Adyashanti: What is it that makes it hard to respect someone’s boundary?

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The questioner is wondering about what to do when suffering due to being unable to stay true to his own feelings while involving another individual...
“...If you want to get out of a drama really fast, get clear what’s their business, what’s my business, and what’s God’s (Life’s) business...”
“...when actually what we have to deal with is not why life is the way it is, what we really have to deal with is actually the way it is...”
“...it can be revolutionary when you get clear on that one thing...”

[@OYensen]

A masterclass in TACT. A most invaluable exchange. At the heart of it all, innocence. Most helpful 10 minutes on the internet.

[@eldonscott9]

It is an interesting observation to hear the articulation of someone who believes that if he is forced to observe the boundary of another that he then has to give over to inauthenticity, fear. I wondered if he could remember a time in his life when he had a “boundary”, a no to something from the outside. Maybe that’s something that could help him understand how an other might feel a ‘no’ inside themselves about something and that that doesn’t mean there’s an absence of love even. If fact, quite the opposite! If the person doesn’t want what I’m offering, I can love that. I don’t want them to just take what I’m trying to give and not want it on the inside, THAT is what is inauthentic and fearful and divisive. Of course it can be hard to see that because we’re not always going to fully know why someone is as they are but that’s not where the freedom is. Love what is and you are free (There’s My Byron Katie reference.).

[@benf1111]

I just screen captured your response. Thanks. I hope that was ok to do without consent lol

[@EliShanti]

Gosh ...no is no ❤ respect is even before spirituality

[@stellawilliams9303]

THE WORK, I have found very helpful

[@savannah6329]

Stumbled on this again, and it’s painful to watch. So cringy I want to crawl in a hole...

[@mike569112]

“Do I make any sense?” No you don’t.

[@sierrahhhh1]

What is obvious to most people, is not always obvious to another. Interesting...

[@truelily7]

I would want them to like the chocolate covered cherries because I wanted the joy of sharing my enthusiasm over them with someone else. And yes, boundaries must be respected for sure. Nothing worse than someone pushing for affection when you are not into it. But it is hard when no one or THE one doesn't wish to share any of your stuff with you. You feel alone. I guess we begin our work there or ask ourselves why we choose people who share none of our stuff. OR- learn to love stuff on our own with ourselves. A lot to work with. If I were this guy I might consider a therapist. Also: Allow everything to be as it is and deal with what is in front of us to deal with.

[@helenal6123]

Who is the guy sitting with Adya?

[@justasomeone7860]

Francis Bennett, I think.

[@eldonscott9]

No, it’s not Francis, that much I know.

[@wthomas5697]

It's Francis Bennett. So bizarre that he went trans and ended up killing himself through drug use. So much for all this spiritual stuff.

[@RippleDrop.]

Wow. Even Adya cringed this guy feeling entitled to another's body...

[@Metabrotropic]

What the hell

[@savannah6329]

Hmmmmmmmmmm. Wrong and sensitive example. I definitely would've chosen a different example. Such as, "I have this other world inside me that really would like to push my boyfriend off a cliff, but he won't let me. I get upset when I can't express that. I have an issue with his consent."

[@ibperson7765]

Strange video. Not an issue Ive ever heard in any spiritual session. Creepy guy. Why would someone pick this, out of the entire session, to clip and post? Cringe