Women Are Finally Realizing This

[@alexandergrace5350]

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[@AnthonyManzio]

It's staged

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@kjettern 100% true

[@KingDomsKingdom85]

They need to play your videos throughout middle schools the world over.

[@mcfishyfirst253]

My new rule if she stops looking at me and keeps looking at other men NEXT

[@michaeljensen4650]

Have you never heard of Pathological Narcissism!

[@robertfindley921]

I know so many guys who continue to cater to their ex's every need. Fixing plumbing problems at no charge. Running to help them when they are stuck alongside the road. One loaned her a free car for a month. And no candy the other way. Absolutely pathetic.

[@Trey2423]

This is exactly why at this point I don’t even blame women anymore. Women think the way they do bc someone continued to encourage the delusion. In most cases it’s men always chasing them or paying for everything so they expect it everytime. Men need to stop and let women show them why they should be in your life.

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

🤡

[@allseeingotto2912]

Friends without benefits

[@brewcrew5854]

U r spot on ! Many of these lost souls look around at the available talent pool and realize they have zero chance at landing another girl with her body- the rest of her baggage is negotiable As the percent of available girls who havent inflated like a holiday float keeps diminishing these poor souls hit panic mode button !

[@DavidNotSolomon]

@@brewcrew5854 No they just cannot let go, when you break up it needs to be a clean break, or you are manipulated for ever.

[@luckyjayakody]

The number of men out there who cannot say straightforward "No" to women are astonishing.

[@bro4539]

I've been practicing this at work lately. I do favours like moving heavy stuff and grabbing stuff off of high shelves for ladies that are friendly and polite, and I flatly refuse to help ones who piss me off with anything. It's been very rewarding compared to compulsive people pleasing

[@MechbossBoogie]

I've said "no" to every woman I've been with and it's freeing.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

I learned this the hard way and let me tell you what! First, women do not desire or respect a man who cannot say no, a man who cannot lay down clear boundaries. Second, treating women like they get everything they want is to treat them as inferiors, not as adults who are held to a higher standard which we even hold children to in order to raise them into mature adults.

[@AlexTapisevic]

I wish I have an opportunity to say no to women.

[@bobmalooga7249]

Some of these Gen Z kids are turning the tide tho' :-) They are not happy with what the mellenials have done 🙂

[@SRMoore1178]

"NO" is easy and it gets even easier as you get older when you realize you're talking to grown children.

[@bobc9786]

yup

[@Ptah1130]

Facts

[@muhdiversity7409]

💯

[@ari-athbadminton0301]

There is no manly challenge in saying it when we already get old, the real value comes for the courageous ones who can still start a family with their potential partner entering adulthood.

[@Cpruett]

No young girls around 5 tend to be better behave than these harlots.

[@SymGenie]

Been with my wife for 24 years, married for 17. I often think back to how we worked because in hind sight, there were several red flags that she had that I overcame. What pops up in mind as most significant was about 2 weeks in, she attempted to give me one of those upside the head slap/taps after I made a goofy joke that was just intentionally bad. We were in public and I stopped and looked her in the eyes and said if you ever put your hands on me again in a way that I don't like, we are done. If can be tomorrow, 4 years, 20 years, I don't care, but we will be done. I like you, and I can see us going far, but I will not tolerate that because if i respond in kind, I'll be in jail. So don't you dare put your hands on me again and I promise I won't put my hands on you. I don't remember her ever challenging one of my boundaries again after that.

[@battosaix6213]

chad

[@thomas5585]

What you realize is the women test you like crazy when you date.

[@FullCircleTravis]

​@@thomas5585 Dominance challenge.

[@malcolmapplet4313]

A "Gibbs" slap. I like that show but at the same time it's problematic in ways.

[@chad7694]

​@@battosaix6213 Thanks

[@Daniel-yl5jl1bi6q]

"This is a big problem. I like to pick off of other people's plates." You're right, that IS a big problem because I don't like people fuxking with my food. Bye.

[@AliothAncalagon]

True. I would have cancelled my order and left the place then and there. Spending time with people like this is just a waste of time. People think they can fix her, but the only chance of fixing her is the experience that such behaviour makes people leave her.

[@impudentdomain]

if they had not been on camera I bet that dude would have walked out and left her with the bill

[@Okunniger_Volker]

​@@impudentdomain what's sad is maybe especially because they were on camera and you know she's using that, he should've walked right from the start. If they show you a red flag within the first two minutes of meeting in person, you've got a lot more coming.

[@CordovanSplotchVT]

"I guess she'll be having the ribs, and I'll find somewhere else to eat. This lady is a whole ass red flag and I'm worth better than that."

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

My steak is mine. I only share with well behaving people.

[@AllWalkerB]

A girlfriend of mine dumped me but wanted to stay friends. I was weak, lonely and insecure - plus we were friends before we were dating - so I said yes. While grabbing coffee one day a few months later, she disrespected me. So I (finally listening to good manosphere advice) cut her off for a week. Bad behaviour doesn't get rewarded. She'd text, I'd not even read it. The distance gave me the clarity to realise I didn't like her as much as I thought I did. Even a couple of days of silent treatment drove her crazy. And when I ignored her at a mutual friends' party a month or so later, she had a meltdown. It was a useful education, let me tell you.

[@mike-we8pb]

Remember women will get away with anything if you let them. Say "NO" often.

[@RadRat1138]

You only *thought* you were friends before you started "dating." Because men and women cannot ever be just friends. Don't be naive, gentlemen

[@robertpleydell6527]

The greatest power that men have over women is the power to walk away, ghost and ignore them.

[@chrispekel5709]

Of course, I did that! Now I'm 40 and haven't had any female interest in years. It's easy to say, but there's a reason why men will stick around - it's because deep down they know there's no-one else

[@coppernicklaus245]

They hate that. Even if they don't like the guy.

[@akashaedge1379]

@@chrispekel5709 better than a life of misery and without reciprocation because its the wrong women

[@jefferytokarsky1930]

Women control access to sex. Men control access to relationships. If men can control their desire for sex, women can’t control them. Women’s liberation can liberate men, if we are strong enough. It’s the unintended consequence of women’s liberation ... if we let it.

[@Animalisticmonkey]

It's our physical strength and superior biological body

[@ianclewer6684]

I’ve learnt that 2 of the best ways to send a woman crazy is to say “no” or simply ignore them. They literally lose their minds.

[@gabem6863]

100% dead on! I did that with a female friend in college ( mind you, just a friend) by accident whilst we were studying and she went ballistic and started to yell at me to stop ignoring her. I was just deep into the material we needed to learn so it was not intentional. Now imagine with woman who really wants you attention? Thermonuclear level reaction!

[@--------RR007----------]

Read the book "The Wall Speaks"

[@jvillain9946]

I got a better one. Tell them, "not everything is about you" and watch what happens. You can watch in real time as their mind short circuits and starts spazing out. I do warn you though, their reaction will be hostile. Their response to just saying "no" or ignoring them is predictable, but tearing down their narcissistic delusions is a bomb of irrationality.

[@bimrebeats]

Sadly, sometimes it even starts with your own mom. I had to reverse all her brain-washing once I hit 21 and realised she spent years ruining my dating life before it even started.

[@elEterno144]

Let me guess, you are a single mother's son.

[@jambajoby32]

I just came across this realization recently & it is TOUGH to both accept and recalibrate from this

[@588holly]

Mine was a hardcore feminist from the 70's took me years to get over that brainwashing, too.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

​@@elEterno144 not even just single mothers. Everyone raised in the last 40yrs minimum has some gynocentric conditioning, women were the most extreme even if they were married and they taught their kids while their dad just did his 9-5 and tried to pay the bills. We all heard propaganda like "happy wife happy life" and all other sorts of platitudes that turn men into nothing more than utilities for women's happiness.

[@J.dodds187x]

Same. Worst part is, I also had two older sisters..

[@maedavis8]

This is his fault. Man I would ghost her so bad. Dude should have walked away.

[@ssj_shep]

Yes, exactly, I couldn't agree more. That's why I don't really feel bad for him. Like I have sympathy for him because, as far as I can tell, he seems like a decent dude who just doesn't know any better, but I don't really feel bad for him because he is in a (figurative) hell of his own making and all he has to do to end his "suffering" is have some self-respect, say "No", and walk away...

[@rookievideos8865]

Not saying no is his fault. Her entitled behavior is her fault. You can't put that on him. You're just flipping the same coin to its other side: Heads: the man needs to pay for everything she desires (i.e. she can't be held responsible) Tails: the man is responsible if she acts entitled (i.e. she can't be held responsible) Put that coin away. Hold grown ass women responsible for their own behavior as you would grown ass men. Don't hold men responsible for women's behavior or vice versa.

[@maedavis8]

@@ssj_shep Pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice. He is remaining present for his own emasculation and suffering. It is like when a predator immobilizes it’s prey but in humans the siren song requires that he voluntarily submits and subscribes to his own plight.

[@ssj_shep]

@@maedavis8 yes I agree. As the saying goes, you can only lead a horse to water...

[@Okunniger_Volker]

I was cheated on once, I confided in my red pilled friend, he told me it was my fault, I initially disagreed but wanted to hear where he was coming from. He explained that it wasn't my fault that she cheated, what was my fault was was my perception of what kind of person she was. Two things that I have control over, my perceptive abilities and my ability to say no and walk away. Why bother focusing on things you cannot control? It's a waste of time and energy.

[@spacecandygames7575]

There are very very very few women who pass the hallpass test. They don’t view loyalty the same way we do.

[@LaughingMan1980]

Would you elaborate what you mean by "hallpass test"?

[@WatchfulHunter]

Trust, respect and loyalty are guy values. A hall pass is seeing what a person will do when left alone without accountability.

[@lowkeyalien6477]

@@LaughingMan1980the metaphor hall pass In relationship dynamics can refer to an agreement between partners where one grants the other temporary permission to engage in activities or flirting with others or even pursuing physical intimacy with someone else. It's a metaphorical expression of allowing exploration while still maintaining the primary relationship.

[@spacecandygames7575]

@@LaughingMan1980 it’s “hey imma let you have any one you want and you won’t get in trouble”….usually it’s girls that bring it up atleast in my case

[@LaughingMan1980]

@@spacecandygames7575 Ah, yes. I've just always heard it referred to as a "free pass" and my brain didn't make the connection. Thanks for clearing that up.

[@theunlearnedmind7374]

My ex-wife filled for divorce. She was absolutely shocked when I told her I never wanted to talk to her again and 100% meant it. It was like I shot her with a cannon ball.

[@-lord1754]

This is insane 😂

[@TeacherToolkitDemo]

lol I have no idea who they think they are at times. Treat them like children and never take them seriously.

[@BalboaBaggins]

Never get married. Lesson number one.

[@jonthomas9708]

"...sucked dry by wonen and they won't even have pity for his corpse". Lol! 😂

[@DanLovesBooks]

A legendary book editor used to quote this old bar poem: “I don’t like the women, Nor the ladies of the town. They take all a man’s money, And then laugh at him when he’s down.”

[@--------RR007----------]

Read the book "The Wall Speaks"

[@prairiedweller8917]

like some giant insect in a horror film.

[@stewheart]

"how is it my fault you're broke?" .... dude she insists he pays for everything! 🤣

[@stewheart]

@@kjettern agreed

[@jefferytokarsky1930]

@@kjettern Thank you for saying it so I didn’t have to. Spending $400 on dinner for 2 is crazy even if you’re loaded. It’s suicidal if you’ve only got $1200 in the bank. It’s a great illustration of “Your money is our money, and my money is my money.” Hopefully, he learned his lesson. Find a gal who’s content with dinner in and a movie snuggled together on the couch.

[@KansaiCool]

This is a universal truth.

[@P01234y]

Yeah she made him broke. Be careful brothers.

[@bmcvay80]

My ex wife, while going thru divorce, got a flat tire on the way to drop the kids off to school on her day. She asked me for help. I went as quickly as I could to help. And by help, I mean picking up my kids and taking them to school. No idea what happened with her tire. LOL The look on her face when I got them in my car and was leaving was priceless. Had a gf once who brought some dude over to my house while I was at work. She later went to work, came back to find her stuff in the driveway. NO.

[@gary_dg]

Outstanding !! (2 for 2)

[@musothreads9069]

😂 EXCELLENT

[@thebootjournal6037]

💯👏

[@flipadoo]

That first guy needs to let go of that boat anchor, and he'll skyrocket to heights he can't see at the moment.

[@brewcrew5854]

😂"skanchors "😅 !

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

The first act a man has to do after a break up is to 'detangle himself' from that woman. Limit or end contact completely (especially for the first 6 months). Cut off her benefits and don't be 'available' to her. Those expenses are no longer justifiable (and you may find... with this lady... they never were and you probably have a lesson to be learned). There's nothing 'worse' than 'hanging out' with your ex when she's moved on but you're still giving her benefits (ladies love those benefits and watching you accept a even worse deal after you broke up). As a man, you have to establish the "new normal" with this lady (which is she just another lady you are not interested in and get's what they get).

[@bro4539]

I remember trying to take space from some insane girl I got involved with a few years ago and it was crazy that after she rejected me she seemed to feel rejected by me when I didn't want to hang out and keep giving her a bunch of attention

[@JamesJones-mg3ts]

@@bro4539 Those types are the MOST important to 'detangle' from. Yes, you are rejecting her but don't tell her that (that's implied from the break up). Don't explain. Just tell her you're busy and be unavailable (don't respond to calls or texts... and if you do, wait a few days and be short and cryptic). An 'explanation' is a courtesy, if ever, that only sane ladies get that aren't destined for the 'ghost zone'. The _last_ explanation I gave was 6 months after the breakup and she had adjusted to the 'new normal' (ladies that don't adjust belong in the ghost zone).

[@stopbeingweak6399]

​@@JamesJones-mg3tslegit "You abandoned me" "You never loved me" "You just dont love me enough" They say after they ignore/block you and don't get their phone blasted with messages of desperation. They learn to keep you wanting and then break you down until they think you're in a weak enough state to be manipulated again. Fkn psychos.

[@GarrotWire]

If she takes advantage of weak people. That’s a big NO for me. 👍🏻

[@EMJ30034]

"Good people"

[@GarrotWire]

@@EMJ30034 Yes, good people who are weak.

[@ashfordj81]

e.g. keeping her exes orbiting.

[@billreddy7593]

The date would be OVER at the end of her statement "I ALWAYS get what I want." My response: "Well you won't get me - I don't date children."

[@williamsporing1500]

As soon as I heard her voice I would have been out of there!!!

[@malcolmapplet4313]

She's gonna be on the show "Cops" getting pulled over and arguing. All while being totally in the wrong.

[@rainynight02]

First date should NOT be about getting a second date or sex. It should be about discussing balues and and weeding out the negative ones.

[@DiabloImmortalLeveling]

You've made a very good point. See if she has any values, and watch what she says and how she behaves

[@xXJLNINJAXx]

Isn't that the bear from Jungle Book?

[@wisdomandy9361]

That young guy who got ass mad over paying with 1200 in saving yet she has 70k is a king. That entitled chick doesn't deserve him and she had the gul to call a 18-21 year old guy broke? Yeah, 99% of people in that age group are unless daddy gives it to them.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

I really wish he would've told her that if he is to pay for everything then she is to obey him perfectly. Oh you're not my equal? Then you've already set the standard that you are below me. I'd be stoked and happy if my son made $70k and still lived under my roof, but he would absolutely have to follow the house rules, the second he thinks he knows better and refuses to conform to a rule without discussing it, you've already decided to go your own way, so go your own way.

[@galactic-goat]

She would be broke if daddy didn't give her money. She didn't even earn it.

[@rondasoutherland6882]

I'm more shocked that a man would want to use her dad's money to pay for stuff. Id be ashamed.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

I was damn broke with 20, now I make 7 figures. My now wive never asked me what I do for a living.

[@markaurelius61]

I think many guys are so beaten down they think that whatever happens is the best they can hope to expect. I remember with my first gf being miserable and thinking “So this is what being in a relationship is like. I guess with time I’ll get used to it”. The need to pair bond is strong.

[@donfabian1542]

Yes, totally agree with you. When I had my first girl friend 22 years ago, it was a real desaster. She was so immature and I let her do to me whatever she was up to. Back then I thought "hmm, OK, so that is how relationships do feel like". I am much older and hopefully wiser now and I would never, never ever tolerate such behaviour from a woman again. By the way, by observing my parents interactions with each other, I later learned that it was no coincidence that back then, I accepted every drama, every emotional storm or disproportional demand from my first girlfriend... My father himself never stopped my mom from being unreasonable, harsh and selfish with him. Considering what a role model I had, it is a wonder that I got out of those dynamics 😅

[@markaurelius61]

@@donfabian1542 Yes, my dad was quiet and my mum was vocal, bossy and could be a bully. I wish my dad had been able to stand up to her at times.

[@impudentdomain]

I was a pretty desperate guy but I never let them treat me bad. I had the benefit of an older sister who warned me of al the tricks that women use and both she and my parents told me women could be cruel, bad, and disloyal.

[@ed5308]

My take trying to figure out women is a fool's errand. What you have to do is find one women that is sane ( tough ) has respect for you and herself and will listen to what you say. Most of these modern women just want your attention, time, and money. It is what it is.

[@--------RR007----------]

Read the book "The Wall Speaks"

[@kurt6410]

The fastest way to get your girl to break up with you is to do whatever she says and give her whatever she wants

[@jean-louislalonde6070]

Sorry but the fastest way is to tell her she's gained 30 pounds and looks fat. Prepare for WW3...

[@Kalinskiya]

yeah that's true.

[@kuja5809]

Most women don't have a moral compass, their mental stability and ability to pair bond gets tarnished or permanently damaged the higher their body count

[@joncarbone]

Correct. They rather be abused. Seen it many, many times. Cries over the guy that abuses them. Has no feelings for the guy treating her like a queen.

[@Life-Taught-man]

It's also the fastest way to make her cheat on you. Women don't like weak Yes-Dear men.

[@nolaspeaker5656]

You teach women how to treat you from the very first interaction. You set the tone for relationship!

[@psluxton]

I live in the UK where telling your child "no" gets Social Services set upon you. I tell my daughter "no" so often I hate it. And I did have to deal with Social Services. They left satisfied I wasn't being "abusive" and I carried on saying "no" whenever I have to. I refuse to let her become an entitled brat. I can't afford it in today's economy... but I would STILL do it even if I was a millionaire. 😌

[@valentine8161]

How did social services get involved over this? I live in UK as well but not heard of saying no to kids being a cause for social services getting called up

[@psluxton]

@@valentine8161 my daughter started saying really bad things at school because she was angry at not getting what she wanted. That's how. The headmistress made it out to be something it wasn't, and then she suddenly "retired" within the year. 😏

[@valentine8161]

@@psluxton Oh I see. When I was growing up my mom would be the one scaring me that she'll call the child services to take me away from her whenever I was acting out and was unhappy with being said no. Since if I'm so unhappy with her parenting then surely I'm gonna be better off out of her care. It would get me to shut up quite quick although I do think she sometimes went overboard. Times sure have changed though.

[@markrcca5329]

When my first girlfriend decided to no longer be a girlfriend, I was still giving her rides to our university campus. I agreed to keep doing that to the end of the semester, maybe another 2 months, because she had no other way of getting to campus. I didn't have to do that, of course; but I secretly hoped the relationship would turn around somehow. I was inexperienced.. But as soon as the semester was over, I didn't see her again. I suppose that was for the best..

[@Okunniger_Volker]

It was. Regardless of the reasons.

[@McSalty087]

Jap regular women

[@DiabloImmortalLeveling]

It would have gone horribly bad if she didn't walk away, you saved yourself from being used to the maximum extent. You don't deserve to be treated like that, and anyone that does so, is below human

[@megret1808]

So many young men think there is no alternative to what’s on offer. The alternative is to not play their game

[@Okunniger_Volker]

And to never try to convince them, they won't change for you, when they show you who they are, believe them.

[@Rockownz5150]

You mean play video games after coming back from work, and drink by yourself every weekend?

[@jd2379]

OR go hunting, fishing, do anything you want whenever you want? All the extra time... mmm@@Rockownz5150

[@eugenegenoff3669]

Me as a kid: "girls are gross." Me as a teen: "girls are kinda alright." Me as an adult: "girls are gross." Translation: Innocent ignorance. Hormonal madness. Acquired wisdom.

[@covfefemaga7918]

Just be gay

[@elian1352]

​@@covfefemaga7918That's just humiliating you as man.

[@eugenegenoff3669]

@@elian1352 What do you expect? Shaming tactics is the female way ... the way to win WITHOUT arguments 😁

[@johnlove2954]

based

[@whenpigsfly8178]

@@covfefemaga7918 And be expected to listen to a woman without even sex from her.. no way.

[@nightfangs2910]

Once you break off with a woman make it crystal clear to her, we are now strangers again I did with my ex's and their faces said it all, first anger, then the look of despair, because she finally understood the gravity of the situation leave her and ghost

[@GamingProspector84]

‘Treat her like an idol, she’ll treat you like a fan’

[@wausjackbauer128]

Treat her like a celebrity* and she'll treat you like a fan.

[@LOUDMOUTHTYRONE]

Treat her like a princess, and she'll treat you like a peasant not a king.

[@MinnesotaGuy822]

"Put her on a pedestal and she'll look down on you." - Advice of a mom to her dating-age son regarding the girls he was dating

[@RadRat1138]

John Candy was an idol. And he *loved* his fans dearly. But then... he was a *man* 😅

[@vogelfaenger6830]

I read "treat her like an idiot..."

[@kurt6410]

What I love most about the manosohere is we men hold other men accountable. If a woman is acting bad we can all acknowledge her bad behavior but we always put the onus on the man.

[@richardspillers6282]

Exactly. If you can't give me a "wtf dude?!?!" When I'm getting run over, are you really my friend?

[@ГеоргиГеоргиев-с3г]

Bad part is half of the time the manosphere is just wrong, some women are crazy, just not all. And each time you are wrong both parties suffer.

[@junichiroyamashita]

This is good,but at the same times guys tend to be too hard toward other guys,thinking them to be simpler or cowardly than what they are. Sometimes, a guy is simply unaware,and happy to get whatever it can. Like a dog. You will have more success using a little softness in your approach,because an instinctual response of guys is pushing back when pushed. In Boxing,the arm needs to be relaxed. to really snap a punch

[@markusbaumgartner9266]

I would add a point 4: Grown up with an abusive mother and a weak father. Now that I am older and met many people in many social situations, I feel dysfunctional families are the norm, not the exception.

[@KansaiCool]

I absolutely agree.

[@DiabloImmortalLeveling]

It's also possible that something happened along the way. Women tend to break men down over time, like the ego, self esteem. Your father may not be at fault at all.

[@markusbaumgartner9266]

No, he isn't... He suffered horrible abuse as a child, but it took me quite some time to figure that out@@DiabloImmortalLeveling

[@bryndonbooth9536]

Respect must be earned, not automatically granted.

[@ronnyb5890]

you are 100% correct Alex, i was the chauffeur on duty to take my now ex-girlfriend to different places (restaurant,movies,concerts) and she was pissed off when i said i was sick (really) and i couldnt go with her to a champagne weekend, but afterwards (a week) everything was good again, when after some time i hinted for something more than just friends, she said i wasnt her type, and didnt wanted to date a military person, i said ok, then i found out that she made a military coleague a friend with benefits, that was the drop on a hot plate, i ended my frienship with her instantly and permanently, women are not to be trusted, period

[@williambontrager2349]

Women are NOT realizing this. Women are still in the state of mind that then being happy is the greatest gift they can give and their only responsibility. This is where this sense of entitlement comes from.

[@gabem6863]

Add yet, they still fail at that most of the time

[@first_m3m3]

I let a female friend stay at my place because she needed a place to stay, after some days of her getting to my nerves I just starting setting up boundaries and saying no to the changes she wanted to do to my place. At first I was afraid she was going to take it bad, but I can tell she started to respect me more once I started saying no to her.

[@mj7335]

Young man: "There's hope." Wise man: "It's hopeless."

[@DiabloImmortalLeveling]

Cute and wise

[@RIKOUPINATOR]

Brothers. Be stoics saying no, then say you love her, kiss and hug her like nothing happened. Repeat this every time but you need a valid argument. She will feel safe as you will continue to provide, lead and protect. That is how you help her be aware of her femininity and peace at home.

[@VRIceblast]

People very rarely change, and it takes a soul shaking event to cause it to happen, and even then there is no guarantee they won't go back to the way they were. Once someone's core programming is set, which happens very early in life, they may mature, but that core is still there. So if someone doesn't like you from the start, they have reasons for that, they may not know why exactly, just that you aren't the one they are looking for. This is even more true, after a relationship ends. Chasing after that person, just because you love them, is really pointless, because they already told you, that you aren't the one for them. Never try to twist yourself into someone else, just to make them happy. 1. It's not a good way to live. 2. You're giving all the power in the relationship to them, and now you are trying to be extra careful of your every move, because you don't want them to leave again. 3. Eventually, you are going to get tired of acting like someone that isn't you, and you're going to switch back, and the relationship that was going to fail anyway, will fail very fast. Being in a good relationship, shouldn't feel like work. It should be both supporting, and caring about the other person. You should be each others world. As long as you both are considerate of each other, and like similar things, then things should go well. You can't let her lead you relationship though, because she will lose respect for you. So develop proper boundaries, and keep them intact. You don't love, what you don't respect. Always remember that!

[@leroyj3627]

This is stratight talk. Solid adivce! I know; I had to figure out this shizzit the hard way when I was younger! Helpfully, I had the benefit of a genuine "FRIEND" w/.b.., as it was called back then-i.e. before "hook-up" culture. As a genuine "friend," and being a little older than I was, she gave me a lot of insight as to how women think that I had simply never been told before. Saved me YEARS of trial and error! I am grateful for her honesty to this very day! Obivlously, though, we live in a different world now. Sadly. Social media hadn't yet been invented when I was searching for a wife. This kind of information would have been gold to me at the time!

[@nomansland6376]

A girl won’t show her true colors during dating.. only after she’s got you. Telling her no during dating will go just fine.. it’s after you’re in the fly trap that you’re stuck because.. sunk cost fallacy.

[@gabem6863]

And that is why a guy needs to indicate what his boundaries are from the very first moment. A quality woman will learn and respect them; the rest will throw a tantrum or spit out the ultimatum-which is fine as it act as an excellent filter to weed out them out of one's life. Just got to be strong stick to one's guns

[@nomansland6376]

@@gabem6863 same thing. They will make it seem like they understand your boundaries.. then when it comes time to enforce them down the road, that’s when she will use every trick in the book to get you to drop your boundaries… again, sunk cost fallacy.

[@oplkfdhgk]

2:40 why even still be on that date? she is too masculine.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

If they were as masculine as a 4yr old boy they would have some understanding of merit and treating others gently. She isn't masculine, she is immature and less mature than my 4yr old son.

[@spacecandygames7575]

I’ve been in that guys shoes before. Where you care about her but she just uses you. I think men know the importance of brotherhood, sacrifice, and doing for others. We show that to each other and are met with love and brotherhood. Women see it as free gifts

[@josephl9619]

Confusious says 'Man who walks through airport gate sideways is going to Bangkok'. Deep layers of ancient dating wisdom here that is still prescient in 2024.

[@elEterno144]

Is that man obese? Are Bangkok men obese? I do not understand,please explain me that saying. Very confuser confusious.

[@clownshoes6137]

​@@elEterno144😂😂😂😂

[@bobdollaz3391]

I guess this is an analogy for having the correct approach????

[@soramtipu3928]

Joey doesn't share food😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@conceptoarcanocanaloficial]

We live in a gynocentric society

[@BoinkrNanis]

Its more a kin to a "anti-male" society now.

[@simonlockley-evans3925]

I have a wife and 3 young daughters , all of them know if there is something they can do for themselves, then they do it. If they genuinely need my help, I'll gladly give it. I'm raising my daughters to respect me and to appreciate what they have. They are extremely happy, well-rounded children. This is the blueprint they will take into adulthood. As fathers, it's our responsibility to set the bar for our daughters' expectations of men and show them what a positive, powerful force masculinity can be. Their exceptional mother will teach them the power of femininity.

[@Red_Mag3]

Liking actual positive examples like this

[@TabooRevolution13]

What a horrible question. I'd drop my girl right there.

[@DavidOffor-e8k]

Living with an incurable disease is so hard, but you just have to live life day by day as it goes by (Cancer sucks)

[@GeorgeSmith-lm2mh]

It's never the end of the world, but all problems can be solved. I never believed in miracles until Quelani Eileen Freja helped me save my son.

[@DavidOffor-e8k]

Who is this Quelani Eileen Freja? And how can I get in touch?

[@GeorgeSmith-lm2mh]

Check the web

[@danishdude6750]

The having boundaries thing. Sure, but later she will call you insecure and controlling, if you insist she should respect your boundaries.

[@DavidNotSolomon]

She might try that on. But stick to the boundaries - she will either accept them or move on - in which case let her.

[@bro4539]

Who cares, let her What other option is there? Have no boundaries so some freak will hang out with you?

[@danishdude6750]

@@bro4539 Hey, I was just quoting from the Hoe Bag Handbook

[@robertanderson5092]

If she refers to you with disrespectful adjectives, you leave!

[@DeshaunXD]

Boundaries are propped up by a backbone. They get ran over if you're worried about how she reacts. That scarcity mindset needs to go.

[@Sarcastro_78]

My sister has raised her first (now 10) by never telling him "No" to not hurt him. I believe that is doing him much more harm than good. Kids look to adults for how to behave and act in society, if kids have no boundaries, they will assume it is right for them do so in all facets of society.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

Kids need structure. This lack of respect for others is a direct result of not teaching kids structure in relationships, telling them no, and teaching them to respect others and themselves. It's horrible for the children.

[@baccable]

Unfortunately even when a good father teaches his daughter the reality of NO… some girls still don’t get it. Take it from me… I’ve got a 20 year old daughter and she is still a spoiled brat in this regard. I’ve constantly refused to give her unreasonable requests her entire life… yet I’ve watched her treat multiple men poorly and expected more than she deserves from them.

[@GraveRave]

On that second clip. This is a classic example of your money is our money, and my money is mine. She didn't even work for the bloody money her dad gave it to her.

[@quantumtheo]

Guys.... it feels so good to tell girls no. Especially the ones that think it's impossible to be said no to. I'll never forget I was at a club on lady's night almost 20 years ago... some girl asked me to watch her purse.... I told her no and chuckled a little bit and she gave me the most confused look. She said something, but I can't remember... it was like "for real, do you see me?" or something like that.... whatever, I'm not starting a relationship with someone based on a request like that.

[@imheretochewbubblegum]

9:11 It's like he is telling his dog it has to be alone for a while 😂😂😂

[@gabem6863]

Most women hate being alone. They don't have real hobbies to entertain themselves with and being alone forces them to reflect on their weaknesses and shortcomings.

[@malcolmapplet4313]

He should have taken her for a walk first if he was going to leave her all night. I think she's going to make a mess anyway.

[@thelongestshadow3389]

Bro I was dying she shook her whole ass head and everything on it 😂😂😂😂

[@CommandoMaster]

The reason some guys like the first one stick around is in hopes that they can turn the girl's mind around. One because it's very hard to get other girls, and two they are already invested in her. Little do they know that when a girl doesn't like u anymore, it's over - just like if a girl ghosts u, or flakes on u = she doesn't like u anymore, but will string u along for more attention/validation/comfort.

[@OMNIDC13]

Women have logos too and its time that we men expect them to use it. I will blame the woman just as i will blame the man. No excuses for such behaviors.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

Nowhere near as much as a man. However yes, like a muscle if they don't use it, it will atrophied.

[@rhysenfyneix7864]

There's a reason women used to be viewed as defective men.... Holding them to the masculine standard - being rational, for example - will result in failure almost every time. Women have more in common with children than they do with men.

[@JR-rv3xr]

Saying No is a mark of self respect, i totally agree. And you are right low quality women can't handle the word no. But at the same time there is a cost. Women who are frustrated with men which are disagreeable to them. Ive personally found they try reputation destruction and awful accusations of crap when they can't get their own way.

[@obsideonyx7604]

Imagine a guy saying no is never the answer 💀

[@immrmeeseekslookatmeee1853]

💀💀💀💀💀

[@timothybogle1461]

Alexander's reactions are gold here!!

[@megret1808]

In Asia the saying is, “What’s mine is mine, what’s yours is ours.” You guess who is who

[@Okunniger_Volker]

"Well don't mind me then while I let you bask in your own loneliness"

[@beasthaven1571]

Isnt that everywhere?

[@sheezle3]

It's the same everywhere. Biology, it is what it is

[@somewhat.random]

Completely agree with you on the clip with that guy "in the friend zone". He needs to learn to be the master of his emotions, I'm not going to be too hard on him because god forbid that might have been me at his age. I hope he realizes that before too much longer, and walks away from that mess. Too many men approach the first date in the wrong way. This is one reason every first date should be something inexpensive where you can spend time getting to know the person. The mere act of a woman going on a date that is cheap tells you something big.

[@showxating9885]

I'm appalled at the number of young women who are not remotely prepared to enter the real world, nor gainful employment to any degree of success. They're miserable at work, make their coworkers miserable as well, and are impossible to satisfy professionally and romantically. Their parents left them far too many lessons to learn in a nearly impossible time frame. Never hearing no, being given the world, being continuously told to never settle without realistic expectations... They're going to be the hardest group to feel bad for because of their actions, and you can only blame their parents for so long. A 40 year old woman who is unhappily single and childless can't have seen everyone else's mistakes and not questioned whether or not she should rethink things or continue to beat that suffragette drum in 2024.

[@coachleif]

I am really skeptical about that Tiktok where the guy tried to leave... it almost seemed like a skit, like it's trying to tread a ground between believable and performance

[@ejenkins4711]

Learn to look after yourself and freedom comes your way

[@rjakob8073]

Clip # 2. I would have left the restaurant if she had pulled that stunt on me. Anyone who puts their fork in my meal will have a problem.

[@Pleplerhep]

Get your passports bros!

[@CharlesAugust-t8c]

Learning to understand " No", is what separates A Criminal, from A Law Abiding Citizen.

[@jamjam375]

7:00 Some numbers: $400 is 25% of that guy's livelihood while $400 is 0.57% of that girl's livelihood. If she actually cared about him, she would have offered to help out financially.

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Always check in with how your partners doing financially, and make sure they contribute fairly. This doesn't need to be *evenly,* just fairly. If you have $1000 and they have $100 and a $100 bill pops up, its fair enough for you to pay $90 and them $10.

[@woody4269]

Took me ages to learn "no"! Lets get plastered...yep!. If we jump now well clear t oncoming train easy....yep..go! Its only a pound, lets get more...yep! 🤣🍻

[@johnnatisin-x9w]

NO it always blows their mind.

[@novagalaxy342]

I know plenty of men who after the break up of a relationship or some guys would claim that him and his partner are taking a break or sabbatical, those guys would run to their ex to help out with anything, money for rent, bills, credit card debt, car repair, medical bills and more, and their ex gf don't give anything in return. One of my neighbor, a divorced man, still helps with his ex wife at her new home with painting, cooking, cleaning, pay her bills, laundry, and more. I asked him why? He told me he feels bad for her and he still loves her and cares about her well being. Meanwhile, my neighbor's ex wife has a new boyfriend who is 20 plus years younger than her, she's over 45 years old, her new bf would drive up to my neighbor's house and the ex wife would go in to her ex husband house and collect money from him while her new boyfriend waits outside of the house. I saw the whole thing last summer while I was out in front of my home gardening. My neighbor lives across the street from me. After that scenario, I wasn't sure if I should feel bad for him anymore... It baffles me that he can't see that he is being taken advantage of.

[@revtoyota]

Dude you need to play the entire clip. The guy in the first clip responds but you cut it out. That was the best part of that clip.

[@stevenhorne]

You give the best advice for men that I've ever seen. More men need to learn these things.

[@nomansland6376]

1:32 she was never in it. She set him up from the get go. Dude should turned around, walked away, and blocked her on everything. Bye Felicia. Women are not the prize. They can go be independent and provide for themselves.

[@thepassman]

The word "No" is usually one of the first words people hear from the time they are infants. Parents need to keep saying "No" and stop calling their daughters "princess". Any childish behavior should be greeted with adult silence after saying "No". Also no more free dinners, movies, etc. Ultimately no resources which should be emphasized whenever this behavior manifests itself. Alexander is correct about these men. If they stay with women like these they deserve everything they will get from them. Respect is paramount to any relationship, personal or professional. No exceptions.

[@davidstclair3397]

I have amate that lives by this mantra There are 4 decisions in every situation with a man and woman. Man says No, woman says No = No Man says Yes, woman says No = No Man says No, woman says Yes = No Man says Yes, Woman says Yes = Yes Men need to hold women to this, his wife isn't happy but least she respects him.

[@cal5444]

You know a woman's truly into you when she shares her resources

[@lepotdefleur9906]

For those having trouble saying no to women, start by saying no to spam calls, do not let them go to voicemail, answer and firmly say no then hang up, you will get a small ego boost. When you do not get that ego boost, let them go to voicemail haha.

[@jean-louislalonde6070]

Got a call last week that was clearly a set up fraud system. I immediately answered by raising my voice and shaming them for their tactics. They hung up and I believe THEY put my number on a never call again list!

[@ConservativeSatanist666]

Sometimes saying no is enough, other times you literally have to walk away.

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

women leverage their p-ssy for maximum returns but that starts coming to an end as the wall gets closer.

[@assplundah]

No, it doesn’t mate. I’m 53yo & they’re still the same, even at my age!

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

it never ends obviously but much less powerful. I am 56 and i will weigh up possy to getting to my favorite fishing spot before dusk as so less valuable now. Women know that's changed@@assplundah

[@impudentdomain]

actually most of them fail. The ones who get a husband who is a good man with good potential and create a family and don't divorce him for no good reason are the only ones who really leveraged it to their advantage.

[@jefferytokarsky1930]

What women fail to recognize is that childbearing and motherhood is their super power, not their V. All women have one. They can give it away, leverage it, or sell it, but it itself is of little value to men or society. Basically, women have devalued themselves and men are catching on ... and women hate that.

[@SquirrilahFish]

Men, you are BETTER than woman in every way that takes action. A strong woman has perseverance, an ability to perform through fear and unknowns without missing a beat. But a strong man LEADS. She is not better than you when it comes to taking action. She needs to be on YOUR frame, YOUR leadership YOUR timeline, YOUR vision, and she should be grateful to be there, because you're taking action on her needs. Know your worth, and know that if she isn't on board, she should be on her own.

[@brandonhelcher3691]

The childishness shown by these women is actually disturbing.

[@davidransom4476]

A fork to the back of the hand usually stops someone from stealing your food.

[@gameon2000]

😂 my goto reaction to spoiled brats is: - "GIRL, YOU'RE NOT HOT ENOUGH TO ACT LIKE THIS!"

[@Okunniger_Volker]

And a BBL won't change that.

[@gameon2000]

@@Okunniger_Volker ofc, I despise that whole madness anyway.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

@@gameon2000 I honestly put it in the same category as masochism.

[@gameon2000]

@@Okunniger_Volker yepp 🤣

[@Okunniger_Volker]

@gameon2000 it's crazy cause if they have some issue with their endocrine system such as low testosterone and thus high cortisol, this can be either cured or at least heavily effected in a positive manner by exercising. So to me a BBL or the like is a sign of depression and a bandaid on a deeper issue that such a bandaid will only make far worse.

[@davidgarcia8782]

No is always the answer. ALWAYS. Jog on.

[@GenRN]

Alexander Grace, I watch your videos as a woman and I am always horrified by the behavior of these women. I just want all your viewers to know that not all women are like this. I do know these awful women exists because I’m on the dating app scene and I do sense the trauma so many men have experienced. Men start off telling me their height and asking for approval. It boggles my mind that women are so shallow. Men, you are valuable and perfectly acceptable just as you are. Don’t tolerate this kind of behavior but also give us real women that will value and worship you just as you are a chance.

[@coppernicklaus245]

Appreciate your words and attitude. What you're seeing is not a culture at its apex but nearing rock bottom. I don't know even 1 married man (most of my friends+family are conservative/religious) who either recommends marriage or else whose married life looks like a peaceful, decent investment of time+resources.

[@forgottenfuryan]

Good. Those men were born to grovel, just as you're meant to be old on the apps. Nature doesn't make mistakes.

[@forgottenfuryan]

​@@coppernicklaus245 Upper class men and their wives are very happy. Follow the money.

[@coppernicklaus245]

@@forgottenfuryan The upper class couples that *you* know are happy. The ones I know are just (usually) not miserable. The 3 dudes in my circles over the past 20 years hovering around the 500k/yr mark (statistically top 5%ers) have/had wives that complain about them working all the time, but when they start actively planning to scale back, their wives don't want them to bc how are they supposed to do and buy lots of stuff if they don't have the same level of income?

[@forgottenfuryan]

@@coppernicklaus245 Statistics vs anecdotes... it's all about who women don't divorce: rich guys.... unless a fleecing is more practical. These Marks are all John's, so petty and tiny, getting what they deserve.

[@abel6846]

It’s kind of hilarious how a lot of women want a man to be at least 6’ (or even 6’3”) or taller and simultaneously have the hots for Zac Efron, who is 5’8”. Makes sense, right?

[@thelonewolf2288]

' The Disney Princess '. If a woman isn't chasing you ... have absolutely nothing to do with her. If you do, she will always treat you as her subject. Remember: women all want the same man. If you are not that man, she will keep looking at your expense. The best way to deal with women, is to remain free and independent. This is how you maintain absolute control. All women wait at the finish line for the top men. The top men can have all the women they want because, the line is endless. Focus on success, and never chase women. You make them chase you.

[@impudentdomain]

Really good video. Too many simps in the world.

[@Authorized4U]

Great content! Too bad this information wasn’t around when I was young adult! This is great content for everyone to watch!

[@hallowach-k6g]

i dont know if these vids are real. i cant belive that men and woman act like that infront of a camera. its embarressing.

[@Okunniger_Volker]

It's way worse than this. Unfortunately but it really is and it's genuinely sad. On the other hand, it's not sad because they will suffer the ramifications of their own character and might be more akin to justice.

[@-lord1754]

This is what they do in front of a camera, imagine at home around no one

[@topolino70]

When my son and daughter were toddlers still, I happen to read some great advice somewhere that it's parent's duty to teach kids handle the disappointments. I think it was one of the best advises I got for raising children. I treated both my son and my daughter similarly meaning that I didn't let my daughter go more easy than my son. Both got their share of NOs. They both are now great adults with responsibilities in order in their lives.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

The more I learn about women, the more I like my truck.

[@CommandoMaster]

I like Porsches

[@martinbras7898]

😂

[@geography_guy335]

The biggest block is the fear of divorce and what that can bring. Women like men with options. If a wife knows that her husband's only other option is divorce and he's willing to choose it over her hopefully that will make her take him seriously

[@Captain-Cardboard]

For someone who ostensibly gives out dating advice you sure as hell make me want to not go on any!

[@Okunniger_Volker]

In a world where so many dehumanize you and treat you as a utility without reciprocation, a world where men are taught from a young age to be that utility, it is a unfortunate consequence that dating the vast majority would be a genuine mistake. I do more for my electric stove than many of these women do for their men, I take care of my home more than most of these take care of their men, I put more into my car than most of these put into their men. What kind of a insane world do we live in?! We unfortunately are in a corrective Era, having to correct for mislead advice and a mislead culture.

[@losttapes1705]

100% Brilliant. Your best most succinct video. Thank you so much.

[@7ebr830]

I don't mind sharing off my plate - except when, during ordering, she says she doesn't like or eat what I'm having. Then the food arrives, and suddenly she's digging into my food. I've come to realise that it's a reflex with women; it's a mimed, "Do you love me?" I don't take it seriously even when it irritates because haven't we always said they are just grown up children? It's like your four-year old coming up and staring at you as you tuck into ice cream or cake. You just plan on it happening and put a little extra on your plate in anticipation that you'll have to share. It's no biggie. However... The girl in the video is on a power trip. The guy didn't need to say no. He should just have bugged out right there and then because she isn't worth _anybody's_ time - not even a short dinner date.

[@thedalillama]

I talked to a guy just today that has been catering to an ex for 15 years! ... and complaining about it!! I definitely stuck around too long a few times, but eventually you learn. Man, I wish I felt this way earlier.