Alcoholism and Strip Club Rides: Kyle McGowan v Taijeona Sanders S24 E107

[@kenziedollx]

I'm 10 years sober today. TAI you got this and you can do it.

[@gtfoh1802]

Congratulations 🎉 love and blessings to you and her 💞💞💞

[@asheedabark416]

32 years. Congratulations 🎊

[@erinjohnson4273]

that's great! I'm proud of you

[@cassfolson5675]

Amen congratulations to you all 😊🙏🏽

[@katera484]

Yayyy Congrats ! 🎊

[@justhereyeah1112]

I just want to praise the mama for even seeing that there was a problem and taking the first step that’s huge!

[@tinajackson6875]

That's what mommas do.

[@annkneeter7059]

Agree

[@shannondonnelly7985]

Just love how classy Judge Star always looks,she is such a lady and spicy too 😊

[@opulence_prime]

I agree. She’s a great representation of style and grace. Also have you heard you favor Faith Evans. Not an exact match but some similarities and both of y’all have pretty smiles.

[@annabellemascarenas6053]

Yes💕very classy and beautiful!

[@michellej4289]

I luv her!

[@shannondonnelly7985]

@@opulence_prime My students tell me that 😁

[@sexmachine95]

Sorry,but you have said the same in the past about Lynn Toler!

[@MsBizzyRae]

He lacks accountability. Yes...she had a drinking problem, but it was worse because of the things you did. If he was sincere and showed remorse, it would help to resolve the issues with her. She owned up to her issue and is taking steps to be better, but he has to do the same.

[@asheedabark416]

She is only responsible for her sobriety. He plays no part in her sobriety. If she has him as a trigger. Then she needs to change people places and things. She must continue to take personal inventory and change as needed. Sobriety must be her number 1 priority not a man.

[@MsBizzyRae]

@@asheedabark416 I can agree with that.😊

[@Shellygrrl2573]

​@@asheedabark416 I agree. Also..wasn't the cheating back when they were teenagers? Also dropping someone off and leaving isn't cheating. She just wants to blame everyone but herself and she needs to be responsible for herr own actions. Someone else can't "make u" pour the alcohol down your throat.

[@Sabrewood13]

⁠@@Shellygrrl2573dropping off someone late at night while you have a newborn, especially if his S/O has a problem with it was irresponsible and hurtful. Y’all can’t act like once people has an addiction that outside triggers like someone purposely ignoring your feelings and continuously hurting them doesn’t factor in.

[@keishasmith379]

Unfortunately many ppl have the problem with trying to get over someone cheating on u. But the person who did the cheating always says that was in the past and never attempted to do anything for them to get past it. Not talking about it is not getting over it. It makes it worse.

[@_stlouisLady_]

Absolutely agree!

[@_stlouisLady_]

@@robbbietheim2096 i agree but you don't believe the offending party should make an effort to show they're sorry? Words mean nothing. If the "cheater" wants forgiveness with no effort showing they're actually sorry, is that fair?

[@Heal885]

@@robbbietheim2096 Do the work and support their healing.

[@robbbietheim2096]

@@_stlouisLady_ An apology is the absolute first step in beginning, the healing process, but it means nothing, if it is not met by both party's in the middle, couples need to understand that both parties need to be all in doing their part equally, they should also discuss what will be changed , so it will never happen again with the cheating, if either one, starts to slack off, and the other has to over compensate to keep the boat afloat, the resentment will begin, it will also only mean, the kicking the can process, is temporary, it will only prolong the inevitable, 100% fact, the boat is and will soon sink, honesty is everything in any solid relationship💯

[@ceded6543]

​@@robbbietheim2096 it's hard to forgive if the other person isn't remorseful, taking accountability or changing

[@northphillyp]

So..if she's always been drinking what's his issue? The case started when his cheating got mentioned

[@sjont]

I found it baffling he was trying to push all the blame on her but I appreciated how he talked about his infidelity. Because as we want to act like it’s not a big deal, infidelity is super traumatic. So I’m glad it was addressed so she can hopefully move on and continue on the road to recovery.

[@northphillyp]

@@sjont *Not to break mancode*...That infidelity usually happens during the females pregnancy(I just gave the ladies a jewel thank me later)so if she did increase her drinking homie had his part to play...

[@Mentagasm]

@@sjont I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME. She had no problem with the drinking til he got on the whore train. While she was having his baby! Word now she's a whole ass alcoholic? Where is the accountability? If she was a raging alcoholic she would be in there drunk right now. She was drinking and cussin his ass out because he was probably dismissive as fuck! I get it. Am I by my self here?

[@Burlykim13]

I don’t think overlooking alcoholism is the way to look at this…they both need to look at their errors, not give one a pass because it’s been going on longer.

[@robbbietheim2096]

Very informative and therapeutic episode Judge Star, love that fact you attack elements of the different forms of addiction, in a lot of your episodes, PLEASE CONTINUE YOUR GOOD WORK ❤💯

[@teemoore676]

I'm just lovin these season of Divorce Court! Mrs. JUDGE STAR is bringing it with the real, the classy and sassy! Oh and can't forget Robert love the chemistry and his outlook on the cases as well! Keep it up please be here for many more seasons!!!

[@marceejohnson4113]

It's funny how these cheating men expect you to just move on like nothing happened after you catch them. They have little to no remorse because they blame the woman. Then expect you to hurry up and get over it without any revenge. Selfish.

[@asheedabark416]

Men cheat with their wallet not their heart. It's not that men want the women to just get over it. They want to truly be forgiven if that's what the woman decides to do. If no forgiveness then separate. The man if he wants to be with the woman he cheated on and she is OK with keeping him. She can't constantly keep bringing it up

[@queencharlibee1991]

Then have the audacity to tell you WHEN you should moved on! Like bih I would've have to move on from shit if you kept it In your pants... Mine admitted I didn't NOTHING wrong for him to cheat. Did every single thing correct. Mf still went and did the shit .... 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️✂️✂️✌🏾✌🏾ignorant mf, then yelled it was the past when I'd have a flash back and didn't want to touch him or do anything intimate. I couldn't handle it, I tried, but nah, I had to get tf away....

[@Burlykim13]

I think in most cases people just have a general lack of accountability and insight into their own behaviour. I don’t think in general it’s a men’s problem, it’s a human problem. Woman definitely do it too. Cheaters are a terrible example of trying to show insight, because they have no integrity. Women and men cheat in equal measures.

[@highlander666]

I don't understand all these people who can't handle/control their liquor and start acting crazy, I just drink and chill😂

[@mrcoolguy819]

Nahhhh she's hiding something that she's ashamed of. Ion gone lie, he seem a lil slow so I don't think he's scheming and planning shit behind her back. I don't like how most of the blame was placed on him. He's seems like a solid dude.

[@puremotion2212]

Beautiful and classy, Judge Star. We appreciate you🥰

[@sweetsweet81]

I hope she accepts and gets the help she needs!!!

[@okaygworl]

I feel like she be caving his shit in when she’s drunk 😭

[@okaygworl]

I hope they can work it out. They seem like a beautiful family.

[@okaygworl]

16:55 Why is he looking like that 😂 I feel like he had something else to say 🤔

[@opulence_prime]

This is a serious matter but that was funny. I feel terrible she’s using alcohol to cope and that he’s suffering through it with her. My heart goes out to both of them.

[@yemedemure414]

😂😂😂

[@okaygworl]

@@opulence_prime Me too! ❤

[@bernardtalbert6729]

Nothing more toxic than a drunk. Run Forest run!!

[@minervaloves]

a cheater is terrible too

[@ceded6543]

A drug addict

[@TangieJ]

Narc behavior on his end. She simply stating what had triggered her drinking and he continues to say it's her "drinking" taking no accountability and 100% deterrence.

[@MsBizzyRae]

I agree with you. She mentioned that she had already been a drinker, but the trigger for her excessive drinking was a result of her trying to deal with the things he was doing.

[@KWin-ik5cl]

Finger pointing is not gonna solve anything lady…..you are a drunk and you have children to raise. If you’ve been drinking since teen years you can’t blame him.

[@martinafarrington2946]

I don't know that she was pointing a finger. It was more like she was owning that she had been drinking since she was way younger, and so did he. It's just that unlike him, she wasn't and didn't stop as she got older and became a mom. It also seemed like he was trying to use her drinking against her to distract from the fact that he cheated on her. She has a battle ahead, and he can't just play innocent bystander. The only innocent ones are their kids.

[@lalabbyx]

Exactly & it seems like her drinking got worse after he cheated. Like the alcohol became a coping mechanism from his cheating

[@sinailemor467]

They did her a disservice by only address ONE trigger. She has others for sure. Which is why she was drinking at such a young age. Long before the infidelity.

[@prettiilexii672]

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️They need to part ways and get on straight paths. This relationship will not work right now.

[@kenicemcgowan1304]

I believe that there is something else she is hiding otherwise from the cheating

[@arthurhudson3592]

I understand judge about what he did was wrong but this lady gotta take action of her own self she needs to admit it and work on it if that was the case she should of left him don't blame alcohol on someone else if that man makes you drink you don't need to be with him

[@janellepilgrim3046]

Thank you! The judge was dead wrong on this one - blaming his cheating on her drinking bs!! And I say this as a counsellor

[@arthurhudson3592]

@janelle pilgrim you feel me can't blame nobody for your habits how I know I did it but owning your wrongs is the first step of healing 💯 judge Lynn toyler what got her for that

[@Shellygrrl2573]

​@@janellepilgrim3046 I thought the same. Plus I believe they were teenagers and now they're adults. She just wants to pass the blame and that's not what you do to maintain being sober. Now they gave her the excuse of "you made me drink", if she falls back into her old habits..smh..

[@arayaklove]

Not her tryna blame her drinking on him. You weee drinking as a teen or earlier. Unpack that. It isn’t him

[@janethoward1161]

I absolutely agree. I don't think it was fair for them to blame him

[@lalabbyx]

Sounds like her drinking spiraled out of control after he cheated on her. Every teenager drinks 😝

[@mrcoolguy819]

@@lalabbyx no they don't. The belief in that false statement is the very reason why many kids begin drinking early. They think everyone else is. I didn't have a drink till I was 20. And I'm not unusual.

[@christieb1]

He has narcissist written all over him.

[@Gisellej80]

👀 emotional distress causes her to drink. He was giving a lady a ride to the strip club 🤔

[@carleebhoward1]

His lack of accountability is annoying to me! She owned her part but he just can’t seem to come around. Praying for her continued success.

[@ashkatnoy3420]

She’s drinking and cursing him out because she knows she should’ve left when he cheated

[@juanitaervin4757]

He looks like he’s so jealous of her

[@phillipsmall7674]

This whole thing just sounds extremely fake.

[@briannarobinson1107]

Especially his voice

[@phillipsmall7674]

@@briannarobinson1107 Exactly, he sounds like a really bad actor in a low budget movie.

[@aaronhoward7320]

Stop trying to blame him for her choices

[@asiablackgrl6482]

Best wishes to her and her family 🙏🏿

[@latoyas191]

He can't be responsible for her emotional health or her alcoholism. It's her responsibility to drink responsibly or don't drink at all. Many women have been cheated on. Her sobriety is her responsibility AND if he drove her to drink its HER responsibility to recognize a unhealthy relationship and get away.

[@Burlykim13]

I totally agree, and as a woman, it’s refreshing to see another woman have a rational,balanced, and fair pov. So many other women are biased and in the comment sections you see that. He definitely needs to show more accountability too, but the blame for her drinking and accepting his behaviour can’t all be laid at his feet.

[@justmythoughtsjustmythough7202]

How sad that you state “all women have been cheated on”. You and the one person that agrees with you…exposed what your lives have been. I feel so sorry for you. Not all women have been cheated on. I hope you can experience that one day.

[@latoyas191]

@justmythoughtsjustmythough7202 🤣 I pray you can experience reading one day. It's great! I feel so sorry for you that you can't read and have no reading comprehension. Its so sad that the public education system failed you this way. 😭

[@wildfiregirl1556]

Never went to a law school and a judge. Give me the job.

[@janellepilgrim3046]

So, we are going to blame his cheating on her drinking problem ~ ok! I guess accountability don’t live here🙄🙄🙄 She chose to stay with him and she also chose too drink! ~ I’m drunk because he cheated on me- now I’m drunk all the time because he cheated on be……..which allows him more room to cheat! Make it make sense-

[@elrickfulton]

I cannot believe this. The expert guest, the judge, and the gf are all trying to BLAME HIM for her drinking! She was drinking in excess even before they were ever in a relationship! This is ridiculous! Blaming him for her addiction is outrageous. The judge doesn't even go in on the gf really about the things she does and the things she says to him! (emasculation) That woman's drinks because she wants to, because she is an addict. And it isn't his fault. People get cheated on all the time and not everyone picks up the bottle when that happens. When u have the judge, gf, and the expect ganging up on the man, is why a lot of men no longer has the desire to stay in the home.

[@mrcoolguy819]

Yeah this was not the judge's best ruling. She let her off the hook almost completely. Nobody is to blame for anybody else's addiction unless they force the drink down your damn throat at gunpoint.

[@jazisajoke8688]

Most addicts have mental illnesses. Most “sane” people don’t feel the need to drink to that extent. Something else is going on. They’re not blaming him but telling him to recognise how he could have exasperated the issue by cheating WHILE SHE WAS PREGNANT is a part of it.

[@Foxx229]

I was actually thinking the same. He does need to take accountability for his actions but why did everyone blame him for her drinking??? I didn't like that at all. There's something going on more with Tai then was said.

[@ceded6543]

I'm wondering if she was always a drunk why did he start a serious relationship with her?

[@yung1717]

If he’s a drunk then why stay and have 2 kids? He’s not to blame because it’s a disease but he’s clearly a reason why she continues to drink

[@nakitabell6186]

So I don't believe her she probably stopped for a month but I'm sure she went back to drinking

[@jeromeg.hackneylll]

Judge Star was on point.

[@shenisenicole103]

He lacks accountability and his smirking is disrespectful.

[@terrence2309]

Talk about happy meal lol 🤣

[@terrence2309]

Liquor is the trigger rofl 🤣

[@miltonmoore1690]

Hell it’s 9:30 am and I am drinking.it’s Saturday July 1. And I don’t have a problem.

[@rozzjack]

She’s hiding something. I’ve never heard of somebody drinking like that because their partner cheated. I feel like she was sexually violated during her childhood.

[@LemonStank]

Or she's cheating herself

[@ashleychamon6446]

Damn, how did you get to that assumption? Because they use to clear socially as teens?

[@rozzjack]

@@ashleychamon6446 People usually don’t respond to their partner cheating by drinking. I think there’s something else she’s doesn’t want to admit. People usually turn to alcohol or drugs due to much deeper problems.

[@gailsmith836]

@@rozzjack him cheating could have been her emotional trigger though. You really cannot say what a ok

[@rozzjack]

@@gailsmith836 Of course we’re all speculating here. I’m just giving my thoughts on what I think happened based on the information they gave. I’m not saying I know exactly what her issue is. Just sharing my opinion…

[@michaeliyore6419]

I hope when it’s the man who has a drinking problem, he will get the same response and support from the court.

[@justmythoughtsjustmythough7202]

They absolutely have. Go back through Judge Star episodes and see.

[@karengutloff2004]

Miss Saunders hair looks good.

[@nakitabell6186]

Bottom line ladies if your man is cheating kick him to the curb

[@viviancoleman8109]

Facts. Now most of them want each other anyway 🤦🏽

[@SuperDeddeh]

She needs to leave to heal to be honest once a cheater it's hard for them to stop. Unless you can accept a cheater it's better to call it quite cry for a year and keep it moving. The trust is gone.

[@cynthiaward4512]

Hopefully they can get threw it...

[@bandit4life575]

Man she a drunk she said it. That’s the problem. She trying to blame dude. She was drinking before the cheating shit. She said I love drinking. These episodes are getting wack. She need to take some accountability.

[@eternal1blue]

Why not he having outside relationship

[@godsglory1921]

She started young, so something else is troubling her. She probably was an alcoholic since she was young.

[@wildfiregirl1556]

Lies lol. But she needs to be there for her kids and husband blessings.

[@nayobegomez2619]

This is where this fake show goes left. So she just confessed she's been sober 5months. So I don't understand. He's still saying she's drinking.

[@ThesteelLion]

My father was an alcoholic I don't usually condone cheating but look at it from the other person's perspective alcoholism changes people it turns otherwise mild-mannered people into monsters the disease takes over a person's life maybe he did what he did to feel normal to feel wanted I hope this woman stays sober and continues to get the help she needs because she seems like a beautiful strong person I actually hope they can recover from this because if you remember what made you love the person in the first place sometimes relationships can be saved

[@justmythoughtsjustmythough7202]

Lord, please be a comma, period, question mark, semi colon, etc. This is hard to read. In fact, I can’t comprehend.

[@mamaj3539]

Judge star I want to know where you get your wardrobe from... You look amazing in that beautiful dress

[@theresaford2963]

He hard looking 27

[@eternal1blue]

Dude sounds like a good ol boy

[@StanbackDevin]

So she’s going to blame him for her alcohol addiction? It appears that Judge star supports her for putting it on him. We have to acknowledge and take accountability for our own addictions in order to over come them.

[@Sixdawg06]

You can’t take someone back and then blame your drinking on him. He cheated. His action were his own. Her actions are her own. No one is making her drink. People saying he didn’t take accountability but he did. He’s not in them streets. He did some things that gave this woman anxiety like being around another women but that’s no excuse. No one is holding her accountable for being drunk around them kids doing whatever. She’s choosing to drink. Understand the stress behavior is one thing, but it’s not just things that cause you stress it’s how you react to them that’s the issue. She reacts by drinking. I find it ridiculous so many including the judge were just making this an issue that the man was directly involved. When she felt insecure and had ppd she drank to cope. That’s her stress reflex. The man causing stress isn’t helping, but this man was open about giving another woman rides and why he was doing it. If she has stress while dude is openly communicating, that’s on her to speak up about. Not just drink yourself under the table. It would be different if dude wasn’t taking accountability or being secretive but he’s communicating. Him giving rides still made his wife uncomfortable and that’s understandable. y’all can’t blame the man for wanting to make some extra money. He told his wife, and whether she wants to believe him is one her.

[@jeremyjones8917]

Tell me if you didn't look at him you'd thought he was a white man 😆😂😆😂

[@cedricliggins7528]

Taijeona is such a pretty name.

[@nicholesamuda9557]

Why 70%of the time people looks like their jobs or what they working with

[@cymbolichuman433]

It's too bad she thinks this man is a viable mate. He ruined it all for her when he cheated on her.

[@allofbeauty]

Everyone have been cheated on. And everyone don't become a drunk

[@laurasaw6933]

I like his face

[@nakitabell6186]

It's hard to stop drinking my mom 👩 she had a problem once but it always comes back

[@ASMRnCats]

Tai looks kinda loaded right now tbh. :( I know alcoholics and that’s how they look drinking

[@ashleychamon6446]

He has beautiful facial structure!

[@RacieRain]

He is very attractive, ngl.

[@material-cheshirekhatter2413]

Fr, a lot of the guys on this show look rough...

[@mrcoolguy819]

Very

[@WittyOne37]

Yes and articulate.

[@karengutloff2004]

i dont believe him.

[@kattiethomas4687]

She just love alcohol

[@kattiethomas4687]

Good looking couple

[@alexisthomas4637]

Cute couple

[@andreaidesalvo9738]

She loves the booze!! Maybe more than her male partner wow what could have caused this??? Usually people drank for. a reason to hide some inner problem turmoil unresolved issues like being used to drinking at a very young age!

[@slykiam8225]

Judge Star is not a balance judge. She has never been since she started. She’s quick to put men under the bus and always look for a reason why the woman behave badly.

[@thaaqualien]

I know we’re all focusing on her alcoholism but can we just take a moment to appreciate what god did creating such a beautiful man? He is gorgeous!

[@allofbeauty]

I love his voice!!

[@thaaqualien]

@@allofbeauty makes me melt ngl lmaooo

[@danharms4237]

an alcoholic drinks regardless of their circumstances, they will drink in good times and bad, happy or sad.. She needs to own it and not blame the man