Alok Vaid-Menon Finds Freedom In Body Hair, Mini Skirts & Dressing for Pure Joy | Closets

[@TheArgentSky]

What an absolute icon, "Power clashing is a lifestyle". Yes. Yes it is.

[@julia1999rene]

"I was waiting for someone to come an protect me, and I realized the person I was waiting for was me" cut straight to my soul.

[@Victor_ailey]

I went to like this but it’s on 111 likes currently and that feels too divine to interrupt ✨ so instead we comment

[@fyrenset]

Whenever I treat myself to listening to Alok speak, I emerge soothed, rejuvenated, and a bit safer in my spirit, as if I've just been patiently led through the most beautiful guided meditation.

[@ardriaweston]

This resonated with me! “I no longer outsource my joy. I claim it. I seize it.” “Fashion is external validation but style is internal validation.” I so love this! It is true we do have to heal from within so that we get the chance to love ourselves and loving others can be an extension of that healing. Thank you for the video!

[@mmegraham]

Wow. I think I need to listen to this every day for weeks on end. There's so much truth and love here. Thank you, Alok, for being exactly who you are.

[@metamorphic8]

aBBasoLyÖÖtLy!!! ❤️💘❤️

[@brolybroly4485]

*lust

[@randomdude8877]

You do know that he thinks that little kids are kinky right? Are you ok with that? Do you support an outspoken groomer?

[@adwzrxy2120]

Truth, where ? 🤔

[@cienbiswas5140]

I thought about the same @mmegraham 🥹 This is so wholesome and healing in itself, it gives so much power and energy to finally be yourself…I think I‘m going to or have to come back to this often…❣️✨

[@cienbiswas5140]

This was so inspiring and wholesome…thank you❣️

[@annkathrinsmyrek17]

Alok is truly inspiring and smart ❤ I am so thankful that Alok makes me smile. Theres nothing more beautiful than a person, who is completely themself ❤

[@lvvrgrl]

I was crying and tearing up through almost this whole video. What a beautiful soul.

[@ribbrascal]

Lol. He's a megalomaniac.

[@lvvrgrl]

@@ribbrascal projection at it’s finest. i hope your soul finds healing one day.

[@cutecat1764]

​@@lvvrgrl "crying " you need help your ill in the head

[@zoyadulzura7490]

Really. They say so many wonderful things that come from a place of pain, introspection, and growth. Everything they say seems so specific to their individual situation, and at the same time so widely applicable to many people with completely different stories.

[@lilki9406]

I feel like alok really saved me in the past year. My mental health got so much better since I listened to their interviews and tried to implement in my life what they are saying.

[@gigi-t-c6p]

It would be such an incredible world if we could all accept, display and love ourselves and others wholly as we/they are. Thank you ALOK for giving us this gift.

[@ameliaheart5091]

This is one of the best and most real videos I’ve ever on the topic of living in self-acceptance, love and freedom of expression. You can truly sense that all he says comes from a place of so much wisdom and strength and truth, acquired from living through the opposite and working his way through healing, reflection and choosing love. This honestly gives me so much courage to show my (dark, obvious) leg hair. I’ve felt for a very long time now that I didn’t want to shave my legs anymore, I’ve never ever ever truly done it for myself. I just cannot lie to myself like that, it feels like the weakest move. But judgement from others still terrifies me, so I didn’t show my legs if it was possible. Now I feel ready to start taking steps to embrace my leg hair and just wearing dresses without tights to hide my natural body behind. I know so many people are going to judge, and it’ll be really hard but I want to respond with love to those people, because love has the power to change. I mean years ago I still felt that it was “ugly” or “gross”! And I know so many people that are unfortunately brainwashed by western beauty standards to feel the same. I just hope that it might change peoples judgements and they start to open up to the possibility that it might be beautiful. They might be beautiful. We all might be fucking beautiful. Thank you so much from a hairy girl🙋🏻‍♀️

[@TigerPrawn_]

Alok uses they them pronouns. I’m with you with the leg hair. I have also been afraid to have difficult conversations with people about my leg hair, but in all reality, people will probably not even say anything and just look. Let’s do this together 💜

[@sophiag6752]

This is the most inspiring interview about style and expressing your true self that I have ever seen. Thank you so much Alok and thanks to all the lovely people behind the camera for making it possible for people like me to see and be inspired!

[@eileenms8559]

I LOVE when they said "I feel like I'm a polyglot of so many traditions, histories, and cultures" ❤ I have a very similar feeling. Parents are from different countries, I grew up in NJ and I live in Brazil. I feel such a connection to them

[@smarikabasnet2200]

I also hope you LOVE when they say "Little girls are kinky"...

[@jaxscales6158]

@@smarikabasnet2200 I watched this entire thing and that was never said. Tf are you on about?

[@stephg.380]

Alok stuns me with the beauty of their words and their freedom. They're a beacon of hope and love and I'm so lucky to be alive when they are.

[@mllnx]

alok also said “little girls are kinky”, i wouldn’t say that’s particularly beautiful

[@stephg.380]

@@mllnx Here is the sentence in full: "I believe in the radical notion that little girls are complicated people. There are no fairy tales and no princesses here. Little girls are trans, queer, kinky, devious, kind, mean, beautiful, ugly, tremendous and peculiar."

[@mllnx]

@@stephg.380 still such a weird thing to say about little girls if you can’t see that then there isn’t much to say

[@Munstermash1313]

@@stephg.380 Yes! Thank you!! There it all IS in full. Still calling little girls kinky regardless of the other words surrounding it.

[@figmentoffairies]

​@@mllnxit's weird to say little girls are complex individuals?

[@purpstatus]

I am not homosexual, nor trans, and do not have this around me in my everyday life. I have a wife and 3 kids. That being said, I like Alok. I would definitely associate with Alok and appreciate you for who you are. I enjoy the fact that you are able to live your life the way that you feel is best for you, in a way manner that allows you to respect yourself and be happy.

[@ma1102]

this just changed my day and mood around, i needed to hear this. i’m gonna circle back to this all the time. thank you alok. thank you for showing up in the world as who you are and not what conditioning wanted you to be.

[@ecologia_interior]

This interview is a gift to humanity, Alok is a gift to humanity. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@zoyadulzura7490]

"That's how we win at life: we play pretend until it begins to feel real." Alok has such a way with words and so many good quotes, but I just really like this one.

[@nlvidaure4898]

Thank you for sharing . Your words … honestly everyone should listen to you . If everyone would listen to you this world would be a better place. The world is full of hurt and this is why it’s in chaos .. you bring light … thank you for being who you are and speaking this truth with us all🙏

[@easilystartled2203]

I will never get over the love and grace that Alok exudes. Such a beautiful human

[@jasminateodorovic1248]

I'm 50. I'm learning a lot from this gorgeous human being. These life lessons simply humble you down in the most graceful way! Thank you! ❤❤❤

[@capitangian]

This was so wholesome at so many levels. Alok radiates confidence in the deepest of ways - they're fully, unapologetically themselves, they went deep and went through so much pain and found a gorgeous treasure. What I cherish here is also their intelligence and gentleness mixed with assertiveness and confidence, which truly isn't the "diva attitude" we so often experience in the LGBTQIA+ community: it's the truest form of expression, being confident in who we are without the need to be harsh to others and their own journeys. Being confident, yet gentle and sweet. Being who we are by also taking care of who's around us. That's to me the most attractive trait: self-discovery that is never ego or validation-seeking, it's light for oneself and for others. Thank you for being inspiring, Alok.

[@hannahberkelouw3338]

I will use your interview for my patients who are traumatized and feeling they are not worth being. You are a great inspiration. Thank you.

[@SandyAlexandre]

Alok has a soothing voice with a soothing philosophy of life to match. The self-regard here is not only important because it exists for us to bear witness to but also because we have so much good to learn from it. Thank you, Alok!

[@dinkusoninkus]

Thank you alok. You will never know the impact you’ve had in the world

[@joellenhousego4639]

I just saw you perform in Vancouver at the Chan Centre- my husband and I are in mourning for my Mom and care-givers for my Dad- we are in deep grief. Going to your performance was the first fun thing we have done in months, and we almost didn't go. I'm so, so glad we did. It was life and joy-affirming. There can still be joy. Your message about how healing yourself can flow back to your ancestors...that was especially powerful for me in this current situation. Thank you.

[@AndroidInHumansClothing]

so much love for Alok. gonna watch this again and again

[@kristinay.8852]

This was so healing to watch. Ive been personally struggling with the concept of forgiveness lately and this interview really helped me to see it from a deeper place. I love the way it feels like Alok is rising above the confusion of other people (who dont even know who they are) into their own freedom of how they want to feel. I feel like this interview helped me see what is gained by forgiveness, the type of liberation and clarity that a person can walk on Earth with when they are not caught up by other peoples emotional and spiritual illnesses. It is extreme in this society how much so many people reject love and freedom, how attached they are to systems that eradicate the embodiment and expression of their true self and how they can feel so threatened by someone who isnt going along with that reality and is instead chosing love and freedom. There is so much deep life wisdom in this interview. Thank you for sharing this.

[@tinypinata505]

It's truly mind boggling and unfathomable that people would feel so threatened by someone who so genuinely loves oneself and is truly, authentically themselves.

[@elenawilliams32]

No, they're threatened by Alok saying 'Little girls are kinky'and many more highly problematic comments. Look it up on KZbin for the full context. It's not good

[@samanthaholden-green9571]

"Maybe I'm someone who..." . I love this. It feels like an ability to open up a whole world of possibilities without it feeling too daunting. Baby steps to becoming who you can/want to be.

[@fashionlover27]

Earth is a sacred place.... Love this phrase. It should be put on every billboard and everyone's clothes so we remember about our planet and treat it as we treat churches, ashrams, synagogues, with respect and love.

[@mariesaint-victor4440]

Alok is insightful , deeply tuned in , brilliant in the way they discern their truths , amazingly vulnerable and outstandingly honest .

[@kimsome8334]

Alok is definitely a superhero, I can’t get enough of them!! Such an incredible human 💗

[@samm2637]

Is someone who said little girls are kinky a superhero?

[@esterbez_z]

​@@samm2637literally i cant believe the amount of positive comments under this video its so concerning

[@tharunsankar4926]

@@samm2637we live in a society 😂😂😂😂

[@michaelkendall1263]

He said little girls are kinky and that there's no such thing as a flower to be corrupted. WAKE UP

[@neeliwilson9771]

Alok always expresses themselves so wonderfully!

[@adwzrxy2120]

Himself

[@yassine8935]

​@@adwzrxy2120 def them leave with that bs , your just being ignorant cuz people have joy in their life .

[@neeliwilson9771]

@@adwzrxy2120 I said what I meant 😊

[@adwzrxy2120]

@@yassine8935 Thanks

[@vaishnavigosain7197]

​​@@yassine8935if you are calling people as "them" you are living with these people in their imagination my friend :)

[@dj.doubled5052]

This is something like i never have heard before. It almost seems like another language full of love ,compassion, and acceptance. I replayed so many parts of this video. I cant thank you enough for sharing your story and being brave enough to live in your truth so that us around you can find inspiration and empowerment in being ourselves 💗

[@elenawilliams32]

Living in the truth that Alok said that 'Little girls are kinky'! Search it on KZbin for the gross full context. It's not good.

[@rachnasingh5121]

Nothing stays at the forefront of my mind other than Alok's words. Billions of people have got so much to learn from you.

[@andrea_kate_]

“I am the person I’ve been waiting for my entire life.” --> I almost burst out crying. Everything Alok says is such a revelation. They are truly, truly one of the greatest thinkers of our generation and I'm so glad I found them on Instagram. Also, I got major Ms. Frizzle vibes from the sweater with the planets. (Which is obviously a compliment because Ms. Frizzle is obviously a style icon.)

[@someonerandom6379]

I wish I could be brave enough to be myself. Alok radiates strength, love and happiness and of course looks absolutely amazing ❤

[@ssskiline5700]

It's hard to walk these shoes, I'm trying it my self but it's harder to live a life without any joy and to lie to your self every day because you are afraid... We choose to represent our selves in our own way and that is the greatest gift and take away from my experience. Don't validate your selves in others, look at your self and make your self happy. ❤️

[@alainaravello]

The most eloquent person !! Could listen to Alok speak forever and beautiful fashion ofc

[@caseytufnell9138]

Thank you for being so wonderful. This is such a great interview

[@36paris]

Talk about changing my perception of what I believed was acceptable and what wasn’t. I love every bit of this video. My perception has been irrevocably transformed and I’m so grateful!

[@nemofurvent4202]

OMG !! Yesterday I thought "I would love to see Alok Vaid-Menon on Style Like U" and now - it is real ❤ My dream came true

[@11kindpunk11]

💙 💙 💙

[@priscillasuarez1541]

Alok smashing it with the style, poetry and grace ❤

[@mariehalloran6422]

I love that this person is focusing on what makes them happy and not what makes other people happy. I feel like that’s a special kind of self-awareness and maturity.

[@SimplyWitch]

This person is an angel of beauty! Thanks for this marvelous speech. The world need more courageous people like you! I learned a lot in this 15 minutes video! Thanks! I love you! ❤️

[@jakobwhaleart]

I absolutely loved this. The amount of self-love and self-acceptance this radiates is touching to listen to.

[@RosalindPeters]

Isn’t it absurd that *you’re* scared of colours?! In love with this way of thinking ❤ Power to you, Alok!

[@randomdude8877]

He is attracted to child and think little kids are kinky.

[@xinyangmaojian]

You’re beautiful! So beautiful in the way you dress and talk, that I started searching online about this beautiful person. Love the message and energy you’re sharing with everyone!!❤ You’re a gift to this world. 🎉🎉🎉

[@dalanium98]

This feels like a reset for me

[@ImaniTolliver]

“Why would I take my style advice from patriarchy?” Yes, yes, YES!!!❤

[@cameronriley1165]

The patriarchy doesn’t exist in the west stop trying to oppress yourself be happy you don’t live in a country where as a woman you can’t go to school and then you’ll make men fight and die so you can go to school so even if you was oppressed youll still owe your education to men who died for it so is that also a form patriarchy?

[@MVTexan]

The amount of times my mind was blown away by his insight. Gorgeous soul !!! ❤

[@solusman8200]

"you get to be free NOW" & "that's hardly being ALIVE, that's just existing" really hits hard

[@mcemee3]

I need a transcript of this! I heard so many things I want to make affirmations from. Beautiful.

[@joan.nao1246]

Yes! A transcription would be so appreciated!! I cried & released heaviness throughout the entire video. Many reasons & layers of reasons. They touched an unnamed & forgotten place deep within, a pure, primal Divinity within.

[@oleska]

I was actually pausing the video every 10 seconds to write down the parts that got me. But I might as well watch this video every week and memorize it haha

[@georgygirl64uk]

Listening to you speak felt like a lightning bolt to my soul - I cried. 💕 Thank you for being such a wonderful, colourful, marvellous, joyful beam of light in the world 🙂

[@anas.6870]

Life is the event. Amen to that, I'm happy I managed to understand that truth still relatively young.

[@Charla2smart]

This is truly inspirational!

[@TheHobbitdragon]

This cut me to my heart in the gentlest, kindest possible way and I'm grateful for it

[@Doraphobic]

they are so gorgeous!

[@TheNinnyfee]

"What if..." is such a powerful question for bullying survivors. I LOVE this interview. ❤ School bullying isn't pranking, it consists of systematic crimes by children against children at schools and is a prequel to narcissistic abuse and bullying in adulthood. It MUST be addressed appropriately.

[@violetselene244]

10:25-11:51 was DEEP I love that so much 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 💕 The entire speech was so impactful!

[@morganwilliams2597]

0:31 👏👏👏👏 What truth. Its definitely an awakening to come.

[@leasamuel6233]

You give me a new meaning of self acceptance and peace ,thank you Alok ❤ 🇹🇹🥰

[@centurycity2626]

This shook me to the core. They are such a light in the world. Their ability to put feelings I wasn´t even aware of into words is breathtaking. Thank you so much for this.

[@GnomieTheHomie]

This might be the most important and healing video I've ever seen. Thank you. ❤

[@elenahannah7634]

This is so wonderful🧡🧡🧡 Alok has been such a light and inspiration in the last year for me. Loved to see this joyful and colourful interview. Also thank you to style like you for bringing the most wonderful and inspiring people to this platform! I feel so grateful and moved🥰

[@allflowersintiiime]

Thank you for sharing Alok's deeply personal take on their style. I hope you continue to amplify South Asian voices that reimagine their relationship with their culture like Alok has done.

[@Becomingher07]

Absolutely loved this interview & fresh perspective of how I need to view myself more.

[@TipseyToes]

Alok drops so many bombs of wisdom, that I can't watch this completely in one go. Chills and joy. I'll be back for my round 2. Thank you for this video ❤

[@EvidentlyFire]

so u find little girls kinky too

[@TigerPrawn_]

This video was like therapy in itself. Oh my goodness, so grateful to have watched this 💜

[@timmytangerine6132]

You have to have the courage to break your own heart in order to feel pain in order to heal. That’s really powerful. Fashion is how you look for others and style is how you look for yourself. Wow again. I’m really taking these to heart. Thank you Alon for being an excellent example of how to love yourself unconditionally

[@pauipueo3177]

Their truth just poured out of them. Love love loveeeeeed this one.

[@sirius-maat-amethyst-the-queen]

I love everything about this. Your words are so inspiring. Your soul expression is truly appreciated 🙏🏾

[@yoanncheungyousun5647]

Gorgeous. We should live the way we want. Bravo. We should take example.

[@isaontiveros5121]

Everytime I watch interviews or poetry reads from Alok I question everything and I love it. Thank you Alok and StyleLikeU:)

[@rubberbiscuit99]

I love how they express their revelation of their true self as worthy of love. Beautiful.

[@santiagolopez3909]

Thank you for that wise advice Alok. No truer words were spoken. Now here's someone I can trust.

[@WRsdO0djebeuR_WY7bllWqzfmo]

They're so eloquent and they articulated so many things I've felt

[@am143-g1m]

This man is beautiful. Beautiful face, beautiful voice. The style is so creative, it´s like art

[@MrsLeguyader]

BOOM! What a powerful message. Thank you for what you do and who you are.

[@simlahunsraj1456]

Such an intelligent individual...wow

[@simlahunsraj1456]

I'm one of your biggest fans Alok. You're a role model.

[@MsMaureen1975]

Alok has such a profound message, messages. I'm so glad I listened to them today, thank you.

[@Sugerskull]

Too have that much guts and bravery to walk out in the world and say this is who I am ,take or leave it . Thats a strong soul . I am not like this man but I hope before I die , I die with a strong soul.

[@romainelogere6204]

"Heal" is the best style advice - & direction - I have ever heard.

[@fairycloudz315]

They are speaking on so many important issues and themes. To me the biggest one is body hair!

[@blaklena]

Thank you for your Kind words and you Bright and Beautiful Militation (don't know if it exists as word but now it does!) You are an Amazing Person!!! 🥰

[@elizabethwhite1477]

What a well-spoken human. I want to listen to that beautiful voice all day!

[@facetedperspectives9950]

Texas was your "Egypt". A lot of us live in spiritually INHOSPITABLE places. I'm glad you were able to escape and come to YOU, love. Congratulations ‼️😊 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@rosie_grace2698]

This was astonishingly, phenomenally, beautiful 🌈🥰💛🌼

[@ribbrascal]

Puke

[@figmentoffairies]

​@@ribbrascalyou're commenting so many times on this video spending so much energy to hate and attack someone for living as their authentic self. I hope you heal

[@marvinraphaelmonfort8289]

power-clashing yes that is my jam and now i have a lovable phrase for it 💗 thankyou, always, alok! edit: and tysm e & l for sharing xoxoooooooooooo to u 3

[@mikk5540]

Truly truly such a wonderful person! ♡

[@atmikasimon1929]

thank you for telling the truth and living for you 💖 It is so healing to witness and I’m so grateful to be alive when you are.

[@sarahbeaglehole9377]

They seem so smart and has such a beautiful soul. So much wisdom 🥰

[@katherinelopez9778]

Alok is that type of human that will talk to your soul! thanks so much Love for sharing 🥰♥

[@TheReverenceProject]

I’ve had the pleasure to see Alok live once in Stockholm now and they are an absolute force of good to be reckoned with. I always feel so empowered after hearing them❤️

[@TigerPrawn_]

What kind of event was it?

[@eloisemarie5219]

Right now at a time of self reflection and self deprecating, I hear this person and the wisdom starts in drops and then comes at me faster and faster until it's a flood of realization. I'm already free. Stay that way. Thank you

[@oh_lalala]

What a breathtaking interview. So much deep wisdom, joy and inspiration! Thank you Alok, for being ❤️

[@burnoutexistencial]

Love, you just said exactely what I needed to hear right now. I'm so in tune with every single word you said, you helped SO MUCH with the processes I've been living and fighting you have no Idea. It's a short video that resouded gigantically and amazingly in me. I know I have so much to think and learn about myself after this. Your bare existance is helping people to survive so please keep being you. In fact, I thank your existance ❤️

[@diamoneyes3737]

As a brown woman with Indian heritage....I 💯 percent love this representation! I appreciate the whole you!

[@katpablo]

I cannot express how deeply Alok speaks to my soul each and every freaking time. What fullness in their words. Amazing amazing amazing. Thank you for having them again as a guest 💙✨💙

[@michaelkendall1263]

Did it speak to your soul when he said little girls are kinky. When asked about the issue of trans women abusing little girls in the bathroom, he said little girls aren't the princesses you think they are. They are kinky and deviant. He said there's no such thing as a perfect victim and no such thing as a flower to be corrupted

[@PinkPulpito]

Its just fabric but people are so afraid of self expression that they lash out in violence

[@CLos22]

I’ve said the same about colors, hats, even colorful socks!