AITA For Telling My Sister To Get A Babysitter To Watch Her Kids... - Reddit Family Stories

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Never, ever give her another penny. Never watch her kids again. Time she grow up

[@met999000]

So one time you can't help out and you have a truly valid reason. Your trip was planned a while ago and things are paid for. You probably can't cancel those plans at the last minute without losing money. Your sister is using you and she needs to find other plans. I would never take care of her kids in the future, Because she is entitled and ungrateful. Also the mother is Out of her mind. She can demand that OP cancel plans and take care of the sister's kids, but mom can't do it herself. Do as I say, not as I do.

[@5555522255555]

Well grannie, why don't YOU look after the kids... you're family aren't you...

[@irinievanaarde9238]

Why doesn't mom look after the kids..... Isn't that what grannies do??

[@oldstrawhat4193]

Exactly!

[@royjohnson6773]

I don't know why I cannot directly comment on this but since I'm unable to comment and I want to know if it's her responsibility just like the post I'm commenting on what about the mother's responsibility to her daughter to keep her kids

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

No that's called being a parent

[@Hmorrell]

I am a Grammy and I do watch my granddaughters and it’s my choice. I told my daughter before she even had kids that I wanted to be the one to watch them. I had my own home daycare and I worked at a larger daycare and I never wanted my grandkids to be at a big daycare. No matter how hard they try it’s not the same as home care or being with a relative. Not all Grammys can afford to not work and take care of their grandkids. And some just don’t want to. They’ve already raised their kids. It’s not their obligation. My mom helped some with mine but my husband and I did 80% of it ourselves. they were our kids.

[@Hmorrell]

I am a Grammy and I do watch my granddaughters and it’s my choice. I told my daughter before she even had kids that I wanted to be the one to watch them. I had my own home daycare and I worked at a larger daycare and I never wanted my grandkids to be at a big daycare. No matter how hard they try it’s not the same as home care or being with a relative. Not all Grammys can afford to not work and take care of their grandkids. And some just don’t want to. They’ve already raised their kids. It’s not their obligation. My mom helped some with mine but my husband and I did 80% of it ourselves. they were our kids.😊

[@julesa2894]

Why should the OP need to explain or drop things just to tend to her sister's kids? This sister is waaaaay too entitled. She needs to find other resources. The mom is not better at all. OPs side of the family is beyond toxic. My guess is there is some form of jealousy.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

Not everyone is jealous just because you're jealous of people

[@ces385]

Abuse is never ok but her husband could not have it easy.

[@corawellsome]

She argued a lot longer than I would have I would have told her the answer is no and if she wants to act like I hadn't done anything for her then from here on out she'll find out exactly what it's like to not have my help. And then hung up

[@vintagetriplex3728]

You are right. The only way to win is not to play.

[@dgcaz1]

I agree, hdefended herself way too much. No is all she needed to say and she should drop all help in the future.

[@nadinesharp9766]

Yeah, I probably would've flatly told her that if she kept haranguing me and trying to guilt-trip me about it that I'd never help her out again. No babysitting, no money, no nothing. If she could accept that mom was 'busy', she could accept that I was not only busy but that I had spent a lot of money and had commitments to my own kid and my husband's family, not just to her. If she kept on, just hang up and don't take any calls from her.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Thanks mom for volunteering to take the kids. See you after the holidays. Sister put herself in the bind. NNNOOOO!!!!!! IS A FULL SENTENCE AND ANSWER

[@DhyanaV-r8p]

Mom and sister are guilt tripping OP because OP has a good life with hubby snd kid and they resent her for that. So they hold her responsible for sis’s struggles and expects her to sacrifice her happiness and pleasures for the sake of her sister. The real villain is the mom and the sister who wished ill for OP that she go through the same thing as herself. Dont talk. to them any more OP show in action. Do not babysit sis’s kids any more at all. Cut ties with them

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

Incorrect

[@personwithaquestion1800]

Exactly this. Sis resents OP for having a good life and feels entitled to be treated better by her that OP doesnt deserve it. I dont know if mom resents OP for being happy but mom is happy to dump her responsibilities on OP. Granny should be more closer to babysitting than sister, no?

[@axepagode4321]

You talk too much OP. You spend too much time explaining. This is where stoicism helps. You can be curt and dismissive without feeling badly. Sister: I need. I need. I want. Stoic OP: I can't. I'm busy. Ask mom. Sister: She can't she's busy. Stoic OP: That sucks. I'm sorry for you. Anyway, I have to run. I hope you figure it out. Sister: Guilt, guilt, guilt, blah, blah, blah, bad sister, bad sister. Stoic OP: Click -> Silence -> ghost until you return from trip.

[@stephaniecherry9136]

It seems like your mom and your sister or more entitled

[@DonnaStevens-uo9vp]

I would say to sister , sorry you have such issues mental and physical, but you are not the center of the universe! I will not be guilted,to drop my long planned and paid a large amount of money for my trip out of town with my family to see my husbands mother and father and his saplings and their children , also my family! You do not understand nor appreciate all the money ,babysitting in past I have done for you?! I am done doing anything for you any longer!

[@vintagetriplex3728]

Once you move out of your parents nest, there is no such a thing as "family obligations". You have the right to prioritize yourself only. You help out family because you want to. Not because you have to.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

There's never been anything called family obligation

[@morbiundich803]

Girl go NC with the sister ,and tell her off.Say yes im Selfness for my own family that is my first priority my daughter,husband!!

[@5555522255555]

She chose to have the kids instead of eating the pill or have abortions...tough but that's life..your life your choices...

[@elainejacobi6581]

Scapegoat.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Sounds like shebis gonna need to get very sick right before Thanksgiving. Is she paying for all the canceled flights and plans? No? Well sucks to be her

[@CarolynBirkner-b9h]

Does she not have parents who can help? What is her problem,doesn't she have a brain? Can she not solve her own problems?

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Well you are busier. Phones on airplane mode

[@cresantspoon1204]

Yep, there's always one person that the family always figures is a pushover. Jump Stick a fork in it gurl, you're done.

[@rM-xk9ob]

If your sister was so close, why didn't she know she would not be around. Apparently they had no plans for Thanksgiving and Grandma need to watch the kids if she thinks its a problrm. Emily needs to stand up to her boss. Sounds like she is very ungrateful for everything you have done, she thinks she owns you. You need to go no contact or at the very least, very low contact with your mother too. She needs to stop thinking everyone owes her. Your mom is responsible for the brat, not you.

[@bignormtv6036]

Send this response instead: How many times has that friend watched your kids? How many times did she babysit for free, never asked for money, and was never offered money for reimbursement or compensation? How were you able to decide that mom is so busy she can’t change plans but my plans to MY FAMILY are minor? And how does your friend watching your kids all of a sudden makes them loyal but me saying no because I MADE PLANS WITH MY FAMILY LONG BEFORE YOU ASKED somehow makes me disloyal and selfish? Since you think that in spite all I’ve done for you that I’m selfish, then please do not consider me for babysitting in the future WHEN (and there will be a next time) you you’re in need. And make sure WHEN you call me because that loyal friend can’t come through for you, that your apology is just as loud as your disrespect. Then block her and your mom while you enjoy your family time.

[@elizabethwatson71]

You really want to get her goat…. Type back “yep”

[@garystanfill7806]

What was the moms coment that she could not help

[@Objective-Observer]

This is AI, padding any/all variables of the underlying story with conversation only a computer would create. People don't communicate like that. Mom would have been in the coversation FIRST, not as an afterthought. And someone who is accustomed to these ploys wouldn't continue to play their game. Mom, You and Sister need to take care of this, because I'm never speaking to either of you, again. click and block the phones, block them on social media, etc. 10 minutes and this is over.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

You are incorrect people do talk like that stop being so egocentric

[@Objective-Observer]

@@TravisWilson-r3w I'm a trained writer, including lexicon, linguistics, meter, and syntax: the science of how people speak. But, you have a right to your opinion, so go have the best life you are capable of.

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@Objective-Observer no you are not stop lying just because you know you're not as smart as you wish you were

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@Objective-Observer there's no science behind how people speak you unintelligent poser

[@TravisWilson-r3w]

@Objective-Observer also you learn writing in preschool so what you passed the first school year like everyone else did lol you want a cookie or a juice box

[@garystanfill7806]

What was the moms coment that she could not help

[@lianabaddley8217]

She was busy. Lol That was it.