AITA For Taking My Husband's Ex Wife's Side Over His On A Parenting Decision?

AITAH For Taking My Husband's Ex Wife's Side Over His On A Parenting Decision?
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[@sashaking1115]

Poor poor Riley. I feel terrible for her

[@constantinanghelus5001]

NTA. OP's husband is wrong. I feel one of the reasons he acts that way though is because he feels guilty that his daughter was SA'd, especially since it happened in their home, and now he takes the fact that Riley doesn't wanna spend time there personally (maybe he feels like he failed as a father) and feels attacked by Madeline (blame shifting).

[@Cheese_Heel]

I got to say no AHs here. Riley is going through a lot right now so obviously she is not an AH. Her mom is trying to do what she feels is best for her daughter which is definitely understandable. But the dad is in a tough spot no matter what. To him it seems he is being pushed out of her recovery process/life. Also, that he probably feels like he failed to protect her (I am sure the mom felt the same why). Now with what she is asking it would feel and seem like Riley holds him responsible somehow. OP is trying to be supportive and understanding to everyone but she is putting the child first. This is just a dumpster fire of a situation all around

[@storyteller5557]

So a relative from the dads side did awful things to her It's perfectly natural for her to gravitate towards her mom who probably will never have visits from that side of the family. And given its dad's brother's son I can't imagine she would be very comfortable at a place where any relatives on the side of the cousin can show up at any time. Also given that the OP did tell her parents despite her not wanting to it might also make the place more inhospitable for her perception. The dad wanting to be with his daughter isn't wrong but he's an adult who's not even the direct victim and really needs to put her well being on top of everything first.

[@Garoslol]

YTA "I leave the major parenting decisions and tough love to Aiden and Madeline." Is that a lie since OP seems really involved in the end? Poor Riley but you cant just dismiss the worries of your husband.

[@legiontepes3474]

Yes, yta. I feel sorry for Riley but op shows 0 empathy for her husband. He feels like he failed to protect his daughter and also rejected. Op has a heart of stone.