ADHD - How Normal Self Control Develops 2009 C

Dr. Russell Barkley (Taken from: Essential Things Parents Need to Know about ADHD)

[@a4sinha]

ADHD leads you to: 1) Act on impulse. 2) Not resist distractions. 3) You are less able to think back about what you are doing - about the action that lies ahead. You cannot use your hindsight and therefore your foresight is gone. 4) You do not plan ahead. 5) You live in the moment. This is going to rob you of your sense of time.

[@awllypollyas8292]

Then I guess I'll live forever.

[@luthiervandros]

Reading this post robbed me of my sense of time.

[@siiioxide7807]

you had to edit the bold points of this video? 😂

[@TurbulantSynider]

​@@luthiervandros Sense of time perspective means... please tell

[@naturalmedicinewriting5208]

I have been diagnosed with adhd but I have a unceasing voice in my head that keeps on talking to itself

[@kaffarghost3223]

Yes. I have about 10 other voices in my head. I’ve always had foresight and hind sight.

[@annak29]

Maybe a mild form of schizophrenia...may be wise to look into it, if it's making life difficult.

[@Findmylimit]

Hey all three of you start talking to your self it’s not weird all those voices are you but wimpy, coward, insecure, selfish.. versions of you stop allowing them to have a mind of their own and voice out what your thinking and how your feeling what your gonna do or what your doing it’s unconventional but so what who cares.

[@Findmylimit]

@@annak29no don’t listen to this “psychiatrist” 😂😂

[@markfisher5628]

If someone ever asks me what I did with my life I'll tell them I looked for lost items

[@etichall]

Ha! Totally.

[@tobiba3484]

Content Overview 00:33 ADHD is neuro genetic disorder - Not how you were raised

[@Kathrynlove]

I'm 40 years old with this and I have no internal voice to myself...no ability to problem solve or move forward. EVERYTHING in my life is done randomly and impulsively. It was so fun when I was younger...but even things like laundry, going grocery shopping, showering...everything is impulsive. I have no plan for life. I'm just living it...

[@TurbulantSynider]

Its alright love. Its all good . 👍🏻🙏🏻

[@McGuire123100]

Me too. 😢😢😢

[@ceeteag7912]

Thanks so much for your honesty and humility. My son is struggling with exactly the same dilemma at the end of resitting year 2 at uni. I am not very good at helping as I too have ADD. Reasuring at least to know we are not alone. You certainly have a gift for creating u tube videos. I hope you find something really interesting that you can make a living from soon. Congratulations on getting your diploma. 🤗

[@Findmylimit]

Hey hopefully your son made it through uni I was gonna offer some help but let me know if ya still need it

[@abrohamproductions8263]

I could visualize as a kid extremely well, and I had crazy good patience and memory and self-restraint, and thinking (overthinking) before I act. However I've always been bad at time, and I've always had windows where I could focus on something boring and get stuff done and most of the time I couldn't focus on something boring. I also had constant racing thoughts in my mind until 2 years ago when I read a book that changed that. And I've always been way more calm in chaos, and not as functional when it's calm.

[@jm8585]

Mind sharing the book name?

[@KasraKlassics]

@@jm8585guess he decided to keep his secrets

[@annak29]

May I ask what book you read that helped you? Thank you for your insight! Very helpful to understand each unique person.

[@german9892]

THANK YOU

[@natashyas4149]

Very sobering explanation of ADHD and Conduct Disorder

[@libbi_lu2228]

I can't hear the voice in my head over the 2 or 3 songs that are playing at all times. The music cuts in and out all day. I even sing out loud at home. I'm an adult and have or had all of the issues he is describing. I self medicated when I was younger, so I can't be prescribed the medication that actually works, therefore I want to self medicate. All while trying to manage 2 ADHD children. Life can be chaotic to say the least .

[@briancreech9990]

I mean most of these things are true but it makes us sound like we are idiots. I can function fairly well but I do have issues. It shows in my work. I love doing work well. But once a task is done I'm floating in a dark tank. Lol.

[@robertraymond762]

This guy litterally compared us to animals without a frontal cortex. Haha. Ouch, right?

[@Plethorality]

@@robertraymond762 its a relief, not an insult. i finally got diagnosed last year, aged 55.

[@brittany6426]

Not insulting at all!

[@theangusschmaloer]

18:33 "would never be applied to an adhd child". How about comorbidities like anxiety etc that could make them share less????

[@a.b9893]

Gold!

[@LALA-lm7pk]

So how can we help our kids?

[@Meleeman-lj5id]

Guys I don’t think he’s talking about us adults with ADHD 😂 he was comparing kids with ADHD to how impulsive animals can be

[@div_shroomsoninstagramsell3929]

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[@theeantagonist467]

For parents As a child who was diagnosed with ADHD in 1st grade. All the things he said are true however, all vary with each individual. The meds will help your kid focus in school but they will need therapy to learn how to process real life situations and the emotions that come with them. Please do not sleep on therapy! It’s more important than the medication itself if you ask me. But if u can afford both? Great! Also as a Christian and a 26 year old bow what’s really helped me have better discernment is Jesus/ my faith. Whenever I have a emotion im having trouble processing I pray about it and give it to God. So if y’all are a family of believers I strongly encourage you to encourage you kid on how Jesus is like a super hero and turns water to wine, raised the dead, and the same spirit is in us bc he died for our sins so just pray to him when you feel weak. 🦋 hope this helps lol♥️🥰 cuz it’s helped me not make impulsive decisions

[@brendalg4]

So if you have an internal voice, you don't have ADHD?

[@zenithperformancefitness6897]

The internal voice is too slow. Rather than "you should not do that", but instead "you shouldn't have done that"

[@veteranghost4710]

That's inaccurate, from my understanding if you have ADHD you will have an internal voice, but you'll get it later than people without ADHD ( you mature 30-40% slower), on top of this, the mind's voice will have little to no control over your actions.

[@LavaSlayer77]

@@veteranghost4710 I had seriously bad ADHD I developed my inner voice around 13/14 I'm now 20 years and my internal voice won't shut up I keep overanalyzing coming up with ideas every though I have is an idea it's problematic because it's hard to function like a normal adult it's actually not a gift like he said I too think it's is a culmination of cognitive impairment along with addiction to learning

[@deechonada]

​@@LavaSlayer77 I'm glad (and not glad) that you mentioned addiction to learning. I've always felt useless if i wasn't picking up something new, but then I don't learn it in depth get bored and learn something else.

[@100samanthamarie]

I’ve noticed that when I have a health emotion that is caused by healthy thinking, I get motivation. So when my mom used to ask for help with washing dishes, I would feel so guilty for not having the dishes done already and I felt guilty because I could see right away how tired she was… so I would procrastinate and the guilt would give me anxiety and adhd paralysis. I felt strong emotions because I care for my mom a lot and I feel her struggles very much. But when my friend asked for help, I would help right away because I felt very confident in myself. Often, I did dishes without my friends having to ask me. I always hated that about myself. I got better over time. Therapy and thinking health helped a lot. Write this down now!!!!!!!!!!! “THINK HEALTHY!” Write it down EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get an engraved bracelet, frame it, tattoo it, make reminders on your phone, sticky note it, write it in your school note books, make bookmarks. Label your phone charger, your toothpaste, your bathroom glass mirror. Write it somewhere inside your car. Please for the love of yourself, make sure the words THINK HEALTHY are put somewhere that you’ll always see them. Put it where you know you need work on. You have depression from adhd and you can get out of bed? Use a marker to write think healthy on a tshirt. Put a paper of it on your bathroom door. Look at is as a new project. We adhd people like new projects. Write it everywhere. Think healthy think healthy think healthy. There’s a difference between thinking healthy and thinking positively. 😊

[@elzette]

It's a generalisation to say they are all living in the moment

[@div_shroomsoninstagramsell3929]

I got guidelines from👆👆him, Microdosing stops depression,ADHD and PTSD. He is my supplier🍄 💊🍄🍫💯🔌

[@alexmc14]

He is wrong in a lot of his research. some people with adhd struggle solvings problems because we simulate , picture ,and feel Possible future options 10000 times more than regular people !

[@deechonada]

Right. I'm much more abstract in my mind than on paper. I think too much. In fact it costed me my degree which i spent 4 years on. I studied Architecture, which is possibly the best OR worst degree to do with adhd. Little to no immediate result, alot of fine details, alot of boredom, and alot of criticism

[@siiioxide7807]

sounds like the traits of a hunter that lives mostly alone but feeds a community. only the here and now is relevant

[@zesalesjt7797]

14:20 BREAKING: Bombshell. Defusion... 4 C's Correlation is not causation. Coincidence or conflation? 1 in 5 is higher than 1 in 20 in general population so there is a calculable correlation. Multivariate analysis is required for a more definitive answer as to causation. What's interesting is that AI starts as a default as being psychopathic so these questions are key. A moral key to morality if you will.

[@zesalesjt7797]

14:39 ADHD does Not contribute to psychopathy. 😮‍💨

[@zesalesjt7797]

ADHD plus Conduct disorder is single best predictor... Great...

[@zesalesjt7797]

20:16 Thanks (Insert comedic scapegoat here)

[@zesalesjt7797]

23:45 He's preaching to the choir but the choir is laughing.

[@dillontierney8150]

Is this Sheldon's grandfather or father?

[@sawmanbigtreeslayer2360]

😂😂😂😂

[@soniat4895]

Psychopath 14 min

[@brendalg4]

Is he the only one that thinks this stuff or do others agree? I only listen to the first couple of minutes. The stuff he is saying doesn't make sense to me. He says a baby doesn't have to learn language. That isn't true. That's why babies start off saying things like "Ba ba" for bottle. I have read that after a certain time period, it becomes harder for someone to learn a new language. If he was correct then learning a new language would be just as easy for an adult. I could believe that people have an easier or harder time with self-control based on their genetics, but that doesn't mean people don't need to learn it. For example, babies are not born knowing how to share. You have to teach them. Babies do not naturally say please and thank you. Long after they have learned to talk, the parent is still saying "what's the magic word?" to prompt the child to say please. If you take any child and don't tell him it is not okay to climb all over the dinner table, he is going to be climbing all over the dinner table. Let's say kid A has ADHD and kid B does not. You tell both kids 100 times over different occasions to sit still and not climb on the dinner table. Kid B might have stopped by now. But kid A will still be trying to do it. That doesn't mean that kid B did not need to learn. He did. But it also doesn't mean that kid a is a bad kid. He truly can't control it

[@roknrolful]

i think that he is trying to tell that normal child learn laungage just by hearing it while adhd child must learn it by repeating it over and over again and trying realy hard

[@brendalg4]

@@roknrolful every child does that. A kid without ADHD still has to work hard to learn. I think that is what causes the "terrible twos". The child gets angry because he can't express his thoughts. A kid with ADHD might need to work harder but a kid without it still needs to work hard

[@fkstudio5901]

@@brendalg4 You completely misunderstood the lecture. Try again. Say you plant two seeds that grow to be trees. Tree A develops normal roots. Tree B has delayed root development. A storm is more likely to unearth Tree B. Similarly, non-ADHD children develop self-control as their brain develops. But ADHD children have delayed brain development. That's why adolescents are told to grow up and when they do grow up, magically they're fixed.

[@brendalg4]

@@fkstudio5901 I agree with the tree example. I didn't listen to the whole lecture because the stuff in the beginning did not make sense to me. For example saying that a baby doesn't have to learn language. I believe both neurotypicals and neurodivergent need to learn language. It would have made sense if he said it takes one longer or is harder for them to learn but that isn't what he said

[@fkstudio5901]

@@brendalg4 I can't say anymore because I forgot the lecture and I can't force myself to watch it again.

[@hankbluz413]

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[@gcg8187]

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[@elzette]

Sorry but I can NOT agree with this lecture. ADHD people are superb with multiple problem solving

[@fkstudio5901]

No. Stop romanticising the disorder.

[@deechonada]

I disagree. If theres multiple problems they all get half solved, if theres one it may get solved if the thrill of wanting to solve it doesn't run out by the end. This isnt to say we don't love or have the innate capability to solve, its just much harder to execute