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@johnclark7903 Жыл бұрын
Its extremely terrifying what is happening to young men in dating. I really hope this gets resolved within the next few years. Its leading to the collapse of society.
@MegaUnwetter Жыл бұрын
happened this actually to someone to? women flirt with me when they have her boyfriend on her side or when they in a large group of girls. but when they are solo go by they ignore me. As if they want to make it extra difficult for me to approach them
@pascalbohm2456 Жыл бұрын
@@MegaUnwetter Geschichten aus dem Paulaner Garten
@MegaUnwetter Жыл бұрын
@@pascalbohm2456 Ne ich erlebe das wirklich oft. Wenn ich angelächelt werde dann von einer die ihren Freund neben sich hat.
@sabn9139 Жыл бұрын
I was thinking that maybe it is due to the hook-up culture but even in where I live where we still have traditional values and necessity for marriage and all, we still have high divorce rates and screwed up relationships.
@johnclark7903 Жыл бұрын
@@sabn9139 Yeah I would blame the bluepill/simp/nice guy phenomena.
@ShiniGorky187 Жыл бұрын
My first time touching a girl was age 26. And now I'm getting dates regularly at 37. Life gets better. The key is simply taking regular action. Improve upon your mistakes. And while you do that, build a career, go to the gym, work on your fashion, practice your social skills, lots of trial and error with girls. All the rejections will build your masculine core. 21 is like baby age, c'mon. Life is just getting started. I was super depressed in college. But the truth is nobody cares. You have to pick yourself up and go get what you want. Gather all that experience with interactions. All the rejections are a valuable foundation to your confidence. And women love confidence.
@shuvojit8403 Жыл бұрын
Bro your comment really touhed me. I just started hanging around with gals recently. and all thru teenage yrs or early twenties, I felt like shit because I couldn't get them. Then I learned to approach, it feels better than getting ignored. it soothes to know life gets better as you age. I still lack social skills tho, What did you do to practice social skill.
@ShiniGorky187 Жыл бұрын
@Shuvojit I'm glad I made a difference in your thinking. I started with a lot of online dating. I got hundreds of phone numbers over the last 5 years. All this experience really adds up. Lots of dates, and lots of rejections. You inevitably get both. Work your way into doing cold approach too. There's lots of girls to talk to at the gym. And meetup events. And I have my co workers and family to chat with daily. But with women, you need cold raw experience talking to women so you aren't nervous and awkward. Gather as much experience as you can and go on as many dates as you can handle. You'll inevitably get results.
@netizalzz2216 Жыл бұрын
@@ShiniGorky187 " go on as many dates as you can " , this is same as telling a bad futball player to " play better " . That is our biggest problem bro , tf do you mean go in as many dats as possible ? lmfao
@ShiniGorky187 Жыл бұрын
@NETIZAL zz If you're getting zero dates then ask yourself how much daily effort are you putting into improving yourself and pursuit dates with women? This must be a habit for life. You can't just turn it on once a month or once a year
@spiritualphenomenon2413 Жыл бұрын
Yo this comment hit different for me ,thank you so much for sharing ,your comment really helped me and I mean that ❤️💪💪
@dillonc7955 Жыл бұрын
The problem nowadays is how our generation puts so much emphasis on dating that it brings a bad mindset that you automatically start attractive and have a future made for you. Most people who are attractive put work into their lives and the attractiveness in personality and looks came with time. Nowadays people give up when they can't automatically get the partner they want and it's truly saddening to see. Even I was in this mindset all throughout high school and nearly tried to end things. Hopefully this video helps as many young men as possible.
@Robert.Lachowski550 Жыл бұрын
No one is emphasazing dating, no one is pressuring you to do nothing. It's all in your head
@dillonc7955 Жыл бұрын
@@Robert.Lachowski550 Culture in general, movies and shows emphasize it a lot. Same story with the media. Whenever someone posts them getting together with someone, it convinced other people that dating can be successful early on when in reality it's not always easy.
@Robert.Lachowski550 Жыл бұрын
@@dillonc7955 I don't see what you are seeing. In fact, the majority of my friends are not in relationships or they are dating womyn who are low quality anyway, so why I should be envy/anxious about it?
@GamingWithFusion Жыл бұрын
@@Robert.Lachowski550 The difference is you are consulting the real world in that scenario. People are stuck online listening to red pill and how they're worthless if they can't get chicks, workout, earn millions, etc. Yet, if you realize that these forms of entertainment are just undermining your mentality, you begin to see that the real world is better than perceived.
@Robert.Lachowski550 Жыл бұрын
@@UserRobot215 Oofy doofy is law, when you hope for something you fear it. Don't fear it, embrace it.
@unown_ Жыл бұрын
I’m 23 and virgin never had a girlfriend. I am not suicidal, but completely gave up on relationships after so many rejections that hurt me. I don’t hink there is a girl that’s want to be with me. I am not good enough for a girlfriend. I gave up and accepted being single forever. Made my life much better then constantly thinking about getting a girlfriend.
@cosmicmongolenergy4527 Жыл бұрын
Look for some Monk's Pepper bro, it helps to reduce frustrations related to that
@winged_dragon_of_Ra10 күн бұрын
99% of males in the world are in your same predicament, only the top 1% of attractive and wealthy males get to experience what we have been neglected for free...... It's a social issue
@slavicemperor8279 Жыл бұрын
I'm 21 and in the same position, zero experiences at all. I did have 3 chances with women who legit liked me and invited me to hang out but my inexplicable social anxiety (probably stemming from bullying I experienced in middleschool) always takes over and destroys every chance I have. Worst thing about being alone is having to watch so many other people you know score such high success in that area while you struggle immensely, even if those guys are objectively lower achievers/worse looking than you are. This peer pressure/fear of missing out is the true source of my misery. Even if I don't really need these experiences for myself I feel like society has conditioned me to believe I am a failure without having them.
@rodycaz8984 Жыл бұрын
28 here and in the same position. I don't see it changing, ever. Hope is lost. It ain't gonna happen for me. Period.
@willc539 Жыл бұрын
@@rodycaz8984 You should try seeking the Lord Jesus Christ instead and see what he has for you.
@jrdonaldson2053 Жыл бұрын
Yeah
@CC-mm3bl Жыл бұрын
@@willc539 What exactly is that suppose to mean?
@willc539 Жыл бұрын
@@CC-mm3bl Everyone has a hole in their heart and only God can patch that hole for us. People always try to do things like go after women/men who can't love them in the way they want or go after money which is never satisfying enough to try and feel purpose or fulfillment. The only thing that will give you true fulfillment is Jesus Christ. This earth is not our home, heaven is. Things here are temporary and heaven is eternal. I tried a lot of different things to find meaning while I didn't believe in God and everything felt empty, until I started having experiences where God showed me through daily life that he was real and then it made sense to me. Seeking after God is the ultimate purpose and everything else is basically nothing. The Bible is the true word of God. We need forgiveness to go to heaven. We have all sinned and broken God's laws and therefore deserve punishment aka hell. God loved us so much that he sent Jesus Christ here to live a perfect life, to die for our sins and to be resurrected. When we believe that Jesus died for our sins, was buried and rose again 3 days later, we are given God's Spirit and receive eternal life. We go straight to heaven when we die. It is a free gift given to us. After we are saved, we can go on to live life for God's plan which is better than our own and we can grow spiritually and learn more about him. God may have some great things waiting for you as well. If you want to receive eternal life check out some of these Bible verses, you can find online Bibles easily for free. I recommend the King James Version. Romans Chapter 10 Verses 9-10 John Chapter 3 Verses 16-17 and Chapter 6 Verse 47 (John is a great book to read in general) Ephesians Chapter 2 verses 8-9
@lightschunk Жыл бұрын
This is the new normal for guys. Every guy is going to be starved for sex until age 30-ish. I'm just going to say right now that this is unsustainable.
@ottomanpapyrus9365 Жыл бұрын
Just masturbate
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
Lol as if age 30 is some quick fix. We'll all be starved at that age as well. Still ugly and undesirable. Maybe get surgery now before it's too late and we start balding.
@Joseph12O Жыл бұрын
ya nowadays young peoples just think about studying or are just busy, if you are a male can't just go out and start singing like a bird to attract females, it became too difficult
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
@@Joseph12O I'm not busy at all, and I've tried with women, but the don't care about ugly males.
@Annatar.Sauron Жыл бұрын
Starved for sex? Have you never heard of Mrs. Palm and her five daughters?
@swirvfly Жыл бұрын
i’m 34 and i have been feeling this way for years. rejection/flakes/ghosting takes a toll and you never get “used” to it. dating has defeated me. i would love to not wake up tomorrow.
@tiki4rafiki390 Жыл бұрын
I just see it as them showing their character and "dodging grenades". Don't give up there is a good girl out there somewhere. Focus on improving yourself and be open minded to the girls that you happen upon throughout your day to days.
@AlexBihbau Жыл бұрын
Don't give up, you never know what could happen tomorrow or the next week/month etc. Its very easy to be pessimistic when you are down and it doesn't seem like it's going your way but try to look up and forward, 🙏 stay strong
@djganiboy7643 Жыл бұрын
Me too bro I'm 25 and still single.
@hxnxur Жыл бұрын
you are in your prime, dont give up bro. we will win one day no matter what
@carmenlee425811 ай бұрын
not big deal,in my country there are a lot of people still single in this age,very normal!
@brinklight0074 Жыл бұрын
Yes, it is definitely rough to fail a lot with women. 24 and never had a girlfriend, no dates, and only 1 compliment from a woman who is not a sweet old lady. Somehow, I always manage to not only get rejected, but also offend the person I'm asking out. I've found that based on my failures, there needs to a balance between directness (don't pretend you are not interested) and speed. Specifically regarding speed, too fast can come off as overbearing, too slow comes off as afraid or gets you friendzoned. I haven't figured it all out yet, I'm still a work in progress. Life is hard my friends, we bros gotta stick together and build each other up.
@acdragonrider Жыл бұрын
I’m 27. Same deal. I have always had more connection with older people because they see how traditional I am (courteous, respectful, commitment to family and obligations come easy to me). I’m not rebellious. I respect authority
@Schacal6666 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like a classical sigma male. Don’t change for the other sex. Walk your own path and if they reject you, so what?
@9_9876 Жыл бұрын
It doesn't feel worth it. I don't want to put the effort for this. Living like this sounds miserable
@ADELbizz Жыл бұрын
I really don’t understand that you guys can’t get GF,is is really looks or are you guys not putting yourselves out in the dating markets ?
@ADELbizz Жыл бұрын
Send me a dm guys I am really curious to understand why you can’t get a GF @mrachillee
@jacobshisler3925 Жыл бұрын
I felt the same way as this guy when I was that age. I was drinking heavily and just trying to cope with what I thought was a meaningless life. Fast forward a year and I was working a delivery job where we'd drive through downtown areas and see tons of homeless. This one day I distinctly remember thinking, "How can some of these people just give up on life like this?" (Yes obviously some of them didn't do it by choice). That's when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I DID care about my life. I DIDN'T want to end up that way. I DID want to live an amazing life. Still chokes me up to think about it tbh. Now to the present, I am a licensed realtor and home inspector, and I'm confident I'll get my first home under contract any day. Life does get better fellas. But damn if it isn't hard most of the time.
@chaseeppards3155 Жыл бұрын
All that career stuff is meaningless if you have no relationships and suffer on a regular basis from being rejected as a person from society so you have to outcast yourself and hide who you are from others otherwise you will just offend someone and ruin your reputation
@friito8308 Жыл бұрын
@@chaseeppards3155 well said botherrrr all that matters is what you look like and what it looks like
@jhonatanramirez6924 Жыл бұрын
At 30 I feel the same way, no gf never been on a date getting rejected, gets me down and constantly have to fight my demons. Can't hate on anyone if the women are not attracted to me what can I do besides work on myself exercise and be the best person, even then its hard to get into a relationship.
@TheAdamShannon3 ай бұрын
@@chaseeppards3155 nah man, if you have hobbies you truly love, and a few good friends, live is aight, women are overrated af anyways. I’m 21 and a virgin myself, but I spend my time going out with the boys and going fishing, drinkin some beer occasionally, and I have other personal hobbies. I build computers, gaming, guns, cars, play guitar, I also write poetry, I sketch, read books, weight lifting, bird watching, camping, all kinds of shit I do, that being wayyy more fulfilling things to my life than some nagging women that only wants your money, and uses her smelly fish box to fool you into simping for it. Just find what you love in life (other than women) and stop being a loser man, so many guys nowadays just get emotional over the most pathetic shit it ain’t even funny bro, chase money not hoes 💯
@honkhonk5181 Жыл бұрын
I don’t blame him at all.
@ChadAV69 Жыл бұрын
Dude if you want to kill yourself just because you aren’t getting pussy, you need to find a hobby. Don’t kill yourself.
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
@@ChadAV69 It's nature. Why do you think brothels were so popular with soldiers in WW1 and 2? Or were you not told about that because the redpill grifters had you believe pussy doesn't matter ?
@nuclearpugg Жыл бұрын
If it takes to 30 and all im left with is used up women I probably would do the same
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
@@nuclearpugg Save for cosmetic surgery. That’s what the men in Hollywood do to enhance their masculinity
@ryancentnarowicz Жыл бұрын
@@nuclearpugg You would end yourself over Women? That’s pathetic and weak. Find some other stuff to do in life and get your mind off of Women. Once you finally have sex you would realize it’s not all as people make it out to be. Plus you risk having a kid do you want a child on your hands and the responsibilities?
@bozzer7777 Жыл бұрын
I'm 21, virgin, broke, extremely isolated and lonely, paranoid, empty, friendless, lost, miserable, slightly overweight, 24/7 in house, friendless, stuck, helpless, and most importantly I don't know what to do with my life carrier job wise at all. ,
@wulfsorenson8859 Жыл бұрын
Start by working out at a gym.
@doomerbob57313 ай бұрын
@@wulfsorenson8859I'd been going to gym from age 16 to 20. What does it change? Yes, my body looked much better but it didn't make me any friends let alone girls. I was still miserable in many regards, I was awkward, shy, socially unintelligent etc. It's just a way to distract from everyday problems for a couple of hours and eventually you get tired of it.
@acdragonrider Жыл бұрын
I am 27 and feel devastated because of my lack of success with women and social interactions too. It’s not uncommon and I’m constantly wrestling with bad thoughts. FOMo hits hard and feeling rejected leaves you devastated. You try to build your confidence up but they bring you down and it’s not cool at all.I wonder why it can’t be like in my parents and grandparents day when you just got into a marriage through arrangement. Problem solved. I have so much to offer someone. All I want is to adore and love someone and serve them to the end of my days and reciprocity in turn. And it hurts when you feel you are the optimal man for a relationship/marriage/fatherhood and girls around you just don’t take you and your dedication seriously.
@kristophm6826 Жыл бұрын
Hey bud, I can relate to what you are feeling. I am 29 and have struggled with some of the same feelings. The biggest things that I can recommend is getting into martial arts (BJJ, Judo, Boxing, Muay Thai, etc.), go on a bulk and start lifting weights, and focus on developing yourself. Go monk mode and don't stop until you've developed your character (yourself) into who you want to be. That's the fun part about being a guy, you can develop yourself into whatever you want to be in life. Don't focus on chasing women, build yourself up until the women that you want chase you. Honestly, if you have a little bit of money saved up I would do a complete re-frame and go to Thailand for a month a la @CEOofTestosterone. A change of scenery might do you some good.
@matheus-sm7860 Жыл бұрын
The last part specially hit me hard. It seems the more decent you are the less desirable you get. Even if you even have social proof that you got anything or something. This is fucked up bro.
@glumphyStoned Жыл бұрын
The truth my friend, it is that life ain't fair, the only sure things you can have is pain and suffering coming your way on all sides, but guess what, happiness and love exists out there somewhere, and as long as you are alive and looking for it, you have a chance to find it. But you gotta accept taking the damage, the unending damage you take from life everyday. It is a decision you have to make.
@Psychedelic-Playground Жыл бұрын
im 28 and i often feel the same. I changed my diet and i started to go into the forest a lot and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
@9_9876 Жыл бұрын
Do stuff to get friends. Don't care about the girls. Knowing more people will anyway increase your chances. But before having a fulfilling life you must actually respond to all your natural basic needs. Doing so makes life really colorful
@RSidd Жыл бұрын
It's quite serious when you think about it because the success of our whole genetic survival depends on approval from the opposite sex. Being denied that almost feels like a death sentence. But what's beautiful about masculinity is that we can always build our own value as men as we go through many trials and tribulations. Even a 40 year old man can attract a girl in her 20s if he's made himself into a top-tier male. And even women in some level know that it takes time for men to realise their full potential.
@janfg1578 Жыл бұрын
As I'm interested in Biology, I always thought that the importance of sex and dating for young men was totally underrated. During puberty, when people freaked out badly it was always about releationship stuff. But at 29 I also noticed that people in general became more open and interested in me as I grew older.
@mrdouche9172 Жыл бұрын
Can men date younger usually? Yes. But there is a limit to how young. 5 years? Ok. 7-8 years? Doable. But the only way a 40 year old man can attract an attractive early 20s to mid 20s woman is either a)he looks like Henry Cavill or b)he is like at least top 1% in earnings/social standing. We are talking about outliers here. For the rest, it ain't happening. And if it happens, it probably won't be a high quality woman of good moral character. And that's my issue with the red pill. It gets some things right, but it's also filled with BS. A great physique and a 100k+/year job won't really guarantee you much if you're older. And let's be honest here, what's the point of putting so much effort to end up with a 35 year old plain looking woman with a lot of baggage? There is no point. The best advice is to simply improve your looks as much as you can and your social skills when you're young, and the earlier you start the better. Work out, dress better, get on accutane if you have a lot of acne, get on finasteride if you lose hair, and socialize a lot so that you can meet more people and women and become more socially competent. Everyone ages and after a certain point you will be unable to date the ones you want and you'll be stuck with the bad apples.
@johnny-mnemonic13 Жыл бұрын
@@mrdouche9172I'm 39 and dated 19 to 25yr olds. 25 to 29 is usually my target. I simply look young for my age (and good looks help) and got my stuff together. Girls take that into account .
@janbarisic688 Жыл бұрын
Yeah like you can imporve your bad genetics
@nuclearpugg Жыл бұрын
@@mrdouche9172Depends on how well you age and genetics. Since my hairline started receding at 17 that's not going to be an option or my life.
@elliotsjoberg3766Ай бұрын
Im 20. I feel so lonely, depressed and hopeless everyday. Going to the gym doesnt help and hanging out w friends doesnt fully help either. To no ones suprise im still a virgin and i feel so helpless and wothless. It destoys my confidence quite alot. I sometimes think im too ugly and dumb to ever have a chance on women my age. Also, i have multiple dating apps but have practically no likes or matches. My friends have alot more female attention and frequently talk about theis intimate experiences while i just sit there alone, depressed and looking like a fool. I dont know how to build myself up as a more confident person so i have contiplated just taking my own life multiple times. Life just feels like an endless struggle. Taking anti depressants but they dont work. Live alone and probably gonna die alone aswell.
@isaacennis207725 күн бұрын
Buy a silicone doll🍑❤, that's my goal.
@singhkumar4948 Жыл бұрын
Imagine being 24 and zero dating experience. Since i have passed all the phases of disappointment and frustration, now it doesn't matters to me at all. I am just focussing on my health and career now instead of wasting time and effort for girls which i did since 16 17. I cant even imagine the success i could have if i had focussed on my development since 16. Just remember every life is different.
@debanikgoswami4834 Жыл бұрын
I am 24 years old bro. Keep trying and don't waste too much time on a particular girl. It's a numbers game. I almost faced 15 rejections before getting a girlfriend (ex). I am still trying.
@SquallSZ Жыл бұрын
People saying that is horrible to read. I started dating at 29 and im 32 now. Please do réalise that this kind of comments are also suicide inducing
@CHaoS.GaminG Жыл бұрын
@@SquallSZ Thats 100% true, I am 23 and I am independently happy. Coming from a life of being bullied, having social anxiety and a lot of pain. But I became happy through the years by looking at all the things that ALSO made me happy. Girls isn't everything in life.
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
It's over my dude. Think about getting a surgical consultation. Tell them you want to look more masculine.
@joejoejoejoejoejoe43915 ай бұрын
24? I'm twice as old, still nothing, I just wish that I was never born.
@funkymonkey2091 Жыл бұрын
this hits pretty close to home. I'm also 21 and although I do have friends and am doing okay mentally I still feel like shit about never having had a girlfriend or being rejected. Thank you for making this video
@cassu6 Жыл бұрын
Kinda in a similar situation man! I'm just chilling enjoying life, even though it kinda sucks I have not had a girl. No destructive thoughts though. Life is what you make of it and I've not really put that much effort in trying to get women or get out there so I know it's 100% in my hands. Maybe at some point I'll stop being this big a hermit and get out there XD we'll see though.
@rodbelding9523 Жыл бұрын
I'm 30 and I've never had a girlfriend or even touched a girl. In high school and college I asked out a few girls and got rejected, and then I tried dating apps for a few years. Dating apps are utterly useless. I would rarely ever get matches, and on the rare occasion that I did, it would never go anywhere. The girl would just stop responding for no reason, every time. I eventually just said screw it and stopped trying to date altogether. I don't let being single bother me. If I happen to meet someone, then great, but if not I don't care. I'm content.
@schecter5035 Жыл бұрын
@Zach223 like that would be hard to believe 😂
@masterlee19887 ай бұрын
Dude that sucks. I understand not having GFs as that is hard for many guys but you should at least get touched by a girl(though that can be hard too). Also it sounds like you got sub human treatment sadly.
@luckduck5031 Жыл бұрын
At the start of the year I ended my relationship with my ex fiance because she cheated on me while I was on deployment in Japan I was at my lowest point and felt like I had nothing to live for. I started going to the gym because of your videos I gained 30 pounds of mass and feel very confident in myself now I am having very good success with dating and meeting new people I feel like without your videos I would still be in a dark place.
@_Aurelian_ Жыл бұрын
No way you gained 30 pounds of mass in the first quarter lol. You couldn’t even do that if you ate like shit in a surplus.
@flaviodfalcao Жыл бұрын
30 pounds of mass in 3 months ?
@gabenewell3955 Жыл бұрын
You are a marine
@luckduck5031 Жыл бұрын
@@gabenewell3955 yeah
@sanitary10310 ай бұрын
@@flaviodfalcaonot possible. Mixture of fat and mass. No hate on the guy, just saying. Newbie gains get halted eventually.
@Psychedelic-Playground Жыл бұрын
im 28 and i often feel like this guy. Just recently i thought every day of ending myself. A short while ago I changed my diet to be really healthy and nearly completely quitting junkfood and i started to go into the forest a lot, exploring nature and making sports. This helps a ton i promise. I finally found a new job (lost mine 1 year ago) and things go uphill again. Start with urself and get diserable (happens when u feel good when ur alone)
@knightleeb3606 Жыл бұрын
I started to read books before bed and even after a little over a week, I feel a lot better, about stuff.
@Psychedelic-Playground Жыл бұрын
@@knightleeb3606 thats a great idea! I will add reading books.
@stefdanut123 Жыл бұрын
Man wtf don t kill yourself for a girl wtf .. go to gym learn programming idk something you like ...
@ceooflonelinessinc.267 Жыл бұрын
That the sad thing. I quitted the bad diet, alcohol amd other bad stuff. Nut life just didn't improve. In fact it got worse. So I would just return.
@angelbrother123811 ай бұрын
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267what you need is to explore other options . Western women have become incredibly shallow so why settle for these women when you can go over seas and find a woman that appreciates a good guy
@b1battledroid502 Жыл бұрын
Not getting sex is a permanent problem. So it's not a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
@ottomanpapyrus9365 Жыл бұрын
U can pay for sex
@doomerbob5731 Жыл бұрын
@@ottomanpapyrus9365 yeah yeah goodbye self esteem. Most guys get it for free and you have to pay for it.
@ottomanpapyrus9365 Жыл бұрын
@@doomerbob5731 no guys get sex for free Sex is sex so just pay
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
@@doomerbob5731 How else are you going to obtain it if you are ugly?
@doomerbob5731 Жыл бұрын
@@portman8909 not my case, I'm pretty average, just awkward, depressed and miserable (no desire for living, no passion). And it's WAY worse than ugliness.
@CommandoMaster Жыл бұрын
Dating as an average young guy is just extremely hard nowadays due to abundance of options women have with social media and online dating apps. As a guy, u need to adjust your expectations and realize u will get rejected a lot, and it's gonna take improving your social skills, personality, looks, and other areas of ur life before u will start seeing consistent dating success with girls.
@user-hj4td8jw8n Жыл бұрын
I've honestly gotta keep reminding myself that sometimes I think I'm the problem uno. Like dating apps really haven't done us guys any favours let's be honest.
@jhonatanramirez6924 Жыл бұрын
yeah dating apps did fuck us average or below average guys. Unless your a chad its hard getting into a relationship. Even in person the game as gotten harder all these social media posts with perfect models, its like some women expect every men to look like a model.
@definitelynottigerwhitten5865 Жыл бұрын
Man I'm 21 and have had some dark, dark thoughts and states of mind like this lately. Fortunately due in part to these vids and others I've had at least some success recently. Thanks Jack.
@thelight3270 Жыл бұрын
One thing I’ll say is atleast this guy had the balls to actually approach women and try something. I literally don’t even have the courage to glance at a cute girl’s direction. It’s so over for me
@20thcentury_toy Жыл бұрын
Indeed
@cassu6 Жыл бұрын
Hey at least you have the motivation to go out there. I can't be even bothered to leave my house unless I go buy groceries XD
@ottomanpapyrus9365 Жыл бұрын
Ur smart to do so. In Me2 era u can go to jail for looking at gals. In France there is supposedly a law that says u can't stare at a women for a few secs
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
Same here. I know where I stand. You know the common phrase, "stay in your lane" I'm ugly, balding, 5'7" or dare I say I rounded up. Fuck life honestly. Used to somewhat care about life, politics, culture. Xyz, now I care of about nothing at all. People like us aren't welcomed by our species and are filtered out like coffee.
@Jay-bq6pz Жыл бұрын
Don’t take ya life bro. I’m 22, a virgin in the same boat. I just decided to go monk and focus on education and work They’ll flock later. This is workin for me, I hope it works for you
@debanikgoswami4834 Жыл бұрын
Yes bro, keep trying. I used to be a v till 23.
@Villager699 Жыл бұрын
I honestly don’t know why I carry on living sometimes, the release of death sounds too good. I feel so defeated and tired of carrying on, nothing motivates me. I used to crave intimacy, but it just feels like all of my feelings and hope turned into dread and oddly enough I can feel it in my heart and my brain that I’m losing the war. I think it’s just not worth fighting anymore, it causes my mental health to get worse. I’ve lost boys
@Jericho2110 ай бұрын
The problem is, I feel like, Women have way higher standards then Men. A lot of man will settle for a average or below average women these days, a women will want a 1% type of dude who is rich and attractive. This is the problem and why all women are taken whereas, all men are single. Also, society has too much emphasis on romance and love, you can’t get away from it
@sr.viejon3737 Жыл бұрын
i started following you because of your self-improvement videos. but i never expected to see you talking about such sensitive subject just because one person got on edge. i just acquired massive respect for you. you are great, keep it going and i’m sure you’ll inspire many more people that desperately need help.
@someguyusa Жыл бұрын
I struggle with mental health issues including this regularly. Loneliness, feelings of insecurity towards women, some ptsd from the military, and other stuff. It’s rough. It’s important to build strong friendships irl. Sometimes you just need to go to sleep. But I get it. Sometimes my dog is the only reason I can hold on.
@christiansnaturestudio65993 ай бұрын
Finding real true friends as adult is tricky as well
@vaggs003 Жыл бұрын
I can relate to this even though I am in my late 20s, I get these really f-ed up thoughts about ending my life from time to time, but then I realize that these thoughts are not exactly my own but rather they are a result of trauma and isolation. I have the option of pursuing women or making new friends but instead I choose to use this time alone to make upgrades in my life. I've come to find out that it's times like that you need to focus on the things that you STILL HAVE rather than what you don't. Also don't be too hard on yourself and acknowledge the mistakes that you made before and how you can inprove moving forward.
@terminator_x.24 Жыл бұрын
People often take temporary failures as defeat but when you cross the temporary failures there is a huge success Written in ch 2 think and grow rich It's same happening to me rn , 9 rejections in a row But i never loose Your subconcious mind manifests what you believe Don't loose hope , use your mind as a superpower not as a self destruction device
@alejandrojosespinamendez5668 Жыл бұрын
I am 34 years old and a virgin, Im going to put an end to my life this december on my birthday, Ive talked about this with psycologists, etc. never helped, my friends never helped me, no female friends to talk about this with... never had confidence with my mom or sister to talk about this either... Ive been fighting too long, this society is not prepared to help with the issues that it has created, farewell everyone
@manosijroy8282 Жыл бұрын
Damn man thats really sad. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss. Since 13th July 2023, I started going for some classes to prepare for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college last week and wanna study MBA next. There in the classes, I got a massive crush on this girl who is also 22 or maybe 23 now. We did handshake on our first class and introduced ourselves and she sometimes tries to initiate convos with me asking whether I had lunch or not and some more she does say me hi but I just answer what she asks or say hi back but I am still shy to initiate further talks with her. I am still kinda shy near girls in person so I don't really feel the confidence to initiate any conversation with her unless she initiates one with me. But yesterday she actually said I am cute as I keep smiling(like a shy smile) almost all the time in class and I blushed hard after she said I am cute and my friends too teased me about it hehe. I also had been chatting with this another girl who is 19 on Instagram since 28th May 2023 and also asked out my childhood friend 3 months ago and she is 21 now turning 22 soon. My childhood friend did agree to meet up but she is so inactive on Instagram that I still don't know when we will meet as she takes weeks or even a month to reply to me whereas I chat with the 19 year old daily about everything and send each other virtual hugs daily. We used to be in the same school but now she is in a different college which is very near to my home tho. I wanna ask her out too but I am nervous as I get rejected by 4 girls recently and it looks like she still sees me as just a friend.
@alejandrojosespinamendez5668 Жыл бұрын
@@manosijroy8282 Dont be afraid of being rejected mate, trust me, life is only one, do what I couldnt do, invite her to go for a drink and just be yourself, you never know, good things may happen, all the best luck mate
@NikoBelic4 Жыл бұрын
So....just don't? I know this is kinda passé, but if you want to lose your virginity that badly, i would suggest making a few phone calls to an escort. That's probably a fool-proof plan for you to get it out the way, from a lady of the night. It ain't ever really that bad, to the point where you have to end your life dawg. You're still a young man & still have a lot more life to live. Grow a pair & talk to your mom, or any other female family member. They'll probably help hook you up, with some of their female friends, or co-workers.
@alejandrojosespinamendez5668 Жыл бұрын
@@NikoBelic4 This kind of opinion is what makes males like me want to end up our lives, would you tell a 34 years old virgin woman to pay for a escort? be honest... no, you wouldnt, why do I have to assume the ONLY way I can have sex is by PAYING? is that what im worth? I dont habe any female support... read again my comment
@Northman196311 ай бұрын
Don't end yourself because women won't accept you. You have at least as much worth as them, probably more. Relationships are over rated.
@AntarixOfficial Жыл бұрын
As a 21-year-old I was stuck in the same rathole but after 3 years of self-improvement now I have GF that loves me for who I am plus now I am working even harder, unlike most men who might slack off after getting into a relationship. However, I am still working on my past trauma so there's a long way to go :)
@alessandro0146 Жыл бұрын
Hi, could i ask you how did you solve this problem? I m 21 and i don t know how i can do. Do we Need techniques? Thanks
@user-tb9cl2my6i Жыл бұрын
No girl loves you for who you are
@praxter563811 ай бұрын
I won't make it that far, I am just waiting to leave my parents home so they maybe would get less sad
@pyonrabbit245 Жыл бұрын
Dude I got rejected by 12 women, I may have felt that small depression afterwards, but I never sulked in it for life... I stood up and grew some balls because I know there's some girl out there who absolutely loves me. This is a reminder to never give up 🤝
@MegaUnwetter Жыл бұрын
i have been rejected by 21 women but the 21st rejection hurt a lot because i fell in love with her before it makes a huge difference if you are rejected by a relatively foreign woman or by someone you already know well
@desb3459 Жыл бұрын
Holy shit I don't think I've ever even interacted with that much girls lolz, here I am still trying to decide whether or not to approach this girl at the gym...
@famousmidnight Жыл бұрын
Yes, there's a girl out there somewhere. Lol one day she will just appear out of things air like a genie
@MegaUnwetter Жыл бұрын
@@desb3459 Most were just cold approaches so it's not that special i did interact with these girls maybe 1 or 2 minutes in most cases. And you should just approach this girl at the gym they longer you wait how harder will it get and you have nothing to lose.
@desb3459 Жыл бұрын
@@famousmidnight there are no fairy tales in real life sir
@i_Gotcha_ Жыл бұрын
Jack I’m 32 and this content you’ve been coming out with has been great man. I hate the word wholesome cause it’s overly used now but it’s the only word I can describe it. But your channel has grown and love it man. Love the affect you’re making on young men and others bro 🙏🏻
@R4K0T0Ай бұрын
24 virgin and single since birth. I relate.
@Robin-zt3hz Жыл бұрын
Can understand that, Im like that too since half my life and Im 27. I have noone, no family, no friends. Its very hurtful. And I can't fix it since I have social anxiety and can't talk or go outside. But I am working on my life slowly. And all that probably only because my father left when I was a little child and it destroyed me. So annoying, wish I could be happy alone.
@oceanpacific3841 Жыл бұрын
Working on things slowly is progress ,good job
@Casper2508 Жыл бұрын
It's good to see how you actually care about your viewers Jack. Keep being you! 👏🏼
@Brenden.Riley. Жыл бұрын
You’ve gotta love yourself before you love others. If you can’t stand you, why would anybody else? Be the man you’d be proud of and your successes will follow.
@acdragonrider Жыл бұрын
I love myself. I feel I’m amazing. But they won’t even give me a chance.
@ezragaim2130 Жыл бұрын
Yes very true because no one understands you as much as yourself. but I just wanna add you need friends too. Don’t try to live life all of life alone that’s torture. Doesn’t even need to be a woman, just a friend can be so important.
@scary5455 Жыл бұрын
Sounds good doesn't work. I improved massively after getting my girlfriend. I was already standalone to others. Love yourself after getting her.
@russellwestbrookyellingatw9381 Жыл бұрын
That's why I don't want a gf right now, I don't like me at least not yet.
@Emmanuel-j2o Жыл бұрын
@@acdragonrider exactly man
@hikitanin Жыл бұрын
Best wishes for him. I belive we all had this period in our lives an it might be a pivot point in which we will grow so much stronger and wiser (at least that's what I experienced). To any that feels down, remember, there is way more people to connect and a greater motive to be alive and keep going. Thnaks Jack for putting videos like this.
@thelight3270 Жыл бұрын
It’s actually crazy how this title literally describes me in every way. Same age, same situation
@brandonf543210 ай бұрын
I lost my virginity at age 26... I thought it would never happen. I'm 33 now and have been with plenty of women and am getting married later next year. Life does get better but only if you put in the work. I stopped making excuses for why women weren't showing interest in me, started dressing better, going out and putting myself in situations to meet and approach women. It was not easy but you can make it happen. Don't think that it will solve your depression though. Women bring a whole host of new problems into your life and sometimes I ask myself if I was happier when celibate.
@jonathan64809 ай бұрын
Where did you go to meet them? I just moved to a new city (Dallas).
@dainlewis45029 ай бұрын
What was it like losing virginity does it hurt
@denndietotenreitenschnell178 ай бұрын
@@dainlewis4502😂
@christiansnaturestudio65995 ай бұрын
But sometimes, having lack of success with women may not be your fault. Dating is sadly an out-of_control thing.
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
@@christiansnaturestudio6599 I'm 5 7 actually just under, 31 and balding. This same dude would happily gaslight me into thinking this doesn't makes dating next to impossible. 1 thing these "work on yourself bro" ppl seem to think that if a balding 5 7 guy works on himself that all of a sudden the majority of the male population she's got at her finger tips can't "work on themselves bro" also. So working on myself is going to set me apart from the other 6ft and handsome guys who possibly have a good career that's further bolstered by the halo effect. They're delusional. It's like blindfolding someone, and telling them to throw the dart at a dart board, that it's an excuse to give up and not compete with a pro darts player. You are out of your league, handicapped, and no amount of effort you make will help you hit that bullseye, but somehow they still say you weren't confident enough. I'm all honesty, this rationale isn't really an exaggeration to my actual potential to get a gf.
@realitycheck4746 Жыл бұрын
I'm 28 and I want to my mine because life is pointless and I'm done with all of the liars, thieves, and cheaters in my life. I completely understand what he was going through, until I actually got into relationships. He wouldn't be able to handle the betrayal and lies that come with being in a relationship. That would only make him feel worse. I am jealous that he still believes he can find someone he can trust in this crooked society. Unfortunately, the only person you can rely on is yourself. However, if you hate being yourself, what is the point?
@sumilidero Жыл бұрын
Yeah, been there as well. Now I'm 29yo and when i reflect back on those problems, it makes me laugh. Like how dramatic certain things seem when you're young, but when you see more life you understand its not as bad.
@user-ek7wx9ms7j7 ай бұрын
Both sexually active/non virgin men and women also bully virgin girls as well,so its not only virgin men alone who have it rough
@RonnietheDon5 ай бұрын
Same. N its honestly hard bc we live in a world where women get shamed for not being virgins but shamed for it as well. Im tryna do the right thing n wait for the right one but will it even be worth it? Most dudes are sleeping with every girl possible so will I even find someone who thinks like me to connect with? Its a battle bc i feel pathetic for wanting to give up and give into the feeling n desire but I feel pathetic for waiting whilst everyone loses their v-card as well. I feel pathetic in general. Its crazy bc i wanna say our society is messed up to the point ppl wanna off themselves for being virgins but I also kinda get it....idk.
@teodortodorov1662 Жыл бұрын
I`m gonna be 20 years old after few months. I have never had a girlfriend or kissed any girl and at the same time I don`t even give a f*ck. I don`t plan to make it soon. I`m too busy with myself and my hobbies and self-improvement that I feel like I don`t even want to have girlfriend or experience intimacy. It`s sad to know that someone who is almost at my age want to kill himself only because he can`t get some b*tches. Life is so good to be lived even without girls.
@amouritssАй бұрын
And now?
@hens13 Жыл бұрын
I’m 32 and an incel, this makes me feel so old.
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
You're dating life is oretty much dead in the water even if somehow you had some success. You're dating experience should begin in middle school and at worse early high-school. If 30 yrs old and nothing, girls will know INSTANTLY You're a virgin and I'd bet You're not too handsome and 6+' tall?
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
Not trying to dog on you but I live this ezlerit8as well and it robs me of humanity.
@RuneEmpiresTech4 ай бұрын
i quit porn completely, i rewired my brain using neurofeedback, I healed my bipolar disorder and this is what I get for 5 years of living monk style!???
@scary5455 Жыл бұрын
Every good solution is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Hate when people say that as if it's a good argument not to delete it.
@jking23258 Жыл бұрын
I'm 29 and a virgin 21 isn't nothing he got plenty of time
@h35biznez Жыл бұрын
Bro, now you're on a serious mission. That is real talk, so many need to hear it.
@ParryLinn Жыл бұрын
What male behaviors DOES attract a girl? What are the consequence when a guy wants to sleep with you on dates? How to curb the drama when we are putting ourselves out there? I mean, there aren’t even a class to lecture how you make&choose friends. Everything we know about love is from drama and movie which proves to be failures in this day and age. My deep skepticism is gradually increasing: I wonder “dating modernism” cannot coexist with “dating traditionalism”, and hence one must destroy one another and thrive on its enemy’ grave. In order for your future generation to have healthy families and offsprings, first of all, the “consequences carefree” sort of culture must be eradicated. This will start from each of you maximizing your self-improvement journey and bringing more and more of your brothers in, be the man of your word, filter out trashes from your inner circle, eats healthy and workout, spare your arrogance towards those who are degenerated. Only each of us rally up in numbers, can a brighter future finally comes.
@charleyb24 Жыл бұрын
As someone who’s gonna be 23 years old soon, this video legit made me cry. Pray for me.😭🙏
@djganiboy7643 Жыл бұрын
Bro I'm 24 and still virgin. Life in Turkey is worse believe me
@PSYCHIC_PSYCHO Жыл бұрын
You're way too mentally weak; read my comment I posted today, you'll soon sober up
@charleyb24 Жыл бұрын
UPDATE: I have a girl who’s 21 who likes me who I built up the courage to ask if she’s kissed anyone and when she said no, I told her I haven’t either. Eventually, I kissed her on the lips, almost forgot to turn right, and it went on for 2-3 minutes. I accidentally took her right hearing aid off and she stopped to pick it up when I asked her if she wanted to continue or if she didn’t feel comfortable anymore, she said she didn’t feel comfortable anymore and just left it at that. After the kiss, I felt like I had a stomach ache. Thankfully my breath wasn’t bad and neither was her breath bad.😂☺️ Then when we went to camp with our church’s youth group, she slipped out on accident (I’m not even sure if her friend might’ve dared her to say it) that she’s just like me describing what the title of this video says.😳I had doubts about her whether she would be a good communicator because of her hearing aids and whether I liked her back, but now I do. Her waiting like I am for marriage is way more beautiful than any good physical attributes that she has.☺️🙌🙏
@djganiboy7643 Жыл бұрын
@@charleyb24 wow man happy to hear that!! Good for you 👍🙏
@charleyb24 Жыл бұрын
@@djganiboy7643Thanks man!☺️👍
@wackyflip4983 Жыл бұрын
Been a silent fan all throughout college, watching your stuff since those early pranks, and wow this is such a great level of understanding for this kind of guy that I never really see in this world. Thank you for making me and many others feel less alone through this. I think you’re helping even more than we realize P.s. I think I saw you at the airport in dallas last month. Not sure though
@adamwall7852 Жыл бұрын
Jack, my guy. Thank you so much for what you’re doing. This is real change. This is real. To the young man that is going through this struggle or any other human being struggling, just keep fighting. Please, just keep fighting.
@DirtyShwa Жыл бұрын
I'm 21 rn. To all the other 21 year olds right now.. please do not end your life. Our birth year is super cool, it has two '0's and two '2's. 2002, that's a-lot of twos! Do you want your tombstone to read 2002 - 2023? Or would you rather it read 2096 or even 2105! Right now up to this point, we have experienced a tiny portion of what life has to offer. You may have not experienced much in your short time on this earth, and that's okay, there's so much more to come. Maybe you have, maybe you've been places and seen things! That's great. Why end it so early?? Why not have *mooore* experiences! Children only start remembering things at age 4 or 5, which means that's even less to have experienced. We are at the very beginning of our journey. Quitting now is like being thirsty as hell and seeing a Walmart 5 blocks away, then turning around because "it's too far". Don't be like that. Liiiiiiiiiiive!!!!!!!!!!!
@harrisonclarke167511 ай бұрын
Im 21 but it feels like it will never happen you always here your time will come but tick tock im 30. The frustrating part is not about being a virgin and the label its more that im ready for sex. Like a rocket on standby but never being launched. I have everything aswell for my age a business with my dad a drivers license passed first time, good looks and clothes, confident and funny. I socialise like bars, bowling alleys and fishing. Its like wtf do i need to do to get laid besides getting drunk at a nightclub is this seriously what the modern dating scene is. To think if i were alive 100 years ago i would already be married with kids with a factory job. Fuck modern society. I try and get nothing in return
@somedudeontheinterwebs457 ай бұрын
Im not gonna have a tombstone.
@TheRetroCleric3247 ай бұрын
I’m 19 and am in the same position as this guy. I dated what I thought was the most perfect girl for a year with no problems what so ever just for her to find out she was asexual and also infertile. Even with all of that I still wanted to stay with her for the rest of my life and marry her even if that meant I couldn’t have sex with her and that having kids with her would be more complicated. Despite all of that she left me after telling me those things and will not talk to me anymore. My heart is shattered and I wake up every morning wishing to meet my end. Now I am all alone with no experience with women whatsoever considering me and my ex didn’t do anything besides kiss. Despite being financially secure, in shape, and decently looking I am afraid I will never find another girl like my ex again. We had so much in common and I have never been accepted by any other woman in my life they always just ignored me and thought I was weird which I am but so was my ex. My perfect future crumbled right in front of me and now I am an empty vessel. I can’t believe I was willing to sacrifice a big part of life like sex to be with someone just for her to throw me away and not tell me why.
@OfficialKoven Жыл бұрын
It's okay to feel like the guy in the discord, to feel negative emotions, it's part of being human. Still I want to offer a mind game. If I could show you that two years from now, one year from now, one month from now, things get better, things would be okay, meaning you'd be in a better headspace, your days would be filled with more positivity than negativity. You would meet new people, new friends, date a girl, kiss a girl, she would become your girlfriend, you would keep doing things that motivate you like sports, hobbys, travel, socializing, improving your body, your work, etc. etc. Would you want that? Would you say: "Yes, I will take that!" Then let me tell you, that now is not the time to give up man. Keep walking, keep your head up! This universe, everything around you, gravitates towards balance. Life is like a wave. It goes up and down. It's cyclic. The state you are in now is not permanent. Dont. Give. Up.
@dennistkatschenko4846 Жыл бұрын
To the guy who post this comment. Stay strong brother. I´m like in the same position. 22 Years old , never had a girl , date and kiss. I know it´s tough times nowadays. But i think like there should be more reasons to life then girls. If you start thinking in this way , maybe it will better for you. I overcome this solution because i´m thinking like look. I had cancer in the age of 5 and survived , while other didn´t . So i think why wasting this second chance in life , while other didnt have. I hope this comment maybe helps you. Stay strong and try to build a good future . And thanks Denmo for this and the other good videos. I´m really enjoying your good content.
@ty64805 ай бұрын
Having a cancer and survived is a huge flex
@schedel3Ай бұрын
I have been a virgin until 24,5 years of age, even though most people considered me a "chad". My first relationship was very short because i did many mistakes that unexperienced men do. The only good thing - she was toxic too, so it was better to lose her anyway. Later i improved from year to year and got better and better with women. Also the quality of these women improved. It is important to learn to enjoy the process of becoming a better person. Now i am 32 and single again (i have broken up because i started a career in another country) but i do not feel worthless/parasuicidal like i did at the age of 23 years. Remember guys, women usually age like milk, men usually age like wine (if you cultivate a healthy lifestyle - if you only sit around and eat fast-food all the time, you gonna age like milk too)
@makilife45025 ай бұрын
24 and I have never kissed a girl or held hands with a girl. And when people hear this they’re like just go and talk. It’s not that easy with me. I just got to the point to accept it
@stephengrant48414 ай бұрын
23, same position. I try sometimes, extremely hard too, but its so defeating. I think if I hit 30 and still haven't known love I'll end it all. This world fucking sucks.
@Elki-Aicha66El-kihel-nn1fc Жыл бұрын
This is overwhelming how young man are struggling nowdays with human connection especially with girls but it's important to realize that you are not alone , behind evry man you see out there having success he done something you didn't.lets embarras that we need to work on ourself until it's comes everybody's hit.
@PedroSantos-vc2lu Жыл бұрын
At 21 he's getting rejected, wich means at least he's trying. Im 23, same problem but in the step beheind (not even trying) cause im afraid of rejection too. He needs to not give up and keep going cause he already started the journey to have a better life (or at least on this topic)
@lookatmepleasesir Жыл бұрын
its ok bro give it a shot, it doesn't matter if you get rejected
@scottb296 Жыл бұрын
Something that helped me was learning that even the "Top Gs" of the world only close with chicks about 10 percent of the time. You might think they get the girl every single time. The thing is, they only showcase or talk about their wins. The part you don't see is the 9 out of 10 girls who reject them too. They only talk about the 1 out of 10 girls they took home that night. If you put in the work and stay patient my guy, things will get better. Keep grinding my G.
@Matthew_Ssali19 күн бұрын
Nope thats copium. Life's not fair, theres times in my past were I could go into a club and get with 4 girls minimal effort ( they didn't even care I kissed other girls anf theres
@Annatar.Sauron Жыл бұрын
21 and never been on a date in my life. Socially awkward, shy, and self-conscious. Can’t really connect with people outside of myself. I think I’m really all I need.
@raymondsmith515710 ай бұрын
Same here except I'm female lol
@ruin88914 ай бұрын
Damn, your channel reflects me 🤣🤣🤣
@ruin88914 ай бұрын
I am 23, kissed a girl, made out, but safe for that I didn’t experienced much. Do a natural Testosterone boost, do sport, eat healthy, healthy life and you will get less shy and more manly, that’s what I can promise… But, I have still hope to get a girl pretty soon…
@99prozent499 ай бұрын
Im 23 years old and ive never experienced love or relationship. I recentely became an orthodox christian, im learning Chinese and Japanese, doing 400 Push Ups a day, running, exercising and reading tons of books. Now i dont give a damn **** because i love myself. Im also ok if im gonna die alone, and i really believe that this is going to happen. Nevertheless guys, lift weights, praise jesus and read books and alls gonna be ok
@welovespace1 Жыл бұрын
Never hurts to get a dog either, girls love dogs, you can have almost zero social skills and girls will still come up and talk to you on the weekends or if they have time. Plus the dog will be loyal for life and the best wingman you ever had. Also, there are lot's of dogs at kennels and pounds literally dying to be your best friend and do anything to help you get that girl and have you get them out of horrible situation they are in at the pound. Win Wi Win
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
Lol dogs suck tbh.
@wulfsorenson8859 Жыл бұрын
@@portman8909 maybe you suck too which is why no woman wants you 😂
@doomerbob57313 ай бұрын
Oh no they won't😂.
@jamesmoranthefascinatingyo176410 ай бұрын
I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25… I was clueless and naive at 21… I thought at the time it was the norm to be a virgin at 21 and to never of had a girlfriend since 21 is young and I haven’t had the experience so I assumed that it was the norm… I was upset about not having a girlfriend, but I foolishly thought I could get a girlfriend without asking girls out! When I was 19 I told my parents that I didn’t get a girlfriend in my pervious college because I was too shy to ask girls out and my dad told me “that being rejected was better than not asking at all”… and I still thought I could get a girlfriend without asking any girls out! I find it even more embarrassing that I didn’t even get my first girlfriend until I was 22 years old! Which is sad… I hear ppl say it’s late to not even get a girlfriend until they were 18… but 18 is a much better age than 22 since your still a teenager at 18!… I would be so happy if I gotten my first girlfriend and lost my V card at 18!
@honestjohnshallburnyou Жыл бұрын
Omg. 21 years old. I felt exactly like this guy. Wanna destroy myself due to the lack of success w women. Now 29 and look back, I am fucking love that 21 years old me. Without him suffering pain, i am not myself today. It’s a process of character building.
@ChurlzVA Жыл бұрын
You have a great mindset. You'll find your queen, King.
@ricardovicente53349 ай бұрын
21 and still a Virgin ? Try being 28 and I never been kissed by a woman, hold hands and even touched by one, i genuinely hope that the guy in question turned his life around and is feelling much better and happy
@masterlee19887 ай бұрын
Wow that sucks man. Sounds like you got sub human treatment.
@TylerMBuller12 Жыл бұрын
I'm 27 and still a virgin I managed to get a gf through online dating 2 years ago but it's long distance. Our relationship is currently on the rocks so I have a feeling I'm going to go right back into the pit of lonely depression again. It's super hard getting girls when you have such mediocre social skills like me I feel like I will be alone the rest of my life. It's really not the virginity thing that bothers me it's the fact I will die alone with nobody to love that gets me. Girls have so many options when it comes to men that fit exactly what they want even if they are not super attractive. If you are not one of the top guys your options will be extremely limited because obviously like anyone they are going to choose the best option. All I can do is try to improve myself I guess but man it's going to be tough.
@Jaldric Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video Denmo 👍, keep helping out the boys. And bro’s we gotta stick together and move forward. Especially when ww3 happens after ww3 those who survive will drown in poon
@dennisneumann5091 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the incredible videos demo you have helped me more than any other person on KZbin still watching in black-and-white
@devilsadvocacy Жыл бұрын
This was me at 24, and I didn’t climb out of my near-deletion level of despair until 26 when I got a powerful, lucrative white collar gig. I was able to hold out until then but I shudder to think how I might have ended up if I hadn’t. Still haven’t solved my social deficits at 52 but I was able to compensate for them
@burritovoorhees8 ай бұрын
Im unfortunately in the similar position as the person being talked to in this video, except im 22. Never had a girlfriend either. This past month I met this girl at the gym and she lead me on hard as hell, things seemed to be going good and the day of our plans to hangout she canceled then eventually she unadded me on snap. This most recent experience has really set me over the edge cause I felt like this was the closest to me having a girlfriend, just for her to easily vanish like that on me
@Danny81710 Жыл бұрын
I'm 21 too. No friends, never had a girl, nothing. I can't talk to anyone because my social skills suck and because of that, I have no self confidence in myself. I'm so lonely.
@rareGUNDAM_ Жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx bro nah😭
@rareGUNDAM_ Жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx what you doing watching a self help video if you think there’s no hope? i don’t think you’d be here if you didn’t think there was at least a chance things could change
@rareGUNDAM_ Жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx if you’re black pilled you’re just consciously being pessimistic which won’t help anything imo. being realistic and blackpilled are two very different things
@rareGUNDAM_ Жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx i promise i get it bro
@browmaster2197 Жыл бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx What do you do on a day to day basis? Just nothing. Read Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins. Ask yourself different questions. I’m struggling too with dating. I don’t ask myself “Why don’t I have a girlfriend?” But rather “How can I improve myself to get a girlfriend?” I bring that question to you, how can you improve yourself to qualify for your desired relationship? How can you add value to someone else’s life? If you cannot create that value, create the circumstances and figure out how. Through sheer PERSISTENCE, FAITH, and a BURNING DESIRE to accomplish your dreams, it does happen.
@X_lIllIIllIl_X Жыл бұрын
Dude is exactly my height, my weight, and he is feeling fckd up at 21 while I'm only 18.. Damn, I hope the destiny of his life is bright
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
Just don't be a midget 5'8"< and you're already leaps and bounds ahead of me.
@aaronspencer30 Жыл бұрын
I'm 43 years old and still can't get Women I've never had a date, or a girlfriend or had sex because it's hard to be confident when I have a small penis plus I believe I'm ugly so I have nothing a woman likes or wants.
@StepwaveMusic Жыл бұрын
I feel like this needs to be said; these videos sometimes make you feel like you have to be a certain someone to get intimacy, but that's not true. You need to be a certain someone to go out and meet people, not to keep them around. It's important to know that there are lots of people out there who are more introverted than extroverted and they know the same thing. You have to be a certain amount of outgoing in order to be successful in the system. In fact, it was my 'outgoingness' that now got me to get a girlfriend who ironically went through the same thing: not being able to be without people, but also not willing to always say a lot and put energy into socializing. I'm not gonna give you some story of "you gotta find the one" but know that the fact that you might not fit the stereotype means that not all girls do either. You don't have to change yourself to be with someone, you have to change the way you present yourself to a certain way to meet people. Keep that in mind. Not everyone is an extroverted popular man/woman of high status, they just present themselves like that to the outside world.
@bennycb6256 Жыл бұрын
Lost my virginity at 21, dated the girl for almost half a year then broke up and realized she never loved me. I used to think rejections were the worst thing in the world, but heartbreak is much worse. Guys who are still virgins, just remember the grass in not always greener on the other side. Along with pleasure comes pain and we gotta keep going no matter what.
@forsadeltoro8692 Жыл бұрын
female dont love the way men love, they look for the strong partner physically and mentally
@bennycb6256 Жыл бұрын
@@forsadeltoro8692 true. Having a female partner is not a birthright but an earned privilige for most of us men out there. I’m working on being stronger every day. The break up means I wasn’t strong enough
@forsadeltoro8692 Жыл бұрын
@@bennycb6256 go on dude
@0pstar…03 ай бұрын
i’m 20, never even kissed anybody lmao.
@draxuno9 күн бұрын
SAME
@dirtydan351 Жыл бұрын
Imo being a virgin at 21 isn't a bad thing. I spent most of my early 20's chasing girls, I had a bit of success with having slept with around 20 or so people, but for me personally it came at a cost. For the last couple years or so I've just had this empty, cold demeanor towards women. It's not that I hate them, but the butterflies are gone, and I've had good girls, that a lot of guys would kill to be with, ready to throw themselves at me for a chance to be in a relationship, and I curved all of them. It's just like my ability to feel love is numbed somehow. I used to get super attached to the people I slept with, most of the time it wasn't reciprocal, but I still sleep with people every now and again, but now afterwards I feel nothing, all I can think about after the deed is done is how I'd rather be anywhere else. Maybe don't stay completely abstinent, sex can be a great experience, but choose who you do have it with wisely, and don't get too carried away like I did, it does some unnatural shit to your brain.
@karthikchandАй бұрын
I am also 21 years old and I am proud to say that I will never loose my virginity, because I am following celibacy (which is also known as Bhramhachari in Indian language) from the age of 12 and I will remain single until my death. I want to stay single and it's my wish, I am proud to tell that I never had any relationships in past and I never had any sexual desires in past. I am going to be single in rest of my life.
@draxuno9 күн бұрын
What is your life going to consist of? You're going to be lonely and have no wife or kids, just being alone until you're death? You're going to change your mind sooner or later.
@jfjhdhvf38903 күн бұрын
Bro is that you in the profile if yes you look old bro
@karthikchand15 сағат бұрын
@@jfjhdhvf3890 Thanks for your compliment
@shadowfyre8265 Жыл бұрын
24 and in a similar position. It’s easy to say just hang around guys that can easily attract women, but whenever I try to, those guys think I’m a loser because I can’t attract women and they want nothing to do with me. It’s a total lose-lose situation. And no, I’ll never pay to lose my v-card.
@loner7243 Жыл бұрын
I really feel him. I'm in the same position and its hard to stay positive. I used to go climbing to distract myself from my dating problem, was also quite good at it (5.13a). Sadly the thoughts never went away and at some point climbing didn't make me feel any better, so i quit. Then I tried lifting weights and running to distract myself, but I still felt so depressed. I also have been to three psychotherapists, but that also didn't help. I don't know what to do anymore.
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
Hard pill to swallow, especially when you think that barring falling ill or accident, you can safely expect to live 50+ years longer. And from mid 30-70, you pretty much are doomed as far as se* or sny female intimacy. You may get leftovers and that's almost worse then getting nothing.
@user-rm8by9fm Жыл бұрын
Everyone ascends if they stay alive long enough. Women wont want you in ur 20s but hey, at least you'll get a used low tier becky in ur 30s
@user-rm8by9fm Жыл бұрын
@Hallo81398 No I wholly disagree, having a child and getting sex (albeit not often) is still ascension
@saminneslive Жыл бұрын
A lot of guys get mislead with bad advice the best advice is to perhaps seek cosmetic surgery or leg lengthening all celebrities do it to be more attractive you will definitely see results your personality is never the problem it’s just the world we live in ❤
@wulfsorenson8859 Жыл бұрын
Yeah this is the brutal truth. Surgery and a good gym routine solves most dating issues.
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
Personality is the sum of the whole part not a choice. So msny guys are misled with this falsehood that a girl GENERALLY speaking, is determining your personality on looks. And balding and being short individually are rough but mixing. Yeah, there's a pretty solid chance the only card you'll get is sone torn up crumpled dirty card.
@LalienX Жыл бұрын
$45K at 21? That's better than most at that age depending on where you live in the country
@jonathanm9986 Жыл бұрын
Ain’t six figures though. If you are below six figures can you even be considered an average man? Women logic
@FakeAndTrolled Жыл бұрын
If the woman thinks you’re attractive enough, she won’t care if you’re broke af, the women saying they want a guy making 6 figures are usually older and looking for a provider.
@UserName-ts3sp Жыл бұрын
ya thats pretty good for 21. he’s probably heading into a solid career
@LalienX Жыл бұрын
@@jonathanm9986 I don't make six figures either and I still have luck. Also, the fact that he's willing to die over that hints at some problems within himself
@bradleypost8971 Жыл бұрын
I’m the guy in the video. I’m comfortable and set to earn more. But I’m not satisfied and always want more.
@beachboy_boobybuilder Жыл бұрын
If he really needs to have that intimacy with an attractive young woman (which tbh for normal dudes cannot be replaced with guys friends and hobbies), then I am going to be brutally honest. He needs to find himself an attractive, young, good natured muslim chick who wears headscarf. These chicks are not ho's. They are 100% serious about finding a good man and getting married at a young age (ie - whilst she is still in her prime). But be careful when it comes to muslim chicks born and bred in North America as a lot of them have been americanised and corrupted by satan (western feminism). Go to a poor muslim country and find a beautiful young chick over there. She is guaranteed to be a virgin and have traditional family values.
@cyberpunk7997 Жыл бұрын
24 got rejected thrice still living with parent just now started making money in a 9-5 job still a virgin and fighting thru no fap shit is hard and yet trying to work part time online and saving money to move out of home , i felt that void yesterday and sadness still im gonna keep going
@cassu6 Жыл бұрын
Why you sad? As far as I see everything is coming up milhouse
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
I mean moving out is nice, but it won't effect dating will it? Surgery sounds more valuable for that purpose.
@frane_29 Жыл бұрын
in my opinion the reasons why this is the way it is,is because,first: of all the feminism and LGBT BS, Second: there's a LOT of guys starved for affection and giving too much attention to women resulting in women acting like they are some kind of unobtainable gem (specially women that are not worth it)
@flightforlight1577 ай бұрын
Look to your Creator, he will give you peace and joy. Seek God with all your heart and he will manifest himself to you -Bible I wanted to kill myself in my early twenties. I was thinking crazy stuff, and when I went to the pyschward I decided to read the Bible for comfort and direction. I can't explain how that changed my mind and attitude, I became happier and hopeful. I was released in 8 days and haven't gone back in years❤
@arturoroldan4839 Жыл бұрын
Advice for you guys: if you are meeting a girl, try to be "as direct and quick as possible", don't delay things for months or even years. What Im trying to say is, for example, you start your academic season on September 1st, and then you see a new classmate girl you like, then approach and start talking to her. All it will take for her is 4 seconds to see you and tell whether or not she likes you physically, and then talk for two/three weeks with her to see if your personality is compatible. You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down, and after months/years of talking together (and even going out!!!) she will eventually reject you after you reveal your feelings due to being bored of waiting way to much time to do so and you will feel devastated, because you have created (in your mind) an entire relationship with her, you have day-dreamed about her and also having night-dreams, but is all fake, in your mind, while in reality she has never even think about you and has meet a Chad she likes, and within those two/three weeks they have become a couple already. So if within two/three weeks she has not showed you interest, tell her that you like her (not gonna work most likely, but at least you shoot your shot), if she rejects you just move on, but since you have not created any real bond with her, you won't feel as bad. Hope it helps, it literally happened to me 8 months ago when I was rejected by a girl I met on March 2021, and on September 2022 she met a Chad she liked and within those two three weeks they became couple 🤷
@StepwaveMusic Жыл бұрын
"You will be a couple already after that time if she likes you, granted, no doubt about it, if not, she will play with you (because she knows you like her even if she does not like you back) and use you to raise her self-esteem when she feels down" It's good to be aware of how this can be the case, but know that this is definitely not always, or nearly always, true. I took 3 months to get with my girlfriend; there are many other factors at play, even without chad.
@arturoroldan4839 Жыл бұрын
@@StepwaveMusic No, at least she loses a family member, breaks a leg or something like that, it's gonna be the case pretty much always.
@imperator_musicae4400 Жыл бұрын
Diese Kommentarsektion ist ab nun Eigentum der Bundesrepublik Deutschland!
@alexandermcbrien264 Жыл бұрын
It's much harder to get women today because women are outpacing Men for College Degrees and better paying jobs and also because of Social Media/Dating Apps. Back in the older Generations when most women didn't work or had crappy part time jobs it was easy for Men to attract a woman because pretty much any job the guy had would be sufficient enough for a woman to consider dating him. These days most women have College Degrees and since they're Hypergamous meaning they want a partner that makes as much money as them if not more than they do which automatically eliminates a large percentage of guys from the potential dating pool. Couple this with women being able to pick and choose Men from anywhere in the world because of Social Media and Dating Apps and you have a recipe for what's now occurring to where most guys can't find a woman.
@hassanbirbir6363 Жыл бұрын
so what is the solution bro? i assume, we have to level up to make up for that deficit we have as men. girls are born with power of beauty while men are born with nothing but to extand thier potential abilities for success.
@Dotanalyst Жыл бұрын
@@hassanbirbir6363 A revolution. Bring women back down on their knees, where they belong. Feminism was a mistake.
@debanikgoswami4834 Жыл бұрын
@@hassanbirbir6363 get an arranged marriage bro.
@hassanbirbir6363 Жыл бұрын
@@debanikgoswami4834 arranged marriage why? Do I look like I'm financially stable or independent to get married?
@ottomanpapyrus9365 Жыл бұрын
Spittin redpills aye
@peterhenriksson1512 Жыл бұрын
Start training, at a gym or at home. You can do a lot of training at home actually. Read about and focus on what you eat, it is a way to appreciate yourself. If girls reject you it is their loss not yours. Some girls choose bad guys, not your problem but theirs. If you meet nice women continue to tell them that they are nice, if they don't choose you it is their loss.
@christiansnaturestudio65995 ай бұрын
Yeah gotta move to Japan
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
6 ft full hair 95-105 i.q and guess what, the work you need to do to get laid is be there.
@asteroise746911 ай бұрын
Nope, being rejected doesn't affect me, what's more, I don't really try to get any kind of relationship. It's more about the creepy realisation of my life going away from my hands. The guilt feeling I can never escape. The motivation and energy I lack to start working on myself. That's what really make me want to disappear forever, not those selfish bitchy bimbos.
@inspisiavideos8542 Жыл бұрын
I understand it hurts when being rejected. On a previous video I mentioned that I am a Software Engineer and asked out a girl that works as supervisor of a clothing store at a mall. On previous occasions I spoke with her and told me she was studying to get her Bachelors on Web Designing. It stung but I see other beautiful girls everywhere and think there are more fish in the sea. I would suggest to go to the gym. I go to the gym as well. He should talk to some gym buddies there and who knows maybe he can make friends to go out with on Friday nights and meet more people like that. I’m 31 years old and still looking for a girlfriend. He should try to no rush things but also to talk to people.
@artemkesler6570 Жыл бұрын
near 25 same shit but without suicide
@sebp98824 ай бұрын
I’m an invisible person- no friends no relationships, I might as well not exist because all I do is suffer alone
@davidordaz5251Ай бұрын
I can relate feel the same way
@sod6405 Жыл бұрын
This was me, i changed it around, i feel amazing, you guys can do it, i don’t hook up still a virgin but i now i want to lose it to someone i genuinely like
@portman8909 Жыл бұрын
Unlike you I'm below average facially. If you were to pick out 100 guys randomly I'd be in the bottom 15.
@remissiveslave4 ай бұрын
@@portman8909I'm below facially, hairs receding, balding (pretty advanced) and make about half the income statistically I should be making. I'm not a quick learner either. I can't imagine my all sub low bell curve lineage on my mothers side had something to do with that, let alone my genetic hair loss and height nearly mimicks my mothers father. Somehow it's my fault for not being competitive with peers im society when literally I have absolutely nothing going for me genetically. It's an excuse to take 2-3× as long to learn complex skills as tge majority of society, being shorter than not only usa avf but global avg abd balding at 18 years old. Oh my fault girls don't choose their innumerable catalog of other guys that have literally every good quality I lack over me. There's a girl out there for everyone, yeah, I'm kinda sure that with the abysmal chance that's true, she'd be out of total desperation.
@duresh08 Жыл бұрын
Not a big fan of your channel man ngl. But I can’t hate on you for helping a struggling young man. Respect given where due ❤