Think Faster, Talk Smarter with Matt Abrahams

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5 ай бұрын

Many of us dread having to convey our ideas to others, often feeling ill-equipped, anxious, and awkward. Experts help by focusing on planned communication experiences; yet, most of our professional and personal communication occurs in spontaneous situations that leave us flustered and stumbling for words. Together, we’ll explore science-based strategies for managing anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, and making content concise, relevant, compelling, and memorable. By the end of this class, you’ll know how to navigate the situation like a pro and bring out your very best.
Matt Abrahams, ’91, lecturer in organizational behavior, Graduate School of Business

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@swaganomiks Ай бұрын

For everyone that is watching this video. Your time for greatness is coming!

@zc1122 Ай бұрын

Key titles #1. Tame the Anxiety Beast. #2. Maximise Mediocrity. (So you can achieve greatness) - Reduce cognitive load. #3. Mind Your Mindset. - i) Not yet ii) Yes, and. iii) Next play iv) Missed take #4. Don't just do something... stand there - Listen; Pace. Space. Grace #5. STRUCTURE Your Spontaneity - What? So What? Now What? #6. The F-word: FOCUS - Have a Goal: Know, Feel, Do. (What do I want the audience to Know, How do I want them to Feel, What do I want them to Do) - Sentence starters, pitch (structure): What if you could... So that... For example... That's not all...

@davidr4523 2 ай бұрын

Excellent video. The best tips for better speech I have ever heard include 1. Be knowledgeable on many topics and be a subject matter expert in your area. 2. Prepare your speech. Think about what you are going to say. There is no shame in writing your speech out. 3. Read out loud every day. Just as a singer will not improve with mouthing the words silently an orator needs to practice saying words. 4. Speak slow. 5. Smile and look very comfortable. 6. Concentrate fully on your speech to get in the zone. Don't get distracted and don't lose focus. 7. Role model a great speaking. Watch videos from Obama, Jay Leno, Josh Hawley and other great speakers. Watch their head, hands and other body movement. 8. Practice giving speeches preferrable out loud or at very least in your mind. 9. If you are given a tough question, answer it in frameworks rather than being potentially wrong with the answer. 10. Ask clarifying questions before you give your answer.

@cocoarecords 2 ай бұрын

Thx sir

@Phileas_40 2 ай бұрын

It's funny because your advices may work but are very rigid and prepared in advance. But the video was about improvisation, being in the present, truly listening to your audience 😅

@davidr4523 Ай бұрын

@@Phileas_40 except for my #2 all of the guidance I gave prepares you advance for when you have improvise . Other guidance gave like smiling and focusing helps you during your speech.

@muel6294 17 күн бұрын

😅😊

@lesleymhlanga4324 10 күн бұрын

exceptional advice....I appreciate 🎉

@user-lk9pp9il9u 2 ай бұрын

Step 1. Manage Anxiety, Step 2. Get out of our own way, Step 3. See it as an Opportunity Step 4. Listen Well Step 5. Messaging

@user-kf8jb6fr4n Ай бұрын

This is God sent. I blush and perspire and it has really destroyed my life. I am 38 years old now and still faces this issue. Somehow as a younger person I thought, that it would go away as I grow older, but it never did. I just came home after having dinner at a friends place and while socializing my anxiety kicked in and I blushed and started perspiring again. Went home dejected, fired up my P.C and decided, my time's better spent learning Japanese then wallowing in self pity, but for some reason the app won't open. So opened KZbin and this was in my recommendation. I will use this knowledge and better myself from this day onward. Thank You

@mrjohncrumpton Ай бұрын

Came here to say I blush over my face and neck too. And the sweat from my armpits drenches my shirt lol.

@Nic03187 9 күн бұрын

The symptoms you describe are actually an indication of your intelligence. Only frauds and really stupid people are convinced they´re smart.

@singlepointdc7749 2 ай бұрын

I always try to remind myself that I’m just trying to help the people I’m presenting to. If you’re just there to help, and focus on that, you can take yourself out of the equation.

@SCharlesS Ай бұрын

Yes that is his step 3.

@adventurist86 28 күн бұрын

Absolutely, agreed!

@claudiajimenez380 3 ай бұрын

I found you in KZbin by amazing accident, and I have been watching three videos on a road, I'm going to give a class for medical interpreters in Montana, and all your videos that I watched help me to feel more confident and get more ideas for my next class in March 2024. God bless your knowledge 🙏

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@user-ps6wr9fi8s 2 ай бұрын

Yah! You are the One of greatest speakers I have ever heard.

@PriyankaRay-ng8bu 2 ай бұрын

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@bhineshwartidke4249 2 ай бұрын

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@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 Ай бұрын

Cool Thanks...

@AlimFlood-jh5gc 21 күн бұрын

🎉 Thank you KZbin and Stanford Alumni for this free lecture and class... I've learned what was much-needed for my success in the future ❤. #thinktillyousweat

@noorazimi1299 Ай бұрын

To this day, i didn't know what small talk means. I am glad i have searched it on here and came across this treasure of communication skills.

@Deanforbes 2 ай бұрын

It always surprises me how many people have a hard time with small talk. This info is necessary!

@user-xz5vf7ct3j Ай бұрын

I’m brand new to sales and struggle with social anxiety. I really appreciate your videos. They are very helpful!

@johndymen4580 Ай бұрын

One of the rare time I open my note book to study a talk. Thanks for the content. It’s so valuable

@OoggzUgi 2 ай бұрын

I believe I’ve seen him do this lecture before and still amazing.

@user-fv7qz5so1b 4 ай бұрын

Amazing presentation again from Matt!! I've been trying to follow him since the presentation 9 years ago and it really helps me

@angie_weinberger Күн бұрын

“I’m still a Work in Progress” love your openness here. 😂

@aN0nyMas 3 ай бұрын

thank you Steve Martin!

@amirahaidary4187 2 ай бұрын

😂 lol he does look like him

@jycegaming8530 2 ай бұрын

This is Matt Abrahams

@aN0nyMas Ай бұрын

@@jycegaming8530 Hi Matt Abrahams! This is dad!

@sickofya Ай бұрын

Steve martin without jokes

@LiveForeverFitness Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@yuanson1989 2 ай бұрын

I really appreciate for sharing this great lecture.

@pratimamishra2391 Ай бұрын

I really love the way he narrated I'm like when I have to talk I go freeze so it's really good for me to exercise this to reduce my condition

@OptimisticMedia23 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

@ninadgandhi3733 Ай бұрын

These are really good advices. "Structure is a tool", I love this.

@JayhawkGuitar Ай бұрын

Outstanding lecture! I wish Matt had been my professor in college. Very engaging to the very end and extremely useful. There are clear applications across my life communicating with my family, in my roles in business development and in podcasting. Thanks, Matt!

@MrDiegoDaza80 2 ай бұрын

Matt thanks a lot for this conference and video resource. It's super useful, loved the pitching framework... I'll practice practice practice!

@LoveeDooUniverse Ай бұрын

I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.

@philrincon 2 ай бұрын

Purchased the audio book. Thank you.

@nickpetrock2710 Ай бұрын

Love this guy! He's like a serious Steve Martin, very engaging speaker!

@JayhawkGuitar Ай бұрын

Well said! 100% agree.

@traviswebster4622 2 ай бұрын

This was also a wonderful video to learn from. I get real tense when attempting to "say the right things"; so thank you for uploading this content for others to evolve from

@shrikantpawar8269 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much sir 🙏

@dihett 2 ай бұрын

This was useful-thank you.

@rabiulhussain1083 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Matt. I hope to one day come back and repeat, reflect and seek feedback, from others and myself. Anyone else what like to share there feedback?

@nmdusama 2 ай бұрын

Structure mindset and messaging..thanks

@yuzhou8316 2 ай бұрын

Very helpful! Thank you!

@Vuistic 2 ай бұрын

I have been listening to your podcast on spotify for 2 years...now i get to see you :) thank you for the show...and love your voice and pace!

@ahsanmohammed1 Ай бұрын

Thank you! Appreciated.

@ejikeasogwa9699 2 ай бұрын

Knowledge is power

@julietableichmarholman518 2 ай бұрын

Seriously, pretty fantastic! 🎉

@user-nt3nh7ur2s 2 ай бұрын

Love is a gift that comes to my mind 🤔

@user-rm9bo9yf4m 5 күн бұрын

This was so good thank you

@ahedyemen Ай бұрын

Thanks more for this tips ,thanks again you faced me to the right way

@choodeshb7723 14 күн бұрын

Great Teacher ❤

@kandutho 2 ай бұрын

It’s dificult to gasp the fact that we as a society need a “ how to have a conversation” course. It’s like teaching droids how to behave. Makes me sad. I appreciate the content nonetheles

@jamalperry4281 Ай бұрын

I was thing this??? Why is it a class to talk. Everyone is different and every situation is subtly different… I feeel like he’s teaching how to be deceptive!!!

@JoelTanSG Ай бұрын

@kadutho because being able to communicate under high stress situation is a important skill set that should have been taught when we were kids but unfortunately was not. It’s not about “how to have a conversation “ but how to effectively bring across what’s in my mind to someone different from me and be able to connect with him through words

@user-ts9nk9bi3u 2 ай бұрын

@MOHDREHAN-pq3ny 2 ай бұрын

I have heard many talks on this talk and this is the best so far, it makes the sense straight away. I have already watched it multiple times and will listen to it again and again. Thanks a lot for such a life changing coaching on communication skills

@BrainMartian Ай бұрын

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@BrainMartian Ай бұрын

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@BrainMartian Ай бұрын

p 43:53

@kenken6550 2 ай бұрын

When i was teaching HS Drama 1, i was not teaching acting... i was teaching "how to speak publicly" and "make friends". Sure, we did it through games and scene work, but i think it helped.

@guidovanbelle8516 2 ай бұрын

Wish I had this lecture fifty years ago.

@uuyy5993 2 ай бұрын

Hopefully u may have 50 years after this.. So 🥂

@lesleymhlanga4324 10 күн бұрын

🎉 thanks for the advice, as we speak I have a problem my mind just shut especially presenting sermon

@olakapkowicz4743 3 күн бұрын

Amazing❤

@youngskunk Ай бұрын

His pitch was awesome 👌

@mohajaamus247 Ай бұрын

It,s First english vedio i ever completed

@levinsonl 2 ай бұрын

I love Steve Martin

@Kkviolet1822 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely need to slow things down!

@navinagrawal1963 2 ай бұрын

- manage anxiety - get out of Our Own Way - see it as an opportunity - listen well - structure your responses

@Qrealtorpa Ай бұрын

Next play ❤️

@riskyhn2145 25 күн бұрын

I watched his video 9 years ago, and still good till this day

@rocketcal6326 24 күн бұрын

Sick ass time traveler lol

@Nicole-cf3kj Ай бұрын

Speaking in the moment - is something that I struggle the most. I’m frozen all the time 😢 And I am in my 30s

@dukeyin1111 28 күн бұрын

1)What? So what? Now what?. 2)Tell me the time, don’t make me a clock. 3) Structure/focus. pitching: what if you could, so that, for example, and that’s not all

@sandeepreddy7831 13 күн бұрын

00:00:01:How to speak better in the moment if you have recently had to 00:01:34:6 Steps to Be Better at Talking in the Moment 00:04:10:How do you feel when you watch a nervous speaker present now I 00:06:29:Thermo Regulators for Your Body 00:07:28:How to manage anxiety if I didn't talk about a 00:09:44:How to maximize mediocrity in the moment we get in our own 00:11:32:When I am evaluating and judging everything I'm saying as 00:12:57:How to play a simple improvisation game with me 00:15:10:Step How we want to do well and we want to make sure we 00:17:01:How to see things opportunities the first comes from this notion of growth mindset 00:19:57:How to move to the next play if you're an athlete 00:22:56:Listening most of us are not good listeners we listen just enough 00:24:51:Three Things Pace Space Grace to listen well you have to give yourself 00:26:19:How to listen better if you don't respond right away 00:28:43:Why I was teased mercilessly because Matt rhymes with everything okay 00:31:17:This is a yes thumbs up yes thumbs down no no 00:34:04:Where are we going do I have the right shoes on should I go 00:35:14:3 simple questions what so what now what the what is your idea your 00:37:19:Structure is incredibly helpful in spontaneous communication in the new book 00:38:40:It is much better to be Compact and concise in what you're 00:40:48:How to speak more effectively in the moment what if you could feel 00:42:24:Do you see how easy that was do you see how the structure helped

@joshj3662 Ай бұрын

I love Steve Martin.

@human-condition 2 күн бұрын

Executive summary: be present, be present, mistakes are the main way to learn, be more present.

@prayaanshmehta3200 Ай бұрын

6:00 manage anxiety 8:00 find sources of anxiety

@joaqin96 2 ай бұрын

This is really great. But i fell asleep really fast also xD.

@giselavila7590 Ай бұрын

That was my problem in my last job interview, I felt so embarrassed 😢

@DailyBettermentandmore Ай бұрын

Our internal thought processes may not always align perfectly with external communication. We might have a clear understanding of our thoughts internally, but conveying them to others requires translating them into a format that may not capture all the nuances of our internal experience.

@user-ps7ds8cb8i Ай бұрын

That's good conversation

@The_Study_Studio_ Ай бұрын

00:01 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 01:13 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 03:37 Six-Step Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 07:50 Managing Anxiety in Spontaneous Speaking 10:25 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 12:48 Interactive Lecture Approach 15:08 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 16:46 Embracing Spontaneous Communication 18:20 Tools for Seeing Opportunities 21:19 Reframing Mistakes 22:33 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 25:02 Developing a Methodology for Spontaneous Speaking 29:27 Improving Listening Skills through Paraphrasing 30:33 Interactive Paraphrasing Exercise 32:13 Importance of Messaging and Structure 33:24 Being a Good Tour Guide Analogy 34:44 Structures for Effective Communication 36:50 Introduction to Speaking Better in the Moment 39:43 Interactive Lecture Approach Created using StudyStudio xyz

@smeaj Ай бұрын

be present oriented

@JoelTanSG 2 ай бұрын

Me in the toilet cubicle: “I slit a sheet…” My colleague in the next one: 👀👀👀

@juanalonsocobarrubiasverdu5087 Ай бұрын

Ss matter of Fact: The Best Tool...

@andrewringo6794 2 ай бұрын

Buddy made me feel like an idiot right off the bat with that Fs question

@MiamiHeat872 2 ай бұрын

exhale, cold bottle, be present with walking, song, counting backwards, and tongue twister (i slip a sheet), be mediocre, what, so what, now what

@r1knd.e Ай бұрын

3:45 Tame the anxiety beast

@marlonhans7122 2 ай бұрын

are those his...?😂 btw it's a really nice lecture..ill apply this in my work😊

@Chrisjavier2604 2 ай бұрын

“Of” los of OF

@moemenace5345 Ай бұрын

Instructions unclear, I failed the interrogation for the triple homicide

@maroroarocha 2 ай бұрын

Think faster , talk smarter

@siamakarassi Ай бұрын

I am that person Dr Siamak Baghai Arassi

@jamilmahammad3203 Ай бұрын

Abhi 2024 meh aa video dak raha hoo

@eduvidio 2 ай бұрын

Anyone can explain to me about the 6F?

@eduvidio 2 ай бұрын

Nvm I got it in my fifth replay 😂😂

@munmundey3768 2 ай бұрын

Here you go - Finished Files are the result oF years oF scientiFic study combined with the experience oF many years

@TiyibAbdat 6 күн бұрын

👍

@thatsnotme5574 25 күн бұрын

Despite the title talk faster I feel like this video is 2hrs long , may because I'm a slow listner 🙂

@luismata3328 2 ай бұрын

I am seeing this and I think they are actually 5 Fs in there

@shrikantpawar8269 3 ай бұрын

Good morning sir

@nikkii7203 2 ай бұрын

MQU❤

@Sainthosh_ Ай бұрын

How did he find 6 Fs in that "quote"?

@asararulhaque8391 Ай бұрын

Search again it's 6F Count "of" also contacted F

@jo8188 Ай бұрын

More then 44 minutes without using mmm, hmm, aaand , incredible🎉

@drishtim2848 Ай бұрын

Takeaway tongue twister : I slit a sheet , a sheet I slit , and on that slitted sheet I sit 😅

@audacious8866 Ай бұрын

still findinf only 5 "f"s

@philopolymath Ай бұрын

9/10 Indian telephone scammers agree

@thegreatestmantoevrwlkthep9986 Ай бұрын

Don’t think about it…

@mysticery 2 ай бұрын

You can find Ariana grande's music here - yes, and? 😂

@NagyMedia 29 күн бұрын

Speak* smarter.

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