Couple Things | Red, Yellow or Green flags

[@olesyamussman4929]

It's important to be understanding of people and not jump to conclusions/judgments. With the complicated family stuff, I think calling that a red flag comes from a place of privilege that you grew up with a healthy and intact family, which isn't the case for many. And many are doing their best to heal from difficult pasts and shouldn't be judged for what they are bringing to the table.

[@laceyhendershot9317]

Yes. We are not our families, and many are trying to break the cycle.

[@valerielinares2068]

I agree 100%

[@lenabambina1234]

What if his parents are divorced and I don't know if it's affecting him? I really wanna ask but don't wanna offend or hurt him with something so personal

[@shelbyshellhammer8392]

You guys should interview Arie and Lauren when they get settled with their twins! Feel like that would be a great podcast!

[@LMcdonough]

love that idea ❤️

[@ATouchofBlush]

They interviewed Arie and Lauren last year.

[@shelbyshellhammer8392]

@@ATouchofBlush I know but after the twins now, because they both were on 2nd pregnancies. Just comparing that’s all. Love them both!!

[@doxin_lover1278]

Thank you shawn for saying your piece on the complicated family thing....I have a very messy and complicated family, and I'm so glad my husband of 13 years didn't turn and run become that

[@megan9009]

I didn't know this channel existed until recently. I watch your main channel and somehow came across one of these episodes and I'm addicted now. Thank you for sharing these things and being honest. It's not like you two agree on literally everything just for the sake of appearances. It's so refreshing how you challenge each other in a respectful way, and I love seeing that aha moment

[@cassandraengland4561]

I love ya'lls chemistry together. You compliment each others personality.

[@rachelfield721]

I LOVE how relatable and down to earth the two of you are... the authenticity is incredible and so is the connection and the realism

[@barbaramiller9194]

I am 79 yes old and these two kids amaze me with their grace and wisdom.....far beyond their years! God Bless you both for sharing your thoughts on your experiences within your own married life. Wise counsel on the chosen subjects.

[@savannadebusk7180]

Literally was talking about red flags the other day! And like how to decide what is one and what is not!! I think it’s different for every person and situation

[@KelseyandGabyChannel]

This is actually the ONLY podcast I listen to(cause I’m not a huge fan of podcasts) but when you guys first started, I was just getting into a serious relationship. So THANK YOU!! It’s helped quite a bit!

[@holmenb1]

I loved that you touched on family/in-laws. My husband does not have a relationship with much of his family, and at first I thought it was a red flag because I am so close with my family. BUT, as Shawn said, "that's not the person". We had a long conversation and I realized just how toxic of a family he had & why he chose to not have a relationship with his family. He gets along SO well with my family and I couldn't ask for a better man. He's a great husband and an even more wonderful father. I'm so glad I took the time to get to know why & to truly listen.

[@NAWLWIFFS2]

Thank you for giving "has a complicated relationship with your family" a yellow flag. I totally agree that it warrants considerable communication while a couple is dating. Definitely. But as a teacher who has seen many students try so hard to "break the cycle" of their home situation and have succeeded, I would urge a person to learn the person you are dating and not judge them by their parents. People can want and achieve something better than what they had growing up or maybe just want something very different from their childhood. Maybe they have become a Christian while their family is not, for example. It doesn't mean you should write their family off in all circumstances either just definitely don't judge an individual by who their family is and where they came from.

[@vladareinhardt599]

Getting me through my divorce... Newly single mama of a 10m old in Medical School and your podcast is helping me process and heal from a husband that began cheating when our daughter was born. Ex gymnast also and really relate to so many things you guys talk about. Thank you!!

[@joybarcus2792]

I love how you start by setting the foundation that while there are minimum standards which are non-negotiables, that relationships are complex and nuanced and each person has to be humble in the process of evaluating the situation. Being honest and working through things together is always best.

[@ashleymichellegomez]

So many people are fixated by standards of society and what the world tells us the “perfect” person needs or is supposed to be like. More people need to listen to this because y’all talked about what so many people struggle with. THANK YOU!!

[@jasmineskipworth5548]

Looking forward to watching this one! I enjoy listening to couple things on my podcast app, but having them here on KZbin is fun as well.

[@oliviasangiovanni1509]

You guys are absolutely amazing. These episodes always bring such joy and calmness to my life!

[@stacyward7456]

The dynamic between you guys is really great. I think you compliment each other & mesh so well.

[@SchlifkaSmith]

Totally subscribing. I love getting to see your relationship and experience while also bringing in experts on occasion.

[@Rachyroo14]

I love the talks you guys have. It is so important to discuss these points, especially before you get married.

[@tinakeegstra5603]

Thanks guys!! My teenager was impressed!! Love your podcast! I’ve been married 27 years together 30 - seven military deployments and I’m still learning and growing about marriage and being in healthy relationship.

[@krystlem5810]

You guys are doing great things!! Thanks for the positivity and challenging thoughts!

[@paigeanderson1603]

Loving this podcast! Open, genuine conversation with great points.

[@tarahundley9655]

You guys are awesome! Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing your everyday life with us!

[@Brianna6894]

Great show, guys. Relationships are tough, but one thing I learned (hardest lesson learned) was to listen to the red flags about someone, especially from friends and family. We often are blind or dismiss too much in a relationship.

[@MMRL1066]

I totally agree with Andrew when it comes to being completely honest with someone you're just starting to date about some of the things you see as a red flag!

[@shannonwallace9329]

Love yall so much! You are so genuine and fun to watch on all of your platform's !!❤❤

[@amandaholewiak8010]

So true to be open minded! People learn and grow everyday and that’s the type of thing you fall in love with

[@laurenlamb6756]

I love how real guys are, and the topics you dive deeper into are extremely relevant to life. And I just wanted to say Thank you for that!

[@ponypeeps123]

New subscriber but I’ve watch been following along since the beginning! I’m loving it! Most definitely my favorite!

[@jenniferhuey7917]

Love you guys! Thank you so much for doing these podcast. Even though y’all have been very successful in your athletic and business endeavors, I feel like y’all very relatable, down to earth and role models.

[@wendysanchez790]

You both are a joy to watch on Instagram, it’s my first time on your podcast. Love it!

[@sarahmarrufo2542]

Love that y'all went into greenand yellow flags! This is my doing chores podcast for sure.

[@karigooch2107]

It only took me your very first lead in statement that you cannot go into dating with a specific list of requirements, that just grabbed my attention. I think that its very difficult to ever have a solid foundation if you don't match with "core values" I love the tenderness you show each other. Thank you for sharing your insight. Love to the East Family❤️

[@markle821]

My husband and I are both introverted and we spend all out time together. We are each other's best friends. We don't really associate with people. We have a few core people in our small group we do things with. It makes you rely, understand and communicate with each other. We literally feel lost when we are part. We occasionally get on each others nerves but we laugh about everything.

[@katiesmith5982]

I love this episode! I also love the podcast and I hope the birth of your baby boy goes smoothly!

[@mirandatolson8875]

I love this podcast! Your chemistry is undeniable!

[@kaycchapp]

This is SO good. Totally relate. Communication styles can differ so much! This is a good check in.

[@angelrays7]

Your shows provide so much insight into the world of relationships, full on topics!

[@elizabethlukat1479]

Thank you guys so much for being so open to sharing with us all your experiences. It makes people think deeper into our own lives.

[@andreabokemeier4215]

This great to talk about I love it ❤️. Tons of people need to hear this good advice. Love how open you guys are. It is great hearing a godly couple giving advice.

[@-writeingandsinginggirl]

I love listening to your podcast! I selfishly wish you posted 5 days a week so I can listen every day at work 😆

[@jadawoollums8364]

New to the podcast but love this. You both are down to earth! The headboard thing is so funny to me.

[@kimberlygravelle5985]

I love watching y’all! You constantly make me smile with every video!

[@ashleymichellegomez]

I love watching y’all all over social media and now on here. Y’all are so real and truly listen to your viewers/listeners comments. Thank you both for being so real and raw!

[@daurien.maclean1111]

Loved this topic, thank you guys so much for sharing perspective! Lol you guys are so funny.

[@Nourishing_Growth]

This is such important information, I appreciate you guys and all that you do! Such an inspiring family 🙏🏼💗

[@brianabrewer266]

I love watching all your videos and series. But I think these podcasts are my favorite. I love how raw you 2 get. I pray God continues to blesses you immensely!!

[@journeywheeler3179]

My absolute favorite family/podcast ❤️ You guys give the best marriage advice and I love your dynamic ☺️

[@erickawebster138]

Such great advice! Can't wait to see you all become a family of 4! ❤

[@devinmolleur2308]

Love this podcast! So happy I stumbled onto you guys 😊

[@kaylachesterfield]

I absolutely adore you guys and I LOVE listening to couple things! I look forward to each new episode and it has become my number one podcast! Thank you guys for all you do, you two are amazing and have such a beautiful family! P.a. Can’t wait to “meet” little man! ❤️

[@amandamiller8208]

Always making me laugh. Thanks for making me giggle when feeling so low lately

[@jeanninemohan4543]

Love you guys so much!! You two are so amazing and so real! Great content!

[@lexiesmith2700]

Love watching you two not only on here but social media in general ❤️ my husband and I got married in august and listening to your advice and love for each other is so fun for us now that we relate! Keep it up, can’t wait to see little man when he arrives 😍

[@spevey85]

These are great tips!!! Keep them coming. I’ve been married for 14 years and communicating clearly has been a struggle for me. It’s a work in progress but we both have to try and be more clear.

[@chelseabraun9138]

It really is true that you never know what someone else is going through with their family and it can be tough, love how to talk about this

[@cassylahr1789]

I thought this was so interesting! I loved hearing the red flags. You two are so interesting to listen to and watch on social media! Thank you for this great podcast!

[@kristysport8462]

I absolutely love watching you both! I’ve been watching you since y’all have been married! Love love love what y’all are doing for not only the older married generation but the younger generation as well! Keep doing what your doing! Love y’all and your little family!

[@amyg4709]

I totally agree with Shawn about blowing someone off that could potentially be a great relationship. Sometimes small things that are actually just being too guarded, are disguised as red flags. I think an open mind is important. Don’t count someone out too soon:)

[@ashleyseidelman5903]

I absolutely love watching you guys. You give such great advice!

[@nicholenesseth5535]

Having a vision of what you want in a person is good but don’t let that get in the way of being open minded. You both compliment each other.

[@katielemieux7602]

You two are so fantastic together! Love watching your little family grow!! 💗

[@kelleyhook3484]

I love this!!! So many ideas and “guidelines”!

[@treecesasser7919]

I love it! Yall are amazing! God bless your growing family!

[@Tayymckenize13]

I love you guys! You are such a inspiration as parents and working on yourself in a relationship!!! Keep it up!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@_themomentrepreneur]

I love watching y’all’s podcast and love y’all in general!

[@MUNOZFAMILYCLIPS]

Love your honest raw podcast! Andrews laugh is the best 😂

[@cortnibronson4722]

You guys are amazing! Thanks so much for sharing your journey!

[@jillhagee5373]

What a sweet couple and loving parents you all are...thanks for sharing your life with all of us!

[@meghanopielski216]

I say know yourself first and the other stuff comes a lot a lot easier! You guys are great , I love to listen!

[@alexhemmen4173]

You guys are just one of my favorite couples!! So real & awesome ❤️

[@TBright84]

First time listener/watcher. I truly love this podcast! I agree with most of what you said although I don't believe your family will always side with you. I've witnessed numerous times where the person's in laws sided with them. Especially if kids are involved. I love the banter, the "rants/tangents" and the communication between you two!!

[@kelseybigham0012]

this is so helpful! my fiancé and i have ran through the motions for the past three years in our relationship - need to sit down and reevaluate my fiancé!!!

[@kaitlynmccollum2816]

Absolutely love this!!! My fiancé and I are getting married in October and I could not agree with this more. Dating can be hard, especially now a days with covid and technology. We all have certain things that throw those little flags into our head and it could make or break the relationship. I try to have an open mind when meeting new people and building a new relationship, even in new friendships because I know we all aren’t to same. They even say sometimes they say the whole opposite attracts but theirs still some big red flags that it’s just like a “nope, go back to go and do not collect $100, bye bye!!!👋👋👋” but I do agree we all have certain criteria’s already wired into us that we may not even notice that we are like yeah that’s good or nope that’s a no go. Love listening to y’all’s podcasts and advice and cannot wait to see y’all when you come to Charlotte!!!😍😍😍

[@tashalawilliams5909]

I think you two give our generation hope that true love isn't perfect, but it still exists. Thanks for giving us yourselves. I will be 39 on July 10th, so I'm still waiting on that forever love.

[@kerryfarnum9102]

So excited to have found this. Celebrating our first wedding anniversary this weekend and it’s so nice to hear feedback from other married couples- were the first of our friends to get married. Thank you for your transparency and your shares 🤍

[@davemattson7453]

You both always make me smile, excited to meet your new little! Thanks for doing a give away, very generous and LOVE your toy line!

[@hannahbader5173]

The encouragement I get in my life from you guys is great!

[@danazernechel6045]

New subscriber here! Can’t wait to watch/listen to more of these!

[@laurasnyder1719]

You guys are the best! I can't wait to see you both on tour! I bought tickets for the Atlanta show!

[@morgankallenbach1537]

LOVED listening to all of these, they’re so true!!!!

[@codygen1]

These podcasts are wonderful!! Even though I have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost 22 years, there are still a lot of tips and advise that we are doing!! Thank you guys so much!!

[@carriedoll8509]

As per green flags- my fav green flag is when they go out of their way to do something to make your day better, not necessarily a big thing just to make you smile. When we had been dating a couple weeks, my now husband and I would end up on the phone late at night and one night I was falling asleep on the phone. The next morning he had sent me a gift card for coffee cause he knew I would need it to get through the day. Even now my fav thing he says is “would it help you if I do…” shows they care about your emotional well-being

[@patriciaechavarria4024]

Excited to start watching these episodes!

[@nikkiathrush1934]

I can not wait to listen to these! I really enjoyed your love language podcast and how you two interact together. So raw and fun! Just gotta get my BF to listen to it with me 😆 btw you were my favorite gymnast back in the day when I was a gymnast too!

[@jennnalynnn]

I love hearing you perspectives on this!!! The dating world is such a different place to navigate these days and hearing your insight really helps me! Thank you so much 🙏🏻💕

[@gabriellewilde4803]

Love listening to you guys and your advice for a relationship!!

[@madithomas9935]

One of my favorite episodes from you guys!

[@gennellebrown822]

I love all the work that the 2 of you do!

[@sillysylvia1194]

Love love love you guys you guys keep it so real. You have really opened my understanding of my relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. Helping us communicate with one another better

[@janaleeburnett]

Looking forward to watching your videos/podcasts.

[@amandafunke4212]

I just love you guys. Real couple sharing real stuff.

[@erinrundle7660]

You guys are too much fun! Such a great couple!

[@Chris-qm9gm]

I love how genuine the conversation is.

[@chandralau8234]

Love your show. This was a great episode.

[@ashleyferrell3232]

You two are such an amazing couple. And this is a great episode.

[@hannahtidwell6799]

Love this!! You have to be open minded! An idea, or general list is good but can't be too hard core

[@kelleybecker9793]

Its crazy the amount of things we let society dictate in our lives, but thanks always for the great perspective!!

[@kinzefunk9247]

I love listening to this podcast. It makes me feel better when I can relate to someone about things that have happened in my life. You guys have helped more people than you possibly know. So thankful for this podcast ❤️

[@ChristinaGrace05]

ooo yes I'd love to see a Green Flag episode!!