Alec Soth + Stacey Baker: This is what enduring love looks like

Stacey Baker has always been obsessed with how couples meet. When she asked photographer Alec Soth to help her explore this topic, they found themselves at the world’s largest speed-dating event, held in Las Vegas on Valentine’s Day, and at the largest retirement community in Nevada - with Soth taking portraits of pairs in each locale. Between these two extremes, they unwound a beautiful through-line of how a couple goes from meeting to creating a life together. (This talk was part of a TED2015 session curated by Pop-Up Magazine: popupmagazine.com or @popupmag on Twitter.)
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[@SuperMOM20]

This made me cry. My husband and I met through friends who are now divorced. Our endurance is what has resulted in our happiness. If we had given up during our most trying times, the times where most couples throw in the towel, we wouldn't feel the love and true happiness we have now.

[@rawstarmusic]

Desiree Demick What made you 2 decide not to divorce, if you know it? Was it I won't get a divorce, he has to do it or I'm not gonna get a divorce, she can do it if she want that?

[@itshelpa]

this is so deep, I can see Adele rolling in it

[@rawstarmusic]

itshelpa She could have had it all.

[@artworkbydenisebusko8813]

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing :-)

[@RSpence777]

Glad I watched, This made my day. Thanks Ted

[@gnarello]

I like how the lesson to be learned here isn’t blatantly stated but poetically implied through the narrative they constructed.

[@Rebecca-qg5cp]

Beautiful. It's so easy to say "that's it", we could do this all day. But love is about not walking away just because the situation is less than ideal.

[@lythalmind]

great closing statement

[@CHAS1422]

great story!

[@ruo.6460]

Before I watch this, my mom just talked with me that she dosen't want to endure my dad anymore. Actually, she had talked several times. I always know the problem between my parents, but I never think it so serious that they would divorce. However, this time, half an hour ago, I felt my mom trully want to end up this marriage. And then, I watched this.

[@marikstongue5663]

I FEEL GOOD AND I KNEW THAT I WOULD

[@rawstarmusic]

Patrick L. I feeeeel nice, like sugar and spice.

[@Harryjumps19]

9:00 F*ck, that piano got me

[@vaughnutube327]

Forgiveness ... thats what keeps them together ... one of the hardest things to learn - try it one day ;-). And the elevator question ... has a simplistic answer, "I only help people when I have no time (... especially when I'm late ;-) ... and it's a good thing too, 'cause that's always when strangers need it the most :). Practically all holy preachers/scholars fail this simple test in real life ...(something to do with the ego?) ... Thanks for sharing your visual insights Alec and Stacey.

[@IgBtac0]

Anyone else see the guy's shoes?

[@harisjawed1153]

WHAT ARE THOSE ?!?!?!?!

[@RichieRich1957]

Haris Jawed They are called Onitsuka Tiger. :)

[@AndreaS-jc8lp]

Beautiful

[@flojeune]

Beautiful.

[@ginagsb24]

“Beautiful quality of endurance.” “Hold on to the image (wedding photo) for decades.”

[@79Everlast79]

I don't feel like I have learned anything particular watching this video, perhaps I missed something?

[@sheri-b]

Topper Harley No, you're on point... it was boring.

[@ThatLady]

Agreed

[@rawstarmusic]

Topper Harley She wants to know how people meet and fall in love...

[@nessmalone]

Oh man!!! No! I'm not weeping, I've got something in my eye, excuse me!!!

[@bcgrote]

She was speed dating, and someone didn't think THAT was being vulnerable? Wow.

[@robertgarvansnyder4665]

How is this a TED talk?

[@sliskekeeling]

If you want to skip the boring part, which is basically these two telling stories about how people met and married or dated, go ahead and click here: 09:00 You won't miss out on much :)

[@ErichHsu]

Now look back at my comment i think part of the point of the "boring part" was to contrast being single and being a couple.. that we work hard to connect and work hard to stay connected

[@47571660]

Remember when TED videos were about technology and design instead of a platform for any old story?

[@apm77]

+john smith It's safe to say there has never ever been a talk like that, except in your imagination. Also, you obviously have no idea what "patriarchy" means, so maybe you should watch more feminist videos until you understand it better. (Hint: it has nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with men conspiring against women.)

[@TheDrunkardHu]

Stacey's cute. I'd date her.

[@DisfigurmentOfUs]

I didnt get the point of the video, can anyone explain it to me?

[@raulfernandezg]

HOW COME IS THIS A TED TALK???

[@nearlyeveryone]

huh

[@viperstrike0]

WHAT ARE THOSE!!!!!!?

[@BenJones1127]

Hahahahaha

[@thelittledetailscr7231]

Finally something that's not just about feminism. Good one.

[@nataliamenindez1813]

There is something very odd about that woman Stacey.

[@DuizhangLu]

Poor Stacey looked so awkward.

[@tonywalton1052]

Stacey flosses twice a day and doesn't hold elevator doors open for people... (single, wonder why)

[@mike-tc2ee]

im a minute in and i kinda already hate this video

[@Sjoepiewa]

It is so easy to ridicule people, as these 2 do here in this video, but why putting it on the internet? A very one sided attack on people who can’t respond. Great subject by a great photographer, but sad performance this time.

[@Magneira]

So heteronormative "love" is really misogynistic

[@mikedevlin2048]

Quite possibly the worst TedTalk I have endured... For two photographers they really produced pretty crappy images for this project... The wedding images were way mor interesting....

[@cristiangabrieltolentinoes9336]

Useless speech