AITA For Going to Police Bc I Found Out My Parents Took Debt Out In My Name (REDDIT STORIES) Ep. 145

[@tamiayasmine]

Sam’s mom was my favorite. They look just alike and I can see where he gets his personality from. She seems like such a kind soul🤍 definitely bring her back again! I love how you’ve incorporated your parents throughout episodes.

[@Alluponit31]

He’s also as charismatic as her. She was READY to act. I loved it.❤❤❤❤

[@stephaniepatterson3959]

I'm shocked vasectomy OP didn't freeze his sperm if he knew he wanted more kids. My ex and I were married when Trump became president. I was very worried I'd have limited access to reproductive healthcare (and look who was right). I knew I was childfree and my ex said he was too. I told him he could freeze his sperm as a backup, since sterilization is a big deal. He said he didn't need to. He got a vasectomy, which gave me such peace of mine. A year later, he leaves me for someone else and changes his mind, he does want kids. Welp, he's SOL on his own accord.

[@dechelwhitworth1848]

I Mean, He Didn’t They Was Going To Get A Divorce, So Him Freezing His Sperm Was Probably Not Even On His Mind… Also He Probably Brought Up The Idea Of It And She Completely Shut It Down…

[@SheSheBoom21]

27:12 if you’re making me leave because there is no food and I ordered food. I’m also taking my gift.😂😂😂😂😂

[@ExquisiteSimplicity]

regarding the pizza at the wedding: you cannot tell me that they wouldn't have gotten upset anyway if they had like 15-20 people dissapear to go eat at another location / outside

[@cristina08888]

Great point!

[@kimberlygregory2900]

Nothing about that one is know he was not the a-hole. He was completely in the right for ordering that pizza alcohol on an empty stomach is a recipe for absolute disaster. What he should have done was gone to the other tables of the people who did not get anything to eat and maybe ordered more pizzas. Never mind you if it was that big of a deal after speaking to the other tables they could have gone up to the groom or a family member of the Bride or groom and say hey look we didn't get any food we're going to order pizzas.

[@iluvnainay]

If he has money like that he should have done it right the first time! So it would have been remembered for the right reason the beauty of the bride and memories created

[@iluvnainay]

No, you aren't the ahole for turning your parents in.

[@misslerhin1785]

Wedding story - even if the dinner is buffet style, there should have been servers making sure everyone got SAME first serving. Also, the bride def knew that her family eats a ton, so it should have been announced that seconds would be served AFRER everyone has had firsts and if there is any food left. OP probably could have addressed it better with the FIL, because there is a chance that the head table had no idea that not everyone got food. Probably the best way to go about it would be to ask the bride/groom/coordinator if there were more food since several tables didn't get any (in an ideal situation they would be the ones ordering that pizza). But i totally understand them and when hunger and alcohol mix together it is hard to control yourself 😅

[@aga3852]

Especially if they going through the whole ordeal of CALLING TABLES. Like??

[@StarfireFlow]

I think op handled it fine. If your addiction overshadows your self awareness then you're the problem. That fl needed to be humbled and I'm glad someone did

[@truueindeedi]

Story 1. NTA, you don't need to live in doubt about someone you're going to be around the rest of your life. Better to be alone.

[@loganhenderson650]

She’s not reformed if she’s still cordial with the other guy.

[@oshinofalakoju5749]

@@loganhenderson650 bingo!!

[@elwynblythe]

I hope you guys never stop making these! It brightens my day every time

[@alexusdunlap4990]

With the vasectomy story, I just kept imagining his wife telling him “if you don’t get a vasectomy we’re gonna get a divorce” so he gets the vasectomy even though he doesn’t want one and then she divorces him anyway.

[@cyna866]

Right?! Can you imagine if he told her to get a hysterectomy?! He would be villainized !

[@tarag5077]

But she didn’t just divorce him right? They divorced each other. He said it was amicable. To me, that’s what changes it. His body, his choice. The person he should be mad at his himself.

[@Miss_Kisa94]

@@cyna866 Uhhh no not the same. The female equivalent would be getting your tubes tide and yes millions of women do that to make their husbands happy despite a vasectomy being much safer.

[@goofyrat2938]

@@tarag5077 I feel like a lot of people forget that two things can be true at once. It’s entirely valid to be mad at both himself _and_ her, as she’s the one who convinced him to get a vasectomy against his will. But he himself decided to go through with it knowing that there would be a chance he wouldn’t be able to reverse the change later. Even if they divorced each other, that doesn’t change the fact that she DID hurt him, but he also hurt himself and for that reason they’re both wrong for different reasons. This is especially true since they both have a kid together - presumably the only child that this man will ever be able to have.

[@tarag5077]

@@goofyrat2938 but see that’s the thing, it wasn’t against his will. He didn’t want it but he did it. At the end of the day no one forced him. But I do agree with your point: two things can be true. 1. He’s mad at himself for going through with it and 2. He’s mad at her because she “convinced” him to do it.

[@zenfriend3260]

The parents making debt for their kids story : it is so WILD how people commit crimes and are angry at their victims for pressing charges. Like seriously? YOU committed a crime! It’s nobody’s fault but your own.

[@ThomasGarlandsplooges]

RIGHT!? Deranged behavior

[@JMc-jo2rk]

Also the vasectomy guy was an adult and was probably well aware of the risks of that. To be angry is fair. But to blame the mother that it can’t be reversed and to subject the kid to the toxicity of their failed relationship is crazy.

[@ohardge]

I think i need to start paying you guys. Ain't nobody way I just watched 5 new episodes at once. Thank you!!!!!

[@d.c.d.8985]

Story 2 - The tantrum he threw over the vasectomy he voluntarily got is exactly the type of behavior that got him left in the first place.

[@Jessi-sj3zx]

For real! I was like ummm sir 1st red flag is you saying “MADE me get”….

[@thetnrwoman1052]

Wedding story: Definitely NTA! I think a lot of people forget about the actual purpose of a wedding reception. The purpose of a wedding reception is not for everyone to bend over backwards and cater to the bride and groom. The purpose of a wedding reception is for everyone to CELEBRATE a new marriage WITH the bride and groom. A reception is a party, and therefore the people who are hosting the wedding reception have a responsibility to make sure that their guests are happy and healthy. If you are not willing to make sure that ALL of your guests are happy and healthy, you SHOULD NOT have a wedding reception!!! If the hosts made a mistake and didn't order enough food, then THEY should be the ones ordering pizzas/ food to make sure their guests are happy. Especially when alcohol is involved! It is downright irresponsible to have an open bar and no food. From a legal standpoint, the people hosting the wedding could be held responsible if one of their guests injured themselves or others due to overconsumption. If you elect to have a wedding reception, and you make your guests uncomfortable and/or put them in harm's way, that is YOUR fault. You failed as a host! You should not be mad at your guests for leaving, or for "ruining the esthetic" by ordering food. And you should not expect them to eat in the car, or eat outside. You should apologize profusely to your guests and do whatever you can to make them comfortable, even if it means ordering a bunch of pizzas yourself!

[@Komorebineeded]

Agreed. My sibling wanted a BIG wedding and we had almost a thousand guests. We had a variety of vegetarian as well as non-vegetarian dishes, not to mention the desserts. I come from a community where wedding feasts are huge and an occasion for people to come together. We had food left over so we asked some of our guests to take home whatever they wanted.

[@ThatGuySleepyMiles]

You guys uploaded at the same time as Smosh's reddit stories, and I am so torn rn Edit: Comfort Level first, the energy is immaculate

[@shun1590]

i was in the same position lol love cl and sp !! CL first !

[@nya.2006]

I saw SJ and knew I had to watch this one first🤣

[@XmienekeX]

I now habe sosh, comfort level pod and wiki on reddit hahaha joping they don't have the same stories. But I still listen cuz it's interesting to hear the reactions of everyone 😁

[@QueenD91]

This happened to me 7 years. 7yrs before I could rent a house or apt. After being kicked out at 20. Found out my mom rented houses in my name and all the bills in my name. I had evictions in my name, each bills 700+. Luckily I had money saved and bought a trailer and begged and the park to let me in. I showed them all the evidence I had that I never rented a house. Luckily my boyfriend knew the owners kid and got us in.

[@Marthroy9000]

That's so fucked up! I'm sorry that happened to you and I hope you're doing better now.

[@OrneryMurderWeasel]

With the second story, he’s not completely a victim. She told him she wanted no more kids, he didn’t HAVE to do it and they divorced amicably. It’d be one thing if she cheated.

[@TheirMommy589]

Fertility story, something that was missed the Mom crying in front of child is also a HUGE issue. The dad is a Ahole how he's handling it. However the mother doesn't need to be displaying those big emotions towards Dad infront of son because it's changing the child's perception towards Dad. She's not a victim either. She can be upset, however she needs to have more control over her emotions and not doing that where the child is now in the middle.

[@maamk1111]

so glad someone said this. also, mom missing talking to him sounds like she wants a personal relationship still. he should speak to her about the child only. nothing else needs to be said between them.

[@TheirMommy589]

@maamk1111 yeah I definitely feel she may have some regret or sadness regarding them no longer being together/or atleast communicating. I feel to talk at drop offs, kids special occasions isn't unreasonable. However she's also mishandling this entire situation because she's getting the child involved because of how SHE feels.

[@AutisticTea]

The last story! I am currently going through IVF, my partner and I are paying ourselves, and we initially thought it was just me. And my partner had no issue paying. Paying for all of it even. He WANTS to be a dad. And he loves me. Either the husband in the last story doesn't want to be a father, or doesn't love OP, but either way she needs to get out. You don't want to have children with someone who would punish you for medical problems! She doesn't need to take responsibility for her infertility; it wasn't a choice. Everyone was so right, that guy sucks, but I'm just coming in as someone in a similar situation to endorse that OP needs to get rid of that man. Be free OP. Pay for yourself and a donor and be a beautiful single parent.

[@mathildeleprince5597]

One thing that ticked me off in that story was what the people OP talked with said "consider his feelings as he lost the HUMAN RIGHT(?!?!?!!?) to be a father" like WHAT?!?! it's not a human right it is a privilege to be a parent and sadly more difficult to become for some people, but this guy doesn't deserve to become a parent. I think he built a lot of resentment towards his wife and adding to that his thoughts that "it's her fault" and that he's "not the problem" only creates a toxic environment for OP having all those worries do not help with getting pregnant. I agree with you, OP be a beautiful single parent or find a partner that is actually there to support you, not blame you for things out of your control.

[@kalliearroyo9527]

Everyone NEEDS TO LOCK THEIR CREDIT. It is a bit of an inconvenience, but it only takes a minute to submit a request and a day or 2 for it to unfreeze when you need to run a credit report. Any financially responsible person shouldn't be opening accounts without a bit of thought anyway. My sister opened accounts in at least 5 different family member's names. We found out when one brother was visiting and noticed something in the another siblings name at that sisters house. The charges we so high that the victim thought they were old car loans. One by one they all filed police reports. My sister actually told the other sibling she was doing her a favor by building her credit. Of course she had no way to pay them off, she had filed bankruptcy several times before and forced our mother into bankruptcy, my mother had never had anything other than a car loan.

[@akrasiels4001]

Vasectomy OP really said, “I might have agreed to this and didn’t think to freeze my sperm for the future, but it’s surely all her fault.” It reads like he assumes she could tell the future years prior. He really could have just said “I feel like I betrayed myself and as a result, I feel like my ex manipulated and betrayed me too.”

[@tuhleyah]

So happy to see SJ on another podcast episode 😌

[@jaalahrae]

My favorite episodes are with SJ 😂❤

[@StefanieRenee]

My first thought of hiding apps is someone planning an escape from an abuser.

[@elledeewhite8096]

2nd Story: Lesson Learned - Don't do anything you really don't want to do. It doesn't mattee your relationship to the person. That is on you, dude. Be mad with yourself.

[@sdran23]

28:50 I think that this is the fault of whoever was in charge of the food situation. I went to a large birthday party once where they had great food and people tasked with serving even portions of it. If you asked for more, they kindly said “sorry, I can’t”. We accepted that, ate our portion and had a blast with the open bar and great music. Thinking that you paid so you should eat all of the food speaks to the selfish mindset of the family.

[@recoveringfrmlife9681]

He didn’t have a gun to his head. Where is the personal responsibility on his part. Why is he blaming her.

[@teejohnson9160]

14:00 vasectomy story: He can attempt to get it reversed. Usually, the most common cases of successful reversal are those that had the surgery within 5 years. After 5 years, the chances of successful reversal are exponentially reduced. If it’s important to him, he should at least try. As far as being on speaking terms with the ex, he has that right. He needs to get therapy, & maybe choose a trusted 3rd party to do the kid handoff. NEVER speak badly of the child’s mother, especially within earshot of the child. He WILL REGRET it if he does.

[@Ivanmckt]

But her crying as she drops off her child can also making the child feel some type of way. If the child grows resentment towards his father for making his mother upset, how's that fair on him? Also I'm not saying this happened but I do feel like if the roles were reversed, the guys in the video would be a lot more sympathetic towards the situation, especially when we're talking about the "final decision" of choosing to get a vasectomy. For guys, they're expected to stand on business and there's no way that he could have been pushed into that situation because he gets the final call, whilst I feel like she was arguing how she had resentment in this situation people would be a lot more sympathetic towards her feelings of being "pushed" in a certain direction.

[@deeztwist4534]

Vasectomy story: I agree with Maddie. I feel like this man was pressured into getting that. We need more context of that conversation. Because for him to have this visceral reaction, you can tell he didn’t want to do it in the first place. Also why is the mom crying in front the son every time. I feel like it’s manipulation. I feel the father set it up to where there is still communication, it’s not ideal but at least he was responsible enough to do that, because many men don’t do that. We need to give that man more grace.

[@JahAmericanNY]

And that’s why I drop my wedding envelope at the end of the wedding 😂😂

[@Badpoison1]

It's his ex wife. They don't need to talk.

[@evaeva1837]

19:19 nope I completely understand this man. It was dirty and underhanded that his ex basically black mailed him into a vasectomy to stay married then they got a divorce anyway... Me and my ex-husband hasve 3 kids and dont speak. Its not childish to protect your peace from people who treat you like trash.

[@DoMiNiMeXiCaNa]

My I’m hearing key words like she made me which tells me she was pushing him to do it. If she didn’t want to have more kids she should have been the one to get her tubes tied, especially if he was on the fence. So I understand his frustration. Now the only issue I have really which the lack of communication between them is if something related to their child happens and he refuses to pick up. I’m not dismissing his feelings just presenting real life scenario is all. I do think he needs a second opinion and therapy because at the end of the day he has to continue to interact with her and that’s like shoving it in his face the as a constant reminder

[@iluvnainay]

Let's think about it these people are your guests! Some may have come bearing gifts, paid for new outfits, gas and may have even come from out of town! No food just bread and butter!! At least OP was decent enough to order enough to share with more than just his table. (You would have been the ahole if it was just for you and wife).Then the father in law has the nerve to ask where the pizza came from!? You, your wife, and your in-laws were insulted by it! Yes, the bride's family ruined her dream wedding by being cheap and/ gluttons(wrapping up plates to go and going back for seconds are no-nos unless everyone has eaten.) are crass! Are people supposed to drink until they are sick since there's no food? There's no do-over for special days. Whoever was handling the food was supposed to do a final count once everyone was seated. There's no way 30 people maybe 10 but not 30 depending on how the tables were set up and if there wasn't any hiccups with the catering (other than not ordering enough food. No, OP you're not the Ahole for trying to be supportive and enjoy the festivities. 😅

[@stacycamacho59]

$60G?? 😒😒😒😒 I couldn't even think about doing that to my kids. My son is working on building credit. Not trying to get it to go bad.. absolutely mind boggling.

[@HarbourSeal]

Posting here because there’s a severe amount of copium regarding the vasectomy: Lmao at the person who suggested “if the situations were reversed” - if the situations were reversed the wife wouldn’t have been sterilised because women have a huge HUGE hurdles to cross to even get sterilisation CONSIDERED by doctors. Maybe read about some women desperate for hysterectomies or to get sterilised. Plus hysterectomies are a MAJOR surgery. Vasectomies are day surgery with a chance of reversal. He made an informed medical decision. He knew the risks and complications. He can also still have babies because the vas deferens isn’t severed proximal to the testes and he is still producing sperm. If he wants more kids, these can be retrieved. What he can’t do is get anyone accidentally pregnant. Again, this would have been explained to him by any half decent fertility doctor. Hindsight is 20/20: maybe do some research next time commenters.

[@HarbourSeal]

If the situation was reversed she’d still be fucking waiting for a surgery. Do not @ me, your comments mean nothing unless you’ve got a med degree, which I do. I know how the plumbing works and what’s available medically and surgically. I know the ethics around it. I’m not discussing it with anyone unless they are willing to make an appointment and pay me: otherwise just die mad.

[@Pachitaro]

Yapathon

[@BlasphemousBuddha420]

You are definitely a person who does not keep that same energy when you see the same scenario but rolls flipped and that’s fucking hilarious. Hypocrisy be real as a motherfucker.

[@MrsB_4]

Sam’s Mom hands down favorite guest. Please bring her back! Maybe an episode with all the moms?!💜

[@Ilseax]

I never comment lols, but my family wanted to let you know we are enjoying these episodes on the living room TV (all the way from the Netherlands)!! Thank you for the laughs

[@comfortlevelpodcast]

We appreciate you and your family watching!

[@sdran23]

Going for seconds before everyone ate? That’s terrible.

[@britnicox3929]

My step cousin (ALL FIVE OF THEM) had to fight the debt that their mother took out in their names, which was enough to almost ruin their credit before they had even turned 18. This is a mother who didn’t even take care of them growing up because she abandoned them but had their Social Security numbers. I don’t remember how they did it but they’re all doing good now, thankfully.

[@kiannajohnson2757]

I loved hearing the guests relations to y'all and seeing more of y'all! Also the editing!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Brandon and Madi did ya bog one on those! My fave is either cringe Madi or SJ reacting to the handshake 😂😂😂😂 I'm dying just thinking about it

[@krystenhayden2516]

Omg i was about 5 seconds from commenting 'and you did it at my birthday dinner' and maddie beat me to it 😂😂😂

[@sayhmm]

as a southerner, I am so appalled by that wedding story that I had to take a break. it's not even the greedy guests' fault. planning a major event without enough food is unthinkably disrespectful, cruel, and embarrassing on the couple's part. I'm so offended even hearing about it. where tf was this wedding? talking bout aesthetics. talking bout in laws. plan better. a buffet should have enough for seconds for everyone, period. people should be able to be gluttonous at weddings. come on. HALF the guests ate NOTHING? the fact that they made people eat in order makes me think they saw this coming and picked and chose who they were gonna leave hungry. I can't. op is only the asshole for blaming body types instead of blaming the couple for hosting a failure of a wedding reception

[@sayhmm]

*primal southern scream*

[@Sophie-sn8kc]

Agreed! The moment I see people asking about pizza and food recognizing nobody’s having enough I‘m ordering 20 of them and announce that food is on the way! A fail can happen but be caring and responsible then! Could have gotten from the wedding where everyone was hungry to the great pizza wedding everyone loved!

[@Ivanmckt]

I'm not from the US so maybe different cultures here but I would have definitely told the bride and groom and said "hey, this is happening, how do you wanna proceed". They could have done a deal with the local joint to order up more pizzas at a discount or something, forward the bill to the groom or offer to pay half to be nice (at least to not stress them out or something). Instead, they acted on their own terms and made a scene. At the end of the day, it's their wedding and even if they're technically in the right for feeling let down that there was no food, not making a scene trumps feeling a bit hungry for an extra hour or two. Thankfully they weren't as upset as it looked initially but I still feel like communication could have gone a long way here.

[@ForLoversOfWisdom]

I think if the vasectomy story was reversed genders. The guy would be a monster to everyone.

[@Warmack98]

100% This is why they get called out a lot, because of their double standards.

[@lionhinder]

@@Warmack98exactly I call them out on almost every video it’s a shame because I really enjoy their personalities outside of their blatant sexism against men and lack of empathy for men in general .

[@deathman5678]

All these Reddit channels are sexist towards men. But because they are liberals they can’t tell him to man up because that’s toxic masculinity.

[@Mizarriz]

Really? I think the men are more empathetic toward men, and the women more empathetic toward women. All of them seem judgemental, but they're laypeople, not therapists or experts in relationships or ethics. They're young, have no families they've raised, have no degrees in psychology or anything that would qualify them for making these assessments of whether someone is an AH. It's just their intrinsically biased opinions, so being biased about sex is no surprise. Going no communication for something he ultimately chose to go along with is a strong reaction. Be angry, but speak your anger. Threatening to go to court and make co-parenting 'difficult' is not reasonable. He went too far, not as a man but as a human being.

[@lionhinder]

@@Mizarriz you obviously have no idea what empathy is if you feel like these men are being empathic towards their fellow man. In almost every episode you Can blatantly see that’s true . Lacking credentials or doesn’t excuse them for having harmful biases and if you’re giving them that excuse what’s the point of saying any person is an AH when you decide to come on the Internet speak and further more act is if their moral code is one of a paragon then they shouldn’t have these silly double standards and biases. No it’s not too far at all to him those interactions are harassment he has no place for his ex wife after being manipulated (mentally and emotionally abused if we are being honest) into sterilizing himself. Obviously something he did not want to do but chose to sacrifice for his marriage which didn’t work out something he already had resentment about before the marriage even ended. His life is ruined because of her and she should suffer the consequences of those actions just like he’s had to. Women get really weird about their reproduction to further prove my point at the end they are mad at the guy who told his wife to pay for her fertility treatments because her being infertile has little to do with him. While that is callous and harsh it’s true but they have all the outrage and understanding because her feelings are hurt and she doesn’t want to talk to or deal with him. Why can’t this man?

[@LuLu_592gt]

I've experienced that at a wedding before. I was 19 and the couple getting married were 19 as well. After a very lengthy ceremony, we were all very hungry. After the wedding party and family ate, the food was pretty much done. A few of our friends ordered chinese food for themselves and sat at the table eating. Some of us opted to leave instead because we needed to eat.

[@Red.Kocaine]

And I just feel like I have to comment on this first story about homegirl not being able to control herself around her male friend like this story is so freaking triggering like what do you mean you’re still friends? What do you mean ain’t nobody ever found out before like girl? Somethings you take to your grave bitch cause I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t even get through the whole damn story without getting pissed off, who raised some of y’all.

[@Ivanmckt]

For the vasectomy story: It's easy to objectively say what the right decision is to make when you're not in those people's shoes. Yes, he should consider how this might affect the child's mental health but the man should be allowed to grieve and act cold. If this was years down the line and he still held a grudge, that'd be different but it's only been a short period of time. Let him heal at his own pace. Also this type of decision could affect his future relationships. So not only is he not capable of having another child, he also could have further issues down line with his current girlfriend or future partners. Adoption isn't for everyone, this was a serious decision. I'm sure part of his anger is internalised because he could have frozen his sperm, he could have convinced his wife to go in a different direction. He's upset that he was "pushed" in that direction but ultimately there was an alternative and it's unclear from the post if that alternative was also shut down by the wife. If he wanted to freeze his sperm but his wife assured him that she does not want a baby so he never did it, I'd be fuming. Also the wife needs to control her emotions. She is at bare minimum 50% of the reason he had the procedure done. You don't get to cry in front of the child and make the child feel some type of way towards his father because your actions contributed to his grief.

[@simplyblonde12141]

I definitely need a friend like SJ😂

[@velonda]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 YAS intro song full house family matter vibes ❤ I’m old that’s what I hear 🤣

[@HiimNickie]

Madi I love it when you smile you are so genuinley pretty ❤

[@jjj9095]

*Whats funny about the petty SUV story is if they stopped answering after 3 days then they probably just blocked his number and he wasted 3 months on letting this person live rent free in their head lol*

[@TabbyWithMittens]

I always get hyped when these dropped when I’m at work. Gives me something to listen to :)

[@erenb.5612]

Love you guys

[@dangermouse4871]

Having been to a wedding with no food, not the ahole. At least the wedding I was at no food was planned, wished we had thought of ordering food to the event.

[@beamshark]

People do not realize how HARD it is to get a vasectomy reversed. The vas deferens is literally the size of a strand of your hair. It's so ridiculous to me how people think this is an "easy and reversible procedure" when it's not! It's as serious as getting your tubes tied

[@OGimouse1]

It has a 95% reversal rate if you had a standard surgery, 90% if your surgeon sucked. It's only 0% if your anatomy is both irregular and operated on by someone with a low skill set. The vast deferens is one of the most flexible and resilient parts of the body, otherwise it wouldn't survive the daily trauma of what it goes through between pants and pitching tents.

[@d.c.d.8985]

Story 1- He’s not the AH. However, GF’s “friend” is a snake though. She knew what she was doing telling that “funny story.” He should dump GF and GF should dump fake friend.

[@garbowhatt]

YAYYYY BEST CREW

[@RooHue]

$60K and they have no plans on paying it back?!?!?!?!? Nah, straight to jail.

[@MarcT0296]

My ex's parents did that to her and it damn near made it impossible for her to move out of there... I always wanted her to press charges but she didn't so good for this person! Also ayeoo omg not that person attacking their wife for fertility issues☠️ That's horrible and I'm glad she didn't have a child with him

[@Jessi-sj3zx]

Okay but that closing full house cover where can I download that? 💛

[@MeemoWawa]

Story 2: I get that the wife may have pressured him to get a vasectomy, but he’s really not taking any accountability about his role in getting the procedure. At the end of the day he chose to get the vasectomy when he knew he wanted more children, and now instead of dealing with the consequences of his actions he’s being immature. Selfish to his child.

[@starsonapollo2]

Can't vasectomies be reversed?

[@elwynblythe]

I came here to say this. The implementation of informed consent in procedures like this cannot be understated. I get that he regrets it now, but either he lied to his medical team about what he wanted, or he regretted it after. His wife was shitty for pressuring him, but he chose to get a vasectomy. He needs to take responsibility.

[@elwynblythe]

​@@starsonapollo2in some cases. Sometimes it reverses on its own, sometimes it's permanent. But it's not always reversible. I can only speak for the USA, but this information would have been explained to him well in advance

[@starsonapollo2]

@@elwynblythe yeah, my father had one and has said plenty of times that it was a lot easier than my mom getting any kind of surgery for it

[@lionhinder]

@@starsonapollo2you didn’t listen he went to try to get it reversed and it’s a no go no surgery is 100% reversible

[@christinedavidson5633]

I'm on vasectomy guys side. There are other forms of contraceptive. Women have faught forever and are still fighting to have control over their body and now this woman pressured him by using the "health of their marriage" as a weapon to get him to make a serious change to his body. Yes I feel like he's being a little extreme with the court comment but I would be mad AF.

[@deeztwist4534]

Vasectomy story: I agree with Maddie. I feel like this man was pressured into getting that. We need more context of that conversation. Because for him to have this visceral reaction, you can tell he didn’t want to do it in the first place. Also why is the mom crying in front the son every time. I feel like it’s manipulation. I feel the father set it up to where there is still communication, it’s not ideal but at least he was responsible enough to do that, because many men don’t do that.

[@nemesisismyfriend3664]

SJ is the best!!

[@heathergittings1191]

Cheaters can be reformed but only by them doing the work themselves. When they fully accept that by cheating, their partners manipulation was more important than their own self respect. When they start choosing their self respect over their partners manipulation, that’s the key. But it’s an inside job.

[@Chatterboxtherapists]

😊 my heart is happy now

[@StarfireFlow]

Vasectomy guy: i really dont feel bad, men are always super excited to have more kids. I wonder if he's even attentive or if he puts most the obligation on his partner. His wife hard didn't want more kids, most likely for a good reason. Plus you can always adopt, blood really isn't important.

[@XmienekeX]

Who's magical voice is that in the intro?

[@daniellecampbell7568]

i would’ve personally said something to the in-laws if they went up for seconds before the REST of the guest ate. 30 guest that didn’t eat, that’s such piss poor planning. Did they only order food for 50 people? Knowing there was going to be 70 people?

[@raffy4527]

and you did it at my birthday dinner!!!

[@destanydehart3524]

Did they film this in Broken Bow Oklahoma?

[@misslerhin1785]

IVF story - D.I.V.O.R.C.E. I am 35 and with every day I am more convinced that life is too short to deal with other ppl's sh$t and issues... 13 YEARS! They didn't meet yesterday or a year ago! 13 years! How can you say such harsh things to someone you supposedly love? Does he? He definitely has no respect for her and her feelings (along with their friends and family). SHE has the right to be a mom! Honestly, she needs to get a divorce and live for herself a little. And find someone who would actually love and cherish her (we all deserve to be loved and respected in the relationships). And i am sure that the savings they have were from both of them working. So she should be able to use at least half of them (no matter how much she contributed - in marriage it is 50/50).

[@zirania6895]

Why didnt she fixed so she couldnt get pregnant. Why did she want him to do it?? My mom did it. My moms sister tought my dad should have done it. My mom said "why should he do it, if I die tomorrow he should be able to get more kids if he want to. Its me who dont want any more kids" her response was "but if any of your kids die?" Moms response was "a new child wont replace the once i have"

[@AnneSeixas]

The wedding story, maaaan, I get culture differences cause here in Brazil its like THE WORST thing possible is to let your guests hungry and we have tons of dishes going around the party. Anyway, the one who hired the buffet is the AH. You should've informed how many people woyld be in the party.

[@JohnnyBp36]

38:27 9 weeks is 2 months yall

[@Belianna24]

Ayooooo we here!

[@saynohmo]

fav episode was hat prank

[@misslerhin1785]

Vasectomy story - totally disagree with CLP. As many have pointed out, if the roles were reversed, he would be crucified! Don't you ppl think he has feelings too? "He made this decision"?! His partner/wife/mother of his child made him get a vasectomy because SHE didn't want more kids, and he wanted to keep his family! Then why didn't she get her tubes tied? Specially since she knew that he wanted more kids! Was that to make sure to tie him down, so he won't leave? or what? And for what? Just to divorce him later? He used this language "she divorced me" does this not tell you anything? To me it sounds like he didn't really want rhat divorce. Now let's think about what a divorce is? It is a break up! Do you stay in touch with your exes after break up? Yes, they have a kid together, but that doesn't mean they have to stay friends. And it sounds like (judging by the message she sent) she got divorced but still wanted to have friend chats/talks with him?! Like WTF! It also sounds like the reality has finally hit him and he is just now grieving all his losses... he now doesn't owe her anything apart from taking care of his kid.

[@Gabitronia]

💯💯💯💯💯🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@succubitch1054]

He actually said himself the divorce was amicable and that he decided to get the procedure done. He's inconsistent, and untrustworthy.

[@stephaniepatterson3959]

It's very hard for women to get their tubes tied. Some doctors won't do it unless you are a certain age, until you have a certain number of children, married, have the husband's permission, etc. Also, it's way more expensive and a more invasive surgery (cutting through muscle). If the guy was iffy, he could have had his sperm frozen. Or if he knew he wouldn't be happy unless he had more kids, then leave his wife.

[@misslerhin1785]

@stephaniepatterson3959 we live in 2024, open surgery is not the only option for tube tying and recovery is like one week when done the laparoscopic way... but this wasn't my point. My point was that if he were the one telling her to get her tubes tied because he didn't want more children, then everyone would be calling him an AH and telling her to divorce him... and now you people are saying that he could have done other things/or not do it.... well, she could have done things too! There are dozens of types of birth control.... double standards!

[@dawncraig3340]

​@@misslerhin1785 yeah that's not true

[@marry6merra90]

I love sj

[@izysto1043]

and u did it at my birthday dinner!!!!!!!

[@Miss_Kisa94]

So for anyone who doesn't know even if the vasectomy isn't reversable he can STILL have kids. It's a simple procedure where they extract sperm and then put it into the woman.

[@hlash2566]

This is one of the best episodes 😂 The crop-dusting, the petty caller🤣

[@TabbyWithMittens]

Story 2- I agree being upset that it can’t be reverse (at least from the first opinion), anyone and any gender is allowed to be upset, but I agree threatening with court is a bit too far. If he needs space and needs to be angry then he’s allowed, but to seek punishment for something that probably will affect the child is a bit much.

[@lionhinder]

If he were a she and a man manipulated a woman into sterilizing herself you wouldn’t have that same opinion

[@TabbyWithMittens]

@@lionhinder I would have the same opinion. Thats why I said no matter the gender I understand being upset. I just don’t agree with taking it to court and possibly rebounding onto the child who has to witness this. If he chooses to cut her off and not talk to her, understandable. Where in my post implied that I would think otherwise?

[@lionhinder]

@@TabbyWithMittens so it’s healthy for a child to witness and be party to his dad having to deal with a person he rightfully hates for their major part in the decision to sterilize him ?

[@TabbyWithMittens]

@@lionhinder I never said he had to deal with her either. She sucks for pressuring him into this too and how she isn’t respecting boundaries. I just think threatening court is a bit much or actively seek punishment that will end up affecting the child. Where in my post, again, did I say he had to stay in her life? They might have a relationship where they trade off their kid to each other, but they don’t have to be in each other’s lives. He doesn’t have to like her either anymore. I never said he had to be active in her life or show he likes her.

[@lionhinder]

@@TabbyWithMittens he only said if she doesn’t respect his boundaries he will do that because that point she’s making it difficult for him .

[@iluvnainay]

WHAT!???!! OP's HUSBAND SAID THAT!! WHAT IN THE WORLD WAS HE GOING TO DO GOD FORBID THAT THEY HAD A CHILD WITH HEALTH ISSUES?! Blame her too and want to split the medical bills!??

[@kaileyvanocker5177]

I love how Maddie is down to go to Taco Bell, but she is also popping them tums like her stomach is falling out her butt 😅

[@thesavvyverse]

Would you count this as a reformed cheater? When i was 12 i got sick of being cheated on by my online partners so i started also online cheating for about 6 months before i stopped i did occasionally cheat back when my partners did first throughout the years but i havent in 2 years and nor do i plan to again if i get cheated on again I'll just move on

[@aquariussolaris2492]

I do not feel sorry for vasectomy guy.

[@simonesayyys]

I wish I could thank those crop dusting heros for their service.

[@recoveringfrmlife9681]

It’s absolutely impossible to protect your kids. There is always so way some app some friend some KZbin video that exposes them to stuff. Apps that are innocent have horrible possibilities depending who posts or unloads to it.

[@jilliang4347]

44:56 Maddie let the group have a turn omg 😭 it’s starting to be sad lol

[@m.orionyt]

RECLIANCE ALLIANCE UNITE

[@RevolutionaryGoddess]

The in-laws are the assholes , people were hangry 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@theKate-a]

the vasectomy story - I think it's important to focus on the fact she says she misses talking to him. I don't think "professional and emotionless talks about the arrangements" would be enough for her and fixed the current situation. I feel like she wants to be on a friendly terms with him and that's asking too much. She did unintentionally hurt him by insisting on vasectomy and now he cannot have kids because of that. It is a traumatic news for someone who always wanted a lot of kids. Him not wanting a contact with someone who is a reminder of that tragedy is actually quite a normal reaction. I question the mom letting her son see herself cry.

[@lisarenia5695]

Regarding the vasectomy story: Is there a reason the wife didn't get her tubes tied since she's the one who didn't want more kids?

[@iluvnainay]

He might have thought it was going to save his marriage and that's why he went along with the vasectomy he felt like she underhanded him

[@ThoughtsonThoughtsandFeelings]

Anti-surveillance is good imo. You can’t control kids. The only hope is being trustworthy and raising your kids to trust you and not fear you. If cheaters gonna cheat, they’ll cheat.

[@Jay_In_The_Annex]

53:19 she’s not the ah in any capacity cuz nobody should be spoken to like that regardless of if it’s true or not. Truth without kindness is cruelty. The only benefit of the doubt is that I can give that man is that if he was indifferent towards wanting kids and she was the main one to want kids but at that point they shouldn’t be together anyway because I can see someone that’s not invested in a costly project (which birthing and raising a child is an objectively costly investment) not wanting to fork the bill when they’re just getting dragged along for the ride, but blaming the other partner that has an issue outside of their control for the reason as why you shouldn’t pay your dues is crazy. It just says that you don’t actually want children nor do you actually love your partner (which again, he’s not the asshole for not wanting kids or going through with IVF, he’s strictly the asshole for clumping both those issues and blaming it on his wife’s infertility).

[@mocharaskylar]

Seems like story 1 wants to be with bob but maybe bob wont commit

[@iluvnainay]

She stole his right to choose more than likely she badgered him into having a vasectomy. Which in turn he felt to have peace in his marriage to submit to his wife and the decision they made together. If she knew she did not want more children she could have had a tubal ligation to ensure that. Yet after the divorce and a change of mind (if she meets someone else) she can still have children. She's probably cock blocking thru flirting with him and false hope of them coming back together. Now that reality has set in and he realizes in his new relationship that this issue will always cause problems for him with anyone else he sees. Her crying is a way of manipulating the situation. The son is going to question the effect the father has on the mother's mood which in turn forces them to talk about it. Yet what was her motive? Yes, they need to be able to communicate because of the son and only the son. Yet she said that she missed talking and interacting with him. It leads me to think that she wants the appearance of the happy family (and the benefits) minus the drama that it brings. There are people who want to co-parent as long as it means that they give the appearance of they are together when they are not. And can cockblock the other parent from seeing someone else even though they don't want the other parent completely. He's not the ahole for setting boundaries if she still has a magnetic pull on him. Especially if it's not just his son and he's trying to be honorable in his current relationship. If he can't give his current relationship children at least the respect.

[@alysham519]

Story #2 I don’t think he’s an asshole, but that’s a lot of resentment to carry and in the long run I don’t think it’s healthy…Maddie is right he needs therapy to process those feelings. Also no shade no hate no blame, but like if you knew you wanted more kids but she didn’t wouldn’t that indicate y’all are incompatible? It makes me wonder if he was resentful of the vasectomy during the marriage because I doubt those feeling started after their “amicable divorce”. Also, don’t men usually freeze their sperm before getting a vasectomy because people tend to change their mind on having more kids? Or am I imagining that 🤔

[@TabbyWithMittens]

I think it’s an option to freeze it or not. Not 100%. Also not all places are gonna do things correctly either. Not saying they didn’t, but there’s a chance they didn’t ask if he wanted to freeze anything either.

[@LinkPizza]

Here’s my thoughts on things. First of all, the wife should have gotten her tubes tied. She was the one who didn’t want more kids. So, she should have done that. He potentially wanted more. And in the case something like this happens, he would have been ok. So, I do feel for him. Maybe he should have frozen some of his stuff first, that way he’s still be able to have more kids. That said, he does have a kid with her. But that doesn’t mean they have to be friends. While he does need to still communicate with her due to the child, he could just do shorter talks. Just about what they need to discuss without going into anything personal about their own lives. That would be a good compromise, IMO.

[@arielseescoral2607]

Sam is crazy for the vasectomy take lmaooo. If a man forced a women to get her tubes tied, we would all be pissed lol! I don’t care if I walked into that clinic, if I was being pressured or manipulated to get the procedure, yeah, he has every right to be mad! Let him grieve and be angry. He might forgive her later but right now, he should let himself feel what he feels. It is better than sucking it up and seething alone.

[@Ash-qu4pg]

one is reversible at a greater rate than the other . she didn’t force him to get one he agreed to it as far as the story goes it wasn’t an ultimatum. if it was something he didn’t want to do then she shouldn’t have done it and got a divorce then and there.

[@succubitch1054]

He mentioned nothing about being pressured or manipulated, he said himself that HE decided to do it. He's not telling the full truth, and he's tripping over his own story because he keeps saying she made him, but then not providing actual examples.

[@sophiakeele6666]

Exactly. I think him stepping back is best long term to let his anger die down. Also his ex could've thrown the word divorce around in the discussions