Aging and Dementia

Two out of three New Zealanders are affected by dementia. Family members become carers as they watch the disease slowly take their loved ones.
Filmmaker, Suzi Jowsey, bravely follows her own family's tough journey of caring for their mum who has Alzheimer’s.
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[@olivedog1880]

“Who is this handsome man? I’m sure I’ve seen him before” this hit me 🥺 uve seen him for more than half your life, love. And he loves you.

[@puppylove8076]

I vow the same dedication to my dear husband. What a life!!! Thank God.

[@barbarapadgett5538]

I cried all the way through this story as my Mum had bowel cancer and Dementia. What a gentleman her husband was through it all.

[@elizabethmeyer7447]

What a wonderful husband, daughter, and marriage.❤️

[@richardhutchison3123]

This is what is slowly happening to a sibling one year younger than myself. God grant us strength!

[@ljgarrison8374]

Beautiful video. He shows such a tremendous love to his wife. Tender and moving.

[@chrismorgan9154]

What a pretty lady. Music is so important for dementia people.

[@denisedye1376]

This sad but I admire his dedication to his wife

[@lovelylove5940]

My mom is going through this now I have sleepless night I feel as if I'm neglecting my self but I love my mom I'm her last child an watching this saddens me so much I'm crying 😢

[@rrjackaroo]

Beautiful...such love in the whole family especially Dad and daughter.. may she Rest In Peace. I wonder where Dad is today..hopefully well with his dogs and beautiful home..

[@rememberwhen7524]

So much love and caring by a loving husband and his wonderful family during the incredibly tough journey of his beloved Pat living with dementia and cancer .

[@ioranaaloha4676]

Beautiful footage of their youth and their marriage such a young couple..and the reality on aging and loneliness!! He was a amazing husband! What a wonderful man.

[@tiaancloete7301]

Brings a feeling of nostalgia sadness and missing people you never even knew.

[@carryhall2043]

Caring for and saying goodbye to a parent is the hardest and most precious experience.

[@sarahkay8436]

He has his Pup, His Family, He's keeping busy... Such a good man...

[@gigglyp100]

What a wonderful man!

[@margaretflood-elahwal5861]

What a wonderful family ! Great husband and caring daughter. When Vic broke down, I did too!

[@lorrainehaxton7739]

hes a lovely man so loving towards his wife

[@jenniferthom4066]

Vic was so amazingly gracious..he is absolutely wonderful!

[@ivonneleaty8501]

This is a awful disease. My mother has it. She still knows who we are. It breaks my heart when she says I want to go home. I would not wish this on anyone.

[@kateyk4340]

Patricia had a very loving family....

[@deenugent473]

He's a very strong man and a fantastic husband! Lesson learned: treasure every precious moments with your loved ones. Let the little things go and stay in the moment!

[@tinatorres6788]

Very sad/beautiful story! I cried so much, the love he has for her is beautiful

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for the kind words Tina, glad you found it touching!

[@idonnaalcoseba3017]

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[@margueritebickham6147]

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[@mrs.garcia6978]

What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@pamelaevans7968]

This man shows us what true love is 🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️Heartwarming story. 🥰🥰🥰

[@debbiewiands1822]

What a gentle man with a big heart.

[@juliettecumberbatch5672]

Thanks for sharing, I alone is looking after my parents, because of COVID-19 I can not take them out. It's very emotional at times to see this way knowing the activity they had .thank you very much.

[@djmedina530]

what a dear, dear man. God bless him.

[@jerimow8400]

So glad I ran into this beautiful video this morning. So well-made technically and places such emphasis on dignity of friends, family and most noticeably for the protagonist. Wonderful!

[@missywiley3140]

Seeing Victor cry made me want to cry

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks for watching!Hope you enjoyed our channel!

[@dahrunriver2924]

Everyone should be blessed to have someone like this wonderful man in their life.

[@H4CK41D]

i really feel for this sweet man. i miss my granddad so much.

[@rosejacks8662]

Such a strong loving man.

[@marisolclaudio4364]

I cry so much am going thru the same thing with mom she’s in hospice at home with me 24-7 love this video but it hurt so bad

[@fayekeller7411]

Thank you for sharing your families story. This disease affects the whole family! My husband's dearest first wife, Connie, 57 died in 2007 of Huntington's and 11 years later we lost daughter Nicki, 45 passed from the same disease..it's so tough since it is like Alzheimes! It drags on for years for the person and the whole family! I pray for you and your family even as the years pass since the video was shared! Thank you and bless you all!

[@sharjb2271]

A remarkable documentary. Not often do we see the caregivers part in this journey. Thank you to the filmmaker and Victor for allowing us to see this perspective.

[@kM-fr9uc]

what a beautiful but sad journey. wonderful supporting husband

[@kristine715]

beautiful man ,beautiful heart...

[@miayle9545]

He’s love for her is so great ...makes me tearing ..wish him the best!!!

[@jwalt8019]

This was such a sad yet beautiful documentary. To have someone love you so much until your dying breath is such a wonderful thing.

[@AttitudeLive]

Thanks Jaii, hope you enjoyed.

[@avishnya1]

every time when i read.... I m crying take so much power to control because pain from lost take so much power from you!Hard love to see the relationship in love!!It happened to my mom......it was so pain only tears bring you back... Wishing to all never be sick... Always be healthy! NEver lost member of your family!

[@maryeccles946]

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[@ninjasipad7924]

Thank you for sharing this difficult journey. I have been caring for my 85 year old mom with Alzheimer’s for 5 1/2 years. My dad passed of cancer 10 years ago and they had been married for 55 years. The progression of the disease has been much quicker this past year and breaks my heart. The care and keeping them safe is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting when you’re doing it 24/7. It is such a long heartbreaking journey💔.

[@camberup9176]

Well done and very helpful as I am dealing with a family member with dementia. This should be in classrooms around the world.

[@debbiehorn8263]

What a beautiful couple. Well done !

[@taegane4206]

what an amazing man. broke my heart to see him cry. this video seriously needs more views. it was beautifully shot and edited

[@AttitudeLive]

Thank you very much for the kind words and support Taegan! we really appreciate it! thanks for watching!

[@jorex105]

Sad & Happy!

[@janicemetzger6338]

And the beautiful and truly caring daughter. Just so incredibly beautiful to see a child love their mom so well. Her petting and gently rubbing her in an attempt to ease her was so dear!

[@judithshalders6560]

Beautiful caring loving man🥺

[@SerenaPW]

Janice Metzger L“9

[@katarinaaslin6609]

WHAT A LOVELY HUSBAND

[@janicemichelle8809]

This is so sad. It is always sad to see this kind of thing happening especially after 63 years of marriage. At 60 I have a fantastic memory and really pride myself on it. I actually have friends and family that phone me to ask about past events. I also have a daughter who experiences grand mal seizures and she depends on me to remember past events for her. It breaks my heart but what kind you do. God bless this woman, her family and especially her loving husband.

[@leeann2226]

Beautifully documented

[@imprimp7545]

My husband has recently been diagnosed with Dementia, I have learned a lot from this wonderful man, I will try to be more patient and tolerant. May God bless him.

[@maryann4966]

yes it is very hard my grandmother has it this could be her last i visited her once two years ago she lives in a retirement home now for 4 years now.

[@kezsovreign]

Much love to you ❤

[@donnawolfe8682]

Tears. Bless you Victor and Rest In Peace Patricia.

[@cassi1502]

Pat looked beautiful on her wedding day and I love love love her fur coat. I hope her family are okay and have taken time to heal

[@tiamarie6719]

I like her wedding dress. Lace looks very pretty on bridal gowns, in my opinion and my dress is going to have lace on it when I get married someday. I'm kind of traditional in that way. By the way, I hope her family is ok too.

[@anneoconnor8741]

My Mom had moderate dementia, ok when in her own house but being other places really stressed her. She died of a heart attack and stroke in quick succession, waited until she was in the ambulance outside the house before she died, just cannot help but believe she did this on purpose to not die actually in the house. When we were clearing her clothes, apart from a lot of money squirreled away, there were so many notes to my Dad, in varying qualities of handwriting, telling my Dad how much she loved him and apologising for "not being right anymore." Those notes finally broke us.

[@nancyellen8006]

What a special man her husband is and how sad it is that his wife is dying. Alzheimer’s is a slow moving, destructive disease. I hope I never have my brain altered in this way.

[@Suemack24]

Thank you so much for making this sensitive and beautiful piece of work. It helps past and present grief greatly. God bless your parents.

[@marykelly9698]

Is this my husband , my heart broke for you dear gentleman, it was all too much god bless you wherever you are , I see how happy both of you were on your wedding day what a joy , kind caring and a treasure for your beautiful beloved wife , a daughter so precious gentle and kind , 💕

[@Mellybeans0919]

Beautifully sad. It is always amazing to me how music remains with people.

[@be4202]

Especially songs they sang often they can even remember the words. It stays with them, so interesting and amazing.

[@chayalael1196]

Today I send you lots of prayers For what’s about to be I really want to help you So I’m sending this from me I’m sending what is needed There is no need to apply But most of all I send my love To all that passes by 🙏🏽🙏🙏🏼🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏻

[@janetswalley7708]

What caring wonderful administrators .

[@sharonduggan3314]

If I would have had a good husband like these men I would have moved heaven and earth for them !

[@gretchenlhommedieu9246]

I agree. It would have been the most wonderful life to have a caring and loving husband.

[@jenniferthom4066]

Love for others ..true love that is spoken of on their wedding day...unconditional love is a choice not a feeling...we love even when we feel like running far from the grief of having to watch this process happen to someone we love....God is there for the joy & the pain..how we handle it all is our true test of character.. and this family is brave...

[@macclift9956]

Carers should be like extended family to their patients. I remember reading, a while ago, that carers who see their patients as part of their own tribe, i.e., extended family, are far more likely to make eye contact with the those in their care, and are far more gentle with them in general. Abuse of the elderly is seemingly rife in countries where cheap labour comes at a high price.

[@mariaturovskaya8744]

My grandfather died of cancer at 88 in 2020, my grandmother lives with dimensia at 83. I see them in this story

[@f.g.2125]

The part when she was saying she was tired was starting to make me teary but when I saw the husband in tears, now that i couldn't handle anymore which made me really cry, which doesn't happen often when I'm watching these stories on KZbin since I eventually became numb to it but seeing this video was really heartbreaking mostly since my grandma also haves dementia and im her caretaker

[@yvonnekneeshaw2784]

This was a very meaningful & important video for those suffering with this disease & the heartbreak of the caregiver (spouse). Appreciate this family for being vulnerable & sharing. 🇨🇦

[@loking-ful]

Thank you for sharing such wonderful touching love relationship in this family. It touched my soul.i cried for such true love still exists in this world with heart felt gratitude.thank you once again.may God’s peace and love remains with your family.

[@deborahisaacs5541]

What a precious bideo. My husband and l have been married 43 yrs. He has dementia. The hardest part for me is ....one of the things i so adored about him was his intelligence. His father was a college professor. We will get through this. Our faith in Jesus our Savior is the strongest part of us. We know this earth is not our home and 1 day we will be in heaven our forever Home and there will be no pain no tears no dementia, we are ok.

[@Lucailey]

God bless you and your husband. I work in a mostly Dementia unit at a nursing home. Times are so tough right now. I'd like to send you both a big hug.

[@tamaratserennyam8454]

beautiful human right life story . as caregiver I appreciate for this movie and teaching

[@JAM-xf4im]

What a loving man❤

[@luckyclarke7189]

Omg ....so beautiful I cried so much hahaha so admirable so lovely so kind so Just beautiful beautiful to watch

[@macclift9956]

The much-loved little dog helps!

[@janelovesy2399]

Thank you for sharing your journey with us ! Bless you all xxx

[@delisadavis539]

Going thru this recently with my mother. A stroke in 2018 started the memory change...then Deminta kicked in. Without PRAYERS...FAITH AND TRUST IN GOD...I dont know how I could get thru this journey with my mother🙏🙏🙏🙏.VALUE YOUR LOVED 1'S WHILE YOU STILL HAVE THEM IS THE LESSON IM GETTING FROM THIS.💘💓🙏🌹

[@avishnya1]

so lovely but not possible to watch!!! so painful!

[@sallyclay1974]

I'm retired in Danbury, Ct, since 2006. My younger sister, retired in 2014, at 64. She started forgetting things almost immediately. Now , 5 yrs later. She is wheelchair bound, diapers, spoon fed, and round the clock care in her home in Ridgefield, CT. She worked as a journalist at NBC, in Rockefeller Center, for over 30 yrs. She got the Peabody award, and was a world traveler. She has Lewy Body Dementia, which is part Parkinsons. With Lewy Bodies, the brain shrinks very quickly. She is almost non verbal nowl Blessings and prayers to u , family , and friends.

[@arik9112]

my grandad was just like him...I really just got pleasant memories of him back

[@ivonneleaty8501]

Thank you for sharing your story. God bless

[@alidahall8726]

My great uncle passed away on August 6 my birthday due to dementia such a horrible way to go not knowing anyone in the end but I'm glad he's not suffering

[@tiamarie6719]

I'm sorry about that. That must've been an awful birthday. I hope you're feeling better now, and I believe he's in a better place now and he's happy even though I don't know him.

[@1bannock]

My wife was in a care facility and slowly was loosing her life. Due to COVID I was unable to enter the facility to see my wife or even communicate with her because she was bed bound and lost the ability to operate her mobile phone. I understand that man's pain .

[@alidahall8726]

@@1bannock that's also sad not being their for your partner even though they're not there and slowly waisting away.

[@peterc9153]

I am 59 and the carer of my 90 year old mother here in the UK. She doesn't suffer from dementia, but she is very frail, sometimes a little confused, and I have to do nearly everything for her now. Victor's words near the end resonated with me when he said you mentally prepare yourself for the loss of your loved one, but nothing compares to the real thing. I know my mum is coming to the end of her life and I sometimes imagine how I will feel when it happens. But I realise that when it does eventually happen I will probably feel a level of grief that exceeds anything I had anticipated.

[@tbrowne3734]

She was lucky for having great family support. I watched a video because l start working in nursing home very soon. Thank you for sharing.

[@PecanBaby...]

Why a wonderful film and a fantastic man.

[@henriettadenzig5023]

My stepdad.passed.away from this disease. It affects everyone. Prayers for the family.

[@ColRusSer]

My mother has been living with dementia for years now and it doesn’t get easier; I must say.

[@carolking6355]

I diagnosed my husbands Alzheimer’s 3 years before I could get a doctor to. The very first thing of those 8 long years was when he told me that the speakers on tv were speaking faster. He couldn’t take it in. It was my own doctor 3 years later who said he had Alzheimer’s. I was telling him how my husband had planted outa bed of seedlings I had grown. The next day he came in so happy telling me he had weeded the whole patch. That was the seedlings. I took him to his own dr again and told him what my dr had said. I looked after.him for another 5 years but he got cancer and died a year ago. We had been married 58 years. He was sweet and gentle and I was numb for a year. I am just starting to grieve now. Oh how I miss my darling. We were lucky. We had lots of years to go back over and we would laugh of things that were further and further back.

[@faletoomata8695]

A very sad and heartfelt documentary. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Alofa atu xox

[@kezsovreign]

I would rather have watched Dad go out to cancer, instead of this horrible disease. Atleast he would have had the marbles to speak his mind and possibly not die in a nappy. If i could go back, id have helped him end his life, he would have wanted that 💔💔💔 So much love to everyone out there watching their loved ones go out like this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ddubfan]

What a beautiful video! I'm in tears. My Grandma had dementia and it was miserable for everyone. She was an amazing woman, best grandma you could ever want. She deteriorated so fast :( it was a horrible death.

[@hiteshbellani9547]

hugs

[@normamcquait2725]

Watching this I missed grandma one of my former client in Manasas😌unfortunately they put her in memory care.Really need to visir her😊😌

[@raeperonneau4941]

Wow! What a beautiful man.

[@kezsovreign]

I live eternally with the regret that i was not capable of looking after Dad once he got really bad. He was NZs highest ranking non-com soldier in the SAS back in the day, even without his marbles he wasnt being bossed around by no one lol, esp from his baby girl, its not funny but far out he was stubborn til the end! Love love LOVE!!!!❤❤❤

[@marybuschbacher1883]

I feel the same way. How can I one person such a mess. . And the animals won't help.

[@hiteshbellani9547]

crying n crying, god bless you Suzi hugs

[@Elizabeth.C.Holmes]

I've gone through this process. The 47 persons who put a thumbs down can go to you know where.

[@judithshalders6560]

The most moving documentary I have ever seen. They call it ......”The long goodbye” 😞 (Alzheimer’s)

[@anngray398]

Beautiful place you have!

[@henriettahenson]

The gentleman reminds me of my own dear father ...and the situation is pretty similar as well ...the difference is that my dad would not let us put mum in a nursing home ...so we lost him first .....he died 6 years ago .... my . mother wasn't able to care for herself and a dission was made for her to go into care she is in late stage now and I pray for a peaceful passing 🙏 l hope this lovely family find some comfort knowing that they did the right thing for Patricia ...and that she to is at peace 🙏

[@jahempress26]

Give thanks for all the good years and it is much more then most have had when I see this story I don’t feel sorry for them at all I see there life as a wonderful life and a wonderful family 🥰

[@user-wr2nh4bp7l]

beautiful loved it. so caring.

[@sandrasealy7411]

Praying for a cure 💜💜💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@yomomma2054]

23:34...f'n hell...this is so sad.

[@Gefflez]

Hit me right in the feels ❤️

[@malcolmmulvihill4972]

id have totally given up and i shall