AITAH For leaving my husband and stepdaughter stranded on Christmas? (HOW COULD HE?!?) - REACTION

[@IwanaB1]

Here I am upset by this story and expecting OP to call an uber. but no, she peeled off with the presents. I cheered out loud. Best stand up for yourself moment I've heard in a while

[@ssamelion1sard914]

Notice the ex wife easily believed OP? Yeah, she's been there too. Also, where was the 2nd small gift he claimed to have for her?

[@callanightshade8079]

He didn't have one. You know he didn't My guess is he knew his daughter would want it so he was biding his time

[@ladymorrigan5950]

@@callanightshade8079I had wondered about that too. There’s no mention of the alleged gift later. Even if that part were true he didn’t have to leave it (purse) in the car for daughter to see.

[@PinkieJoJo]

Oh hell no. That marriage needs to end now. Women lease stop allowing yourselves to feel this way. Men who have shitty wives. Please stop letting them make you feel this way too. Life is too short to spend it being treated like crap.

[@Lovelybug777]

Why is she making dinners for him? Still why is she still in the same bed as him. Oh no I would stop all of those services. His precious little daughter can come and cook for him.

[@vellathewench]

This is not was it means to choose your child over everyone else. This is making a spoiled brat and telling your spouse she is nothing. So disrespectful. I hope OP gets out of this relationship. It's over.

[@carrieschnug9830]

She saved and paid For half! It was NOT his to give away! Shame on him

[@carrieschnug9830]

Goodwoman! He blew it! And I think it’s over. Sad. But true. Not about the bag. But complete disrespect.

[@rainyday2456]

She was already settling for the bare minimum from him, she has to pick out her own presents. He showed no appreciation for her at all, but expected her to do all for him and his child. As soon as he saw the purse, he knew he’d give it to his daughter. He told her that he couldn’t afford another gift for her, but then all of a sudden he had something extra to put in it. Plus if he had given it to his daughter, why did he wait and not tell her. She found out how little he loves/respects/appreciates her when she turned around and saw his daughter with her bag, he doesn’t like his wife. He was only using her for what she could do for him, he doesn’t love let alone like her.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

I think he planned to give his daughter the purse the whole time. Edit: I agree that there's no turning back from indifference. When my ex-husband finally pushed me too far, this sense of calm came over me and my mind was made up. I wasn't sad. I wasn't hurt. I just wanted out.

[@michelleflorentine8036]

Exactly...otherwise where is supposed already purchased gift he used as an excuse to hold on to the purse while he went to pick up his daughter? There was no other gift and he 100% intended on giving it to his daughter. He's shown her over and over how little he appreciates her by giving her "what she deserves" which in his opinion is nothing. She needs to pack his stuff up for him and leave the divorce papers sitting on top for when he gets back.

[@jacymo]

I was so mad listening to this, I actually started pacing. Girl, it’s over. I don’t throw around the divorce chant lightly, but divorce is the only healthy option moving forward.

[@JaclynBroviak]

My EX was exactly like this…said the exact words “you’re not my mother.” But would expect me to shop for his mother and expect something from me on Father’s Day. I was a stay at home mom. I watched my gfs daughter so I would save money to get him something only to hear him say “let me see what I got myself this year!” I was done after that! He never helped with the kids. Refused to even grill. I cut the grass, shoveled the snow, all housework…bc “I wanted to be a stay at home mom so don’t bitch about it now!” Our youngest had to be resuscitated after birth. It was traumatizing to say the least. I could not leave him to return to work. As a toddler he was in speech and occupational therapy 3 days a week for years. All while taking my gfs infant with me who I watched 12hrs a day and had a preschooler plus 2 older children. I was exhausted and NEVER appreciated in any way. Our son started kindergarten in August, I went back to work the same day, saved money, and filed for divorce in November!!! Four years later, I started a new job and met my current husband who I’ve been with for 3 years. This man! Oh my! We cook together, clean up the kitchen together, he will help me do everything and anything without me asking even laundry! I help him with the yard work and everything else. He makes my plate and doesn’t let anyone start eating until mom is at the table. I get weird when he gives me presents bc I’m not used to feeling loved or having someone do something just bc they were thinking of me! Do not settle for less than what you deserve! ❤❤❤❤

[@amyschell4511]

What is up with that? Where you have a kid and he says You're not my mother. Two ex husbands have told me that. Wild

[@jenniferhoisington66]

I hope your ex is finding out just how much you did for him now that you're not there to do it for him

[@Mindyisawesome]

While he was gone I'm packing my stuff and leave.like bye

[@Lovelybug777]

This broke my heart! Made me so angry! How hard is it to say no! I guess it is difficult to tell his daughter no. This man allow his little snoopy daughter go through bag she shouldn’t be going through. He let this little brat manipulate him and he just gave in. Honestly, I could’ve snatched that purse back. I think i have an idea of what the purse is that boiling my blood even more because of 16 year-old girl does not need an expensive designer bag. This makes me so sick and breaks my heart that people really go through this type of stuff. I hope she took every single one of those gifts back to the store.

[@sandramatras8345]

AND she should spend ALL the money on a new purse!!!

[@jenniferhoisington66]

Or at the very least a 16 year old who's clearly a fashionista can get a job at said designer purse store and use her own money and employe discounts and earn it for herself

[@Lovelybug777]

@@sandramatras8345 that’s what I would’ve done. But I’m a very vindictive person. I think I spent way too much of my youth being a pushover and a people pleaser I think after 25 that shit stopped in immediately and as I got older, I stopped being the bigger person and I started to match energy..😂😂 I think for me it would be so easy for me to just take every single of those gifts back and buy my purse.

[@tamayres1554]

I've never been so hard core team divorce before I don't think

[@nicolejenkins2609]

Had an ex like that- made holidays miserable for everyone else but he wanted birthday presents and Christmas - he was a self-absorbed narcissist and he changed my life. He made me numb to holidays, made me expect problems and pushback, and to put myself last. It took years to snap back- and the love of a good person. My regret is my daughter experienced and saw this. Remember our kids share cells with us and we can’t suffer without them feeling it. The effects on her self esteem was something I never wanted. For you, for your son- leave.

[@redthecalicocatdragon1610]

No matter what, it was already HER purse he had NO right to give it away to ANYBODY, he literally stole it from her at that point

[@MrsLauraD]

Unfortunately, the damage is done. There's no fixing this. Even if he took the purse back from the daughter and gave it to OP, it would mean nothing. If it was me, I could never see the purse and not feel pain. I would never be able to carry that purse. He couldn't even replace the purse with another and make it better.

[@cicichambers3887]

It would be a USED purse at that point

[@tigerzeschy]

My ex husband was like this. His mother kept WAY overstepping boundaries. He refused to do anything. I told him I was going to get her the book called Boundaries unless he wanted to pick something out because I was tired of doing it all. He didn’t think I’d do it. I did. She was not happy. He was pissed. Oh well. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@dustythunder]

This is amazing. A book called boundaries. This should be a story of it's own!

[@StudlyFudd13]

This is amazing

[@tigerzeschy]

@ lol it’s a long story that didn’t exactly end there. Part of why he’s my ex husband though.

[@mangamegbe]

It’s time for her to leave. She’s indifferent and it’s done. He has repeatedly shown her that she means nothing to him. It wasn’t about the purse. The purse was just a symbol of how little he cared in a long line of not caring. I can’t believe he tried to reach for her in bed. Like sir you get no fun time you suck.

[@cicichambers3887]

My kids' dad was just as bad in fact worse. We had a business and bought the Hillshire Farms whatever they're called cheese boxes for our best customers. I wrapped them and drop them off to our various good customers. Come Christmas morning I got nothing and he came up to me later and gave me one of the wrapped cheese boxes

[@baloonangel]

Been married for 23 years and never once did I feel unloved like they said it takes hard work and hes worth all the work

[@katherinepfister4177]

If she is indifferent to him I think they should look into a divorce. His daughter is going to have a hard time adjusting to the real world when she gets out of her parents houses’. He shows her repeatedly that his daughter means more to him than she ever will. She should leave.

[@razredge07]

This is why stories like "The Giving Tree" are so awful. This woman convinced herself that if she gave it her all then she'd be appreciated. Instead, she was predictably exploited and unappreciated over and over and over again. Yes, giving is important but so is receiving. You can't pour from an empty cup and you will always have an empty cup if your partner doesn't pour back into yours.

[@jambalie]

It wasn't just a purse, it was a symbol.

[@dustythunder]

EXACTLY!

[@jannafolsom1069]

That is by far the most sad story I've heard. 😢

[@daorignaldumbucket]

A thoughtful gift says "I love you and listen to you. I spent the time and resources to get you this because I care for you." This applies to bought or handmade gifts

[@stephanieshupe3985]

Absolutely nta. The husband and daughter are unbelievable. Take your son and leave them behind. Know that you are deserve love, respect, and peace, and I hope you find them.

[@josabby474]

I hope all the relatives who sided with OP withheld returned the nice gifts they got the entitled stepdaughter and got their money back. OP is NTA for ditching the husband and step daughter at the gas station, but she is TA to herself if she doesn’t get out of that marriage.

[@juancortes5274]

I could never!!!!!!!!! 😮 Op needs to find a new husband.

[@Goblue373]

I hope we get an update

[@dustythunder]

Me too! Let us know if you find one!

[@claravignaud8119]

An update statint that she left him with divorce paper while he was at work, hopefully !

[@tohrurikku]

He knew he did wrong, and that is why he did not tell her what he did till she seen the purse. This was the last straw for OP. She gave him plenty of chances, and he kept showing her that she does not matter to him. Bet he thought, "oh she will forgive me like usual." Apparently he must have treated his ex just like this too, as she understood when OP told her.

[@Sara_LAW]

So I’d love to know what the other thing was that he got her that he was putting in the purse? She doesn’t say if she ever got that piece of Christmas present.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Gave it to the daughter, I assume.

[@Lovelybug777]

Yo she made another post 20 days before she made this post, it’s about her sd, and she made a deal with her about her grades and staying pure, keeping language clean,😂 but she said she that if she kept her word, she would owe her a couple of grant at the end of this semester! I was shocked Pikachu face! I hope she takes whatever money she saved up that she was supposed to give her stepdaughter and bought herself a new purse. I really hope she’s really to slam that hammer down because this will continue to happen.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

No way OP will give that spoiled brat the money.

[@alicedelgado955]

WHY IS SHE STILL WITH THEM???

[@DawnKellyMedia]

@alicedelgado955 sometimes people don't have enough respect for themselves. Or they think they'll never find anyone else. Or they've been brainwashed by their church to stay in horrible relationships. Who knows, but it's sad.

[@stephaniedavis9404]

I can totally see "The Slappable Jerk" doing this.

[@nightmare_jeanie]

This story really hurt me. My parents had an absolutely horrible relationship all the way up until my dad passed away. They modeled practically everything a loving couple should not do. But one thing I can say is this: my dad always got my mother gifts. Although he was absolutely not above pranking her because my mom had a terrible habit of taking sneak peaks. One year, he put her gift (which was small and jewelry) in a huge box for like a vacuum or something that he weighed down with rocks and wrapped. She peeled open the wrapping and got super angry seeing like cheap vacuum on the box. She gave my dad the cold shoulder and attitude the whole morning. Everyone gathered around to open gifts, and my dad kept trying to get my mom to unwrap it, but she would give him dirty looks and say no, let's save it till last. When it came time, she angrily unwrapped it and my dad made a quip about opening the box so they could test it out on the dirty carpet (he was behind the couch us kids were sitting on so she couldn't reach him) and after her .... admittedly strong reaction, she opened the box, to find another box, then after opening the other 5 or so boxes she finally made it to the heart which was a set of slightly expensive jewelry. She did apologize for not only peeking but being mean after lol. Bonus was, my mom quit peeking at gifts after that. My husband is absolutely atrocious at gift giving. Mostly because he puts it off until the very last second and then doesn't have time to get anything good. This year, I brokenly cried that I was sick of buying my own Christmas gifts on top of everyone else's gifts. My husband, with his TBI n all, managed to buy me gifts (several of which arrived late, lol) and while not perfect, he tried to get my favorite perfume (he got the right brand but wrong scent, lol), some other things that he thought I'd like. My point is, she needs to leave him. My husband has his faults, but if he pushes me to the point of a breakdown, he actually stops, listens to me, and does better. She deserves better and it's time she go out and find it!

[@DawnKellyMedia]

She needs to file for divorce. I do like the idea of her treating him like crap and refusing to speak to him. Let him suffer while she goes to a lawyer and takes half the bank accounts.

[@katie6731]

I don't think it's treating him like crap to not consent to sex and to not fill his plate and serve him at the table. She's still cooking for him, and he's perfectly capable of filling his own plate and walking from the kitchen to the table. The fact that he has tried to initiate sex multiple times, when that has resulted in her crying each time, just reinforces how destructively selfish he is.

[@angel_t3338]

My ex always bought himself something for Me on my birthday. Well, haha, those are mine now after the divorce.

[@hannavuorio83]

I asked one of my ex 19€ necklace for christmas gift, he gave me 400€ sewingmachine. I almost hit him with it while crying and after this i moved out from our home because i felt nothing toward him...

[@joeys-mama]

I say it’s over. This would have been the last straw for me.

[@katemarr1984]

💯 NTA!!!!

[@monicamiller5503]

NTA. That was the straw that broke the purse’s straps. Husband and stepdaughter are jerks.

[@Mizumii25]

You can just TELL that the stepdaughter knew it was wrong because of how she said she got it! HE knew it was wrong because of his reaction too! He is ENABLING his daughter and sacrificing OP for it. Divorce him! PLEASE OP divorce him! Put yourself first this time! MAKE THEM put you first this time by giving you the best present you could have right now: divorce. Make him remove that physical, emotional, and mental shackle from you by signing that slip of paper. All I can think of is the dad from Matilda. Everything for his wife and son but nothing for his daughter. Just in this case, it's the reverse. Everything for his daughter, nothing for his wife and step son. Dusty says it all the time. 2 happy homes are better than 1 miserable home. Give your son the happy him both you and him deserve. Please.

[@NicoleBrown-oc7je]

Op had also contributed to that purse. NTA. The whole level of selfishness is amazing. Is he worth it?

[@dustythunder]

How would you guys react in this situation? Gimme the details y'all!

[@DawnKellyMedia]

This is what I would do: At this point, they no longer have a marriage. He has NEVER shown OP that he cares because he has never bought her a gift until now. He only bought the purse because she did nothing for Father's Day. He's spoiling his rotten daughter and has shown that he will never care enough about his wife. And after this, he's reaching for her in bed??? This guy is a selfish asshole who will never change. OP is too broken and it's too late. I would've left them at the gas station too. While he's out of town, she should see a lawyer and move her money to a private account. And I guarantee he will be SHOCKED when he's served those divorce papers.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I have a twin (golden child) every year people gave her expensive gifts i got cheap thing. So i didn't celebrate my birthday anymore. Most people only came for her.. when i became a mum i bought every birthday gift and christmas gift.. i never get gifts. Most of the time others have 5 to 10 presents and i just sit there.. and i love it to see my daughters and partner happy with there gifts. This year they all got from my inlaws 500 dollar each. I got nothing from them. But truth be told my youngest ģot me my favorite horrormovie on dvd. Mine was old on videotape😅. It was my first and only gift ever and something i realy liked.

[@carrieschnug9830]

Divorce! Soiled child!

[@someonedifferent198]

What a huge coward!! (The husband I mean)

[@ChrissaTodd]

I read the comments to this post and I am gonna re comment cause it seems like maybe he lied about his daughter doing that so she blamed the daughter over him, he probably just gave it to her regardless

[@cicichambers3887]

So what was the outcome ?!

[@MondliNgwenya.]

After God, fear indifference. It's over for this relationship... in my humble opinion

[@ChristinaLocke-howard-k9l]

HE'S INCONSIDERATE he has no care.op nta

[@margielou6914]

My ex pulled the “you’re not my mom” for Mother’s Day… my EX…

[@groomer537]

he is thought less.. divorce

[@christineheminger7762]

10:33 I realize it’s not really the point, but what about the extra present he was going to put inside? Was that a lie or did that go to SD also? Or did he try to ķẽẽp the pẽãçẽ (meant to be read in a sneering tone of voice because the loser in the situation is usually asked to lose more and pretend to be happy about it when that phrase is applied) by giving her that alone?

[@DawnKellyMedia]

OP received NOTHING. Probably went to the daughter.

[@merlinathrawes746]

OP, I hope you returned all the presents that were meant to go to the stepdaughter and your so-called husband. IMO I'd be looking for a divorce lawyer as I doubt he sees anything wrong with what he did.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

So, did the girl's mother give OP back her purse? I'm guessing not and that make her a part of the problem too. It was bad enough what OP's husband did, but his ex not taking any action after hearing all the facts makes her just as bad. I think OP should start packing either her things or his next time he is on the road and just get the hell out. That comment was right; once you are just numb and neutral about a partner and the crap they pull, you are done, and your brain knows it.

[@tudor282]

Why are these people together?

[@Rainbowofthefallen]

🤍

[@Kevinb1821]

All the women on here if the other way around would be saying it’s always your kids over any man. If he’s upset it’s his problem and he’s a narcissist. Every man is a narcissist. Not saying she’s wrong. She’s in the right but finally a story that puts a woman in the shoes of most men in a relationship and maybe you should also think about how your man feels

[@jennyjunemoon-walker8739]

😂. Okay.

[@aralornwolf3140]

@@jennyjunemoon-walker8739, As a man, I'm offended on behalf of most women. May I laugh with you?

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Every Man is a narcissist?? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You need to pick better men. That's on you.

[@cicichambers3887]

I made sure my ex-husband got anything he wanted that I could afford. I went without so that he could have. He did not appreciate it and many Christmases. I got nothing so screw that.

[@analyticalchick3064]

Yup blended familes... They end up loving their kids more than their spouses.

[@Kal93baby]

That's not always true since Dusty and Candy are a blended family and they all love each other. This is just a pos husband

[@roselover411]

Wild that you would comment this on a video made by a blended family.

[@Vox-Multis]

Parents are supposed to love their kids more than their spouses. But this story has nothing to do with love.

[@jenniferhoisington66]

not alawys

[@roselover411]

@@Vox-Multis also this. I thought about editing my comment to add this but you got it covered