Advice for Black Women Dating Abroad 💖 | Tips from Stephanie Perry

Are you a single black woman considering dating abroad?
In this Valentine's Day edition, Zoe talks to Stephanie Perry, founder of the @Vaycarious housesitting school, on her move to Curacao in the Caribbean and how she researches dating opportunities abroad.
Here at the Exodus Collective, we’re huge fans of her “How to Boycott Winter 2022 in the Caribbean” campaign so stay tuned for an interview packed with tips for black women abroad.
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[@StephaniePerry]

Thanks so much for inviting me on Zoe! And an even bigger thank you for helping me choose Curacao! 💗

[@ExodusCollective]

It's a pleasure on both fronts 😊✨

[@Simona_midulcevida]

Stephanie I am so proud of you...I can say I knew you when... 😀. Turn passion into profit! February 2021...when I found you...life changing. Thank you so much. Will be in touch...I need to do some house sitting AND I need a house sitter...

[@milanacampbell2352]

I can definitely agree that replicating your life in the new environment is not going to produce desired results that does makes sense this whole concept of not working though I’m still listening for the alternative and I haven’t heard it is not working is the goal then what is the way to best take care of yourself and to survive and also to exercise your brain if you’re not going to work then what are you going to do you can’t do these wonderful things like travel and eat exquisite food if you don’t have the money

[@ExodusCollective]

@@milanacampbell2352 great question Milana! With regards to not "working", I can't fully speak for Stephanie but I think what we were talking about was ditching the 9-5 where you're doing a job that you don't enjoy, simply for the money. It's a shift from working to live and living to work. Often that can look like working for yourself instead of being employed by others but it could also be working remotely so your job facilitates your ability to travel. With three kids to feed I, for sure, need money coming in on a regular basis but I also choose to prioritize our wellbeing over the mindless pursuit of money/career. Maybe @Stephanieperry might put it differently

[@lubuukaanthonycriss2017]

Perry take me ,you have a nice smile

[@lazarocedeno5270]

Dear ladies. Black ladies. Black Goddesses. Gorgeous. Radiant. I wish for you lives of ease, confort and joy. Confort and Joy.

[@ExodusCollective]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@itsshayla]

Thank you 😇

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

We are soft at ease at peace We are in our God divine femininity and we deserve all of the blessings God has to us including good men that treat us like the Goddess we deserve!

[@Zikomo7]

Lol I love Stephanie. But I would recommend learning the culture of wherever you’re trying to date. Learn if there’s a history of colorism. Learn the gender roles and expectations. Having a traditional man is cute until you can’t leave the house without him.

[@LGnLA]

🗣💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@sophiaelayne9984]

PREACH!!

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

THIS! “Until you can’t leave the house” 🎯

[@applesidertea]

“until you can’t leave the house without him” ☠️

[@aworlds1]

I enjoy how Stephanie laughs as she goes against the grain 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽#Ease ♥️

[@ExodusCollective]

#teamease indeed 😆

[@aseeyahrhinesmith1413]

Love her energy. Embracing ease my new mantra.

[@ExodusCollective]

Right? I'm #teamease too 🙌🏾

[@PatriciaBrooksCourageCatalyst]

Stephanie is so intentional about ease and flow. I absolutely love it!!! Great video Thanks for making it @Zoe and @Stephanie.

[@awatsonista]

SO intentional! I’m learning!

[@theinbetween01]

I follow Stephanie on KZbin, and FB. Glad I now can follow you too. Black women sticking together !

[@ExodusCollective]

Thanks so much for the follow!

[@idarabassey7455]

Black women can walk away now....yes!!!

[@ExodusCollective]

So true!!

[@FindYourFree]

Nice, Stephanie..Good to see this interview! I have been globehopping with my kids for 15 years. Left the very expensive Virgin Islands for Bahia Brazil 6 months ago..No complaints tho I miss my Caribbean! Great vid

[@ExodusCollective]

What great destinations you've enjoyed! So what's your advice for singletons considering Bahia? Thumbs up or down?

[@FindYourFree]

@@ExodusCollective yes we have lived in diff countries and island nations but Bahia is great for now. I'm a mom fresh out of a relationship from VI so not out dating much but it looks kinda tuff where I am. Brazilians seem to prefer their own. Luckily I lived here a year in the past so I have very conversational Portuguese skills, but without that, expect very quick and meaningless flings at best..Maybe the major cities are better but I doubt it (remembering my last long term stay here). I live in the coastal jungle near a touristy, surfer town...

[@FindYourFree]

@@ExodusCollective ironically I have always eye'd Grenada. Waiting for the strict quarantine protocols to lighten before reconsidering it..

[@ExodusCollective]

@@FindYourFree that sounds pretty awesome! As a mom of three I totally get you on not having the energy for dating 😁!

[@ExodusCollective]

@@FindYourFree are you vaccinated? If so, there's no quarantine needed 😊

[@bubusboulevardtv]

I have always loved Stephanie and all she stands for. Life of ease is definitely how to live well. Thanks Zoe for this video.

[@ExodusCollective]

You're welcome!

[@courtney3173]

I love how honest and thorough you ladies are. I have fear around applying for house sits being a Black woman and with visible tattoos. However my approach will be the same putting my true self out there and let the bigots weed themselves out. 🙂

[@ExodusCollective]

So true! Life is too short. Best of luck with your house sitting journey - I'm sure you'll be amazing! 🤞🏾✨

[@annabellak4033]

Excellent. Good job interviewing, Stephanie is amazing, I love how she says what she wants, Her whole face lights talking about her Yacht or Alamony ❤👍💃💃💃

[@theresabrooks2614]

This is so wonderful-I appreciate this ministry of veneration of OUR minds and bodies to re-mem-ber to LIVE the way we truly deserve…Thank you both Zoe & Stephanie* for motivating US to take action *vaycariously…

[@ExodusCollective]

You're most welcome! I'm glad the conversation resonated with you 😊

[@peace4all928]

Great video. Thanks for sharing such helpful, inspiring information 🌻

[@ExodusCollective]

I'm glad you found it useful Serene 🙂

[@awatsonista]

Watched the replay. Valentine’s Day perfection! Thank you, Ladies! #goalgetout

[@ExodusCollective]

I'm glad you enjoyed, thanks for the feedback!

[@Simona_midulcevida]

Stephanie I am so proud of you...I can say I knew you when... 😀. Turn passion into profit! February 2021...when I found you...life changing. Thank you so much.

[@DrCrystalHarris]

These are great questions. Wonderful interview. Learned so much about Stephanie and I’ve followed her for awhile.

[@ExodusCollective]

Thank you Crystal 🙏🏾✨

[@StephaniePerry]

Thanks Crystal!

[@Zikomo7]

And then there’s universal stuff. Men love to feel important. When I was single I would ask men for directions. Look as confused and helpless as possible. Look cute but not sexy. Get him talking about himself. Ask what his shirt or tattoo means.

[@dwalker6868]

Loving it That’s a T~Shirt “ Life with Ease “ 🤣😉 Thank you

[@cnwonye4932]

Thank you Zoe for such an inspirational interview with Stephanie Perry.

[@AnnasCookingWorld]

Wow this is so interesting 👍

[@ExodusCollective]

Thank you!

[@aboutmyfathersbusiness3764]

Both of them are simply radiant and beautiful, they look so happy. Yes as a black women we work hard enough and YES it's time for us to move on. @blackwomenlivingalifeofease

[@Maiden_Warrior_Crone]

I have admired Stephanie's work for some time. This is a really great interview. Thank you both.

[@ExodusCollective]

You're most welcome, so good to hear that you enjoyed the conversation!

[@Simona_midulcevida]

Loved this...thank you!

[@ExodusCollective]

You're welcome 🙏🏾!

[@aimajeffresswood8702]

Beautiful Ones, thank you more, and abounding blessings!!!

[@wattsyourvision3925]

Great video!! So many gems 🥰

[@ExodusCollective]

I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[@tashalachacha]

I'm captivated by the ancient castles in Europe. Would you ever house sit in a castle? They say Germany has the best ones.

[@TaureanDreams]

This woman is so beautiful 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@mercedesithier3340]

You ladies are inspiring

[@ExodusCollective]

Thank you Mercedes 🙏🏾

[@soniahoustonpichardo6571]

Stephanie I'd like to order 1 yacht sitting course, please

[@ExodusCollective]

Not a bad idea 😁. There are actually lots of yacht jobs available! I've even seen on board yoga teacher positions 😊

[@SunSpotGrasshoppa]

this is so beautiful!

[@ExodusCollective]

Thank you 😊

[@SpeakSteph]

I have been binge watching your videos and have so enjoyed the content thus far! Would you please share your microphone equipment setup? An Amazon affiliate link to your equipment is fine with me. I noticed the sound quality on your audio in the videos is really good and consistent. Thanks in advance.

[@ExodusCollective]

Aw thanks. This is the mic I use: USB Microphone, TONOR Cardioid Condenser Computer PC Mic with Tripod Stand

[@irislong5832]

Omg, where have you ladies been? I really enjoy traveling and have been to different islands and would like to relocate or have a summer home. Im going to look into these avenues. I definitely like to link up.

[@lidyanaredeemed9848]

What about The risks associated with working in a foreign country by yourself? You are really brave woman! Also, how much money do you make?

[@tierragray_]

Heres an idea. Date a soccer player or retired soccer player

[@BeHolistic]

Is there any Facebook groups for black women house sitters or travellers to connect with each other ?

[@ExodusCollective]

Stephanie's Exodus Summit page is a pretty good starting point for making connections!

[@annabellak4033]

No offense to people who want to build with someone. Been there done that, in my twenties. It's nice to have your own, but all of us aren't in the 6 figures. Somewhere we were given the notion that only women of other nationalities get the big fish. And usually melonated men with some dough, don't check for us, and that's ok. I'm open to international love, I could've married for wealth 3 times, sadly I didn't like them, I guess i don't have gold digging skills. But I could learn 😌 🤣❤

[@milanacampbell2352]

But you guys haven’t addressed the desire a lot of people have to leave a legacy for their kids or to have a nest egg for themselves and that does involve work it doesn’t have to involve struggling in work but it does involve putting out an effort to draw an income so in essence you do need to do some thing that brings you Curren$y and if it’s not work then what is it that’s the only thing that boggles me about her concept of ease

[@ExodusCollective]

Check out Stephanie's channel - she goes into lots of detail on how she earns her money. I also did a few videos like this one on how to afford to move to the Caribbean like this one kzbin.info/www/bejne/j2eoc6aoqLR-h68 But honestly wealth management isn't my area of expertise or interest. You're best to check out Roshida Dowe (Stephanie's business partner) for content on finances related to living abroad. She retired to Mexico at the age of 39 with $600k in the bank so her insights might be the type of content you're looking for. Hope that helps 😊

[@applesidertea]

“If he has a yacht, and we get divorced, then maybe I’ll have a yacht.” ☠️

[@Gen1Bmw]

I'm not sure about wanting half a man's money after divorce. I have my own money .... I bring to the table ...not just take ...

[@donettequamina-edghill2751]

You still have to pay for your life...not sure what ease of life means...gotta watch more

[@ExodusCollective]

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[@helengarrison7543]

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[@lindabrown0]

Great conversation ladies. Thing is men are very shallow, visual and a 47 year old woman is not very high on their list no matter how lovely she is. If you're willing to be a "sugar mama" and finance their lives or if they want a green card, then they'll flock you but otherwise the pickins will be slim. Yes, they'll "holler" at you but as to something serious, I don't know......

[@wattsyourvision3925]

There are divorced men that I know personally that do want a serious relationship so it depends on the man. They are out there 🙂

[@lindabrown0]

@@wattsyourvision3925 OK, so there is hope (lol).

[@salkisresmedicinalwisdom3291]

What a negative, self-limiting mindset. True, men are shallow. But in the end-it's all about how you upkeep yourself. If you look like Gabrielle Union or Stacey Dash-ie via taking care of yourself via a clean, vegan, nutrient-dense diet....then you'll never have to worry about a shortage of men.

[@hymnodyhands]

You don't need "men." You need one in 3.9 BILLION. Forget the flock. There are men who want a woman their own age at every age... go enjoy your life and be met by someone who wants to enjoy life with you.

[@TaureanDreams]

Men want women. 2 of my aunts got remarrying my 50s!

[@MiCajaDelIdiota]

Oh, shallow men looking for petite blonds or maybe petite Asians; oh, shallow women searching for tall men with yachts. Question for the ladies: Does looking for men with yachts classify you as gold diggers? Just askin’

[@ExodusCollective]

I'd like to hear your thoughts

[@MiCajaDelIdiota]

@@ExodusCollective How about if we all search for beautiful minds?

[@ExodusCollective]

@@MiCajaDelIdiota Each to their own but something akin to that strategy - the mind/soul combo is pretty appealing - is what works for me. I try not to judge others 😉

[@MiCajaDelIdiota]

@@ExodusCollective You “try not to judge others?” When you go about looking for tall men with yachts, you are making a judgement (judging men by a physical characteristic & money), subtextually indicating that you’re shallow. Of course, the search for a beautiful mind also implies a judgement, but one based on deep motivations anchored in humane aspirations and the attractiveness of beautiful souls, not yachts. PS How about if one looks for & finds a beautiful mind. & then, TOGETHER, work on acquiring a yacht, if yachts are so important? PS2: Height, weight, eye color, melanin… all those are the result of the genetic lottery. They say nothing about what your effort in life, diligence, acumen, resourcefulness, &, shall I dare to add intelligence, makes you a worthy companion/human being. PS3: My question to the lady would be: Let’s sit down & review what each brings to the table. If I bring my culturally (shallow) designated desirable height & a yacht, what do you bring?

[@ExodusCollective]

@@MiCajaDelIdiota You're addressing the wrong person.