Think Fast, Talk Smart: Communication Techniques

[@user-gaszpla]

He Never uses "um","well","ah","hmm" for 50mins. Incredible....

[@jesseraymond2240]

Yes he did. Check 16:06

[@avac.1343]

@@jesseraymond2240 You're one of those people loll... nice catch though 😂

[@g3ff01]

He rather uses "so" to make transitions between the thoughts/sentences, but it you cannot really notice it, because it can also mean "therefore".

[@RobertMJohnson]

not difficult to do...just make it a habit. I used to use these words and almost never do now. took me a long time. like years.

[@RobertMJohnson]

@douke turambi no he didn't.

[@Kotpaz]

Here's the notes I took, hope they are beneficial 1. Have Anxiety under control 1. Greeting Anxiety - Greet Anxiety, say hello to it, it's normal and natural, Take a deep breathe - Anxiety helps us, we just want to manage it 2. Reframing it as a conversation - Use conversational language (Inclusive language) - start with questions in your presentation - reframe presentation as conversation with audience - presenting isn't performing 3. Be in the present moment - bring yourself to present not the future - Be present Oriented - Walk out a building before talk - count number by back Audience should be comfortable 2. Ground Rules - Get yourself out of your own way, don't be perfectionist - See things as an opportunity not a threat - Improvise - Dare to be dull - "Yes and .. " make it always on your tongue 3. Slow down and listen - You should be in service of your audience 4. We have to tell a story - Never lose audience, you can hook them by a story - you have two structure : 1. Problem → Solution → Benefits 2. What → So what ? (Why) → Now what -Structure sets you free

[@salokbbk5655]

Thanks!

[@dingobat2389]

Thanks 😊

[@elaishain380]

Thank you 💙

[@devilhell3044]

👁👁 👃 👄💨

[@mcatherinew4779]

Bless you!

[@panchajanya91]

He is very confident, calm and knows exactly what he is doing. He has the pulse of the audience. Even as an online audience, I found it very interactive.

[@meditation-tu8kx]

👍👍👍

[@dana.j5105]

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[@aadisupersonic]

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[@nabotechtv2114]

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[@Kevinjoemamaa]

He is humorous as well do not forget that. It's absolutely essential to connect on a deeper level.

[@ThebestOne-sc6uo]

3 things that helped me and literally changed my life 1. I stopped telling myself I'll do it tomorrow 2. I read books on Borlest (for money) 3. I had faith and religion

[@remalynbaril3092]

borlest for money?

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scam alert!

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[@StevenSeeks]

Good

[@ZaidHanif-k1f]

I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!

[@Sekdkxjsjcnncq12]

I’m sorry it’s maybe to personal but now are you like your own boss ?

[@lifeatsg]

his lecture is truly engaging. Thumb up!

[@ebenezersumari5408]

You are so Lucky I've known him today 😔

[@Moona14]

Reply to your comment while I'm brushing my teeth 😂

[@user-zb8ss9xb1b]

How do you brush your teeth and check the phone? Can't you just finish brushing them and then check the phone?

[@florancetominiko8959]

Notes <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="478">7:58</a> manage anxiety - acknowledge your anxiety <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="562">9:22</a> reframe as a conversation, not as a performance. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="592">9:52</a> ask questions -gets audience involved, frames a conversation. <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="612">10:12</a> note, should be questions -so you can answer, this is more helpful to remember <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="629">10:29</a> use conversational language -includes audience and can help manage anxiety <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="733">12:13</a> Be present-oriented -helps manage anxiety, helps bring you to the present <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1002">16:42</a> Get out of your own way -stop thinking you need to get it right -you over analyze, you over evaluate, all this can make you freeze up <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1481">24:41</a> make your challenging situations into opportunities -your approach affects the situation <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="1971">32:51</a> co-create and share -helps feel less nervous and defensive -these traits can help you accomplish <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2012">33:32</a> slow down and listen -you need to fully understand the speaker in order to communicate <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2315">38:35</a> Don't just do something, stand there -listen and then respond <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2375">39:35</a> - <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="2574">42:54</a> structures -structures in speaking helps you process information more effectively

[@jalal_who]

Have nothing to do in life?

[@Chicky-yy7nk]

@@jalal_who L

[@ayooluwaoluwagbenga]

Thank you.

[@jonathanjurecki3059]

I reply would be quit hindering me or my children they deserve better than they got so far

[@prabhakarmmv8767]

You are suprb

[@Bitter_Biscuit]

Notes, general ideas, and summary: Agenda of being an effective speaker regardless of it's being planned or spontaneous, depends on: 1. Anxiety management. 2. Ground rules. 3. Speaking spontaneously. - Anxiety management 85% of people are nervous when they speak in public. Anxiety isn't inherently a bad thing it can help you focus. However, excessive anxiety could impair our ability to speak spontaneously. The techniques used in anxiety management: - When anxiety symptoms kick in few minutes before public speaking (as in gurgly stomach, shaking limbs, etc.), just be mindful about them, acknowledge them and don't resist them "We simply greet our anxiety and say hey" Take a deep breath and don't let anxiety spiral out of control. - Re-framing public speaking as a conversation and not a performance. There is no "right" or "wrong" way of presenting (although there are certainly better or worse ways). there are multiple ways to make it as a conversation like: - Start with questions: they are dialogic in nature. They could be rhetorical, polling, or simply asking for information. - Using conversational language. Using an inclusive language and not distance the audience from ourselves and the speech, in addition to having a relaxed body language. - Be present oriented. Don't think about the far future. This in turn will clear your mind and make you less nervous. There are some ways of becoming present in the moment such as doing pushups, walking, listening to music, tongue twisters (they can help in warming up the voice as an added benefit) or it could be anything that brings the attention and use some cognitive resources. - Ground rules for being comfortable in speaking in spontaneous situations - Get out of your own way. Dare to be dull. Don't worry about being perfect or doing stuff flawlessly. Improvise, don't stockpile information, let your brain act spontaneously. Train the skill of improvisation. Because aiming at greatness could be in your way due to over evaluation, and over analyzation which leads to freezing up. - See things as opportunities and not as challenges or threats. Make it a conversation and don't make it an adversarial situation. Make it an opportunity to clarify and explain what's in your head, and understand what people are thinking. Take a "Yes, and.." approach instead of "No, but..". - Slow down and listen. "You need to understand the demands of the requirement you find yourself in, in order to respond appropriately". Don't jump to conclusions without gathering enough information. So, slow down and listen to understand and be in touch with the receiver to fulfill your obligation as a communicator. "Don't just do something, stand there." - Tell a story. Respond in a structured way. Having a structure is key to having a successful spontaneous, and planned speaking. It increases processing fluency which is how effective we process information. We process and retain structured information 40% more reliably and accurately than non-structured ones. For example to memorize a string of 10 numbers we structure them into 3,3, and 4 numbers. Structure helps us Remember. A couple of useful structures: - The "Problem > Solution > Benefit" Structure. You firstly start talking about what is the problem, then talk about a way/ways to solve the problem, and finally, talk about the benefit of solving it. Never lose your audience. Set expectations and provide a structure to keep the listener on track, and this structure helps with that. Could be re-framed as "Opportunity > Solution [steps to achieve it] > Benefit" - The "What? So what? Now what?" structure. Start firstly by talking about what the problem/idea is, why is it important, and then what the next steps are. This is a good formula for answering questions, and introducing people [Who they are? Why are they important? And what to do next with them (listening,drinking, etc..)]. In a spontaneous speaking situation we have to think about two things simultaneously; Figure out what to say and how to say it. Practicing these structures is a key skill for effective spontaneous thinking. "Structure sets you free." Sorry if there are any grammatical or spelling errors. I'm not a native English speaker. Edit: Spelling.

[@sheldonvardon1441]

Thank you!

[@rwbyn9761]

thanks for this

[@Bitter_Biscuit]

Happy to help

[@aqilahkiwamuddin8178]

bless you, thank you !

[@PoPax186]

Fantastic. Thanks a lot

[@CharityNyanamba]

Anyone watching this on 1st January 2025😅,the goal is to improve my communication skill throughout the year, this really served me as an inspiration

[@gopichand2599]

Ya bro

[@marianareginabarcelos3165]

Yeah same here

[@JoyLawrence-k3s]

Yes

[@LinoBartolome94]

Same!

[@saiprasad5828]

My goal is the same. Today is 10 January 2025

[@sanabhabie7559]

First time in my whole life watching a video with 58min without getting bored even a second!!

[@nancyzeibak97]

TRUE!! same thought

[@priyanshuranjandas9097]

Same with me!

[@allyssonvitorpinhofernande8378]

Same here. Sometimes I start watching Ted talks and leave it off because it is boring! Those 58m was the most enjoyable moment I had watching a speech!

[@stellamartins1854]

Me too

[@zlife9117]

Same

[@jaideepsingh6690]

I have studying to do. So I'm procrastinating productively by watching this video.

[@Saoirse-ob2xy]

same, same ik

[@tobiaspolasek1711]

Hahaha 😅

[@glittery566]

me tooo! i'm glad we're all in the same boat lol

[@FritzMusicFoReal]

Same

[@lebamba1691]

Why do you think I’m here 🤣🤣

[@nishat_zaman]

"If you are striving for greatness, dare to be dull" Amazing advice!

[@clarissenovelo7430]

i don't get this

[@musashi7070]

@@clarissenovelo7430basically, if you are striving to be great, do not be afraid to fail and look silly or “dull.” If you are too focused on perfection you will freeze up - taking yourself away from the current moment as you second guess your every thought. If you aren’t afraid to be imperfect and accept that you may get things wrong, you put yourself in a great position to be a strong conversationalist. Remember, you have to approach these conversations as opportunities, not as presentations

[@briankatambani7303]

I also don't get it

[@mision.proposito]

For those whom dindt get it... “Dare to be dull” is a phrase often used to encourage people to embrace simplicity, humility, and authenticity rather than always striving to be flashy or extraordinary. It suggests that it's okay, and sometimes even preferable, to avoid being overly complex, attention-seeking, or overly ambitious. Source: Quora -

[@Kelly-l4q3h]

Yes 2025 Mindful engagement,thymes that fit the needs in the moment, paraphase,think pause listen,culteral expectations ignight,reflect,interject humor connection,power of why,how you feel give advice,@saoire-ob2xy

[@siramondokbua5027]

I am a performer and I always feel over control and anxiety every time I do a presentation. After being a performer for 10 years, it has became my instinct to do everything perfectly in front of people. This video just touches on the right spot and unlocks my perception towards presenting.

[@TyraFromSaigon]

I was brushing my teeth and this video popped up on my feed. Instantly, I recognized Matt’s face right away.. he was my speech professor in 2007! So happy to see him here all of these many years later!! Good memories came back right away cause he was one of the best teachers!

[@mcatherinew4779]

Cool

[@graduates-ai]

Tell me that you went to Stanford without telling me…

[@TheSoccerseeker]

cool to know you had the privilege

[@SandeepSharma-wr9lb]

So you were there in 2007

[@TyraFromSaigon]

@@SandeepSharma-wr9lb He taught my first speech class yes! Not here

[@rose-wife]

i love his way of speaking, it feels like he is a father talking kindly to his own children (audience), it's comforting and easier to understand ♡

[@Winter_Soldier_edit]

Hi

[@aalliyah697]

I felt that too... Very compassionate about his craft. And genuine

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[@techmayur1]

Don't overthink 😊

[@LucasClearly]

Dare to be dull. I think this was speaking to me. I often find myself stuck trying to give the very best but end up not doing it at all. Thank you Matt Abraham, I'll allow myself to make mistakes and correct them as fast as I can.

[@CarlRichardson_342]

I love how he emphasizes clarity in communication. It's something we all need to work on.

[@sarahawkins1917]

The one thing I noticed is that he used humor to relax and open up his audience, which in turn helps him to do the same. Secondly, he used opportunities to make it interactive, which helps them learn better and also keeps their attention.

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This is Hamid. I'm Sudanese

[@shotttrayo3589]

great observation

[@RichardDelvicoio]

Sending love ❤ ...Are you single? @sarahawkins

[@gilashroot8697]

Well said. I agree completely.

[@vinitasharma6253]

"What I have learned from this video is that listening is the key to being a good speaker. We should greet anxiety. If we get the opportunity to talk, just speak (get out of your own way) without worrying about whether you are right or wrong. Everyone gets anxious; it's normal. Speak confidently. Always use structured conversations when conveying the message. Thanks for the video."

[@dienzer9098]

people listen to soft music to do their homework, but i find these hour long podcasts with speechless delivery more enticing and relaxing

[@anotherjoselucas]

Yes! When I'm doing a repetitive task I like to put this kind of content. I relax and learn at the same time.

[@chandrangsubiswas6102]

Nice to know that I'm not the only one!

[@arvindr1838]

Same!! Can you suggest me some more insightful podcasts that has a min runtime of 30 mins? I have a problem in finding good ones

[@namazbaiishmakhametov1810]

@@arvindr1838 Jordan Peterson, Jocco Willink and David Goggins

[@realracerz3242]

I sense an elite club here , I'll try doing the same next time.

[@_Arindam.]

One of the best video on Communication skill I've ever watched. Thanks Stanford Business for uploading this.

[@luiskirilovich1182]

It's a trail of an excellent teacher to able to express ideas and concepts in a clear and concise manner. Mr. Abrahams is, definitely, one of the best couch you can find on the Internet on this touched nerve topic.

[@dqdcz]

You probably meant "coach", not "couch". 🙂

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[@SecretsNarratedStories-l7t]

I completely agree with you! Mr. Abrahams has such a unique ability to break down complex ideas and make them easy to understand. It's fascinating how his techniques can help us think and speak with more clarity, especially when under pressure. Do you think these communication techniques can work in more informal settings as well, like casual conversations with friends or family?

[@yogeshnirban6271]

This video is never going to be die. My grandson will learn mostly everything about presentation by this video

[@bruceolga3644]

"Die"="The" in Deutsch/German

[@Laurinejames-w4y]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@DonnaStelzer]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@Laurinejames-w4y]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@DonnaStelzer]

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I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

[@emjain1]

What I learned from this talk 1) anxiety is very natural and don’t let anxiety overtake you . Learn to manage it. I personally use deep breathing and meditation to overcome anxiety . 2) Be inclusive in your communication. 3) First become a good listener by being focused 4) Treat every speaking occasion as an opportunity not as a challenge 5) Remove No- But with Yes -And attitude 6) public speaking should be like an inclusive conversation not as a performance. 7) Your body language counts a lot . 8) structured communication- problem -solution - benefit OR what -so what - now what

[@abhishekpotadar1586]

❤

[@baremysoul4u]

being inclusive with those around me always makes me feel better when I'm communicating. Definitely helps lower the anxiety.

[@jesschan7240]

thank you for being so helpful👍

[@ozilyamato1786]

@@jesschan7240 👌👌

[@healthawareness463]

Perfect

[@sprunch_alox]

""Presenting" is not a performance" Bro..tht line...will forever be engrained in my mind..

[@antoniomichael.6]

Every family👨‍👩‍👦 has that one person who will break the family financial struggle, I hope you become the one🤝

[@Lisaobrian]

I pray I be the one🙏

[@ogeneezemili]

Successful people don't become that way overnight, what most people see at a glance wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life.

[@brettwylie]

That's why we need to plan ourselves making extras in all we do because depending on paycheck that can give us our comfort and peace till we die is not guaranteed

[@vasekmestka]

This is actually what most families are going through, tax and rents takes almost what they got monthly, leaving them with no savings...

[@elisangellaborges]

I'm a nurse and I saw all this coming, so I've planned myself so I engaged in forex trading, little I know about the business though but so far so good, Forex trading has been my very means of savings lately while my salary goes for bills and utilities

[@ibrahimadamou5047]

My key takeaways: 1. Be in the present moment 2. Reframe the situation as an opportunity 3. Listen carefully 4. Use structure in formulating your speech.

[@jonathanchang2215]

I actually took the class he is referring to. It was a 12-week class held at the Stanford campus, a few hours a week. This is one of those "self improvement" classes that had a huge impact for me. It really helped me with public speaking inhibitions and freed myself to just speak and be in the moment. Highly recommended.

[@edee9093]

😊Glad to hear that you feel better now. I think I need the same kind of course. Could please share more information about this 12-week class. Thanks you!

[@LaiDeshay]

Do you have the handout link?

[@LaiDeshay]

Actually found it on his website. Nofreakingspeaking.com nofreakingspeaking.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/Think-Fast-Talk-Smart-Hand-Outc.pdf

[@EmmanuelLancelot-r2w]

The handout please

[@personainstituteForenglish321]

Good

[@HungNguyen-lv1lg]

It's so rare to find a person with such exceptional EQ. His voice alone exudes such openness and joviality that I could not but relate. My heart is pounding right now.

[@rimaaouadi9092]

He's a great communicator because he had me, a 15 years old teen watching this 58 minutes video without stopping

[@aki6704]

ah yes, the average 15 year old

[@rimaaouadi9092]

@@arandomlemon6707 I mean... yeah (: i'm kinda too outgoing so i hope i don't scare you ! Thank you for the compliment though, that's nice

[@aki6704]

@@rimaaouadi9092 famous last words lol

[@rimaaouadi9092]

@Kevin Mejia Oh well i mean...sure

[@crypticcoding9680]

Same for me.

[@arnoldjansen8737]

what is outstanding for me is, many old people want to hear and attend the seminar, and frequently ask the speaker how to talk effectively in order to talk without creating an altercation and ambiguity. Because I often see and feel, some of them are always feeling "I have been living in this world for a long time and you don't have the right to teach me how I live, specifically how to communicate with each other". But, amazingly, they're trying to listen and learn about it. I really appreciate those old people, furthermore, shout out to the speaker who gives a stunning presentation and education.

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@PrayerWarriorPh]

I am not a native English speaker, yet your ideas was clear and concise. It has helped me in my endeavor to get over anxiety in speaking and in maximizing mediocrity to achieve greatness. i wish you the best in your book and lectures. Your lectures and methodology will help millions of folks.

[@markhawkins-y4h]

This is absolutely brilliant and I am so grateful that knowledge, wisdom, and guidance like this is readily available AND FREE on KZbin. thank you so much!

[@danilyndevota7708]

After watching Matt Abrahams' talk, I was struck by how essential effective communication is in both personal and professional settings. His emphasis on the importance of preparation resonated with me; being well-prepared can significantly boost confidence. As someone who often feels shy and nervous when speaking in public, I found his tips on managing anxiety particularly empowering. The idea of reframing nervousness as excitement is something I plan to implement, as it could help transform my fears into a more positive energy. Moreover, his practical techniques for engaging an audience, such as storytelling and asking questions, made me realize that connecting with others doesn't have to be intimidating. I can start small by sharing personal experiences, which feels more authentic to me. Overall, his discussion inspired me to embrace my shyness and view it as a part of my unique communication style, motivating me to focus on honing my skills to connect with others more effectively.

[@carminedimaro524]

Who's here learning to be a human after Covid

[@thamer-403]

😂😂😂

[@jervypolistico3377]

The comment that matters HAHAHHA

[@LeandroHerpeto]

hahahahha

[@Nooooorm]

😂😂😂💔meeeee!!

[@Valentina-fr8yt]

😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@olivepeters1435]

The most inspiring thing about this video for me is his confidence while speaking and teaching The flow is smooth and worth emulating

[@user-es3uk7mz7x]

I never thought i would find a hour lecture so interesting, this really made me sit for a hour and take notes without taking a break. I wish we had him as our teacher, it would've made everything interesting :')

[@beethovenlovedmozart]

I can never in my wildest dreams take a course at stanford. I pretended i was at stanford while watching this. Thanks for bringing this much needed class to less fortunate. It was very helpful.

[@erikaalyzafajardo8656]

It's my first time to be focused with this kind of content or talk. I am currently on my stage where I am looking for a career that I will enjoy for the rest of my life. I have observed that majority of the audience are in their 50 to 80s I think and already took their MBA degrees in Stanford, and they are still attending this kind of talk make me realize that life is an everyday learning, and we should continue educate ourselves no matter achievements we have. The speaker speaks clearly which is very good for me as a listener who's not a native speaking in English.

[@LorenceGray]

i saw this lecture and now i realised (again) how important Drama/ Theater lessons were to me. It changed me so much, mu communications and freedom of expression changed a lot. I really hope to get back to it one day, and well, i hope more people have the same oportunities. Its a new world of undertanding art, comunications and people.

[@spooks7070]

He is an incredible speaker and he knows how to efficiently get his point across I am a high school sophomore and I watched this entire video no issues its understandable and easy to learn from and take into your own life.

[@MarielJoyAYadao]

This talk gave me practical tools to improve how I communicate under pressure. I learned that managing anxiety is key acknowledging nervousness as normal, seeing speaking as a conversation rather than a performance, and staying in the present moment helped me understand how to stay calm. Abrahams emphasized that simplicity is powerful. For me, this means keeping my message clear and not aiming for perfection. I also appreciated his advice to slow down, embrace silence, and use structured frameworks like "What? So What? Now What?" to organize my thoughts effectively. Another lesson I learned, this talk showed me that being brief makes my communication more impactful.

[@roscelvillasante]

I agree, I think making your talk as a conversation rather than a performance makes you feel at ease and comfortable. It helps you achieve the best way of delivery possible and eliminate nervousness. Those structured frameworks will also be a lot of help in our talk in which it can help us deliver our talk in an organized manner.

[@oumaimaelomari3262]

You know why u kept watching this till the 58th min and the 20th second? becoz of one thing.. He was talking spontaneously!! He wasn't distant from his audience and he used an understandable vocabulary. Am going to read his book and look for other "conversations" of him. Worth watching 👍

[@linhdoan2252]

Wowww guys, I accidentally searched for some communication tips and this video popped up. It has been a life-saver. Just nearly 1 hour, all practical strategies and tips come in one-pack, well-delivered. The speaker talks passionately and enthusiastically, his body movement is perfect, and that's what we can learn.

[@linhdoan2252]

@@tinyrockyplanet8953 I live in Vietnam, and we’re over the pandemic for almost half a year; currently I’ve taken part in a speaking club, hence this video is still useful for me. FYI, last semester (Jan - May), I used Zoom and teachers still required students to film presentation videos as if we were standing in front of a room full of listeners, and that explain why I searched for this video.

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

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[@theawakeningjourney69]

This content brilliantly unpacks the art of spontaneous communication, revealing not just techniques, but a mindset shift. It goes beyond surface-level advice, diving into the psychology of connection, the power of authenticity, and the importance of embracing imperfection. The emphasis on turning anxiety into a signal of significance, rather than a barrier, is transformative. What truly stands out is the interactive approach-teaching through practice, not just theory. It’s a reminder that public speaking isn't about flawless performance but about genuine engagement. The blend of humor, relatable insights, and actionable tips creates a captivating, empowering experience. This isn’t just about improving how we speak; it’s about redefining how we connect with others in the most human way possible. An absolute must-watch for anyone looking to turn fear into opportunity and words into impact. 🌟

[@cheowweikoay2601]

A good talk that deserves the speaker's name on the title- Matt Abrahams, and a completed intro in the brief.

[@fsc172]

"A Q&A session is an opportunity to clarify, to understand what people are saying"- Seeing it as an opportunity rather than a challenge and a threat. That whole sentence changed my life

[@CanWeGetDeep]

Glad there are so many interested people watching this in 2024. Hopefully we have that same energy in 2034

[@ROON581]

I think in the 2032 l well be grindmam hhhhh😂

[@Esther-e3o4c]

Am very interested in the video

[@Esther-e3o4c]

Am very glad 😢

[@Esther-e3o4c]

​@@ROON581amen

[@Esther-e3o4c]

Excellent job

[@shoaibhussain9905]

it's been a long time, since I have been hocked on to a video like this ! I usually skip or move on to next video on my recommendation but for these 58 minutes and 19 seconds. I was glued to my chair and was focused on the screen ! He is amazing !

[@ObehiPodcast]

This is a great speaker to the core, and I have listened to this video for more than 5 times. As a podcaster, I see “Active Listening” as a fundamental communication skill. This is a great skill because it helps for full concentration, understanding, responding. In business, this technique is vital for building strong relationships with colleagues, clients, and stakeholders.

[@TranHoang-k1m]

"in spontaneous speaking situations. The very first thing we have to do is manage our anxiety. Because you can't be an effective speaker if you don't have your anxiety under control. And we talked about how you can do that by greeting your anxiety, reframing as a conversation, and being in the present moment" I love the beginning and ending with words

[@barbaracoletti7174]

He seems so confortable talking in public that it also makes me more confortable to listen to him. Awesome video!

[@EstherQuartey-b5k]

You've said it all! I've used some of those methodologies in my presentations. I said to myself " I think i there's a need to use a exclusive language that would inspire my audience, definitely it worked out the day i decided to implement them. You are hundred percent right ❤

[@wisdomandunderstanding3593]

Communication is AMAZING. It's ART all by itself. COMMUNICATION IS NOT ONLY VERBAL. Obviously, BODY LANGUAGE is essential as well. Not to mention. It's the SIMPLICITY for me. This Gentleman is literally having a conversation about CONVERSATION which equals, communication. Effective communication! ~ LISTENING. ✨

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

Only part of it, learn it ALL HERE: kzbin.info/door/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw

[@taylorgreen5908]

just planned the best surprise party for my mom and gave the best speech i've ever given because of this video, thanks for your help sir! the best way to start progressing in life is by saving money, i promise nothing brings the confidence level up like a a good finance believe me!! i'm taking her to hawaii afterwards will tell you how the trip went

[@donaldlocher2537]

how did you get to this level of success if you don't mind giving a few pointers?

[@taylorgreen5908]

@@donaldlocher2537 1)Never let anyone bother you, you can make your own decisions and 2) I use a Financial adviser who handles my savings. she's the best in the business

[@feliciasherbert989]

@@taylorgreen5908 how do i get to this advisor pls i would like to build my dividend portfolio?

[@taylorgreen5908]

@@feliciasherbert989 i can't actually leave details on here, you could do that yourself her name is Lucy Maria Koss, she's quite known ,you can search and connect with her on her website

[@junebogan7171]

If monetary or financial status is credited with boosting confidence then it would just as easily be blamed for low confidence levels if assessts/finances were lost. This creates opportunity to be unaccountable and detracts from our true potential. Also this mindset is giving unworthy credit to a worthless fiat currency for amazing abilities that we possess as human beings. The amount of potential we have is infinitely greater than any amount of money>

[@yousefhamed3171]

The lecturer is super humble and funny! What an exquisit style of speech delivering!

[@tylerjones3875]

This is without a doubt one of the best presentations on this subject. He gave real and actually advice and examples on how to manage/overcome public/impromptu speaking. I have watched oodles of talks on this and I always seems to not be any further forward than what I was, the advice is always so generic and there’s no actual advice given apart from “prepare and practice” but I always ask “practice what?”. This on the other hand is amazing! I now have something tangible to practice, thank you!

[@IS-ih5nd]

I’ve been trying to find out why I some time freeze in the middle of a conversation and forget how to finish some of my sentences. This video right here has saved me from drowning with anxiety. I always knew I that I can communicate like no other when I’m full of confidence but when I crack under pressure, i become the most uncomfortable person to be around with. Day by day I’ll take everything on board from this video and will definitely revisit this in the near future

[@artursgrundmanis1796]

List: Anxiety management: • Anxiety isn’t bad, it gives us drive to continue speaking. • Make your audience comfortable. • When your nervous try greeting your anxiety. • There are no mistakes in presenting. • List questions that you’re going to answer while presenting. • Use conversational language. • Don’t worry about the future consequences. • Try being in the moment. • Warm up your voice. Ground rules: • Speak more spontaneously. • Don’t be afraid to get things wrong. • Don’t fallow patterns. • Train your brain to get it out of the way. • See things as an opportunity. • Say more yes than no. • Slow down, focus and listen. • Respond with structure. • Never lose your audience. • Have ideas and themes. • Paraphrase questions. • Try figuring out who is your audience and what are their expectations. • If you’re asking a question, ask for some advice.

[@lawanyaarvind2810]

Thanks for this summary

[@Tiandesta]

Thanks!!!

[@M9lsnik]

How i can copy the text

[@thembicibane5572]

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[@just_me_crystal_v1029]

As a proud member of AA, I have over 6 yrs public speaking experience. I prefer spontaneous vs planned, so not to give myself time to overthink or to seem scripted. I don't usually get very anxious and it gets easier every time.

[@ainnsufiaa]

what is AA ?

[@iiiRollSushiii]

​@@ainnsufiaa Alcohol Anonymous

[@oyewoleabigailabimbola7270]

Such an excellent speaker. I love his presentation. He's an effective communicator, not just a coach.

[@vankai6817]

Damn, I’m half way through the video and it opened my eyes. I already had seen some tips and textbook advice but the way he presented everything was so easy to understand and apply in real life. I went to an interview and I felt so good after watching this - one of the best (if not the best) performances I’ve had for an interview LOL. I’m definitely going to finish the rest of the video and apply as much as I can because it is legit advice. Especially managing anxiety. What works best for me is slowing down. Never starting at 1000 words per minute! It helps sooo much to not have anxiety. You’d be surprised how well you can speak when you let what you’ve learned come out instead of your anxiety.

[@aaliyasultana940]

shoutout to the people that are aged in this workshop yet actively learning at that stage.

[@tochsamnang4257]

I love the fact that this is the first video that I can focus on and not getting bored. I'm the introvert, like I always feel nervous and scared to present in front of my friends when that happens I tend to forgot about the topic that I'm going to talk about 😭 I really can't take that anxiety off

[@kwizeraemmanuel5721]

Really this is a shared problem with me

[@kwizeraemmanuel5721]

I wish to have a way to help get out of this

[@NateMatthews]

This came on automatically after watching something completely different ... yet I stayed and listened to the entire presentation! Great work 👏🏽 👍🏽 👌🏽

[@gracerod2038]

This just happened to me in 2 days ago at a funeral, my mother in law died of cancer. We just had a funeral and my husband was very emotional to speak in public, so of course he ask me to speak for him. It was my first time doing a public speaking. There was more than 40 people there. I soon as I started reading a verse of psalms. I was crying the whole time. But I did it!!

[@gilashroot8697]

Good for you. Sorry for the loss. Sending love and healing to all of you.

[@Ramsajivanpal12]

​@@gilashroot8697😢❤

[@techmayur1]

Amazing at least you show confidence

[@pallavi19india]

Takeaways - "Get out of your way", "Be in the moment" ----> "Do not pile up conversation in your head", "Don't be nervous", "Do some exercises like speaking a tongue twister", "Make your presentation a conversation, it also helps in listing down questions first", "Slow down and listen"

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

One can't avoid nervousness, nor do you need to, damn! All of these "experts" who can't get it right! But I do! kzbin.info/door/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw

[@danieljohansen142]

Hello there how are you doing today 👋👋👋

[@Nawabbaloch_99]

Remind me iff you're watching this video in 2024

[@sudanese_talk]

me 😂

[@sudanese_talk]

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[@AB_Sarpong]

😂😂😂 me

[@oladipupookikiola]

Me😅

[@lucky_guy06]

Me

[@NathanYitebitu]

This was not just a communication course, it touches the cores of how humans have been deeply programmed by their environment and themselves and some ways to overcome the programs. What a great presentation!

[@okungbayeajibola273]

I can't believe I just watched a 58-minute video in one sitting. Recently, I have turned to KZbin to broaden my knowledge and deepen my thinking process. However, this is the first video where I learned practical and applicable knowledge that'll stick. Good stuff, Matt!

[@mottahead6464]

I think that all the tips Matt gives us in this video are really useful. Yet, in my humble opinion the most important thing when it comes to public speaking is the message. It's having something to say and being really moved by the message so much so that one has no choice but speaking publicly about it. Make a shy person mad and they will most probably express themselves in a very effective way.

[@furbabylover1532]

I randomly clicked on this video just because I had time to kill but as soon as I heard the lecturer starts speaking, I was engaged in this lecture like I was allured by an addictive thing. I think this is truly an amazing lecture that everyone must watch regardless of whether or not you're a good speaker. Because apart from the lecture topic, the energy that he has and the power that the lecture itself gives me especially while watching people interacting with each other during this hard time, the pandemic, where I'm compelled to social distance myself, is so so helpful. Again, it was such an amazing and powerful lecture for overcoming my social anxiety, let alone for my knowledge.

[@koiaxe7649]

Notes. Anxiety Management: -Notice and accept you're being nervous, this avoid it to spin up -Reframe, you're having a conversation, not a performance .ask questions .use conversational language -Be present-oriented, don't think about consequences, just focus on the moment Ground rules: 1. Get yourself out of the way, stop looking for perfection, "dare to be dull" 2. See the communication moment as an opportunity (for example to land more effectively your message) 3. Slow down and listen 4. Respond telling a story (having a structure) .Structure #1: problem, solution, benefit .Structure #2: what is it? why is important? what are the next steps? (what, so what, now what)

[@Hijkino]

It's very good to be well-mannered and know how to speak well. I love talking with intelligent people.

[@EnglishjourneywithVikas]

Here is one thing that is Easier said then done, so let's quickly inclusive the matter - 1. Anxiety management 2. Spontaneous communication Both are extremely important but not easy to apply it's totally understood in addition to this approach, we can develop spontaneous communication skill as per our purpose. Which will help you to remain motivated and positive towards spontaneous situation. On the very serious note he is a ture spellbinder who's a phenomenal way of articulating his spontaneous thoughts and notion. Genuinely i'm enough fortunate to watched this powerful vedeo.😊

[@kimberlylagman4891]

This is really educational, entertaining & inspiriing. Unlike other speakers, he is very entertaining because it is obvious that his speech has a personal touch in it and it is not something that was memorized. As an inspiring tour guide and ESL teacher, this is something I would like to achieve. Kudos to the speaker!

[@MasterTalks]

Glad you enjoyed it Kimberly, yeah Matt's got great content, really enjoy his videos!

[@nickiwins2939]

I just love when people speak so knowledgeably and afluently,i wonder whether i can ever achieve such milestones in public speaking

[@zandradavis-e6s]

So I recognize Matt, he was my speech professor in 2009. It's good to see him on here. Matt is a good speaker and I learn alot from his class and videos that he presented to his students. He made feel comfortable.

[@sahilt7717]

Younger audience is just looking awkwardly at each other. The aged audience are the real learners they are taking the activities more seriously. Just loved their hunger for acquiring new knowledge!

[@blindfire3167]

??? The older audience is probably protesting covid and taking Ivermectin lol

[@gigitago]

1. Manage anxiety 1. “Greet” anxiety. “This is me feeling nervous” 2. Reframe as a conversation not a performance 1. Start with questions (rhetorical, polling, etc.) 2. Use conversational language (“this is important to you” vs. “one must consider”, “step 1” vs. “The first thing for you to consider..”) 3. Be in present moment to eliminate anxiety (orientation to time influences reaction). 1. How: 100 pushups, tongue twisters, walk around building, focus on song, count backwards from 100 by tough numbers. Tongue twister: I slit a sheet. A sheet I slit and on that slitted sheet I sit. 2. Warm up your voice 2. Practice Steps to Speak Spontaneously 1. Get out of own way (remove expectations) Activity: Point and shout wrong name, without pre-planning 2. See interactions as opportunities not challenges Activity: Surprise gift challenge. Giver: “I knew you’d like it because...” 3. Take time to listen Activity: Spell letters of conversation 3. Use a useful structure 1. Problem/opportunity-> solution -> benefit 2. What?-> so what? (Why important) -> now what? Book: “Speaking up without freaking out”

[@atishay4859]

thanks dear

[@blessingukaegbu6318]

Nice breakdown.

[@raivoadsvalue6878]

Thank you. Your notes saved my life this evening. ;dd

[@monaalei1917]

Thanks

[@alysaterre885]

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[@541raymond]

I am so glad I listened to this (again), it finally took hold. Your students are so lucky to have you as an instructor.

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@elyelemeraviglieallalavanda]

che meraviglia! Immagino quanto sia emozionante vedere crescere il tuo guadagno ed essere soddisfatta del tuo lavoro. Complimenti e continua cosi'!

[@ArleneBautista-c1v]

correct my grammar nicely if there's some error. I'm the type of person who get bored easily just by watching this kind of video , but in my suprised this is the first video that I completed which take 58 minutes more. And I'm amazed on how the speaker engage with his audiences and catch their interest just by relating it on them. so thank you very much for the advices , and techniques to overcome anxiety , I could apply this on my learning journey . Take note I can finish this type of video that has a short duration , that is why I'm amazed because I finished it that long. hehe

[@ramganeshgopinath2712]

Great workshop, even for the online video watchers consider this a fun and healthy workshop. The final words of this video actually got me my first job after PG Diploma i.e., asking for guidance. It is a powerful tool and really helps to connect with the person. Stay happy and healthy!

[@ahmedkhan-fj9md]

This seminar is the best example of what he taught us.

[@Som3D]

CR7 unt

[@ahmedkhan-fj9md]

CR7 for life

[@Som3D]

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[@krism5575]

Wow thank you so much. I think a lot of christians like me can apply some of your teachings if not all whenever we preach to someone and whenever someone challenges us regading our faith in Jesus Christ. This is very helpful and informative. Watching from the Philippines. God bless you 💛

[@criticasdozack444]

I love it! I'm a graduate student in bussines administration from Brazil, and these tips that were mentioned by Matt are very good for everyone who wants to be more effective in their voice. I consider myself a comunicative person, but I have some sttrugles when I am in front of lots of people. So after this presentation I'm more oriented on what I have to do to be more spontaneous when sharing my ideas.Thank you very much!

[@seanleith5312]

It should be talk fast, think faster. I hate it when a speaker tell the audience to stand up, what the hell.

[@carolzanfolin.s]

É nois

[@dleia]

The fact that this video was uploaded way back 2014 and is still relevant until this day is 👌🏻✨

[@MrRand0mGamer]

It's increasingly more important every year as in person communication becomes less frequent in every day life

[@vhermosilla6548]

Watching this in 2021 and am so thankful for the tools he shared. What a fantastic, professional presentation!

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

better here: kzbin.info/door/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw

[@lovelycajedo8445]

This is actually a great video; it's one of the videos that I don't find boring, and I would love to say that the speaker is very knowledgeable and he speaks confidently. I think this is what a professor should be like: to be able to listen and make the student comfortable in order for them to absorb the information that you're feeding them.

[@HussainAlMarkhi]

One of the best Lecture I've watched in my life .. I've watched it before maybe 3 or 4 years and and again I've to listen to it and I will watch it more and more it's really good !!

[@kamalkantsingh3837]

Speak up without drinking out

[@ebaocihc7085]

This video was amazing I’m glad it came into my recommended, I think now I can overcome the confidence and anxiety to toast and appreciate my family when we eat at the table together

[@leforthomas]

Just watching him is a lesson in itself, such a professional speaker!

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

Ok, but I'm better: kzbin.info/door/61eUxiCdhCfrbPVy266cQw

[@edithbannerman4]

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

[@adianeblum332]

Me in Brazil, 9 years later watching this insightful talk, so I can improve my public speaking. ❤

[@mohanthupakula9087]

Helloo

[@MohammadNasimSidiqi]

Matt is gorgeous and super skilled podcast producer and an excellent lecturer/mentor. I really improved my listening and speaking strategies throughout his lectures.

[@DeeMukami]

I'm happy to have come across this channel today. I battle a lot with anxiety hence it makes me paralyze when I'm doing a public speech or a presentation.

[@mohammedtahir8895]

Amazing lecture. I wish you all the best with coping with your anxieties and becoming effective comunicators

[@sehrbaz]

The most amazing thing about this video is his body language, the way he controls his voice, and the absence of a single ‘umm’ throughout his entire speech. Amazing!

[@halleluj_h]

Watching this because I struggled in a discussion yesterday, hopefully this helps me

[@prchix]

Great video. I interviewed for a job that requires public speaking and just the thought of even getting hired and preparing to speak has me shook. This video is full of great tips.

[@jonathanclerence]

1. Pay attention to what you say - you feel your way through your words - genuinely ask yourself what you think about “that” by pausing during a conversation 2. Manage anxiety -Greet the anxiety -reframe as a conversation rather than a performance -questions -be present oriented -tongue twisters 3. Ground rules -get out of the muscle memory (talking off the tip of your head) -try to point at something and yell something it’s definitely not (try not to think of patterns/stockpile on what your going to yell about) -look at everything as an opportunity rather than something your compelled to do -gift game with a partner -“Yes and” -listen -story telling -structure -problem/opportunity, solution, Benefit -what, so-what, now what