AITA for calling my step mom "druggie" because she won't stop using a nickname she gave me as a baby

[@Nova_Terra298]

Nta, don’t give to others what you can’t take.

[@andrewbaier9952]

I would of went public

[@DarqueQueen7]

NTA. She can shovel it ou t, but can't take it when it's pointed her wsy. BOO HOO.

[@Lady_Rowan_MacGyver]

Don't dish it if you can't take it. that just makes you a big ole druggie hypocrite. And your POS of a dad? he can f*** right off the edge of a cliff. if he can't clearly see what's going on here? then he has his head so far up his own booty he'll never see the light of day.

[@micheleroulet9972]

Nope nta step mommy fucked around an found out I'd called her pill posing ass out as we'll karma has no expiration date period so if step mommy didn't like the fact of being called out then she shouldn't have fat shamed a littoral child step mommy an dad are the pos's an the aholes

[@Azy8star]

The smartest thing ive heard in a while

[@Rossen42]

Typical bully behavior, its all fun until they get it back then they run away crying

[@tcro5053]

NTA. She wasn't forced to leave her son's ceremony that was her choice. She could have simply completely ignored you. On the outskirts the comparison may not seem equal, however, both are behavioral and potential deadly. So it's justified to me.

[@namesurname6885]

I think that comparison is really spot on. It's a different fix, but still a fix.

[@padminz]

NTA, and OP’s Dad is right, it’s not a fair comparison. Stepmom’s nickname led to a 10 year old CHILD being bullied to the point where she developed an eating disorder and had to switch schools. OP’s nickname for an ADULT woman addicted to pills only resulted in said adult voluntarily leaving her kids’ graduation. I want OP to be extremely petty about this - call stepmom « druggie » as often as possible - on birthday cards, posts on Facebook or Instagram, everywhere. Stepmom can publicly apologise for the nicknames, the bullying and the ED and maybe then OP can choose to stop

[@BaeBunni]

Honestly wouldn't call her druggie feels to odd, I would think junkie is better it rolls off the tongue better. Also it would be a great way to just give her just as many "wonderful" nicknames as stepmom gave Op.

[@Harus_Tea]

Yeah, things like homewreaker whore, slut etc would also work since she slept with her best friends husband. ​@@BaeBunni

[@raymondarobinson2228]

I would have different varieties like she had for me for example, miss popper instead of miss poppins, my little junkie, user, step addict, my perfect pill in-law. I would make sure she can’t move on from it.

[@yurionice1131]

​@@BaeBunniHonestly they both are good and I feel like OP SHOULD keep in contact with them and when there are gatherings op could say "yeah me and Pilly are doing great." And when people ask what the nickname means OP can just say that the step mom pops pills so the nickname fits

[@MsDanyelleM]

You guys are harsh! ... And I'm so here for it! 😂

[@MistressOP]

NTA - as you got an eating disorder from it and she wanted to do it again. Ya shes a jerk drugs or no drugs she's kinda a horrible human being because shes doing it on purpose to you to exclude you from family activities.

[@koltynromero435]

God what a pathetic excuse for a father

[@dreamagination7809]

What a hypocrite the step-mom is. Her nicknames are all funny but the second she's being given a nickname she doesn't like, it's not funny anymore

[@forgottengenesis8977]

what goes around comes back around again, NTA. To even the score OP should start calling the dad 'Cheatie'

[@xXSetsuaiXx]

Typical case of 'Rules for thee, not me.' Go no contact, OP. For your own mental health.

[@bellasmom2597]

Step mother called OP a slur then tried to gaslight that it is a nick name. Healthy children gain weight before a growth spirt so step is a monster.

[@green-spectre]

One of those is a slur? Can you tell me which? I'm asking because I genuinely don't know And I want to make sure I know not to use it.

[@yurionice1131]

​@@green-spectreit is a slur just NOT a racial slur. A slur is an insulting remark. Like the nicknames the stepmom gave op yeah it might not be racial but is it still used to being them down and insult them

[@green-spectre]

@@yurionice1131 ah, okay, I was confused because none of those sounded really bad, still insulting, but not slur bad, thanks for explaining.

[@raynewithhorns]

Literally the consequences of her actions

[@taegixsylay2397]

NTA, you asked and told her many times nicely and respectfully to not call you that, especially in public. It is fair. If she cannot respect you simply asking for not to call you that nickname especially now as a grown adult then she deserves the same treatment

[@Nutriana]

Nta, this is just "fuck around and find out" consequences

[@crazytimewithmissieandsara9083]

Op's dad is absolutely right it's not a fair comparison coz op was a literal child being bullied and harassed by an adult to the point she developed and eating disorder however when she finally clapped back it was as an adult to another adult who absolutely should have the ability to rationalise thoughts and realise the pain and torture she put that little child through considering how much it hurt her to be given a simple nickname that correctly represented her just as much as she felt 'piggy' correctly represented a little child. However this grown ass woman's response was to throw a fit and storm off, skipping out on something important for her actual children she birthed 🙄 op's dad needs to take a good hard look at himself and his wife before all his kids go nc with him

[@MegaHarvickFan29]

NTA. Those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

[@johannamartinez7183]

Nope not at all. She can dish it but can't take it.

[@luckyvonstanke2155]

NTA

[@anonymousinternetperson]

Something feels sinister about the stepmom. I can’t put my finger on it but something feels off about her to be making those comments to a literal child

[@mysticlight5756]

Bullies say its just teasing till victim has a back bone then they get upset

[@lauriecole3312]

I would have said, “Look! It is my emotionally abusive stepmother!” So I think she got off easy with just getting a label from her past that didn’t make it clear what kind of person she now is. Also, I don’t think it is any coincidence that she gave her non-biological kid such a nickname and didn’t care about the damage she did.

[@RomeoWolfe]

If you can’t handle the heat don’t play with fire

[@Fiercetits]

Thats totally justified, shes calling her by a nickname (that had some truth before) she doesn’t like and won’t stop so it’s only fair to give her a nickname doesn’t like and it true to her.

[@lariemunoz873]

I'm a recovering addict and I laughed. Good for you!

[@diablo2078]

She got a taste of her own medicine and hates it

[@kioger8956]

She was a pile popper rememeber prob brought back some memories

[@lidijakljucevic84]

Nta. She can’t handle the same game

[@mihailoduric763]

Dad is right she gave you a nickname that caused you big problems and bullying at school and you gave her a nickname that shows her idiocy. you are NTA

[@chupacabramick]

Stepmom is a horrible person

[@sctrzvlt]

nta that shit is hilarious and a perfect point

[@mcknight7811]

100% justified

[@lucindaroman330]

Nta in the least, I would say that’s karma 😂 Don’t dish it if you can’t take it. The dad is however the asshole for not standing up for her, he failed her as a father on that aspect. The petty in me would put her name in my phone as druggie, every time someone asked me about her in front of her that’s my druggie stepmom. See how fast those nicknames stop. Call me evil but OP had an eating disorder and was bullied for those nicknames so stepmom had that coming.

[@justafriendlycryptid]

I've been given a nickname I absolutely loath and yeah NTA. You can start off polite in asking people to stop but retaliation seems to be the only way to get it through to those kinds of people.

[@Kitara86]

She’s a homewrecker

[@Lonardeath]

Nta, if someone can't take it they shouldn't dish it

[@mdjvices6197]

NTA. 💯 she chose your nickname. You choose her nickname.

[@IsaAbdi-t4h]

If I was there I would be rolling on the floor dead laughing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ratalien9259]

Nta gave a child an eating disorder cause of her relentless name calling that was a “nickname” but can’t take being called a druggie

[@the1nonlysillykid]

Nta. She literally refused to stop after OP said to not call them by that nickname anymore. They were literally bullied for it. And honestly, “druggie” is pretty funny.

[@helloidkkkkk]

don’t say it if you can’t take it NTA

[@animerockgirl1]

NTA. Can't handle it then don't dish it. Play stupid game win stupid prizes.

[@jblack5596]

NTA if you can take it don't dish it

[@tankman-ku5zc]

Good Ole eye for an eye

[@roslyneaton4784]

NTA I literally laughed. No I deep Hardy throaty laugh but yeah I’m on your side OP I do the same. I probably would’ve started back when I was 10 if I were you.

[@aussican]

NTA, she is awful

[@hush1895]

NTA I you had passed trauma and retaliated when she wouldn’t change or own up to her BS. As a former fat kid I can relate lol 😅

[@AlAriEs90]

NTA,If you can’t take the heat stay out the kitchen

[@joseperez8404]

Nta so it's okay to make fun of A child but not okay to bring up the past for an adult?

[@Slothlout]

No that's fking hilarious 🤣

[@Th3DarkJester]

Druggie and cheater xD what a pair

[@scarlett4024]

Did anyone stick up for op? That’s my question because I would have called adulteries the second I found out and yell loud as hell in the middle of a grocery store or something “adulteries?” Like I lost her in the store when she like five feet away from me then said for all to hear “adulteris you can’t just sneak up” and made sure all know she was a two timing sl!t who would sleep with any man who gives her a compliment and since she did take her best friend’s husband it technically isn’t a lie

[@rockisrx]

Druggie mad 😂

[@lishagallegos9551]

THAT IS SOO AWESOME!!

[@noahhiatt9453]

Nta she overstepped her boundaries and didn't stop when you asked her to your stepmom and dad are the ahole

[@HestiaVesta]

Nope

[@xavierasavale6567]

That was Funny asf good Job

[@Callme_Leslie]

Nah druggie had it coming

[@aaserabboud]

atleast "druggie" didn't give the stepmom trauma and a eating disorder.

[@deejones0071]

My little brother's nickname is "Buff" or "Buffy" because he was a big baby. If he were to tell me/us that it made him uncomfortable, we would stop, and (as all of us have nicknames), we'd probably call him something else. It would be something to adjust to, but we would adjust, so I can understand when there is so much love, time and genuine affection tied to something like this that it can be hard to adjust. BUT, even ignoring the childhood factors of this, it is inconceivable that your own child/step-child - who you claim to have loved since infancy - develops an eating disorder and you STILL use those nicknames

[@quacasualwomen]

nta druggie is hilarious

[@jovitadosch5428]

I mean you could call her home wrecker…if you developed an eating disorder because of her treatment it seems that fair is fair to me.

[@rickraber1249]

Gee, Dad. Did you know I had an eating disorder because of your lovely wife? Whatsa matter, she can dish it out, but she can't take it? Waah.

[@kagome1000o]

Don’t dish it if you can’t take it, she had gotten OP to the lowest points in her life. Literally, she was her lowest weight at 89 pounds because she was bullied because of the name that this jealous stepmother gave her to feel better about her own problems (and she knew very well that this would’ve gotten her bullied, (unless she was on drugs at the time) She was just feeling old and wanted to take it out on OP) the dad is a piece of spit for not standing up for his daughter

[@New_-_show]

Sounds like the stepmom is a glass cannon She will say hurtful things and act like it's nothing wrong but the second you do it back she breaks down into tears or acts like it's not the same op's dad I do not believe was in the right at all She developed a mental eating disorder and was bullied for years because of a dumb nickname that the stepmom made it was a fair comparison She stopped being fat since she was 10 and the nickname stuck she stopped drinking 6 years ago so what's wrong with this nickname

[@stgrey751]

Nta

[@mothbone_studio]

WOMP WOMP nta

[@spacelady4935]

That’s hilarious.

[@Justagirl325]

lol 😂 burn idk why adult think it’s funny give kids rude nicknames

[@RandomQueen11]

Nta, if she can’t handle being called “duggie” or a name then she shouldn’t be calling you names. If you were going to call her a name/names you should’ve said homerecker, wh@re, etc.

[@tomascamilotorresmedinaguz5871]

Nta, the father is a looser btw

[@Leastcarn]

Nta you gave someone a eating disorder to make yourself feel better and then you willingly popped pills!!! Yea it’s fair!!

[@corpsenymph9499]

N T A Yeah sure OP's dad, what OP said was not comparable. SM only got affected by the harsh nick name OP had said to her for a day which resulted in her leaving out of her own accord. SM said offensive nick names on a constant basis whenever OP visited to OP and deliberately openly said it loud enough one time that OP's peers heard it and bullied OP to the point that she had to switch schools then developed a eating disorder that you both refused to believe that was caused by SM in any type of way. I would go no contact with SM and your piss poor excuse for a father OP. It's clear they don't want to realize the damage they've done to you and want to make you out to be the horrible person when before you even got back at SM you politely asked her to stop and she refused. On top of that your father refused back then to stick up for you and even now he refuses to stick up for you, which shows he only cares about his wife rather than you.

[@NyxIncarnate21316]

Kinda the AH but only because 2 wrongs don't make a right. Don't get me wrong im probably just as bad because i would have done the same. Im just stuck on the part where she said it was an affectionate nickname that it was accurate at one point and she "loved you anyway" like you told her what that nickname did to your confidence and she ignored your feelings. Im sorry but you don't tear someone down that you love like that. Not unless you have some serious healing to do in your own heart.

[@ryanschuh1756]

I mean its not a fair comparison drugs are way different from your weight but this is still a talk shit get hit moment and she had 2 decades to stop so its on her

[@user-uo9kf1sx5o]

Actually, not really. Decades of research shows that addiction to food and cycles of restriction and binge eating and using food as a coping mechanism creates similar effects in the brain as addiction to substances. Not all addictions have to be to specifically addictive chemicals. For example, gambling addiction doesn't require putting any substances into your body but the neural pathways that cause you to crave the behaviour are similar to that of those created in the brains of those addicted to drugs.

[@ttyres45]

She loves you. Thats sweet but unknowningly harmful for a stepmom.

[@hiddenkitty675]

She was intentionally ignorant, she ignored and denied the harm she caused despite clear proof.

[@willowskeith4267]

Thats not unknowing. She refused to beleive the truth. She refused polite requests. She refused impolite requests. She got almost no contacted for years. And still refused to listen. Thats malicioualy ignorant.

[@user-uo9kf1sx5o]

If you think that's love, please don't have children

[@edenromanov]

Kinda TA but I mean she had it coming so don't worry about it, I also wouldn't apologise over it either because she's been such a jerk about it for years too.

[@khalidhamad5286]

Nta

[@2xtreem4u]

NTA

[@plumppassion]

NTA

[@BlueAmbrosea]

NTA