’s just whether you’re good at it or not 😂

[@dullknifefactory]

This is lame.

[@themysterypooper9230]

We all live alone and die alone. Your wife wont be there with you when you fade out

[@adonisssss2197]

Fresh & Fit can never offer this level of wisdom

[@daizenmarcurio]

F&F highlight the true character of most western women while A&P teach value

[@actuaryjohnny4993]

FnF are just regurgitating red pill talking points. No nuance with them.

[@adonisssss2197]

@@daizenmarcurio what wisdom you gonna get from finding out the true character of most western women? absolute waste of time dwelling on that type of shit, you also risk developing a false sense of trust because of your tendency to mistrust seemingly degenerate people. I'd rather stay away from that and just focus on myself and develop my trust with the right kind of people instead of being overly-cautious all the damn time

[@adonisssss2197]

@@actuaryjohnny4993 honestly they do it in such a rude way. plenty of ways to discuss those topics without being disrespectful to anyone

[@joekerr4300]

@@adonisssss2197 I agree, I wouldn't want to develop a false sense of trust and miss out on a lot of meaningful relationships and experiences

[@speaklife20]

This man is speaking wise words. Young men, hear his words and practice them, for they are MORE VALUABLE than precious metals, stones and gems. 💯

[@soultrane126]

@Donald Trump *watches vikings once*

[@dipchips34garvis68]

why you talking like were in medieval times and shit shut the fk up

[@albertc2390]

This man is speaking alternative facts. Sleep with as many women as you can. I bet you he still looks at attractive women and wonders would it be like to sleep with her.

[@speaklife20]

@Donald Trump You become what you practice.

[@thab1237]

Thou art valuable than the even more precious of all metals

[@AdrianA-yo8jd]

I loved the insight they shared here. Has to be top 5 NoJumper interview moments of all time. Very rare to see two grown men be this vulnerable and share such deep experiences without egos getting in the way with constant bragging and trying to 1 up each other. A lot of young men out here have been led astray to believe sticking their willy in every attractive thing is one of the major keys to having a good happy life. Myself included at one point in time. Nope, just emptiness as you look at this girl you barely know and question if all the effort was even worth it.

[@mcsmash4905]

to me it always seemed disguisting and i noticed it early on when i was like 14 lol it felt cheap then and feels cheap now

[@quilluntouchableentity2034]

Man i dont know if adams fans are mature enough for a conversation like this

[@bassmanoper6659]

Of course not

[@gretchengeorge5302]

They aren’t.

[@proudscorpio46]

They aren’t.

[@langat007]

🤣🤣🤣

[@misstrunchbull3953]

They're not, check the view counts on the popular videos & what's in the titles that draw attention. Bullshit

[@catsndogs98]

You know, I was always ashamed that I wasn’t going around having sex, but when I thought about it it always seemed weird and risky to meet and have sex with random strangers

[@darthwicket]

Because it is and leaves you empty

[@txmade210]

it's not worth it, focus on ya goals and finding the right women

[@TheOnlyDTM]

@@darthwicket PREACH. i bet having someone to come home to is MUCH more fulfilling

[@dipchips34garvis68]

you should feel ashamed

[@dipchips34garvis68]

@UCFCJMJf-5LEGPz1LpkHo0qA finding the right women shut the fuck up lol

[@Melissathelocator]

I love when men have conversation like this: real and authentic. We all know women like to talk about every single thing, but it’s great to hear men voice their stories, perspectives and opinions.

[@EsteBahia]

Thank you for appreciating that! It's a shame because there are few spaces for us men to do just that, and the one's that are out there have been told to shut up shop or to get a female on the show. Smh that would defeat the purpose.

[@raymondotoole2600]

It is very interesting to hear men’s stories. However when communicating we must come from a place of understanding what was and what is. Saying sex is worthless is just incorrect. “ based on my experience this happened and that happened, however it may feel or be different for people”

[@se2664]

It’s nice to see a man hold other men accountable!!

[@D.T_]

@@raymondotoole2600 with multiple ppl it is worthless, u constantly adding bodies to your list is hoeish.

[@raymondotoole2600]

@@D.T_ it’s worthless for you 😂 not for me. Speak from individual experiences not for everyone in the world.

[@seymour_videos]

Its definitely one of those things you usually have to go through to really get what he's trying to share with you. From like 16 - 23 I was running through women like a wild dog. But then one day you're sleeping with the 3rd or 4th girl that month and you're just like, I'm not even enjoying this anymore.. some men find their purpose and leave this life behind.. and others never grow out of the mindset. But sleeping with a bunch of different women gets old.

[@user-hs1nr4he1k]

@Cayenne Captain No you don’t. Some people just don’t have high sex drives, and others it just wasn’t a thing for them. Neither to say alcohol, partying, or whatever else wasn’t in place of sex though. 😭

[@ilikepancakes2368]

@@user-hs1nr4he1k And some never had the option even if they wanted to.

[@christianstadler6099]

I feel like you don’t have to go through it to no it’s not satisfying lmao

[@dipchips34garvis68]

being with one women forever gets boring and old lol stop lying bruh

[@raymondotoole2600]

From what you’ve said and by the way love the honesty👏🏼 but did you ever include some sort of moderation. Like when you felt the shift in excitement for sex decease did you take any healthy breaks ?

[@lm4936]

Something guys don’t even consider is that It can work both ways too. The same as some men write women off as being worthless if they sleep around a lot, many ‘valuable females’ look at players as less desirable. The fact that they’ve been inside multiple women can come off as gross (especially if it’s been raw). Experience is one thing, but excess is repugnant.

[@MrBigdul]

100 percent, i messed up opportunies with high value women cause they knew my past of sleeping around

[@ilikepancakes2368]

Lol no. Women like men who are “preselected”. A man who is promiscuous shows that he is a winner and women sleep with the winners.

[@caribanna]

@@ilikepancakes2368 nope. Bad women like men who are promiscuous. Good women like men with self esteem that is not dependent on how many women you sleep with/get attention from and self control with your desires.

[@dznArro]

@@MrBigdul that’s your fault, you told a woman your body count truthfully and she got turned off. as a MAN you gain no benefit telling a woman how much you slept around.

[@BenDover-ij7yp]

I don't think that's true. Women love a reformed "hoe". A men that knows how to talk to women and what to do in bed.

[@gregabrams5792]

Aba is one of the most articulate people i have ever watched.

[@504gucci4]

You must not watch alot of smart people

[@robyou8511]

@@504gucci4 stfu F&F meatriders mane smfh, get your nose out of their ass, yall the most biased community ive ever witnessed on youtube

[@jackmehoff5541]

@@504gucci4 he probably only watches no jumper interviews and kid shows

[@julzluvzdollz]

“Guys who don’t know how to control themselves are liabilities” 👏 well said applies to everyone!

[@HienPham-ow5ky]

Also, isnt it funny that men always preach about holding women accountable for their actions, yet always defending other men for their behaviors, just like women to avoid repsonsibilities. After reading the comments here, i realize that some men( not all) will never hold other men accountable. Its as if accountability is their krytonite or something lol🤣

[@drknow1997]

I understand Drake a whole lot better now. He was never the ladies man so when he became a famous rapper , he went HAM!

[@persistentlydriven9390]

Right

[@incognitojon902]

He was already pretty famous on degrassi

[@samuelvelazquez8834]

Drake is kind of a simp though. I do respect his hustle and grind.

[@RS-ti7bz]

@@samuelvelazquez8834 How is Drake a simp?

[@samuelvelazquez8834]

@@RS-ti7bz Renting a stadium to get a girl on a date. Lmao, that’s just one of the ones I can remember. Also not saying making love songs makes you a simp but Drake does sound like he weeps too much for love.

[@zseedorman8776]

This man almost made me cry, i have been suffering with my addiction to porn for many years and even now. I have never had any discipline whatsoever. Im not even married or have a girlfriend. Im the only one to depend on. I knew if i was really an alpha, i wouldve handled things on my own instead of having to rely on family for help as i am finishing my senior year. Thank you Adam for bringing this guest, overall a 10/10 interview

[@goodvibes5420]

You have someone here who’s rooting for you I know you will get your life on track never give up on yourself much love to you

[@nonkululekotembo1652]

@@goodvibes5420 let go of the Alpha mentality. It puts too much pressure on you and I'm not sure if it's for the right things. Your goal should be to do right by you and be a decent human being.

[@tontonbonnet7397]

@GVISTA let go of the alpha mentality my friend. Aim to be a man nothing more nothing less. Aim to be comfortable with hard work and comfortable with yourself/your insecurities. Even though nothing is wrong with homosexuality, measuring your manliness to others/based off others and giving it terminology is kind of top/bottom homosexual/female talk. Be well my friend

[@Rory695]

Get a life bro, if ur focused on your purpose you won't have the time or motivation for that shit

[@pain27k]

@@Rory695 this is facts, the shit really is that simple. Addictions become the strongest when you’re bored and have nothing else to do. Keep yourself busy and you’ll end up not wanting to do that shit

[@beetle-juice]

Aba offers a very mature perspective on this. Growing up, men are conditioned to sleep with as many women as possible. Everything was sexualized. The hype and the game are all based on ego. I got a friend who always brags to me about his hot hookups, but man that was literally all he ever talked about. I eventually got really tired of it and eventually ended our friendship. I was focusing on my career and relationship while he was wilding out at the club. Our values are different now. I respect his choice to live like that, but I just can't relate to him anymore. There was no value in our conversations anymore. As I get older, I'm very picky with who I want to be friends with.

[@allycatttt]

This is probably one of my favorite interviews Adam. This man is telling you facts and speaking the truth right here.

[@tjackson2411]

You dont even have to be older to relate to this. I’m 21 and I understand the emptiness you feel when you don’t have feelings or an emotional connection with a woman.

[@JohnPierre-lz6vb]

It's actually the saddest thing ever. You are so alone.

[@tjackson2411]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb I “was”

[@JohnPierre-lz6vb]

@@tjackson2411 Oh you found somebody.

[@drew230]

I would argue it depends on the person I quit dating at 15,that was 8yrs ago.I love being alone and just being with my goals and dreams.can't picture the relationship life

[@tjackson2411]

@@drew230 there’s not many like you.

[@AleQuag]

When I was in my 20s and in a long time relationship I used to think that sleeping with tons of women would make me feel like a man. Now, after sleeping with more than 70 women (Tinder is a hell of a drug) I just feel empty inside. I don't even remember most of their names and not even their faces. I'm miserable af but I just can't quit. I feel like a lost my soul in the process.

[@pokeman316]

Giggity

[@InevitableDinero]

weak

[@kp_productions_8536]

At least your not quagmire

[@jacob11b]

How are you now ? I struggled with this for years. Long relationship ended and turned to being a player. Maybe 40 bodies.. idk, lost count and dont remember 60-70% of their faces or names. Now im engaged, getting married in 50 days and the trauma from all that finally caught up .

[@kp_productions_8536]

@@jacob11b how do y’all feel after smashing a whole bunch of women ?

[@Jayhawkfinance]

“External things can’t fix internal issues.” If you need to get with a lot of women to feel like a “man” or just feel more confident you have an underlying issue that will not be fixed by sleeping around with women. You will continue going in circle until you realize it and act accordingly.

[@alvinaj06]

we need more conversations about this in the manosphere...well said

[@joshuadelton5970]

True that

[@pistolen87]

The thing is that most men want to achieve that level of success with women, BUT once they've proven to themselves and the world that they can be that guy, they'll get bored with the lifestyle and want a more serious partner. The big difference is that men that have not achieved that success with women will want to experience being highly desired by women and the respect from other men for being successful. They want this so they know that they can choose a long term partner from a powerful position.

[@290revolver290]

Very true

[@pistolen87]

@@zakh1579 Yes, I believe men who've gone through this phase will feel more comfortable settling down, because they played the field and knows that the one he picked truly is the one.

[@ZaviahIV]

@@pistolen87 Sounds like you're just justifying your hedonistic promiscuity. Casual sex is tantamount to recreational drug use. You're eliciting a dopaminergic response in the brain, you're not getting anything out of it other than ephemeral pleasure. Some people are genuinely too low IQ to even understand this. They think sleeping around adds some actual value and significance to their life when in actuality it's a form of addiction.

[@arredondo1990]

Well said

[@ZaviahIV]

@@zakh1579 Every guy should indiscriminately fornicate with a multitude of women they have no feelings or care for? What is that supposed to teach you lmao? Like I said, it’s a form of addiction and you getting so aggressive and throwing out excuses is indicative of an addict denying his vice. Sex is fundamentally intended for procreation, when it’s solely associated with pleasure is when you descend into degeneracy. Just look at how depraved pornography is today. Do what you want, I don’t really care, but don’t espouse moronic theories on the web, perniciously warping the minds of young men who would otherwise be above your insecure, animalistic, sex-addicted nonsense.

[@GebbzSteelo]

"The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom; for we never know what is enough until we know what is more than enough." - William Blake

[@andile5945]

Or perhaps ask the right people the right questions stretching across age groups.

[@GebbzSteelo]

@@andile5945 never heard this William Blake quote before m8 tbh lol

[@AdrianA-yo8jd]

This is so true. Once you have too much it’s easier to step back, realize your excess, and trim it down to levels that are appropriate for your well-being.

[@Michael-vl7ey]

@@andile5945 exactly. Real wisdom is learning from the mistakes of others

[@4nt4r4y]

@@Michael-vl7ey “By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” - Confucius

[@noahomen]

this one of the realest conversations I've seen on here fr

[@bjnt922]

A man who is in control of his sex drive and his finances is unstoppable.

[@xphyxia194]

so bored of chasing, all I do is build and they come, literally, figuratively. As long as I’m chasing a goal, something is chasing me.

[@jovannigutierrez983]

Alpha shit 👌🏽

[@dualwield1841]

Girls should be the last thing on mens list

[@dipchips34garvis68]

@@dualwield1841 because a dick is at the top of your list huh jk lol

[@theguy7878]

That's fucking cap ass fuck. I be grinding in that gym for football and stuff like that. And not one girl or hot girl approach me trying to fuck. Get that bullshit lie outta here

[@jovannigutierrez983]

@@theguy7878 I’m not saying that if you chase goals etc etc that women would be crawling to you instantly. Focus on you and along the way you’ll find them or they’ll find you.

[@colewalters3491]

the episode we never knew we needed, this guy speaks big facts🙏🏽

[@SouthBayLA1310]

Oh you know who he is?

[@onit413]

Ur corny

[@colewalters3491]

@@SouthBayLA1310 yeah aba and preach they're chill

[@colewalters3491]

@@onit413 you only speak negative man jus lighten up a bit, no hate here

[@onit413]

@@colewalters3491 u just speak so scripted ur a robot trend addict “we never knew we needed” “big facts bro pray hands” ur a corny ball get unique robot

[@masterman812]

It's kinda ironic that this convo is being had with Adam

[@proudscorpio46]

Exactly 😂😂😂 he needed to hear it the most. Meanwhile he’s like… me and Lina got a new sex tape with a groupie this weekend for onlyfans

[@gountzas]

Impulses and biology shouldn't dictate a man's behavior, but having peace of mind should

[@korviscapetrova5269]

Loved this episode and on a side note I'd like to mention that as a woman, when we hear men mentioning that they fuvked so many other girls, it feels very nauseous to hear as if we're only an activity they aim to accomplish. Such men would never be taken seriously or be a candidate for true affection because not only does it make us insecure as to be treated an just another conquest but wanting to love such men is often difficult due to how volatile they are prone to behave.

[@joeoliver4266]

I appreciate this input, it airs out insecurity and disgust without being judgmental. I can agree that bragging about exploits isn’t great for a number of reasons; it’s when people start saying that those with a promiscuous past should be written off altogether, that my soul starts to sting a little.

[@fucksusan.fuckcensorship.874]

unfortunately both genders are capable of this. ive had male and female friends who bragged about who they ran thru with no regard to seeing their sex partners as an individual and just another number.

[@808sirenz9]

I smashed 3 different women in one week once and felt gross af and drained. Lots of drama, money spent, and just nonsense in general.

[@PlatinumHustle]

Lmfao you weakling

[@808sirenz9]

@@PlatinumHustle that shit wasn't fun bruh thinking about it now with all the bullshxt that comes with lots of women at once. I got homies that happily live like that tho and niggas be married and got GFs

[@kingofnara]

I smashed 3 in one day well it was actually over a 24 hour a period and that was 5 years ago, it was cool tho in a week probably 7 but nowadays I’m happy with just one that I love, love is better than anything I realized it too late tho

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

@@kingofnara where you pick up those chicks? 3 in a day via daygame or online dating.

[@ZDani1]

@@ifeelhalfnaked484 the More the better so the answer is both

[@jaes1812]

A lot of it comes from ego and being insecure. People feel empty so they try to mask it with sex for validation. I know plenty friends that boast about how many girls they been with or can get with, but deep down i know they are empty inside. I may not get girls all the time, but i dont need to get laid with a new girl every day lol

[@agganimegamegirls1568]

I used to be a pookie and Ray Ray, smashed lots of girls and learned that it's draining and a waste of time.

[@PlatinumHustle]

You were just weak

[@sproutydharma]

So draining

[@malikaustin9087]

I feel that it started to hit me at age 27. I. Almost 41 and its still a struggle with lust but I AGREE🙏🏾

[@thetruth997_]

Having sex is human nature. I feel it funny that Aba himself has a high body count but wants to now act like its over-rated 🤦‍♂️

[@jacobramirez4918]

@@thetruth997_ he was saying how it's not it's all cracked up to be and learned it from experience. He's not being a hypocrite lol

[@devon012345]

Yea I definitely can relate to this conversation. Sleeping around with a bunch of women gets overrated and start to seems pointless. It's so much into life then trying to get a bunch of women.

[@gregabrams5792]

These guys are so humble. It makes me have hope in humanity.

[@ST19890]

Life is about balance... too much of anything is no good for you

[@ViolentMLG]

Except money.

[@ST19890]

@@ViolentMLG you don't need billions to live comfortable and the pursuit to make it will drive you crazy

[@realtruth1448]

@@ST19890 I gotta agree on that one, you should make enough money to where you’re comfortable

[@user-hs1nr4he1k]

@@ViolentMLG Not even that. The people who have all that money have people under them that want it and will do anything to get it. Plus people who have the most worry the most about it because 9/10 they don’t have many genuine people in their corner to just love. They’re always gone. Money is what keeps that fake happy flame alive.

[@longlivetheblackmamba2-8-24]

@@ViolentMLG that too. Sometimes people become cornballs cuz they got money

[@brucemichaelgrossman4913]

Having an insane amount of partners leads to shallowness and this feeling of never being fulfilled. You'll never be happy with anyone if you're constantly looking for something better.

[@omb3d80]

damn spiritualism really gonna revive traditionalism

[@Eagles2020]

Nice profile pic

[@Piel222]

Everything swings like a pendulum

[@user-s3ts8my2x]

i was thinking this

[@l.Ooto.l]

I’ve never really considered myself to be a promiscuous guy in life. The whole idea of sex overtime has become pointless to me it’s been perverted and devalued to a point where i probably have sex a couple out of the year if I’m lucky but being raised in a religious household and being told you’re supposed to wait til you’re married to have sex then seeing all the people around you having kids and just hardly being in relationships will really make you reevaluate life. In life for certain people you want to leave a legacy behind as far as how to maneuver in a dangerous world. If you were raised in a broken household you’ll tend to pick up on things alot quicker and try to fly right. There’s temptation around every single corner.

[@ablebodied175]

Being raised religious in the current west is really telling of how much we rely on others around us to gauge what is success and what isn't. The culture tells you that multiple women and fucking around is being the "man" but when I look at my Pakistani parents they actively encourage me to wait till marriage and commend me for not giving into the hedonism around us.

[@gnarl12]

@@ablebodied175 man your Pakistan sisters were out getting smashed like nothing else Bhai 😂🤣 I've seen them lies their asses off to their FOB husbands where not 6 months before the wedding they were getting abortions with some trashy guy they were sleeping with

[@kendov288]

I'm super glad that I realized early on that sleeping around with no emotional connection will just make you feel empty, just as Aba described here. One of the reasons I never downloaded Tinder was because it was already known as an app for hookups. Since I was not not looking for anything like that to waste my time on, I never did. Looks like I dodged a huge bullet even though I could be described as physically attractive guy.

[@dominicrazzano3085]

This is the mentality that needs to be practiced now more than ever. This is a matured man that knows the coolest thing you can do is be a real, genuine person.

[@jhixofficial7634]

This dude I use to hangout with all the time hit me up bragging about his body count when I was just watching Netflix smoking living my best life. I’m like “GTFO this isn’t high school have fun getting the clap. Grow up” Keep in mind he’s 21 I’m 22 and perspective is everything especially for us young men in our 20s. Most will say “you gotta live it up in your 20s” Nah I’ll drink some beers, smoke, and play the game after work like a regular adult. Call it boring but it’s safer

[@tiago7160]

Same

[@sylargabriele1851]

Respect 🤟🏾

[@se2664]

Exactly. I’m glad you told your friend to grow up. I have told mine to stop crying every time your boyfriend you chased hurts you

[@Don4L_]

What’s his body count

[@nadinegomez8858]

Your future girl will appreciate it SO much too.

[@Dannniellleee]

That post-nut clarity quickly washes away the ego that led you to sleep around in the first place. Both men AND women feel this, and I love hearing Aba address this reality. ☺️

[@eddiemarin2984]

That is so true..the contrast between how I feel pre and post nut is glaring! That blows my mind

[@Dannniellleee]

@@eddiemarin2984 I believe that feeling is what they call LUST. It’s crazy how it happens

[@kelseykjarsgaard5774]

Yup

[@Dannniellleee]

@David Batista Just an idea: Be with someone you love who enjoys sex as much as you do… and do it as much as possible!

[@Dannniellleee]

@David Batista Mediation and purpose helps with focus- I completely understand. Don’t give up!

[@fatib3200]

Adam is adjusting his opinions based on who he’s interviewing

[@king_julian327]

Factsssssss.

[@RS-ti7bz]

@fortheautwint It’s one thing to understand another viewpoint and another to adapt it as if it’s your own. I would say “I see where you’re coming from” And then share my personal thoughts on the matter being as genuine as possible for me.

[@inatklw]

@fortheautwint thank you.

[@gnarl12]

As usual

[@julesdj913]

That's what happens when you don't have any first principles.

[@OnderHassan]

I resonate with Aba 110%. Don’t care about clout, traveling or anything that invites stress or complications. Perhaps it’s age, but you learn very quickly how valuable and fulfilling it is versus chasing after stuff that frankly isn’t worth it.

[@godsent_tcg]

This is 💯 Imagine you get a girl pregnant or multiple girls pregnant. Now you have obligations outside of your purpose. Stay focused. And get your money up. Evolve. Then find the right one. This is a gem. Adam is really making NoJumper better.

[@artax3434]

A few thoughts: I think these guys speak a lot of truth here. I would add that a lot of men will be able to sleep with many women without truly fixing their confidence issues (aka feeling comfortable and confident enough to be able to introduce themselves to women they like), which brings about a vicious circle of temporary boosts of confidence/ego, but with a lack of belief they can have access to the women they truly want. EDIT: On the other hand, it's unrealistic to expect that every man could gain that kind of confidence, so these slightly underwhelming conquests are certainly better than nothing (given that the women in question are treated respectfully, not just as ego boosters). It's not like being an incel is a better option.

[@thunderclap2060]

Golden video Adam, great conversation. Very mature mindset, I appreciate yours and Abas words .

[@willjones1826]

Aba spitting real game, the shit you need to hear not the shit you wanna hear!!!!

[@Lanciaa]

This is so refreshing to see on no jumper it’s the opposite of the normal content

[@nadinegomez8858]

Yeah normal content is straight up degeneracy

[@60_beats]

TRUE MAN, IM AN OLD TIMER, AND I DONT REMEMBER ANY OF THEM. THE JOY THAT COMES WITH SIN IS 7 seconds short, the consequences are life threatening man, you don’t ever want to wait on an AIDS test broes. Don’t ever roll the dice with your health my people’s. Plus, after so many. YOU LOOSE WIFI WITH GOD.

[@devonqi]

Wifi with god ohhhshiit Lululuul Also at the same time Theres is no fathomable distance one can be from god God is so close to us It is us So close that there is no distance And beyond even that itself

[@rivieres2401]

Wifi with god 😂 that’s some real shit lol

[@eazzyy3565]

Basically the connection with the higher self or creator

[@native307]

You lost me at that God bs 😒

[@tariq178]

@@native307 be respectful of other peoples religion please. You can disagree but don’t call it bs no matter how much you think it so.

[@kristiant96]

It's so nice to hear people that have the same values as me I just hope that you guys are genuine. I am 25 a virgin I think I am fairly attractive because I got substantial attention from women/girls but I am shy and I want to have a genuine relation with someone I've had a lot of opportunities to sleep around but that's just not me everyone keeps saying you are young you should be chasing women etc. and I feel so out of place it becomes destructive I've been put in 3rd party situations couple of times and it hurts I feel like a tool I honestly have been thinking of ending it for the past couple of years.

[@iTzsimplefx7]

Man i was exactly like you at 21. Right now in a 3 yr relationship. Because of that pressure i was swiping on tinder just like dude said. I’ve came across women giving me their snap, app and proceeded to show me nudes unexpectedly, you might think nice but tbh it’s fucking disgusting. Take your almighty time, i wish i still was that “shy” guy smoking my weed, bumping some good music, gaming or watching soccer in my studio with no one else. Don’t get me wrong i appreciate my partner but looking back at the shit i went through for pussy.. NEVER AGAIN. Having tons of pussy comes with a lot of fucking trouble. I’m good.

[@greencrocidile6246]

I was believing you until the last part You sad because you can’t get any You simply lack the confidence work on it it will help you in so many areas of your life

[@swingking1294]

Some of us learn the hard way but it’s up to you to learn from others mistakes

[@UnknownNev]

A smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man learns from other’s mistakes.

[@jarrusjenkins]

I can honestly say.... it's absolutely true.... I did it for about 5-6 years or so and you know what I got out of it all? I'm broke, miserable, ashamed and depressed(not necessarily because of the fucking around, more likely to do with the consequences of it, I got a lot of bad debt and now I'm have to work my ass off to pay it off which means I'm now 32 and still living with my parents) Lads and ladies, it sounds good on paper but ultimately you'll pay the price one way or the other.... It ain't worth it, focus on yourself, use your time and money wisely and when it's time to seek a life partner then you'll be in the right state of mind. Just my opinion.

[@kenfern2259]

quality over quantity

[@cs2saske607]

It’s overrated when you’ve done it. The average man will never get it.

[@Hooga89]

I was looking for this comment. The only thing I kept thinking as I watched the video is like how rich people say that being rich isn't going to bring you happiness and deep meaning in your life, but I'd rather be depressed while driving in an expensive car and living in an expensive house than being poor and depressed. Same goes with this. I'd rather have the ability and the opportunity to have sex with a lot of women, but I can't. I don't have the people skills or the physical attractiveness to do it, just like I don't have the skills to become rich.

[@firk407]

@@Hooga89 living an average life will make you the happiest, you just need goals, hobbies, and people around you which care about you.

[@47fortyseven47]

Nah man it's overrated, sex and masturbation and all that shit as a whole is overrated what like all that to feel that nut that lasts literally 4 seconds then instant post nut clarity lmao

[@Yak.indebox]

Women so foolish that they expose themselves by agreeing with this. They want womanizers and players to think like this like they didn’t do everything already. It holds no merit coming from Adam or the other guy

[@chantel-tbr]

Aba gives me hope in the future.. I just need his words to reach my future partner’s ears.

[@christopherbaez882]

Nothing but truth bombs and real knowledge. This is the message that's needs to be spread people need to hear this.

[@chrisdawson8252]

I know a guy at work that's doing exactly what they're talking about. I felt the cringe and at first I wanted to be friends but I noticed how deep into it he was and I figured it's best just to keep distance

[@lachlanmclennan2188]

I think the reason men find promiscuity attractive is because we want; variety, our egos validated and options available to us. The actual act of sleeping with multiple strangers is overrated especially if you have all three conditions met independently.

[@matthewk4912]

Exactly.

[@eastwaters4082]

Actually men find promiscuity attractive because it's not easy to sleep with every woman. Men enjoy conquest, and how easy is it to place your flag on the moon?

[@matthewk4912]

@@eastwaters4082 That still goes into what Lachlan said; you said that men find it attractive because it's not easy to do that. So when men do it, they are pursuing and enjoying their conquest -- satisfying their egos because now they feel validated and sure of themselves.

[@iamahero3246]

@@eastwaters4082 it is very easy to sleep with many women

[@joeoliver4266]

I find promiscuity attractive because I find many women interesting. If I thought most women were undesirable or trashy, I’d probably be much more driven towards monogamy.

[@allenhooper8532]

People have relationships like they eat. If all you eat is junk food then you have a junk diet. Junk sex ain’t no different y’all.

[@massivetism]

I'm so glad I found Aba and Preach. After listening to them, I feel like I can start making real steps to improving my life.

[@chris255N]

That's a level of maturity most of us ain't ready for ..,

[@moonbull3137]

At the age I'm at right now this really resonates with me. I'm 29 and a father of two. I just want to provide for them and care for them

[@sugarskulllyfe5890]

I respect this conversation so much

[@witchingbrew3]

It's ironic how magic Johnson interviews from 25 years ago are going viral now. Big lesson to learn.

[@celticman9474]

What interview? Send me the link please. Thanks

[@j.rjunior5584]

@@celticman9474 I believe the Oprah one.

[@franciscotoro827]

Yo this hit close to home married for 10 years and when I got back on the dating scene I was like a kid in a candy store it was empty I didn't like it at all I thought I was the shit it was an empty so I completely agree with what you guys that sentiment it hits hard

[@rameyaj32]

Fun is fun but strong families are most important.

[@iamkatdali1961]

Honestly I always said it disgusted me of a guy had dozens of bodies and they have always argued with me that it’s just sex and I shouldn’t be shaming them but I look at it as a lack of sexual control and discipline and I never thought that was cute man or woman

[@gjjijji]

It’s natural

[@NotJosephMuscat]

I mean its not anyones place to shame someone for wanting to fuck. Once you start fucking as much you want, you really start to realize how empty it all is and a waste of time & effort.

[@kenfern2259]

@@gjjijji some men will stick their D in anything even when women is not even their type , no standard no nothing .

[@gjjijji]

@@kenfern2259 ok and?

[@kenfern2259]

@@gjjijji no discipline .

[@irrittt]

This man is on another level.

[@Andre-vx4rf]

I live a life like christ, peace is all I experience.

[@aylinlugo8031]

❤same

[@enzoprestige8600]

I can write a whole album about women just watching this damn*

[@artisinalbread4378]

I’m grateful to have figured out how to talk to women years ago, and to finally be in line to marry a woman I trust enough to put a baby in 5+YEARS FROM NOW. I love this video.

[@PlatinumHustle]

You got married? Simp

[@orthodoxboxing9159]

@@PlatinumHustle This ain’t it bro. There’s nothing wrong with that. Specially if you get married through a religion.

[@spiritualt2004]

@@PlatinumHustle bruh it be the people calling people simps the biggest ones 🤣🤣. Y’all be so gay judging men all day

[@chorn1k0t]

@UCIOqiYs3He6-mAdgRMOGkeQ shut the fuck up loser u have nothing better to do than call a random across the world a simp. just because u haven't kissed a bitch doesn't mean u can be a dickhead to other guys

[@spiritualt2004]

@@chorn1k0t lmfaoooo

[@cosmicsatan7116]

This is spot on. Not only that but the majority of us who stay players end up ALONE. I got lucky but so many of my friends I'd frequent clubs with didn't and are alone today in their mid 30's.

[@him1703]

This is true

[@persistentlydriven9390]

Not everybody yearns to get married.

[@him1703]

@@persistentlydriven9390 yeah I’m 35 my hoe phase is over , don’t do clubs or bars, look fairly young so no prob nabbing a chick ten years younger but …. Yeah man it’s all player out …. Having peace is better than getting pussy

[@cosmicsatan7116]

@@persistentlydriven9390 I'm not married.

[@BrotherlyLove12]

Mid-30s isn’t old, dude. I would love to settle down with a woman by my 30s but if I’m not, I wouldn’t consider that ending up alone. You have a lot of life to live.

[@cy268]

Aba spittin facts, this brother is so insightful. Really make me think about how i got about shit.

[@Calvinmob681]

I completely agree. The benefits of being good looking. I've been with over a hundred women and it drains you of so much and even effects your current relationships. I lack the fundamentals of keeping a woman because I feel like I can easily replace her at the first bump in the road.

[@branflakee4257]

I knew a guy in the navy that caught his fiance cheating on him at 26 and he is now 40 and has had 300+ partners. He says he gets laid and then drinks himself to sleep on a regular basis, doesnt even remember their names. It was so sad lol

[@niles1492]

@@branflakee4257 damn, sad thing is some kiddos say that's "based" until they actual become that person themselves

[@james10165]

I feel you man, Ive been with hundreds of women and also lack those fundamentals to keep women because I can easily get another one.

[@thabokgwele5268]

Lol damn over a hundred?

[@Calvinmob681]

Over a hundred is not hard to do. 1 partner a month for 10 years and that's how you easily have a large count. Now remember for women they can do this times 1000.

[@PolishBehemoth]

This is one of the most positive no jumper interviews I've ever seen. Bravo! Good job team.

[@idosmith2348]

Grown men speaking 🗣

[@kenpachi465]

He's a hypocrite because he admitted that he slept around in his early years and advocate paying for box. Everyone, eventually will settle down and sleeping around doesn't destroy your soul.

[@Valentine179]

@@kenpachi465 that's not hypocrisy that's growth he did it and found that grass isn't greener on the other side and is saying why.

[@kenpachi465]

@@Valentine179 why does he advocate paying for box if grass isn't greener on the other side?

[@CPI99]

@@kenpachi465 he’s talking about in excess

[@hakumenx1]

@@kenpachi465 excess. Learn what that is. You can occasionally pay for box without being gluttonous about it. What he warns against is gluttony because it can ruin you.

[@Aaron-sr3nj]

Just turned 20 about 7 months ago glad I watched this and got some wisdom I’m not terrible with women but I’m definitely not a player not as smooth as a lot of other dudes with women.And now I realize I’m fine with that sleeping with multiple women ain’t for me.I had a lot of urges to pay for sex glad I didn’t do it.I’ll just wait to have sex again till I find a girl I really love.I’ll just continue being a homebody and just go out when I want to have some fun thought I was missing out on life because I stay at home most of the time.

[@ItsTruthBaby]

Aba is so good that he ends up interviewing Adam.

[@bclambert2]

Thats the thing. When you smash women sometimes they don't just fadeaway. Theres issues and headaches to deal with if you pick the wrong one. Be careful and protect home!

[@shanesmith5551]

My thoughts: a guy has to go through it to prove it to themselves and realize the grass isn’t alway greener. Feels great at first but quickly wears off. Like they said, you always need your next hit, like a drug. It’s like constantly switching jobs instead of building equity in a business. Shiny object syndrome.

[@theprimalwisdom4929]

Words that needed to be spoken by someone in a position to speak them. Men my age are so brainwashed by rappers and social media they think promiscuity is the only path to masculinity. Suggesting a level headed alternative often gets you clowned. It's quite childish. I've had to develop a lot of inner game to come to a point where I no longer give a fuck what people think about me, but needless to say, I've been preaching what Aba lays down here long before I saw this video, so its good to hear it from another man who's been through it with these women. Party P*ssy is great but not all its cracked up to be, especially with the kind of person/lifestyle you have to adopt to have regular access to it. Not worth it down the line.

[@lilronnyg5724]

This is only a clip, but watching this whole episode of the podcast is really enlightening and they have such intricate conversations. I really love the intelligence and compassion Aba brought to the table.

[@evanalex4607]

Thank you, Aba!!! People who lack self control and discipline are a liability 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

[@platypus4849]

Thank you so much guys for acknowledging this💕 there's more risk than people think.

[@luckyboy4429]

I been with about 800 And I’ll tell you With no spiritual bond it honestly is not that impressive UNLESS you never had it or your a “ kid mentally “ to be impressed Having a girl so emotionally passionate about you is very important and for you both to feel that way is what makes it good

[@nadinegomez8858]

Bruh have you no discipline?

[@luckyboy4429]

@@nadinegomez8858 discipline? Well I won’t say that’s a horrible comment but I am actually extremely disciplined and have told many girls NO ... but I also considered it as a science experiment many times .:. And study their behavior facial expressions many things and simply I was bored and they were 99% cute or I wouldn’t do it ... and it’s simply a debate I had within many times .... rather it’s right or wrong ... I never forced anyone and it was and has been a good experience... I was a athlete many years im very diclplined if I want to be ... and as I said I told many girls no that I would say most men. Would not say no too ... but the fact I have so much free time ... never having a reAl job is a HUGE part of it ... and a man of my nature enjoys his adult entertainment and I’m not one for movies or talking ... so it’s not so easy to answer your question.... it depends on the perspective and angle you look at it but anyone who knows me knows I’m extremely picky with girls and diciplined like a soldier in many aspects of my life ... I have had only 4 REAL GFS ... total of maybe 16 years of relationships ... I’m 41 ... and again I don’t “ talk about things “ I do them anyhow I can only say I’m disciplined if I want to be and definitely ... growing up my dreams were never to be married ... i. Had “ man dreams “ football figgjting gangster stuff .... for the most part I loved them ... it does become a “ empty feeling “ and I do desire to have a 1 good woman ... but she must DESERVE IT AND EARN IT

[@MTHR3E]

That part about “You ever seen a girl go crazy in your place?” tho! 😬 real

[@kkurzeid]

Flight.... 🤷🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

[@realtruth1448]

If I chick starts acting stupid in my crib I’ll kick her out and if she doesn’t wanna leave I’ll call the cops

[@ffsake1361]

If I had a young man in my life such as a son or nephew I would get them to listen to this. This is wisdom from learnt experience. Every young man needs a Aba or Preach in their lives.

[@AG-ne3rh]

Facts they are god send

[@KenFlo1000]

I think when you’re insecure and unsure of yourself, the ability to get tons of girls seems like a milestone and shows you’re great and wanted. But once you do it, and realize it isn’t hard at all…it’s just exhausting and not rewarding

[@beanbarron7359]

True but it really depends on your goals at the end of the day. You have to be secure and satisfied in yourself to share your time and effort with someone else

[@suru_media]

True, i always valued having a partner that shows the same effort i do, but once I slept with a lot of girls i started to value that even more

[@Vs-ci8sx]

My long-term boyfriend used to have this lifestyle for a long time before we started dating . I just wish he had never told me. I'm not sure how he feels about it, probably he doesn't regret it - but I'm not sure what to do and how to deal with this information. I know he chose to be with me when he could have been with any other of these many many women, but still it is kind of hurtful. It's just caused me to be more insecure about it all. I feel as if no matter what I do sexually or how I improve myself visually , I will never be able to reach the level of some of these women. I just really want to be the most beautiful and special , also when it comes to sex but I feel like I can't keep up. He has probably already done anything anyway with some other woman who did it better while for me a lot of the things we do are new and exciting, valuable. This is a big insecurity for me. Does anyone know how to deal with these thoughts ?

[@damnib4722]

You’re defining your connection based on what you look like. Biggest red flag of all. You deserve to feel you’re looked at for who you are not your physicality, choose you & leave him for your mental health

[@Vs-ci8sx]

@@damnib4722Thank you for taking your time to reply, first of all. I think it's more a mistake on my side rather than his because he doesn't base his love on what I look like. In fact , I did choose to take care of my looks myself and during the relationship way more than before . He tells me everyday that I'm beautiful and that he loves my soul and doesn't care about looks so I'm confident that he's truthful with it. It's just that I'm really insecure myself and the fact that he's had so many experiences with so many beautiful people just hurts me and makes me think I can't satisfy him in the same way. Something tells me I need to be on that level or do better. I think way too much about this and it is really toxic for my mental health and self esteem.. Really I'm just trying to find someone who's going through something similar or maybe get advice on how to deal with these thoughts or get rid of them..

[@goncalomendes1512]

@@Vs-ci8sx Leave him and find some guy who has respect for himself. A guy who had that lifestyle in the past will never recover and be there for you as he should, at least in his mind. Its pathetic how you can still be with a guy like him. There are a lot of good guys better than him outside. He doesnt like you, he just says what is better for him to say.

[@Vs-ci8sx]

@@goncalomendes1512 Hi I appreciate you replying and sharing your thoughts but then why would he be with me in the first place ? I don't get it ..

[@goncalomendes1512]

@@Vs-ci8sx After a while you get tired and simply want to settle down, but if the person had that lifestyle it is very very hard to change, and to be honest the ones I know like that, when they stop and get in a real relationship with a woman, end up doing it due to some particular reason such as: -the woman being toxic just like them, with a past that makes them not trustworthy at all and they cant support having a good non-toxic relationship; - The woman making the guy somehow forget someone who hurted their feelings, which won`t happen 100%, creating latter problems; - The guy spent a lot of time f"ckng different woman and it destroyed his mind, and now he has the need to feel love and true affection to fulfill the void in his mind but it hardly lasts as it should, at least in a healthy way.

[@jeremiahfisher8654]

J.Cole had this conversation years ago but now it’s profound cause others see it too

[@Destiny-jf5pb]

Absolutely LOVE this dude! He’s keepin it 100% real!

[@Ashley-ro4xz]

Bro keep throwing hit after hit after hit. I sadly had to experience the bad side of it way after it was done. I didn’t realize it affected me but there’s a whole mental thing that goes on deep under the skin of this action. I thank God I never got pregnant nor catch anything that could’ve affected me life forever. It seems fun but there’s a deep underlying problem. It’s way better to have everything planned out. You marry a person you actually love and are able to have sex with them happily without any problems. If you want kids you’re outlook sees it more of a blessing rather then something that “drags you down.” Plus you are able to plan it rather than have a kid where you’re not even sure the other person will support. God bless y’all so much bro. May God bless you and bring y’all peace from avoiding those sexual temptations. It’s a blessing in a long run to wait than do it. I had my “good experiences” and even those “good times” gave me lasting bad effects. God bless

[@Iamhimbutyouarenot]

All this is true. I too am amazed that I came out unscathed lol. Nothing like being with a good woman and building a life together.

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

kind of sleeping with many girls until find a legit ones lol, trust me the girl who likes you so much will stick to you till the end

[@Iamhimbutyouarenot]

@@ifeelhalfnaked484 100% facts. Soon as my fiancée came along, my entire outlook changed. 1 good woman is worth more than a million thots.

[@thabokgwele5268]

Lol you're amazed? Don't you screen before hookups?

[@realtruth1448]

@@Iamhimbutyouarenot don’t get married bro, even if she seems like a woman being married to, still don’t do it A man getting married is like handing over his nuts to a woman and she can crush them anytime she wants for the rest of your life, don’t get married

[@theannouncer3423]

@@realtruth1448 Nah, depends on the country

[@thexalt]

This video is truly insightful. Always loved Aba’s mind, especially for service to other people who actually look up to him. Also, I find this video ironic because Adam just smashes Lena’s friends like nothing 😂 dude is living tho

[@youtubeonbullshhidontlikeg9817]

This conversation is classic example of it’s easy to say it’s overrated when you done it already

[@witchingbrew3]

No it's statistics and medical research has shown hyper sexuality can have adverse effects to the body and mind. It's scientific fact. Like they said in this interview lust can literally destroy you. Historical fact : Al capone DIED from his vice and pride because lust took him whole and spread a sickness to his brain and functioning organs, not the violence he made. Also, get your gardisil shot. As a young person, you can save yourself from getting cancer.

[@Momsmad13]

You're comment is a classic example of needing to learn the hard way.

[@ppvplug3940]

@@witchingbrew3 …. You just don’t get it.

[@ppvplug3940]

@@Momsmad13 not every man has the luxury of learning the hard way even if they wanted to lol. I agree that too much of something is a bad thing. But I agree with his comment as well, it’s easy to say something is overrated when you’ve already done it, knowing probably more than 70% (or more) of men, would love to have the same luxury. Remember, not every guy can have that luxury.

[@not_da2159]

PPV PLUG not every guy but most dudes unless you’re butt ugly can partake in shit like this😂😂

[@amitsalam1]

This is grown man talk.

[@AKIRA-oz5cg]

prolly the smartest guest Adam has ever had on his channel