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[@Audreyperson37]

On the section about spirituality, it reminds me of how the criteria developed to identify HSPs basically just ended up being undiagnosed autistic women HAHA. I’m sorry it’s not funny but it’s so funny at the same time. They knew there was something but created their own word for something that existed. I’ve always joked about my manifestation and ability to predict the future and sense what’s going on with people im happy to hear you talk about that

[@thishyna]

2011: learned I’m HSP, started a more spiritual journey. 2022: diagnosed autistic. I struggled greatly even after the spiritual awakening, more so with human stuff. I knew there was something missing 🥲 I actually came across an article on medium titled “HSP women may just be undiagnosed autistic”. Something along those lines. The missing piece!

[@KaiserSoze212]

Sry to spam, but I just wanted to say, this isn't just YOUR best video. This is the best video I have ever seen. The most honest, the most insightfull, and the most courageous video I have ever seen.

[@robinfa1477]

Have you ever heard if Indigo Children? It's thought that this concept came from observations of neurodivergent kids. I definitely found it relatable.

[@thiccletics]

I relate to this so much! I’m so glad you reference Gabor Mate also. He is amazing. I often pick up on things that no one else does and am made to feel stupid or gaslit about it….

[@cattymajiv]

He is a genius doctor from Vancouver Canada. He is so beloved by somany Canadians! ❤ ❤ ❤

[@originalvonster]

I struggle with the balance between being convinced that I have psychic abilities and mental illness. I think the only thing that has helped me to stay grounded recently is thinking of it as manifestation / the law of attraction. Where those things in the forefront of your mind are more likely to happen and come true because they are in your mind and your subconscious takes little steps towards those things happening seemingly like some sort of self-fulfilling prophecy.

[@theasianwitch]

Yes I have experienced this, but I thought it was my "bipolar disorder" I was mistakenly diagnosed with...I feel more like other animals than those humans who pretend to be something they're not. I'll admit I was one of these "fake people" for awhile, but my consciousness couldn't help but rebel and emerge from within my body. It's a good skill to have, an in-built lie-detector.

[@hank6371]

I feel like for many social situations it’s just a social niceties thing where ppl don’t really care that there may be an entirely different conversation occurring beneath the hood and would just rather not acknowledge that anything else is going on

[@originalvonster]

I have problems with hoarding too. I think I struggle to part with stuff because most items trigger a memory, sometimes the smell of it or just seeing that item. I also can’t part with gifts from people especially those given to my girls. I also can’t part with things that belonged to my dad who has passed. I guess I worry that I will forget if I part with stuff. I keep a lot of Birthday and Christmas cards too. I also have problems with keeping every single artwork my twins have created even though they might not even care when they are older. Also I have had a few obsessive interests so far such as photography, baking, music video games, final fantasy and music production. I tend to buy lots of stuff for my interests, but I don’t always take action in doing the actual hobby especially if there’s a delay in obtaining an item while I have the actual motivation to do the hobby.

[@Audreyperson37]

I love your videos I feel so seen and understood by them, so I’m sorry that that ends up in me flooding your comments 😭. I completely relate to the part about people not acting genuinely during social interactions! I can not deal with that, and I would always be the person to address these things in friend groups/relationships because I could tell something was up but did not have the ability to understand how or why the dynamic worked around it. This ended up in me being the person to acknowledge the ‘elephant in the room’ and try to have direct conversations even as a child throughout my elementary through high school experience and even into college a bit. By doing so, I was almost like the super confrontational person, always looking for drama and to start shit. In reality, I just didn’t understand what was happening and tried to do stuff about it, while everyone wanted to continue on. I lost a lot of friends and friend groups through this, and a lot of them were what others would call ‘falling outs’, but in retrospect, it was that the dynamic was changing or off, and I did not know what was doing on so I tried to use direct communication as a way to resolve stuff, when others would’ve just slowly faded out a friendship or change the dynamic without addressing it. This realization has been incredibly healing for me, because it showed me I was just trying to understand and be understood by people who couldn’t give that to me 🥹. Used to think this was abandonment issues, but that approach never helped much. Realizing I did not feel worried about losing friendships or breakups, I was anxious when I did not understand the dynamic or the changing dynamic of the relationship. Sorry for long post- this is not me needing support & like a therapy response or anything. These are all things that I’m actively working on on my own & with therapist and support system!! Mostly, I hope others feel seen in their experiences through reading about mine(:

[@joliesday]

Audrey this was really helpful for me to read and made me feel so seen! I always felt like I had abandonment issues too but that definitely isn't the case, it's totally a lack of understanding people who aren't direct in their intentions or communication. Thank you for sharing!

[@groawning1345]

Yep I'm described as confrontational/argumentative or problematic for wanting to understand and talk through things. Narcissists seem to be the worst bunch

[@nataliabennett8157]

Hahaha i do the same (flood the comment section). I relaye so deeply as well. The videos are articulated so well and are so on point to my experience.

[@sandragee2864]

I am a tad neurodivergent, and massively struggle with organization. I do like the translucent boxes with *attached lids* with labels on 5 of the 6 sides of the box. And I like putting labels on shelves & areas and putting similar things together, eg, “Cutting” “Attaching” “Shaping” “Smoothing” .

[@cielrobinson]

i ended up as a pagan/polytheist/animist as it makes sense to me. initially i was just humoring my boyfriend as he told me about it but it spoke to me and i picked it up too, eventually while we were talking on lsd i had an experience that confirmed things for me. the polytheistic worldview explains things in a dynamic way that doesn't contradict scientific evidence or exclude other beliefs. it's helped me to trust myself more and my intuition and accept things for how they are.

[@cattymajiv]

Almost everyone can be helped by LSD, as long as they do it in a very safe way. It needs to be researched, and to be supervised by somebody who has experience with it. They can do it too. The point is that there must be an experienced guide there.

[@hanpear]

I totally relate to the social dynamics you're talking about! I have always felt that way. I always chalked it up to being a person who values authenticity, but now that I've discovered my neurodivergency, I definitely know those feelings also stem from that, too

[@qbee1312]

I totally relate!!! My husband thinks I'm mental cause I hate dressers...HANG IT ALL UP SO YOU CAN SEE WHAT YOU HAVE!! Drives me bonkers when those boys SWEAR they don't have something when I know they do

[@sarahjaye4117]

I hate them too but am stuck in a studio w low closet space plus its a contrast of flourescant light and too dark to see well into dressers. Makes me wanna scream

[@lucyvicidomini5062]

I just self diagnosed as autistic recently (about a month or so) I’m still trying to figure things out. I’m 51 and spirituality has given me so many tools to navigate through life easier. So much so, that I’m in a PhD program for Metaphysical counseling. I found an old KZbin video about autism and spiritually by Teal Swan. Although not a huge fan of hers, how she describes autism and spirituality really resonates with me. I just picked up a book by Ulla Sarmiento, bridging Science and Spirituality, who also touches on autism and spirituality. Thank you so much for your videos. I’ve been researching so much about autism since my self diagnosis. I really resonate with your content it has helped me the most. Including personality types (I’m an infj) and spirituality in your content really sets you apart from other creators. I believe there’s a link to autism, astrology, parapsychology, personality types and spirituality. Thank you so much! ❤️❤️

[@jailizcordero21]

im an autistic female and an infj too

[@cattymajiv]

@@jailizcordero21 What does "infj" mean? I sure wish that people wouldn't use abbreviations or acronyms without explaining what they mean, unless they are very commonly used ones. But "infj" isn't common at all. Is that "information junkie"? What does it mean?

[@jailizcordero21]

@@cattymajiv Hi! No worries. Look up myers-briggs personality types lol. I was referencing my “personality type” infj. It stands for introverted, intuitive, feeling, judging.

[@gnosis8142]

I've written the theorem of everything. And now working on connecting all of these. Here is an example: Ni ― Pisces. Ne ― Virgo. Te ― Gemini. Ti ― Sagittarius. Se: Aries and Capricorn. Si: Cancer and Libra. Fi: Taurus and Leo. Fe: Scorpio and Aquarius. I also connected the Hues to the Signs. And expanded the Political(Mind) Spectrum from 1 to 3 Dimensions + all the rest.

[@kylowr3n]

my mom helps remind me when i forget this: nobody is owed what you know about them. there's a part of us we won't/don't know how to acknowledge. it sounds like you can really broaden your client's perspective! venting for me, especially online, is not helpful if i don't get a greater understanding from it. thanks for another thought-provoking video!

[@KaiserSoze212]

You are the best. It doesn't matter what background you could ever possibly get 🕺 I'm over 50 and you just gave me the best advice I've ever heard, and I didn't even know I needed to hear it. Thank you.

[@user-kv9xb2yd7m]

everything you talk about in this video is something that i have experienced (and still experience basically every day) as well and i'm just so glad i'm not the only one who feels like this!! especially the thing where people tell you you're wrong at first but it turns out later that your intuition was right after all. i also get very irritated when people are dishonest in group settings and continue to pretend to like someone when they really don't. this video just makes me feel so seen :)))

[@butterflypooo]

I relate to the spiritual stuff so much. So so much. 💯

[@NiinaSKlove]

- Visual marker. Yes!! Visual marker is exactly the word(s) I was looking for to describe my challenge with clutter. I didn't have a word for it for some of my challenges, but now I know. Thank you!!

[@doriane_do]

OMG what you said about spirituality : I feel the exact same way ! Wow ! Thanks for sharing !

[@nonk1200]

The weird friend group dinamic and the interactions that go on beneath the surface is so spot on. You really put it into words for me. Thank you

[@tylerwilliams7161]

The last of this is something i really relate to. Ppl will be so dishonest, it’s just like an allistic acceptable thing. V weird and it makes me so anxious trying to go along with not saying what actually needs to be said. Kinda why I stay alone most of the time. But hearing u say u have friends who DONT do this have me hope

[@daniellegarcia4098]

I relate to this so much. I always realized that I’m bad at social situations and I can’t pick up on a lot of social cues, but I can always pick up on energies

[@dawudallen]

100% on the clutter; that tension between wanting to get rid of every object that isn't used daily, and feeling a deep emotional attachment to those things. Similar feelings about spirituality. Because of past trauma, I'm so skeptical of holding a spiritual thought. But that means I'm left with a lot of experiences that were meaningful to me, and I have no place to put them except in the storage closet in my mind. And again, hate the clutter.

[@Ragingbull123]

I am autistic and spiritual

[@darcy606_artist]

It has gotten so hard for me to differentiate between my intuition and my fears over something. I try not to let what other people will think of me or fear of situations to control my decisions and try instead to rely more on my intuition and what I know is better for me when it comes to making decisions. Things have been getting too complicated lately, that I'm not sure what's what anymore, and I find it pretty annoying because I valued my intuition being able to help guide me through weird and confusing times.

[@tinareynolds2938]

The spiritual comments make me think that either we were so sensitive we had to learn to tune out so it wasn’t overwhelming and now our brain just does it all the time OR in some cases the household was chaotic so we had to develop the sensing capabilities to sense danger and when things were too much we tuned out. And that supports the theory of ADHD being a trauma response. And to a sensitive baby/kid it might not take a lot to feel traumatic. Just thoughts. In astrology the tune out planet is Neptune: escape, mental confusion, seeing behind the veil, but also…SPIRITUALITY! If it’s connecting to Mercury then for sure the brain is tuning out!! Could make for a good study.

[@jessicacass1783]

What if it's society is not progressing at the concurrent rate of consciousness and thus so many people are suffering. Autistic people being so sensitive cannot ignore what everyone else pushes to the side. So we end up suffering more because we aren't heard genuinely. Yes, what's happening underneath. Yes, the mismatch is so infuriating.

[@ryebowen]

Oh gosh, what you said about social stuff around 10:40 is so relatable. I’m ADHD, but I’m starting to think I might also be autistic, and taking that self discovery process very slowly. But neurotypical social interactions that only live on the surface are painful to participate in.

[@magicalpatterns]

This gives me goosebumps. I have the most crazy Y stories of me knowing things that no one else have and I never understood any of it. Thank you so much

[@Ragingbull123]

I’m 24 now and your explaining all I been looking for to understand me

[@ginnyjanisse1220]

Dishonest people feel off to autistics. We can’t always tell what the issue is, but fake has a definite feeling.

[@KaiserSoze212]

"what are we doing here". That is the funniest thing I have ever heard, why are people so strange lol.

[@lkyblowfly1081]

I'm autisitc and this video is sooo relatable along with your whole channel, and i love hearing this type of stuff! I also feel other peoples feelings even if the other person was behind a screen. I also have odd specifite feelings for the new years, and usually the feelings are true to the year. Does anyone else can do thst? Or have some type of furture seeing powers?

[@magdalenemoondragon6648]

I am so blown away with how well you put into words what I’ve been observing and trying to navigate!!! So spot on!!

[@cattymajiv]

Clutter makes it hard to think. I just can't move when my place is cluttered. And so it gets even more cluttered. I think everyone is like that though, not just neurodivergent people. Every trait of neurodivergent people is also affecting everyone else, the so-called normal people. (Nobody is normal.) But we just focus more on them, and we get much more critical of ourselves because of them. The so called normals are every bit as screwed up as we are, and the fact that they believe that they're ok and we're not is a HUGE problem!

[@sandragee2864]

Sometimes I wonder if autism is partially a speed in processing issue. For example, you see a lot of stuff in depth and due to the the volume of information, your brain doesn’t have enough “RAM” to process everything in real time. Of those folks that you get confirmations about discord someone has about another and then they act like there’s nothing wrong, I think it may be overwhelming to figure out how to handle, so it’s easier to revert to old behavior patterns of the air kisses, the pleasantries.

[@Zainab-tk6rn]

So true about being intuitive, i am the same...through and throughxxx

[@ugi976]

Matches with my feeling

[@_Magpie_]

I just found your channel, and I’m so glad! I feel that you have put words to so many of my own experiences and helped me to understand my own actions better. Thank you for sharing about your inner world. 💕

[@darkacademia9667]

I relate so much with what you’re saying, especially the dialogue about spirituality! I’m mind blown🥹

[@ciaraskeleton]

Im not even joking i talk about my big gut feelings as 'i have a knowing'. I just know sometimes. Not with everything! But especially with regards myself and my life, i get these 'knowings'. I havent been wrong. I think its that we dont pick up all of the cliche other stuff, we pick up on things in a whole other way. Like a 6th sense. We 'feel' it (physically or emotionally) or we get a 'knowing' and that seems to be how we recieve our information. Same for the social stuff. What i feel or see is happening, is usually not what others would say is happening on the surface. Yet if i act in my 'knowing' im right. I can look at friends and see the fact that one resents the other, or the play of toxic behaviour between them. Same for couples. If i see a couple having an argument or disagreement, i will be able to tell you each of their core wounds and what draws them to the relationship. I also have a scary accurate ability to predict the longevity of peoples relationships and marriages. Not my own of course, but others. People usually say im being bitter or judgemental but im just being honest and blunt. I dont like being a part of a 'friend group' for this reason. After a few times hanging out i see the hierarchy, the dynamics and the trajectory. So then i feel like i either have to 'play a part' or i have no place there. Cause if i dont play their part, the group outcasts you. Its insane. Its overwhelming.

[@gnosis8142]

You have these intuitions ― because you're an INFJ. Other can't have these ― because they don't have these Functions. It has to be the Dominant, or at least Leading.

[@SparklesNJazz]

this is so validating, what you’re saying about hyper-focusing on a hobby then letting it go. i have so much shame because of the things i’ve let go. but you’re right, they served their purpose and their time.

[@Ragingbull123]

Everything you saying has been me my whole life

[@AlexiiiaKay]

Everything you talked about in this video resonated so much with me

[@mnbotanicals]

Absolutely loved this video and can relate to pretty much everything you said. I’m learning so much about myself through your channel ❤

[@tomohawkcloud]

I tested positive for covid today pray for me

[@fellinism]

Hi!! I've just met your channel recently, and I'm loving your content so far; I really liked how you approach this delicate subject, and I relate to many of what you've expressed; for exemple, the part of getting vibes of ppl being social, but that not seeming genuine. For a good while I thought I felt that way bc, like many inside the "spectrum" or c-ptsd survivors, we've trained ourselves to predict and read ppl in order to fit in, or to avoid conflict with individiuals who thrive off of that; but as a spiritual inclined person, also neurodivergent, I wonder sometimes about what is a developed skill many of us got to survive, and ended up making us "pros" at picking on subtle clues due to that, even if this isn't our..."default mode", you know? So, it really makes me wonder if we get those clues from some type of "astral" network, if that makes sense. Anyway, again, great way to share those type of experiences; I've been dealing with this a lot, lately, but for the sake of my own sanity, I try to validate these 'intuitions' i get, look at and explore them with curiosity, yet avoiding to fixate over it, and stay away a bit from some self- titled, spiritual empaths - who also may be neurodv - on social media, since we can't be sure if they're what they claim to be, and if they are indeed, do they get too lost in convoluted, spiritual pseudo-science spiral? Can their insights, and mine as well, be trusted? Now, sorry if i sounded condescending at some point, it was not my intent nor was that last bit directed at you, too. Looking foward to see you up content about these themes another time, if you feel like it! Lots of peace to you! 😊🥰

[@nataliabennett8157]

Also im travellong at the moment and if you could see the ampunt of stuff everywhere because its true ; i already knew this was a "symptom" of mine but hearing you say it and then i looked at my room and laughed so hard. Hahahah

[@KaiserSoze212]

Would you sell your crochet? Make some space?

[@jaleesa00]

What do you do for a living

[@sgr1888]

What's the name of the music in this video it's very relaxing

[@whiterosesj]

Autistic people are so intuitive. If you think of the fact that autistic brains take in up to 5x more information than average brains, obviously we would be more aware of things!! I know God and I know his son Jesus and I know that there are spiritual influences at work in this world. Most people are unaware of the spiritual battles around them, or they ignore them. But the Bible says that they are happening. It does not surprise me that autistic people are more aware of these spiritual influences too :)