ALAIN DE BOTTON: WE LOOK FOR FAMILIARITY NOT HAPPINESS IN RELATIONSHIPS

[@hayattMD]

I am a simple woman, I see Alain I CLICK.

[@LailaAhmed-re5co]

Absolutely. Quality brand.

[@milegimenz9102]

yesss!!!!

[@Healthy_with_Shushan]

Literally what I did 😁

[@peterland2824]

I'm a complicated man. I see Alain and I click as well.

[@8karenwalker]

Same. Immediately.

[@natashawilson1687]

I want to give Alain a hug. He makes me feel normal.

[@fridabocanegra3259]

Jamie really took the opportunity to ask sincere, genuine, almost childlike questions, it’s nice to see someone openly asking “what does love mean?” instead of going for a more pretentious or over complicated question. Both Jamies question and Alain’s openness and willingness to talk about absolutely anything make for such a nice conversation. Great Company really honoring it’s name here

[@jinkim23]

"Romantic relationships are kind of a litmus test of our emotional development...they are also a way your past catches up with the present because the way in which we love as adults owes a huge amount to ways in which we experienced love as children." Absolutely brilliant!

[@cupoftea2957]

He's so bloody eloquent. 😍

[@billwalt9026]

Well said

[@theyellowhouse3569]

It’s our preprogrammed subconscious mind, we operate on 95% of our subconscious mind, which is developed in the last trimester and first 7 years of our lives. So we replicate a lot of our upbringing, until me learn to love ourselves, once you learn how, this is where you can totally learn to live a different life.

[@jinkim23]

@theyellowhouse3569 how did you learn to love yourself?

[@sandrea26France]

Being able to hear Alain speak for free is the biggest gift KZbin has to offer. Thank you for this content ❤

[@tgnome5164]

His voice is insanely comforting. I always have the time to listen to Alain 😇

[@Raeuberbande]

Its his warm tone, clean pronunciation and verbiage😊❤ feels trustworthy

[@jolindley9715]

I am a psychological therapist and this has most definitely been one of my favourite podcasts to watch. Alain is beautifully captivating, facilitated and caught so wonderfully by Jamie. So many gems of worth, wisdom and meaning delivered in a flurry of colour, richness of flavour and simplicity of who and what we are. "Self-awareness is a superpower, learn the basics of attachment styles...get to know yours and be kind to yourself. Survival strategies have an afterlife that continue long after the situation. When was this behaviour useful...find a helpful other to help get to know yourself" Oh so many nuggets that should be taught in schools or learn in later life. Either way, get to know yourself and learn. It will help to reduce future mental health injuries. Start your therapeutic journey. It's never too late 🙏 And to illustrate for me the difference between "an hour and an hour"...well this podcast has definitely been an hour spent well and meaningfully. Thank you ❤

[@sarah9171]

Hahahah I’m needing to pause this every 10 minutes to properly think about what this smart gentleman has to say. Great pod!

[@magialukhava1921]

Alain de Botton blows my mind

[@ayuminor]

Since I've read his books it's really sunk in how every question he answers in these interviews he's already thought weeks about and formulated answers at various levels of depth and brevity. The brief pause (when there is any) before answering is probably moreso him thinking about which answer he should give this particular person in this particular situation, rather than the question itself haha

[@heathermcvey9660]

If you're pausing to think about what is being said that shows you're very smart.

[@irmadudley9702]

Just so juicy to listen to …his answers to the ten questions just make me smile and wonder how it is that he is so sharp!

[@KirstineTermansen-cq9tk]

❤ i needed more

[@Visdemhvemduer]

I left Thailand for France about 12 years ago in search of extraordinary things. But surprisingly living in France, the struggle and the hardship have taught me what it means to be happy with being ordinary. Most people who have lived extraordinary lives is like opening a Pandora’s box, and often wondered, will I ever be satisfied with simple mundane things in life, the answer lies in the mindset and it’s no different from quitting smoking.

[@Julesyoutoo]

@Visdemhvemduer Loving that perspective. Thank you.

[@canadianhappyinitalytruest6556]

SO RELIEVED to find a podcast who asks simple meaningful questions to get the most out of his guest! I’m sick to death of the Huberman and Rich Roll crowd, ugh! Thank you!!!!

[@DarylBaboulisGyscek]

listening to Alain for years and years via School of Life now - for the past two years I've been in EMDR therapy and having him as my "wise figure" (iykyk) has really given a voice to my inner wisdom to reach, comfort and inform past traumas

[@scentsandgems]

Yes❤

[@weston.weston]

Alain's work has brought so much healing and comfort to humanity.

[@TheIvanabojanic]

Alain is the greatest thinker of out time.

[@magialukhava1921]

💯💯

[@LadySanders73]

I went to the physical School of Life in London (before it went more digital) and the seminars were fantastic. I learnt so much and it was wonderful to have these type of conversations with others. The beauty of self examination and understanding others. Here for it, love this episode ❤

[@amandajephson9964]

I have anxiety and depression and De Botton's description of runaway feelings and not being able to put pauses between the thoughts are spot on! It is like unravelling...Controlled breathing is a helpful way to put the brakes on...🤚😸

[@drebugsita]

“Love is correct attunement” what an incredible statement and explanation of it 💕👏👏👏

[@chrismckerchar]

To have found this from a YT short, is something else. This guy seems to say something profound every 10s which I then take 1m to reflect on. Saved to playlist. Thank you, for this

[@c.t5136]

Alain's School of Life has assisted my journey through life; my thoughts, questions, feelings, ambiguities... I love his videos and they make me cry in a very therapeutic way, sometimes and laugh, sometimes. They nail it in a few minutes and in the privacy of your home. Thank Alain, and team. I hope that you know how much your output is valued. Please keep it up. Could you help those of us with CPTSD and PTSD, help for this is scarce and we would really appreciate anything that you could offer. Thank you.

[@ayuminor]

Love the bit about mental ill health being things "normal" people can relate to, just without the brakes on, as he puts it. Makes it so much more relatable from the outside and it's totally what it feels like from the inside. Also trying out putting pauses between thoughts (with focussing on breath for a bit) really helped me think through anxiety and irrational thoughts.

[@momogutierez7333]

This just introduced me to Alain De Botton. I need to get into his stuff after this hes very insightful and introspective.

[@magialukhava1921]

I guarantee you you are going to love his stuff. Such a brilliant man.

[@magialukhava1921]

I can guarantee you that you are gonna love his work. Such a brilliant man!

[@perimetrfilms]

He is like all these psychologist and psychiatrist types living in his own class bubble, within England. The ideas he gives are Freudian in nature thus very flawed scientificallt. He has a voice that is extremely convincing. He uses these "theories" all faulty, lacking hard scientific data or even methodology. His ideas are more like a kaleidoscope of concepts and he thinks everyone is a broken individual to help the therapists gain wealth. Let's stick this fool in Eritrea or a trench in Ukraine and then ask him about his theories! Heartbreakers are the least of the worlds problem.

[@sophie4636]

Buy his earliest books to start. He was the best young philosopher of our time. Digital has given him a wonderful platform, so you have so many wonderful things to listen to as well 🎉

[@deborahmautner4508]

This guy is infinitely better and more genuine than Steven from DOA! Finally an intelligent interviewer who is not wasting our times talking about his gf all day!

[@Dumbpuppet101]

this is the best episode by far! it felt like a therapy session for both you AND me 🤣 i could listen to alain for hours! thanks for introducing me to him & putting this out there jamie & co 💗

[@parirs5816]

Alain shouldnt take for granted. He is the best the most sincere humain out there

[@Urban57621]

This was the most beautiful thing I have heard in a while. It was like psychotherapy/talk therapy in itself!

[@andreiafernandes8719]

Gotta say, i have been following Alain for a lot of years now and i love to hear him talk, but i do have to compliment the host - great segway questions and quick reactions. Love that.

[@tubeyou89119]

Alain is always a delight. He is always certainly the best communicator and one of the most important thinkers.

[@linoyavisar8767]

After watching for 10minutes I knew I want to watch it all over again and kept on enjoying till the last second ❤

[@lindaw.5836]

Talking about differing lengths of time, that hour was the fastest hour that has gone by for a very, very long time! Very enjoyable!

[@drebugsita]

I think it’s a misnomer to say we aren’t trying to be happy we are looking for familiarity. Consciously we are absolutely looking to be happy, but we do not have the tools beyond what we are familiar with, which creates a large chasm for those we grew up with emotionally immature caregivers

[@michelekurlan2580]

LUV the wall art behind the host. Luv the color scheme , the way they are set apart, theme and simplicity. Brilliant interview going both ways. Alain always challenges others to wade into the deep end from time to time. The occassional laughter in the background is delighful and highlights the inanity of life on this planet.

[@danielaiorga9851]

I`m watching Alain De Botton for the first time. What a lovely man! couldn`t help but smile.

[@andy_ppp]

I could have listened to that for 5 hours. Incredible ❤

[@tvismyonlyfriend]

I really needed to listen to this rather then seek more therapy this is honest enough account for me to take something from. ❤

[@teddy11859]

"What is the meaning of life?" Wow what a start I definitely expected that!!

[@nurveelanie1942]

what an experience ! usually listen to true crime podcasts and never wanted to listen to podcasts that talks about life but i saw a clip on tiktok about how the funniest people comes from an unhappy background. This automatically caught my attention, immediately run to youtube to find the video 😂 and i love every second of this podcast, so touching and this was just incredibly therapeutic. ❤

[@famalam943]

Alain is great. I suggest looking up his talks on KZbin he has some great ones. Even his TED, (which teds are normally ‘meh’) but it’s a good intro to his work.

[@theyellowhouse3569]

These are the best type of podcasts, help you to understand yourself better and to live life in the moment. Welcome to the community 💛

[@epicminecraft4143]

I've been blown away already for the first 20 minutes... Such privilege to listen to this podcast 👍

[@TommyMedal]

This was incredible. I've seen several videos from Alain, but this one connected with me the most

[@Julesyoutoo]

Our Mr Alain and our Mr Laing! What a combo. Thank you SO very much for this top-drawer collaboration.

[@saram.5808]

This was incredibly good. No words! Alain de Botton is undoubtedly in service of humanity.

[@Mannnae]

One of the best interviews I have ever heard. Thank you both! ❤

[@sayurismith1259]

This is one of the most important KZbin videos I have ever seen. All meat. No fat. Not a wasted second. I am a new subscriber!🎉 Aweeeesome, insightful, deep, honest and wise conversation!❤

[@kristeneglinton6378]

It resonated with me completely. I had a small awakening recently brought about from illness and overworking (and had a migraine too!). It made me realize I need to work smarter, center and understand my own needs, and clean up my environment (on all levels!) to find peace and stillness. Thank you Baba, you’re incredible ❤

[@theyellowhouse3569]

This is my journey. Learning to be happier in my own skin and loving myself unconditionally, flaws and all has totally changed everything for me. Best of luck in your journey. Peace 💛

[@Joanna7428]

Ive listened to Alain for years now, he always grabs my attention and this was no different, great conversation, thankyou!

[@aimen6445]

Alain is an endless well of knowledge and wisdom. Great discussion.

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Would love to see Alan, Dr. Gabor Mate and Dr.Shefali Tsabary together talking about the backdrops that provides into insights into what makes us today.

[@sarahhalawa5926]

Alain is my all time celebrity crush, nothing can change that

[@Pogmothoin17]

I have enjoyed this episode so much. The transparency of the host in his reactions is refreshing and I feel like I’m in the journey of the conversation with him. Alain, as usual, is fantastic and a true modern day philosopher.

[@rosmurray1952]

Fantastic conversation with the amazing Alain de Botón! Thank you Jamie! My kids ( now adults) made me watch you on Made in Chelsea years ago. You were great then and now even better on this podcast! Congrats 😂

[@claramb3807]

This is one of the best podcast episodes I’ve seen in a while. Interesting, well spoken, easy to listen to. Congratulations guys!

[@Morale_Booster]

Pure nourishment for my soul 💛 thank you so much!!! Have a great day everyone

[@TouristsRUs]

Yessss Jamie what a guest and what a conversation!! More like this please.

[@RedRumble14]

Glad there is something new with Alain. Its been 5 years since ive found out about his stuff and he shaped my view on love in many ways!

[@benjamincjholmes]

Alain could never fail to brighten my day. Thank you for this interview with him!

[@nathalieandparis]

Alain is just the best!!! Love his take on life. I could listen to him for hours - so off to The School of Life I go…Such a brilliant man!

[@60greyhairandsparkles21]

Wow I just found your channel and loved Alain, just brilliant. So comforting how he makes it completely ok to be flawed, yes!! I have to watch this again very soon. Oh and subscribed 🙏

[@holeinursock]

i enjoyed this podcast a lot! thank you so much. gonna rewatch it for sure

[@senthilvadivuk]

one of the greatest conversation, I had listened to in many years, so much depth and clarity and thought provoking. thanks for sharing this with us.

[@nataliaderkach]

Alain de Botton is a treasure ❤️

[@sosoaseel786]

This gonna make me re-think alot of things

[@TheTalkWithSherr_]

I appreciate your platform, thank you for bringing your idea to fruition. I’m from Jamaica . Can you imagine you had kept your podcast as just a thought. Stay blessed, keep going even when the darkness of the night presents itself. God bless you

[@Safi-Dee]

My Grandad was a very intelligent, talented surgeon who spoke 5 languages and had a go-to saying that encapsulated that Seneca quote pretty perfectly. "It's all f**k". He said it daily and drummed it into my head since I was old enough to speak. 😂

[@PrimaDewi]

Favorite ❤❤ I've been watching The School of Life videos for two years now. I've been reading their books too. It's a game changer, everyone.

[@Lifestylemama]

Wow! So many insights! This is one of the best interviews I have listened to in a while...

[@julie5668]

Alain is the sexiest bald man ever! I love the way he thinks and explains so simplistically so that even I can understand him.

[@sundaylass6828]

Love Alain & The school of life! Thoroughly enjoyed this pod 😍

[@Nerdyrockstar1313]

A lot of the things you spoke about I kind of figured out intuitively ove the years of dealing with all sorts of people, but it’s always great to hear them broken down and explained properly from a scientific perspective. Great podcast.

[@monicabustamante5540]

This is the best podcast i’ve ever listened to so far! It blew my mind.

[@trumpet235]

Ahhhh Alain is sooooooo good and your questions are brilliant! Thank you thank you thank you

[@222littlecat]

Oh wow haven’t seen Alain de Botton’s interview for awhile !!! Love this conversation ❤thank you

[@Nicstarmoore]

So much goodness in this chat. Alain is so, so good at articulating what we subconsciously know and feel but sometimes struggle to put into words.

[@Sarah-wp2ij]

This was so interesting and so informative!! Loved it.

[@ihaiangata7492]

Good chat, great podcast! Alain is so deep and generous

[@strizh-ov6mt]

This conversation will stay with me for a long time 🫢

[@Usernamenotfound487]

One of my favorite person when it comes to human behaviour. So glad I came across this podcast.

[@johnsullivan3444]

10:32 to 12:58 is wild. It very much resonates.

[@nvverbeyours3724]

Wowww! That was an amazing experience. Thank you so much ❤️

[@victoriaheleen3243]

This guy just confirmed so many things how i have changed my life with self practices❤thank you! Amazing session!

[@theyellowhouse3569]

Me too 💛

[@teaaayeeshas4163]

Listening to conversations with Alain challenges you mentally and emotionally ❤ self Awareness is the best thing one could ever possess

[@sharonlsmith7912]

This was utterly compelling viewing…. Brilliant

[@Abstract.x]

love Alain! he is just incredible and precious and so are you

[@loppan4534]

Great interview. Alain is the best. The host did a great job as well 👏

[@fiddlefancier]

I was so content in my long term relationship with a man whose GGgrandfather came from the same town that my GGgrandfather came from. We share language, music, slang, points of view. It was wonderful.

[@meriemmimi7449]

Why did it end ?

[@xuyennguyen7110]

Wow, this episode is so beautiful. It has all moments of laughing, crying, to eye-opening with wisdom. Thank you.

[@James-gf8es]

holy... First person I have ever listened to that has actually improved my insight into others and myself.

[@sheering09]

This is such a great and informative interview!

[@leanamonae]

He really is great company!! This episode made me subscribe to this channel 😊 And his voice is so comforting to me 😍

[@renatasuerth]

It’s kindness that undoes us (in heartbreak) 😢😢😢 yup

[@silverygrey465]

Really enjoyed this chat. Always enjoy what Alain has to share about life! ❤

[@AHeartLedLife]

I find these kind of conversations SO comforting and I have so many 'Ah Ha' moments about myself and my family. Thank you :)

[@helenwright2809]

Loved this episode so much, thank you ❤

[@dan.carreon]

Listening to Alain has always been an absolute pleasure, amazing episode, thanks for this

[@bevturner2258]

That was your best interview ever Jamie, well done! Interesting questions, thoughtfully answered. Such a treat to have Alain on your podcast. I’ve been a fan of his forever 😊

[@allisonc9679]

I’m so glad my FYP decided to show me this

[@shinsonsebastian7342]

Its always a pleasure to listen to Alain de Botton ❤

[@ourhealingvoice]

I cannot type enough hearts on this comment Jamie, Thank you ...This mans work is so important to all of us and important to the education of the Worlds problems ...❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@anncostello5894]

❤

[@AltheaJackson-yf2zp]

Love the podcast it gave me food for thought. Very relatable.

[@HettiedeKorteDiplomaat]

I describe a depression as: mourning a person and that person is me. Like attending your own funeral.

[@jackson5love]

This man is my idol - love him so much! GREAT GUEST ❤❤❤

[@softbuns21]

Wow, thank you so much for this! I absolutely LOVE Alain and found this so helpful ❤

[@rakelyribeiro8277]

What a journey! Thank you.