Husbands Try Accept Losing Partners to Dementia Too Soon

Dementia is a life-changing condition at any age, but what happens in a relationship when one partner is diagnosed at a young age - when most couples are enjoying a full and active life together.
Mandy was only 42 when she received her diagnosis, and Clare just 60.
In this episode their husbands share their stories of love, loss, and acceptance of losing a partner to dementia too soon.
This video was made with funding from NZ On Air.
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[@astridbirgitteovern7662]

This reminds me of the story of a man whose wife was in a home. He visited her every day. One day a nurse came over and asked «Why do you visit her every day? She doesn’t know who you are anymore». He replied «I know who she is.»

[@bernadettebailey5370]

Perfectly said! Profound!

[@GigiRuizPrivateA3]

❤ just a love story ❤

[@TheJeanette53]

Astrid Birgitte Overn True story ?

[@armandofernandez8257]

Exactly he knew.

[@normalopez3476]

So tragic!!!😢😢😢😢😢 However true love at its finest! Some people never find it. These couples did and their lives were richer for it.💏👍💖💕💓💔❤️💘💋💗💚💛💜💔💋💖💝💞💟❣️💞💔💖❤️💘💋💓💗💙💚💛💜💖💝💞💟💔💓💘💜💖💝💞💟💌❣️🕊️🕊️

[@pootdaggy2657]

Peter and Mat are real men. Despite the circumstances they continue to be the support their poor wives need and are unable to realize. My kind of men.

[@Austins126]

Mandy and Clare have amazing husbands. It brought tears to my eyes to see the love they still give to their wives. Husbands of the year 👍

[@alicedevens2896]

I agree

[@daturad479]

Definitely #relationship goals

[@Susan-d2y]

You don`t know what kind of husbands they were. It`s not like now they can go cruising for chicks now.

[@manueladarazsdi9675]

Good men with caring hearts...

[@elizabethmeyer7447]

Yes great men💞

[@wordswritteninred7171]

And life robbed them. Way too soon.

[@Layla_Bayla]

Very rare to see

[@stanleywheeler404]

Yes my DEAR DAD was one with a BIG CARING AND LOVING HEART WITH OUR DEAR MOM WHO ALSO HAD ALZHEIMER'S !!! MY MOM PASSED AWAY IN 2015 FROM IT ! MY DEAR DAD PASSED AWAY IN 2018 . HIS ONE WISH WAS TO BE WITH MY MOM FOREVER!! NOW THEY ARE TOGETHER FOREVER !

[@stanleywheeler404]

I have always wondered why Alzheimer's ages these people so FAST almost like overnight !!! What is being done for the RESEARCH on this DISEASE?!!

[@pinkmonkeybird2644]

So many people saying these men are exceptional. My dad cared for my mom when she had pancreatic cancer, as did my uncle, her younger brother. My brother’s wife had a massive stroke 5 years ago and she’s 100% dependent on him for everything. My husband has been my carer through some horrific illnesses. These men aren’t exceptional, they are simply good humans, and it’s kind of sad that women expect so little of the men in their lives that these particular men surprise them with their dedication.

[@marthakeeling5966]

He's doing the right thing. He still loves her and you can tell.

[@samantharossiter5309]

hes doing the right thing but of course guilt is a major factor, he has nothing to feel guilty about, dealing with someone 24/7 with any dementia needs trained people especially in the later stages where they have to be watched 24/7, it hits the wife/husband carer so hard the lonilness, the memories left behind, the deafening silence and its not just restricted to the elderly, its not a normal part of aging........

[@karinabbott372]

The husbands must never feel guilty, and no one must judge them.

[@patriciafoster3347]

People planning on marriage should be required to watch this.

[@mariaparker7545]

Why deprive someone of a lot of happy years? And a lot of happy memories? You could marry someone and they die in a car crash... nothing is guaranteed in this life... What remains are wonderful memories.

[@debrajames6316]

@@mariaparker7545 Why be a deceiver of life?. Patricia understands that marriage is a huge commitment. If a person sees this video and decides not to marry then they are not in love and will walk away from the big commitment.

[@affirmationaffirmations7456]

True.

[@ediedevries7454]

Why ? When your partner does not know you anymore, they won't miss you either when they don't see you anymore

[@kathyh4804]

My x husband of 24 years wouldn’t lift a finger even if I was sick! He STILL expected me to care for HIM and the family ….. he would have left me for sure if I had this! These 2 are REAL men that truly know how to LOVE

[@tinythechick]

I hope I find someone who loves me as much as these men love their wives

[@chanelgez2146]

tinythechick me too

[@debbiemclaughlin4029]

I sure hope mine does

[@janeseppings6935]

One of the saddest documentaries I have ever seen. These men truly love their wives and seem so lost without them.

[@ashleyfalcon125]

Jane Seppings I agree. I was crying in the first 60 sec. 😢

[@kaylamesser5733]

Jane Seppings oh it’s heartbreaking. My dad is the same way, we lost my mother this past summer and he’s so lost. It’s pitiful.

[@tonyhernandez127]

Jane Seppings . 😞

[@user-xn9fe1jr6y]

So sad lovely people and she's 2 years younger than me. Terrible disease.

[@user-xn9fe1jr6y]

@@kaylamesser5733 God bless you all.

[@talkin2ya]

I loved how that carer gave Clare a good night kiss, so loving and caring and Gentle ❤️❤️❤️

[@pam5389]

Yes you can see that both women appear to be in good caring homes. I wish more caretakers would be like this. I was a nursing assistant when I was younger and I tried to always remind myself that the person I was caring for could be my parent, grandparent or friend.

[@margyb7469]

I work as a carer and yes there is residents I kiss and a number of carers I work with also do. It just depends if you are a kissy and cuddly type of person. Many are not kissy and cuddle type but that does not mean that they are not good and caring carers.

[@michellehill1604]

I work in Healthcare and it's good to see these people stick by their loved ones because alot dont and most dont have anyone. It's sad, God Bless them

[@maplesden6768]

michelle if you had been listening you would have heard why. there is an over powering guilt and shame of feeling like you have betraid your loved one some people do not know how to cope with it.

[@michellehaynes1004]

I totally agree I worked in high care aged care and most people I cared for never had anyone visit at all

[@bee2one657]

It hn bvb and bbb bnb jcb n B Bbn

[@carolinarivera7538]

My aunt recently was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s n my 2 cousins are having a hard time. I feel so very bad for them. My aunt is my mother’s sister.

[@SUPERSPAZD]

@@carolinarivera7538 😞

[@elisewalther6142]

I did the same for my husband who died 5 weeks ago. I don't regret one minute with him, just miss him terribly.

[@Winter-k6p]

❤❤

[@licksnkicks1166]

I am terribly sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤

[@jangriffin-fi1yx]

I'm glad I looked after my Husband & Mum would definitely do it all again at least we tried hard to live as normal a life as could. My only regret is that I couldn't do the same for my wonderful Dad who unfortunately passed in hospital. I loved them all with all my heart, miss them all so much. Loved being altogether very lucky as left with lots of wonderful happy loving memories ❤❤❤

[@wowzatrishiebunz]

I’m very sorry for your loss. Bless him.

[@ciaobella8963]

Gosh that was sad. I'll be 71 soon and have been living alone for years, but I'm healthy thank God. I never had someone to love me like that. But that's life isn't it. We can't have everything.

[@christineazmi5111]

Why can't we have everything Janice? We all deserve to be loved.

[@14nads]

@CoaoBella I hope that you’re still doing well:)

[@ciaobella8963]

@@14nads Thank you. I *am* doing well. :-)

[@14nads]

@@ciaobella8963 that just made my day!!:)

[@RMBlake007]

@@14nads Mine too!! Thank You both!!

[@robin5023]

This terrible disease stole my mama/best friend from me 5 years ago. It was so heartbreaking to watch this strong lady, whom I loved so much slowly perish. She and my father were the best parents I could have asked for!! The last thing she was able to tell my brother and I was " I love you" and this was on the day she passed! That's one of many beautiful memories I have of her. God bless these gentlemen for all the love they have for theirs wives, you are true angels!!

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

robin goetzinger You are blessed!

[@anyanka04]

It's the worst disease ever! My mam suffered this and it was heart breaking. Altho she did keep her jolly personality in the nursing home, and I'm grateful for that. But she couldn't recognise us. Its strange, but my mam also told me she loved me, those were the last words she said to me. I left and 2 days later she passed away. I can just see her smiling face, waving to me and my daughter as we left for home. It's a beautiful memory she left me with. I miss every day, and also my dad. But, I know they're watching over us 💖🙏🏻

[@virginiawallace87]

Robin(If I May) Please believe that at the time she said that, she knew exactly what she was saying and to whom she was speaking. Prayers for you and yours in this time of crisis. 😷🇺🇸

[@virginiawallace87]

Lorraine Ross ( If I May) Please believe she did know it was you at that moment and she did know what she was saying.I am caregiver to my husband who is in his fourth year of dementia. I have studied it long and hard. There are times they do know exactly who and what they are saying and feeling. So happy you were able to hear it from her. Prayers for you and yours in this time of crisis. 😷🇺🇸

[@m.r.browning2065]

@@virginiawallace87, I was my late Mom/bff's caregiver as Lewy body dementia wreaked havoc, while she could no longer express it, I'd like to believe she recognized me&knew I was there. But, knowing what my Mom had done to care for me throughout my life, I take solace knowing I was able to return the favor, at least for a few yrs until the very end.

[@LV-jh4zt]

My wife had a major stroke at 47. We are 58 now. She recovered with speech therapy. She has short memory. You marry till death do you part. These are real men. God bless them! 🙏

[@chrissyt_artist1960]

I started watching this because I wanted to know more about dementia, and there was Mat! Clare passed away in 2020 - he still misses her and sings songs to her on anniversaries and such. A real gentleman, very thoughtful and kind.

[@mircat28]

Google dementia. What you see in videos doesn’t tell you enough and it doesn’t mean everybody will be the same. You can learn more from the Alzheimers Assn website.

[@vanessamcdonald1071]

Omg I absolutely love the way Mat loves her,What a great ma

[@chrissyt_artist1960]

@@vanessamcdonald1071 I know Mat personally through our local music clubs. He is a gentleman indeed and still misses her.

[@sarasmith19]

In sickness and in health. I love my spouse. I am older and aging. He never complains.

[@analarson2920]

a blessings

[@TheNewMailLady]

So many blessings headed your way 💙

[@ordeliaordones2977]

My husband allways complain

[@sarasmith19]

@@ordeliaordones2977 I'm sorry

[@terryaguirre8271]

@@ordeliaordones2977 lol......I don’t know why that made me laugh.

[@madeleine8977]

Mandy's husband did not betray her. He cared for her in the best way he could. And both men clearly love their wives deeply. Beautiful to see.

[@Susan-d2y]

But if it were the other way around, Their wives would probably be caring for these men at home. Quit praising men for every positive thing they ever do!

[@rachelwilliams3108]

My husband died slowly from cancer. I was his only caregiver. Family and friends immediately disappeared. Even after his death, no cards, no flowers, no phone calls. He was a Vietnam veteran. He was a good guy. He dropped everything to help anyone in need. Maybe if we had been rich then we would of had support and love. There is no good way to die.

[@auntyharry]

I know you wrote this comment quite a while ago, but I’m just so sorry this was your experience. Both you and your husband deserved much better from the people in your lives...,,more love, more support, just more.

[@geraldineowens7001]

That must have been horrendous for you ..obviously the so called friends were arseholes and don't deserve your thoughts or time x

[@conniegnesda9720]

I am so sorry Rachel. If I knew you as a friend I would of helped you, I truly mean it. I took care of my mom and dad but fortunately I had other siblings to help. My oldest sister now has dementia, her husband put her in a memory facility. A very nice place but not the same as being home. You will have no regrets Rachel, you did everything you could to show your love for him. God bless you dear.

[@berniegueu8830]

@rachelwilliams3108 I just read your comments on this sad but of the reality in life's journey for these families. However I felt sad to know that for you, after your husband passed that everyone slowly faded in the shadows. As a result I would love to keep in touch and check in on you once in awhile. Stay strong and be thankful for each day 🙏🏼 💛

[@SuzanneDeniseB]

💙💙💙

[@ridcomics9364]

A lasting love will never be forgotten.

[@crystalrd7601]

The pain in his voice when he talks about the dishes is crushing, I cried. His love is beautiful. Both of the husbands just wonderful. I can’t finish this, so incredibly sad.

[@BeingGraceDivine]

"feels like you've been shot and you're not dead." - heartbreaking. beautifully done documentary.

[@christinegelabert1651]

I feel the same way but his words hit me in a different sense. I got diagnosed with Vascular Dementia on March 23rd of last year. I'll be turning 55 in this coming October. So for me it has a different meaning cuz there's depression and repetition every day with this and the days, if you don't get them confused DO meld a lot into each other. It is difficult waiting for the other shoe to fall or your body to hit the fkoor as the expression goes IF that makes sense.

[@JoJoHOPPE-i7j]

Christine, it makes perfect sense. It's three years on, and I hope the progression of your disease is very slow. It must be terrifying to receive such a diagnosis. I just wanted you to know that this total stranger understands.

[@anngarnsey3622]

I wish I could meet a man like that. Some times I forget that good men like that really do exist.

[@joeldecoster8816]

and who will look after him?

[@scottcupp8129]

We do

[@jpecco9668]

Of course they do , you just havent got one🤔

[@boritoxd75]

Hurry and catch me!!!!! 🙋🏽‍♂️

[@wayneworley1293]

We sure do I'm one but we get looked over like the bad 🍎 at the market

[@familynash3579]

I watched this after returning from a very hard visit to my Mom who has Dementia and Alzheimer's She begs to die every visit. She is 88 and hasn't been herself for 18-19 years. Last week a dear lady - age 61 died of cancer. I would love to take the last 10 years from my Mom and give it to our 61 year old friend. I think my Mom would agree to the arrangement. Life is not fair. Sweet Couples!

[@analarson2920]

Fear not God knows what is best, we have a struggle because we only know what is in front of us.

[@chelongogan3904]

@@analarson2920 they suffer like in the terrible Tribulation where they seek death and can't die.... How sad.....

[@debbiepetrei4654]

Talk about the true meaning of love. There is truly a place in heaven for these gentlemen.

[@ildikojakab641]

I have worked with young people with dementia... It was horrible. I met their families all the time and it was terrible to see them grieving a living person whom they had already lost....

[@keztukariri]

You have my utmost respect, I couldn't do it 💔💔💔 much love to you xoxo

[@forestrot666]

This made me cry so hard. Keep her dancing.

[@Muensterlaenderin]

Love does not end when everything around you collapses , Love does not end when the person you love no longer recognizes you , Love does not end when your life is suddenly lonely -true love is infinite .These are wonderful men and I really hope they have someone who take care of them,because all too often, all the friends are suddenly gone when it gets difficult. I also hope that you can enjoy many wonderful hours together with your wives. Life is sometimes very cruel.

[@chanelgez2146]

Menoah Is Xs exactly well said 👍

[@queenbeethatme1009]

Everything you said is trite. I wonder how most of you would be. I had to nurse a dying husband when I was 29. We had 3 young children. He died at age 49. I was 32. Both I and the kids were hostage to his illness. We had survivors guilt when he died. We loved him, but as long as he lived, we never could. We held metaphorically collective breaths until he passed. Years filled with crisis, stress , trauma and heartbreak. I had to work, care for him and the kids.. bargain for care for the 4 of them when I had to be out of town. Life is not fair..but surely, I think some get more heartbreak than others. Now my next husband may have early onset dementia..I dread this new vigil. I am a lot more stressed and tired at almost 60, than I was at 30.

[@joeldecoster8816]

you might feel diffferent whenit happens to you.......and if you are both sick and poor/

[@anak1050]

Tears started running down my face when that men started singing. This is real love!

[@pinkdagger]

So tragic and so beautiful. Terribly sad to think of how lonely home lives can become when a spouse can't come back home.

[@margieford4571]

Sad, but so very true! All family members of a dementia patient need to learn about the remaining spouse. It is very lonely..I am experiencing this right now.

[@taramartin6117]

Blessings on you guys, i work with folks with dementia. it is very hard.

[@islandgirl9479]

@tara Martin tell me about it my 9 sibling is taking care of my mom with Alzheimer's and Stage 4 kidney disease. She is at home now in hospice care right now.😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@hannahleclaire1629]

My Grandma has Dementia and I’ve taken care of her everyday the last 2 years.. it’s very very hard😕 she finally went to a home just two weeks ago.. but the person she is now is no where compared to the person she was😕 she’s still my Maumau and I see that side of who she is every now and then.. but it’s getting less and less each day.. it’s such a horrible thing to happen to anyone I think.. but all we can do is treat them the same as they once were!💗

[@pam5389]

I agree with you. Big Hugs to you and your family.

[@marlynlawson1202]

Sing with her a lot. See if you can find recordings(CDs) of some of her favourite music, and play to her.

[@OreoTime1]

God bless you always!

[@sierrasiennasavahnadesertn6605]

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[@melvoniabouwer7896]

True love will prefail. How precious and caring both husbands is towards their wifes. God bless them.

[@AprilBlessedandhighlyfavored]

God knows I want to find love like this

[@mustangjane1610]

I have no doubt you will 👼

[@happygolucky5689]

April2019 Blessed and highly favored I feel you

[@sandisandii2033]

I have love like that.Its the Best feeling in the world.

[@sandisandii2033]

If its meant to be for you it will happen.

[@graceaxisa4213]

The husbands of these women affected by dementia express themselves so poignantly. Beautiful words that clearly, sharply zoom right into their feelings and thoughts. I feel privileged to be given the honour of sharing this. The devotion, care and respect given to their beautiful wives fill me with hope and admiration. Life is fleeting and we need to make the most of what we have, when we can. But, my goodness, life is so unfair!

[@Dadelyn3]

Agre with your beautiful words, my 98 year old mon have sundowner alzimers

[@victoriamayo5774]

I love him for truly loving her

[@k.w.1459]

One thing that really hit home: “that’s where it stays, because that’s where it belongs.” Certainly the same can be said of the commitment and feelings of both these wonderful husbands. Devotion. Hard to find these days. That song Mat wrote was immensely beautiful. 😭

[@gloriawaters1455]

Wow what a very moving song Mat it made me cry 😢 bless you for loving your wife ❤

[@elhuddleston17]

I was working in a a residential home in Kansas City Missouri USA in 1990's starting to take care of patients when I was introduced to a 54 year old woman in a wheelchair who had dementia at the time I was in my 30's. I was shocked I never heard of such a thing, I had always thought it was a late 60's and older disorder. I am now in my 60's...

[@CatElse]

Usually older than late 60s

[@Sashazur]

It’s officially called “early onset dementia” if it happens before age 65.

[@morningdove20]

Like the Notebook, I have my tissues at my side while watching this. God Bless these husband's. Real Men. ♥️

[@catraoinekelly2879]

These men are the very definition of unconditional love; unselfish, considerate, respectful and loving their partners in spite of this devastating illness. We should all be lucky enough to find partners such as this in our lives. And the carers are a special breed in and of themselves, their compassion and empathy seem unlimited, going above and beyond for their charges...this was a beautiful, but bittersweet documentary, thank you so much for the upload 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

[@jenniferaugustino9853]

Its sad there are only 410 views. This is an amazing documentary! Theses husbands are wonderful to there wives. God bless all of them. U can see true love . 💕💕

[@lovingmayberry307]

Jennifer Augustino A month after your comment, there are almost 9000 views! Yay!!!

[@kiwigirljacks]

Almost 25,000 views now 👏👍🙏

[@intotheabyssoftheunknown4479]

Over 42,000 now! That's more like it ❤

[@peterandmacintyre9037]

Theres 48,000 views

[@daturad479]

Now it's over 57K!!!

[@mahimahi5457]

God bless them all. That song Mat wrote was so beautiful, too. Made me cry. 😥💌

[@Superstar-fn7rv]

The true meaning of loving someone. Heartbreaking. These men are absolute diamonds

[@fefemyluv]

I often forget that dementia can occur so early in life. God bless these two couples.

[@GuerinGrad09]

Alzheimers can actually even occur in children. It isn't called alzheimers, but it has the same effect.

[@pam5389]

When I was a nursing assistant back in 1987-1990 you didn't see as many people as now with early onset dementia or Alzheimer's.

[@poolahpot]

Pam P. Totally agree! SOMETHING is definitely going on.

[@XXXSHARONOXXX]

This was really heartbreaking to watch....Bless them all and the caring workers who look after them

[@charlenes5]

XXXSHARONOXXX

[@maryfiaola3686]

watching 2023 , Thank you for this video xxxx These husbands were so loving and caring and understanding.

[@janettapia9944]

Why would people say move on she is still alive...

[@lauraerickson1336]

Exactly. How could anyone move on when their life’s love is alive & awake.

[@claudetteclarke8437]

@@lauraerickson1336 John gasby

[@thegracetofollow4194]

Right those are the same people that will move on as thier loved ones get sick

[@nannyb8714]

Very Sad...if ever I hear that Beautiful song again, I know the tears will flow. Very Beautiful and touching stories, God bless you all.

[@grandpastellingyou]

My eyes are broken! They won’t stop leaking 😭

[@selcouth86]

The longest long-distance relationship, almost completely one-sided and yet they loved and love through it all. When he said he screamed at the moon and thought he saw a face in it, first thing that came to mind was god. Wanting there to be something more than just the darkness and just a cold indifferent light.

[@lovingmayberry307]

Such amazing, dedicated, lovely men! Please, please, please don't live with guilt! You did what needed to be done for her and she would tell you that if she could!

[@sandraottway5618]

OMG MATT FERRIS, THAT SONG WRITTEN FOR YOUR LOVELY WIFE MADE ME CRY, SO BEAUTIFUL, THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY, GOD BLESS X

[@lulu-iz7bv]

Essentially the person you fell in love with is gone. It really is a death. I used to watch some people visiting their spouses, who were vegetative and literally were sustained on ventilators for years. There was criticism for people, who visited less often, or who married again shortly after the spouse finally expired. People seem to forget that the spouse really died a long time ago, and the living people had been grieving the death for years.

[@Sashazur]

And of those critical people, how many would visit an ailing loved one every day for years and put their life on hold the whole time?

[@lovetogarden8455]

Just imagine what kind of world we would live in if everyone had a huge heart ❤️ like these fellows! And our world without dementia. My mommy passed away 13 years ago with this disease it was so sad to see this disease take over so quickly, my mom was a strong woman 👩🏻 I always thought nothing could knock her down. But this disease took over in a matter of a few months😢. I miss her everyday. Blessings to all of those who are suffering with dementia in their family.💐

[@NolaGB]

Regardless of what ever the circumstances maybe, no one should be alone . Alone is a very sad place to be ... that's why I have 3 dogs ... they're company, they listen and are always happy to see you. You have a beautiful voice. Mat.

[@smwrbd]

I have two dogs and a cat.

[@mareewillmore6124]

robert donaldson Lo

[@analarson2920]

You would be amazed some are not so friendly to folks living with them so it can be hard in that sense too. We just keep trying and make sure we can do safety first as well as compassion in a good healthy way.

[@leylamamat215]

I always worry about my cats..what will happen after my passing.

[@analarson2920]

@@leylamamat215 good question, talk to friends and family, make a will, make arrangements with folks or a good shelter. don't wait, I have family and friends, and if they can not take my service dog I have a friend with a farm who would take her in a heart beat. Do make sure your pet is well cared for and behaves well, it makes it easier should something happen to you for someone to take care of the pet on the short-term or long-term. Prayers and peace for your journey.

[@MG-bq1uk]

Hits home...Living it now....hardest thing to watch a love one deteriorate before your eyes. My 89 year old veteran father has dementia. I lost my Mom in September to brain cancer. It was devastating to tell my Dad that Mom passed every morning when he went to look for her inside their home. 60 years together then a few months later after their anniversary... we lost her. Now, I'm watching my Dad rapidly become frail and disappearing before my eyes. Heart breaking. Mom, like I promised you, I'm taking good care of Dad. 🇺🇸🙏💕🌹We love and miss you deeply!💔💐 The holidays and birthdays are the hardest.

[@rayleescherger4030]

My brother is 64 in stage 6 I am so sad :( His wife & Kids he no longer knows them or me his sister I am so sad :( Thanks for the video!!

[@carolynworthington8996]

Sandi Ermantrout 64! SO young! Sending all good wishes to you and your family.

[@patreis3722]

Sandi Ermantrout : My Brother has vascular dementia and I have taken care of him for six years. My mother cared for him five years before she passed away. So sad, but it’s worth it!! God bless you and all family members who care for loved ones!! ♥️🙏🏼

[@miknmas1301]

These husbands are just magnificent!

[@drbob528]

Nearly 20 years ago my wife died of 56 died of pancreatic cancer; she remains in my thoughts every day. That these two men and others like them cope daily with the slow death of dementia says much about the strength of love. This film is a sensitive treatment of a sad process; hopefully though, it reminds others in this situation that they are not alone.

[@jessicalorraine9011]

Til death do us part. Much respect sir. God bless you.

[@carriebizz]

Heartbreaking but so lovely to see how these husbands are so dedicated to their wives. Unconditional love. Damn Matt that song is beautiful it had me in tears

[@marys3127]

I am shattered by this, as empathy allows us to imagine going thru what these couples are going thru & it is unbelievably sad. So sorry for the loss of the love of your lives.

[@michelleclarke526]

My heart warms me to see and hear these husband's loves for their wives is precious as gold and their wonderful caring carers.

[@pj123xyz]

Enjoy your life Get out, do things every day with the people you love. We never know how long we have to be healthy or in our right minds. Life is such a beautiful and fleeting thing. You wake up one day and wonder where the years have gone. My sister has early onset dementia caused by damage done by years of undiagnosed adult hydrocephalus. She's only 57. She's just a shell of who she once was. Her husband refuses to take her to a care facility yet. He'll care for her as long as he can and I'm afraid when he has to it will kill him. They've been together their whole lives. Childhood sweethearts. All 5 of my aunts on my mums side died of dementia or Alzheimer's. My grandma was diagnosed in her late 40s. Needless to say I'm expecting for me but hopefully I'll be spared and can enjoy some time after retirement. The one couple with the guy who plays guitar remind me so much of my sis and brother in law. So sad to happen to such loving people.

[@analarson2920]

He is a blessing, watch Ted Talks, there seems to be a lot of findings on what we eat and how we live our lives affects our genetics so you may stave it off even more, check some of the talks out.

[@karenkirwan942]

That is sad, did they try a shunt? NPH is the only form of dementia that can sometimes be reversed I think.

[@AriasMummy]

That was beautiful, well done. True love.

[@suek7086]

This is so beautiful. I lost my hubby in 2014 to pneumonia as a result of Alzheimer’s. It caused him to have trouble swallowing and he aspirated his meds. He only made it 18 months after his diagnosed with early onset dementia because he was only 63. His great fear was becoming a violent dementia patient later on. God protected him from that and his death was a gift to him. I miss him horribly but can’t wish him back. His dementia progressed rapidly in the physical rather than the mental. He went from just occasional balance problems to needing a walker within four months. Some days/weeks he was super sharp, reading, doing things, and others where he didn’t seem to understand anything. Very heartbreaking because he knew what was happening to him. The 12 days he was in the hospital before he died he was sharp, clear, and really great. We really enjoyed him. Even on a ventilator he was clear and unseated, ordering us all around and joking in motions. When his vent was removed, at his request, he told me thank you for letting me go home to heaven. He talked to us for 50 more minutes, clear as a bell. Then he peacefully went with his Lord.

[@aliciao.5731]

I'm very touched by the love these men have for their wives.

[@daturad479]

Mat "So, we got 3 grandchildren" Clare "Wow, can't believe that!" So freakin cute. Yes, this doc breaks my heart but you gotta find the giggles and smiles where you can. :)

[@vivienlee610]

Two beautiful couples touched by this disease but their love is still there... is so touching...the love they have for each other is so tangible. I love the way he uses his music to bring consolation and comfort not just to himself, but others as well. These two show what real love is.. I won der how they're doing now.. ❤

[@GuerinGrad09]

This is so sad. I know how dementia effects people and it is awful. Then it often turns into Alzheimers and that is even worse. These videos make me feel so blessed to have 2 healthy parents. I cannot imagine anything different.

[@elouise5593]

Dementia doesn't suddenly turn into Alheimers. Alzheimers is a type of dementia. There are many different kinds, alzheimers being the most common, I believe.

[@papabear2515]

E Louise you are correct.

[@papabear2515]

Music, music music! It is CRITICAL For every person with dementia, Alzheimer’s, etc. go to KZbin and look at “music and memory Alzheimer’s” - incredible! The part of the brain that stores music is the last to go ....and music brings such happiness and even remembering to those with dementia. Please watch it! It will change everything if you love someone or care for someone with emery issues! My mom has Alzheimer’s and when we play music - she remembers the lyrics and becomes animated and happy and even gleeful! Transformation!

[@starbrightstarlight2233]

So glad they have each other ~ They do LOVE their wives . God love them all !

[@jewelhaines8842]

So very sweet and sad. This is what true love looks like. ❤

[@kimberlee3243]

💔💔💔💔 what a lovely, but candid story. My heart goes out to the families. Hugs from Boston

[@barbarabuonincontro1990]

Luv your spouse.bi took care of 2 men in my life my husband who passed. And my boyfriend of 9 years they bothdied . Rest in peace. Dom and Joe you both. Until we meet again. Barbbuon

[@barbarabuonincontro1990]

What a nice couple.he luv s her.

[@mrs.garcia6978]

What beautiful stories. Thank you.

[@djohn515]

The world still has good men god bless him

[@justjoan82]

They were lucky to have such wonderful husbands who REALLY cared. This Jan 24th it will be 1 year since I lost my mom to dementia. The last 2 years I was her main caregiver. My step father helped some, but spent most of his time on the computer and would just walk by, look in her room and wave. That broke my heart. I wish she had someone like you two gentlemen. God Bless You.

[@give_me_a_quiet_mind]

I absolutely adore that their husbands came together and opened up to each other. Thank you for taking care your wives and each other.

[@deefromtx5530]

Such love they have for their beautiful ladies. It's a tough road. Bless you all.

[@midsummermadness558]

They don’t make men like that anymore. And btw who is cutting onions? My eyes are messed up.

[@pam5389]

Me too 😭

[@Dadelyn3]

Me to my mom is turning 98 March 4 of this year and she have sundowner alzimers and some time she don`t know where she is and don`t reconaice us(sorry for my ingles my language is Spanish )

[@user-xn9fe1jr6y]

They sure don't absolute diamonds 🔹.

[@analarson2920]

Yes they make men like these, they are usually led by God and have sacred lives as well as marriages, too many do not realize the level of love that a real marriage is all about.

[@mariabyrne7222]

@@analarson2920 too many cheap divoces on offer and people don't realize marriage is hard work. I'm not married though, but I know better than a lot of people.

[@precilaserna4659]

I love taking care my Employer which have Dementia she’s so sweet , every morning she always give me a sweet 😊 smile and say Hi 👋 ..still she knows how to say thank you 😊

[@AspieAnswers]

These are great stories. Good to see that they still love each other no matter what they're going through. Great memories that they share together. No matter what we need to know the signs if this and more. The carers there are great people that care and love them...

[@donnawilcock5774]

The love and devotion of these 2 men to their sweethearts is so touching. They are true examples of "for better or for worse, in sickness or in health, til death do us part". Bless them all.

[@sandyp4123]

These women have been so blessed to meet these wonderful men and vice versa ❤❤

[@jmariew9966]

To have this kind of bond with your partner is a blessing - these people not only love each other they like each other.

[@nonnalovepriceless]

My father had it my mum was so good to him write to the end It’s a horrible sickness .my poor dad died at 66 he left such a whole in out hearts Then mum died And there is not one moment hat goes by that I don’t think of them both Had such delightful parents One day I will see them again ..

[@lifeonwheels5756]

To be loved like this is truly a blessing. To be cared for and thought about on this level is my hope and desire.

[@ohiorich1]

Beautiful. I lost my mother from Dementia in 2014. I helped take care of her, with my Father for 3 years non stop, at the end of her life. My father said he would never put my mother in a nursing home, but after she fell and broke her hip, she never came out of the nursing home.... I feel so sorry for these gentlemen in this video. If I could talk to them I would say. You did not abandon your wives, and you did the best thing for them by placing them somewhere where they could get the best care, for the end of there lives. Please never think back and say, What if, for the what was is a great memory to always have. All my love and respect to those that are going through this. Some days it will feel like hell, but you will always have the good days to remember too.

[@nature_photography_yukon]

Very sad, but also heartwarming to see these beautiful couples, the husbands are doing amazing, pray for more support and awareness for people with dementia and their loved ones. Music is a wonderful thing and Mat singing and playing for the residents is so uplifting, loved it when Mandy smiled at the end of the video and when Mat and Clare were dancing together.

[@theeveronever1554]

I honestly did not think that men could actually love seeing this changed my mind. my heart breaks for them I cannot imagine the sadness and pain they must feel going through this 💔💝😔

[@Ancheladamichelada]

My old man is not my husband legally but we've been together 5 years in march. I have so many medical issues and he has been my pillar through it all.

[@heavensmountains323]

It is painful to come into this world & it is painful to leave so often. This was so very moving & yet uplifting to see how these husbands cope day by day with the sad circumstances of their marriage. True to their vows...'In sickness and in health'.

[@gingef5197]

My smiley wife Betty of 62 years has advanced Alzheimer's too. I have helped feed and care for her daily. This lock down means I may never see her again or she won't know me. I wrote English lyrics too the song 'Time to say Goodbye' which are my words to describe our life. It is on KZbin sung by Kathryn Mountain. Join me, listen and enjoy.

[@MultiCathy33]

I love people who say forever and mean it

[@julesjazzie]

This brought a lot of memories to me. I remember the day when my uncle phone me and told me that my aunt was diagnosed with dementia. I was in studying nursing then and took time off to came home. My own parents died when I was only 11 years old and they, my uncle and aunt, brought us as their own as they not blessed with children. To cut the long story short, I looked after my aunt till the end. I love her and miss her.

[@ordeliaordones2977]

Good for you

[@smoll8746]

Guilt can eat up your life. Your wives would appreciate everything you do and the fact that you made a difficult decision to be selfless by sharing her care with others.

[@exiba.m.thomas8261]

May God bless u all 💕💕💕💕💝💝💝💝😍😍😍😘😘 So touching .......love u all...... Stay blessed......beautiful.. Loving.. Careing..... Couples... It teaches me some lessons ....thank you

[@soniamartinez9157]

What amazing love.. I hate dementia.....

[@annar1627]

Everyone does, what a silly comment.

[@lbee171]

😭 God bless all of them! What beautiful loving husbands! 💖

[@priciliaaudrey7736]

Thank you for sharing these beautiful things.

[@hannawilliams3008]

My mom has alcoholic dementia and despite this film being about men losing their wives, it brought up enough for me to let loose some tears I’ve been holding back for a long time. Thank you.