ADHD as an Adult: How is it Different?

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[@TheBre123456]

The hardest part is constantly being told “you have such great potential” and then never reaching that potential 😟

[@mikeschiavoni5973]

No, the hardest part is realizing they are liars and you are totally miswired and going to have to work three times as hard to get things perfect just to realize you are capible to work something enough to get it perfect.....but adequate pays the same.

[@BenjaminRonlund]

Especially when you're trying as hard as you can and people are telling you "if only you put some effort in...".

[@heathermartinez2954]

And feeling like you DO HAVE that potential but can't seem to fulfill it because of all your bad habits and anxiety and self doubt 😭😭.

[@AlecElizabethYukii301]

When you were the star pupil as a child and excelled at everything but that was your peak and now were just existing on an average level with hurt pride

[@coldboltlighting1237]

Bro same

[@parkerlovett763]

Does anyone else act like they are listening to someone but I stead you just zone out while staring at them?

[@katehodge5186]

Yes. Actually, and I don't know if this is ADHD or Epilepsy related, but I can be having an active conversation with someone for an extended period of time, and then walk away and go, "I know I was talking to them, but I have absolutely no idea what we talked about." I don't have an ADHD diagnosis, but due to Epilepsy and anxiety, I'm more likely to have it, and I definitely have a hell of a time focusing/remembering things.

[@3sidem4ri]

Yes. Just smile and nod your head

[@Chuchutato]

This happened to me alot. There was once the day I helped a homeless guy and he told me his story and I couldn't find myself to listen even if I want to. I'm just dazed and I don't know what happened next.

[@rollysport77]

Man I see thier lips moving and hear what they are saying but nothing registers really pisses me off and I know I'm doing it and can't help it

[@Chuchutato]

@@rollysport77 i can relate on that.

[@josefinakucharova4127]

Who else is watching this as a form of procrastination?

[@samanthagatewood2647]

100%

[@thesingingfangirl6155]

Sadly me

[@leecerda-jones6615]

Lmao im procrastinating sleep

[@archiebunker4108]

You must be a mind reader.

[@neurodivergentsophie8411]

MEEEEEE! I'm supposed to be sleeping!

[@DrahcirSmada]

Having ADHD is like having 90 tabs open in your browser and there's music playing and you can't figure out where it is.

[@Icecreamandradness]

Having ADHD *IS* having 90 tabs open in your browser and there's music playing and you can't figure out where it is.

[@nuhbeeluh]

@@Icecreamandradness my computer had at least 90 tabs open and half are music

[@tsxalex8370]

And you can’t close the tabs, and multiple are playing at once

[@geebuttersnaps6680]

this is an excellent way for me to think about it, thanks for sharing!

[@nathanhenderson91]

You hit the nail on the head 🙌 I can relate to this

[@drywall9369]

I think adhd feels like your at a rock concert with two different bands and your in a mosh pit while trying to do your math homework

[@snakeeatingapringle0]

Adrian Vazquez this is 10000000% true

[@U_Hit_Like_A_Girl]

*you're - should start with your English homework.

[@spicylemons8557]

Adrian Vazquez I fucking love this analogy ❤️

[@thiscommentisrelevant7911]

Trump_Card why so mean?

[@entewente]

I don't know yet if my problems are due to ADHD, but if that is what I have: to me it feels like being afloat in a raging ocean and there is a helicopter hovering above you but you simply cannot reach the ladder dangling from the helicopter no matter how hard you try.

[@firstlast-em2yq]

Kati, you completely missed inattentive ADHD. Quiet, well mannered , non fidgety people who are mentally over active inside and thus are distracted by it. This also occurs in adults.

[@TRUJEEZY402]

Dang sounds like me ... do I go to doctor to get diagnosed??

[@wolfdontcare3980]

I was diagnosed with this type, my iq is 120 and I’ve always been well mannered as a child. For me it feels like there’s a war zone in my head and there’s so much noise it’s exhausts me but it’s all in me on the outside I look normal and I’m able to laugh with friends etc but on the inside....my mind is spinning relentlessly...

[@brendaisajiw3417]

Yes. They'll have you do tests which they use to diagnose you with or without ADD.

[@wall.st.barbie]

This is often ignored because its the classically "Feminine" presentation.

[@Shizamy508]

This is me.

[@m.s.6586]

The hardest part is going through your childhood and part of your adulthood being told you’re smart, knowing you’re smart, but never really seeing results for it. If I had half the support I needed growing up I would have probably accomplished so much more out of my life and would not have to struggle with a lot of the emotional difficulties I struggle with now due to failure and lack of ability to keep friendships and people around me. Being bullied at school was no help either. Thank you for this video!

[@bren9193]

I just got diagnosed with adhd, and i can relate to this very much.. Glad you understand and accept it though, its something we can never change.. but its something we will eventually use to our advantage. Stay strong my friend!

[@ninjaZeroez]

"He's gifted an brilliant, but he never applies himself" oh how we tried. If they only knew then what we know now...

[@annacolbert6713]

Thank you! This is so true.

[@peaceglory5973]

I completely relate to your comment.

[@mebeasensei]

I can relate but it hurts. I only now know, truly, at 56, I have it, and have always had it. It selfish of me to say, but I have suffered so long, relationships, Addictions, chIldish retreat, distractions, impulsiveness, blown responsibilities, ambitions, too many to mention. My own worst enemy....I am so sad to finally admit it, and loathe to use meds now, hoping I can manage, but I’m not. Worse after fifty for me. Good luck to you. Thank you for your comment.

[@megcours]

Me, with ADHD having to go back 5 times to listen to the inattentive symptoms because I was zoning out 😰😰😰

[@kreekree5]

THIS MADE ME CTFU

[@EduardoSantos-pv8yo]

When you're reading and you have to read the same paragraph three or two times because you got lost in your own thoughts.

[@entropy_extevire7896]

Lmaoooo same😂😂😂

[@CarlosAntonioAlanis]

I had to read this 3 times to read read lol

[@tomfromoz8527]

Presented too slowly! *WE* the divergent need to go to settings and speed up videos like this. Pam {Tom's wife}

[@quixoticzest]

not only am i watching this while panicking about the fact that i’m NOT taking a shower or making food, but i’m not even paying attention to the video because i’m reading through all the comments

[@jeng6786]

Lol this happens to me all the time

[@iamjoyt]

So me 😆

[@oliviachipperfield6029]

Omg yessss

[@dont.ripfuller6587]

Uh oh...what does it mean if I know someone, that's not me, that relates to this comment...like by A LOT. ..

[@biglinds39]

Doing it now, on you tube reading, writing, listening watching TV all at the same

[@anabluu]

"they become impatient with the speed with which someone is completing a task" THIS. My whole life in a sentence....

[@unbreakablefootage]

Also when people take too much time to complete a sentence, especially when they use too much unnecessary words while speaking. That's when I usually complete the sentence for them because I become too impatient

[@hannahherrmann4921]

@@ellisebechler3073 1.75 speed lmao

[@sleepyhead7497]

@@unbreakablefootage omg YES!!!!

[@lily_bee634]

@@ellisebechler3073 omg yess I feel like she is talking way to slow

[@AdaminaCarden]

I got bored at the speed she went through the symptoms... Should have been watching it on 1.25x speed like I usually do lol

[@CyberSolverYT]

the title grabbed me, but about halfway through my interest started fading and I let it run in the background while I went on my phone but I'm sure it was a great video

[@useodyseeorbitchute9450]

Possible. I haven't watched it full. I just browsed comments and got back to pretend doing my work...

[@tsekonya2141]

started playing block puzzle almost imminently

[@bagellord113]

I finish these...oh wait I'm not watching the video I'm replying to people ooh what a shame I thus conclude my self ADHD therefore I have never been diagnosed with it...I think I'm a crazy person now.

[@lachlankelly9438]

CyberSolver fucking golden 😂this is exactly adhd coming from one themself 👌🏻😂

[@6butterflywings6]

It took me four “pauses” and I’m not sure I heard it all. ADHD vids need to be short! LOL.

[@scottpreston5074]

How many of us are scrolling through the comments while she is still speaking... and that wood chipper is killing me.

[@toriless]

I am not getting distracted by a wood chipper.

[@tombstonex3244]

There was a wood chipper?

[@kitandrews8638]

Damn it! You got mw

[@codelyoko363]

I found turning the video up to speed 1.25 helped a lot with focusing!

[@kimdeoliveira9483]

@@codelyoko363 I would do that, but the sound aggravates to the point of distraction. ;)

[@OhhMyAnnie]

Yep.. I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was around 23. My mom didn't "believe" in ADHD. I feel like the majority of my teachers didn't like me because I would have a hard time paying attention and I was horrible with time management, so I was ALWAYS late to school... my parents and the rest of my family always told me that I was lazy. As an adult, I've learned ways to work with my ADHD but I definitely still struggle with some things.

[@DreamScorcher]

Are you using any medications?

[@echase416]

Sadly, ADHD doesn’t care if parents ‘don’t believe in ADHD’. So invalidating for you. :/

[@eliabthetoyreview5750]

Emma Chase Im 21 and I told my parents I want to get tested for adhd because I think I have it and they laughed and said no that people with adhd look different and I look fine that made me so angry and sad

[@kater4513]

Eliab The toy review Had the same thing "Son why you behave strange" - "Dunno I just feel like I'm on crack constantly" "Well stop it then" - "I tried but I can't, I feel like I'm gonna explode when I have to sit still for longer than a minute" "We not have such problem, it must be your personal fault" - "I'm giving my best but it's kinda fucking impossible" "Stop whining pussy" Kinda like that :⁣D They'll never understand and I don't give a fuck anymore, anything else would just frustrate me further

[@lindamariamargareta6262]

people dont often believe in adhd when it comes to girls and women :/

[@Icecreamandradness]

People see ADHD as "haha SQUIRREL" or a convenient excuse, but they don't realise how it completely ruins your life. The anxiety, the depression, the self harm, the terrible grades and settling for mediocrity because you can never see through anything or reach your potential...

[@LeandroVelez7]

❤️😞

[@metfreak100]

Exactly THIS!!!!

[@hamishandangie]

It's about truly accepting who you are...🙃

[@frederikferguson2571]

It dob´t have to be this depressing to be diagnosed you know

[@absolutetragedy8567]

@@frederikferguson2571 Nah that’s Adhd for you bud. It negatively affects our lives that much

[@owhat615]

1. Small goals 2. Timer 3. Rewards 4. Routine 5. Distraction tools 6. Be kind to yourself 7. Medication

[@nin7464]

Thank you for your list! ❤ Just took a picture. With 47 years I need to learn everything new.

[@westex13]

How much medication helps ?

[@wendyhannan2454]

Thank you thank you for the list, I love it when people do this it’s so helpful. 😉

[@13myrrh]

I have ADHD and I had a hard time watching this. Started fidgeting and reading the comments at the 5 min mark.

[@Travestie616]

You have more control over it than I do--I just checked and I'm 3 minutes 9 seconds in :'D

[@oliviareve5920]

Hahaha hilarious, I’m having a hard time even typing out a message to say I did the same

[@t3hSurge]

I feel attacked LOL

[@rojdancam1676]

Lol I’m 3min 5 secs and I’ve paused it

[@XxQueenChristinaxX]

I immediately start reading the comments.

[@sithisrants4154]

"I don't have attention-deficit disorder. Your disorderly world has a deficit of things worth paying attention to." -TJ Kirk

[@owhat615]

I understand

[@nathenperri2826]

As a lifelong misanthrope, I will cherish this quote.

[@supers0nic77]

Tiberius James Kirk?

[@meg1038]

Who is TJ Kirk he sounds like a smart guy 😂

[@sithisrants4154]

@@meg1038 He's a left-wing KZbin commentator known by the pseudonym "The Amazing Atheist".

[@Rapidash41]

Having ADHD is like trying to run at full speed while tied to a chair, while somebody is telling you to run, while trying to memorize a dictionary in a language you can't read or pronounce.

[@mindseyeblindyt6856]

YES! SOMEONE FINALLY GETS IT!

[@nekroneko]

And the other 19 runners are unimpeded and look back at you and wonder why you aren't keeping up.

[@brianc11388]

ADHD is like a huge waiting room and the person is picking everyone but you. So you're waiting and waiting and waiting. Then your picked and your super excited then you're bored and start waiting for the next exciting thing.

[@weirdogirl1275]

I’m watching this because I want to better understand my brother and how I can better support him as a sister. Because he deserves support from his sister.

[@yourlocaltoad5102]

Bless you. Being supported and understood by family is really amazing and can help us a lot. I recommend you to also check out the channel „how to adhd“. You‘ll find some videos there that go really good into the topic and give a good overview over certain issues we have

[@cordelia4776]

I wish my family were interested and wanted to know anything about it. Really glad to hear you are supportive of your brother. It is so hard to understand when you don't experience it and even attempting to understand is halfway to making that person's life a little better.

[@mckennahaas475]

ADHD culture is watching this video at two times speed and with subtitles just so you can stay focused and not lose interest.

[@Chiefsfan0213]

I literally have to watch everything with subtitles or I zone out

[@musickf]

@@Chiefsfan0213 I can't watch things with subtitles or I focus on them and can't watch the video.

[@DanTheManIOM]

TRUE.

[@bakinghermit]

So happy to hear someone do that as well lol. I started watching all my videos speeded up cause I can´t focus when they are speaking too slowly or there is no new information coming.

[@janewildly]

Funny thing is I zoned out half way through reading this comment 😂

[@Tac333]

I literally laughed out loud by myself when you said over salt their food

[@christinegrundy3638]

Omg I do this!!!

[@janewildly]

Lol... My bf last night: babe, dinner is a bit salty Me with diagnosed adhd watching this KZbin vid: 👀

[@cici7333]

I've always done this. Interesting.

[@jesjacster]

Me too

[@XxXAngeledFangXxX]

Omg lol I do this too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣Now it makes sense as to why.

[@ilTHfeaa]

"We cant force a 2 year old to watch a 4 hour film" girl you cant even force me to watch an hour film without getting distracted 10 minutes in lmfao

[@Alchimaera]

I can't give the TV my 100% attention - I either get bored & fidgetty & my mind wanders so I can't follow it (I am constantly having to rewind so it's impossible to watch TV with others) or I get so relaxed that I fall asleep!

[@elinagelzina6210]

Lol was about to write the same, you can't even force an adult to watch 4h film, my eyes popped out when she mentioned 4b hrs :D

[@Kate-om4rl]

Omg same

[@-Solidwater]

Films are pretty entertaining, how can you get distracted? Oh, wait, I only watch animated films.

[@kunstderfugue]

I'm pretty sure I got ADHD, but I bet any adult will be unable to watch a 4 hour movie that's uninteresting to them. The problem is when you get distracted from the interesting stuff.

[@sandrameesala6804]

ADHD doesn't necessarily mean you get bad grades. This is a MAJOR reason why ADHD is often missed. Some people unconsciously built coping skills. Or assumed it was their personality. Some even get into med school without ever getting diagnosed. Then they hit a bump and all the problems start to show. This is happening to me now, I'm realizing.

[@PerriwinklePadfoot]

Growing up with ADHD definitely effects you as adult especially when you have a reputation as being chaotic and irresponsible or even something as dumb as being a bad driver with your friends and family. It makes it hard to grow and better yourself in these areas when everyone expects you to fail.

[@3toliczbapierwsza]

so relatable! it's really upsetting because I feel like whatever I do I will always have this reputation of a disorganised and unserious person. And I feel people around me don't understand that some of my behaviours are not just me being rude and obnoxious but I actually cannot control certain things. I'm working on it but still it takes time

[@ShawnaHill83]

Yep! I will be clean 7 years this October 25th and I had a chaotic childhood with a mpm who had untreated adhd. The horrible choices I've made because of impulsivity and trying to cope with adhd will always be attached to me but therapy has helped wonders! I'm not as ashamed anymore because I didn't have a chance with 2 residential school survivors and one who had adhd so I'm pretty proud of myself and you should be too because it's not easy for us on a daily basis.

[@emilyfielding2921]

Emily this is very very true

[@sunnyday2626]

Don't listen to anyone. Their opinion don't matter. Whatever they are saying it is who they are not you.

[@sunnyday2626]

No one is perfect right. They are just trying to take the eyes off of themselves, pointing at others. Have you seen those movies scans where someone want to run for his/her life so they would point away to distract the other person then run, it is what they do.

[@cnroth]

I wasn’t diagnosed until 16, because I’m more inattentive than hyperactive/impulsive. It also didn’t help that my hyper/impulsive traits were masked in behaviors that didn’t fit with what teachers looked for. I wasn’t super disruptive beyond chattiness, I learned that I could blurt out anything without penalty so long as I raised my hand first, I was a people-pleasing perfectionist, and I got good grades. So, I was overlooked. When I hit high school algebra, I suddenly started failing. I couldn’t learn the concepts while simultaneously trying to take notes. My dad got diagnosed with ADD the same year, and my teacher suggested suggested I get tested. Between medication and class accommodations, I finished high school and college. Prior to starting grad school last year, I spent time in therapy for ADHD and Major Depression, and I think it is important to be able to address both side by side. But I think the best tool I have, to this day, is just understanding my diagnoses so I can remind myself that I’m not stupid or lazy or anything. My brain is just a bit different, and that’s okay.

[@autumnakins7640]

Yes...I can relate...

[@WWNWD]

Good comment. Thank you. I feel I may have it. I'm basically the same as you. I had always got good grades, so everything has been overlooked. I don't bounce off the walls, but I do shake my legs a lot. The therapist I spoke to to be diagnosed told me my depression and anxiety are why I'm very forgetful. I don't believe it to be true. Just because I wasn't bouncing off the walls at age 7? I don't remember any of that!!! I recently was on my way to the store, but had to pick up my daughter first from school. I forgot to pick up my daughter!!! I forget important things. How can depression and anxiety make me like this? There is something more to it and I cant quite say exactly what.

[@lachlankelly9438]

Thank you so much I’m going through a very similar situation and knowing there are other people out there like me help 👍🏻

[@annaharris4396]

I had literally the same experience, only it somehow still didn't affect my grades until junior year bc at that point my brain had completely tuned out

[@cryptoslacker-464]

My tool at school was it is ok to interrupt as long as you were funny.

[@77luchris]

my short term memory is definitely affected by my ADHD. for me, I have the motivation to do my work, but it feels like i just cant get a thought in my head and then i get carried away during my hyper focus moments

[@dominicgarner116]

And sometimes your hyperfocused on stupid shit all day like some aspiration you have for the future and all you want to do is start pursuing it asap, but you know mentally you have to get some shit done, like revise for an exam, or do a task at work

[@dmt7674]

@@dominicgarner116 BRO TO A T WITH THE BOTH OF YA’s

[@edwardianspice1]

I totally relate to this. I’ve just been diagnosed with ADHD

[@lminnott]

I was diagnosed recently at 51. I am so excited to hear I’m not defective!

[@itraindogs9375]

Lisa Harker you’re not defective! Good luck going forward

[@TheMoreTheMary_]

You're notttt! 💙💙💙

[@ADHDPatrick]

That's great Lisa!

[@angelabolin8300]

I was just diagnosed at 42. I feel ya. Not defective we just view think from a different perspective. You may have adapted well enough for it to go undiagnosed

[@lminnott]

@Harden Thicke I was prescribed adderall. Not sure if it's working.

[@Iliketododatsalsa]

To manage my inattentive tendencies, I tend to write everything down. Everything. Even something that seems simple or obvious because I know that being an active learner is essential. This does look silly when I start a new job because I'll be seen writing down something silly by veteran staff but I don't care. Whatever gets me through the hurdle.😁 Your videos are always great Kati.

[@ArcangelZero7]

But...how do you reference it later? Where does all that paper go? I hand-write a lot, have lots of chicken-scratched notes in notebooks and stuff...and I never look at it again, or I lose it...or there's this pile of loose paper all over my desk. o.O

[@colenesample3786]

@@ArcangelZero7 this is totally me, I write so many lists but they all get misplaced 🤦

[@lindseyw860]

My husband always got frustrated with me when I did stuff like this when studying in university. He would rant about how much time I'm wasting writing stuff I already knew or stuff I had memorized. He just couldn't understand why I had to do it. That was years ago though and he has pretty much adapted since.

[@Iliketododatsalsa]

@@ArcangelZero7 I have the same issue too. I try to assign a notebook to each subject but I don't always stick with it. However, the process of actively working it down helps me retain information for much longer, even if it's difficult to reference later. Especially when the subject is very visual, like math or chemistry. It's not an absolute solution, but it's a helpful tool for me.

[@alexistifani07]

Lol . This is me I need to write everything down I can't remember anything you just told me unless it's written once my manager said quick meeting I said wait I have to grab my notebook she said. Of you need a notebook for this meeting you have bigger issues and it made me sad. Little does she know it's one of my biggest insecurities

[@leahnorris9169]

As an adult having suffered with ADHD all my life but not diagnosed until later in life… The hardest hurdle for me was to tell myself it was not my fault.

[@wendyhannan2454]

That’s so true. I felt so sad when I found out. I watched videos, read books and learnt all I could on ADHD, and I’m still learning. I’m a whole lot kinder on myself. We are good kind people we just go about things differently.

[@lusianacaucau9094]

You are not alone

[@arrow9293]

I suspect I have ADHD. I have a very active mind and have trouble with time management. I can’t stop thinking of things.

[@blairdawn]

my fifth grade teacher was super engaged with me and gave me a small test online for adhd, and gave my parents resources for medical professionals to help me. she put so much effort into helping me be organized and focused. she printed and laminated a list to put on my front door for everything i needed to remember in the morning, she helped me with homework and let me specifically chew gum in class so that i would stop chewing on my pencils, she would let me play with play dough during class. i had no idea that i had adhd as a child and was recently diagnosed when i turned 20. that teacher made such an important impact on my life

[@abbykurtz5115]

Sounds like you had an AMAZING teacher!

[@toriless]

Organization helps with several non-neurotypical conditions as well for for neurotypical people that do not need it as much. Always put the stuff you need before you leave (keys, wallet, phone, etc.) in the same place every time for instance. Make a spot for them, do not leave it to chance you will remember where they are. Either they are with you or there. Even in the house. With you or put away.

[@julyol119]

I was diagnosed recently, I'm 29. My whole life I was told that I was slow, chaotic and lazy and everyone seemed to think I did it on purpose. At some point I myself began to believe it. I thought 'yes, I'm lazy and I have no idea how not to be'. Incredibly frustrating and so downgrading to myself. I thought I was a second rate human being. And when I actually intuitively realised what works for me and what doesn't and tried to explain to others - like for example telling my father for the gazillionst time that negative long term motivation will do nothing to, well, motivate me - people just said I was looking for excuses and asked why I didn't care. I'm so full of it. I work so hard just to maintain everyday life. Literally all my energy goes into meaningless stuff like chores and phonecalls. I don't even engage in the things I love anymore. I have simultaneously really high hopes for the treatments my doc thinks might help me and really expecting disaster. ADHD symptoms might seem like small everyday problems to the outsider, but they ruin lives.

[@Katimorton]

I am so sorry you have had such a hard time getting properly diagnosed and getting help. I hope some of the tips I mentioned are helpful. xoxo

[@EmmaMartinaSweden]

Same here! I hope you feel better soon! ❤️

[@kaylaflower3542]

Same in a few ways. I felt so lousy b4 my diagnosis because I was told so much how I was forgetting things and making mistakes "on purpose" and since I didn't know any better, I thought I just wasn't trying hard enough, and just horrible bc I continued to fail at the same areas, even when I did try. I always feel like a bad person /breaking the rules and guilty paranoid bc of this, even though I know I'm not doing anything wrong. But knowledge is power, and this was a huge weight off my back knowing that I have a condition and I can let go of some false guilt I had about it

[@kaylaflower3542]

July Ol Also, I relate so much to your comment. I truly thought I was the only one who found basic tasks so mentally consuming the way you described. I was embarrassed to tell my therapist about struggling with things the average person doesn't even have to think about. I'm so grateful I did though. It's such a relief to learn I'm suffering from a treatable disorder instead of a vague subconscious sabotage. I hope things start looking up for you as well, nothing but positive vibes ✌️

[@julyol119]

Thank you, everyone :) Kayla R Yeah the part with forgetting things - no matter how urgent or important - is one of my problems, too. My place is covered in post-its... XD Talking to a therapist was super hard and out of the four people I talked to, one just told me I have to try harder and just do again what I did in the past and one said, that she didn't even get why I was there, because I, obviously, had no real problems... The third was nice, but didn't think of ADHD, too. The fourth was an ADHD specialist. In Germany adult ADHD is still a mystery for most therapists. Half the meds you can get in North America aren't even available here (vigorous safety precautions that I think are good, but annoying at times). I was lucky to have a big University Clinic around the corner. It seems they are the best places in Germany for ADHD diagnosis as of now. I don't know how everything will turn out, but having the diagnosis, having this reassurance that I'm not just making excuses, is so relieving. And the tharapist at the University Clinic seems really nice and down to earth.

[@stressreliefcalmingsounds9861]

It’s the worst when your having a chat to someone face to face. It happens to me everyday , zone out and get distracted by something in the background like behind the person talking to you . Also tend to avoid eye contact a lot when talking to someone . Anyone feel the same?

[@SPRTLVNG]

I cant make eye contact to save my life

[@emmaothorell]

Never feeling like anyone listens to me, I'm obsessed with showing other people that I care by listening by looking at them when I'm listening (zoning out anyway, but LOOKING like I'm listening). But as soon as it's my turn to talk I can't look at the other person AT ALL. I just feel flustered and anxious and my eyes dart everywhere else and I forget what they said and my mind gives me a million half-related things to say and nothing comes out how I want it to

[@bedhead-studio]

I have ADHD and my boss and coworkers treat me poorly because I often forget things or mix things up. I want to tell them I have adhd. I don’t want to make excuses for myself but I want them to know that it’s harder for me than it is for them. I’m actually doing really well in my opinion, but they think that I just suck at my job. What can I do?

[@stephenpowstinger733]

Alyssa Mello - document what you are doing well, with proof if possible. Show they you are making progress. Discuss issues with a friend to sort out. Do more reading on ADHD to address what you can do, what you have to do that other people don't.

[@regierse]

Alyssa Mello if you have some strengths that are helpful in the workplace, disclose that you find xyz thing difficult, but you’re EXCELLENT at abc thing :)

[@miamazingness]

I've never had luck talking about it straightforward. Seems to work better just to (1) drop the label, (2) tell your boss you're struggling with x,y,z, (3) share with your boss your plan to improve x,y,z (have your counselor/psychiatrist/whoever help you come up with a plan or suggestions), (4) continue to communicate that while you are struggling that you still care about your job, and play on your strengths and demonstrate your commitment using those. In the end, certain kinds of improvement take a lot of work and way more time than we want. We might even change jobs a little more often than we would like. While many bosses seeing you from an outside perspective might take things personally and assume you are not serious about your job, sometimes it really helps just to communicate to them that you care about their concerns and are making steps to improve (or even underselling yourself... as in don't talk about it much, but silently work on improving). While it's definitely good to continue to improve yourself, don't let other people's ignorance (or maybe "lack of knowledge" sounds nicer) affect how you perceive yourself. Maybe this is all totally wrong, but it's how I've dealt with this issue. Bringing up the ADHD has always been a nightmare situation, even with teachers or bosses who they themselves say they have ADHD (because we're not all the same!). A lot of times it just ends up with more hurt feelings... I tend to stick around places where people treat me better over the job description, anymore.

[@MarStam95]

Personally I am very open about my adhd. A lot of people are afraid of the “label”, but I think it is good for society to see we are here but it might not be super obvious. For the last two years I have been doing really well and new people I’ve gotten to know in that time who I at a certain point told I have adhd told me they were surprised because it wasn’t obvious. But that is exactly the point. So, when I’m open about it I let people know for example that if I interrupt them when they I are speaking, which I have I tendency to do often, I don’t mean to be rude but they said something that made me think of something else that I impulsively wanted to talk about. I tell them that it is okay to tell me ‘wait I’m not finished’. I let people know that when I’m highly talkative but we have to work it’s okay to tell me ‘we should go back to work now’. This way I let people know what they can do to help me, and subsequently also them selves. So basically for me it works to be open about it, let people know what they can do to help me without asking to much, and also letting them know that it is my problem, I’m working on it myself but they can help me in little things. Also let them know that if they have any questions about it they are free to ask, or if they want more information you have websites and videos (like this one) you can refer them to

[@yakkyjoe1]

Alyssa Mello Work is about competence. Most employers don't want to hear that you can't cope. It might be better to find a job that is better suited for someone with ADHD

[@berf9445]

I had a psychiatrist tell me that there was no way I was diagnosed with ADHD in college, because people don't get diagnosed as adults. XD I didn't make a second appointment with him...

[@Katimorton]

Ugh :( So frustrating! But I am glad you didn't have to see him again. xoxo I hope you were able to find someone who was understanding and helpful. xox

[@berf9445]

Kati Morton thanks for replying! Unfortunately not, but I'm a complex case of treatment resistant Bipolar 1 with 5 comorbid accronyms(ADHD being one of them). My most recent psychiatrist fired me when she ran out of meds to try. I have a good psychologist though, so that helps! P.s. Love your videos. Xox

[@newro682]

I was diagnosed last year at age 49. Now I'm trying to identify all the "crazy" in my life that's attributable to it, and try to be patient with myself when I see it.

[@lachlankelly9438]

I’m sorry for you having to deal with this people like that shouldn’t be in the medical industry it’s honestly horrible

[@KB4QAA]

I got diagnosed at age 44. Suddenly my whole life made sense from an ADD perspective. Strattera is making me functional again, though life is still a struggle.

[@gloriawatters6539]

Have anxiety and had depression. But I found that exercise helped me a lot. I'll get up and walk around just to walk around. Others are probably different but that's just what helps me.

[@toriless]

Nope, physical activity is a well known help for anxiety, depression and insomnia as well.

[@_deku_deksyou]

I had no idea that’s why I do that. I do just stand up and pace lol.

[@eltoro4814]

So many things are making sense now that I'm learning about this.

[@malcolmalden]

THIS. While my organisational skills still leave a lot to be desired and I still have major issues with creating lists, being consistent and forgetting things; exercise has helped my mental and physical health a lot and its demands have ''forced'' me to at least create consistent eating habits. I just like how I feel now way more than i did before and don't want to go back to being obese and in pain all the time.

[@dogiakos]

Having an Alexa/Google Home and using it to manage reminders and alarms has been life-changing for me.

[@seaborgium919]

Steve Dogiakos oh my gosh my Google home is a lifesaver for my shopping lists! I would never write things down, but I can yell at my Google home that I need eggs AS I am throwing the carton out

[@dogiakos]

Yes! Exactly! And I set alarms/reminders for when I need to *leave* and not when the event is occurring (i.e. when I'm already late, lol). Alexa lets you create different lists - so I can record ideas for tshirt designs on one list and things to remember for my business on another. It's really fantastic.

[@Katimorton]

Thank you so much for sharing what helps you!! xoxo

[@dogiakos]

Of course! And a shout out to my girl Jessica at +How to ADHD! Her tips have been AMAZING for helping me manage my ADHD. Plus, she has an AMAZING community built around her channel!

[@liamjames-hendriks4895]

Yes same, far out. Also a smart watch as you may not always have a device on you otherwise. Life Changing

[@Sillysilla2389]

Thank you! I’m 28 and only just learned I have ADHD last week! I always thought I had Anxiety and Depression but come to find out those were caused by ADHD this whole time!!

[@ADHDPatrick]

same here!

[@toriless]

Yep, it is from being "different" or a "weirdo" and having low self esteem.

[@gardiles9]

Yup

[@wiseoneedarra593]

I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD when I was 20. I was struggling with my college classes. Looking back I could see the signs of it when I was younger, but I never experienced the consequences of it because I had an amazing mom who checked up on me and made sure I was doing my homework, etc. I had discovered techniques for staying focused on my own, but as my classes got harder I started to fall behind. I especially struggled with breaking down big projects. I got so overwhelmed I just straight up didn't do a few of them and failed the class because it was half my grade. I went to my university accessibility center and was diagnosed with ADHD and offered various accommodations. I chose to attend ADHD coaching where I was taught how to approach overwhelming tasks. I still have a tendency to shut down when life gets too overwhelming, but now I have an understanding husband who will help me when I need it.

[@laurentrossman1989]

you should collab with HowtoADHD!!

[@dogiakos]

+1!

[@kaleandcupcake]

Yessss, that would be amazing!! I love them both so much.

[@kathyanegron8891]

YAS !!

[@joshuasmit5137]

Yes, the mental health panel at VidCon was amazing with you two together

[@lauraodylis]

Lauren Trossman what a great idea!!!!

[@IamMissPronounced]

I was one of those kids who grew up with undiagnosed ADD and it was really challenging learning everything in grade school in a brand new language. My mom saw how hard I had to work in class to keep up, and she even took me to a specialist to get diagnosed but they said "we can't diagnose her because her grades are good and she doesn't act out in school". Meanwhile I was struggling to keep up with the rest of the class every single day, and ended up excelling in English thanks to that extra time I had to put in outside of school. I can't imagine how much easier my childhood would've been if I'd actually been diagnosed and offered treatment!

[@teresabelshaw6694]

my daughyer has a.d.d how can you learn them things

[@jenniperkins4260]

Exactly my situation!!! I’m diagnosed w it as an adult

[@AB-ew6tz]

Are you me? Got diagnosed and put on meds at 12, though

[@addiegilkerson3738]

This literally makes me tear up. Every single thing you say is me, completely. Not diagnosed as a child. Not until age 40! I am on medication and talk to a counselor, but your tips added so much for me. Thank you for making me feel not alone. 💗

[@rachelm_curlysue]

Hi Kati. As a graphic desginer who loves your content, I need to point out how visually straining much of the text in this video is. I'm not trying to be negative, I'm just hoping to offer some tidbits that might be helpful in the future. A thin font like this is too light to stand out on a dark background. It isn't visually heavy enough for most people so it creates a lot of strain on the eyes to read. Sometimes you can get around this if the text is really large, but even then it can still be difficult for many people to read. If you have good vision, that isn't much of an issue. For folks with astigmatism or dyslexia, white or light text on a black or very dark background can be difficult to read, and even more so when trying to read it on a screen. Green, red, and pink are also going to be difficult for anyone who is color blind to read, which is more common than you might think. If you want to make sure your text is easy to read for everyone, its generally going to be best to use thicker/bolder fonts that are evenly spaced (like what you used for ADHD at 1:08) and to keep color combos to dark text on a lighter background. I know these aren't things that most people think about unless they are designers, so hopefully this is helpful!

[@cryptoslacker-464]

Funny, this makes me think that being different is the norm and there is probably no such thing as normal lol.

[@MissMisnomer_]

As a fellow graphic designer, this was driving me crazy too, so I'm glad you said something. Thin red text on a black background? Basically illegible. I just listened to the video without even trying to read it. Which is a shame, since this is very informative. Thanks for letting her know 👍

[@dawho157]

I stopped watching it bec the text are not clear. My gosh.

[@melc7516]

Not a graphic designer nor anywhere near, but very into details like this, and I almost stopped watching at first because of this! 🙂

[@tabithakendall2485]

I'm 23 and haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but I suffer from all but two of the symptoms you listed all the time and it gets hard just to function. I've even been fired from a job before because of it. Growing up was miserable. I've hated myself and others around me for most of my life and struggle not to blame my parents on my issues as a child. I have anxiety and depression and I always think the world is against me. I can't keep friends. I don't know how. Even when I try my best not to loose my temper, always be nice, bite my tong, and never say what's on my mind, they always leave. I'm a bitch. even when I try my hardest not to be. I don't even realize what I'm doing more than half the time. Why can't I just be normal?....

[@shortbreadhead]

I was diagnosed recently as an adult and having a hard time explaining it to my family. This video has been amazing and I think it's what I want to send to my mum to look at for her to realise. When I asked her to look into it she did see that it really is me but I don't feel like I'm being taken seriously. I don't want to be defined by it, I just want to at least be taken seriously I can't explain it

[@SailorSpiral]

I was just diagnosed with ADHD and medication has been a huge help for me!

[@ADHDPatrick]

What medication do you use?

[@mustasheolll2020]

Sailor Spiral idk, I’ve taken medication since the age of 7, I’m 18 and I feel like a better person when I’m off the meds, but I’m unfocused.

[@kimstrickland2761]

Meditation helps too!

[@unboundwerewolf2680]

@M B Same!

[@fw1240]

I'm 37 and I was just diagnosed yesterday. I've known I've had it for over a year now, and went to a psychiatrist to figure stuff out... They put me on a bunch of antidepressants and anxiety meds. I got tired of it because none of them were changing ANYTHING. Made an appointment with an ADHD SPECIALIST and was diagnosed fairly quickly. I'm sad that this didn't happen when i was younger.

[@melo9299]

Youre still young❤

[@wendyhannan2454]

I know we all think this. It wasn’t heard of when I was a kid 🧒 I was diagnosed at 75 it’s never too late to improve your life, if I do something silly, I just think that’s the ADHD, and I strive not to do it again. Be kind to your self.

[@SuperNienas]

I should be working right now. But the tips on setting daily goals and rewards are really helpful. I'm going to try it. I think the worst part for me is the loser complex after events, there is always one person angry with me as I don't think before I say things, and I tend to take over conversations.

[@ILLRICARDO]

My life, relationships and career has been ruined by this curse.

[@normanleach9587]

What drives you into a corner, can also be what contrasts with openness and wonder. Life offers a simple challenge: pay attention. "No situation; no condition." -- sign at the door of a zen monastery. If you are not your thinking mind, self-concepts recede before the immediate "things as they are" moment to moment awareness. Practice being (predominately) present, it sure beats the alternatives and often leads to better choices.

[@rositasouza1216]

Same

[@spicylemons8557]

I often fantasize what life would be like if I didn’t have this disorder. I wouldn’t be depressed or as anxious. I could talk to people. Put 100% effort in the things I care about. I wouldn’t have a sensory disorder. What a life that would be.

[@ADHDPatrick]

I know how you feel. My life was a mess before I understood this issue!

[@kennethhughes57]

Yes my life is shit because of this!

[@ruslana2720]

Today i went to my therapy session and i talked about my struggles with my husband and then the therapist said that she thinks that he may have ADHD and now this video popped in my feed! and from what i see, almost all the symptoms fit for my husband. incredible

[@Katimorton]

Perfect timing!! I hope you can get him the support he needs :) xoxo

[@ruslana2720]

Definitely, i'm going to binge search about it haha

[@iamthatiam5160]

LOOK IN TO NARCISSIST PERSONALITY DISORDER.

[@Popcorn_Assassin]

Ruslana's Self-Care Diary Check out the KZbin channel: How to ADHD. You wont regret it. It will help both of you as it has for so many others :). Including me:D.

[@poorainbowshit2570]

What? Why?

[@raefletcher8031]

I ended up always having music playing and would sing outloud or silently along with the music to help focus myself. Many exes would constantly be on me about the constant music but my wife supports me with it. I know I can be annoying to deal with and my focus on things is terrible without something to ground me to whatever I'm supposed to be doing but I've picked up a lot of tricks with music, doodling, writing out the lyrics or songs I know or even just twirling something between my fingers to help me get through. I now have a job I've been at for almost 5 years that I am good at, I'm married to a wonderful woman who loves me despite my problems and I take pride in my accomplishments as the financial support for my family. It's really just finding that balance between a trick helping you focus or becoming a worse distraction.

[@toriless]

Doodling is less annoying then the music.

[@chenderhan]

Im really happy for kids nowadays that adhd is better understood. I wish people had understood adhd better when I was a kid. Even though I had been in "gifted classes" when I was little I barely graduated high school. Aside from band, teachers hated me. I couldn't understand or pay attention to the rules for sports or math and I got bullied. My teachers and parents all just thought I was being stubborn. Luckily I gained coping techniques in college and did really well. I have struggled with substance abuse though, I'll admit, and relationships are really hard for me. I love your videos-- you explain things so well.

[@Loxcx]

I’m 18 and got diagnosed with ADHD at 17. I have almost all of these symptoms to some degree. My parents and I didn’t realize until we had a conversation about my little brother because he has the same problems I did at his age. Growing up, especially with my older brother who doesn’t ADHD, I always felt stupid and slow because he could sit still, he could pick things up quickly, and he just seemed overall better. After talking to my psychiatrist, it really became clear that the ADHD was a problem in my life. I also have a lot of coping mechanisms that I didn’t even realize wasn’t the norm until I found out I had ADHD and started taking notes of what I did differently. But, since being diagnosed, I do feel like my mental health has gotten better. Before, I had such bad anxiety and I was always sad. I never felt good enough. My mental health is a lot better since but it’s still not perfect

[@crystalbeaumont3159]

As someone who was diagnosed with hyperactivity as a child, pre ADHD days but never treated I have figured work around my whole life. But work is challenging, I love my job but I have had 20+ jobs in my life. Last year my boss during a performance evaluation commented on my doodling in meetings and I explained to her that I am indeed paying attention but this helps me pay attention. Also the interrupting people in meetings to talk has been my challenge for years I am not being rude or trying to make the other person feel bad, I am simply excited about something and I tend to blurt it out. I am thinking its time to see about a formal diagnosis as an adult, I really want to make my current job be a long term job for me.

[@traderhoe]

This is the story of my life!!!! College in particular has been such a struggle, in addition to my increasing depression/anxiety over the last few years. Google calendar has been my best friend and having a counselor I can see on campus has helped me push through the semesters. Thank you for your videos as always Kati!

[@MsEmmaloserface]

I was diagnosed at 22, only last year. When I researched impaired cognitive function (like slowly processing information), I found ADHD. I felt like I had found myself. Everything that made me, me, was explained. I wasn't stupid, slow.. I just think differently to others. When I first tried medication, its as if my brain slowed down, the obsessive worry and thoughts were kinda muted. I was able to look at a task and find a way to start it, without avoiding. My meds also treat my impulsive-ness. It stopped my binge eating. I know when to stop. I dont drink can after can of coke. I now forget my can is there for hours and its flat before I can finish it!

[@clementine8009]

I am 22 and I just told my parents that I want to meet a psychiatrist to get myself diagnosed. I'm on my final year in college but it's so hard for me to finish my project

[@peacelily515]

May I know the medication you use?

[@emmafox2449]

Gil B the ADHD meds are Concerta (newest and most common), Ritalin and Adderall; can only be prescribed if diagnosed by a psychiatrist with the condition and then started on dosage (in the UK at least); it has an exceptionally high risk for abuse so is a controlled drug and otherwise impossible to get. If you can get the diagnosis it is truly a life-saver got dangerously impulsive personalities

[@porqueno1825]

"They use a lot of salt" Me: ... >:O ADHD CONFIRMEDDD

[@kirammm637]

I need my food not to be boring lol

[@Travestie616]

This is the most shocking thing to me out of the entire video. When I was a kid, my mom used to get upset with how much salt I put on everything. I'd ask her if she'd put salt on my breakfast yet--if the answer was yes, I put another normal amount on it; if the answer was no, I put double the normal amount lol

[@porqueno1825]

@@Travestie616 it's like we feel the need of security to ensure we will get everything out of the taste to max the meal. Because I know I have a salt problem, excessively using it. That and lemon, anything I'm obsessed about rrly.

[@ssheldragon9100]

@@porqueno1825 I have the salt and lemon thing, too, but I had a stroke and had to give up salt. So now I use more lemon. Lemon, lemon, lemon. Another one for me is dry mustard (e.g., Colemans), I add it to almost everything I make -- and it's great with lemon! Oh yeah, I forced myself to go back and watch the first 2 minutes 2 times because my mind kept wandering off.

[@britneyhicks1211]

I think is just cause you start shaking salt out and then can't figure out if you put enough, so you put more until you can actually see it, and then put a little more just in case. By then, it's just way too much.

[@mindseyeblindyt6856]

Hello! I was diagnosed with childhood ADHD when I was around 6 or maybe even younger. I'm 15 now. I can say I relate a lot to most of the comments here. When I was younger, my mom said that I would get up randomly and start wandering around, and I feel like that's pretty accurate. I also have anxiety and horrible memory. My time management is shit, but hey! ADHD does feel like you're-... like you're multitasking by just existing. It's really hard to keep up mentally with almost everything. My experience is nerve-wracking, and the more overwhelmed I get the more I "shut down", and the chain begins . I "watch a quick video" to calm myself down that turns into "one more" and more and games and- it's monday? I thought it was still friday?? Homework? We had homework? When? So, yeah. Help. Thank you for coming to my ted talk

[@wendyhannan2454]

Time management is shit ain’t that true, haha 😂 I’m getting better but it’s only taken me 75 years.😉

[@everythingpony]

6:29 yeah, imagine growing up being spanked alot, grounded, told that i need to try harder or that im stupid, kinda effects you after about 10 years of trying to keep it bottled inside , calling myself stupid and saying i hate myself, i wish i could have had better treatment when i was a kid

[@crystenahemingway8656]

i feel you

[@Travestie616]

Same! I got excellent grades because I had to in order to not be punished, and a lot of my more outgoing personality traits were stamped out of me. My kindergarten report card described me as very intelligent, but also "loud and bossy" (i.e., assertive and a leader, obviously terrible traits for a girl ~eyeroll~). After a childhood spent walking on eggshells in hopes of not being hit or screamed at, now I have severe social anxiety, never want to take risks because I'm so afraid of failing, and have struggled with depression since I was a child. Still easily distracted, still extremely forgetful, still very disorganized and messy. All of the potentially positive ADHD traits were abused/terrified out of me, so all that's left now is the negative. It's so important for parents to remember that the goal is to *moderate* the hyperactivity/loudness/inattentiveness, not try to make children so downtrodden and meek that they have trouble functioning throughout their entire lives.

[@CatMom5050]

Same. If I got distracted I was told I was stupid and useless. I had a lot of anxiety from forcing myself still. In High School I couldn't focus because other people were too noisy or moving too much in their spots. I was in abusive relationships so that didn't help my self worth. When I went to college though, I excelled because I could do my studying how I wanted, when I wanted. I got on the top grades list, while in HS, I got 50s, college I got 90s! We are not stupid or dumb,, just need to do things our way.

[@ScotchItali]

Yep.

[@skatersurfersnowboarder3545]

i was dx with adhd as a kid and my folks did the same thing still... Nobody helped me. Just called it my issue

[@1973RPO83]

57 and diagnosed today , how my life could have been so different had I been treated instead of beated . The more I am diagnosed , research and look at my life and all the contributing factors the more I see I’ve overcome . Love ya work , Katie 🙏🏼👍🏼😎

[@LearyMason]

Please make more videos about ADHD. I've struggled with it my entire life and I find your videos very helpful. I am officially the first person in my extensive family history of ADHD to be honest about my symptoms and actually seek quality care.

[@iPsychlops]

I'm in my internship year as I'm working toward becoming a psychologist, and I'm doing assessments with college students for ADHD and learning disabilities. I really appreciate the information that you are providing to the public, and I think you have created a valuable resource in this channel!

[@ElegiesAus]

I got diagnosed last year at 28 after 2 sessions with a psychologist and 1 with a psychiatrist. It made a lot of sense considering I ticked off nearly all of the symptoms described in this video. I struggled so much through school and University and even the first few years of being a high school teacher were tough.

[@Marco_Onyxheart]

I have an ADHD diagnosis, but always thought it was more of an ADD in the way I exhibit it. Turns out I'm much more hyperactive than I thought. I don't usually bounce around, but my thoughts and speech tend to be too fast for people to follow, can speak excessively, I'm restless and can't sit still, and definitely blurt out answers before the full question has been asked. Also have some issues with turns and interrupt too often. And I'm very impatient. My brain is always in a gear that most brains don't have. To me, a small breathing pause in the middle of a sentence seems like a full stop. Like they stopped talking for a minute or more.

[@yolobro2071]

You seem very friendly and you’re beautiful. I have ADD and this was accurate.

[@lapitufitaazul]

I was diagnosed with ADHD until my son was diagnosed at the age of 7, I was 42 years old back then. 💔😭 If only I would have known about this. It's been a struggle, hell many times but I have made it. I am giving all the support my son needs although he will have to figure out things on his own as well. There is so much information, support, grants from Canadian government to help our youth. It give me hope and I see a brighter future for them than the one I had.

[@deerinheadlights9784]

I’m new and a (provisional) marriage and family therapist too. I’m happy for you and also jealous of this. You do a good job of going through the DSM and beyond. Would love to put more consistent effort into media one day as I’m able. Thanks for sharing

[@marknc9616]

My mom was diagnosed with ADHD when she was a few years from retirement. She had a moderate case and received medication and counseling. The whole family had to go into counseling as our family coping behavior had affected all of our relationships.

[@loltadynicneni913]

Something that's been working really well for me to keep paying attention in lessons I don't enjoy is making paper stars. I usually need like one paper of straps for a day but I usually cut two to ensure that I won't run out of them. Folding one star takes about a minute when you learn how to do it, you can still listen and you're completing many things fast and can just finish and drop it for a while as opposed to finishing a big colouring picture because that is a bigger project and you get attached to finishing it more than to the tasks in lessons. And it leaves you with a flood of really cute paper stars in various colours that you can put in a jar or give to your friends - I also used them as a reward tool in online school, a star for a lesson and more for challenging homework. Hope this helps anyone :)

[@YankeeRebel1348]

Ive always had the combination type of ADHD. As i grew older, i was lucky to find a career that was good for me. Motivation can be a big problem

[@christopherarias6943]

Taylor Runyons your career is in the military?

[@YankeeRebel1348]

Chris Arias it was. Im out now. Going to college now

[@autumnakins7640]

Thank you for serving, Taylor!

[@BrittnayWise]

My spouse has ADHD and it has been a struggle! I try to be compassionate, but it’s very challenging at times.

[@keydylady]

How do u do it? I’m dating someone with ADHD and at times is hard bc I don’t get, neither understand what he’s going thru. I want to learn about it for him, I wanna get in his shoes and not push him down and show him he can count on me :/

[@kaleido9631]

My mom is almost 50 and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. After watching this vid, I totally see why! Thanks Kati 🙂

[@ProSonasAS]

I've watched a LOT of ADHD videos and this one is the best overall explanation, I've seen - it's really a great video to share with our peers, to get a better understanding from them.

[@Toyon95]

Some people have ADHD Inattentive and some have combined hyperactivity and inattentive.

[@Katimorton]

Yes! Thanks for adding that in :) xxoxo

[@Toby3610]

I have inattentive type. I got diagnosed at 39. Took me wanting to beat addiction to drugs (opiates) to get diagnosed, weirdly enough. I don't use medication and use all the tools you mentioned. I also do mindfulness meditation which has work really well for the last 2 years. Thank you Katie.

[@Artskine]

ADD and ADHD.

[@es168]

It was an excellent description of adults with ADHD. I have experienced serious struggles with my ADHD since I moved to the US, because I have faced several transitions. I fall apart several times, each time I picked up my shattered .... to continue. It was not easy to get back to the person who I was, the same person before all crabs that I went through. It was the most challenging time in my entire life.

[@chickadeefoot]

I experience almost all of these symptoms on a daily basis...this is my life! No one even notices because they think it's a disorder for little boys. I cannot wait to manage this more effectively, but it's been challenging.

[@justasmalltowngirllivingin8453]

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child ( back in the 90s when it was still being studied) it was hard , frustrating and I always felt like I was broken. I still struggle with these feelings till this day. I have been on medication since I was 7 I am in my 30s now. I have learned to be in tune with my behavior and am always checking myself. I think the hardest part of having ADHD is that I am female. Back in the day it was seen as a male thing. So I was not only different I was different in my differerent. I struggled in relationships friendships work and romantic. The hard part is that there are lot of unknowns. If I get pregnant I don't know how early I need to diacontinue my medacation and what would the effect be on the fetus. What are the long term effect of medacation. I couldn't stop my medication its really hard to be off of it. I have learned to do yoga that really allows me to focus and be present.

[@entropy_extevire7896]

Heyooo, I felt this was accurate in relation to my life as someone who lives with ADHD. I often get told that my condition is “an excuse”, so it’s good to see someone is educating others about it. Thank you❤️

[@sydneyfairbairn3773]

My mom and her mom are full of ADHD! The over salting is so true! I would ask them to not add so much salt and they said I was being overly sensitive! My mom tries to jump in on all conversations and help even when nobody asks. Now that she is older and has physically slowed down she is operating at a speed that does not annoy people as much!

[@brucesanderson1467]

I just wanted to say thank you for the ADHD in adults video. I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my mid-thirties and this year 2020 has been very extremely rough on all of us and I haven't been able to control myself so I sought medical help for it. a lot of the things that you say about creating our own coping mechanisms is very. For instance at the age of fourteen I used to sleep with headphones inlistening to a song on repeat and this has continued up until the current of my life.I definitely understand how people have thought I was bipolar or extremely depressed and how it can actually relate to this now. I really appreciate you doing this video so I can better understand myself. Bruce Sanderson

[@kayroseox]

I consider myself lucky because I was diagnosed at 5 years old! I’m now 30. I’m very open about my struggles as someone who has adhd and if there is one piece of advice I can give you, it’s don’t be afraid to seek help! In order to be the best versions of yourself, you need to show yourself an act of love by getting the help you need. If you ignore it, you are making life harder on yourself and others around you who are not understanding you because you don’t want to understand you. You are worthy of help and treatment!!! 💗

[@hairyfrankfurt]

I'm 76% sure I've got ADHD for the following reasons: I'm always multi-tasking (one thing CANNOT keep my attention properly, so I have back up tasks to keep me busy or engaged with what I'm doing eg note taking and scrolling slides in lectures or doing surveys while watching KZbin videos), I get agitated with slow paced tasks; I do everything quickly and don't have time for being stuck behind other pedestrians or in queues or waiting for things (if I am required to be in the same spot I occupy myself with movements, habitual checking my phone or being distracted by my surroundings), I struggle to finish things or finish them on time - I forget due dates, get distracted, start 100 tasks and finish none or do more than one thing at a time which leads me to do none entirely - which leaves me depressed and unaccomplished, as a kid I was always told to sit still, stop talking in class, not distract other kids and pay attention- BECAUSE I WASN'T, and finally, dexamphetamine makes me relax, calms my depression and anxiety and gives me the ability to think clearly.

[@JonWayes]

Hairyfrankfurt Likewise, I’ve been told by friends/colleagues with ADD/AHD I have similar symptoms. What I’ve noticed is: -Part of the reason I started running a 2nd (online teaching) company is because I felt I had a lot of free time when not performing for my first company. -I decided I wanted to work out for 3 days (sometimes 4) at the gym and do martial arts twice a week (sometimes both on the same day on top of running my companies). I found these activities help me relax and focus in a sense. -I recently realized I often look to the side/off to the side of someone when they’re talking, to visually process what they’re saying in my mind while also thinking of business or personal life matters. -I find myself talking super fast sometimes (especially when performing for an awesome audience or speaking on/teaching something I’m passionate about). Someone just told me to “Stop being so hyper” on my other (teaching) channel, implying it made my lesson less professional as a speaker. Though in part of my reply, I attributed it to my family ties in the northeast where this person’s perceived “hyper” is their normal. Those are just some things. Needless to say, this was a bit difficult to type in one moment without my mind branching off into various other related & unrelated thoughts and editing specific things as I wrote them.

[@kimberlyhovis5864]

I would seek out a diagnosis especially since you already know that dextroamphetamine works for you.

[@kamikkaze5164]

@@JonWayes Same, I relate to most of the symptoms now, and through my 11~12 to now. But I never had like trouble in school with grades bc I like to study, but know since I'm in college and need a study routine to properly learn, I just feel that it's so many things at the same time and I catch so little or sometimes none. It's like I catch pieces and pieces and can't put together bc I don't have the glue. My mind it's like always so loudy and it's like I can't think straight, I lose the point and get lost in the big amount of different patches and connections my brain creates...

[@janmarbol]

That's me, my entire life since I can remember, and I'm 58 now. I was diagnosed in my 40s. I never finished college b/c of it. I'm not stupid, but I'm very impatient and hyperactive.

[@dinydianenichols9192]

I am 78 and have only cine to believe and accept that I have ADHD. I now believe that it has been the major problem in my life. Kati's podcast has brought me great comfort in knowing that I am not bad, but troubled.

[@Autmazing]

I would doodle tons of little perfectly straight structured lines all over the edges of my papers when I was in school from grade school all the way through college. I remember one particular professor glaring at me while I did it but it seriously helped me focus. But still... I was shocked at 38 when I went in for the autism diagnosis that I expected and ended up with an ADHD diagnosis too. I don't think I've ever failed anything as badly as the computer portion of the evaluation I had to do when I wasn't supposed to press the space bar when the x came up... no matter how slow I went... epic fail on impulsivity.

[@tonymind308]

Your comment helped me understand that when i self diagnosed myself an autism i realized that adhd is also a problem for me

[@es168]

Based on my personal life experience, also as an occupational therapist who has been diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 21, I can explain the reasons for misdiagnosing ADHD with Autism. Adults with ADHD are showing some similar symptoms like Autism. It would be because our sensory problems have not been treated appropriately. Moreover, our mind is busy all the time, 24/7, the struggle with maintaining concentration without receiving appropriate medication drains our energy, and we are receiving too much sensory input during a day, which is made us sensory overwhelmed. Besides, we are unable to say NO, or it is difficult for us to say NO, set the boundaries, and articulate our feelings and emotions. All of those increases our anxiety. A none-stop mental dialogue following all of those crabs, that had put more pressure on us, causing impulsive reactions or avoidance behaviors. The same behavioral pattern that has been seen in children/adults with Autism. It is only my thoughts and hypotheses which have the patent :) .

[@glintinggold]

I'm convinced I'm both autistic and ADHD, only after my nephew's ADHD dx led to my brother's ADHD dx, and I recall being terribly shy not looking in people's eyes specifically. I drew pictures in the blank areas of our work. I was always in the corner in first grade... and on and on.

[@soundsby]

I believe the over salting the food thing it's so true, I feel like everyone with ADHD has such similar brains and have more things in common than you would think

[@dizzycat1983]

I was told by my teachers when I was a kid that I chose to be lazy and disorganized. They even told my mom I was choosing to be that way. I was even teased by my fellow students for the way I was and I probably have depression and anxiety because of it. I wasn’t diagnosed till I was about 24 and I’m 39 right now

[@babybae9711]

I hope you are doing better. The child you may have gone through many sad instances, but the adult you is stronger, and therefore you have the ability to overcome them. This is what helps me, so maybe it also helps you.

[@dizzycat1983]

@@babybae9711 yea I am doing better especially after I found out I have ADD I was able to figure out coping tricks

[@TheDottini]

This is incredible timing on this day for this particular video for me. I actually can’t believe this just popped up in my feed - can you secretly read minds? Thank you thank you thank you Kati 💜💜💜

[@Katimorton]

Oh yay!!! Perfect timing!! haha!! xoxo

[@venomousvanessa4758]

I also learned that my binge eating that i did not even know that I had was because I had ADHD, which I did not know I had. I also take Vyvanse which helps with both.

[@sperk01]

you re such a charismatic youtuber. and your videos are super ADHD friendly. thanx for putting the hours in.

[@JoshuaHillerup]

As someone who's if anything aways been less "hyper" than his peers, and not generally a fidgiter, especially growing up, I wish it wasn't emphasized so much in the popular understanding of ADHD (even in the name).

[@IsleNaK]

Joshua Hillerup not to mention that it's said to be a "boys' thing". Especially since it manifests itself different in girls...

[@wickedbluerose6392]

Joshua Hillerup that's why ADD doesn't have the H or the hyper part in the title

[@JoshuaHillerup]

Wicked Bluerose ADD is not in the DSM V from my understanding, only ADHD.

[@IsleNaK]

Joshua Hillerup ADD is "ADHD inattentive type". It's just the acronym that is not in the DSM

[@JoshuaHillerup]

Nakop my complaint is that the acronym doesn't describe me, to the point where I never seriously considered it as fitting me.

[@lozza0810]

So interesting! I know quite a bit about childhood ADHD as I'm studying education and we get taught about it, but is so good to know how it affects adults as well :) Definitely something to be aware of and be able to better understand some friends who have been diagnosed xx

[@Katimorton]

Agreed!! I am glad you found it helpful and informational :) xoxo

[@nirakshara]

Right now I felt like my brain was about to burst while watching this video because of my hyperactivity, but I managed to watch it completely because it was interesting and she seemed to be really kind and understanding.

[@Disney65Fan]

29 and I wasn't diagnosed till last year. Can't seem to hold a job for long Zones out alot Has a habit of butting in while someone is in a conversation Impulsive with money

[@mace6417]

Hey Katie, I have ADHD and I stopped taking my medicine years ago. My parents believe it’s gone, because they think it goes away after I get older. I believe I lost the hyperactivity, but I in no way feel that I have lost the other aspects. I feel that I am completely unable to stick to anything, no matter what job I get, no matter what task I try to do, I always quit. Every time I go to my job I just feel like I’m gonna scream at any moment because my brain is just saying, “I hate this, leave now”. I don’t know what to do, can you help?

[@jawofajackass4047]

Mace good question

[@user-dn3dh8hd4i]

Me too, i feel like I didn't lose even that hyperactivity. I just stop trying to climb things and walking about. So that translated to me being cured of ADHD as far as my family is are concern

[@faeriesmak]

I am sorry to hear that you still have trouble with things. Have you considered trying medication again?

[@mace6417]

faeriesmak Trying to start again

[@AdamStephenTaylor]

I'm in the same boat. I am medicated on 90mg Atomoxetine daily. off medication I have really bad impulse control.ans say things to people I really shouldn't be saying. lack of motivation is my chief problem and medication does not make one iota of a difference.

[@sliderrbharris]

Something in my personal experience with dealing with ADHD is the ability to hyper-focus. It’s something I’ve only been able to grasp more recently, as I’ve gotten older. When a task is imminent, and needs to be done, I can block out the world and just get things done. There are pros to ADHD, and I hope someone else can feel enlightened like I have.

[@thekeeks58]

I was gonna write all about myself and my “problem “ but got distracted

[@whitthompson6170]

Aghhh I don't know how you do it! Perfect timing as always! My aunt and I were just talking about this and how some psychiatrists don't take adults with ADHD seriously. I was tested for ADHD last year. The person who tested me said I was too "unstable" to get an accurate result, and since then everyone I've asked about it has refused to do it again. They just said I'm slow.

[@roxannelovesvenussmokecity]

DyKoetah Thompson : YES!!!!! I feel so frustrated with that! They treat some like they are pill seeking. I'm like, " look, I just want to function!" Anyway, great comment!

[@annabethrose2318]

DyKoetah Thompson I know how that works I have been diagnosed with ADHD sense before I was 6 years old. But no one seems to understand quite how I work. Especially like my parents I try to keep the schedule and they come along and love destroying it because they're like this doesn't help you at all like you yeah kind of does.

[@blondangel79]

I was actually told by a psychatrist I couldn't possibly have ADHD because I wrote a book and I liked to read. It took me 7 years before I started thinking he was wrong. I started keeping a list of the rhings I did that felt like they couldn't be normal. When I showed it to him he just shrugged and said he could have told me without seeing it that I had it based on our past interactions. He assumed I had been diagnosed and just didn't medicate because it was so obvious.

[@paleobc65]

DyKoetah Thompson I was just going to say that! She has such perfect timing

[@Katimorton]

Ugh I am so sorry that they didn't take you seriously and get you the help that you need... that's so frustrating!! I hope you are able to use some of the tips i mention and they are helpful :) xoxo

[@eightytwobucks623]

I wish the support we got in school as kids was the same as an adult. Once you graduate you’re on you’re own and it’s a scary world out here

[@zsosborne]

Every time I watch a video about ADHD, I’m further convinced that I have it