AITA for not letting my husband MEET our FIRST BORN CHILD? DUSTY THUNDER REACTS!

[@razredge07]

The audacity of Anna to think she even has a chair at the table of their marriage. Definitely a sign of an affair partner.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Ain't that some bull that Anna's brother is the one person who was 100% honest with OP even after finding out she had no clue that she'd been 'left' by her husband and he was 'dating' Anna out in the open. That brother gets the MVP for at least opening OP's eyes wide to the situation. What a crap husband and OP needs to make sure Anna does NOT contact her directly ever again. Oh, and that OP goes for 100% custody!

[@taylerkolin3075]

I dont know if Anas brother really gets MVP for that because he seemingly stumbled into that by accident and we don't know how it was revealed. As far as he was aware, OP already knew all this; or at least that her husband was "single". It was nice that he asked her how she was doing, but I'm sure he was either confused as to why her sisters boyfriends Ex was calling to check in on him or trying to be polite in sharing concern for her 'situation post break up' since she was checking on him.

[@reavenlove]

​@taylerkolin3075 im guessing if these were all long-term relationships OP and Anna's brother probably knew each other pretty well. Maybe.

[@CelticShrew]

Petty Betty me says to somehow get it written into the custody agreement that Anna isn't allowed around the kid.

[@merlinathrawes746]

Next to impossible to enforce unless stbx-hubby is only allowed SUPERVISED visitation.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

​@@merlinathrawes746What makes you think he won't be granted SUPERVISED visitation?

[@sarahcarrasco]

He's a cheater. Anna is a grown a adult. Who misses the birth of their child for another woman? A cheater. Anna was then rude to the wife! Wtaf.

[@HaleyJo1992]

The fact Anna even asked that he leave his heavily pregnant wife who's had multiple losses tells you everything you need to know about the type of person she is, even if there were no cheating involved.

[@tohrurikku]

If he told Anna that he left his wife and he is on his own it would make sense for Anna to expect him to be by her side instead of his ex when she is giving birth. She could be thinking that OP is still mad he left her and is trying to get attention, and that is why Anna did not answer the phone when the baby was being born. If husband spun it that OP did not let him see the baby because she is still mad he left her for Anna then the phone call could make sense too.

[@michellenowlin6037]

He would have been redeemable-ish had he come when the call finally went through but he is now screwed cause he dragged ass cause "Anna needed me"

[@paigerowe1090]

I hate how OP feels the need to defend herself in all the edits because of all the dumb f’s of Reddit

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Reddit is full of smelly bullies who live in their mom's basements.

[@shannen7917]

What a disgusting excuse of a man, husband, and father. I hope OP gets full custody

[@tjkoko9349]

@@shannen7917 Yup. Anna can have him. It's what she deserves.

[@tjkoko9349]

Yep. Anna can have him. It's what she deserves.

[@JemFabulous]

I could get past him nit giving a crap about me, but to not give a single crap about OUR child is the most unforgivable part. He doesn't deserve a relationship with that child. They both have shown that they prioritize themselves over a child. They'll be awful caregivers. File for full custody!

[@DamiesEvilTwin]

Are you kidding me!? What the fuck. Did he just EXPECT that it would be another loss?? He started cheating at 7 months, did he think she'd just miscarry or stillbirth again?? Jfc. What a monster.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

If he expected a stillbirth, that's even worse. He left her alone with no support.

[@14hoursahead]

Had a family member who did something similar. He and his (first) wife at the time had two babies, Irish twins, and he suddenly left one day to be with a coworker who was having a baby and had no one else. Turns out he was the baby daddy. Years later, she became the third wife. Super stressful, super dramatic, lots of lies and bad decisions. About ten years later the parents are all okay but the kids are having a hard time.

[@NenaSinclair]

I don't believe hubby and "friend" are just friends.

[@RissaGrrArg]

🎯

[@jannafolsom1069]

Lol. They aren't! Did you finish the story?

[@tenny37]

5:04 emotional affair. Doesn't even matter if they weren't sleeping together. He chose another woman over his wife and child. He's gone.

[@chellepeterson9719]

He’s been openly dating Anna since 7th month of pregnancy!

[@roselover411]

Once I heard husband and Anna both 'misplaced' their phones, I was suspicious. I'm just disappointed that I ended up being right.

[@taylerkolin3075]

I pity the hell out of Anna that she was essentially trying to advocate for her "boyfriend" getting to continue his normal family life with his wife. That womans self worth must be somewhere below the gutter if she's not only willing to be the other woman, but trying to help keep his family life in tact. She's a scumbag, but that's saaaad.

[@reavenlove]

This story is absolutely heartbreaking.... 😞

[@teresamarler5806]

During custody, mom can have a stipulation that says non-related females are not allowed to live in the house with her daughter. And if he does get remarried, an evaluation with a specialist will be completed at his expense to help ease the transition of a new stepmother.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

OP's husband better hope his child never asks OP a question that makes any variation of "He wasn't there" an appropriate response. My father was busy cheating when I was born and five years later when my sister was born. This is a recent discovery and he lied when I tried to talk to him about it. He does that a lot, and he's crappy at it. Now, I know why I was not supposed to tell my mom about this particular female "friend" he had when I was a kid, and the fact that I DID spill the beans almost immediately makes me very happy. I'm weeks away from my 40th birthday and it still makes me intensely angry that my dad chose a romp with a terrible human being over my mother and the birth of his children. There's a good chance that OP's husband will realize at some point that Anna wasn't worth losing his wife over. That's the situation my father found himself in, and my mom was done with him at that point. It's been 32 years since she left him and he still asks me occassionally if I think she'll give him another chance. Absolutely not. I really doubt Anna was worth it, guy.

[@NicoleBrown-oc7je]

Wow, not surprised.Still appalled. I hope Op and baby get to live a blessed life with all the love and support they deserve.

[@HaleyJo1992]

Don't dive into the oven, Dusty! You have so much to live for!

[@HuntingForHannah]

Wow poor woman that plot twist hope he regrets it what an Ascon 1 Brozo 😢😢

[@ladylauraanne]

NTA. Wow. Husband is a total POS. Anna will always come first, even over his own baby. Waiting 5 hours? OH HELL NO. Why get married to someone else when he OBVIOUSLY wants to be with Anna?

[@colleenswiggum1940]

So Hubby has been with Anna since she was around 7 months pregnant. I hope he likes being a weekend 'dad'.

[@TracyHiggins-i4j]

Kinda hoping for "reservist dad" one weekend a month, 2 weeks a year.

[@merlinathrawes746]

Hubby screwed up, no doubt about it. OP WASN'T in labor when he left home. But "misplacing" his phone when his wife could give birth at any moment is inexcusable. And then not coming as quickly as you can when you do get the message is even worse. His friend, Anna, DID HAVE a support system even if she's not overly close to them, so there's really no excuse for that. BUT... OP compounded the situation, maybe justifiably, maybe not, by not letting the father of his child meet the child as soon as possible and talking divorce. On top of that, Anna could have taken a taxi/Uber to the hospital where her brother was or asked her parents to take her instead of driving herself and taking OP's husband away at that time. Given the info in the updates, NTA! Hubby has been cheating, not just seeing an old friend and he's been telling everyone that he and OP split... WHILE SHE WAS 7 MONTHS PREGNANT! Hubby is scum and I hope OP gets full custody and a healthy amount of child support as well as alimony.

[@frigid4real]

I'm so sick. I'm binge watching your videos! 😊😊😊😊 love the Thunder family! (Miss.Helene)

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I'm sick too right now! 🎉 Lol. Feel better!

[@dhwriter0724]

I would have figured something was suspicious when the excuse was that he misplaced his phone. I don't know what the date was on this story, but it's 2025. I guarantee most people have their phones in their pockets most of the time.

[@clemencesi6536]

OP should get with Anna's brother.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I love your petty.

[@lillipupsmum8820]

How awful that he left her to give birth alone. Especially after a number of previous miscarriages and then when she put that she had previously suffered a stillbirth, completely unforgivable. Definitely divorce and tbh with how little he obviously cared about the baby’s health and wellbeing at birth I would only allow supervised visitation. Because I wouldn’t be able to trust that he would be able to give a child all the attention it required to keep safe. Especially if Anna ‘needed’ him.

[@user-wi2yc8qd4u]

0:21 red flag already this is why you don’t put up those “friendships”. He shouldn’t have even told Anna it’s none of her business. NTA

[@aprilsoutherland9309]

husband and Anna probably won't last anyway. they were ex's for a reason. I'll bet that now she truly has broken up his marriage she will kick him to the curb.

[@paylove5173]

This story is like a Chinese drama

[@stephanieshupe3985]

He and Anna spent the day having sex, hence when they didn't answer the phone. Then he was told his wife was in labor and he spent another five hours to get there. He dismissed the labor and birth to spend more time with his girlfriend because they no longer mattered, not as much as his girlfriend. Then he has the audacity to cry because his wife wants him to get out of her hospital room. Because he thought he could have a woman to cook and clean and take of the baby so he only to do fun baby stuff. Then he gets to have fun times and sex with Anna without having to do boring things like chores and child rearing. He got to be a bachelor and a 1950's husband. Absolutely divorce his ass. Get everything you can, including 100% custody. You grow strong through this, and you and your daughter live the best life ever. For the cheaters, with all the variables, it's highly unlikely their relationship will go the distance. All the things he found boring (laundry, cooking, dusting) he'll have to for himself, or with Anna if they live together. They'll see that wow, all the responsibilities they didn't have to worry about together they have to now, and that will dull that shine real quick. May they both have the life they deserve.

[@user-wi2yc8qd4u]

Wooooow he was cheating on his pregnant wife 💔

[@groomer537]

something going on with him an anna .. this so wrong

[@tigerzeschy]

1. When your wife/fiancée/girlfriend is so many weeks along in pregnancy, you do NOT go without your phone and honestly shouldn’t be more than 30 minutes away unless your work requires that. It’s even worse when there have been miscarriages and/or stillbirth(s). 2. Anna absolutely could have and should have called someone else. She needs to get her own friends. 3. The ONLY thing he should have done was drop Anna off and gone straight back home. 4. He chose another woman over his wife and child. 5. As soon as he knew about the birth he should have hauled a$$ there. 6. There is ABSOLUTELY NO excuse for him to not have gone straight home. 7. He should have ONLY had apologizes for his screw up. 8. Anna needs to keep her opinion to herself. 9. This is why men and women, especially exes, can’t be friends. 10. NO one should come before your wife! 11. She did NOT use the baby against her husband. She has made choices based on his choices. You don’t like the consequences of your choices, make better choices. 12. Again, this is why men and women can’t be friends, especially exes. One or both always has feelings. Being friendly for the kids is different. 13. He’s a POS for being with someone else while his wife is pregnant. 14. Anna is a wh0re. Women shouldn’t be with a man who left their pregnant wife/fiancée/girlfriend. That’s what makes her that. 15. Been through this situation. The other woman absolutely resented my child and abUsed her by alienating her from me so the other woman could try and forget I ever existed. Made worse because my child looks exactly like me.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Spot on!

[@claravignaud8119]

Anna has the classic mistress syndrome. She doesn't realise that how you get a cheater is how you will lose them. Hopefully karma will avenge OP.

[@user-wi2yc8qd4u]

6:01 um i dont understand why he took her in the first place, she knew what she was doing.

[@Rainbowofthefallen]

❤️🧡

[@tohrurikku]

It is possible that Anna did not know he was still with OP. He could be playing both of them. Wonder if the friend is going to be mad at the hubby for lying and for making his sister the side piece. Really hope that if Anna knew he was still with OP that she realizes she is officially the side chick, and the reason she may upgrade is only because OP dumped him.

[@jenniferhoisington66]

I don't care He missed the birth of HIS child

[@elle45789]

52 bleeps in 5 minutes. way too hard. why not just leave the words out?

[@leebrown6247]

Hubs is an AH of the highest level. He deserves the divorce. But she’s an AH for refusing to allow the child’s biological father to see the baby. Using kids to punish the spouse is not ok.

[@TracyHiggins-i4j]

One day of not meeting the child you were too busy having sex with your side piece to even see born is NOT going to ruin the parent child relationship. What's going to ruin the parent child relationship is all the times going forward where he fails to show up for his kid because he chooses Anna.

[@147salsa]

The husband should sue for custody. Specifically because your DAUGHTER IS NOT YOURS MAAM It is both of yours, and you do NOT have the right to keep him from her.. Using your child as a weapon against him is disgusting and petty You decided to make a baby with him and therefore he is 50% parent. I loathe women who want to use their child like a weapon. You don't get to decide NOW that you don't want your child to be like him?? 😂😂😂

[@claravignaud8119]

You do realise that both the baby and OP could have died during the birth, right ? OP's ex doesn't earn the title of dad. Because if he was concerned about his child well-being he wouldn't have missed his daughter's birth !