When Your Ex Blows Cold and Hot

[@amytiffanyhemingway]

I like how patient a dad you are 😊

[@sophiastuart4357]

Hey Alexis this has been useful as my ex reached out 5 times two weeks after he dumped me and it was not small talk but asking questions and trying to be friendly etc so quite positive interest and I responded friendly but not too overly interested. For the past two months there has been silence. It does feel like mixed signals but I guess it could be a number of reasons. I won’t be waiting just moving on with my life.

[@AlexisFriedlander]

Keep me posted, I can bet you, you will be very surprised about what will happen :)

[@sophiastuart4357]

@@AlexisFriedlander Thank you Alexis for your responses.

[@simonnordqvist8555]

​@@AlexisFriedlanderdon't really know what to do anymore she has broken up with me before and came back because I gave her space

[@simonnordqvist8555]

​@@AlexisFriedlander my ex girlfriend used a fake account on facebook to write to me didn't know it was she wanted to meet me to talk to me and she was happy and so and pulled me by my sweater to kiss me on the mouth and she said she needed me more than ever and she has a card only on me then suddenly she turns hot and cold on me and kicked me out of her serviced apartment

[@The_Darrell]

I had no idea about attachment styles before my breakup... She pushed me away when we got super close, and it destroyed me. I ended things because for the last month she barely wanted to see me. I've accepted that we will likely never be together again, and I'm fine with that now. I still feel like I have to reach out to explain that I understand things from a different perspective now (she's a fearful avoidant due to a past abusive long-term relationship). I was going to reach out with a video (we're both video/editing nerds) explaining that I understand things now,and also explain why I acted certain ways. I think I need it for closure. I was going to do this in about a month (which would be 60 days of no contact)... Just wondering what your thoughts are on this? Thanks

[@AlexisFriedlander]

That would be very cute. However, I would keep things very simple to start with. The video would be the last step

[@The_Darrell]

@@AlexisFriedlander Thanks for the reply... I thought about it for sometime after I wrote that comment. Although it's hard and it sucks, I've decided that I'm not going to reach out again. A relationship where only one person tries to communicate isn't the right relationship for me.