INTJ Personality: How to Change the World (with resourcefulness and rebellion!)

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Are you an INTJ? What are you working on to change the world?!

[@adificut3299]

Dude, are your INTJ?

[@sentricz_devkep7525]

I’m working on making my bed in the morning.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Also valid. :D

[@benjaminwhitley3899]

Making healthy living easier and more affordable/accessible to the population in an easy to use manner to steer humans in a better direction. Making the earth and everyone's lives better/easier/healthier passively. Because I believe humans and the lazy consumer are more prone to make good decisions if there is personal gain and benefits with ease of use. Trying to make healthy living and good decisions add up and build a good passive income foundation making Everyone's lives easier/healthier and benefit the planet and all living things in the long run. Or i'm just trying to take over the world.

[@westindigenoustrading]

Amber Melanie Smith Thanks for sharing. nice video and great to finally see someone align INTJ personality type with good causes especially focused on empowering people to help themselves.

[@KatanaKamisama]

So... on the "emotionless" point. INTJ's are FAR from emotionless. We just do not let them rule our lives. We recognize that emotions are a reaction not a reason, and in order to make the best choice possible we should let our emotions inform us, but at the same time let our minds govern us. We may seem callous or un-caring IF you're appealing to us with an emotional argument that has no foundation in fact or reality, but any INTJ is willing to be swayed by a sound argument based in emotion as long as it has been tempered with reason. Ultimately INTJ's are intolerant of irrationality, not emotion. And to that point I don't see any reason to lend credence to knee jerk emotional arguments that are at best opinion, and at worst selfish and childish. On the point about INTJ's being rebellious, that is an establishment perspective. The reality for the INTJ is they're attempting to effect change in order to improve efficiency and quality of life / performance, but the bureaucracy of the establishment can't keep up with them and so they get frustrated and just do their own thing to prove a point. INTJ's respect ideas and ideals more than people, and if you get in their way they will go over, through, or around you to get to their goal. "Because I said so." isn't an argument we recognize as valid.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Makes total sense!

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

In fact, I've read on a website that it is the complete opposite, being Introverted Thinkers makes them Extroverted Feelers, and they tend to be the most excitable of all! There are many different things that will get an INTJ extremely passionate and excited, a successful plan that works out, getting hired for that job they wanted, etc... The least excitable people and therefore least emotional people are actually ISTJ. They are all the way at the bottom, and are focused on intellectual mastery. Administrator ISTJ, is extremely focused, and from personal experience, almost never loses their temper, and I have never once seen her cry. They can typically handle almost anything in life, and nothing seems to really phase an ISTJ, from a large dog barking right in her ear from 1 inch away, etc... On the other hand, INTJs can usually be found ranting vehemently against some wrong they have witnessed, and can always be found helping out other people (deep empathy). My female INTJ friend works well with children at a daycare center, and is a mother/wife with children, so she is very high on emotional investment in her life.

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

This is what actually confuses people the most, that ISTJ and INTJ are only 1 letter different, and yet, act completely different. INTP is closer to INTJ, and INFJ is the closest to INTJ of all, because of how the functions work, ISTJs and ISTPs are so far removed from emotion...

[@cececarroll7713]

Perfect explanations! You have managed to sum up something I have been misinterpreted about on so many occasions.

[@NB-qy7ku]

Think an intj is after truth. Humble and meek.

[@avneet5219]

I'm an INTJ and this video is so on point. And yes, as a dude INTJ I do not like Authority at all! And never ever want to submit to nobody. Just give me some time and I will make myself even bigger than the authority that was being imposed on me. This is how my mind works. Plus really really High Standards so can't settle for less and Yes I'm an entrepreneur too.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

I don't know that not liking authority is just a guy thing! I don't like authority either, ha ha. I'm an ENFJ though.

[@suncrystalLove]

I am also an INTJ, and as such, am absolutely anti-Religion. Do you feel the same? I find myself arguing with supposed INTJs, telling them they CAN'T be IN TJs because there's no logic to religion, that all religions were created to control people thru fear. All religious people are followers...

[@hectorchetwynd4945]

@@suncrystalLove yes I agree but from what I've learnt, most religions start genuine, many have started from humans unintentially tripping on a drug and mistaking the experience for a higher power. I think the religions in many cases are then converted to institutions to control it's followers, e.g. Catholicism, or Islamism in the middle ages

[@threeisthemagicnumbercalif4540]

I took a personality test and learned I am an INTJ. I now know my place in the world

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Awesome. What do you do / want to do?

[@threeisthemagicnumbercalif4540]

Amber Melanie Smith Conquer it!!! Just kidding. - With the way my life is going. I feel very blessed. I’ve dealt with some pretty devastating life events. I now know how I was able to come back from the ashes. Success is in our blood. Stay safe and thanks for the note.

[@N0URii]

@@threeisthemagicnumbercalif4540 lets dominate the world together

[@mkoen5775]

... to be honest, when I was younger, I wanted to do more than change the world. I wanted to take it over ;) After leaving school I had a unlimited amount of ideas on how to change the world for the better, complete with crazy complex, multi-layered strategies and the confidence to go with it. Now that I am over the hill, I am just trying to create order and effeciency around me in the hope of holding anarchy at bay and ensuring my kids have a future to look forward to. Its been a fulfilling ride, and I feel chuffed that the things I figured out 20 years ago is suddenly main stream today. Having said that, I am worried that the things I think I figured out today will only be appreciated in 20 years. I like to speculate that a INTJ out there is probably in some capacity, for better or for worse, responsible for the massive changes we are experiencing in the world today...

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

That's how it goes eh? But, everyone makes an impact in their own way - that's why I wanted to highlight different personality types and how they change the world. Keep the fire!

[@vikkiwalton6229]

As an INTJ I decided owning my own business was the way to go and I'm a nonprofit grantwriter and love creating strategy. So lots of what you said are on point. I also write fiction as a creative outlet.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Fiction + grantwriting - what a great combo! :)

[@farzanehw4760]

Glad to hear there's an INTJ fiction writer out there! I'm an aspiring writer and because of the society's emphasis on intjs being robotically logical, I'm always worried that my emotions aren't enough for writing fiction (although I know I have a lot of emotions).

[@sydney287]

This is the best one over INTJ that I’ve seen so far.. and I’ve seen a lot. Thank you!

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:D

[@mkwalker014]

-T, for me. And I just got a patent for a stands-alone tool design which is poised to save a lot of industries a lot of money. So, I will have wealth. With that wealth I will create a foundation that will fund for our schools an anti-bully concept that I derived from a semester long project for a social problems class I took at my first college. Heal our children, heal society...

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

There you go!

[@KenZauter]

This is singularly the best KZbin video out there on the INTJ! Good for you, Amber. And good luck with your mission, you’re doing good work. As an INTJ programmer, I was one of the few in my field that had a union (I worked in the public sector) and became a very effective union steward and activist. So, you’re spot on!

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Wow, thank you!

[@RetroXRicardo]

Great information on this INTJ type! I stumbled upon your channel through the KZbin algorithm today. Thanks for sharing! 🌟🌟🌟

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Yay!

[@yombate]

You know your an intj when you quickly realize the downsides are not downsides at all lol

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

That's a positive way to look at it!

[@snowflakestarprincessakiko6013]

Or, you're an INFJ/ENFJ/ISFJ who just loves everyone...

[@charles2241]

Better yet. When you realize that every common saying you've heard that gets passed around like it's ultimate wisdom (you always ought to worry about the solidity of something that the fake news will use), such as "He who forgets history, is DOOMED to repeat it" and that you can rather easily deflate such things. Sure, they can be good outlooks for a very surface level observation, but to believe it like dogma? Pfft. I sometimes think that what passes for wisdom with a lot of people, is simply that somebody once said it, and it's popular, so it's got to be true and unshakeable. In a way, I think we may be saying the same thing, only I've elaborated more. I think we're both saying is "Most things aren't what they first seem", or "Surface level is frequently deceptive".

[@fosskytheanswerer]

*you're (Agree) - by an INTJ

[@reeve8640]

Yes, they are

[@denvercolorado811]

Yes. INTJ.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:D

[@LaLuna4444]

I'm INTJ and want to build tech company, being innovator and reformer, solving people problems.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Yay!

[@mallorysandstrom3928]

INTJ here. This video is accurate. Realized recently I don't overthink and I'm not neurotic...I just give people way too much credit for their mental faculties. I don't need to worry or be intimidated by what other people are thinking because they are not operating anywhere near my plane. They should be concerned about what I'm up to, but they have no idea, poor dears. A big reason for that is I have mastered my pleasant expression in public. It rarely slips now, but it drains my battery quickly. Writing a book to change the world, by the way.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Nice! What's your book about (other than changing the world :))?

[@timothyg100]

Hi, this helps me a lot, almost want to jump in and tell you all about the plans I have,, Will do soon ,just want you to know you are doing a lot of good by putting this info. out there. Thanks

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Yay! Glad it was helpful!

[@claytonmcdonald8603]

Your voice is perfect

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Thanks :)

[@curtiswong7515]

I couldn't help but to laugh when you said, "fight fake news." Yes. If you're a very logical and rational person, then your head is absolutely about to explode with all the irrationality and emotions going on with our current society. When humans become fearful, we truly do revert back to being cavemen and simply cannot think for ourselves. We'd rather get spoon-fed exactly how to live and what to think, and if you're naturally very individualistic and anti-authoritarian then you absolutely cannot stand all the totalitarianism that is going on. But it doesn't matter, because if you try to educate and awaken people, you're not looked at as some kind of well intentioned sage. You're immediately marginalized as a heartless monster. And then sure enough, every single one of your predictions plays out exactly as you had warned. You'd think having really strong foresight would be a blessing, but if you're unable to prevent the actions that you've predicted, it feels more like a curse.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

As an ENFJ :) my thought would be to try to understand what is at the core of the other person's response and beliefs. We are all very complex as humans and carry with us so many influences on our lives and upbringing as we move through the world. I truly believe everyone at their core just wants to belong, be loved, connect, and play a meaningful role in their community. And, that that desire can explain a lot of peoples' behaviors - from being individualistic to wanting to conform, even to believing in misinformation.

[@curtiswong7515]

​@@AmberMelanieSmith Oh hey, my older sister is an ENFJ too and she's one of my favorite people precisely because of that optimism that you just expressed. I actually agree with you on that because I'm eternally optimistic too, but I'm also realistic. A good metaphor would be like if you had a friend whose boyfriend was physically abusive and constantly cheating on them and you provided concrete and objective proof of this but your well intentioned friend continued to stay in the relationship because of their feelings towards the other person. Is your friend a bad person? Nope. Do you wish she would be open to having her mind changed and wish she would see the bigger picture and take your advice? Yes. Both things can be simultaneously true. If you're the friend who sees the truth but is constantly ignored and even resented for your advice, then eventually you stop giving advice and just mind your own business because you already know how everything will play out.

[@aperez12374]

Apparently I'm an INTJ-A. I'm an audio engineer which requires deep knowledge but also deep creativity when it comes to solving problems and more importantly mixing live audio for a band. Not a lot of people know what this entails. I would love to share my story and what I do in more detail.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

That sounds like a great combo!

[@syebethel]

I'm INTJ. Almost all the jobs you mention appeal to me, and I've pursued some already, although some without pay. Organising, checking off lists, improving systems.... that's my life! Hence, I've been an entrepreneur for most of my working years. This video was equally as satisfying ❣

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Nice to feel validated, ha ha!

[@RareGemLove]

This is one of the better INTJ, the information is relevant and useful. ♥️

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Glad it was helpful!

[@mitchcrews5503]

INTJ construction project manager here, certainly a spot on video.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Awesome! Do you have other INTJs on your team?

[@alialdaba8483]

Confirmation. I found your channel because of the headline INTJ. Then later, I found the content about nonprofits. I realize later on that they were of the same channel. Same, I am an INTJ working with an NGO.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Nice! Yes! I believe all personality types can make an impact in the world with their unique talents - so I thought it would be interesting to take a look at how!

[@hevren]

cant believe so spot on, i am more concern about business, specially knowledge workers, we need to share, decision making and profit. Also business contracts are not based on win/win. It starts loose/win but at the end it turns loose/loose.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Makes sense!

[@serveyou2454]

I literally like you

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:D

[@raidanbolt4844]

This was a very good assessment. I recommend INTJs to consider work that are project based. Working for a state government, my biggest part peeve is the lack of focus and wanting to fix everything at once which is very frustrating. (Studies show how ineffective that is.) I actually want to finish a project before getting reprioritized to another.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

That makes sense. It's definitely a hard lesson to learn!

[@mohamedelhag7778]

We like you .. keep doing your thing Also your points are so true, I do started my business .. I do planning for our trade union behind the scene .. I did MBA .. I also work as Automation engineer and love tech, physics, math and also about to join public policy class maybe this june. your video makes sense to me.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Awesome! Thank you :)

[@sarahsamuels9088]

So accurate

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:)

[@gay-mariehollingsworth6954]

Thankyou

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Hope it was helpful :)

[@gay-mariehollingsworth6954]

@@AmberMelanieSmith yes your work and videos are great. INTJ and autism and ADHD, the anhedonia and lack of emotion is a physical coping mechanism of the body, the ASD can also be a super power and observational awareness and understanding and empathy. Loneliness and isolation, work from home is a coping mechanism. My personal journey has been a struggle and steep learning curve and often fraught with analysis paralysis

[@BrexerBlue]

Thank you for your video, you did a great job : )

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Glad you liked it!

[@m.channel.1]

I took 8 personality tests throughout the years and every time I got the same results, the same 4 letters: INTJ

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

I assume you agree with the results? :)

[@m.channel.1]

@@AmberMelanieSmith yes, I do 100%

[@ladyloungealot5119]

I am an INTJ and quite happy to have stopped full-time work where …., oh, what's the point, glad I don't have to be there dealing with people who just don't get the idea.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

As long as you're doing what you love :)

[@ytsersius]

bruh this is so accurate it's not even funny - what this video describes is exactly what I'm doing right now - Strategy role in non profit organisation helping people improve their employability skills. I swear I've never seen this video before.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

😮 😎

[@menageriegardenshoppe]

This is cool, I've been following you for awhile, do you have one for INFJs?

[@doughalversen7303]

INTJ I am 1 2 I kind of know my gifts but I was only presented with a couple years ago, I'll just keep on watching your channel and get more informed thank you very much for this opportunity to learn 💙🐯✌️🌟

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

You're welcome! Hope it helps!

[@kaustubh8309]

Hi...That was a nice video...Right now i am acquiring knowledge to start a tech startup hopefully in the future...i think i am making a good impact on environmental issues and try to keep the environment pristine...and basically helping whoever or whatever i can based on my abilities....cheers !

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Awesome! How did you get interested in that?

[@kaustubh8309]

@@AmberMelanieSmith I think I was inclined towards environment since childhood...I used to love these subjects in school...And since there are so many people who don't have resources , I think wastage of any kind should be avoided...I don't take part in any NGO work right now because I don't have much time...but I do donate to local ngos and do my part. So yeah that's my view :)

[@boz3605]

INTJs are uniquely adapted to develop a new vision for an organization. If they get involved with an existing organization they usually want to modify the direction somewhat to (1) bring it in line with their personal vision and (2) make it more efficient.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Great perspective!

[@RandySForbes]

Yeah, I might have gotten a verbal reprimand for writing a detailed email to an exec higher up the chain about how the book they suggested we read and the organization they created weren't aligned. Hey, I had all the facts, diagrams, and a well laid out solution; even had it reviewed by some well respected peers. Wasn't my fault they didn't understand the book. They passed it out. I just read it. 🤷‍♂️😂

[@yspasova7718]

y spasova 38 seconds ago Interesting you should ask. Watching your video made me realise maybe not all people have that craving to improve systems that we INTJs seem to have (broad generalisation, but hey). I personally discovered a while ago that being a campaigner at an animal welfare NGO is pretty much my dream job and corresponds well with my ideals. I've had some experience with it and although I now work as a manager in a different company, the sector kept calling me. I now volunteer in two other animal welfare NGOs and find a lot of meaning in it at the end of the day.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Yes! I am an ENFJ personally but the social impact world called to me for sure.

[@techlizay485]

Im an INTJ too

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Awesome!

[@RGBenjamin]

I am an INTJ too 🥳🙂👍

[@MINIPRO27]

As a 15 year old INTJ I'm still curious on how the world works before doing something about it

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

That's a really good approach, then you can figure out how to help based on what you learned!

[@TTMAN619]

MINIPRO27 don’t worry buddy your third eye will let you know

[@danielcitizenman5510]

I think when I took this evaluation in 2020 this is what I was told by the facilitator I was.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Cool! ENFJ here :)

[@moonbasemonk]

I have thought about changing the world, but with the really high standards of this personality type, and the authoritative roadblocks along the way, I think it's just easier to create my own society! You were right about working better with a "small start-up" haha! Great video!

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Ha ha, I got you. I'm an ENFJ but I hate bureaucracy and rules blocking the path to making an impact faster!

[@Cassiel75]

THNX

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Welcome

[@Cassiel75]

@@AmberMelanieSmith ;)

[@gentleisaac1738]

what is INTJ ??

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

It's a myers briggs personality type! You can take an online assessment to figure out what your "type" is.

[@andrewhodgson7342]

Job role: Progress Tutor / Head of Year As an INTJ I work as guidance for a year group in a UK secondary school. Overarching policy frustrates me as it isn't efficient or effective therefore, I am looking to move into a position where I can help inform that. At 24, my personality has definitely seen me rapidly out grow others in the work sector. Please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Thanks for sharing, Andrew!

[@serveyou2454]

To tell you the truth all we need is limitless resources to engage world systems on every level one problem at a time trust me naturally we don’t need any one to tell ideas to, instead we prefer input of idea from any one not criticism in any form or fashion unless you are able to prove it

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Limitless resources would solve a lot of problems... :)

[@carlosfernandez3784]

Why is this scary true

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:D

[@nathanielbables8652]

Government professor who i still talk to is one. Pretty cynical about America's future. However he believes he's servicing the world by teaching those who will listen. INTJs in fiction include, Huey Freeman, Dr House, 7 of 9, Batman, and the girl with the dragon tattoo.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Batman. Awesome. 😍

[@lyankar2721]

If I'm more attracted to villains, does that mean I'm one? Is it bad to be a villain? What does it mean to be a villain? And finally, does it have anything to do with what you mention?

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Maybe because in a weird way villains are rebels and people are attracted to rebels? 🤓

[@lyankar2721]

@@AmberMelanieSmith I think it's not my case xdxd but thanks for answering

[@johnknight9150]

How did you know I'm an open source journalist?

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

😎

[@tartgreenapple]

So we are all Spock from Star Trek?

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Would that be the worst?

[@zycho1523]

I am an INTJ, recently I was offered a business analyst role but I have the desire to try insurance agent. Just dont know what to do.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Could you try one and research the other to see what you like best?

[@dreamingsymphony]

As an Intj i wanna do many things to change the world...but it's confusing...at a point i wanna be musician and at another something else..

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Lots of musicians have changed the world!

[@boboAi9]

I really wanna know how you get my bug goal change the world cause our world is so bad and the humans is so bad too but find type!! Of people thinking like me and agree with me this makes me confused but actually 𝕐𝔼𝕊 intj-a big goal is change the world for me at least

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

:D

[@MB-or8js]

As INTJ, I have a simple question: did you personally actually meet one? There are also different INTJ sub categories with different skills. The real deal is much more complex.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

For sure! Humans are really complex overall. :) No one personality type can sum up any human completely. It's fun to explore them though.

[@SuperSpecies]

@@AmberMelanieSmith way to not answer the question. Way to annoy an intj: ignore their question and hope they won't notice.

[@jmo1774]

But it wouldn't matter bc you may be vastly different than me, just for one example( and you know the BASICS/main traits which are the quintessential INTJ ARE BORING SO YOU ARE LIKELY here in search of deeper niche qualities we have, except the further we go in that direction the more likely we are to not meet parameters or stand in agreement of these things..bc variables are all over the place ) I'm an athlete and love sports which isn't typical according to most information- but occurs perhaps in response to how I was raised(1 possible reason) so then let's say she meets me and learns all about tge less typically intj traits i have (clarified- its stupid hard to get me to actually be in a scenario to play anything at all... bc id rather be doing the things which ARE VERY quintessential Intj LIKE RESEARCHING ETC. ** this is dead honest full truth, and worth mentioning for context **)what should she / what do you expect she do with this info? Exactly nothing ito further defining intj with greater accuracy. If she meets 1000 my argument stands. The only value is awareness of intricacies so maybe a claim such as, "this intj possess this while over here this intj has this thingy", so now we have more depth but actually lose similarities . So I'm not saying it's best this way but I definitely am not saying I your point is valid. It's not, - bc you want personal assets described or or you deem invalid while I say her research on us ,of broad ranging enough, will provide sufficient arguments as a lack of bias is present. Not being smarmy just wondering why you would not see that angle.

[@jmo1774]

@@SuperSpecies tldr- she's correct. Her answer is as accurate as pi. To rewrite ito numbers to decimal places is less precise than short sweet pi. So I hope this angle squares up any confusion

[@shirayryu8071]

You can't change the world mainly to change the world u need people and people won't listen ...we always speak of good intentions read humans history u rarely gonna see a white spot ...plz prove me wrong ..it's not about types it's about facts or dont go school...and btw thank you a lot helping me understand myself I didn't know that thing exist..aloha

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Changing the world is definitely complicated and a long-term thing! Looking at ways to change the world based on Myers Briggs personality types is just an exercise for fun and because I found it interesting. :)

[@danielcitizenman5510]

🙏😇😎👍

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

🙂

[@AvadaKedavra943]

I'm an INTj and what I can tell you is that we are not into politics or advocacy, at least not doing so for the public good. We are here to acquire wealth and power. We may want to change the world, but usually in an elitist way, not in a socialist way.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

I'm sure there are different types of people within each group. :)

[@jf2143]

I agree with you but i belive that it is because we want the freedom that wealth is supposed to give us. Complete freedom i mean to not depend of anybody

[@RandySForbes]

INTJ..."WHY can't you all see what's going on? Ok, let me break it down again. First, you have to understand the theory... Next, you need to go back to 1876 when ...Now fast forward to 2010 when ... Now when you put these together, then take what's happening now... oh, but don't forget in 1998 we when... either way ... back to what I was saying ... now project this 5 years from now ... uh., excuse me, why are interrupting? ... no, that's not even close to what I'm talking about." #mylife

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

Ha ha

[@Cassiel75]

Tyranny and oppression shall never be better /-nor better mankind /-These are nor mere moral facts

[@luminouswolf7117]

🏴‍☠️

[@luminouswolf7117]

I don’t know how many hours of volunteer work, it would be better measured in years.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

😮

[@muiz9662]

INTJ actually did everything only for her/his self.

[@AmberMelanieSmith]

I think INTJs (and any personality type) can be kind and help others! Are you an INTJ?

[@muiz9662]

@@AmberMelanieSmith Yes I am, I found that I wont do anything for somebody unless its really benefit me ~