Advice from an older INTJ to younger INTJs

[@harmoniics]

INTJ female advice to a younger me. Don't suck on lolly pops. They rot your teeth and end up costing you a small fortune. Idiots remain idiots no matter what you do, just keep walking, don't engage. School really is that boring, it's not you, it's them. Everything you need to learn you can teach yourself far more efficiently from the internet or a library. It's ok to spend time alone when you need to. Trust your intuition.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yes school was paced for different kinds of people

[@draspotnuk]

My advice to my younger INTJ self: 1. Be open to opportunity. Don't be stuck to your plans, consider the contingency of unplanned opportunity, and learning to plan on the fly with those new contingencies.That includes other peoples opinions which may sound dumb to you, but are much more genius if you allow them a chance. 2. Learn to allow your heart to guide you. Your life path will split on 2 roads that commit a lot of time and years. 1 path is the career ladder success. The other path is what you really enjoy doing. If you take the path to success and career ladder you may acquire everything, but you will find no joy and will end up back to step 1. If you take path 2 you will open pandoras box to more opportunity than you ever imagined along with joy and satisfaction. If you do both like me, you will realize that path 1 was the biggest waste of time you ever made in your life. 3. Let your heart be vulnerable to love. Allow your heart to be broken. When that happens get back up, dust off your boots and get over it. 4. You absolutely NEED to go out into the real world. Your intuition works 5000x better when you have a handful of real world experiences. SO experience the world is a MUST. As much as you hate it, suck it up. 5. College is better used making social connections for future business partners and opportunities. Your degree won't go anywhere without connections. Socialize and have fun and invest in those connections.

[@jaoco4805]

The 2nd on the list seems interesting. Would love to watch if you'll ever make a video about it! I feel like other types would appreciate it as much.

[@draspotnuk]

@@jaoco4805 well thanks for the compliment. Unfortunately I'm only good at watching videos not making them. I think whats interesting is that in life you need to live mistakes in order for you to recognise what you do NOT want. It took arriving at what was a successful job to realize I hate it, but found what I loved. It took buying my first house to realize what I want in a house. It took buying fancy cars to realise my favorite car is an old 90's car that I had in my youth. And as I look back, what I recognize I did wrong, was I neglected and sacrificed listening to my experiences for the sake of some greater goal. I had tunnel vision, and convinced myself of this great vision. I could definitely go on talking about it so sorry. But if I had to sum it up in practical advice to myself it would be: ALL skills and specialties you study in school can have success. Artists, construction workers, plumbers, lawyers, designers. when you go to college don't focus on a degree with the biggest bang for the buck. But focus on what you really enjoy studying. The difference between the 2 in the end is you spend all your gas working through getting to that potential imaginary "bang for the buck." When you start work, you run out of gas. And sometimes you realize you hate it. On the second path when you're coasting through school, your gas tank is unlimited. And you spend virtually no fuel. Then when you arrive at your career, you're imagination then kicks in, and the fuel source is rocket fuel. Whats easy for you, is hard for somebody else. Whats hard for you is easy for somebody else. The goal is to find that thing you find as easy as breathing, and your collegues don't understand how you do it so easy.

[@jaoco4805]

@@draspotnuk First of all thank you for explaining it deep enough! Feel like I could listen to you talk for hours. The tricky part for me is, I believe that learning what's interesting for me wouldn't generate me the freedom aka money that I was aiming for so I could live the lifestyle that I want. Well, I'm 20 years old and I know I still have a lot to explore. And as of now, I'm into things that generate me some bucks and it is producing some results and it feels right and it gives me sense of purpose. But I know deep inside that if I have all the money in the world this is not what I would be doing. And I think that this dilemma also happens to a lot of people. This is tricky, really. Also how old were you or how long were you working for that job when you realize that you really hated it?

[@draspotnuk]

@@jaoco4805 your mind and thought process is the exact same as I had when I was going through everything. The vision you have for your future is not short sighted either and I imagine you’ve come up with all the contingencies. It’s when I arrived at the destination when the realizations happened. I finished school I think 22. I got the best job that you could possibly get, there was no better company you could work for. (My resume was impressive). I worked at that job around 5 years and built a resume. I even loved what I did. It was like dating a girl you think you’re in love with. The fuel ran out after about 7 years, it was just another job to me. Then I decided to go and explore every nook and cranny in my specialty, and nothing got lit, I was outta gas. I mastered my work. So then i thought maybe it’s my workplace, and looked for the best workplace, nope. Then I realized about 10 years into it that I hate what I studied for. I mastered it, I got bored, my imagination ran out. And I had a healthy savings and some good investments so i decided to take the risk and quit and start all over with what I loved and what was stupid easy for me. I’d say I wasted around 10 years stuck thinking exactly what you were thinking, imagine if I got my doctorate in some special field. Or stuck with a med school loan or law school loans. This is a reality many many people hit, and as an INTJ you are not immune to this. Some people suffer through it all because [insert lie to the self, justification here]; and it becomes an even bigger waste of time. My thought was I’ll have enough money and I can do whatever afterwards, but when you get enough money you realize money is not enough, there’s something more. Money can buy you the best house, neighbors, scenery, whatever your dream is. But when you buy that dream house... what happens when you realize that you don’t like owning houses? Money can’t fix that. That may not be a good analogy, hopefully the idea comes across. - as a side note the problem that this is, is a philosophical problem. Its trying to fix nonmaterial things with material ones. If theres any take away its this: material problems are solved with material solutions. Nonmaterial problems require nonmaterial solutions. SO if you want to be rich you need to work your butt off to get material wealth. If you want a nonmaterial thing like freedom, or passion, the non material passion or freedom must be addressed with nonmaterial means. Finding satisfaction or relief from something you do. Freedom is also a relative term. but thats besides the point. Also the Idea of what you love wouldn’t generate the money to have the freedom you want, is absolutely and utterly wrong. That sad part of that idea is it takes getting to that position to really learn that lesson. You can make enough, and you will; but that’s a whole topic in itself on why you can. Lets say I love to workout, If i got a job in working out sure it won't make me money, but if I opened my own business or gym I could make some money. Or I could explore healthnut-workout people who have made a lot of money, what did they do? Lets say I loved art, and drawing, maybe if I worked under some company I wouldn't make much money. But If I opened up a business for a niche market or something like advertising, there is money there. When you don't like what you do, you tell yourself "why would I do that? that bite is bigger than I can chew." when you did find your love you tell yourself: "Once I start going, I wonder where this could take me?" The amount of energy you put in, won't even be a thought that comes accross.

[@kelzreallife8293]

25yo intj here... I can relate to 2. I Committed to building an engineering career and a writing career. Engineering seems much more profitable but in the past few years I found myself going for interviews and secretly hoping I don't get the job. Writing doesn't pay as much yet but I am willing to spend years figuring it out.

[@jyuzou608]

28 years old INTJ working as the leader of an engineering team. .....and still communication is difficult for me..... being an introvert around extroverts is very soul draining 💔

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thats something I wouldn't wish on anyone lol

[@multilingual_archive]

Same and I need to sleep a whole day to recharge

[@Emma-mk8jv]

Yes communication sooo tricky for me too. I just don't know how to word things, especially when it's an awkward situation

[@dannyrwagamba]

Same here.. 25 y/o project manager. I like to minimize talking by communicating 90+% of the time via text messages, and I have team leaders to whom I orchestrate broader strategies and let them deal with day-to-day activities

[@imjustrambling]

May or may not be helpful. I did voice over training for a bit. Just learning about the tone changes when inflicting at different places helped me to come across friendlier. I agree that we shouldn't aim for manipulation, but learning how different forms and ways of communicating comes across can be helpful build confidence. You can't control how others will receive your words but you can be intentional about how you present them.

[@itsallforjake6957]

I am an INTJ (currently 16 years old) I have noticed for a long time that I am very different than those who are around me. Sometimes it gets really bad to the point where I'm like, "why am I even talking to you? You're literally self sabotaging but complaining about it but also knowingly do it." I tend struggle to stay engaged with them. There are so many patterns in a teenage life, it repeats within everyone and yet no one catches on until they discover it themselves (even when you tell them before they have had the "amazing" idea). I know I am a kid as well and I have patterns... but I can never relate to those around. When I came across this video it spread so much light into my internal conflicts in all aspects. I wish to find more people like me and I'm very grateful for your words. It's hard to be the only one you can relate to at the moment and it can get really lonely at times in need. I strive to be able to be more compassionate with others and I will eventually. It's nice to see those who can feel as I do and can be disappointed but strive for growth. I love that I'm not alone.

[@theintjperspective2958]

When your that young its hard not to feel alone, you intellectually develop much faster than your peers but being introverted means you don't meet many people. As you get older though you'll meet more people like yourself via work and hobbies. You can also find like minded authors such as Asimov and Nietzsche. But its best to just spend this time of your life learning life skills and before you know it you have more like minded people around you.

[@itsallforjake6957]

@@theintjperspective2958 I'll keep that noted for now and the future. I really appreciate your videos, keep them up!

[@josesantana770]

To be defined as such or such personality you need to be an adult. During adolescence years your personality still developing.

[@eeoooonnngg9447]

Ya,I can relate about it, it so annoyed when someone do that at us

[@ag09fernandezryannedenisse2]

Hi there fellow 16-year-old intj

[@MsGrowltiger]

As an elderly INTJ female, my advice is to take the test and find out early on you are not an alien from Mars, you just are not like most other women. I am so much more comfortable in my skin now.

[@theintjperspective2958]

The sense of alienation as a INTJ is pretty bad, but I bet it's even worse being a female INTJ

[@jeannydaniel2022]

I’m from the Philippines. I used all of my INTJ strengths when I was in Elementary and High school. I did not really know I was INTJ back then. I was president of our class, president of different school organizations and Student Body president, which was the all-encompassing organization at the time. I was president of 6 or 7 different school organizations at the same school year. I never held a lesser position. It was either president or I’m not part of the group at all. I was class valedictorian and always got 1st honor. I had no problem communicating. I competed in science and won most times. I organized parties, did fund raisers, campaigned for elections, etc. I was busy. Every second counts. I was always strategizing. I did public speeches. I thought I would become a politician someday. At that time, I did not know about MBTI. At one point, I thought I reached self actualization. I changed everything drastically in college. I wanted to be “normal.” So I did not study hard enough. I did not join organizations. I did what others were doing. My INTJ self began to doubt and I became shy and sad. I don’t even know how to get back on track anymore. Well, I know how to, but my bad habits are just so hard to break now. I’m going to start NP school in a few weeks, I hope this could be my start. I’m 40 years old now. I thought I could have become a doctor if I studied hard enough and did not spend my time reading novels and watching TV. Thus, my advice to the younger INTJs is to never think that you are abnormal. Achieving high and big is our normal. Acting like a superman or a superwoman is our normal. Never apologize for it. Live the real you. I don’t have to elaborate more on how to improve your life. You’re an INTJ, you know how to.

[@gabrieldolores8208]

Salamat Po

[@mrproxj]

Thanks for sharing, my pit fall as well😥

[@donwald3436]

I'm almost 50, my advice to my younger self: - yes you're weird and nobody understands you, get used to it. when your mom says you're special she means you ride the short bus. - learn how to interact with normal people. this will take several lifetimes. - chill out and relax, you don't need to be "on" all the time. - more likely than not, you're working harder than everyone else. keep working harder anyway.

[@DaenaMichelle]

That last one hits so hard, it's difficult not to hate the "slackers"

[@gutzwingz]

Some advice and perspective: 1. Point your curiosity toward yourself. What do I like, what do I want short term and long term, why my instinct says this it's not self-doubting it's being self-aware 2. Learn to differentiate what the world says and what you want to be. This will come with lots of realization that being alone does not mean you're lonely, being a leader does not mean you have to be in the leadership position. 3. Build/cultivate meaningful connections. You don't need 5 friends in your life. If you have one friend with that you can be vulnerable and speak without judgement and vice versa, you already win. Your friend does not have to be similar to you but find the one that encourages you to improve yourself that you turn blind eye to. I'm still learning as well so I will update more in the future

[@mizuhashitsunoka]

This is the only authentic INTJ advice i saw so far. Otherwise else blabbered rhetorical shit that sounded like stuff you would read/hear about the type generally or just basic life advice that's valid for every type, but you were right on the mark mate. Especially the first point. Glad to find an actual INTJ here.

[@gutzwingz]

@@mizuhashitsunoka Thank you glad if this can help more younger INTJ

[@mizuhashitsunoka]

@@gutzwingz haha, both of us know that they won't learn until they get the burn first. Or watch someone else burn and learn from them xD

[@noncompliant9258]

Great comment!

[@susanam.826]

Interesting video, thank you. I'm your age and an INTJ. I had my biggest transformation when I understood when to stop thinking and start bringing my ideas to life. Imagining/thinking + producing = confidence and renewed determination. Things will start to make sense, and you'll be able to enjoy the game of life much more. My advice is, turn off your inner critic and you'll blossom.

[@ancalime3835]

Yes, ENFP watching this video because I am weird. I find you cute, your voice is somehow comforting and you help me understand what is happening inside other weirdos. I could listen to you all day :D.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's great, thanks. 😁

[@mercyamparo561]

An INTJ kid here, I appreciate all the advice you gave in this video and to everyone in the comments. I always thought that I am mentally-ill just because I think differently than others and hated myself for awhile. Thank you so much!

[@theintjperspective2958]

Being a younger INTJ means a lot of alienation, but as you get older you learn to be yourself, and you inevitably meet more people like you.

[@ЛобоваЮля-т8щ]

I probably can't describe how much I thank you. Because for me, as 19 y.o. girl, hearing you who summarized my thoughts and gave so perfect advice is so important. When I hear INTJ and I feel that I'm the same, I'm not alone. But hearing experience of adult INTJ is very valuable as I can learn how to deal with some my specifics in character. So thank you again and again, it's very important video for me.

[@TatjanaMur]

Мне бы очень хотелось увидеть это видео 21 год назад, когда я была в твоем возрасте. Ты не одна. Нас тут больше, хотя мы и не рядом ;) Выгода в том, что для INTJ это не так важно, если эдиномышленник рядом, или нет. Хотя идеально бы было .. рядом. Да пусть славится дядя Интернет и те двери возможностей, которые он открывает.

[@followme6482]

I'm 36 now, learned about MBTI when I was 30. If only I knew about it when I was 13, my life would be completely different and way happier than it is now. Happy me, I still have time and working successfully to apply changes. It's never too late unless you're dead.

[@alicerocksell5379]

I am a female INTJ & this was so helpful. I have been facing these exact same problems recently! Especially with people & relationships. I feel like I am terrible at understanding people. Most of the time I am just studying them & then I get frustrated & isolate myself. But i understand people are more emotionally driven than logically. Also, for INTJ's we really don't wanna get hurt. Emotions are sometimes too much & you don't wanna be vulnerable & feel stupid again. I mostly struggle with that. Please make a part 2 of this video!

[@theintjperspective2958]

@alicerocksell5379 well you're not alone, alot of us feel that way. I think we usually don't get along with xSxx types but we can find a way to work with xNFx types genrally

[@Marty_Au79]

I really appreciated your insights. They made me tear up. I'm currently 37 and I felt misunderstood and alone for most of my life. It wasn't until my 30s that I started understanding the different personality types and how to effectively communicate with the other types. Once you open up and start the process of self development and meet other INTJs it unlocks a whole world of possibilities. I would like to create an 'NTJ' self development group because I believe having a group with the E's would be synergistic or compliment our shortcomings and would have saved me 20+ years of frustration. Most of the successful INTJs I've met didn't find their niche and groove until their 40's-50's. Thank you and Subscribed.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thats great, I'll keep making the videos.

[@sofia8574]

When you do, please share the link here!😊

[@JeffreyWillis800]

I didn't take a personality test until age 46, had no idea I was an INTJ. Always felt alone and odd, unsure why others couldn't see the things I saw, or look deeply at big issues.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's a very common INTJ thing

[@kalkidantadesse6268]

As a 31 years old INTJ-A and as a person who has recently gone through a turbulent but very awakening phase of my time. I say the best things I learned to change or at least learn how to do was living in the moment, we tend to live in our future, the one we built in our head, although I love the process more than the goal it self but there is always a next step to think about so I was always absent in the present, although I am in the early stage of learning and using this but learning to be in the moment, at least some part of my time gives me some peace of mind. The one trait I am struggling with is like you said in the video (around 23 minutes in) my ideas and plans always change and never survives that phase of actually getting it done.. on the ground

[@DarthKoller]

34yo intj here, and a lot of these topics I'm really starting to come into and understand more personally. This was a great video.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Ah thanks man

[@soirema]

My best tip would to be to research emotions more. I actually neglected my mental health so much (at the sake of efficiency) that I developed some mental issues

[@theintjperspective2958]

Carl Jung called that Shadow work, its well worth it.

[@soirema]

@@theintjperspective2958 I didnt know that, gonna check it out, thank you

[@ForestEdgeGardens]

Thank you for highlighting the difference between HONESTY and SINCERITY. I learned early in life that there was a huge difference, and I’m much better off being sincere. Screw the games, let the chips fall where they may.

[@a.b.allview670]

Cool to see a fellow INTJ who put so much effort into developing public speaking ability. Lots of good advice in here.

[@oasis8172]

Sincerely, thank you for this. I'm a 25 year old INTJ and many of the things you said, you practically confirmed what I was thinking about. This really helped me out and it is comforting to know there are others like you, who you can relate with. Just recently, I had noticed how truly different I am from other people.

[@theintjperspective2958]

You are not alone

[@o89133]

He’s such a classic INTJ. Love to digress and tell side stories to buttress a point. 😂

[@joshflugel]

Sometimes I simulate interactions between versions myself with different ages. Younger me is tripping over all that's been accomplished, over seeing that I never gave up on myself. My current day say doesn't wan't to make a balance of the cost. Current me is starting to understand that challenges only grow over time, and young me is asking: how can "I" feel doubt or feat after all that's been accomplished? Younger me is glad that amid social and family havoc, I still made a tiny group of great friends, and experienced a few years of fairytale love (yuck cant believe I actually felt that). Interacting with versions of myself help me stay focused, resilient, unbiased and true to myself, like the day I was 21 and realized: all is shit now and these INTJ traits are my biggest assets.

[@danim.2717]

Well said! As a 30 years old, black, female INTJ (yes I took the Myers-Briggs test) and Texas native, I get so tired of going to work and putting on that "warm and happy face" I'm naturally standoffish, self sufficient, and very sarcastic" but if I'm around other introverts or interesting/creative or intellectual people, I open up more. I see no time or value in interacting with the average person. The funny thing is that extroverted people and stereotypical Texans are highly attracted to me. Why? Sometimes I think when extroverts or non interesting people see INTJ doing our own thing and not caring, in their people pleasing nature they find it a challenge to try to win our approval.

[@shonhurt4520]

The silent mysterious type intrigue them. Chances are they are always blabbing spouting shit and always have. Some cant stand to see well balanced silence. Some interact to try and get a rise out of you just to test themselves and see if even they are interesting. Huge let down for them when they receive no response. Then again, and dont take this wrong, you look pretty hot in that little thumbnail pic so when you say people are attracted to you, there is a visual reason right from the start. Knowing you are an INTJ like myself (Sigma male) I would definitely want to get to know you if the feeling was mutual. I dont know that Ive ever met an INTJ in person.

[@atdzsny]

You are probably attractive. That's why.

[@2yoober]

While I don't consider myself to be sufficiently "old" enough to call you a "whippersnapper", in my mid fifties, I am incredibly pleased to've found you, and wish to thank and encourage you in your endeavor. Mentorship is all but lost, and your words, manner, and hard won experience are invaluable to the young people with minds, as there are so few to offer them genuine assistance in the employment of those beautiful and rare gifts that we share as a percentage of the population at large. I didn't figure it out until my thirties. I took the test (more than once over a few years), and figured out that I was pretty classic ADHD as well. Thank you again, and kudos to you sir, for offering and expressing what is a singularly misunderstood view of the world, alongside our INTP friends. Though I'm at a loss for the moment, should you desire assistance with your honorable pursuit, I am at your service. Sincerely. 😎

[@elizabethmessing2662]

I was very excited when I saw you post a video! I'm not even an INTJ, but the way you present material is so engaging in the best, introvert, intense way. You come from a very balanced viewpoint, due to age and just you as a person. These videos are very cool and informative, along with fascinating. Well done :)

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thank you Elizabeth, its not easy being an introvert and doing these videos. But I'll try to keep making them.

[@elizabethmessing2662]

@@theintjperspective2958 also…. Thanks for calling out the enfps watching this. Being an enfp myself I freaked out 😂

[@theintjperspective2958]

I'm an INTJ, figuring people out and predicting things is what I do lol.

[@elizabethmessing2662]

@@theintjperspective2958 also! I thought it would be cool to mention! We don’t know why you guys love us either. We both love the other, but don’t know why 🤣

[@myrihlah]

I am an INTJ female 8w9, I agree with this video that as an INTJ we need to grow our “emotional skills” more. I have learned that being more open and vulnerable are important especially in a romantic relationship. Opening ourselves is also good to gain trust from others, we can use this skills to smoothen our business and career too.

[@lp3198]

INTJ can only be 5 OR 6

[@zelen.anastas]

19 y.o. intj girl here. this video literally means the world. thank you so much for doing this. quick note: i love that you didn't even need to pause or edit your video because of how consistent your speech naturally was. i hope to have the same control level one day. it is pretty hard to hadle that the majority of advice for intj is basically how to not act like an intj... but that's the reality we have to accept i guess

[@theintjperspective2958]

Why thank you :) Its something I've worked on a lot. As an INTJ discipline comes naturally to us so I'm able to do alright although I'm not a gifted speaker by any means. As an INTJ we can feel really alone but there are plenty of us out there.

[@Ghost-YouTubeIsGarbage]

хех, скорее не "как не быть intj", а просто о том, какие слабости есть, и как их исправить

[@zzzgarage2704]

I'm a young 24 yo INTJ, who likes to avoid questions from my partner. I finally understand that my avoidance is actually a form of laziness and a bit of arrogant, that I think she can't comprehend my reasoning and ideas.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's actually pretty common for INTJs. It takes a lot of patience to open up but it's worth it

[@rlrlhyatt]

73 year old INTJ, tested as a junior in high school. They gave me a booklet describing INTJ, which meant nothing. It took decades before I understood. My point, do what YOU know is the right and correct thing to do. I worked as a computer programmer for 37 years, and was promoted x times. Why? Because I could solve issues nobody else could. What surprised me? How many programmers, when asked to deal with a new topic replied "I don't know how to do that." When I was presented with the issue? "Well, That's Interesting."

[@lightyagami5776]

Great advice. Especially resonated with the last part of learning how to manipulate. I feel like we can get cynical because we get misunderstood a lot and whole superficial game most people play. And we take up the mindset of "learn the rules of the game and play it better than anyone else". But I don't think we can be the best at it because of our high regard for morality, objectivity and truth.

[@Deya__]

Holy shit! This hit deep!

[@MichaelGarbarino-t4w]

Wow, you nailed it 🎯. TY 🙏

[@robertpomatto23]

38 INTJ-A here.... just be you and enjoy the ride. Life is good when you delve into many different subjects and learn from many different people. I have had many relationships, jobs, and interest due to having this personality type. I find it very interesting how rare being an INTJ-A is. I appreciate watching this video and the advice you have provided for the public. Pausing can slow down the more complex explanations "down" to a point where people can actually process the information you are exploiting. The feeling of being alone is a very common place for an INTJ-A. It's OK in the grand scheme of things to feel alone because you will learn that you are better off accepting your own advice as opposed to someone else's. After all, we do break down every aspect in life into a science. The biggest flaw is learning to accept someone else's ideas to be a reasonable one. I have learned to sit back and listen fully and then just agree with people when the topic really doesn't hold any bearing. It is OK to fail because that teaches us even more about who we are and where we fit in. I have always perfected everything to the point at which I could no longer perfect it. Know your limit of perfection because it could drain you if you delve too deep into a subject. I can't paint, draw, or perform art very well. I tried a few times but learned that poetry is more of a natural talent then painting my emotions. Therefore I perfect my own emotions on paper. We all hold different skills or ability limits and having the INTJ-A personality type does not mean we can all throw a baseball 100 mph. Like I used to at a young age..... perfected baseball, skips career, moves on lol. I'm sure all of you other INTJ-A types have perfected many things in life. I would like to hear them and the ones you are currently working on. I am in college at the age of 38 and learning Cyber Security because it's completely new and interesting. You won't stop learning at my age and I don't see that as a downfall at all. Hope you all learned something today and have analyzed this comment enough to understand one INTJ-A point of view.

[@adion3010]

Hey Robert, thanks for your insight, I've turned 24 yesterday and reading about people's experiences seems valuable to me. I think my expertise kinda shines in singing, been doing it for nearly ten years. The reason I said kinda is because I don't come from musical background so the musical theory is pretty much abstract and that prevents me from trying to master it. Compared to poetry or drawing for example - I guess you can get more competitive while still expressing yourself so that's dope. Please let me know how the Cyber Security is going, you sparked my interest especially since it's a very possible career choice (my university has this speciality). Take care

[@XZ858XZ]

WOW, as a 31 year old INTJ who has had a life long obsession with truth and morality, I absolutely love your chess analogy to explain the nobility and practicality of conducting oneself with honesty. I will have to use this analogy next time I need to explain to my shadier friends why they shouldn’t play stupid games in their own intimate relationships. Also, as an INTJ who seems to collect INFP’s and ENFP’s, I love these guys. Sweetest people ever ❤

[@theintjperspective2958]

I like to think it's influenced by John Stuart Mills Utilitarianism, but it's basically an argument from the point of efficiency.

[@annadagrita]

ENFP, married to INTJ here - he liked and pursued me, listening intently, thanks for the shout out 20:38 ✨😄

[@noahsafar7992]

Watching this video feels like watching an older version of myself giving me advice. Very bizarre, yet fascinating and above anything, very calming. Thank you!

[@victoriavelascot]

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories!!! They help me a lot ❤

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

31:53 - "there's no skirting around the truth" This is really good advice. And not just the above quote but the whole video. Thank you

[@imanafdar]

what does it mean? im not english speaker, dont really understand skirting un this context

[@RandolphTheWhite1]

@@imanafdar it means don't lie. Be honest with others

[@imanafdar]

@@RandolphTheWhite1 ok thanks

[@voltaire5427]

My advice to myself regarding social interaction: Don't shy away from asking for help, advice, or opinions from time to time. Use it to show appreciation. People love to be appreciated. Learn to gracefully accept compliments.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea that can be hard for alot of people

[@beatjunkybg]

You are totally right, I gradually learned to direct my critisism toward myself and try to improve.. rather than always destroying others with my opinions lol You live and you learn

[@web_jar6630]

As an INTJ, being understood and using MBTI framework to improve myself was an unreal 'experience' for me. The work of personal development is very much in progress but I guess there are a lot of young INTJs who are struggling with loneliness and believing that they will never be understood by anyone.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea I think INTJs and INFJs are probably the least understood types, and as a result we are always the outsiders.

[@devildogkogg8353]

Advice to my younger self: "As you suspected, you were absolutely right all along. You really were the only intelligent one and you really were surrounded by irrational bipolars who are unaffected by factual evidence, you are the only one dealing with logic and the tangible world. Please continue without the doubt that you're possibly crazy." I grew up in a family of mostly xSFP's. They were deluded and emotionally unstable and I cut them out of my life forever after they betrayed me. I do not miss them (nor care enough to hate them) and see nothing of value was lost.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That has to suck

[@devildogkogg8353]

@@theintjperspective2958 eh, it was rough that I had to even question my sanity as i was experiencing it, but it's all over now. Since they've been banished, I've had a lot more money, a lot more free time, and I'm legitimately better off for it. 😀

[@MelFlagg]

I have found that as an INTJ, we can be much more open-minded than most people. Like you said, we just need to make the J work for us. And we are so much more observant than any other personality type, imho. I believe that's where our N comes from. The intuition is just how our brain compiles the info from observation and situational awareness. The observation skill even applies to the knowledge we acquire. We're able to make connections no one else can, and understand things on a level that most people wish they could reach. We end up knowing things and don't even realize how we knew it. I think the biggest thing I realized that made a difference in my life is that what I believe to be common sense, is not common sense for most people. My husband, an INFJ, taught me that among other things. He has the ability to understand the aspects of humanity I just don't get and that has changed my life dramatically because our personalities are so similar that he knows how to make me understand. Knowing that common sense to me, isn't common sense to everyone else has allowed me to be more tolerant and less annoyed by others which is huge for us. I have also found that as we age (I'm 44) we learn that life is more about the journey than the destination, and our perspective on life changes. When that happens, we become more interested in other people's perspectives and why they have those perspectives (we always have to know why LOL) and this allows us to understand people as well as emotion better. The best advice I can give other INTJs is to be as open minded as you can be. Be open to knew ideas and experiences, whether that is through people or reading, etc. Use your "mastermind" to its full potential. We are excellent at planning anything, including our lives, so PLAN. Be sure to take into consideration all aspects of your life in that plan, like finances, health, passions etc. Use your alone time (which becomes so precious) to delve into who you are and what your values are. Know that you will always have much higher standards than most people. However, the only people you should hold to those standards are your significant other and close friends because otherwise you will not allow yourself to fully open up to those people. And they need to know what your standards are. (For example, mine is integrity and I hold my husband and closest friends to my own level of integrity). This means that you will lose friends, significant others etc because they don't meet your standards, but in the end, you'll find those people that do and they will mean more to you than your own family. TL:DR - embrace who you are, the people who will accept you and love you for who you are will find you, and you'll intuitively know who they are when they arrive.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea the INFJ/INTJ match is an interesting one. But you guys really beat the odds with that pairing lol. Female INTJs are rare as are INFJ men. Something like half a percent or less. My mother is an INFJ so I have some experience with the type.

[@sylviaowega3839]

I’m glad that you have found your INFJ, as I find that they are these remarkable empathetic people with intellectual proclivities that can understand you INTJ’s and us INTP’s no other. I am no married to an INFJ, but to have several INFJ friends that seem to take a lot if interest in the things I do, say and even accept my idiosyncrasies and INTP quirks. With some INTJ’s, like my best friend of 20 years, as an INTP I get along great as we often exchange idea and never feel alone when when interacting with each other, and my own partner whom I had been married to for over 20 years; but there have been others home have become greatly angered, flummoxed and even door slammed me. That has always been puzzling to me, but it may be that us INTP’s and INTJ, even though we are both so similar and highly intelligent, we still have a very different approach in our thought processes. You used Ni-Te, whilst we used Ti-Ne, which makes all the difference in the world. We are also more critical and blunt than INTJ’s as our Ti dominant function is a judgement function as opposed to the perceived Ni function.

[@audiofeinz5754]

I'm black INTJ I need an INTJ podcast mixture. I want more of your content Bruv

[@theintjperspective2958]

Alright, I'll keep coming up with ideas :)

[@yiqunzheng6427]

The emotion part is really helpful; it leads to further investigation on our actual needs and desire deep inside. Thank you!

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yes, it's an amazing thing to be in touch with your emotions

[@JoshuaCastillo6309]

I’m a 28 year old INTJ but already feel old because of how deep I think about things. But the advice is still helpful and I agree with your points. Thanks.

[@MohammedZadjali]

28 in 15 days. My older brother calls me old man. I try to shutdown my old man voice infront of other people though. It sounds like a sage sharing wisdom. I still can't help but do it, and I know my words can convince the hardest of minds. Always helpful to get advice about how to live being an INTJ, been experimenting left and right and still have insecurities left to cover. All the best.

[@GearsDemon]

I'm an INTJ and this was EXTREMELY helpful. I recently turned 30 and am new to MBTI. I am always focusing on self improvement so thank you so much for being so detailed and offering suggestions. I may need to revisit this one.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's great, I'm glad I could help. It encourages me to open up more.

[@Akash-tm4fh]

Wow, love to see another intj who's also a strokes fan😆😆

[@corij3600]

ENFP here 😂😂😂 I could listen to you all day. I think I struggle so hard with YOUR strengths that listening to an INTJ helps me tremendously.

[@theintjperspective2958]

To be honest, I think a lot of people struggle to understand INTJs.

[@Painfulwhale360]

@@theintjperspective2958 Nobody understands us INTJ’s 😬

[@tammiepulley7167]

So much truth in a single video. New sub here. Totally agree that we have to say out loud what we are thinking more often. Wish I had learned that 20 years ago.

[@dk6071]

Great advice! I'm a 63 y. o. female INTJ. Thankfully, I've done all the things you recommended.

[@catherinerhea6336]

My "into the furnace" first "public" speaking attempt was during my undergraduate, while working at KSC on flight biological research; ANYONE from Kennedy could walk into the hall & listen... the 2-4 minutes of Q & A were the most stressful for me, but in true INTJ GRIT, I stuck to the data & background facts & somehow ended up with thunderous applause!??! I knew my project down to the molecular structure, so confidence in my database was solid: it was PhDs who'd worked on CHROMAX(essentially growing food in a closed hydroponic system in a microgravity environment) for decades that had me uneasy, but they seemed satisfied with my analysis. Confidence in the data you bring to the table is the pivot point. This happened almost 40 yrs ago. Now in my 60s, I still champion thorough research & allow the data to carry it's weight... synthesis of the interplay of patterns is our super power... _Don't be intimidated by "them," Use your capability. Mind your mind._ 🖤

[@theintjperspective2958]

Man that sounds great, thats one thing I like about INTJs. Its our ability to stick our convictions.

[@watamutha]

40 yr old iNTJ here. I've learned to pretty retreat from society in general. Just do a quiet job and don't get involved in anything except my hobbies and close family. Main reason is its just draining to me and I'm not really interested in engaging in stupidity.

[@xxxx-ry2fl]

This video came very useful for a very confused and very pessimistic at it's peak 14yrs old INTJ.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea that's a real hard time in anyone's life, especially for an INTJ.

[@solgast]

One of the most inspiring and in depth videos I have seen so far on the INTJ. I am glad to hear the inner world of INTJs being bridged to reality, that is truly where you shine, when you manage to bridge those dreams to reality. This video only shows me more and triggered alot of memories on how beautiful the ENFP and INTJ connection is and how the immense depth of our mental and emotional connection can bright forth even more potential for both growth, exploration and adventures. Because together, ENFP and INTJs never let the dreams just be dreams. We make them grow into life. I have always cherished the deep connection with my fellow INTjs in life, from family, friends and soulmates and grown beyond my wildest imaginations because of it. Ever thankful and glad to listen, be and breathe with you lovely souls. Look forward for more awesome INTJ topics! Something I would be curious to hear more and see the reality of is dealing with stress factors, while being in stressful environments and more topics of the inner grid. Thank you so much for taking your time creating these videos. Never stop creating! -ENFP-A, 4w5, num 22, HSP, Libra, Earth Dragon

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea I don't really get stressed, and I'm cool under pressure. Though at time depression can't get to me and I can blame myself too much. But don't worry I have some more videos planned.

[@user-kb6ks9uu3t]

loveeeeeddd! you're sweet and honestly you are a lot like me. i knew all those things from doing what you have probably done your whole life as well: observing and learning.

[@arhumfrazz]

Its was very hard for me in my teenage, now i am 22, i know It can be very challenging but go out there and try new experiences you will find solutions and you are best at finding solutions if not you will learn something new that you can apply in future and you will benefit from it.I know we aren’t perfect as we think we are but we are different but that’s just life. Do your best you will find your way. And don’t do drugs to become an extrovert you will waste your time. I did it for 2 years straight to become “happy” or even feel some emotions and now i don’t even remember what happened in those two years but it damaged my reputation and now about after 8 months i have been criticised by people for the damage i caused them even my family members so REMEMBER don’t do drugs to feel good Peace out.

[@yuutojurgen6747]

The reason why reading is so beneicial for an INTJ is that it gives us time to pause and think between the lines. Idk how many times I have read something interesting and consume my whole reading session to that one page literaly thinking over every word or construct the whole image in my mind word by word. That's something only reading can gives you imo

[@CoolRahRah]

This is so cool, I read a lot of comments and advices and it felt like I was swimming in a vast ocean of liked minded individuals and selfishly it felt good😅, just wanted to mention that I relate to all the advices given. I am a female INTJ and 40 yrs old and so many of your points resonated with me. Thank you and nice being part of this group 🙏

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's great, I'm glad it resonated with you

[@williampaquet6573]

I'm a generation older than you and discovered I was an INJT about ten years ago. People often come to me with problems. My brain literally works like a computer program; I am able to to take in the information and without even consciously thinking I can offer sound advice and solutions instantaneously. I have deep feelings, but they don't belong in discussion of problem/solution, and while I know many people are irrational, I refuse to offer empathy when a solution is available. If it costs me their good favor, I don't care. Life is too short for nonsense.

[@AlexandreSchwarz]

This was precisely the topic of my last therapy session.

[@MichaelGarbarino-t4w]

Your conscious decision to turn off empathy and call it “nonsense” is on you. I’ve had the same issue, until I finally understood that empathy is the lubricant of social interactions, you simply cannot succeed or be balanced in life without it. So I have worked at exercising that empathy muscle 💪, making it stronger and more present in the “now”, while also setting healthy boundaries to protect myself from people’s irrationality. Exercising our empathy helps us be less critical, less judgmental - integrating the shadow side to achieve greater integrity. Best to you.

[@victoriavelascot]

Life is too short for nonsense. That's so INTJ ❤

[@todoroki_no_wife]

I'm 15 yo female INTJ but i already started in 12 yo. So, thank you for the video. Even if I'm young, I wasted a lot of time carrying for people and their opinions, trying to be nice and to smile, that was stupid

[@theintjperspective2958]

There is always a lot more pressure from society for women to be friendly than it is for men I think.

[@todoroki_no_wife]

@Angel Nunn thanks sis

[@karimahmahjabin1755]

really it's difficult to cope up with the introvercy.Specially in the group events.I just feel drained out while dealing with those extroverts.And it really trouble when u predict something bad,no one caring about it and then face that predicted trouble.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yes I agree with you

[@MichaelGarbarino-t4w]

My predictions being right, and ignored, - over and over again - has been psychologically devastating for me. I finally understood this was due to issues from my childhood. Stems from low self esteem. After therapy I understood - be proud that you were right and laugh at the absurdity! 😊

[@Fireball821]

Great work man, you earned yourself another INTJ subscriber. Very helpful insights!

[@theintjperspective2958]

@Fireball821 thanks man

[@marioescobedo5854]

Good video, better than most out there on INTJs

[@401Blues]

As a INTJ at 68..... I can only say....Yo'all ain't seen nothing yet.... to be old and INTJ it is the most remarkable life you can imagine....You are free to explore your curiosities / hobbies with abandon....it just doesn't get any better

[@theintjperspective2958]

Well said

[@lubicara]

Frank! 🤣🤣 (ENFP) It was pleasure to listen to your thoughts. It brought something useful to me as well. Thanks.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Hey no ENFPs allowed 😛

[@AudioHugsbyMyster_yvan]

I wish I would’ve helped my younger self to avoid massive physical injury. I’m researched enough to observe my aging process. A limited body due to not being able to get it to a certain level due to injury is tragic. Also that youthfulness is so very limited and precious . Do more with your youth before your youth leaves you!

[@ladiesweb4769]

I wish i had this video back in my 20's. It's funny that i ended up doing a similar path to get where i needed here in my 40's

[@PerfmonX64]

I really enjoy these videos, and I find them to be very helpful. Thanks for taking the time to make them.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thats very encouraging. I'll keep at it :)

[@Anna-yi3vp]

This was extremely insightful & well delivered. Thank you! ☺

[@beellcs2038]

Great video! Laughed a lot, I also made a to do list for the future. Thanks a lot!

[@rateamelio1575]

Hey bro thanks for bringing out my somewhat bad behavior, I know now what to change about myself to get along well with fellow humans, THANKS AGAIN! Will remember this word, DON'T DO IT!

[@Kingmurcer]

I’m a ENTJ and I found your video great. Thanks.

[@agrxdrowflow958]

60 year old INTJ advice to my 19 year old self: Just enjoy life. The experience of being here is enough.

[@nj3195]

I’m an INTJ female. I took the test and my intuition was 97%. I know that a test can’t really entirely measure intuition. However, I want ask anyone reading if they get answers to questions or things that they are struggling with out of nowhere? I have even started asking questions right before I fall asleep and wake up with answers. I suspect it is a combination of pattern recognition and intuition. For example, I needed to figure out a strategy to purchase a house and I woke up with 3 different strategies to obtain my goals. I didn’t know anything about home buying but I intuitively knew that there were ways to obtain what I wanted. I researched my possibilities and all of them were viable! No facts just a natural recognition of financial pattern recognition.

[@theonewhoasked5629]

13 yo INTJ here, though I’m unsure. I suppose this happens to others too being confused with your personality type. I currently am trying to learn as much as possible about other types and mostly INTJs, and I’m absolutely fascinated by them! Thank you for this video, it helped. A step closer to getting to know myself better.

[@theintjperspective2958]

A lot of INTJs at that spend a lot of time figuring themselves out before moving on to the outside world. I didn't start really venturing out until I was 25 but by then I was already ahead of everyone else because of how well I knew myself. This helped me understand others. Hope this helps you out.

[@heleezy]

you just made me gain consciousness

[@theintjperspective2958]

You're welcome ;)

[@metrazeltina2708]

"you can manipulate most people easily, because they are dumb" ™️ look who has the intjness shining through 😁 good nobody was around when I heard you say that, I laughed so much and recognised something I could have said myself sometimes 😁 thanks for the vid, some good tips! - intj a

[@samliuliang]

One of the most amazing videos I have watch in a very very long time. Thank you! Help me clear up a lot of thoughts, especially with sf types and manipulation

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thats great, I'm glad it made a positive impression :)

[@anotherbrickinthewall7802]

Amazing work, usually I don't watch videos longer than 5 minutes (probably for efficiency) but I watched the entire video because I was so captivated the entire time. Definitely saving this for later if I need it again 🙂

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thanked man :)

[@seannle1362]

Solid advice. Thank you for keeping it real.

[@msksample]

Great video. Excellent solid advice. A lot of this I'd already been incorporating (I'm 40, discovered my type a few years ago; I cried.. hard lol. Because things made more sense and I have a better understanding of myself and my place in the world especially in dealings with people. It was like a light shining on me that I am normal and other people.. sighs.. that's their normal). But it's nice hearing direct perspective, and such solid advice with the understanding for our type.. I especially love the bit about practicing what you're going to say. I already read people and their body language. I usually will try to be more tactful when I speak but i could stand to practice. I loved your perspective on chess, it's my favorite game besides Monopoly. Both of which my family begrudgingly play with me since I always win🤭 And the bit about internalizing was golden. And to practice externalizing (if that's a word) more in general. Which obviously is way more productive. I saw on a different channel where the guy says "Everyone wants to be INTJ or INFJ (unless they actually are)." - Love Who ..I really related to this unknowingly before realizing my type. Again, AWESOME video ❤

[@sumedhsankhe1844]

This last week has been a revelation of sorts for me, I didn't know anything about the different personality types, took a test and viola 'INTJ-Architect' but never really understood the implications of it. This really helped put a lot of perspective , also reading up some of the comments was informative. I guess internalizing everything and spinning a cocoon around myself isn't the best intj traits 😅

[@theintjperspective2958]

😄 yea INxx types can easily escape off in to our little world's. But INTJs are at their best when they affect actual changes in the real world, much like an architect.

[@joecoolmccall]

I'm a 40 year old INTJ...and my goodness, your comments and references connect with me. From just this video, I can tell you think and process information like I do. I'm not sure if that's only because you are also an INTJ, (since I think Myers-Briggs can sometimes be slightly pseudio-sciencey ) but I can already tell I am comfortable with how you approach things

[@ChromaticTempest]

Why pseudo-sciencey? I've hear a few criticisms for MBTI, but none have really been levied well. Is it the function theory? The anecdotal nature of it all? The crocks that spouts out from all the cracks online, like random websites or the mountain of useless typology vids on youtube, probably are poor sources for forming an opinion. Personally, I've found MBTI immensely useful in understanding self, and others.

[@leigh5991]

INTJ in her 40s here. Plethora of wisdom here indeed for the youngsters. You mention Public Speaking and Acting, I was so withdrawn in my 20s, I decided to study Theatre and Dance at University. Highly recommend to INTJs. With the right toolkit we can be extremely persuasive. Also - do not alienate people. You will need them to get anywhere in life. You mention INFPS. My partner is one haha.

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's an interesting role reversal with you and the INFP but I can see out it can work.

[@soirema]

Dude, could you maybe start an INTJ discord? I think we all would like to exchange "life" notes We could have various sections to discuss, like health, job, relations, emotions, public speaking, or cognitive functions etc.

[@theintjperspective2958]

I could but there are already groups on facebook and reddit. Who knows, maybe someday I'll get that going myself.

[@ronald3100]

Awesome Video. Very insightful. Thanks for making this.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thanks 😊

[@outlaw6429]

My advice to young INTJs: Come to the dark side.

[@neonxnational]

I am a 16 year old INTJ and I just moved from the Philippines to the US. due to language barrier and lack of outside activity due to COVID, I have very poor social skills, It stresses me out, especially when I have to adapt to a new culture and system. now I see myself as a slow grower.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Well, social skills are well worth the investment ;)

[@TrulySaurabh]

An INFJ in the comments just wanting to say love you INTJs and your genuine and grounded personalities!

[@enfieldjohn101]

When I was a kid, I was in 4H and one of the things I did in it was Demo Talks. They were tough for me, but I did learn a lot by doing them. Some KZbin channels remind me of those talks. Doing one act plays in school helped too. I was more comfortable pretending to be a character and in delivering rehersed lines than I was in just being myself. I'm very good at memorizing and usually had everybody's lines memorized too by the time I had mine memorized. Being critical is a real problem sometimes. It's great for finding and fixing problems, but it can be crippling when you are overly critical of yourself. It keeps me from publishing what I write sometimes. I love to tell stories and to read them too. I have a hard time satisfying that critic though. When I read published books, I see so many mistakes that they didn't fix. For some reason, I'm still working on giving myself permission to have mistakes in what I offer to others. Sometimes, I even edit my social media comments before I post them. I got teased a lot as a kid. My mom used to say that they were like that because they were jealous of my confident competance in areas or subjects that they aren't good at. Very good advice here, for everybody, especially we INTJs.

[@jesssss12]

If people want to tear you down for no reason at all. Your an intj, and there is a reason. Analyze , strategize, execute, do not go back. Be smart, shut up if your young, be careful who you talk about your ideas and grow to understand everything even your own flaws.

[@spokeless6419]

this really spoke to me shockingly

[@deadslugs]

thank you for this video. i dont feel alone as much. i thought learning things opposite how i am contradicts myself because i see being "extroverted and sociable" as a skill and it confuses me when others get shocked when im off work or in another setting

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea I think INTJs feel really alone, but there are more of us than people think.

[@mbtisocialclub]

Amazing advice! I have to rematch this video multiple times for sure!

[@notlongerthan30characters]

Just found this... Going to watch it in the morning, after I've had my 3-5 hours of sleep, and I guess if I have any notable thoughts, I'll share them in an edit. More or less just reminding myself to watch the video because if I take the time to write something out, I'm more likely to remember it. Or maybe I just think I am. Whatever works I guess 🤷.

[@chriscagle4226]

I am also a 41 year old INTJ. What I’ve always struggled with is “why live” (and I’m not suicidal by the way). If you notice patterns in humanity, everyone sort of just goes around doing things they believe will maximize their pleasure, their status, their ability to control others, and indirectly, a minimization of pain and discomfort. But for what? At the end of the day there are few base pleasures that basically everyone lives for which is interesting (and those pleasures adjust as you age). In all, life is a vain existence for the most part without an eternal purpose of some kind. I’ll leave it at that - no religious stuff here. There are certainly patterns in nature, the universe, and humanity that would lead an unbiased logical thinker to a logical conclusion.

[@bko2613]

Wow, I think about this all the time. I'm not suicidal, but I wonder why suicide isn't the norm? If I were a computer just calculating the risks and benefits of each individual decision, wouldn't the most logical answer be to just end life? I want to continue, and so does every other sane person, but why? There's a Louis CK bit that I think of all the time. 'I have to write this 20 page paper.... but I could always just do suicide????? So I really have to?' The simplest solution is death. But the human condition creates this will to live. Are our genes tricking us into being irrational?

[@theintjperspective2958]

I've often wondered this as well. Carl Jung said that people can only take as much truth as they can stand, and the truth is that we will all die someday, and that the Universe will eventually go dark. There is probably no after life like we are promised. Being analytical we can arrive at this conclusion and nihilism can set in. Jung feared this was the main problem of modernity, a missing deeper sense of meaning. But humans try to find the meaning in everything, and life has no meaning really, only what we give to it, and its that flexibility that will save us from nihilism. Our meaning is whatever we want it to be. Perhaps we will develop a universe spanning intelligence that is its sole purpose, to slow the cold death of the universe, to bring order to chaos and prolong the life of the universe itself. Maybe even finding a way to cheat it. Ultimately that is the only real purpose to life, to survive as long as possible. We'd just be doing it on a grand scale.

[@bradwibbels935]

@@theintjperspective2958 23 here, this is my first video of yours I've found after exploring some INTJ stuff, and I have some interesting questions if you haven't already answered them at some point. Have you ever considered yourself as having some mild version of Autism like Aspergers? Do you think there's a connection between certain personality types and what we've labeled as mental illnesses or mental abnormalities? Have you ever considered yourself as a potential psychopath? I've found myself dissociated with most people and their lives, but also cry when dogs die, or feel a sense of being "triggered" when I think people are being hypocritical. Would be interested in hearing your thoughts on this or if you relate in anyway

[@bradwibbels935]

@@theintjperspective2958 also at 28:00, incredibly eye opening. I really appreciate your insight and introspection

[@TatjanaMur]

How can someone know how it feels (to exist in a human body on this planet) without experiencing it? I consider life to be an experience. You can consciously add an extra purpose to your experience. No matter what you (or others) do, or do not do, it has consequences and you experiencing them as well. Cause - effect. Loop. It's like a pre-programmed game in which you are locked (in a body) and can co-create some bits of it.

[@reinacorfee5711]

I’m a ENFP what is sad for our personalities is we can never shake off and just enjoy being single without having the opposite wanting to tie us down into a commitment.

[@theintjperspective2958]

Yea ENFPs resent that generally so do INTJs

[@juliamedeiros2793]

I'm so glad I found your channel. I really liked the advices and I feel you really reached what you said in the beginning about this being directed to this certain personality type. As an Intj I'll be watching it again, and your other videos as well. Just stopped by to say your audience has reached Brasil!

[@theintjperspective2958]

That's great, thanks for the feed back 😊 I'll be sure to keep making videos.

[@Lilium_25]

I'm a 20yr old INTJ i spend too much time inside my head that it doesn't suprised me if things don't work my way and just find another way to do it...while contemplating why these things happens to me, where did i go wrong.

[@godKiller.369]

Get in shape, our INTJness is higly dependent on our dynamic vessel - and don`t buy into inferior Se being "aspirational". Learn, test, evolve, surpass -everywhere & always. Because the humanoids got everything wrong beyond the lower mediocrity level. Embrace chaos and small talk. Feelings are like martial arts stances and guards - they confer hightened cognitive abilities in various areas - use them! Get the frack outside in the sun!

[@JeffreyWillis800]

At 12:00, it makes a lot of sense to not use logic to address the problem. But it is hard to turn it off, because often the person is missing the bigger picture or the other side. Anyhow, what do we do when we completely miss it all for years, and now find ourselves having messed everything up?

[@thescythian321]

Not bad for a young feller. Not sure I was onto it at 41 like you are, a lot depends on life experience and how hard the struggle has been, plus how willing we are to learn and be objective. At 61 I'm getting a handle on basic kindness and resisting the urge to judge. Treat everyone with love including yourself, expect the unexpected and stay open. We are kind of special, not so much better, just more specialised in our natural talents. I wouldn't want to be any other four letter combo. Good video, but save the booze till after on the next one kid! It drains our energy a lessens that great potentiality we have and we can run out of steam when we should be hitting our straps. I've learned to pace myself the hard way! People, well at least other INTJs, do notice face plants!

[@theintjperspective2958]

Thats great, thanks man