WHAT ARE ENNEAGRAM WINGS? The Simple Beginner's Guide

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

I think some of these are interesting. Especially: • 1w2/2w1 • 4w5/5w4 - Feeling Type vs Thinking Type • 6w7/7w6 - Judging Type vs Perceiving Type • 8w9/9w8 - Extroverted Type vs Introverted Type

[@KonzetayEse]

cmon dawg y u gotta skip my 2w1

[@TedFraraccio]

Whoa. This description of 9w8 really resonated with me as an ESTP who's also 9w8 because of how often people just put all 9s under a stereotype and say we're all introverted.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Here are the timecodes for the video! 💜⬇️: They also show up as chapters if you hold your cursor over the bar at the bottom of the video! What are wings? (0:22) My personal experience with my main type and wing 3w4 (1:03) How do I find my wing? (2:13) 1w9, The Idealist: (4:07) 1w2: The Advocate (4:30) 2w1: The Servant (4:47) 2w3: The Host (5:10) 3w2: The Star (5:28) 3w4: The Professional (5:46) 4w3: The Artistocrat (6:09) 4w5: The Bohemian (6:33) 5w4: The Iconoclast (7:02) 5w6: The Problem Solver (7:25) 6w5: The Defender (7:45) 6w7: The Buddy (8:08) 7w6: The Entertainer (8:32) 7w8: The Realist (8:54) 8w7: The Maverick (9:11) 8w9: The Bear (9:30) 9w8: The Comfort Seeker (9:49) 9w1: The Dreamer (10:12)

[@joeingram2262]

Wish I started here first- lol I’m a 7w6 (6w7 is close too). But I like to reflect on Times I’ve leaned on that 8 wing- didn’t realize I was coming off as superior but in hindsight that seems like it could be true.

[@SandySaysYT]

I am so fascinated with this and I would love to learn more about how to use my ennegram to improve my life!

[@dominiquecowens2826]

I am a 3w4 and can totally see how my 4 wing plays into my dominate type. My 4 wing helps me to strive for authenticity of self and to desire a deeper connection with others. I also tend to be really creative, that creativity funnels into my career minded nature to help bring color to otherwise boring things lol. I also lean into my 2 wing often by wanting to help serve others. I find myself using my administrative and creative skills to help others with their unique needs.

[@idkl4d]

**me being a 3 w 4** **abbey being a 3 w 4** also abbey: **explainjng 3 w 4 first** me: pUrrFeCt!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Jay Lestrange hehe this video is def a little something extra for 3w4s. 🤘🏼

[@fernandadealencar1158]

I just want to say that I’ve loved this video. It is a deeper step into the eneagram world

[@ariannajeliaecharri1544]

*Me being a 3w4* Now, I know myself more. THANK YOU!!!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Amazing!!

[@mollypekarek741]

You should do a video about the basics of how each type is so i can take notes not just annoying or in a relationship

[@ayeshawali4313]

You'r energy is amazing, thanks for the concise informative video!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks for watching!

[@ZAPMommy]

This was very helpful! Hearing the description about 1w9 really clicked with me. I'm definitely a 1 with the need to have things a certain way and being a rule follower but I am an introvert, accommodate what others want and can neglect self. Great timing for this - thank you!!!

[@Russianwillow13]

I relate so hard with the extreme anxiety of my type (6w5). It's the worst and I really want to work more towards health in 9

[@barbwaldron3514]

Brilliant, Abbey! So insightful!! Your vibrancy and passion are energizing and motivating. thank you for the time, research, and extraordinary production quality of your videos! I've been away from the Enneagram for a while but randomly finding you today, a God-incident, rekindled my enthusiasm for it!

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you so much Barb! That is so encouraging to me!

[@Alien-f8z]

This is just my take on it from my persepective 1w9: Focus on doing things right 1w2: Focus on doing the right thing 2w1: Helping others for their sake 2w3: Helping others for personal sake 3w2: Focus on social competiton 3w4: Focus on objective competition 4w3: Is more extroverted. More romantically expressive 4w5: Is more introverted. More artistically expressive 5w4: Takes in a lot of information but doesn't make use of it 5w6: Takes in information but makes usr of it 6w5: Focused on physical protection 6w7: Focused on social protection 7w6: Plans more qualitative goals 7w8: Plans more quantative goals 8w7: Uses power for selfishness 8w9: Uses power for selflessness 9w8: More confident 9w1: Less confident I think I need more research on Type 9w8.

[@guaaaava]

9w8 here! Ask me anything 😅

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

I hope you do a video on Tritypes and Subtypes.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Radiyha Khatun good idea!

[@luisgomessemog]

I'm an INTJ, and I was struggling with wings and enneagram. I was beteween 5w4 or 6w5, now I'm almost sure I'm 6w5.

[@anniequinnell8309]

Abby you are awesome at explaining the enneagram. I LOVE your energy😁

[@AbbeyHowe]

thanks Annie!!

[@SarahJohnson-tg5kc]

You are a gem! Thank you!!

[@doriravenwood6819]

I feel so understood now! I'm a 4w5!

[@Inqueriousfiend]

I was quite confident I was a 4w3, but after watching this video, I feel connected with a lot of the aspects of 4w5. Is it possible to "wing" differently at different levels of health or stages of life?

[@GucciStinkbug]

Two years late but yes, we all have some of both wings in ourselves (and some of every type)

[@ethanwilliamson902]

Awesome video. I love this channel. Subscribed.

[@fernandadealencar1158]

Hey Abbey, have you ever heard of balanced wings? It's when someone have both wings balanced, so you can identify strongly with both. I believe I have this, since I can see both strongly in myself and when I took the enneagram test, I got really similar scores in both wings. I actually like it, so I see myself as a Romantic Bohemian Aristocrat.

[@duckduck1342]

I am a 1w9, but I feel like that doesn’t effect me that much. The stress and growth points seem to be more prominent in my day-to-day life.💖

[@d101chandler]

Ooooh this is fun! Maybe my wing explains why I am introverted but I also like socialising? I need to find my wing now! 😁😁

[@AbbeyHowe]

Hi Daniel!! Hope you are well. 💜 Can't wait to see what you discover about your wing!

[@AquariumAA69]

Thank you for the video !!! I'm a 9w1 and I loved this video

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thanks, Heather! 💜

[@kaelz13]

Please finish the ways to love series!

[@Meg_intheclouds]

I’m defiantly a 6w7- been between 7w6 and 6w7 for a while but 6w7 defiantly Fits a lot more

[@stephaniefrancois2714]

Hi Abbey! Great work to help understand what wings are about. Ever thought anout doing the same on sub types? I would love that! xxx

[@AbbeyHowe]

great idea!!

[@Gatsu1995]

Thanks for the good series.

[@leogrrrl5876]

Thanks for the video, Abbey! ☺ (Also for Beth McCord's link- I hadn't heard of her before).

[@AbbeyHowe]

Leo Grrrl you’re welcome! ♥️ she’s great!!

[@heck4984]

Very good. Thank you!

[@wererabbit63]

I have Beth McCord’s book for enneagram 4, added bonus, it’s Christian.

[@AbbeyHowe]

ooh, how do you like it? I'm thinking of buying it for my boyfriend (he's a 4 as well)

[@wererabbit63]

Abbey Howe I like the Christian aspect, grace, God’s unconditional love but sometimes I pick up the vibe that her core audience is female so therefore it has a more feminine edge ( and there is nothing wrong with a feminine edge ). But as a man, I kind of prefer a view point from a male Christian perspective i.e how can I be the creative man God wants me to be.

[@jerrysstories711]

I just found your channel today, and I'm really enjoying your content. I'm scratching my though, trying to decide if I'm 4w5 or 5w4.

[@myoldmanbaby]

I’m a 9 with a heavy 8 wing. I deal with problems in a heavily 8ish way, though my core stuff is all 9. Here though, I identify 100% with both The Bear (8w9), and with the comfort seeker (9w8).

[@EnTeoríaIlustraciones]

I am a 5w6, sometimes I access my w4, but I mostly lean towards my w6. Also an INTP, with ADHD. So, yes, I so identify with both personality types, I'm curious by nature, and tend to use that curiosity to investigate when I need to solve something. Always learning, always trying to get creative and to do new things with what I like or learn. I feel like a burden sometimes, and that I'm hard to understand. But I love my logic-creative brain, I have lots of fun learning. If I only got paid for learning, that could be my dream job hahaha 😂

[@Undisputedkingdom24]

Awesome videos Abbey

[@AbbeyHowe]

Jozabad Sanchez thanks Jozabad!

[@blizzardfan7946]

you should definetly do a sunbeath, with more color in face you looking so good even more good than now. But thats not the point pls im really waiting for another video in your serial " how to love an ennea type " im really curious about the next ones ^^ And this video is great !! Keep going im a big fan of you !

[@andreavargas4189]

Thank you much... Bohemian indeed. 😊

[@elenaba7]

So I am definitely a 3w4 (hey there :D) and I have known that for a while, but I feel like I have a very strong tendency to the 2 wing as well especially when I am in public. Sometimes I feel like I really want to be a two because they are the kind of people I like to be around most. I'm not though, but maybe that attitude constructed a really crappie make-believe 2 wing for me 🤔

[@AmyBHaddock]

I think the make believe aspect is typical 4

[@elenaba7]

@@AmyBHaddock True. I have no doubt that I am 3w4 but even one of my best friends thought I had a very strong 2 wing

[@muthonimutonga7673]

I loooove how you do all your videos! ❤️

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm so glad Muthoni!

[@CaveyMoth]

Whoaa...so as a 5w4, my 6 wing is what I depend on to open up to the outside world and perform as well as I can at work.

[@bisratemarkos6006]

Trump is then 8w7 wing amazing!!! I am really jealous of you:) wanna pass this to my people in Amharic language. weldone you just gave me an Idea. One thing though how is your presentation clear, pationate and fluent. any program you recommend? thank you

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you Bisrate! I translated the title and description into Amharic. Unfortunately I don't have the know how to translate the subtitles. If you want to tackle that it's available for anyone to subtitle into any language!

[@bisratemarkos6006]

@@AbbeyHowe thanks you Abbey will do ...

[@Xcopyz]

7w8. 7 because I am not a focused person, I mean I've stopped videos to start others before, staying still is very difficult because I like to move around or travel or do something. I enjoy making constant jokes, and can make a joke out of every moment to bring laughter. 8: Sometimes those moments are moments where I shouldn't make jokes. I noticed that I tend to rebel more than most because I see many moments in life as a power dynamic. I don't like it when others are bullied, and because of this I got into many fights with bullies whom would try to bother a friend of mine. Once people get on my nerves, I never miss a chance to upset them or bother them.

[@AbbeyHowe]

ooh so fun reading about your personal experience as a 7w8!!

[@Beth_4]

I didnt know what my wing was before but now I'm pretty sure its 9w1 :)

[@godmode3611]

Mbti with interaction styles and temperaments also tells you why you do things.

[@AbbeyHowe]

true!

[@Xcopyz]

@@AbbeyHowe Which mbti is yours?

[@AbbeyHowe]

Blue Gunner I’m an INFJ!

[@godmode3611]

@@AbbeyHowe All mbti youtubers are INFJ... I am ENFJ, and I think I am Type 1, but I also resonate with 8 and 4.

[@CliffordStarks1]

Interesting 8w9 thanks for the info 😊🙏

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

9w8 here. I couldn’t hear this video because of the sound of the nachos I was eating. What was that you said about pleasure seeking?

[@terseduck]

This video is perfect! But still I'm so confused whether I'm a 4w5 or 5w4. Nevertheless, you put so much dedication in this video. Thank you and may your channel get bigger because you deserve it!☘😊💗

[@ladyboss4591]

Thank you so much. This helps a lot. I took the test and my top scores are 8, 9 and 3. All of them are just one point away from each other with the 8 is the highest. My question is, what type am I and what are my wings? I am not sure which one to take since they are so close to each other and which wings do I take? thanks

[@carolfinn4027]

9w1 totally!

[@hummusat3am423]

How does type 8 and 9 mesh? They seem like polar opposites

[@OAV4]

That moment you finally discover that you are a 7 but then you still need to figure out your wing god have mercy on my poor adhd soul

[@ugib.6280]

I m 7 w 1. I love life and experiences but I need control and clean everything. Also I need to have a job ( but I can quit if I don't like it ) to let me do wherever I want with the money and to do wherever I want w my free time. Bisous from France!

[@penelopetremblay]

question here! if my enneagram is 5, but i dont lean towards 4 or 6 for my wings, can I just be a five , no wings?

[@sara.the.muggle]

4w5 married to a 1w2 for 11 years now. We have fun 😂 He's amazing.

[@CuddleClaw.]

Good video! Im ISTP 4w5, 6w5, 9 (I grew my 8 wing so I think they’re more balanced now). As a child I was self pres, but I eventually grew tired of being afraid and became counter phobic, and my sexual instinct became hyperactive, which led me into trauma bonding relationships. Now that I’m healthier, I think my self pres and sexual instincts are more balanced. It’s the social instinct that I have the most difficult time with. It’s difficult connecting with others on a superficial level, I get easily bored and start to feel lonely around them. I don’t know how to fix that; maybe it doesn’t need to be fixed. I have inner peace now the way my life is. But I’m open to hearing any tips if anybody has any.

[@francesca.pellegrino]

Okay, cool! What do I do with this information? I went down this rabbit hole. Cool, I'm an 8w9. Now what? How can this information be used to help me become my best self?

[@radiyhakhatun1041]

I'm either 1w9 or 5w6. Someone may ask what's the difference between 9w1 and 1w9 or 5w6 and 6w5.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Think of the wings as just a flavoring of the main type! Like putting seasoning on popcorn!

[@leogrrrl5876]

Hopefully not to complicate things, but you may have both 1 & 5 in your tritype. Also, there is a connecting line between 9 & 6 in regards to health/stress that you may find applicable.

[@claricelee7173]

Is it normal to resonate with 5w4 and 9w8 ? As in having a little bit of both ? But I do think that I lean more on 5w4 , not sure about the left/right brain part but I can say that I like science and art . Now , the 9w8 part , I do what I like majority of the time and I do try to solve difficult situations with a peaceful outcome where both sides get what they want/need . If you say I'm a great leader , I think not but if I have to , I will try .

[@Shiri_Yam]

I'm a 9w8 but for some reason I can also relate to 4w5 a lot.. interesting

[@mackenziejackson6797]

Strange thing when I took the test, I basically have two Enneagrams,(5 and 8), I got 58% on both and that was my highest percentage! Please explain?

[@melocottom9828]

I think I'm a 9w8 but I didn't developed very well my 8 wing and it looks like I'm more like 9w1, although I don't like just not expressing my needs so I'm confused

[@jenannlynn]

I am obsessed w/your videos but I've been so confused, too! When I read "The Road Back To You" at 1st I thought I might be a 1 until I read #3, & it was totally me. I have a lot of #6 & #9 traits, which are in the same triad. But in your videos, I do more of the #1 things (I'm super competitive, & like a chameleon, which are 3 things, but super organized, & do a lot of things that a 1 would do). I attributed that to the fact that at age 30, I was basically "re-born after a massive brainstem stroke. Or my OCD-personality makes me look like a 1. iI finally watched this video. I am totally a 3 w 4. I have some 1 w 0, but none of 1 w 2, ^ everything in 3 w 4...so now I'm totally confused

[@likeatinglass]

hello fellow 4w5s 🤠

[@emilynelson1236]

likeatinglass heyyyyy

[@AbbeyHowe]

😂

[@Jonwatchin]

Present!! 🙋🏻‍♂️

[@ethanwilliamson902]

sup

[@savannahprice9041]

Hiya!

[@usersuer]

Mine says I'm most likely 9. Taking wings into account, I'm 4w5. I thought wings were supposed to be the numbers beside my main number? I'm confused.

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm confused! Can you explain further? Your wings are the two numbers on either side of your main number.

[@usersuer]

@AbbeyHowe I thought so too! I wish I can attach the screenshot! It literally says “your are most likely a type 9. Taking wings into account, you seem to be 4w5” 😳

[@usersuer]

Abbey Howe btw I just started watching your enneagram playlist! It’s really fun 😊

[@JaxTracer]

now When learning about everything to get to the wings, I first Thought i was maybe type 1w/9/2, Now it's possible I might be Type 2w3, Ima take those test's now.

[@KonzetayEse]

AMAZING VIDEO❤️❤️❤️

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you Vismo!!

[@Alien-f8z]

I wonder how it would be like if Type 1w9 interacted with Type 7w8 because of idealism vs realism.

[@user-yh6uh3gd8j]

are you able to answer my question? because i got type 5 but then my wing 4 and 6 are both 76%. And ignoring my wings, 5 and 8 were my highest so do i completely set 8 aside or does it mean anything?

[@dovio832]

An healthy 5 will tend to go too the 8. You can see the wings as who you are and then there is what we calls the arrow and it's the type that you should try to takes all of the good side of for your own personal growth

[@Kikketta11ify]

Actually i think my wings don’t really influence me, like if i’m more of a “pure” type, is that possible?

[@AbbeyHowe]

I'm honestly not really sure!

[@mostafaabd-rabbu5256]

4w5 6w5 9w1

[@alanhowe851]

Like Paul McCartney, I use my “wings” to Live and Let Die.

[@AbbeyHowe]

🤣

[@momentsformoms9467]

I’m about half of them.

[@innanninna]

2w3 ACCURATE

[@yobhsiFehT]

😂😂❤️ I just gotta say, the more I get into Enneagram, the more I try NOT to make hard assertions about somebody’s type, but about ten seconds into the video, I thought, “MAN, she’s gotta be a 3! I feel like she talks like a 3! 😳” 😂 Aaand then you confirm this about a minute in 🤷🏼‍♂️😇😄 But I DO say this with love and some direct, experiential sympathy as a Social 4w5 who can, when I do get more into my 3 wing, very much just run right over anything and everything in my path without meaning to at all 😬😝 lol/smh Anyway, onto the other ten minutes of this video, I just thought I’d share that (#socialfourproblems), and I appreciate you already! 😄

[@renstarburst4472]

4 - 99% The Individualist 7 - 86% The Enthusiast 5 - 85% The Investigator 6 - 74% The Loyalist 2 - 71% The Helper 8 - 67% The Challenger 1 - 61% The Reformer 9 - 58% The Peacemaker 3 - 47% The Archiver Made test lead ennegram is 4 and INFP-T, but don't know still my wing

[@jonathanterol4528]

Still don’t know what wings are. And I didn’t make the enneagram system, so why the heck would I go with my gut and fill it in myself?

[@termitesc.aardwolf3644]

I'm an INTJ 5w6 with strong 9w8 tendencies (I kinda have anger management problems).

[@grassfedmilkmomma]

My result of 6w7 is incorrect. I only act like a 6 when i dont know where all the exits are. Other than that i swear im 9w1

[@milky_wave7289]

How about 562

[@kaitlyntaylor7977]

I love you

[@drewstannard4821]

Just go with your gut People in the head triad: nervous breathing

[@ZombieInvader]

I can't tell if I'm a 6w5 or a 5w6

[@jaeshell]

Am I the only 5w4 who can never balance their left and right brain? It’s like they’re at war 24/7 which gets really frustrating

[@AbbeyHowe]

Jannatul Ferdous interesting! Can you explain that a little more?

[@leogrrrl5876]

No, you're not alone on that! ☺

[@jaeshell]

Abbey Howe I think I kinda worded it wrong it’s more like I can’t balance my head and heart so since I have a really strong 4 wing I feel a lot of intense emotions which gets too much for my dominant type five brain. I start to intellectualize those emotions and get irritated when they don’t make sense or are simply illogical. Then I have this fear that because of these strong emotions I might lose touch with the logical side of me and act irrationally. Also because of my four wing I can be kind of sensitive at towards criticism and what other people think about me which further frustrates my five brain. As a five I also am a very private person but because of my four wing I tend to want to emotionally connect with people by expressing my feelings. That once again makes my five self very uncomfortable.

[@ooppii1]

Hmm I might be a 8w9 not an 8w7..

[@julesdm6905]

I'm 9 w 8

[@anomallie]

Abbey: *Talks about wings Me: *Starts having a craving for chicken wings

[@AbbeyHowe]

Allieloops HAHAHAHHA YES

[@AbbeyHowe]

Buffalo Wild Wings!!!

[@kaitlyntaylor7977]

I think I am a 9w8

[@zellelietta1553]

I think I'm a 5w6