AITA For Divorcing My Husband Bc He Won't Clean OR Calling My Cousin "Illegitimate" | Ep 141| Reddit

[@victoriaallen7609]

The story about the surrogate INFURIATED me. I think she should sue the friend as well. You conceived a child (not with my egg), and slept with my husband, but I’m immature because I want to cut ties ? Absolutely not the AH

[@maamk1111]

she should definitely sue considering she spent a ton of money in order to have this kid- and that’s not even her biological child.

[@brixhaven1196]

@@maamk1111and she legally had parental rights, which she gave up. Meaning, if I'm not mistaken, she might be on the hook for child support if he pursues it. 😡. The lengths her "friend" went to, to sleep with her husband!

[@brie9120]

@@brixhaven1196omg i read that wrong, completely disregard my last message.

[@lucyparra2119]

Love how Madi pushed them on the first story. If he didn’t want to get married I believe he’s punishing her for marrying him.

[@DesireeDrake]

Yes! I was like you better let them know Maddie🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@jen_gone]

Yes def thank you Madi for asserting what was happening in the first story ! I understand in some cultures it is considered “traditional” for the woman to do the chores, but for this story it doesn’t sound like it’s a matter of tradition - it’s a matter of outdated views, and the man completely fooled the woman he married, and she was extremely wronged

[@byusaranicole]

First story? He's clearly an internet bro that wants a trad wife, so he basically tricked her into this. Ew. I'd be out too.

[@kalliearroyo9527]

Guy think they want trad wives, but they also want them to have a full time job. A trade wife has the time to do all the domestic labor because she didn’t have to go to work.

[@amanda2296]

My heart is breaking for the fractured arm story. I went to Reddit to see if there was an update and found a post from 3 months ago (two months after the fracture) that she's pregnant with twins with that man. They were still separated when she found out and he's pushing her to get married now. She was asking Reddit if men really change and relationships get better once children are involved. She needs far far away from him and now she's trapped it sounds like.

[@mmmmmmmmaria]

oh god :(

[@Alexacake19]

Nooo 😭

[@shidas1599]

The surrogate one is wild and that “friend” is warped in the head to act like that kid isn’t hers and that op should just shut up and raise it

[@imsoy2k]

Op is a doormat and needs to get some self respect. You can tell everyone constantly walks over her

[@HungryEyes-sl3mu]

Concerning the surrogate story, what really disturbed me was that the ex-husband said he thought he and the "surrogate" couldn't get pregnant because he would always pull out. Does that mean that he's been cheating the entire time with multiple women using the bs pull out method? Also, was the ex-bestie single at the time cause it feels like she had feelings for the ex-husband and made the offer to be their surrogate in order to get with him? In the end they are both POS and OP has every right to fully cut ties with them.

[@KeepItInLaLaLand]

He said they're married so its not his job anymore..... That's not depression or a mental health issue. He always planned to change once they got married

[@AutisticTea]

Fractured arm story: yup, abuse. My dad was the same to my mum. Also, someone acting like that is most likely cheating themselves. Cheaters often get paranoid about their partner cheating. And a lot of abusers will do the whole "I'm so sorry" flowers thing but unless they go to get help, seek therapy, support groups, etc, then they just do it again. Poor OP, she is not overreacting. Run.

[@rox1485]

No because the surrogate mother better make herself responsible now, these are the consequences to her actions !

[@snabors12]

The fact that OP's boyfriend IMMEDIATELY assumed she was cheating on him and in their home and then fractured her arm warrants an immediate breakup.

[@AutisticEthics]

Serial donors are a huge issue in the US. Also, doctors are still supplementing their own sperm without telling patients. The first person willing to speak publicly about dating her brother in HS, and them learning they were siblings after dating for years. Couples use IVF and doctors just throw out the dads donation. (Also- great episode❤)

[@michellealjunaidi8471]

I remember when my cousin 8 years old broke his leg on the trampoline at his house. My aunt made my uncle take him to the hospital and deal with the issue himself. This was in the mid 80's my aunt didn't want a trampoline in the yard as she was pregnant and wouldn't be able to watch her other 2 kids 4 and 6 properly. My uncle said it's not a big deal or something to that effect. Within 2 or 3 months of having it my cousin broke his leg. I remember my aunt had my other cousin Lily by then. So she wasn't in any condition to be dealing with her 8 year olds broken leg. I remember later at some point my dad complaining to my mom that her sister should have dealt with her son's injury. Apparently my uncle was complaining to my dad that he had to deal with a screaming kid at the hospital by himself. I remember my mom telling dad who was going to take care of a nursing newborn while his mom is gone for hours. I was 12 when all that happened. More injuries followed over the years. One time my uncle broke his wrist when he bounce off the side in 89. Even my little brother lost a tooth at 7 when my other cousin kicked him in the face while bouncing.

[@NyxtheGoddess73]

Your wife is your partner, not your maid.

[@redtaildrummer]

OMG 😂 Pastor cousin is so hilarious. Thank you Madi, your performance drew all the scenes. Great support from all 🤣❤

[@BASIL_LEAV]

A friend of mine literally got his head stuck in between the gaps of the frame and the springs/fabric once, they had to cut the fabric in order to get him out because it was closing down on his neck- same friend later on fell wrong while jumping, the side of his head hit the metal frame which caused his ear drum to rupture- that mom is definitely right for taking precautions 😭😭

[@ThatOddChickenHippie]

My sister broke a kid's arm on our trampoline. Granted, she was TRYING to hurt him because about 6 months prior, he threw a rock at her head and she had to get staples in her skull, but she didn't have to try very hard to do it.

[@brooklynbby7974]

We had a trampoline like that until one day my brother got his leg broken and we were never allowed one again

[@mignonhagemeijer3726]

I just have to think of dr Mike who made an entire video on trampolines being dangerous

[@alecia-dfcb71]

Trying not to be long winded with this response… but it probably will be. 2nd story, shes not over reacting and shes also not being overbearing. I worked in a pediatric emergency room for a decade, operating room before that. While i dont personally know anybody whos had serious tramp injuries, i have witnessed 100s of mild to severe tramp injuries. She’s not coddling her children she asking for reasonable safety accommodations. It’s not a matter of never wanting them to get hurt, they will get hurt on a trampoline no matter what, it already happened. She’s trying to decrease the likelihood of a severe injury. It’s hard not to think beyond “just an injury” when you’re not a parent but the absolute overwhelming inconvenience of having to care for a kid with say a femur fracture is enough to just install the damn net lol. I could go on about that but I will stop there. The reason i dont think the question about breaking up is doing too much is because he’s gaslighting her, saying he never said what he said and completely ignoring her concerns. Those aren’t things that just get better when you ignore them. It’s also not evidence of person willing to compromise in their relationship (to the point of just talking about how you want to raise the kids). They’re boyfriend and girlfriend this isn’t a matter of ending a marriage before trying but glad it happened before deciding to marry.

[@Miss_Kisa94]

Yep my grandmother was in the medical field for over 45 years and many of those years she was a paramedic. Every time me and my sister asked for a trampoline she would tell us a long graphic story about the children she would take to the ER. Short answer was no 😂 no trampoline.

[@alecia-dfcb71]

@@Miss_Kisa94 lol felt. I never want to be that person but everytime someone is like well “I’ve never met a person who…” I’m in my head like yea well… I’ve seen it 5 times in one weekend so…👉🏿👈🏿 lol

[@Miss_Kisa94]

@@alecia-dfcb71 my grandmother LOVES being that person 🤣

[@mignonhagemeijer3726]

This is exactly what i was thinking. Its about respecting boundaries and him refusing to compromise even a little. Thats some serious stuff. The disrespect that is underneath his responses is kind of.. yikes. I only has to think of the video i saw on youtube by dr. Mike about "why doctors hate trampolines". You have falling off an getting bruises and bumps and you have breaking stuff levels of dangerous play. The first is probably needed, the later is not.

[@alecia-dfcb71]

@@mignonhagemeijer3726 yikes exactly. He may not be saying words that we automatically clock as disrespectful but this is a time when reading between the lines is necessary. This is about a toy, essentially, what happens when it’s a more serious concern they disagree on?

[@SoftestHard444]

And it’s so sick how Maddie kept talking about OP rationalizing “ her boyfriend being a good guy..” listen once you are physically harmful towards someone else, you were no longer a good person. I don’t care the circumstances.

[@honeylipgloss]

pastor madi has me in stitches 😂 HEYYYHEYYEYYYYY GOBBLING THE GLIZZY 🗣️ GOBBLING THE GLIZZZZY 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼HAHAHAHAHAHAH

[@julieannaClark]

Fractured arm story: He already showed he wouldn't believe her in this scenario. What about the next time he goes out of control over some presumed wrong-doing? Why did he hurt you instead of trying to figure out the situation and decide if he should stay or leave? His jealousy makes him get physically violent? You can be doing nothing and he could get jealous over a man giving you attention.

[@SoftestHard444]

Men have so much empathy & understanding for men. Don’t be fooled, no one owes you another chance… Even the marriage, why because the best apology tis changed behavior. Believe what people do, believe what people do. We cannot mitigate someone else’s boundaries; we cannot determine what is too much for someone else only respect it. For some filth around the home is mentally & physically too much. Men do not understand that marriage also means pulling all of your weight… And when a woman is seen as a utility rather than being valued holistically, often times that is the reason for divorce . Plainly.

[@hannah.jo.jo27]

Trampoline story: there is a HUGE difference between risky play and unsafe play. Kids hugely benefit from risky play, however as your parent it is your responsibility to make sure the risky play is still safe from severe bodily injury. Sure, kids get scratches and scrapes, kids fall, but broken limbs ≠ risky play.

[@burdenblossom9484]

Pastor Maddi the MENACE! 😂😂😂

[@kisses2u4u]

Pastor Madi is Hillarious!! 🤣😂 I was listening while working and literally burst out laughing 😂

[@Leebragoddess]

The second story is literally the most disgusting thing I've heard , give the kid up and I hope she sues the both of them, sounds like she spent so much money on this

[@kaitlynmorgan4613]

first story cant be due to a depressive episode cause he said it "isnt my job" when confronted about no longer cleaning. he thinks cleaning is a womans job and only did it before so he could trap a woman through marriage

[@gays4wumbology396]

Fr I feel like if he were lashing out due to a depressive episode it would be some sort of “I can’t do everything!” not straight up “this isn’t my job”

[@alexsyoutubehandle]

Checking in from SC! No power but this podcast is giving me some comfort!

[@SmallsFoshizzle]

Oh no!! Hope you're staying safe❤❤❤

[@avepbellon]

Sending love and support from Louisiana!!! I hope yall are safe!!

[@avepbellon]

Sending love and support from Louisiana!!! I hope yall are safe!!

[@europa1024]

I’m from Asheville but was able to get out glad your safe

[@kamiisenseii]

Just landed, i must just compliment your guys’ camera work! The span from left to right, the editing, it has just become better over time! Great job i love you guys ❤

[@jasminefaison9800]

I had an old trampoline growing up. No net no spring cover, and it was so old if jumped one side the spring would pop off. My son has a trampoline with all the safety features 😂

[@mignonhagemeijer3726]

I do have issues with the trampoline story. I think its not about the trampoline. Its about agreeing in how to raise the kids and respescting boundaries and promises. She is having a hardline, willing to compromise and he just fumples it all. There is no excuse for that.

[@elodieelvira7913]

The supposed friend surrogate story. My first question would be why in DAFUQ was she trying to have a baby by a man that doesn’t even work??? Second question, why would the surrogate need to spend time with the husband one on one ever if they were planning on doing the implantation medically??? The universe gave her all the sign that children were not in the cards for her and she pushed and pushed and was blinded to the point of not seeing that her husband was obviously getting it on with her “friend”. We know men ain’t sh/t so I’m not even gonna waste my time on him. Ladies, open your eyes and consider who you let impregnate you or in this case who you choose to be the father of your child. Pack it up and sue them both for emotional distress

[@hi-cw3zb]

omg this is the earliest i’ve ever been 😱😱 i love the podcast!!!

[@supalonelyzae]

the consistency is consistencying 😮‍💨

[@_bloombby_]

KENNIEJD MENTION I LOVE HER SM

[@gays4wumbology396]

First story husband just sounds like a misogynist who was too cowardly to say he expects a traditional live in maid, so he played the part of a good bf until they were legally bound. Not to say having those roles in inherently bad, but to just expect that with literally no communication is wild behavior

[@davidescobales4072]

Pastor Madi has me rolling lmao😂😂😂

[@MSBap237]

30+ year old trampoline had have darn near every part replaced or been inside for most of that time to not result in injuries on jump one!

[@michaeldeltadrop782]

I just recently updated my home insurance, on of the questions my agent asked was do I own a trampoline. I'm sure it might add the same liability as owning a swimming pool

[@lollapadoozy7107]

LOVING the two videos a week!! You guys are my favorite podcast, keep it up!!

[@jenniferyvonne2355]

First story resonates with me so much. I have so much to say about that. I got out 3 years ago and it was my best decision. There were red flags throughout our whole 8 years together but we were teenagers when we first started dating. We were about to hit 30 and I finally had the wake-up call, 1/4 life crisis, go realize I couldn’t live in filth and being the only one who cared about our living quality. I also had gone on strike and he did nothing to change. We fought about that for months and then I gave up and left.

[@sarabeal8305]

My cousin's son when he was like two or three was on a trampoline and I'm not sure of the details as this boy is like 16 or 17 now, but he broke his femur or pelvis all I remember is this poor baby boy had to be in a full body cast from right below his nipples clear to his feet. They brought a little skateboard into the house so he could get on that and use his arms to get around. I can't remember how long he was in that basically full body cast but I know that when he got out he had to relearn how to walk and everything if I can help it my baby boy won't be getting on a trampoline. At least until he's close to teenage years. I would be livid if I was this mom / wife

[@honeylipgloss]

mannn yall are great. i’m in nc & i’ve been sooo sad about everything that’s happening. thanks for making today a little better 😭💗

[@Cakeontheroof]

I LOVE the new intro, so cute

[@victoria1835]

Wait I had no idea yall met at church! That makes so much sense, I love seeing these friendships 🤍

[@allisonramsey867]

Sam did you ever have people hold up the line because they refuse to order untill you sing the 5$ footlong song? Cause that use to happen to me all the time. I would just skip them and take the next order, I'm not a organ grinder monkey.

[@kalibreeze24]

If he puts his hands on you once he WILL do it again.. run

[@ValthatBish]

that next girl was a super hero lol man a therapist lol

[@scarletonyx8507]

I loved my trampoline as a kid. I had a lot of imaginary friends who would stand around the trampoline as my spotters. I was good at trampoline safety.

[@tierneyross3298]

Pastor Madi is unhinged 😂😂😂

[@kiannajohnson2757]

I'm happy y'all shouted out my girl Kennie JD! I love my faves on a collab

[@lightlouis]

Omg I can’t believe Maddie watches kennie jd

[@harleidavis6610]

Okay so the pastor acting? Gold😂😂😂

[@SoftestHard444]

NGL… 50:59… I’m gonna say something pretty radical but this is why I am not interested in listening to men discuss abuse. What he said was extremely harmful, abuse that is displayed in media is not over dramatized. Has he been an intimate basis with men and experience this harm to be able to say this. Like the lack of awareness and able to see nuance is so dangerous. This is my last lesson after this, that was just really irresponsible to say.

[@Reya_Sunshine]

Pastor Cousin Story: Subliminal...passive aggressive, you mean?...pastor aggressive lol

[@itsyaqui]

this has been y’all’s best act out 💀 maddy had me deaddd

[@LauraGoesCrazy]

damn girl the improvement on camera quality is amazing! I love to see you guys evolving

[@NaplesTrash]

46:53 girl, run!!!

[@ebsplace9907]

we have no power but we got an episode!!

[@cultbabymusic]

y'all put Nebraska on the map as far as i'm concerned

[@shaythemoonchild431]

The husband using that excuse that he thought he was impotent and therefore could sleep with her friend is so frustrating. As someone with endo, it is incredibly devastating to hear how callous he was regarding her diagnosis. He knew she had a medical condition to prevent her for getting pregnant naturally. Wheter or not he got tested(which I highly doubt he did), he should have known how heartbreaking it would be for him to conceive naturally with another woman. It’s so disrespectful to her grief and pain over her own body not allowing her to do what she wanted. Also, shoutout KennieJD, her documentary review series is hilarious! P.S. He cheated without using protection! That’s even worse, what if someone has STD or something?

[@afronativebeauty]

I looove pastor Madi!! *harmonizes in Hannah Montana* Amen 🙏 I will WRANGLE you Up! Too many quotable moments 😭😭

[@afronativebeauty]

Vega-terian

[@cristina08888]

"Don't remember what people said, but you do remember how they make you feel"-Sherk jk jk! Another great episode and love the act outs coming back! Woo!🎉

[@thesavvyaccountant]

I worked at McDonald's for 5 years and as a manager I had my crew's back for ANY rude customer! We had drinks thrown at us and threw them back lol but I definitely had managers who never had my back with rude customers. Customers are NOT always right lol

[@zenfriend3260]

Lol the trampoline story : “injuries give kids character” ok but what about broken necks and clots? Does d**th build character?

[@lindseyh8617]

THE ENDING ATE AND LEFT NO CRUMBS

[@J_Themborn]

36:42 the god lights as he speaks 🔆

[@amylie7879]

I had no idea you guys knew each other for so long!

[@Ks-eo9no]

Thank u for posting so much 🫠🫠🥹🫶🏻

[@ZaraKimori]

Gobble the glizzy is crazy 🤣

[@coldspaghittie8785]

The one about the fiance hurting her, i went to the users profile and apparently shes pregnant with twins its a bit sad she was asking if he'll change after becoming a father if they're girls he'll probably be just as controling and make them grow up in unwarranted shame ive seen this sort of thing and its just...just sad

[@rileynarsh7716]

This act out had meee Love the pod ❤

[@Alexacake19]

Pastor Madi is so unhinged 💀💀💀

[@Gxport]

That finger pointing demonstration was HILARIOUS 😅 1:10:01 I have never seen someone try pointing with all 5 of their fingers before 🤣

[@arielseescoral2607]

They dropped this and made me think it was Tuesday 💀

[@MSBap237]

Gobble the Glizzy was CRIMINAL!

[@ValthatBish]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🧯 cant take the heat stay out the kitchen lol dying 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@michellejanice5501]

2 vids a week now 🥳🥳🥳

[@hungrywarlock7333]

The “therapist” needs their license revoked for pulling that shit

[@Ks-eo9no]

Love u guys ❤️so muuuuuuuuuuuuuch This episode’s actout was so good

[@jessmtnz]

I have NEVER caught a CLP within 5 hrs of release 😊

[@kikialeaki1850]

Bruh. Allowing kids to experience riskier play is one thing. But nurses and doctors alike will tell you that trampolines are very dangerous. A lot don’t allow them for their own children. BUT if you want one, do get a net, supervise younger children, check its features regularly, put in a rule of only one person on it at a time and a rule of no twisting your body/somersaults. People who allow for injuries to build character are so fkn weird.

[@roccafille]

That surrogate one is for sure a lie. The clinic wouldn't lie about a succesful IVF session. Come on, be a bit critical... This is such a fan fic 😂

[@mignalyortiz4589]

First story, she needs to get her stuff out and divorce him. Cleaning is no longer his job anymore bc you're now in charge of him.

[@Leebragoddess]

I mean they should give him the benefit of the doubt , I'd ask him if he's depressed or willing to get help before divorcing him. Then her going to her friend's house did she communicate before going that I just wonder. Because how do you go from cleaning up to allowing bugs & food water . Like that's gross

[@Bealtesmaniac]

6 mins is craaaaazy

[@kalliearroyo9527]

On the story of the truck driver guy who broke OPs arm. I suspect she grew up in poverty and a “good man” is equal to financial security.

[@ValthatBish]

and sue that mother sue her for everything

[@tiffanyross4266]

What is the deal with calling his mother on you?

[@Idontgiveaturtle]

If I found out my son wasn’t biologically mine it wouldn’t change how I feel about him for a second. I couldn’t imagine these people ever loved their kids if they can just walk away like this.

[@kayyyykay]

Early ottoman checking in

[@NanaScorpianaB]

9:35 she needs to leave this man.

[@ValthatBish]

DONT FALL FOR LOVE BOMBING

[@adrianamejia2478]

WHOSE MY DAD BRANDON 😭

[@pikes_panic]

Kennie J.D mention!

[@jillianlurie6762]

“What he did is still trash” pun intended

[@aprildotson8016]

I think I'm a groupie for Josh 🥰☺️

[@janetwelch1435]

The story reenactment 😂😂😂

[@ValthatBish]

ok im so sorry for being so mean about the surrogate but dang that is such a hard sorry to hear

[@SarahKaterpillar]

I recommend you look into the background of love languages. They come from a sketchy guy with sketchy motives and they aren't proven at all. We don't have single love languages- it's much more important that we know and understand our partners so we can give them what they need in the moment. Sometimes it might be doing them a favor, or giving a gift, or holding them, or any number of other things that are appropriate to the situation. Love languages are an attempt to shortcut actually being attuned to your partner and accepting that as the best you can expect.