Advice for Young People | Sheldon Solomon and Lex Fridman

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[@andrewhanson9251]

Imagine smoking a joint with this guy

[@TheImprenditore]

@@h.l.69 along with elon, let's add him into the mix. he seems like a cool dude

[@carlosgaspar8447]

you have imagination to do just that...

[@IHATEJEREMYMOCK]

@@TJ-kk5zf smug much?

[@IHATEJEREMYMOCK]

@@TJ-kk5zfgood, then you should be able to use your clear headedness to assess your moral superiority problems.

[@IHATEJEREMYMOCK]

@@TJ-kk5zf you are clearly a limited thinker. No one said pot makes you "smart" or "deep" except you. Cool stigmatization though bro/eyl.

[@pineapplesgrowfromthegroun1174]

“In order to be good at something you have to risk being a fool, but you are not as much of a fool doing it as you’d be a fool not doing it” J. Peterson

[@stephendouglas4545]

"We yearn for freedom, we react vigorously when we perceive that our choices have been curtailed, and then we are paralyzed by indecision in the wake of seemingly endless possibilities because we are not choking on choice". Lex says nothing at the most brilliant and articulated philosophy of our time. And then, "Choice is a first world problem". !!!

[@benyaminewanganyahu]

Yes, seems like he didn't *really* get it. At least, not in that moment.

[@steve2126]

i believe he actually says (more logically) "...because we're now* choking on choice..."

[@nathanieltermin4332]

'My advice is to get competent advice.' Perfect.

[@tittit7418]

Im 26 from the uk and saving to go travelling next year. All my friends have kids and are married already and i think there is more to life than the city you live in while you are young

[@Sunmarkobjects]

Travel safely, don’t compare your life with others...

[@bide7603]

I’m 26 from the UK as well. I feel you man. There’s more for us to do yet.

[@geggs1]

I didn’t have kids until I was 38. Live out you’re life first was what my father told me and he was 100% correct

[@thadfreebourn5138]

52 almost. 3 grown kids almost, 2X your experience, yet, here I Am: follow your bliss! Joy leads your steps... You are light years ahead, relax and make life your bitch, in the sweetest scents...make sense? I got little cents, getting rich off it

[@debuggecko5157]

@RADAR According to science, a happy fulfilling live is driven by long term happiness sources which are usually the same ones that gives us a sense of purpose, i.e. raising a child, creating a family, finding purpose on your job, having new experiences, etc. Not everyone wants and not everyone can "follow their dreams". Also dreams and passions are not permanent, each person can create or change their own passion. I don't want to have children, nor live the "common life", but there's no need at all to be condescending and bitter towards those who choose to raise children and have a family, or those who choose the comfortable life. Doing this only affects yourself since you're raising the expectations for your future and removing kindness from your life, which also according to science is also a source of happiness. Check out Berkeley's content on the science of happiness.

[@kevin_dasilva]

Sorry for my complete ignorance, but this man looks like Tony Hawk in the thumbnail and just had to comment it

[@C_CREATURE_]

Yeah! He looks like if Tony Hawk and David Lee Roth had a child

[@christophvolar3481]

I thought he was that guy that "invented podcasts" on joe rogan or the McAfee guy lol

[@penk0]

Complete ignorance made a top comment... 😂

[@dennisrojas7806]

😂😂

[@ryanmiles6344]

amazing beautiful advice, especially in 2020

[@andrewbouras8481]

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

[@Killerbee_McTitties]

This is the advice I could've used 7 years ago but only received in a way that I understood it 2 years ago.

[@thimalikannangara4900]

This is exactly the kind of advice I needed right now. Thank you.

[@SuperSecretSkwirl]

"one must imagine sisyphus happy"

[@jamatoneblue]

There is a road, no simple highway Between the dawn and the dark of night And if you go no one may follow That path is for your steps alone

[@muzzamilnadeem3104]

If youre indecisive, just start something. Maybe you find out it isnt for u, maybe u stick with it for years and learn something either way ull be better than where u would be before. In this age of information, indecisiveness if crippling us

[@DSAK55]

I use to be indecisive, but now I'm not sure

[@yousuftareen5054]

Beautiful

[@Bpaynes]

The purpose of life is to live a life with a purpose

[@ahaquer153]

@@tuluwa You cheeky exurbia boi

[@jaymirabito5029]

Logotherapy : living for a purpose, aiming towards a purposeful future, filled with porpoises

[@John12512]

“the meaning of life is to find your gift. the purpose of life is to give it away.” - pablo picasso

[@manojbaishya_]

I see Python I press like

[@shaunpriddle3404]

Choice is indeed the enemy of happiness

[@davidlakhter]

great video

[@johnnyroycerichardsoniii3273]

Good advice at the end. If you run out this “game” it is a strange and unknown destination 2 decades out that’s for sure

[@bhushankaduful]

This is such an underrated advice.

[@thadfreebourn5138]

Agreed! Live and long, joyous, free be merry...tomorrow not promised. Today never even realized by most, missed their boats, afraid it wont float, confused by the water, resistance to flow...not natural, let AI figure us out

[@fearnomoshpit]

If Mr. Sheldon ever chooses to explore the path of hip-hop, he should adopt the rap name Young Sheldon.

[@domm1341]

The paradox of choice

[@PUNEETAM20]

A great aim for life is to do life affirming things and work towards betterment of yourself, there isn't much more you can do. Chase something that will be worth the pain and suffering the end. The meaning of life is to live in a way that means something to you. Define your own values and virtues, and live by them.

[@suaypordulu6056]

I love you lex

[@orlando2623]

I’d say do something you either enjoy or are good at. Even better if its both those things

[@grute76]

Tony Hawk Going Crazy In Here!

[@carrnil]

Thought it was Tony Hawk on the thumbnail

[@SkywalkerPaul]

I found the purpose of Life: it's called Paragliding

[@lifethrownoutofthewindow]

nice

[@MrBirgerB]

Would prefer something a little more physically challenging.

[@SkywalkerPaul]

@@MrBirgerB Paragliding can be all of that:

[@SkywalkerPaul]

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[@deb1847]

For me it's chess

[@WBeraa]

kinda looks like Tony Hawk in 15 years retired into the cbd business

[@willwallace2682]

"Do something" ok great got it. Not said with a huge amount of conviction either. Perhaps really what Sheldon wanted to say is: "Don't worry about it, because your idea of self-concept, or the effort you put into XYZ is arbitrarily defined based on hundreds of factors outside of your control" - but he knows that is damaging and a hopeless statement, one which will push you further away from your tribe (even if socially constructed) . Although, it could be argued, that REJECTION of ideas of self-concept and nihilism in that sense is the same as pursuing 'meaningful life', but more edgey. Better way to orientate your life is to have interests, and relentlessly pursue them, even if it is an 'arbitrary construct' because that is what is propelling humanity forward?

[@willwallace2682]

yes I understand this paragraph is a shower-of-shit but im just coming up with my own ideas

[@timothykangethe7700]

Well said 👏

[@willwallace2682]

@@timothykangethe7700 thanks brother

[@jakub4062]

Half of the time he's holding an imaginary joint in his left hand.

[@alichamas63]

The meaning of life is simple: "Survival". Every living being needs to do this first, everything else is choice.

[@alichamas63]

@@OsvaldoBayerista Yes it is. The question of the meaning of life seeks to define an objective or goal for existence. Survival is the ultimate base objective of any living being, so this definition satisfies. Your objection seems baseless.

[@alichamas63]

@@OsvaldoBayerista @E R I disagree. I believe you are deconstructing too much. The definition satisfies. Thought is required for survival, simply because it manifests as an impulse does not disqualify it as an objective. It's the ultimate.

[@alichamas63]

@@OsvaldoBayerista humans are animals underneath. When our lives are threatened our number one objective is survival. I think you are failing to see that because you are analysing at too high level an abstraction around thoughts and personal choices. Survival is what living creatures are meant to do. Everything else is a lovely abstraction on top. Look at the base instincts of most mammals, to procreate. This is survival. It's built into the system we inhabit with others.

[@alichamas63]

@@OsvaldoBayerista my friend if we're going to talk about thought let's spell it correctly. It is "th" not "t". Regardless, you're entitled to your own definition of life's meaning. I remain happy with mine.

[@alichamas63]

@@OsvaldoBayerista all good my man, I hear you. I guess what I'm ultimately saying is that there is no theological or metaphysical purpose, this is a layer which we add on top of the ultimate purpose/meaning of existence (life) which is simply to survive. You want a purpose? That's it. If you start going to higher abstractions like human metaphysics then in my opinion you're in the realm of non essential choices of meaning.

[@gold_apple_vn4657]

don't listen to your friends because they just present what they heard without really understand them

[@gold_apple_vn4657]

there's no meaning in life doesn't mean you shouldn't adapt one

[@moshefabrikant1]

2:40 Interesting 4:30 בכדי לשרוד בעולם המתקדם שלנו אנשים אומרים אני לא אוהב תוויות כי מי שהוא רק חדור מטרה לדבר אחד יפסיד

[@KB-os6lh]

Do not ever buy a lawnmower.

[@hanskung3278]

How do you know "life doesn't have one inherent meaning?" From what source can you assert that? Or did you just pull it out of your ...?

[@gomiladroogies5951]

When we say things like "meaning of life" what we're talking about is self-esteem. We all find ways to build our self esteem to convince ourselves that we're doing good at life. Now the problem is that this is largely cultural, so some cultures might focus more on piousness to be holy and devout, to some it might be to be strong a warrior, to others its to be famous, to some its their looks and to be liked. Different cultures have different values leading to different meanings. None of these meanings are really meaningful, it doesnt actually matter if youre famous or a great warrior but we have evolved this coping mechanism as a self defence to protect ourselves psychologically. We have the inate trait of self preservation but we unlike animals have the intelect to know we will die no matter what we do. So we use self esteem to protect us from the fear of death so we can live long enough to reproduce. We see people who get their self esteem destroyed they surrender to death and kill themselves.

[@hanskung3278]

@@gomiladroogies5951 Well that's a first for me, self esteem being synonymous with life's meaning, is that what you meant to say? Because later, more accurately, you said self-esteem is a buffer, denial, against death anxiety.

[@likatari8638]

The problem with just do something.. Is "but if i do it and it'll be just a waste of time"

[@xPsYchoMind]

If you don't do something and do nothing it will be a waste of time for sure. Of course you're putting on a bet, but it's your best one.

[@likatari8638]

@@xPsYchoMindmaybe I am talking about when you have some options, how to know whats the best and not just go for something and "waste time".. But i agree that when you have nothing.. Then something to start with is better then just sitting around..

[@reasonablespeculation3893]

Never a waste of time, if what you do is so valuable to someone else, that they pay you. They get something, and that is rewarding to you and them. You get compensation which allows you to be self reliant,,, maybe even pursue your interests. ..... All work is good. ... All work is Not good for all people... if options become available; evaluate,,, move on as needed

[@likatari8638]

@@reasonablespeculation3893 not always, for example, if i work as a cashier at the supermarket, people dont pay me.. And now there are machines that can do that so my job is useles.. And so I work there only for the money..

[@xPsYchoMind]

@@likatari8638 I believe there could be no answer, at least none we know of. People have been trying to figure out what is "best" for the longest time. You can't calculate everything in advance, but you can bet on something you see as being better in comparison to other options. Funny thing is that you can be horribly wrong, BUT you can also be right, way beyond your wildest assumptions. Moreover, how can one even be sure about what is best for them? You are not in control of your life, roughly speaking, no one is. So what if you fail miserably? You are not dead. Well, you could be, but if you aren't, then it's not the end, and who can tell what awaits you. Maybe it's the only way to acquire skills necessary to pave a road to a better life. I think which choice you make is irrelevant, the fact that you make a choice is important. Everything is going to change, and you will make thousands of other choices in future, but you have to start somewhere.

[@schmule460]

DAMN TONY HAWK IS STILL OUT HERE SKATING?

[@starvinmarvinoff6045]

Tony hawk

[@jeetjalu5526]

There is no meaning. We have to create it.

[@manondamoon8911]

I know the meaning of life. Its to leave the toilet cleaner than you found it. Learn, young grasshopper, experience.

[@adelinaquijano1083]

I heard bad sounds and then we make funny.

[@velvia7880]

Don't take life seriously

[@adamsmith3413]

The guest seems to be the caricature of a ill disciplined wacky professor.

[@thewraith6360]

literal serpent

[@JamesBond-ij4si]

Is he rolling a booger in his fingers?

[@Nilim000]

Listen to Jordan Peterson

[@aerobique]

but do it in a very critical way to really learn something..

[@guenz2K]

Advice for Young People: don't listen to oldest fart.

[@jiezhang5988]

You can bring a horse to the water but can’t make him/her drink it. Simple...

[@ok-hz7ff]

Jordon peterson is way better then this guy

[@AgendaFiles]

It sounds like you are looking for a cult leader.

[@ok-hz7ff]

Wow that a strange way of taking that comment.

[@AgendaFiles]

@@ok-hz7ff Comparing two people who do different research, and then placing one as your favourite shows that you are looking for some type of idol: otherwise you would not even feel the need to comment.

[@ok-hz7ff]

Someone is a bit to sensitive 😂