I’m 42. Here’s what I’ve learned about being a woman

[@Serendipity-gj2me]

The relationship with my mother was toxic from the start to her very end. She was a cold, and hard. We fought bitterly. She was the daughter of a property tycoon who left her millions. When she died my sister who was exactly like her, inherited it all. She left me nothing!!! but I didn't care and still managed to survive and live a comfortable life happily married for 25 years to the love of my life.

[@youwanttosurvivebeloved4731]

Very interesting, are you the eldest sibling ? if that even makes a difference.

[@WeRNthisToGetHer]

Probably because you are the family scapegoat and your siblings conformed to the toxic family system while you rebelled. Your mom is likely jealous of you. My mom is like this and recently threatened to disinherit me as leverage to control me. I'm immune to that threat as I never counted on anything anyway. 🤷‍♀️

[@zouzou8970]

I read on Nicole LePerra's page that some people didn't have children because after they grew up they had to re-raise themselves. Never read something more accurate on the topic of not having children.

[@anz10]

yep this is me

[@johannbredendieck7568]

​@@szymonbaranowski8184This statement is completely ignoring the situation she is talking of and a very "man-like" perspective.

[@zouzou8970]

@@szymonbaranowski8184 Maybe, but more so in sexual behaviour, which is something Peterson often talks about.

[@Katharine-000]

I relate to that. And I haven’t succeeded entirely yet, so I couldn’t raise anyone else.

[@PaletaLee]

Such greta comment thank you

[@diamant1081]

My mom died almost 3 years ago. She was sick very often and was in the hospital for many times. I cared for her, because I was the only one from 4 children who lived nearby. My mom was a very difficult woman when she was sick and in hospital. Very demanding and manipulative. When she was home relatively healthy it was a whole other woman. Kind, sweet and loving. When I sat at her side in the hospital, knowing that she was dying, I refused to be angry about her behavior when she was sick. After all she was my mom and I loved her dearly. Now she is gone I give myself permission to feel the relief that I don't have to take care of her anymore in her sick periods of time. I miss her more than I can say, but that part of her definitily not. And that is okay. I remember her as the mom when she was kind, sweet and loving. I cherish those times. I don't want to think about her as a woman who drove me absolutely crazy with her behavior in her sick days. The part that I didn't like about her has a place in my memories, but I don't let it push away the beautiful memories. Irma from the Netherlands

[@marinab.8590]

You mentioned that she was only mean when she was sick, l would imagine how hard that must have been for her. I am thinking that she was angry at her situation but somehow she took it out on you. Some parents go through many emotions and pains that we don’t know or understand. Specially as they age, I was volunteering at a hospital for a few months in my early twenties. I was shocked at how mean elderly patients were and how badly they treated the nurses. The nurses seemed to be used to that. Anyway, just wanted to say that you are doing good by only remembering the good times and not the ones where she was ill because that was definitely not her at the end.

[@LoisAelis]

That part about your mother where you said "I saw a human. I saw a very sad woman who had struggled a lot in her life" genuinely resonates with me. The mother-daughter relationship is very complex indeed.

[@cherrieaulait]

Beautifully & eloquently put. I think women who dont have children (as well as those who do) often end up nuturing & caring for all manner of people, creatures, plants, ideas, ourselves. Nuturing, creating, guiding, soothing, steering, calming, loving, protecting. It all helps the world.

[@marchowe1629]

No - they end up alone.

[@cherrieaulait]

@marchowe1629 Surely it only matters to those who mind being alone? Many parents become estranged from their children for various reasons? You can also be alone & still take care of those you know or encounter?

[@marchowe1629]

@@cherrieaulait This is cope and denial. We are a social species - lack of human interaction is extremely unhealthy, and vastly increasing the likelihood of poor mental health and cognitive decline. If you spend all your time alone, you are dooming yourself to a short, miserable existence.

[@cherrieaulait]

@marchowe1629 But not having children doesn't mean you are alone? People still might still have a mate (partner/spouse or whatnot), parents, siblings, nieces & nephews, aunts, uncles, grandparents, greatgrandparents, cousins, extended family, friends, strangers they encounter. They could all do with some extra care?

[@marchowe1629]

@@cherrieaulait In modern times - and especially in any English-speaking nation, nine times out of ten that is wishful thinking. We live in societies with low birth rates for well over a generation - so most people do not have large extended families unless they are recent immigrants. Instead, an increasing number of people - men and women - choose to become recluses in their own homes, drinking store-bought alcohol, doing SSRIs or smoking weed, while watching streaming services and playing video games. They do this instead of engaging in real human interaction. It's pathetic, and we all only have ourselves to blame for all the rot, decay and anomie we have brought upon ourselves.

[@Natalia-pc7fm]

Thank you Ana for your sincerity. I’m 48, no children, difficult mother-daughter relationship and never had much luck making friends. I appreciate the hardships you’ve been through. Comparatively I’ve had an easier life in western countries, but because of undiagnosed ADHD, life has just been one long uphill battle against an invisible enemy. I wish you the best moving forward.

[@staceyl618]

@@szymonbaranowski8184 You must be a bot

[@SchneppFlute]

Being a woman is very complex! You shared enough to get your points across and stay respectful of those in different circumstances from yours. I'm sure this was one of your more difficult videos to produce. Thank you for your honesty and giving us more food for thought. ❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kind understanding, dear Gayle ❤️

[@CastleKnight7]

@@anagoldbergDarling, you are truly truly beautiful! We love all of you unconditionally. 😘

[@lindas5964]

Hello Ana! It was really good to hear your perspective. We rarely get to hear personal stories from your country. The chat about the “why no children” really resonated with me. I chose not to have children and the people whom I barely know that think they can start asking me deeply personal questions on this topic is astounding. The looks of pity and confusion and maybe in some ways, distrust and judgement is one reason why I’ve chosen a life of mostly solitude. Most women’s circles are really just a place to talk about children and grandchildren. Rarely do the women actually talk about themselves and their lives.

[@Theravadinbuto]

As a man I’ve also experienced questions and pressure about “why don’t you have children?” Nobody needs to apologize for having or not having children, and everyone’s situation, history and reasons are unique and valid. Not having children can be a path to focusing our ability to help and support others in other areas, and can be hugely positive for society.

[@DirtyJamesUK]

Very true. But sheep will always ask why you didn't become one of them, and think there's something defective about you.

[@Ratatouilles]

I love listening to your reflections Ana ❤. In a positive note, I believe my relationship with my mother has not been problematic. That doesn't mean she has done things perfectly, but she did the best she knew and gave me unconditional love and support. I didn't value this when I was younger, but now that I know how lucky I've been, I am extremely grateful.

[@j.n.sloane]

You don't rant. You have a very compassionate and patient demeanor. I found your video very helpful and kind. You clearly have thought very carefully and intelligently about how you would approach this complex topic and I felt comfortable and thoughtful during the entire video. Respect and consideration can be seen with your approach. I would not have the confidence to speak on such a complex topic in a foreign language so this demonstrates that you also have great courage. Deep respect. Saludos desde Asturias.

[@mickjaeger7573]

Another deeply thoughtful video. Very relatable. That moment when we're able to forgive our parents is supremely liberating. Life is complex. Be well.

[@TheShayde2000]

Happy Birthday, Ana! I just turned 62. I am just now coming to terms with my relationship with my mother. I was her caretaker until she passed in 2021. Like you, I didn't realize what was wrong until counseling.

[@werewitch9466]

Thank you for this video Ana. I'm 20 and it's very comforting to hear someone share about the parts of life that are not usually talked about, I look forward to the second part💗

[@katarzynapiatkowska]

I will turn 42 in June this year. Thank you for what you do here, on KZbin. And for being such a beautiful and wise person ❤

[@alexandraw.7920]

What you said about your mother - what you realized, when she was dying - hit me right in my heart and made me cry immediately. Thank you so much for your wise words, Ana.

[@meursaultscourtroom8886]

Always a voice of reason and kindness, your ideas are much appreciated. Wishing you the best.

[@Wonderish]

Your videos are so impactful for me. I don’t really have friends anymore and hearing you share about experiences related to being a woman and being older and being a person who wants to be more intentional with their life really resonate with me. I admire the way you are able to share in a vulnerable way without giving all the details of your own lived experiences. It challenges that feeling that we often have as humans - that we have to have answers to our own curiosity. I’ve been working on channeling that curiosity into my own thoughts/perceptions/experiences. I’ve been into KZbin for a really long time and watching people now who are sharing vulnerably with boundaries feels the most meaningful

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for saying this, it means a lot to me and I'm so thankful for being heard and for the chance to feel connected with like-minded friends here ❤️

[@AnonymousFriend-i7l]

Ana! What I love about you is that I know your life has been difficult in many ways. I am an American and I am so dismayed by what is happening to my country and its affect on the entire world. But when I see you, I see a beautiful survivor and I am given hope... that I too may be able to survive and thrive.... finding the beautiful, giving, elements of myself to reach out to others You are such a strong role model. Thank You Ana.

[@oneseeker2]

She deliberately got her papers AND things together and left het Country, she did not daddle. She AND Brian have since moved around looking for home, AND safety. As Americans, if we just do nothing, we have done nothing for ourselves to prepare to leave. Things will not Get any better in America

[@kimmyk3640]

​@oneseeker2 I disagree. America is finally moving in the right direction. We have come back from the edge of a cliff. We Americans are survivors and I for one am very proud to be an American. We need to remember our potential and strive to meet it.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for being so kind, my friend ❤️ I hope the world will become a gentler and more caring place very soon 🤗

[@zaraanderson3838]

@@kimmyk3640hahaha

[@jmaldo92]

​@@kimmyk3640 love the satire 😂😂

[@margothattingh5911]

You are a wonderful and courageous woman Ana, I so admire you and the grace with which you navigate a sometimes extremely challenging life. ✨🌻

[@Natalia-c8l3e]

Ana, I'm absolutely amazed, what you are talking about is so brave, genuine and unique! Congratulations!!! 💚💚💚

[@oneseeker2]

I can't tell if she is dismissing her bravery, leaving her Country,traveling through other Countries,,all unknown, money tight,,all unknown.

[@inessilva1859]

Anna I could feel your emotion when you talked about your complex history with your mother, and I cried, because I have that open wound on my self too. My mother is alive, but I feel that the disturbance and distress of my relationship with her will always hunt me. I have been to therapy, I have reflected and got some very enlighted insights, I've tried to forgive all the damage she caused me, how she shapped my life and my personality into a fragile being, who had to made her strong all by herself. We are now on better terms, but its such an ambivalent and never settled mindset I have about my relationship with her. I've been reading a book by one of the most renoumed portuguese psychoanalists, António Coimbra de Matos, called "Depressão" (Depression), in which he deeply explores the mother-daughter/son early dynamic, and I got some deep, freeing yet hurtful insights. It's such a lonely and personal road, but I have an optimistic sense that one day peace will be in ours hearts ❤

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Ines, thank you so much for sharing your story. I can feel it and I can feel you through it. It's not easy and I hope you'll find peace and healing soon ❤️ I tried to find the book in translation, but it seems like it's not available. But I will look up more!

[@inessilva1859]

@ unfortunatly I don't think it's translated to english. Thank you for your responde dear Ana 💟

[@petrabutler3463]

Such a heartfelt and honest video. Thank you you Ana ❤ Your hair always looks lovely too ❤

[@jessicabulloch5302]

Anna, you are a lovely person. I am a mother of a large family. I find that some people are just judgemental and mean, I have received unkind comments asking why I have so many children. ❤

[@HelenaHovorkova]

Happy birthday Ana and thank you for being so nice and kind woman.

[@AstroMartine]

Thank you for being open and sharing all these thoughts Ana, I could definitely relate to a few experiences. I've also had my mother say something to me that really annoyed me(well, one thing among many), which was something along the lines of "do not show that you have any kind of problems(including health concerns), because no man will want you", so I guess I'll stay single forever lol. My mother married a narcissist of the worst kind and I never saw her being truly happy, but she would cope with his abusive/disgusting behavior by lying to herself. And ultimately, as she got older, she herself admitted to feeling alone most of the time, despite being married. A man you cannot be open and vulnerable with is a waste of time, or worse, a liability that you should get rid of.

[@anagoldberg]

I so agree! What a torture a relationship becomes when you can't be open and vulnerable...

[@eve_in_paris]

Very relatable. I’m 56 and still struggle with my toxic mother. I’ll go and watch the links you shared. Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@commanderofkesariyaknights]

Lmao

[@jcsrst]

This was awesome! Doesn't matter where you're from, being a woman can be challenging! ALL valid points that you made, thank you!

[@gayathrigirijathmajan970]

Hi Ana.. it is so generous of you to share so many very personal aspects of your life..these are truly valuable lessons..my life circumstances are very different from yours.. but I could completely relate to everything you said.. really grateful❤

[@lcr603]

Thank you for your mother/daughter insights. I can meditate on this from both directions as both a mother and a daughter…I hope to say that each generation is progressing towards more complete self-acceptance

[@ruralliberal1377]

what a great reminder that whether you have children or not, it's nobody's business but your own, and we should all be more mindful about that. I think we get in the habit of asking that question as a means of making conversation, and maybe that's okay, but it might be a very painful subject for some women, and we probably should avoid that question if we can

[@JaneAustenAteMyCat]

Same as 'what do you do for a living?'

[@anz10]

same as 'when are you getting married?' and 'are you thinking about marriage?' regarding your currently relationship especially a long relationship.. people will bring up issues by themselves if they want to discuss them

[@eco.dolly.escapades]

​@@anz10 Or people such as actual health professionals having the audacity to repeatedly ask your parents about your relationship status. Our dental hygienist asked my mom that question during her routine cleanings at least twice last year alone. Been avoiding going there ever since

[@narelleworks8448]

Dear Ana, love to you from Australia. ❤️💐🇦🇺

[@summerrain7466]

Hello, my friend! I am 55yrs old, and still working out some of those early childhood mother-daughter challenges! And yes, stepping back to look at a mother simply as a person, and as someone who had their own life and own experiences before you were ever born, does give you a different perspective on things sometimes. About children/no children, I wish you could feel more comfortable and confident, dear friend, to ask people to mind their own business! You owe NO ONE an explanation for anything that does not effect them directly. Sending you much love, Ana!

[@ronnronn55]

Perhaps something like, "I don't wish to talk about that right now".

[@mirjamboleij3668]

In the craziness of this world, your channel is like a safe haven. I always appreciate your realness and you are very relatable. Wishing you and Brian love and light ❤

[@kittydeleo4043]

First time viewer here. I just wanted to thank you for your authenticity and reassure you that you most certainly do not come across as ranty or negative. In fact you come across as very sweet and humble and generous. Wishing you all the best!

[@Amra-h5w]

Dear Ana as an HSP this video deeply resonates with me, thank you so much for sharing!

[@vickymaddenbonillas5910]

Thank you for your honest conversation, Ana! I appreciate you and your videos!

[@velvetolio]

I'm so happy I found your channel. Thank you for creating such a calm space here for us

[@MIOLAZARUS]

I just love you so much Anastasia ❤ Your insights are so immense and I always see you as brave in your vulnerability. “Being different haven’t been completely banned yet”.. ✨⭐️

[@marmar6692]

Wow, this was one of your best videos, if not the best, the honesty about real female issues, my god, i wish i was your friend in real life... I'm in my 40ies, and i can relate to all those things you've mentioned - the body image issues from a very early teens to health problems, to "mother wounds", to not having children and being given all those unsolicited advices... I'm sending you love, there are so many of us❤

[@annea7526]

“Mother Wounds” perfect description of a wound that has never healed. My mother has been gone for 39 years and I think of her every day longing for a moment to ask her why???

[@anagoldberg]

Love back to you, my friend ❤️

[@shamsahumayun4693]

Happy birthday to you. You’re a sweet person 🎉❤

[@debj9680]

You are amazing Ana. So ethereal and wise. I relate to all your points, especially the one re children. It never happened for me either due to a variety of complex factors x

[@sharonshmuel3386]

Lovely seeing you. You are so brave to tell your stories ❤ I think you are amazing & very talented ❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Sharon ❤️

[@richardwilliamson1639]

Most comments about one's status in life can be answered with "Thanks for your opinion." Kudos for honesty and nuance, Ana. "Survivor Bias" explains so much. People often mean well and feel they must share their "secrets to success." Otherwise they see themselves as selfish. "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, so true! I always have to remind myself that in most awkward situations people initially mean well 😊

[@kerrirosestubb]

Thank you for sharing your truth and your beauty ❤

[@nenazecevic7067]

Dear Ana, Hvala na dirljivom i iskrenom videu. Ti si predivna osoba.Zagljaj iz Srbije.❤❤❤

[@anagoldberg]

Hvala, Draga Nena! Sending much love to Serbia❤️

[@Woodenp3ck]

Thank you for this Ana. Sending love from the other side of the world ❤️

[@katrinawilson935]

Your kindness and good heart shines through. Wonderful. Xx

[@richardwilliamson1639]

As a man, I'm interested in what it's like to be a woman. Thanks for sharing!

[@moimimi9399]

⁠@oneseeker2 why should a man restrict his learning about women’s experiences to just his family members? That would give him a pretty limited perspective.

[@oneseeker2]

I will remove my comment

[@MsNatiBug]

It sucks

[@Iris-qo8xi]

This was a great video. As a 21yo woman , I thank you very much for making this video❤

[@marionmcnee8759]

Ana, I really enjoyed your beautiful insights. Thank you for sharing what you did. I found it very helpful and relatable. I am very grateful for having seen it. Wishing you all the best

[@keepfocused]

Thanks for being so vulnerable. I get asked why don't you have children alot. It is difficult to explain that it is a combination of things. It was great to hear someone talk about it from a different perspective. ❤

[@anagoldberg]

❤️🤗

[@PamGreyling]

Ana I respect how you share your experiences in such an adult way. You are a unique woman. I am honoured by your bravery and honesty. You are going to be great❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kindness, Pam ❤️

[@alladraxler9577]

You are wonderful! Thanks for sharing the most painful and brave testimony. Keep on praying, it worded for me, I had my kids after 40. Good luck to you and your spouse .

[@ChrisSaenz13]

Hi Ana! This was a wonderful chat & I admire you so much for sharing profound insights without over sharing to the point where it would violate your peace & privacy! I can't wait for part 2! I'm currently having a very emotional time with caring for my Mom and your words are really helpful!❤

[@BettyHorn]

Oh, I don't know. I was just thinking that your hair is quite cute today! I am glad that you have, for the most part, come to peace about your relationship with your mother and as far as children, it's none of my business. I'm grateful that you are in a loving relationship now. You're a good woman, Ana, and a good influence. Thank you. You tell stories well, too.

[@nanetten6238]

I had the biggest revelation regarding my mother when I was in my 40's. My (half) sister and I had a rather estranged relationship until that time. However, we developed our relationship and began to confide in each other. When my sister talked about our mother, it was as if she was talking about an entirely different mother than the one who raised me. My mother was a single teenager when she became pregnant with my sister, and was in her second marriage twelve years later when she became pregnant with me. My sister had lots of conflict and hurt feelings regarding our mother, while I was very close to my mother during my childhood and teenage years. For some reason this really shocked me. Now my mother is in her 90s and has dementia, and my sister is her caretaker as I live far away from both of them. It seems like things have gone full circle. Thank you so much for sharing this personal information.

[@ChyroneMcThunderschlong]

Sounds like sis got a raw deal in the beginning and the end.

[@superkommunikatoren4987]

Love to listen to you and what you share! Thank you! /Niclas ❤

[@senmeii]

Thank you for sharing these precious lessons with us ! I'm a younger woman and I always love to hear the experience of more mature women, it's always very reassuring and enlightening. I wish you the best ! ♥

[@ytanki]

Thank you again, dear Ana, for a very personal and really important video ❤. To me, you are a strong and brave woman, but at the same time so vulnerable❤. I always enjoy your content and it makes me think about life, my life and the life of others. I wish you all the best, as always🍀❤️, lots of love to Brian and you❤

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Anke, thank you for always being so kind ❤️ Sending love!

[@Michelle-bk5uq]

I so appreciate you and this channel. Thank you! 💛

[@maddyfox8545]

Hi Ana 👋. What a beautiful video. You voiced things so beautifully. The more of your videos I watch, the more I know we would be friends IRL. Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. I related in one way or another to everything you said. Take care my dear

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Madeleine ❤️Sending love!

[@sorenkierkegaard3344]

Ana, dear, I have a similar problem with my dad who passed away almost 6 years ago. I believe that if I were able to forgive him that I will become better. Despite being a man, I have also always felt dissociated from my body and I have never liked my looks. You are so genuine and humane. I just subscribed to your excellent channel. Keep up the good work.

[@WaffleTraveller]

Привет, Ана! Thank you for this video. I relate to a lot of what you said, especially about the mother-daughter relationship. I wish I could have met you in real life, it would be wonderful to have a friend like you 😊 Looking forward to the sequel video! Take care 💚

[@anagoldberg]

Привет, Юле! Thank you for watching and resonating ❤️Sending my best!

[@angelinaevdokimova834]

Hi! I am a woman, also from Russia (Vladivostok) and I can't tell you how much this video resonated. I wanted to say thank you for your authentic words.

[@YtUser-c1c]

My mom passed away last year. I have been a wreck of mixed emotions. It seems I never gave much thought to my relationship with her. There were many good things about her, but also things I have to come to terms with. I am glad you mentioned this. The way my mom looked at me (many times very critical, I never felt good enough) has indeed shaped my perception of “me”. Guess I still have a lot of work to do. Wishing you the best from the Netherlands.

[@mrtonypiazza]

Thanks for bravely sharing your story. Forgiveness is the most powerful human experience!

[@artapothecary53]

Thank you for being open and honest

[@siobhanseymour6860]

Thank you Ana for sharing such personal.inaights and being so open in a public space. I resonate so much with your insights. How dearly i would love to have you as a real life friend!

[@Elusive.magick]

Your English is excellent. I enjoyed your video.

[@helenavasconcelos4807]

Thank you for sharing your insights which deeply resonated with me 😊

[@jenniferstone2975]

You’re a lovely woman. I’m always so impressed with the mindfulness of your content. Sending you thanks and love from Laguna Beach, CA USA.

[@wyrdwitch13]

This was wonderful, and very moving, and very relatable! Looking forward to part two.

[@FinalGrain-jm4eu]

I have found the rivalry while working at factories with other women, they would have make up on and really bully me to the point I had to quit. It was so sad. But I'm going to pray for them.

[@holliisixx]

If a husband can't accept his wife is sick, that's just a lack of basic humanity on his part. That's beyond marriage problems.

[@goroch_thegreen]

But mostly men leave their sick wife's and most women take care of their sick husband's. If men left his wife he is not criticized "he is young he has a life to live", If women left his husband she is "selfish and betrayed him". There definitely is some correlation between lack of humanity and gender.

[@Urbancorax2]

never trust a w. says. They often lie to get sympathy.

[@MikePiligrim]

That is exactly marriage problem (while generally being of wider scope no doubt) since marriage means you take literal responsibility for partner's life, as well as your own life that now your partner is dependant on. Which works both ways of course. Which our generation seems to totally miss out.

[@ferney2936]

Yes, I found that shocking too. Poor her.

[@roxannsnowden615]

Statistically men dont take care of sick wives, they divorce them.

[@meisjeViv]

Thank you for sharing so openly also about the complexities of life. I feel very blessed to have friends with whom I can talk openly about what does not go as we'd wish or hope. It's so easy to give unsolicited advice of the 'why don't you just X' type from a place of privilege or success. I'm also not a mother and not likely to be one (I'm a few years younger than you) and even though it's a relatively positive and active choice for me, even so the reasons are complicated. I'm fine with talking about that, but not if the 'conversation' opens with anything that basically implies that it's expected that I have or will have or want children. People are so much in their own world that they forget to check their biases, and I'm sure I also make these mistakes myself, so it's really important that people like you open up the conversation 💗

[@esmerinaaa]

Oh people waiting for overnight success and generally pushing so much expectations to you in many ways is such a big personal struggle for me too. Sending you ❤❤❤

[@lemonlime2054]

Beautiful video Ana, you give me such important insight as I approach your age ❤

[@marianaleitebraga]

You are a lovely human and a sage woman, Ana. I hope you enjoyed your visit to Lisbon (couldn't help but notice the picture over your shoulder).

[@kamidsjournee]

Your research and insight have touched many, me included. Everyone has a mother and a story to accompany that relationship. Our choice to become a mother or not, or even not having the choice is personal. You have handled, with grace, your personal story. Thank you for being a real person. I don’t believe you could ever share anything but authenticity and the real you. Once again, I’m blessed by you.

[@barbara_vienna]

What a lovely video, thank you for being vulnerable. It was really touching.

[@LeAmuseurPublic]

I am so grateful I found this video! I wish you continued success on your content creation. I will definitely be watching from now on. Hello from Colorado USA. ❤

[@LL-qi9mb]

A very good video, interesting and from the heart obviously. I feel for you, your struggles and journey, and am happy that you are/have come to terms with a lot of it. Nothing in life is easy, and sometimes it is impossibly hard, but facing the challenges and trying to overcome them is so important. As for rude prying people, and having or not having or not being able to have children, is nobody's business. It is a very personal thing, and one that should not be brought up lightly. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[@kelseashore6677]

I really appreciate your vulnerability ❤

[@ciawang8347]

it's not untrue that everyone had some part of mother relation broken... I probably only realized that in recent years (late 20th). Also, I want to give you a big hug!! thanks for sharing, love your videos, as always...

[@judithrussell9162]

As I become older, and older, I realise how fortunate my life has been. My parents were very poor and there were many children, but they were kind, if not overly warm. My mother only did two cruel things to me, one when I was a child which I repressed for a long time, and one when I told her I was separating from my husband. She told me that I was a spoilt brat and didn't deserve a good husband. I went home in anger and when I settled down I realised that she was grieving, because she loved my husband. I also realised that she was just a person with no magic status, as you said Ana. We never spoke of it but she brought me a cake soon after, cake being her love language😊. I also have no children, mostly from choice, but the strange thing is that people have rarely asked me if or why, which I'm grateful for. I mustn't look like a mother? Great video as usual, very thought provoking.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for sharing your story, dear Jude ❤️ Your mom's love language made me smile so warmly 😊

[@paulalopez1800]

Thank you Ana

[@Arena_breakout_Cargo]

I am happy you have someone you Love in your Life! Thanks for sharing.

[@veratogobickij1311]

You're so wise!

[@tmdavidson1478]

All the things you describe as being specific to Russian women, are experiences I have had as a western woman.

patriarchy knows no borders : ( (and it affects some women, mostly heterosexual, too)

[@alreadyenough]

You’re so strong❤and inspiring. Sending hugs

[@jeanmeierbachtol6154]

You have such a wonderful way of expressing difficult feelings my daughter is one of those who is unable to have children and I was only able to have her so I appreciate your thoughts

[@dorispetersen663]

Happy Birthday!🎉

[@joycestewart4893]

So very well said ❤

[@SheerLeeTaliJongnloed]

You provide here actually safe place to be. Thank you

[@DominikaMaria79]

Big love to you! I appreciate how open you share and your thought on everything. My situation is not easy at all either, on many, many levels... and as you say, things are more complex, than a person from outside can ever guess... and I appreciate you very much to making this point. ♥

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Dominika Maria ❤️Sending love back!

[@DominikaMaria79]

@@anagoldberg 🌿

[@mhastrich6134]

Very intelligent and relatable video. Thank you.

[@Sophia-hj3ko]

Really enjoyed this insightful video, subscribed. Thank you!

[@spmoran4703]

Anna , you have great wisdom . I listened with great interest. I look forwsrd to hearing more from you. I had some of the problems you had.

[@vieras.3281]

Thanks a lot for your story.❤ It really resonated with me, especially the part about bias related to "sharing of sucesfull stories". I think, it concerns every aspects of life....