Why Solitude Promotes Greatness - The Benefits of Being Alone

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[@DesertStateInEU]

And I noticed the exact opposite in a certain group of people, the group that lean a certain way politically. The same group that overwhelmingly try to force us onto mass transit, crowded urban hellscapes, and absolutely screech at everything that even resembles individualism. This same group has embraced a collectivist mentality, sheep/mob mentality to its fullest extent. They can't stand for even a second to be alone in any way. They can't think alone. They can't exist alone. They can't function alone. Its a real shame how some people locked themselves into a psychological prison and their true potential will never be realized. Wasted their being, their existence.

[@egrytznr8893]

Correction: Jacob wrestled with "God" in the desert, Jesus was tempted by "the devil" during his 40 day fast in the desert.

[@aavezshams]

I have been following your videos since 4 or 5 yrs may be and I am impressed how your core messages resonates well with that of Islam. You must read the life of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ . He was hands down the greatest man to have ever lived. An exemplary leader and warrior. Epitome of humility and bravery.

[@gregorykelly8000]

I can have solitude in public, can you?

[@t3dwards13]

Wow...This explains Me.

[@neilrushton7169]

"I only go out into society to get me a fresh appetite for being alone." -- Lord Byron

[@ransbarger]

I love that. Thank you.

[@lilblackduc7312]

I understand that.

[@jeanmitchell5834]

Love it

[@SubManifest]

Every. Single . Time.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Lord Byron read my very own mind...

[@billbritt8833]

Four years ago I cared for my dying mother for 7 months. While gone caring for my mother my wife decided to cheat. This was during the COVID shutdown. Once my mother died the very next day my wife asked for a divorce. I divorced her and moved 1500 miles away into a small cabin I bought in the forests of Missouri. The solitude gave me peace of mind and an understanding of myself and my worth. After three years I joined a small country church with less than 25 people in attendance. I spent Sundays and Wednesday evenings in social discourse with the members of the church but maintained solitude in my home. I have never been more a peace with myself and the world in general.

[@hotrox2112]

"Inspired"!...

[@rdallas81]

I hope you're doing well my brother. God through Jesus is the answer.. I hope your solitude increases your wisdom- Wisdom is from God.

[@Riley_04]

May God shine his light upon you my friend. I couldn’t imagine that happening to anyone bro. I hope all is well.

[@rubyclark7595]

💙💙💙

[@ms.suzylee2932]

That was tough stuff to endure! Dang! I mean the caring for a dying parent is in and of itself hard stuff! Then this one-two from the wife seems extremely unkind aka heartless yet it's better to be free of someone like this Being free isn't everyone's cup of tea Nor is being Peaceful 🕊️

[@fearthehoneybadger]

Periods of solitude allow you to reset yourself and digest your experiences.

[@_permanence]

Just remember not to become too comfortable with the isolation…

[@someguy861]

...Just not necessarily in that order.

[@mozdickson]

Good insight. And those 2 replies are just as good. My sense is that time alone in nature walking or working with hands would cure many many modern ills.

[@JustinMetanoia]

@@someguy861!!!

[@dee764]

​@@_permanenceWhy not?

[@aleidius192]

"Not everyone who is alone is lonely" I would add that not everyone who is lonely is alone. One can drown in others without any positive connection to any of them.

[@roystonboodoo7525]

Yep, one can be lonely in a crowd or of the like.

[@ArtLoverScotland]

I was lonely in a 23 year marriage.

[@goeroe1536]

Good you broke free!

[@alecfoster4413]

"One can drown in others without any positive connection to any of them." Yep! My 30 plus years in corporate Amerika ("shudder"). Retired now. :)

[@PaulElmont-fd1xc]

Well said! I am surrounded by many people everyday and I feel totally isolated. Most of them are woke. I look forward to getting out of here and living in the mountains all alone. Then I won't be lonely anymore.

[@justdriveon]

I have adopted a minimalistic, solitary life and I have never felt more whole and happy.

[@pesh909]

It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. -seneca

[@bitkurd]

You are not happy, happy people don’t have time to watch youtube 😂

[@HarryLime49]

@@bitkurd Unless they enjoy learning from it. I've learnt many skills from it and when I'm working from home regard a day when I don't learn something as a wasted day.

[@DiegoB0525]

​@Victor-xw3ws I'm a minimalist and happy as well. And I'm subscribed to this channel to learn more.

[@DiegoB0525]

​@@bitkurdwe watch KZbin to expand our knowledge. You're confusing tiktok with KZbin videos.

[@queenofscots839]

As an artist, solitude is as priceless as time…

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

As a human being.

[@jackholtorf7435]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied all beings are truly artists in the very art of being

[@andrewbeattie9918]

As a fellow artist I totally understand.

[@fineartist7710]

I am an artist, a painter and love to be alone in my studio drawing, painting, thinking. I also teach art workshops in my home studio twice a week to wonderful adult students who seek self expression and creativity in their lives. Solitude is priceless for growth as a human being, but also balancing that with positive social interaction is good and wholesome.

[@LarryWilliamsArtist]

YES.

[@MIOLAZARUS]

Solitude is the only way to avoid group thinking and behavior ❤

[@csj9619]

WORD!

[@clearbrain]

Very interesting ❤❤❤

[@n8_b_h]

I love being alone. It’s never ever lonely. It’s rejuvenating and enthralling.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Enthralling?

[@turtleanton6539]

Indeed🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@SIERRATREES]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied yes - enthralling, if you have a interests and use the wide open space of time to grow and evolve.

[@ladybird491]

Why are you online? You are not alone if you are chatting online

[@Chris-dt5td]

Thanks God your parents did not choose solitude, otherwise you would not exist.

[@avigmes9738]

Solitude transformed me in ways that other people, including therapists and relatives, never could. All I had to do for two years during this pandemic was "look in the mirror" and listen to the voice that guides me, my conscience, about what I really want in life and act even if just 1% of it. As Camus quotes: "Moving forward , just moving forward, is already a superhuman achievement"

[@phoenixbleu1730]

💚

[@monicaramirez51015]

😊thank you for sharing 😊

[@avigmes9738]

@@monicaramirez51015 yeah, solitude is the bless that I give for me every single day 🔥

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

I wouldn’t call it “super-human”. The plandemic backfired on its inflictors, for this very reason.

[@lilblackduc7312]

Until now, I hadn't realized that the 'psychological dysfunction' of being an Introvert was a true blessing!

[@ArtLoverScotland]

I love my solitude. Actively embrace it. I can think, create and breathe. Never lonely as i enjoy being alone

[@phoenixbleu1730]

💚 same!

[@coppcar]

Same ❤

[@alleycat9369]

Same here, I love it.

[@bitkurd]

Lonely people reunion ❤

[@Shh_kult]

Love observing others,from a distance

[@UnschoolingCOM]

“If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.” ~ Paulo Coelho

[@crosstolerance]

"Hell is other people," is a such a sober realization about the influencial power that people pin against each other.

[@Sweethands4]

that's mostly innocence & stupidy though 🙂

[@ladybird491]

That includes you, cause you are other people to other people.

[@elsaaforges]

This statment is a precious gem. No more truth can be told with fewer words.

[@dystopiandream7134]

Everyone has 3 faces. One they show the world, one they show the ones they love, and one only themselves see.

[@turtleanton6539]

Faxxx😊

[@Stophurtingmelol]

Shogun has this quote

[@lancelotdufrane]

Independent life and solitude. These days of insanity have given me an even deeper gratitude of my quiet choice. Listen, read, and create as I choose. It’s a personal perspective.

[@BC-yd6dl]

I don't have a lot of friends anymore. I've always been a bit reclusive, but I spent a great portion of my 20s being very social and I regret most of it. Most social interactions these days revolve around binge drinking and doing drugs. Since I quit drinking and I don't do any drugs, I find most social gatherings totally inane and quite boring.

[@sahamal_savu]

Binge drinking and doing drugs is absolutely what most social gatherings are about. And it's not sitting around doing illicit drugs per se. Just "going out with a friend for coffee" fits the definition. Hell, you could even say the same about meeting a friend and getting an ice cream cone; refined sugar is undeniably a drug. We often neglect to acknowledge just how many drugs we consume.

[@BC-yd6dl]

@@sahamal_savu Very interesting point. But I'm talking about alcohol and marijuana mostly. I actually find it troubling how much of the common person's waking hours are spent under the influence of one of the two. I found social gatherings totally pointless because as soon as you get there you are supposed to immediately start consuming drugs and most become totally different people. One of my friends literally could not bring himself to speak to a woman unless he was drunk. I just left all that garbage behind me.

[@TheSarahJane33]

They’re boring with the drugs too 🤣

[@danielkemp7788]

I would acknowledge that more time is required in social gatherings where those influences are absent. It takes time to adjust & acquire more substance to be able to hold discussions worthy of meaning. Previously you had consumption of drugs/alcohol that would alter the environment & allow it to be easier to talk about almost nothing & keep it superficial. Then you may find, it is different people you may need with your new found values for the protection of your mind & body.

[@lancenorton1572]

Finding a great book can be like finding a great friend.

[@easter_sunday]

I have lived a life in solitude for over 50 years. I do not know if I will ever achieve excellence in my labors, but I won't stop trying.

[@musselchee9560]

They're your labors. Conjured up by your thinking and your thinking alone. Your ideas are mini goals. Whenever you achieve your goals the outcome is success. Success through experience from an idea fills a need and therefore should be celebrated. You'd have learned something which augurs well for all your future ideas. Even greater success is achieved when goals are carried out alone.

[@Ribqah-ql4jf]

I live in solitude right in Memphis,TN. Most people think I'm crazy but, I know that I'm sane. I have no physical job. However, I know who I am, where I've been and where I going when I am no longer in this physical body. My job is staying "SANE" in an otherwise "INSANE" society! I don't know what tomorrow will bring but, today, this moment I'm alive and breathing. I do my best to stay in the "Moment" because I know there will never be another one like it. So I've learned to be greedy with my moments alone. SHALOM and Peace to all, just "BE". The Universe will take care of the rest..........

[@turtleanton6539]

Indeed😊

[@pedrosherpa5848]

In the top 20 moments of my life 80% of them where alone. 45 days alone in the Himalayas is still my defenition of freedom

[@Aronnax777]

How did you afford that? Or do you live in Nepal?

[@nero2814]

I live in uttarakhand I have 3 houses in three different hill stations. I'm super rich 😂😂😂

[@arthurkennington5578]

That’s awesome

[@vamoncho]

I cant be in a flow state when entangled with other people in some way. I healed severe anxiety and physical health issues with solitude

[@brushstroke3733]

I thought I had lived in solitude for ten years, then I realized I hadn't. I had KZbin around me all the time, populating my head with so many outside influences.

[@21stCenturyTemplar.]

That's actually a very strong and brave thing to see and admit! 👍

[@DanielZamarripa]

That's actually kinda sad

[@brushstroke3733]

@@DanielZamarripa That's very charitable of you. I would characterize it as pathetic myself.

[@APsGTG]

I’d call that a semi-isolation. One in which you are in solitude, but are taking in information. Today’s world is probably the best to ever be in solitude in, because you can keep learning and growing via the internet without HAVING to around others all day long.

[@JuliahFL]

​@@brushstroke3733How are you doing now?

[@artawhirler]

There's an old joke that "Whoever says money can't buy happiness isn't spending it right." In the same spirit, I would say that anybody who doesn't love solitude isn't spending it right. 😅

[@cristianm7097]

Lol, I read that as "... isn't spelling it right" and I thought the misspelling is money v/s monkey. A monkey can't buy happiness.

[@mhopi9744]

😂😂

[@turtleanton6539]

Indeed😊

[@azurebapiaries6730]

Well said

[@ThySpokethDionysus]

I felt understood by this video. The need for solitude is something I have and I am often criticized for it. The freedom and bliss it gives me. The opportunity for true deep learning and work. I deeply love my friends and family, by in solitude is where I feel the most at peace.

[@manhattanvi]

No friends since high school, been chasing my goals alone. Theres highs and lows and its not for everyone. Im at the point where I want my house and car away from any big city and other people. Ive found solace in what I have and my goals alongside movies, books, podcasts and travel

[@Shh_kult]

😊❤

[@lancenorton1572]

Me too. Much better for it.

[@Fair-to-Middling]

You touched on how we stare at screens to relieve our aloneness. And many jobs demand screens. This makes us less 'free' than we once were. But we can still take time in our days to turn everything off. To just sit and be. Preferably outside in nature. 🌳🐦🌻

[@craigmason9893]

I was thinking something similar a couple days ago

[@turtleanton6539]

I do everyday😊

[@christymcpeake9382]

“They are playing a game. They are playing at not playing a game. If I show them I see they are, I shall break the rules and they will punish me. I must play their game, of not seeing I see the game” ― R.D. Laing Thank you for mentioning Laing! Please do so some more!

[@phoenixbleu1730]

Absolutely! 2020 was my best year. During the chaos of the quarantine, I overcame my life-long anxiety. I fortunately worked outside of my home alone as well. I cultivated healthy new habits and learned to love my solitude. I remember one day on my way to work, driving (which was once incredibly stressful due to my anxiety) that my fretfulness was gone. From childhood, I walked around as if there were someone constantly behind me scratching relentlessly on a chalkboard, then it ceased. What a relief it is! Solitude is my medicine that I take often and it is so good. I've learned to master myself through the quiet times I steal for myself. I'm a wonderful friend to myself there.

[@annanderson1470]

Love your comment. My severe anxiety is gone as well. At 58, it has been a huge, hellish part of my life since childhood. I left a comment, too. I love being alone but I do have my granddaughters and my church family. But I love "keeping to myself" LoL..Peace and Blessings sister 🙏🙏🙏

[@kenputer56]

​@@annanderson1470mastering one's self is strength

[@stayfree6115]

Learned that most people are sheep, institutions liers, science bought, Who had principles and strength. And who was guided by fear, or would take the faustian bargain. And found my inner guide. And some true friends.

[@bitkurd]

You wrote 2 paragraphs in a KZbin video comment section about how calm you’re 😂 please try another perspective

[@PierreLouisGagnon]

Another quote on solitude I appreciate, from the psychology of self-reliance video : “It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance)

[@Pazaluz]

thank you for sharing that, it's a great quote.

[@dominionthemovieisreality1181]

"To live alone is the fate of all great souls." - Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) who also said: "Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people." This is why I relish my solitude living alone with my beloved companion animal.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

This dude lacks humility.

[@elsaaforges]

So what? Why must a genius be humble? As Nietzsche would say, humility is a christian value, so to be forgotten.

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@DarkLouie76]

I love my alone time. I traveled for work for many years and on my own I seek out places and travel by myself because I don't want somebody else's constant input. Heading to the cabin in the woods in May by myself and I'm looking forward to the solitude. I enjoy the quiet, I enjoy going for hikes on my own and not running into anybody else and hearing the silence of nature.

[@rawfoodphilosophy7061]

time is passing by so very fast, I'm 45 and feel I'm getting close to the end. Looking forward to retirement if I can make it

[@DarkLouie76]

@@rawfoodphilosophy7061 seems to go by quicker as we get older. Just try to enjoy every chance you get to have some time yourself. Sometimes I'll jump on an airplane and fly to four different cities in a day and just hang out in airports, and I like flying, so I just put in my earbuds and tune everybody else out and do my thing.

[@rawfoodphilosophy7061]

I'd give anything for a few more years, I can feel the end coming@@DarkLouie76

[@ekurisona663]

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” ― Blaise Pascal, Pensées

[@TheNoboful]

Thank you, perfect timing for this, I just have embraced solitude after falling in love with a narcissist briefly, triggering and healing a lot of traumas and learning so much about myself and life in process. I have suffered greatly, it's even astonishing for me because I thought I had grown so much stronger through the years, but the pain manages to exceed what I thought would be possible. The game of love is still pretty new to me so I am definitely sailing in the unknown waters which is scary as fuck, but the fear I feel is decreasing little by little and my courage is rising at a steady pace. Much love to all you warriors of life.

[@cobaincowboy7029]

Hey broski my last two ex's were narcs and had horrible mental health issues. I have my own problems too but no one deserves that Hit the gym, eat healthy, and Chanel's like these will help us reach out full potential God bless brother

[@sahamal_savu]

I envy you in that it was brief. I spent 25 years with a narcissist and didn't realize it until I began to educate myself after decades of torture. It's been over two years since I finally managed to get out on my own, but I think it'll take a very long time (if ever) to heal from all the absolute insanity I've endured. Choosing to live in complete solitude and immersing myself in philosophical study has helped tremendously. Much love to you as well.

[@TheNoboful]

@@sahamal_savu Yes, I was lucky for running into a narcissist earlier in my life, it was a girl I tried to pursue but she luckily didn't want me. That made prepared for this relationship. Researching narcissism once again has made me so sad reading about destinies like you, for me it was only 2 month period while keeping my distance since I noticed something off about her immediately and it still had such an effect on me. I can't even think about how multiple years let alone decades of narcissistic abuse will do to a person :( so sorry, but glad you finally got out! For me this definitely was a strengthening experience, for you it will take a lot of effort to overcome I am sure but don't lose hope. Having faith is a big thing in coping even though it might seem self deception.

[@DAH81-hh2hu]

❤😊

[@passingtraveller114]

The quiet stillness of solitude allows for deep reflection away from the constant noise and distraction of modern life. In isolation from the daily bustle, one can look inward and confront both their fears and regrets without the pressure of judgement from others. It is in these solitary moments that a person truly discovers who they are and what they believe. Do they have the inner strength and moral fortitude to withstand uncertainty, or will they compromise their principles in search of approval? For too long our society has valued popularity over character, losing sight of the virtues of faith, integrity and personal responsibility that were once held in such high regard. Time alone with one's thoughts is also an opportunity to strengthen weakened faith or rediscover the spiritual foundations that provide meaning and purpose. Without distractions, we are forced to face ourselves and our place in the world, answering life's most profound questions. In solitude the decline of morality in wider society cannot be ignored, and each individual must decide whether to stand up for what they know to be right even if it goes against the crowd. The choices we make during these solitary reflections shape our lives and reveal the depth of our character.

[@mariecait]

I live alone with my cats and retired at 32. I never have to answer emails or answer anyone. I’m very grateful. I love minimally.

[@perpetualgrin5804]

You beat me retired at 56 with my cat. Your never alone with a cat.😅

[@mariecait]

@@perpetualgrin5804 it’s heaven. Less is more.

[@tsuken]

Envy.

[@spreaderofhatred]

Woah a 17 years old account 😮

[@ErikamGar]

Great for you!! 🎉young and can enjoy life, we dont have to wait till getting old! ☺️ Im 36, and at 32 I finished building my house in the countryside, because I knew the city life was not for me. I also live with my cats and dogs. I've never felt so joyful before 😭

[@freedomrings.0007]

This is so true. It is very hard to get through on an emotional level because it causes you to face a lot of things that normally we refuse to but once you get past that, it empowers you in a way that will change your life for the better.

[@asherbt924]

The more powerful and original a mind, the more one steers towards the religion of solitude - Aldous Huxley

[@lancenorton1572]

Like that a lot. Thanks.

[@mandybaker3689]

...Religion of Solitude,.. 🥰 👍

[@Sakuma_san]

So thats the feeling whenever you work on something and are alone you dont fear making mistakes because of the freedom of making those mistakes and then being able to correct them but when someone watches or glimpses over your work the mistake will always exist in the mind of others and so in your own.

[@jarvishamill7717]

You should never fear making mistakes regardless.

[@Sakuma_san]

@@jarvishamill7717its not much fear of making the mistake but the possible judgement of those around you, something that you cant really escape because of the human nature of being a social animal.

[@alleycat9369]

I don’t consider it a mistake if I caught it and corrected it.

[@jeanmitchell5834]

great point

[@gan5045]

The trick is, when forced to judge yourself when confronted by the observations of others, be kind, forgiving, generous, understanding and have humility. I'm still a little hard on myself but it's only because I love myself enough to become better. This skill takes practice, so I apply it to others and that makes it easier on myself.

[@cbrashsorensen]

I love my husband dearly but afternoon solo walks with the dog are precious to the health of my soul. Oliver is the perfect companion.

[@artawhirler]

Retirement was flat-out the best thing I ever did. In winter I often go for days at a time without ever opening my door.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

I do this, in all seasons. But when I am interacting in the external world, I am perfectly warm, friendly and open. I enjoy people very much. But I also enjoy the opposite.

[@alleycat9369]

I like to see visitors come by as much as when they leave.

[@bitkurd]

That’s depression 😢

[@bitkurd]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied👌

[@JtothePrez]

@@bitkurd And you're qualified to diagnose that off a single sentence, I presume?

[@clevelandwilliams5922]

Solitude gives you the ability to see further in future, assess circumstances or events and the actions taken that will create or generate an outcome. This is how a person in solitude is able to compare, contrast, forecast and see the situation from Eagle perspective.

[@BrandonKratz-ey5qd]

Thats why they never leave you alone

[@jcs27]

The glowies you mean right

[@fauberkaupfmann982]

A fellow T.I, i see😌

[@Paul_Marek]

This was perfect. The "solitude is loneliness" trope was getting old and I never understood it because I get so much value, growth and productivity out of solitude. Thanks, yet again!

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@Paul_Marek]

@@DesolateSolitude Love this. Thx.

[@Earl_E_Burd]

14:15 "When other people are not present, most of us stare at screens to distract ourselves" hey, wait a minute

[@DannyWJaco]

😂

[@n8_b_h]

Make sure you go for a walk after the video to think about the video without a screen. 😊

[@BlackJesus8463]

@@n8_b_h lol

[@clearintentions6182]

it was a thing before the internet.

[@MIOLAZARUS]

😂😂😂

[@waedjradi]

I have been on my own since 8 years of age, after my parents passed away. 24 years later and I still enjoy the solitude.

[@rideforever]

Solitude is a privilege for intellectuals in a society that is not under attack.

[@michaelh13]

Society is always under attack, everything is in constant flux, change is the only constant, there is nothing new under the sun, this time is not unique

[@MarkTLarry]

Solitude is refusing attachment. Your choice.

[@michaelh13]

Society is always under attack, everything is in constant flux, change is the only constant, there is nothing new under the sun, this time is not unique

[@dominionthemovieisreality1181]

@rideforever Oh, no, not the PRIVILEGE. Way to denigrate something good by making it seem undesirable and using BUZZ WORDS.

[@egrytznr8893]

@@dominionthemovieisreality1181 people treat it more like an entitlement than a privilege, like they don't even have to participate in or contribute to society at all.

[@annanderson1470]

Love, love, love my own company. It's sad when a person cannot learn to appreciate their own company. Peace and Blessings 🙏🙏🙏

[@mikaelaraymond4690]

As someone who's lived in crippling isolation for years despite all my efforts being told "just enjoy it"... I can barely stand it.

[@More_Row]

I like my own company, but you can't learn to appreciate it as a way of life as we are social creatures. It's ingrained to need and have connections.

[@annanderson1470]

@@More_Row Of course we need others but not numerous people in our lives. My granddaughters, church family and finally I have reconnected with an old friend who I am seeing now. He likes being alone as well. We have learned to navigate this quite well. Too many people and things can go awry. Spending time in the word of God alone has brought many blessings. Please try it . Blessings to you and your family 🙏🙏🙏

[@annanderson1470]

@@mikaelaraymond4690 So sorry to hear about your forced, I would say, aloneness. It should be a choice never something that you feel you must do. My enjoying solitude comes from years of abuse, severe anxiety.. you can draw your conclusions. I was a social butterfly in my youth. But I always liked my quiet time alone. Since 2019 I have lived alone, watched no television, just read and studied the word of God. All the demons are gone! I fasted and prayed. But I wasn't entirely alone. My oldest granddaughter would spend weekends with me and go to church with me. It is what you make of it. Don't listen to what "they" say. Put your own words on it. Please put Jesus first in your life and everything else will be added unto you. We don't have much time left in this world. I pray that you will come to this knowledge because we are at the end of the Age. This life is fading quickly and you will be out of your misery. Then where will you go? Make Jesus Christ your Savior before it is too late. Then you will have Hope and you will be able to endure what hell you are going through. I will be praying for you Mikaela. May you find strength through the storms. Peace and Blessings 🙏💖

[@More_Row]

@@annanderson1470 Thank you for the nice reply, blessings to you and yours as well.

[@mikaelaraymond4690]

I've been ostracized, isolated and alone for years and years. No amount of introspection or self-improvement, which I was all about at one point, makes it okay. I'm sure some periods of loneliness can be helpful but this is NOT how we were meant to live. I did not deserve this.

[@ahmadsarr4277]

I hope you’re are okay now

[@fineartist7710]

I understand you, and what I have learned is to "let go". Let go of the past and live here and now and get going with the activities you love and you will see how everything changes. Just try this for a week and then two and three and life will change as you get active in the present with your passions....Just Do IT!!!!!

[@alienonion4636]

I found myself in my early 50s feeling somewhat lonely and left out. I began pining for Saturday night dates. I never went anywhere to meet people. But I began Saturdays at noon with opera on my radio while I cleaned house, washed clothes and organized my pantry. Then I showered and put on comfy clothes and perfume and made myself a nice dinner that I ate by candlelight listening to another radio program. Knitting to folk music in the evening with my cat glued to my side. After awhile I no longer pined for a date because I could have a date with myself whenever I wanted. I'm not vulnerable to dating anyone who doesn't resonate with me because I no longer have a need. I've satisfied my own need.

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@jenn8767]

The difference is choice, you had no choice. Just like Covid lockdowns, this was thrust upon you. Some of us choose to be alone, we are fulfilled my long stretches of life just like how we wouldn’t like being forced into long stretches of socialising. I hope you’re in a better place.

[@Cneqq]

I was alone all my life up until age 24 (last year) I had to flee from my country at age 9, then again at age 18 and had a mental rebirth at age 18 and turned my life around from 18 to 24 and was alone but loved myself and accomplished the impossible. After that I tried to let people into my life and after three relationships I find myself broken and I've been in a constant cycle of pain since March 2023. I made the heartrending choice to tell the person I wanted to spend my life with that we couldn't be together for now until we have more means to make it possible and it has plunged me to the very depths of hell that I haven't seen since 2017. I love them and they love me so much and yet It's not possible for now and likely years and after no recovery for a year of very bad events it has all come back to me tenfold and now I have lost everything it feels like. I've clearly had a mental breakdown but I just hope it can turn into a mental rebirth that leads to greater health that in the future I'll attune back into my solitude and arise as someone who can once again give to someone my everything like I've done and was tortured for.

[@mrrutledge1967]

Good example of the "observer effect". Have a campsite away from everyone for some time then have a person set up camp near you and what is being observed as well as the observer change.

[@mandybaker3689]

​@@nonya.bizness Please, keep dancing anyway 🌹💜

[@elainebmack]

The quote from R.D. Laing (around 5:20) reminded me of something I once tried - planning a week-long family trip to a summer vacation spot I had visited with a friend and her family. I loved the time I spent with my friend and her family and thought my own family would really enjoy the place. When I proposed the trip to my family the reception was okay, a bit lukewarm, but I still thought they would go along with the idea. Seven of us were in the group. My mom was the first to say she didn't want to go, and it went downhill from there. Everyone else backed out because my mom didn't want to go, except one sister. We went, just the two of us, but I found she was a real drag, passively sitting around waiting for me to take the lead. I still loved the place, so I decided to go alone the next time. It was WONDERFUL!!! 40 years later, I have never traveled with ANYONE ever again. It's so true that, "...getting them to have fun is not fun. It is hard work."

[@Helm-w1q]

I never invisioned being a great man. I realized quite young that I neither had the ego nor the humility. All I have ever wanted was to be left to myself.

[@turtleanton6539]

Indeed😮

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@neugey]

I'm an entrepreneur and it's been so invigorating to build my product alone without the bindings of trying to share or parse development duties with others.

[@timewilltell7409]

Very insightful. In grad school I often visited a quiet pond off my running/walking path, and found it to induce peace of mind. It was a brief respite from the energy of others and vital to my mental health.

[@Zsg436]

Best solitude moments- surrounded by trees, natural water, birds chirping, silence around with food to eat and water to drink, lots of natural sunlight and other natural resources as needed.

[@theelectricorigins846]

One of your BEST VIDEOS so far. Congratulations because of your *INDIVIDUATION* (Jungian) process.

[@D-train69]

I'm the happiest by my self. Nothing happens that I didn't make happen. They say it's selfish but if you don't use your time on yourself then you give your time away for reasons that yourself doesn't agree with 100% of the time.

[@ph6560]

The message of this video is on the money and something that must be spread more frequently and widely. As is correctly pointed out, the only reason the consequences of "loneliness corresponds to smoking 15 cigarettes per day" is *_not_* due to loneliness itself but due to the mind and approach to loneliness by the individual himself. *Kudos to the channel for making this magnificent and very important video.*

[@sahamal_savu]

It's very important to make the distinction between loneliness and choosing to live a solitary life. Loneliness implies that we would rather be socially engaged or romantically involved, and that it's healthier to do so. Of course that kind of persistent unfulfilled desire would be detrimental to our health but if you have chosen or fully accepted your solitude there is no suffering in it. There is great freedom within the silence.

[@ph6560]

@@sahamal_savu I couldn't agree more.

[@larryreis7273]

GREAT job on this video! 😊 There are times it made me laugh because it made me realize how much I enjoy being alone away from the negative forces of being around people who seem to only know how to drag you down and keep you from being who you want to be.

[@ManIsKind369]

✨Without solitude, Love will not stay long by your side ✨Because Love needs to rest, so that it can journey through the heavens and reveal itself in other forms ✨Without solitude, no plant or animal can survive, no soil can remain productive, no child can learn about life, no artist can create, no work can grow and be transformed. ✨Solitude is not the absence of Love, but its complement. ✨Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to spe as ak to us and help us decide what to do with our life. Therefore, blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who are not afraid of their own company, who are not always desperately looking for something to do, something to amuse themselves with, something to judge. ✨If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself. ✨And if you do not know yourself, you will begin to fear the void.” ― Paulo Coelho, Manuscript Found in Accra

[@isaiahwilliams7502]

I always loved the solitude I get during hunting season. I turn my phone off and spend days in the woods. Even if I don’t get a deer it’s very grounding to sit in the woods and commune with myself

[@USMC_Tex_68]

I've always enjoyed time spent alone.

[@SIERRATREES]

solitude affords freedom to pursue personal goals a lot more, and as long as you are not lonely, and have genuine interests, it can be a very positive situation. I live alone but through out my day, can still have lots of pleasurable interactions.

[@ada5141]

I’m an almost 40 year old woman but beyond fleeting romantic relationships, have never really had someone I could call a friend. It bothered me for most of my life, but I’ve come to terms with this. Though “high functioning” and able to have material possessions, I’m on the autism spectrum and social interactions are both difficult and oftentimes not even worth the mental and emotional energy involved. Thank you for this video. It not only makes me feel better about myself (ahh…), but, also, too- that I’m not alone in the desire to be alone, that there is true merit to this and something not “abnormal.”

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@johndavidrazsari1086]

you are not alone we are all experiencing this

[@sammoulton171]

I used to HATE being alone, now I hate it when I don’t have my solitary time to myself. Solitude has created a lasting peace for me and I think above trivial matters. I’m not clouded in everyone else’s junk, I can see the real me and I like who that person is

[@karolisbareika8306]

I need both. What good is what I learn in solitude if I cant share it with others to potentially help them? Secondly, how will I know if what I've learned is of any value if I only keep it to myself? A balance of solitude and the company of others. There are people in this world that bring out the best in me. I need to let more people like that into my life.

[@kamanijefferson638]

The lone wolf linking up with the other lone wolves. It's usually insightful and brief.

[@StevenGianatasio]

I've lived alone most of my life and I can entertain myself with out a problem. When I was younger I would be more prone to engage with others and go back home to my solitude where I can be myself and not be bothered with others. When I go fishing I prefer to go alone. And just enjoy nature it self. Engaging with others at the grocery store is enough for me. I pray every morning and attend Church every Sunday because of my obligations to God and then go home. I don't hang out. Solitude is a wonderful thing. 😊 I don't necessarily ignore the world but I don't have to take it home with me. Happy Solitude. 😊

[@ЯсенЧапкънов]

I personally feel like I go trough periods of needing more isolation to reflect on changes in my life, in myself or in my worldview and periods of increased desire to connect with others and share that aspect of reality that I precieve as mine. It's like playing with pieces of a puzzle and trying to build the whole picture by interacting with the rest after you have learned all you think you need to know to put one thing in its proper place.

[@heydani6678]

Solitude is needed for self analyzing and correction. I self reflect nightly and document my experiences and write what I learned. I write how I reacted to situations and ask myself If my ideal self would have done so. I always aim to improve

[@samanthagreen8054]

I think the Truth is that we humans are always alone, especially after we become "adults" and leave home. I have ALWAYS felt the most lonely and isolated while being in large groups of people. It started as a child; school, church, family reunions, holiday gatherings, parties with friends, etc. Being a homebody has kept me SANE. I also began travelling which freaked out relatives & friends because they could not understand my enjoying going to foreign countries and places where I knew no one and was an "outsider". I could never explain that I have ALWAYS felt like a foreigner in my own life. I prefer exploring different places where nobody is expected to interact with me and it is realistically appropriate for me not to be "known". In actuality, the average person is NOT truly understood, valued, respected or loved. We tolerate each other, ignore others, bully them, use them, manipulate them and pay people for services with behaviour protocols. Genuine kind, thoughtful and intelligent exchanges of ideas or philosophies has not occurred in the public arena for a loooooooong time.

[@finding_mojo]

So true, glad someone is saying it. I have lived alone for years in the bush and it is exactly as you described here. There are times when the demons of the past rise up and I am forced to sit in their company until I have learned whatever it is I need to glean from their hideous presence. How I have caused suffering to others and the forgiveness that I need to extend to myself or ask from them. These moments can seem unbrearable at the time, but afterwards a great sense of peace follows and I know that they will never return in the same strength, if at all. I have heard of NDEs (near death exp.)describing a life review where they see the suffering they caused to others during their life. I think that solitude also achieves this while you are still alive and therefore it is of more use to us, no doubt making us kinder and more compassionate. I do appreciate human company when I have it, but have trained everyone I know to not drop around unexpectedly. On the flip side, this degree of solitude has made me far more sensitive to the suffering of others and I struggle to watch the news or to be around aggressive, selfish and negative people. But I never feel lonely or afraid on my own. Quite the opposite in fact, I feel the life all around me as my family.

[@davedismantled]

"Not all who are alone are lonely." Thanks for that.

[@andrews127]

And he or she who is lonely when they are alone are in bad company

[@PS-pn9rd]

Everything in moderation I say. People need a social network and also need our own space and freedom to be ourselves. Isolation is known to be deeply unpleasant. Isolated people are divided people

[@2Hesiod]

Thucydides: "The secret of happiness is freedom, and the secret of freedom is courage." The secret of courage is knowing what ought to be feared and ought not to be feared.

[@peachykeen6849]

I feel the loneliest around other people whilst being physically alone is something I prefer unless I’m accompanied by another whose presence is sweeter than my solitude… but my dog I love being with my dog 🐾💕

[@veganphilosopher1975]

one of your best. This is exactly where I'm at in life right now. I feel deep shame for ways I failed to live up to my own values in an attempt to please the Other

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Don’t. Please. It is a waste of your time. It is fine to reflect, and learn, but don’t do the shame thing.

[@Chercheure_Indépendante]

I always was alone in this world so I finally understood not be scare of it but to the contrary, embrace it.

[@carl8568]

I value solitude a lot, I wouldn't be where I am now if I didn't, but there is certainly a balance to be struck. I've been living off grid, isolated in the mountains in the South of Australia full time for 15 months now. I've noticed my mental & physical health isn't quite as resilient without any support network around. It's only just viable because I have my dog with me, but I don't have any friends around for well over 100 kms. There's a reason why solitary confinement is a very effective way to torture people who are incarcerated.

[@ARdave311]

I LOVE my own company. I hate how much I love my own company somtimes

[@ChristinaChrisR]

Oh I hear ya. I have the same…problem….? It’s not so much a problem for me as it is for the ones I love, but the latter makes it a problem for me as well…if you know what I’m trying to say. Regardless, thank you for the relatable comment. /Chris

[@MissAnn-xu9oo]

Not wishing to be alone but Solitude in Doses is needed to recenter, reflect and recover...its Staycation and Revelation.

[@pinksupremacy6076]

Your videos always deliver. The most valuable channel on KZbin.

[@SaurianStudios1207]

This is why I’m so eager to move out eventually, because I’m going to have my own place to live in. Moments of solitude really does allow me to be more at ease, feel true to myself, and explore my passions or end. This doesn’t mean that I don’t collaborate with like minded people to held me, but spending more time alone allows me to be more true to who I am.

[@artifactis]

Thank you for all the years of insightful lessons My solitude with 40 smokes a day and still contemplating greatness..

[@Trump2024asw]

Maybe vape or nicotine patch?

[@artifactis]

@longhairdontcare122 I did a month of nicorette but smoked alongside it seems it's more the habit than the substance 🤷‍♂️

[@dominionthemovieisreality1181]

@@artifactis Nothing beats getting that addiction off your back if you want to be truly free.

[@phillipjordan1010]

Try nasal snuff. Just snort a little bit up each nostril and it really brings on alertness and focus. It's great for reading. It is a staple of my solitary study life

[@_permanence]

“Wanderer Above the Sea of Fog” I love this painting and recently saw it in person at the Hamburger Kunsthalle.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Let’s hope none of the people who can’t be alone with themselves, don’t throw any soup on it.

[@larryreis7273]

Every time I'm alone I love all the positive things I get to learn that are NOT possible when you are surrounded by other people. And the contentment that comes from the time you get to spend being surrounded by peace and quiet. It gives you time to relax, think, and improve on who you are or would like to be.

[@DesolateSolitude]

Funny how we think of romance as always involving two, when the romance of solitude can be ever so much more delicious and intense. Alone, the world offers itself freely to us. To be unmasked, it has no choice.

[@martijndevis]

this is helping me understand my ''hermit'' phases i go true everyso often. maybe i can help the people around me understand me better true this video

[@Cynthia_108]

Great topic. I love my solitude, especially walking in nature where no or few people will be there. I love the art you use in these videos! 😍 Thank you.

[@Hedgehog3342]

Ah the feeling of solitude is great. When someone disrupts that solitude, it gives me agitating feeling like i want them to go away. The feeling of solitude is very freeing, it's like a absolute freedom where one can find God and be one with all. Such a feeling is brief sometimes and yet eternal.

[@mr.inkwell4782]

5:50 this is very true to me. one thing thats annoys me is seeing other people or more especially that not respecting the serenity and peace of nature and it's stillness. them talking too loud or playing there music when I'm hiking trying to escape the sounds of anxiety by society. but mostly when they invaded the space of the wild life with much noise pulling their phones than to watch from afar in silents; to admire the present but not interfere with it. to respect mother nature and her home.

[@SharonDavenport-v7j]

I Love This Channel. I Have No Family, Live Alone, And Love Solitude. And I Never Get Lonely. Im Retired, Have A Dog, And I Stay Close To God And All Things Devine. 😎

[@TorMax9]

I'm never alone; I always have the living universe as company. That which brought me into existence. That which always brings me higher and higher, lighter and lighter, brighter and brighter. A conscious universe. The company of other people can sometimes be pleasant and enriching, but all too often it is dealing with their emotional instability, mind games and tiptoeing around their insecurities. Trying not to compromise myself to the demands of their ideology, hivemind, normalcy.

[@TwoDudesPhilosophy]

"In loneliness, the lonely one eats himself; in a crowd, the many eat him. Now choose."

[@jackholtorf7435]

As well as in the way that one is fed themselves, or fed the many

[@MarcoAurelio-sv2tk]

I am now at my 3rd day of solitude and silence in my 4 wall bedroom. Today, i had one thought and i heard a voice saying: "I need to close my eyes and think about this". That never happened before and this simple phrase showed me that i need to do this

[@UltimateAwe]

exceptional work

[@CliveNEWMAN-k2c]

Solitude, self reflection and deep thought are key to one's peace in life.

[@thekingofbohemia1]

Damn! Then I must be the G.O.A.T.! "Never less alone than when alone." John Uri Lloyd

[@murlimenon2291]

You discover your self in Solitude.. Its a beautiful feel as we peel through layers of our personality and realise how living in society have conditioned ourselves.

[@rchgmer863]

Sylens in the horizon forbidden west video game says something along the lines of "great people are always lonely" to aloy and that was relatable to me, not because I'm great but because I am lonely and I want to be great

[@jrettetsohyt1]

Balance. Solitude and relationship actually optimize each other, just like sleep and daytime activity.

[@DreamChaserEiRi]

Great Video 💪🏻

[@chrissullins3]

Spot on. I now have to go farther into the mountains to find solitude because too many other people are also looking for solitude.