“Not all those who wander are lost."-J.R.R Tolkien Basically saying.....Not all who are alone, are lonely.
@nathanmills3354 жыл бұрын
That is a false quote.
@nathanmills3354 жыл бұрын
@Joey Shmoey aw well I'm always happy to help the disadvantaged. I just wanna say I think you're a big boy for being able to figure out how to comment - and you nearly spelt everything correctly too! The only way is up for you!
@nathanmills3354 жыл бұрын
@Joey Shmoey for the sake of actually informing you now I've had my fun, this is the quote "all that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost, the old that is strong does not either, deep roots are not reached by the frost."
@Legendary_Detective-Wobbuffet4 жыл бұрын
Except for Jim. Jim is lost as fuck.
@chicoandthem4n4 жыл бұрын
@@nathanmills335 I don't get it
@jaysage9765 жыл бұрын
Try going for a walk when everyone is sleeping. Between 2-4 am. The best time to talk to the universe. Trust me it will hear you.
@loriharris89995 жыл бұрын
jaysage what an amazing idea. Thank you. 🙏
@jvillzy5 жыл бұрын
I did this and got mugged. Thanks
@JolinHard5 жыл бұрын
Thats God
@trentonchandler96825 жыл бұрын
Yeah because yo ass is sleep deprived
@raymondrose18235 жыл бұрын
@@jvillzy hahaha hell yea o that was you i saw outside my window getting stomped out by some dude with timberlands on
@MickyAvStickyHands5 жыл бұрын
Being happy alone is your ONLY defense in a relationship. If you're scared to be alone, your partner holds all the cards.
@scottm89144 жыл бұрын
MickyAvStickyHands so true man, fuck its hard to do
@TheCookieTheMonster4 жыл бұрын
I understand what you’re saying, but generally speaking, your partner shouldn’t hold cards against you. It’s a RELATIONSHIP. You’re two that mold into one. Why would you need to have any defenses when you’re working with someone who is on your side? The point of the relationship to begin with is to let down your defenses and be vulnerable with another.
@kirtirajlahiry81354 жыл бұрын
Aptly said 👏
@Silverman2164 жыл бұрын
well said
@slixlixx4 жыл бұрын
Garbage Fries - That sounds lovely on a greeting card, but reality is much harsher. My intentions are not to ridicule here but you absolutely need to have resilience and defenses in place to protect your mental and emotional state where your partner is concerned. Take affairs for example. An affair is one of the most traumatic emotional experiences a human being can go through with a lot of experts saying only death of a spouse comes first. I was listening to a pod cast where an Iraqi war vet claimed he would go back to Iraq 100 times more than finding out again his wife cheated on him. That’s absolutely insane. No one should have that much control over you. The people that say that’s why you shouldn’t marry someone that would cheat, or say I would NEVER do that are the most susceptible to trauma. You’re creating your own reality. A hyper false-sense of security and trust in another human being that simply is not possible. People that don’t understand these things completely take the lazy way out and judge and dismiss. Lives are destroyed, children are hurt, all because of bullshit and not enough education and practicality.
@Randomdude321823 жыл бұрын
“Being alone is dangerous because once you realise how peaceful it is you never want to talk to anyone again” - Tom Hardy
@iorekby3 жыл бұрын
It's a good quote but the full quote is: _Being alone is dangerous. It's addicting once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore_
@Killerinstinct0073 жыл бұрын
We need people to have a healthy life, we are social animals.
@rameshrnayak3 жыл бұрын
@@Killerinstinct007 Life is getting more and more impersonal and inorganic.This social animal thing is all a thing of the past. We now have families who live under the same roof and have no idea what is going on.
@advaita65233 жыл бұрын
@@rameshrnayak very true.
@calb4882 жыл бұрын
@@Killerinstinct007 Everything evolves. That's an old motto for old times. I think many people like short periods if have to at being social but most are probably content with small circle. I think that's different Tham saying social as in you need to be out talking to random strangers all day everyday.
@TheXabl05 жыл бұрын
"If you're terrified of being alone, you're in bad company"
@hiddentruth65825 жыл бұрын
Sadhguru!!
@christmasg1234 жыл бұрын
That’s deep
@maryamhamid60034 жыл бұрын
Sadhguru 🙏
@365daysgone4 жыл бұрын
What if youre alone all the time..you have nobody in your life...too much alone time can be really bad for you too. Its about a balance.
@RicardoMartinez-yk7md4 жыл бұрын
@@365daysgone i believe the same thing
@InfamousMedia5 жыл бұрын
Being alone is scarily seductive. The more you do it, the more you enjoy it and feel less compulsory to hang out with people and listen to small talk + gossip amongst other energy detractors
@return2innocence2214 жыл бұрын
Yup 😘
@babygorl95414 жыл бұрын
Tobi Wobi personally i don’t have social anxiety at all, i’m usually one of the loudest and funniest people in the group when i do go out. but yeah, gossip annoys me and feels like such a waste of time and i prefer being alone to meditate, heal, read books, and ascend my consciousness to bliss lol
@abraxian70904 жыл бұрын
Have you just passed your early 30s by any chance?
@J4YAH7774 жыл бұрын
@@babygorl9541 I can defo relate
@Selenite114 жыл бұрын
Tobi Wobi Or he’s just an introvert.
@AlexNapierHolland4 жыл бұрын
Being alone is utter joy. There are more hobbies, passions, and interests then I could ever fit into ten lifetimes.
@faiqcreates3 жыл бұрын
Requires alot of money though. They seem to be getting "costly" each passing day lol.
@dtmyco10443 жыл бұрын
@@faiqcreates still cheaper than having a family.
@faiqcreates3 жыл бұрын
@@dtmyco1044 that is true
@CeriMoon7202 жыл бұрын
Alex - so true - yes!!!
@mrmr8942 жыл бұрын
Like what ? Give examples please
@marc26382 жыл бұрын
I've been alone now for 5 years and some change. No relationship, no friends, nothing. I go to work, I work out I go home. I am learning myself and trying to calm my mind so that I can be a better person
@Trenchtown__O__O2 жыл бұрын
Honestly bro, this is how my lifestyle is right now. Im not trying to be alone at all just because it seems cool and people want to join. I truly try to fit in and it just never works. I always seem out of place for some reason. This has been my whole life. Starting to be alone and talking less brings me at peace. I wish nothing but the best for you brother.
@raihantahmid72722 жыл бұрын
@@Trenchtown__O__O honestly everyone is different brother I'm like that too just moving along with life and learning more and more I have friends but they're not like everyday stable one's being alone made me realise how blessed I am
@Trenchtown__O__O2 жыл бұрын
@@raihantahmid7272 🙌🏾🧘🏾♂️
@harpreetweston2 жыл бұрын
Exact same way bro , happiest when alone , god bless
@mykale102 жыл бұрын
2 years now , no nothing 👍🏾
@Oscvrz5 жыл бұрын
I like being with friends but I can't spend the entire day with them i get really annoyed being around people all day lol
@juancarrillo5645 жыл бұрын
01undeniable same you took those words right out of my mind
@acerabbit60315 жыл бұрын
01undeniable since 2016 when I finished school I haven’t talked to ANYBODY I mean literally nobody except my brother like my phone is beyond dead. Trust me like the actual definition of being alone without friends for 3 years. You guys won’t understand till it happens.
@Oscvrz5 жыл бұрын
@@acerabbit6031 that happened to me when I moved to a different state when I was like 17 untill I was 19 I had no friends but I met a girl and we started hanging out and now I'm friends with all of her friends and met a bunch of other people at work. You just have to get out more and try to meet people. I thought I was the only one and felt alone but there's probably millions of people in the same situation.
@Arne_Boeses5 жыл бұрын
You might be an introvert.
@acerabbit60315 жыл бұрын
@@Oscvrz Yeah dude I imagine there's tons of other people out there in the same situation. But it really sucks when u have nobody to talk to out in the world other than online and then they end up disappearing anyway. I really believe in the term "things will get better" I just gotta wait for it :)
@Bodhi5945 жыл бұрын
I've been spending more time alone the last couple of years. It's actually quite nice. Still talk to people and do things with people but it's really nice to live in peace.
@dream14305 жыл бұрын
Brando I agree
@abcxyz-py6uw5 жыл бұрын
yes bro less people less drama
@theItalianshamrock5 жыл бұрын
@@abcxyz-py6uw yep. Everyone now adays is worried what other people are doing and what they have. Once you spend time alone you get to see what you have and appreciate it.
@NickyDiamond445 жыл бұрын
Me too. I’m on Georgia O Keefe status.
@CAESAR-yj6ms5 жыл бұрын
G M so true
@marelypalomera15663 жыл бұрын
I recently got used to being alone which was very new to me and it has literally changed my perspective on everything. It’s such a spiritual feeling.
@nonnayabusiness75282 жыл бұрын
I smoked a cigarette today. I don't smoke. It was just my rebellion I guess. Nobody to say oh no! Don't. Lol. It's kind of nice.
@krissifadwa Жыл бұрын
Aw 🥰
@Shhshian4 жыл бұрын
If your an introvert like me going on a walk alone is just pure happiness like a self therapy. I love it.
@allblack81482 жыл бұрын
No lie!
@rellyrell5282 жыл бұрын
That and even a drive a lone
@dibyajyotimondal7011 Жыл бұрын
Yes yes
@WhyiLikeLife Жыл бұрын
Not an introvert but still love it
@lavatr8322 Жыл бұрын
It is but society doesn't like quiet, aloof beings
@bronyatheistfedora4 жыл бұрын
"To live alone, one must be either a beast or a God." - Aristotle
@snakeysstyle7834 жыл бұрын
Wasn’t that merlins owl?
@scrapegod48934 жыл бұрын
He who dwells in the light is either a god or wild beast
@sivasankarant91953 жыл бұрын
Imma god
@bronyatheistfedora3 жыл бұрын
@Abhishek Tanwar how do you feel
@nc-pf3qm3 жыл бұрын
@Abhishek Tanwar would u like to tell about changes u feel..i m trying it for a year on and off max 45 days till..sometimes i get frustrated..how do i get it to 100 days atleast???
@floop29354 жыл бұрын
Once you realize what humans are really like, loneliness feels like a luxury
@mania204 жыл бұрын
Most of them are stupid in their own way😂😂.
@PinkYellowGreen20234 жыл бұрын
I agree🙃😊🙃
@brose.034 жыл бұрын
loneliness is a negative feeling, it's the state of being alone that brings happiness I know what you were trying to say though ;-;
@tinocontreras51053 жыл бұрын
Yes, I can go days without talking to ppl, days without seeing another person. If you can't be alone it's a weakness. I know ppl that have to have ppl around 24/7 cause they feel lonely. I enjoy very few ppl, but love being alone doing projects learning new things, some ppl just don't know that feeling of complete silence or time alone
@skeletorloll3 жыл бұрын
Edgy
@gggig40164 жыл бұрын
Literally, I’m at a point in my life where being alone is better than being with most people
@Mark-wp4lw4 жыл бұрын
I helped a friend finish his basement a few years back. He was sort of a newlywed, had been married maybe 18 months or so...after we loaded some drywall into a trailer, he wanted to stop by a bar and have a drink. His wife called him and asked where he was and he said we were still at Home Depot getting materials. He looked so at peace and relaxed just being in that bar and enjoying his beer even though he had only been married for such a short period of time. That's really stuck in my mind since it happened and it fits into this conversation in the sense that most of us would like to have a partner but a lot of us would like to balance that time with our own time. Hard to have that conversation with the other person though because undoubtedly they will take it personally and not understand that you do not want to be with them 100% of the time. First world problems maybe.
@Zetrisy3 жыл бұрын
Put a smile on my face, a healthy marriage in all ways 🙏🏻👌🏻
@mjohnson17413 жыл бұрын
That's why I never got married. I'm content with having beautiful relationships until I die. I hate our society and culture and that's why I'm not main stream. There's an infinite amount of ways to achieve happiness why have people allowed themselves to be so brainwashed to think there's only one?
@garrygrant23943 жыл бұрын
@@mjohnson1741 Most people are shallow thinkers. They don't exert the mental energy to really think things through. If they did the world be unrecognizable.
@j.w.matney83902 жыл бұрын
I have met many women who hate the idea that their boyfriend or husband is away from them and is enjoying himself. In that scenario, I wouldn't have answered the phone. When I got home, I would tell her I wanted to hang out with my friend. It's not easy to create your own space, but, it's worth it.
@j.w.matney83902 жыл бұрын
@@garrygrant2394 They would actually be terrified if they found out what so called elites think of regular people.
@D1987Gd5 жыл бұрын
Being alone... And being lonely... Are two completely different states of mind 😎 ✌ ❤ 😎
@809castro5 жыл бұрын
That's so true i love being alone but am never lonely specially when you have God.
@sigururdavij54385 жыл бұрын
That English bloke nailed it.
@D1987Gd5 жыл бұрын
@Seyvonn DeLivrus ....I'm in the best company when I'm alone. ..and if you have control of your mind then you should be too..😎
@SachinDolta5 жыл бұрын
Yes yes
@jacktheriffer15235 жыл бұрын
I've certainly been alone & lonely,but I also have been lonely for being alone...
@goldeneddie5 жыл бұрын
Everyone is here commenting on how great we are with being alone, how we're not even lonely, yet here we all are writing to strangers on YT, hoping someone might like our comment or even reply...
@brandonrojask78325 жыл бұрын
Preach
@ernstvolf85375 жыл бұрын
Man, thats only one of possible interpretations of the fact. Some people write just to write and to express themeselves and dont give a fuck whether a stranger read this or not. The same way you can elaborate whether a person do a totoo to himself or to draw attention of others? No one knows this for sure :)))
@danielmelin57935 жыл бұрын
The "do nothing method" really is great. I started three years ago. And back then i was totally owned and raped by "my" mind. Today, man... its so still. Now the thought is my slave. So thankfull.
@Kris-wk9dq5 жыл бұрын
That was deep
@Aus10McNeal5 жыл бұрын
I just comment too try to plug my channel. Haha
@1977jjc5 жыл бұрын
‘ i dont hate people , i just hate being around them ‘
@KrayOTB24 жыл бұрын
me too
@kenishahammond39353 жыл бұрын
Same! Especially when they are sucking your energy!
@iorekby3 жыл бұрын
What was it Tommy Lee Jones said in a movie once.... something like "Individuals are fine. It's people that are the trouble".
@ETAisNOW3 жыл бұрын
Love from a distance!
@Melly16yr103 жыл бұрын
I relate
@vCarxie3 жыл бұрын
Once you realize how peaceful it is being alone, you don’t want to deal with peoples bullshit anymore
@timmylongstroke78123 жыл бұрын
I have said the same thing for years, bullshit is the key word.
@dillongreen70015 жыл бұрын
Imagine sitting in the lobby at the rich ppl doctors office and seeing Joe Rogan meditate for 20 mins straight
@freedomfighter18615 жыл бұрын
Id be like o shit that’s joe and his trippin on dmt, then proceed to flash neon lights in his face
@Wuzhaniin5 жыл бұрын
I’d try if I can see my reflection on that bald head
@youssefrochdi19945 жыл бұрын
@Ricardo Ignacio prepare to get kicked in the nuts
@1986baldwinvic5 жыл бұрын
@richard kaye in America rich people get a better form of care. If you didnt know. For instance i worked 84 hours a week in America and was literally paid 5 dollars and change an hour. As a "private contractor" i could not even afford basic health insurance/dental. AMERICA IS FUCKED.
@beeyaybaracas32405 жыл бұрын
@Phil Myass Um, no
@c0wboys4life5 жыл бұрын
*Well I have no friends so this super power came pretty natural to me lol*
@scottbexon19755 жыл бұрын
and I bet you are one of the most interesting people one could ever meet.
@moonoom7645 жыл бұрын
Ok
@modricist5 жыл бұрын
Dude I’ll be your friend, unless you’re weird
@DayDaysWorld3165 жыл бұрын
whhattt.. we been friend friends bro!! :D
@tomatoma96535 жыл бұрын
Hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh some ppl are just lucky lol
@RevRumble_5 жыл бұрын
Peace brother! The most valuable thing we can have. Don’t let anyone or anything distract you or take it from you. Enjoy your peace
@viktorhernandez27205 жыл бұрын
this really helped me a lot right now ❤
@robbyrob83493 жыл бұрын
I ❤️ being alone, single, never married, no children. No divorce, no alimony, no drama, no child support, able to accomplish all of my lifetime goals. I don't have to worry about losing everything I have. I love the freedom.
@BFRIZZLE9093 жыл бұрын
Going though those things taught me to love being alone. I had to learn from mistakes I guess.
@jamesmoore84613 жыл бұрын
@@BFRIZZLE909 I learnt that through my parents mistakes and growing up through them
@dejannikolic3152 жыл бұрын
Yap man 2022 is best thing to do is beonf alone that is powerfull for mind and conect to natural good
@KevinSmile2 жыл бұрын
The problem is when you grow old you'd better hope you feel the same.
@degoek2 жыл бұрын
Yea I agree tenfold but this same sentiment won’t happen when your older.
@jorgeguzman95925 жыл бұрын
I’ve masted this! Hit the gym Alone work alone drive alone eat alone it’s simple just keep yourself company💯
@arjundutta55214 жыл бұрын
@Adz K fuck you random citizen FUCK YOUUUUUU
@prajwalsharma2134 жыл бұрын
If you are happy it's cool but some form of human interaction is good
@jorgeguzman95924 жыл бұрын
prajwal sharma I’ve got a lot of friends I still go out to hangout with them obviously I also have a big family im surrounded by I’m saying whenever I’m alone I got no issue with it. Master the art of loneliness
@prajwalsharma2134 жыл бұрын
@@jorgeguzman9592 nice
@prajwalsharma2134 жыл бұрын
@Adz K nope
@flavin86735 жыл бұрын
I feel more alone when with people. Joys of being an introvert
@augustoornelas38454 жыл бұрын
True
@ShahabAhmad13984 жыл бұрын
That's low self worth not introversion
@staceystrukel19174 жыл бұрын
@@ShahabAhmad1398 not at all. When you are introverted lots of people drain you. Especially superficial conversations. I would rather be by myself or have a good conversation with one person then listen to a group of people trying to one up each other. Next time you're around a group of people sit back and just observe. Most people are full of shit and not saying anything important. Waste of time. Ego driven people enjoy this.
@jernyx91394 жыл бұрын
lonliness is not about how many people u are surrounded with, but how many people u can relate with.
@anabolicchicken41154 жыл бұрын
That isn't introversion. I see A LOT of people mistaking unhealthy habits for introversion. If you are with your friends and you feel MORE alone, then they aren't your friends. I'm introverted too, but when I see my friends I have a great time, I just need more time by myself than most, I still see them once or twice a week though...
@javascriptkiddie27185 жыл бұрын
Other human beings have been the source of all of my stress, anxiety, insecurity, and every other negative experience I've had. Being alone is essential for my own well being. I saw my brother after years of no contact, and the first thing he opened his mouth to do was criticize and spread gossip. Felt nothing but negative emotions the whole time he was standing there. He left his phone number and I couldn't tell you the first 3 digits because I never even looked at it. Why would I call somebody like that? A lot of my alone time is spent thinking about past interactions like that and where those emotions stem from. They're all from people. It's the time alone where I've learned confidence, pride, focus, and perseverance. People try to rob you of those qualities, especially when you are not grounded in your identity yet. I can't really identify being alone with the stereotypical effects like depression and mental illness after my experiences with others. It's been the exact opposite.
@antoniomorales85785 жыл бұрын
Facts
@michaeljacksonlov145 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@ThomasAntoniusOlsenJr.3335 жыл бұрын
Absolutely, humans destroy rather than build up others moreso than not!
@fortwynt56075 жыл бұрын
Respectfully...i feel like this is one major thing people so so so get wrong and perhaps need to reflect on a bit more. "...other human beings have been the source of all of my stress, anxiety, insecurity, and every other negative experience I've had..." False. 100 percent of what you just said... and this is key to understanding much of what's wrong in our world currently anyway... Literally every emotional feeling you feel, or have ever felt about a person, thing, or situation ... has been generated by and withib your own body...nobody on the planet has any control whatsoever over what you allow or do not allow yourself to feel...even Think... this is a wildly common way of passing off responsibility of something we can and should be in control of, to someone else and then blaming them for "making us feel..." some way or another.... this is rubbish to the max...I, as a human being, despite whatever behaviors i may exhibit or not exhibit, bad or good or whatever they may be, am in No Way Responsible for how You allow yourself to feel in Regards to my behavior...nobody Makes You feel anything that you do not in some part in some way First have agreed to Let yourself feel. Imagine the implications of a world where, as these types suggest...all other people have absolute control over what i feel like and when i will feel it.... total horseshit.... and a very common and sly method of not ever having to learn enough proper self-discipline and control of one's own mind and thought patterns, and just go around blaming everyone else for "making us feel..." some way or other.....nah buddy, you're the only one with that power over your own shit...it is no one elses responsiblity on this Earth how You feel or dont feel.....get a fucking grip and take ownership of that which is your own creation.
@opgamer-fv8ru5 жыл бұрын
@@fortwynt5607 u are the reason i hate people just let us have an opinion and stop trying to be right all the time
@Capt.Thrust4 жыл бұрын
As an introvert that enjoys and needs his time to himself. I am glad other people are FINALLY starting to get it😊
@suezworld2 жыл бұрын
being an introvert and a empath. I genuinely enjoy being solitary.
@jermainehaslam5634 Жыл бұрын
@@suezworld i'm the same, I can go months without seeing someone and I can be fine with it.
@kima260 Жыл бұрын
I literally dread invites. I get resentful that I have to use my time to socialize with people I’m just not interested in. It makes me feel guilty actually, I just wish I could shake that feeling & just own who I truly am at my core. Society won’t seem to let me though. 😔
@Kinesiology411 Жыл бұрын
@@kima260society isn't keeping you tethered to guilt. You are. Which is good news because it means you can just stop feeling that way. Saying no to invitations is just fine. And you will find out who genuinely respects you the first time you say no to them. Boundaries reveal a lot.
@gb38175 жыл бұрын
I have people freaking out all the time when I say I go out to dinner or movies by myself. Feels comfortable to me. I love traveling alone. Makes decision making much easier:)
@mikepetersen98875 жыл бұрын
“Im alone... but im not lonely.”-Neil (HEAT)
@gordongordon985 жыл бұрын
Mike Petersen yeahhh!
@timsharpe66525 жыл бұрын
I'm both but trying to work on it lol . Trying to be ok with my own company . One day at a time though as they say 😇
@weirdviking34814 жыл бұрын
If he just had a legal job ;)
@emmanuelbuenviaje65644 жыл бұрын
That scene resonated with me...what a great line.
@DPMusicStudio4 жыл бұрын
Found another Mann fan! Nice!
@ygui75585 жыл бұрын
It's great being introverted. No unneccessary bs small talk lol
@blurrycolours36243 жыл бұрын
You think its bs because you dont like it. Because you are introverted.
@jhinthevirtuoso48863 жыл бұрын
@@blurrycolours3624 it is shallow though which is bs.
@w7n4243 жыл бұрын
Small talk is great, most introverts who say that it’s “unnecessary” buts that’s just because they don’t like it. I love my friends but personally I just find an enjoyment being on my own, a certain freedom comes when it’s nothing but me and my brain
@bigsnkby13 жыл бұрын
Facts! I lived alone for 6 years, it was the best thing I could ever do for myself. I love being alone.
@Sami_m_a5 жыл бұрын
My cousins thought I was weird that I preferred being alone in the dark looking out at the stars than being outside sitting with people. I like being with people but I prefer being alone listening to my random thoughts if you listen to your mind you will enjoy it more than any conversation ever. I don't meditate I just sit or lie down and it happens. I think this is what made me stronger to go through war, leaving home and family, seeing death, hearing bombs, lost Education and no clear future never affected me I'm not depressed I'm happy.
@Kardinaal295 жыл бұрын
When an extrovert finally understands what every introvert already knows
@gksmith-mccarthy9795 жыл бұрын
#FACTS
@mitchellmahurin34654 жыл бұрын
Ah the bold introvert. A rare find.
@issacyasrom34214 жыл бұрын
I’d disagree, there are a lot of extroverts that are very self aware and vice-versa there are introverts that aren’t.
@ladybird4914 жыл бұрын
You can be both so it makes no sense to separate them. According to the occasion you can easily switch to being an introvert. I don't believe in either cause I know plenty of people who act quiet around strangers but run their mouth around friends.
@hesha.rahman19654 жыл бұрын
I can be both ....but i was more extrovert ....now iam full of this mad society ....these people are just distracting me ..... after a toxic relationship and bad friends ...i learn now with 28 to be a introvert .... to focus on my goals ...and being happ alone ..... never had the chance in my past !!!!
@AB-it8hd5 жыл бұрын
Being alone too much can effect your social skills and really change the way you look at everyone
@capo-amg67555 жыл бұрын
How? You mean you unlearn things?
@hishdp14645 жыл бұрын
@@capo-amg6755 yeah your social skills
@kyle_mutti5 жыл бұрын
Paradox 420 ya thats if you become socially inept. He is saying be okay with being alone occasionally. He is not saying he alone in a blank room or stay in your hone for the rest of your life. We are social creatures, we need to socialize but becoming mentally okay with being alone you will only be stronger when in crowds
@hnpet42455 жыл бұрын
Pedro Rodriguez I agree. I actually feel like it makes me so aware that I actually get exhausted after socializing.
@Elemxnt455 жыл бұрын
No. Alone as a do-nothing type of situation not isolating yourself and voluntary not taking to anyone. Try get a chair and just stare at the wall for 2-3 hours and you’ll see what they mean.
@jimmbear3998 Жыл бұрын
After being in a relationship for 14 years, I have now been alone for about 8. It’s weird that people don’t like being alone. I work a full-time job so I crave and treasure my alone time. I find when I am alone I have become super creative creating things like song lyrics without even trying. Also you really find out what you enjoy and like because no one is influencing you or telling you. It’s kind of sad but I see people that have never been alone, they went straight from living with parents, college roommates, etc. into marriage and then had kids. So their entire life revolves around reacting or doing what is needed to provide for and please others. They never really develop their own identity and are being influenced by others 24/7. I often have stuff that needs to get done on the weekends like anyone else but sometimes just have no plan days where I just wake up an am like what do I want to explore today. If you don’t have days like that alone you are truly missing out. Take care. 🙂
@AverageYTer Жыл бұрын
Currently deciding which grass is less brown... in an otherwise great relationship where I'm judged for spending my time the way I like to (video games) and guilted into participating in things I don't sign up for.
@patrickbertlein16753 күн бұрын
You were in a relationship, you know what it’s like to be with someone. Many don’t.
@ericpaulino68565 жыл бұрын
if you cant stand being alone-you really don't like yourself
@GrowingDownUnder5 жыл бұрын
I like being alone, I just don't like being a virgin at the age of 26 haha
@GrowingDownUnder5 жыл бұрын
@Ginsung Thanks homie, appreciate the compliment :) where my fellow incels at? #IncelsUnite
@GrowingDownUnder5 жыл бұрын
@Christian get some hobbies and watch anime then you will never be bored because there's too many anime to watch you'll never run out I recommend: Hellsing ultimate Gantz Parasyte Attack on titan Seven deadly sins Fist of the north star Jojo's bizarre adventure 2012 Black lagoon Afro samurai Re:zero Juuni taisen Redline Trava fist planet Tailenders The animatrix Genius party Highschool dxd Akame ga kill
@niko-iwnl-5 жыл бұрын
@Ginsung LMFAO fax
@GrowingDownUnder5 жыл бұрын
@Ginsung but at least you will die happy if you watch anime...totally worth it!
@davidthomspson97714 жыл бұрын
"The fear of finding oneself alone.That is what they fear..so they never 'find' themselves at all"
@ExplodingTrujillo4 жыл бұрын
I love solitude! I never want a huge friend group, that’s just way too stressful. Just 2-4 good friends and I’ll be good. Honestly when your own happiness and well being comes from you rather than others, your better equipped for life in general.
@tonybleau62192 жыл бұрын
Love being alone. My partner doesn't understand it and thinks it's selfish or that I'm disaffectionate when the reality is I simply love having my moments alone to think, reflect and ask myself questions. My self awareness, overall awareness and objectivity have greatly increased in large part because of my love for being alone.
@0412lennon5 жыл бұрын
The more people you know and have in your inner circle the more drama....I hate drama
@ponce-875 жыл бұрын
One of the reason I love truck driving so much is cuz I'm alone all day. It's awesome lol
@tonygareth2215 жыл бұрын
Seems like it could be great, especially if you are driving thru beautiful scenery, but being able to have people you enjoy is good too
@Battleaxegunner5 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to get my CDL. And I'm looking forward to what you said about it too!
@ballzmahoney9544 жыл бұрын
I’m glad to hear this, I’m about to start on my cdl!
@ponce-874 жыл бұрын
@@ballzmahoney954 get it man, it will be rough your first year as your learning but soon it becomes as natural as driving a car. Then it's great!
@BooBoo-pu1jh4 жыл бұрын
@@ballzmahoney954 where do you get CDL? What kind of truck you going to drive? Which pays the most?
@zodspeed4 жыл бұрын
I literally prefer not being near any other human being at all times and I’m not depressed at all
@demonzdomain49714 жыл бұрын
No im the same way! Im not depressed or a bad person. I just literally prefer to be alone. I dont want ti speak with anyone or conerse whatsoever just alone
@FLdancer004 жыл бұрын
Yeah, cause that's your PREFERENCE. You have the OPTION to not be alone. The people who are depressed are that way because being alone is being forced on them.
@demonzdomain49714 жыл бұрын
@@FLdancer00 my preferance is simply not being around peoples company i dont enjoy. If theres any bad trait about them i dont wanna be apart if it. Being alone is not forced. Thats like saying because your mind is in such a bad state your incabable of reaching out to people for help. And you cant respond and say no one will help because thats bs. Being alone is always an option. depressed or not.
@insane16074 жыл бұрын
Same
@rolandphilipkensantos83803 жыл бұрын
SAME
@TravelingwithKristin4 жыл бұрын
I was already comfortable being alone but since the pandemic I’m so used to it now. Humans are so adaptable
@kevinmonaghan46785 жыл бұрын
Never thought about thoughts as emails. That's a really great analogy.
@JonnyUnderrated5 жыл бұрын
lol you typed anal. lolll
@j.w.matney83902 жыл бұрын
I've been a loner my entire life. I've always hated going to events where there is a lot of people. I feel crowded in and I have no interest in small talk. I have 3 really good friends that I keep in touch with, but I can go for months without wanting to be around anyone other than my wife and kids. Even then, I have to have alone time every day. Running helps a lot. I can go for really long runs, clear the head and come back refreshed. I get that our society thinks being quiet and living by myself is some sort of defect. I find people who are constantly talking really boring and intrusive.
@charlottetaylor4471 Жыл бұрын
You have a wife and children, you're definitely not a loner. A loner is someone on their own.
@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын
I can relate to some of this. Anyone who tries to shame you for that is an idiot. They do that,then wonder why we aren’t social 😂
@sabinedeleener Жыл бұрын
That is what I was thinking@@charlottetaylor4471
@patrickbertlein16753 күн бұрын
So you like alone time but you are not actually alone.
@davidmurphy83645 жыл бұрын
Just have kids, you learn the value of being alone pretty fast.
@ajohonly37214 жыл бұрын
David Murphy hahahahahahahha I miss being alone
@davidmurphy83644 жыл бұрын
@@ajohonly3721 Me too buddy....me too😂
@bryanbroacosta4 жыл бұрын
Yup and you’ll be able to enjoy after the next 17-25 years
@davidmurphy83644 жыл бұрын
@@bryanbroacosta Wonderful eh?😂
@wecyinj534 жыл бұрын
Pretty extreme way to learn a lesson i reckon 😂😂
@sosolawson65874 жыл бұрын
It's taken me 5 failed relationships but I've finally decided to learn how to be alone and happy
@Rjj3232 жыл бұрын
your story motivates me.
@jy23342 жыл бұрын
Yeah SumTimes its like....peace
@blacklyfe55432 жыл бұрын
How
@roxie16052 жыл бұрын
Feel you ..same here
@DibbzTV2 жыл бұрын
Same, in the middle of learning rn. Last relationship was a good one but we became codependent and called it quits. Been in the journey of self discovery and it’s been a b**ch
@RRAREBEAR5 жыл бұрын
Right now I live alone AND work from home. At times I love it - at times it's difficult. Being comfortable with yourself is a lifelong relationship - always evolving. But when you learn how to do it there is a certain peace that many people never have the privilege of knowing!
@soldierforchrist20175 жыл бұрын
I enjoy being alone. Solitude and silence is golden.
@KASKhan_5 жыл бұрын
"Soldier for christ" punk religion follower. Religion is fake. There is no afterlife idiot.
@bigotbillphill79845 жыл бұрын
Don Khan why are you mad
@frankwest93045 жыл бұрын
Don Khan seek help please! Seems like you’re a lost soul projecting your insecurities on others
@Hooyahfish5 жыл бұрын
I meditate every night, before I go to sleep. I lay in bed, close my eyes and try to empty my brain. Then I wake up 8 hours later.
@alexmendez7135 жыл бұрын
next try to fall asleep with your mind awake thats where the real fun happens
@amex44534 жыл бұрын
Next try to empty your eyes and close your brain
@Selenite114 жыл бұрын
AM3X So you didn’t get Alex Mendez eh, lol
@mpmassacre91 Жыл бұрын
The hikes I go on I do not not encounter not one person at least 10 miles from anything you would call a road. The peacefulness is amazing.
@gastonphalange5 жыл бұрын
Being alone is a bliss. Even if you meet the ideal partner/friend, its achieve growth in your own time. Thinking and focusing on doing things without distractions.
@kirtirajlahiry81354 жыл бұрын
For the first time I feel someone just honestly and completely describes it to be nothing. I have always felt that meditation is about letting go, feeling nothing and just putting a blank space in your mind after everything has been resolved (like old emails). Whenever somebody says imagine this and imagine that it creates pressure for me. Then this becomes a training in imagination. Thank you Mr. Ravikant. ❤
@amazinggrace3133 жыл бұрын
I've literally always been able to walk away from anyone...me being alone has never bothered me. It's always the shock in those I leave that tickles me ..they always think you're gonna actually put up with their bad behavior, lies, manipulation, disrespect..then I leave them alone and they are stunned! And I mean stunned.
@samosapikora91692 жыл бұрын
"The super power of learning to be alone and enjoying". Yep, I learned this when I was 12 and have been doing it at least twice a week.
@Chevalali2 жыл бұрын
I'm alone pretty much 80% and I love it!
@BurtMeister5 жыл бұрын
"I was born alone, I will die alone, and between these two, I am alone day and night." - Zen Master (I forget which one)
@Joesire3 жыл бұрын
I've been an introvert and loner my whole life for the most part, the reversal to this video is that for somone like me learning to be in a group of people and truly enjoy it is a superpower. I can be alone easy, but I would rather be around others. A solitary life is not a good life.
@kevyxcx58292 жыл бұрын
Yes, it is.
@charlottetaylor4471 Жыл бұрын
I agree. As long as the people are decent, it's a great experience to be with others. We are made for love and connection (of course, it doesn't have to be constant. Nothing wrong with time alone too.)
@Primo9784 жыл бұрын
I honestly love being alone cus no one can be on my vibe level
@Anthony420-zf2oc Жыл бұрын
I've been single for 11 year's and they have been the most peaceful years of my life! I didn't want to be single but once it happened and as time went by I realized how at peace I was!
@saddany32545 жыл бұрын
"nothing, sometimes nothing is the hardest thing to do" - Tyrion Lannister
@TalkingThrones5 жыл бұрын
"You are my Kween" -Jon Snow
@rahulbosebose14 жыл бұрын
Problem with learning to enjoy being alone is that you start to dislike having to spend time with anyone.
@Kinesiology411 Жыл бұрын
That's not really a problem.
@northofyou335 жыл бұрын
JRE, I would love to see you do an extended interview with someone who really practices solitude, because it's something more of us need to understand and work with. A lot of single people are depressed about being single rather than embracing the life they have and making the most of it. Not just 30 minutes a day while meditating, but someone whose life is mostly about navigating solitude. There are millions of us, and it can be pretty rough if you don't take a spiritual/philosophical approach to it.
@carsonbealsey90323 жыл бұрын
Not enough people understand this, self questioning and reflection is the only way to true understanding.
@VR463143 жыл бұрын
I spent a lot of time alone , in isolated situations, it was hard but I learnt a lot and it made me realise that all this social media and all the noise is meaningless
@martyv1000004 жыл бұрын
amen brother, i’m alone quite often but I am never lonely
@GreedAndSelfishness5 жыл бұрын
I've mastered the art of enjoying solitude since I was a kid. Nothing feels better spending the whole day home after day or two being with friends.
@CheyenneHernandezmusic Жыл бұрын
I do an hour and a half everyday and I celebrate the positive affect this has had on my life. I love the title of this talk! I used to freak out if I was ever alone, now some of the deepest experiences of love I have are when I'm alone! Really like this clip. Thank you!!!
@emptinessatethewitch5 жыл бұрын
I've mastered the art of doing nothing
@pingaaaazzzz82045 жыл бұрын
2fac3 lmaoo same
@chriswhaley9005 жыл бұрын
Right!!
@davemckay43595 жыл бұрын
Congratulations
@JohnDoe-rk7ej5 жыл бұрын
2fac3 that’s dangerous. Learn to love to be alone, while staying responsible and being productive for yourself.
@emptinessatethewitch5 жыл бұрын
@Gerald Jackson exactly
@eduxfe Жыл бұрын
Not happy. Just peace. It's so underrated. Everyone just wants to be happy. I just want peace and quiet
@andreamelless2822 Жыл бұрын
I have found resting comfortably listening to Shamonic Drums, with wolves howling in the background. Very pleasant and calming.
@Kaddywompous4 жыл бұрын
“If you think, you think. If you don’t think, you don’t think. Don’t put any effort into it or against it....” Love it! Takes the pressure off.
@jamesward54933 жыл бұрын
Its proven the mind is always working, always thinking. To be in a room without light or sound is terrifying to most people. Being still is the first step to knowing God.
@maikaimakena94245 жыл бұрын
Joe has Leveled Up with his podcast so much great work and conversations have been had on his show.
@eSKAone-5 жыл бұрын
When you stop searching, you find peace.
@licksnkicks1166 Жыл бұрын
I love to be alone. To spend time thinking about things or not. Being at peace with my dogs snuggled up to me! Meditating. To spend time practicing and learning as much about guitar as is possible. Trying new techniques, different settings on my amp and just having the best time by myself. There is so much to learn. I keep pushing! It’s nice not to have any anchors weighing me down.
@Allagi223 жыл бұрын
My advice for anyone trying to be more happy and secure with themselves is to try these two things as an adult (safely w/ pandemic protocol etc) if you have not already: 1. Go to a restaurant and eat a meal by yourself 2. Go to a movie theater and see a film by yourself Don't bring your phone with you when you do either.
@carver00192 жыл бұрын
Want to add one more try to go gym and workout without music.. I think silence is the best hype music for me..
@treyruiz79342 жыл бұрын
I need my phone for gps lol
@eg3482 жыл бұрын
@ Trey Ruiz no...I just "think" u need it, I don't actually need it 😊 💪
@eg3482 жыл бұрын
*u think
@kevyxcx58292 жыл бұрын
A lot of wait staff are not good at treating people when they come in alone lol I know from personal experience. Society is catered to couples and groups.
@HPGuitar5 жыл бұрын
"The Superpower of learning to be alone and enjoying it." - I relate to that (and also enjoy it).
@KelvinChiuFilms5 жыл бұрын
I spent 5 nights in Iceland, completely alone, to film a personal passion project on solitude. Words can't even describe the experience. Too many of us don't know how to be alone nowadays! I'm now back in London and it's so hard to "disconnect".
@devynsingh94215 жыл бұрын
how was your trip to iceland? I'm going in 2 months or so! Excited for what's to come
@Earthad235 жыл бұрын
Kelvin Chiu passion project he says
@chrisludolph3485 жыл бұрын
@@devynsingh9421 icelands great but go north out of rek and avoid the crowds / tourists.
@gustavfrankecinematography5 жыл бұрын
Tell me about it. London is the epitome of a rat race. Everyone in constant competition. And the highest value is your bank account. It’s sad and harsh to say, but true.
@Mappy88995 жыл бұрын
Headspace was a helpful intro into the world of meditation. I understand and agree that you shouldn’t need an app forever, but was a great teacher for the fundamentals (for me). I think whatever gets you to actually do it at first is all good. App/book/instructor...whatever, all good.
@lames_jahey97345 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. I used the headspace beginner trial until I got through all ten, and now I just take the fundamentals I learned from that and do it without the aid of an app. Still need to meditate more though.
@GStone5 жыл бұрын
I started with the free headspace lessons also. Pretty solid guide to practicing. I remember them being the same thing with the periods of silence getting longer each day. I never could get into the habit of doing it everyday.
@ramssesvaladez5884 жыл бұрын
I’ve never gone out with a friend EVER IN MY life. And when I did, I still felt alone
@Sullitude873 жыл бұрын
That's becuz they probarly not Ad the same level. Nowadays its all fake.
@drupac-drupac5 жыл бұрын
I got that super power 🙏🏾
@TheUnknownbruh5 жыл бұрын
Have you ever been alone on DMT though ?
@harambey5 жыл бұрын
"The happiest of all lives is a busy solitude" ~ voltaire
@nellyioannidou56125 жыл бұрын
Me 4. I enjoy being by myself
@Sukzinho5 жыл бұрын
@@adams115 I would be down too ;)
@adams1155 жыл бұрын
Lukas Stössel, alright lets all meet up at your place
@priyonjoni5 жыл бұрын
Busy and productive people I have found to generally value their alone time.
@xCeexus5 жыл бұрын
I’m an introvert , so being alone for is easy and lovely for me 😌
@masterroshi69835 жыл бұрын
Same, my thoughts are so clear in text and writing but when you put a person infront of me and we're staring at each other I can't articulate myself properly and it's exhausting to go through lol. People often speak and say very little anyways and so chit chat just feels like a waste of my time.
@xCeexus5 жыл бұрын
Master Roshi That’s exactly how I feel! I can’t explain better through writing things out than verbally saying them to pple. Then whenever I have company over I want them to leave shorty after they arrive because I too feel like the chit chat is a waste of time. 😅
@masterroshi69835 жыл бұрын
@@xCeexus Part of my problem came from poor socializing as a child and I started to become an overly agreeable person because I thought that would make me likeable to people. I was wrong and so that resulted in me basically caring about others more than myself so then I was easily taken advantage of. I soon learned the difference between people and friends and I only knew people. As soon as I started treating myself like someone i'm in charge of taking care of I gave up on all that. People will use you until there's nothing left if you let them and being nice and trying to please people is a huge weakness where I live.
@Areezle5 жыл бұрын
@@masterroshi6983 yes agree
@rogerg08345 жыл бұрын
Same!! I love it.
@greendragonok Жыл бұрын
I like that. "Everyone needs time to sort out how they feel about things."
@davidburns62844 жыл бұрын
Most of my life is spent alone now and I have no problem at all with it. It's very relaxing and there's no bullshit to deal with. Also, you are in complete control of everything, which is a great feeling.
@tiffanykane6924 жыл бұрын
I love going to the beach late at night and just listen to the waves. Very therapeutic.
@carlapilbro13442 жыл бұрын
Its true, I love being alone and definitely a superpower, while others would assume I'm lonely or just weird, im so ok with what others may assume, because I know its a super skill to be able to switch off and connect with myself and be in the present moment, I value myself thats the key 🔑
@GabrielFoxheart2512 Жыл бұрын
Being alone can be a blessing. A lot of friends on Facebook post quite a bit about how being lonely tears them up inside. People need to learn about being alone, especially with the fact that so many nowadays are so fickle and will just use you up for everything you're worth.
@sebastiangraham001 Жыл бұрын
Well said
@vigneshkumar3814 жыл бұрын
Well this really makes me feel good.. cause most of the time I always stays alone, my friends would ask how can u be like this, now I no need to explain to them. Just show them this video.. thanks Joe for bringing Naval
@kellygarland63 Жыл бұрын
I adore my alone time. I can go days without the desire to speak to another human.
@biscaynebrodie49903 жыл бұрын
I agree with this guy. Being alone from time to time when I do have the opportunity to me is a gift and a blessing.
@mooeygarnet22 күн бұрын
4:09 my favorite thing to do in the morning after I get my son on the bus is lay back into my bed and just exist. I might fall asleep, I might not. I always set an alarm because I have to get to work. It's the most relaxing part of my day. When I get a thought, I tell myself to put it on a shelf and come back to it later
@anamartinez89084 жыл бұрын
i have a lot of mind chatter and meditate on and off. even went to a silent retreat in Bali. I once meditated, alone, and felt a peace wash over me I felt so light and almost vibrational. it only happened that one time. I grew so annoyed I couldn't reenact that I later stopped. anyways my June goal is to meditate daily. 🙏
@roxys9994 жыл бұрын
How's it going so far?
@babygorl95414 жыл бұрын
ana, check out loch kelly’s videos on youtube! literally just search “loch kelly” and watch as many of his videos as u can and do the exercises he guides you through. i did about 4 years of vipassana meditation (what you probably were doing, basic mindfulness meditation) and like you, i got those light and vibrational experiences a FEW times. but then when i started doing loch’s exercises, HOLY SHIT they literally take you RIGHT THERE!!! its amazing and that’s my default way of “meditating” now, although its different in that it doesn’t even take 20+ minutes to get there. you can slip into that state in like minutes or even seconds with his method. and the more you do it the more you’re able to just chill out there. HIGHLY RECOMMEND. its absolutely transformed my life and i don’t meditate any other way now bc theres simply no need. he also has books and audiobooks and i’ve bought all of them bc it just works so well for me and i wanted to be able to learn as much as possible and internalize the methods as much as possible. best wishes
@ellenbro18525 жыл бұрын
You really learn whom you are when you spend time alone.
@elhadjdiallo6334 жыл бұрын
Yes indeed indeed .....I discovered my passion , aspiration and ambition ....being alone is the best thing that every living soul will crave to acquire in this universe...being alone will help you discover who you are ,what you want and what you need .... it's better to alone than to associate yourself with a wrong company ...IAM in love with myself believe it or not ....I love people with all my heart....but I love my own company biblically speaking ......I wish you well and take good care of yourself ....stay away from narcissists and toxic people.....
@ellenbro18524 жыл бұрын
@@elhadjdiallo633 Amen! Narcissistic behavior is rampant these days.
@whatwedoinlifeechosanetern39953 жыл бұрын
Everything we are is within! Anything outside of you is an illusion it all happens within you. Your thoughts are your reality because reality is your thoughts.
@XTheSpartanX73 жыл бұрын
Learning to be alone was a catalyst to getting in shape.
@livelearnandteach74023 жыл бұрын
I've never had an urge to live in a log cabin in the woods as much as I have in 2020/21. Noone anywhere near me feels like bliss.
@Oussmo5 жыл бұрын
Being alone WITHOUT PHONE! I'm alone alot but if you're on your phone when you're alone it's a whole other thing then actually being alone...its not being alone
@theintertainer93935 жыл бұрын
That is subjective. What do you mean by being with a phone. In my case, I read on my Kindle, listen to audiobooks on my phone, practice networking on my desktop and check the news on my iPad when I wake up. All this takes 3-4 hours. I have the rest of the day to myself asuming no one disturbs me. In fact I crave solitude. It helps my creative juices flow.
@theintertainer93935 жыл бұрын
@D D Why do you think that that is too much stimulation? What do you mean by stimulation? For me, being open for 1/4th of the time and being introspective and thoughtful for the rest is the way to lead my life. If there is one fundamental that I have learned that I can relate to, it is the belief that people have subjective realities and that it is impossible for humans, atleast with the tools (internal and external) that we currently possess to know the objective truth. For many, Truth is an ideal of reason. According to Kant, happiness is an ideal of the imagination not of reason. Thus there is a direct contradiction. The happy person is the one who 'accepts' that truth as being subjective and lives life on his terms, values, desires and goals. He commits to his own purpose. If there were God or a being of similar nature, believing that we are even close to him in almost any context or that we can be like him, would eventually lead to an existential crisis. Rather, we must believe that we are our own Gods, which is definitely dangerous but it holds a handsome reward in itself.
@JacksonAxe5 жыл бұрын
With few exceptions, phones have become toys for the weak minded.
@JacksonAxe5 жыл бұрын
If you aren't old enough to remember the time before cell phones you won't understand how insane it has become.
@theintertainer93935 жыл бұрын
@D DThis is not a rhetoric but what makes you say that? How is over-stimulation linked to depression. For me, over-stimulation gives the person a false sense of being. They learn to negate their thoughts and live 'solely' based on the opinions of others. And when they realise that their existence was pointless, they become depressed and ensue a host of other mental disorders. I would gladly love to know your opinion(s) on this
@calebschultz67245 жыл бұрын
Thanks Joe Rogan. Naval is an exceptional guest. Thank you both
@Greenliight5 жыл бұрын
Damn I actually tried meditating for the first time after watching this and it feels great
@DeanDangerousTDD73 жыл бұрын
I've always been able to entertain myself through imagination and have never been afraid of being alone but I won't lie, solitary confinement was rough.