African Marriages in Africa vs United Kingdom 🇬🇧

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[@fredrika27]

What bothered me when I was living in Kenya was the men who wanted me for a wife expected that I pay for the house, the children's education, cook for them and keep house while they basically kept their money for themselves. If you came from a professional family where both parents worked or were the daughter of the chief, the wife would come with a good dowry, which the men tried to keep for themselves if the marriage went sour. This happened especially if the men decided on taking a second wife or if it were found out that the husband had children outside of the marriage, breaking the wedding vows. There was all manner of craziness coming from the men's side when it came to marriage. Today, not in my day, how can a man demand to be king of his castle, but refused to actually be in partnership. When I finally got married that was outside my race after returning to Europe, African men didn't want to have anything to do with me and called me a traitor to my race. However, these same men did the same thing by having English girlfriends. While living in London and Essex, I noticed a great deal of African and Caribbean black men who had illegitimate children from both Black, African and white women. Again, the professional (professional I mean have learned a trade, college educated or worked in a trade or job with long term employment) families where both parents worked, owned a shop, usually had very strict rules on NOT having kids before marriage and not taking on mistresses, girlfriends or second wife aka European wife when one is already married. For women's part, most African women want kids and a family. The men know that, but refuse to actually commit to the family and women they have children with, because like you said women expect men to help with the chores or with the second shift. The women have children with these rascals because they promise to marry them, but then go back on that promise, knowing in the Uk the state will take care of their responsibilities. I had a friend who worked in immigration and stated that the Home Office looks at this pattern of marriage in the African and Black populations as a disadvantage. Currently, less than 30% of all Black and African migrants and citizens of the UK are married with children compared to Whites and Asians who have double that number married. We need to ask ourselves why is this and why do Black and African men don't want to get married, but their women do. Why do Black and African men feel it is acceptable to have children with multiple women, but leave these women on their own to raise the children themselves or be raised by the state on the dole. Why is it that women, regardless of race or ethnicity, are willing to go to work and help in the household, but men are offended by this. Meanwhile, women are still better educated in the UK than men while in Africa, many women are also getting an education because the thinking was since WWII, the men were educated, but didn't educate the women, so now it's women's turn to shine must to the chagrin of men who feel women shouldn't be educated or get less of an inheritance or get poorer jobs. I feel many women are willing to marry and work. However, the men, who often bring very little to the table in terms of wealth and education, just want to be trifling and have no respect for women whom they see as serving them, their children and families, despite them not being able to carry the full burden. It's not that African marriage in African can't work in the UK. Rather men feel entitled to women's wealth and labor, but refuse to understand they have responsibilities to the family aside from being a bread winner, making decisions that only benefit them and demanding women wash their feet. Most women are not putting up with such shenanigans today.