Tshuav Dai Tuag Vim Txoj Kev Heev. 6/3/2024

[@siatai5741]

The parents still haven’t learn the lesson. Be grateful your child is alive, thriving, and happy. Embrace the love and accept the relationship your child has.

[@msmaix808]

Your daughter is destroyed mentally, emotionally, etc. But y'all should be glad she is still alive because if it was the weaker mind person, you guys won't see her again. Some people will die for love, or depression will lead to suicide! She is full of resentment, and the least you guys can do is support her before she cuts y'all off her life forever. You og are so old fashion, smh. Y'all supposed to adapt as life goes. Be very open minded, that's what a great leader is.

[@hottthao]

Don’t worry to much. Just worry about your health. It’s not only your child. There’s a lot of kids these days like that. Just accept them as they are

[@LisNkaujhmoobxeem]

15:37

[@lovinguniversity216]

I’m not like the older GENERATION! I’m just going to be honest. The truth is y’all OG’s need to stop interfering with your kids relationship. I get it that you’re trying to protect them but you need to let them make mistakes themselves. I’m sure these OG’s who don’t want their kids talking to others who don’t have a big NAME in the community made MISTAKES in their lives. You can’t stop LOVE. LOVE is powerful!

[@lifewithbrayden9135]

Wow u did this to your own kid. Honestly just love her now, be a better parent. Just be glad your daughter is alive.

[@MsMkaay]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼I applaud the daughter! Good for you!! I love what you did and are doing! Be happy! Be alive! Be YOU!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@mouavang3371]

All I have to say is that we need to accept our kids for whatever they want. You live your life and let your kids live their own life.

[@solomoua5520]

You go first Boy is boy Girl is girl 🫵🏼

[@kolee3165]

Agreed.

[@kuvtsisxavlikojxav]

To the mother in this story: I cried with you during the story. As a mother, we all want the best for our children. We love them so much that we feel like making choices for their lives is love. We forget that they are individuals and want to make their own choices, just like us. We love them, we shelter them, we protect them to the point of choosing what’s best for us, thinking it’s best for them. We forget that it’s their happiness that we want, not our happiness. Sometimes we have to let them fall and learn from their mistakes. It is always wise to give them guidance and share our thoughts and experiences with them, but letting them choose their own path is the best way to show them that they are individuals. I feel for you… but don’t hurt yourself any longer. Don’t drown yourself. The best way to heal is to forgive her, and forgive yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Good luck to you. ❤

[@msgnay6193]

As parents, we need to understand that we raise our kids to be independent and decent citizen. Their relationship choices and or their partner choices shouldn't be our decision to make. Hmong OG cannot swallow their pride. Ua tiag thaum menyuam tsis hlub tsi txhob tu siab thiab foom menyuam vim yus tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv.

[@yl7495]

Tsis tsimnyog menyuam yuav hlub cov niag tsov tom laus no ntxiv lawm. Cov niag ntsejmuag laus no phem dhau lawm ciali muab lawb kiag pov tom tsev laus xwb thiaj yog.

[@shengthao558]

You need to change yourself to fit reality. You are still thinking like "75". It's your fault for your daughter mistake. Your daughter is right that you have too high of an ego for yourself as your clan's leader, but you can't even lead your own family. Accept reality, or you'll have stoke and heart attack by yourself.

[@franher3748]

Humiliation is a gift. Do not pride nor judge yourself or your children. Do not let peers define how you live or who you are. They don’t pay your bills, love you, or love your children.

[@cachevang6570]

As parents, we should love our kids unconditionally regardless of what they become or choose to be their partners in life.

[@Choualor-hh5it]

Cia lawv xaiv tus lawv nyiam lawv thiaj li xav hlub os mog 😭😭

[@pobtsawb-zy9fh]

😭😭😭😭

[@FieryJuniper]

Tsis yog yus cia lawv xaiv lawv es thaum kawg yus thiaj li zoo nyos hais tias nyuam qhuav hauv tsis mloog yus hais os.

[@FieryJuniper]

Cia rau lawv xaiv kom yus zoo nyos hais tias nyuam qhuav hauv nws.

[@SeeYang-t6h]

K

[@SVangg]

@@FieryJunipercov niam txiv xav li koj es twb npaj qhov xav phem ua ntej ces lwm hnub laus tsis muaj tus tu los ma. yuav tau hloov pauv raws teb raws chaw

[@Niamhuabtais24]

You only care about your fame, you don’t care about anything else.

[@yajx]

What a sad story, especially for your daughter. Best of luck to her. Your job as parents is to love your kids unconditionally. I hope you guys come around and truly accept your daughter and her spouse.

[@pajyengkhang248]

Do you know the reason why your kids not listening to you . because you not spend time with them you focus on other more than your kids than don’t expect them better than that

[@caaspasvang7427]

Pab tu siab kawg os😢😢😢😢

[@Mayt398]

Yus rov nrhiav kev nyuaj siab rau yus ces li no

[@michaelf2700]

All u can do is support ur children's happiness & dreams. The more u restrict them, the more they will hate u. Ur discrimination of her boyfriend's family is wrong. Leprosy was rampant back in the old day, but modern medicine has rid the disease.

[@desfaith12]

I’d always choose my children over my pride & reputation and standing up for them against people that look down on them.

[@dohcvtecboy]

yall mess your self up. yall broke them up but still attend the ex bf's wedding and ceremony. now she no straight. pab tsis tau.

[@nraugzoovwj9638]

Mi niamtij aw... neb yog niam yog txiv lawm neb yeej muaj cai chim, qhia, hlub, ntxub, neb tus ntxhais kg. Tabsis qhia rau neb paub tias neb txoj kev ntshaw yog ibyam rau neb tus ntxhais Tabsis nws pheej xaiv qhov neb tsis nyiam. Tsam no xav thov kom neb ua siab loj tsis yog neb xwb ntiaj teb neeg muaj thiab es neb yuav tau lees txais neb ntxhais txoj kev ntshaw mog. Neb yuav tsum txais thiab txhob ntxub Tabsis yuav tau txhawb nws zoo tshaj nlqhov nws tuag tsis muaj ntxhai tsis muaj vauv mog. Txhob xav neb lub meejmom xwb yuav tau ua siab loj tej menyuam thiaj tsis tas kev cian siab rau neb no mog. Es neb yuav tau txhawb nawd mog..

[@kershengvang3018]

Txawm yog neb ua niam ua txiv zoo li neb es neb tus me ntxhais thiaj li mus yuav poj niam lawm ntag.

[@lillyofthevalley72]

Thank you for sharing your story. This will help a lot of parents be a little more flexible with their kids.

[@bliaxiong5451]

Hmong "leaders" need to get off their high horses. While all this gender mess makes my head hurt so much, I don't sympathized these parents.

[@nengxiong9799]

Thaub laus thiab pog laus aw hmong tus thawj coj ces quav dev rau peb tiam tshiab xwb o thawj coj yog thawj noj quav hmong o pog laus aw

[@9527MK]

Koj hais yog

[@cha092090]

I am a mother myself, and I rather do what makes my daughter happy. We need to leave what’s the past to the past!

[@maitongvue5397]

Neb ib niam txiv ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb txoj kev saib tsis taus neeg txom nyem os

[@vilaiphonethor8252]

😊😊🤗👍

[@HER5585]

I have four boys......I support their happiness NoT Mines......they all graduated with masters....I'm blessed

[@thojcyn]

Kawg kav liam tsuav yus tus mi nyuam tseem muaj txoj sia nyob rau ntawd os mog

[@pajlee3167]

Neb hai yog tshaj plaw lawm os mog

[@qhovtseeb1083]

She was born to love her kind just a matter of time even when she was young and dated a man. There is nothing you can do. I strongly believe that even you let her marry her boyfriend at 16, she would divorce him and look for her kind later in life.

[@SVangg]

Everyone is born their own way. Love is love. Something narrow minded parents will never understand or accept.

[@suzenyang6646]

Yog lawm! Hmoob ruam, the world is changing and evolving every which way. Accept the changes and the differences that is everywhere.

[@7stars2love]

OMG....funny and nrog neb tu thiab os. Tab sis tus uas tu siab tshaj plaws ces ntshe yog neb tus me ntxhais lawm. A lesson to learn.

[@Kabliasleeschannle]

Kuv mloog ce ho xav luag thia txho chim sia nrg neb thia o❤

[@luvinniceboxers]

Dang, "Tuag Mus!" is such a selfish demand from these parents. I can tell they are very "nkhaus nkhaus" from this story. Their daughter became the "man" she lost and could never have. 😢

[@TMoua79]

Keep doing that and you’ll loose your child forever. And then other story from you, the parents, will be coming out. GL

[@ProBowler308]

I applaud your daughter for being strong. As for you guys, u got what u deserve. Maybe people can judge u guys the way u judge others. Karmas a B!!

[@nikkykhoutsavanh3111]

ความรู้สึกและความรักของลูก พ่อแม่ก็มีสิทธิ์ที่เป็นห่วงแต่ชีวิตเป็นของโลกให้เขาเลือกเองเค้าจะไม่เสียใจเท่าพ่อแม่อยู่ห่างห่างมองดูเขาห่างห่างดีกว่า

[@yunothoj]

When you try to control your kids...

[@shouavang15]

txhob tu2 siab yeej tim neb thiab yeej tim neb tus ntxhais thiab txhob khuv xim neb tus ntxhais lawm neb tus ntxhais los yeej yog neeg guy

[@mheu916]

Sister, embrace your daughter. Love her as she is. Do not turn your back on her. She needs you to love her and support her

[@giannalee9193]

Be happy that your daughter is still alive!!!

[@CouaYang-fw8fq]

Us as mothers should stand up for our daughters when our husbands are strict and still think like it’s 1975. I always tell my husband “when push comes to shove” I (the Mom) will give in because I love my daughters.

[@hmoobqabteb7943]

Vim neb mloog neb tus muam los sis niam ntxawm cov lus thaum hauv paus.

[@kimphommaly6521]

Karma to the parents! ❤️🥰

[@xk7111]

Another lesson learned…Hmong parents.

[@beth3626]

Tus me viv ncaus, txhob tu siab os mog. Ua ib leej niam ib leej txiv los yeej tsis yooj yim li. Yus tsuas yug tau lub cev xwb yug tsis tau lub siab. Yus menyuam yus yug ces yeej mob yus siab. Xav tiv thaiv npaum li cas los tam sim no, lawv tiav lawv niam lawv txiv ces yus yeej cheem tsis tau lawv lawm ces ua ib siab mog. Yog yus lees tau ces yeej meem lees nkawd yus thiaj li ib nyuag kaj siab os mog.

[@chaovue1895]

Thawj tug hlub ces tuag taus nawb tabsi txhob tu siab tsawg tus thiaj hlub txog hnub kg feem coob ces tsuas hlub thaum tshiab xwb os tus dim lo txhob tusiab heev2 thiab os

[@kaciewanh1986]

Yog kawg, tim neb cuab ntse dhau, khav neb lub npe, saib tsis lwm tus. Neb xav tias neb yuav yeej txhuayam tag tiam no, thaum kawg rov npam neb xwb.

[@kalor5543]

Tseem muaj ntsej muag mus koom lawv thiab twb txwv2 lawv ne.

[@bvang8370]

Cov ntxhais hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab cov coob yuav lwm haiv neeg vim (1) Cov txiv neej hmoob kws kawm ntawv siab li nws muaj tsawg ces pojniam li pojniam tsis kam yuav tus ruam los pluag tshaj pojniam (2) College muaj lwm haiv neeg coob heev, hluas loj siab thiab zoo nraug heev (3) Txiv neej hmoob nyiam cov ntxhais mos ab, ntxhais mos ab los nyiam cov thaub laus kws muaj nyiaj... ua niam yau los kam hlo li.

[@whiteranger3836]

You didn’t let her marry the one she loved. Now you have to live with the consequences.

[@SunnyVue-g5x]

Txhob tus siab tsis yog tim neb o tim lub ntuj tiam no yeej yuav zoo li no mus o nawb

[@janessathao9108]

That’s no one’s fault but yours. It’s the new age nowadays, you have to accept the new days. Although I don’t have any children yet but I used to be a person who date only females. So I can relate to your daughter. And my parents was the same way, and now I am with my man but he’s not Hmong. Sadly, they don’t accept him but it’s for my own happiness. So it is what it is. My parents are regretting just like this story.

[@chatvang5648]

Good for you guys! Coj quav dev.

[@kayang3898]

Cas... ruam tas los ruam tsis paub kawg li os. Txoj kev ywjpheej no tsis yog tim leejtwg os. Yog tus neeg txoj kev xaiv xwb. Nws txawm yuav kiag txiv los... Nyob2 dhuav thiab ras los, yuav tig nyiam poj niam txiv neej tsis nyiam leejtwg hlo nyiam txhua nhro los yeej yuav tig. Koj kiag nws kiag yeej pab tsis tau os. Ntiaj teb hloov yuav tau xyaum hloov lub paj hlwb.

[@kaimarro517]

koj tus ntxhais hais yog lawm. nws ua txhua yam uas koj xav tau. tam sim no, nws xaiv leej twg nws hlub. cia nws zoo siab. koj xav kom koj zoo siab? los yog, koj tus ntxhais yuav zoo siab? Is she living for you or living for herself? Be proud of her. Love her.

[@MissPeachie]

Most Hmong parents (boomers) want their kids to live for them. They want their kids to do things that they can brag to their relatives about. It’s never about their kids’ happiness, but bragging rights. 🙄

[@mariesiong8354]

Leej twg los yeej xav kom me nyuam lub neej zoo tab sis peb yuav ua tsis tau li peb nyiam, peb tsuas qhuab qhia thiab pab kom me nyuam lub neej zoo xwb; txoj kev mus ua neej zoo muaj ntau txoj rau yus xaiv, tsis txhob xaiv ua neeg siab phem xwb. Neb tus ntxhais txawm yuav ib tus poj niam thiab los yog tus nws xaiv, nws nyiam thiab twb tsis yog tias nws lub siab phem. Cia nws mus raws li nws nyiam es kav tsij sib2 hlub neb thiaj yuav tsis plam neb tus ntxhais os

[@momscooking4445]

It's ok she happy

[@bliathao5878]

Ab tim neb ua niam ua txiv a thaum tham txiv neej neb txwv ne neb ntseeg tug ub tug no hais ce tsam no thiaj tau vauv poj niam ntag neb heev dhau lawm os

[@mayseeyang5953]

You rather have her die than to lose face??? Wow!!!! Nes mas hlub nes tus ntxhaid tiag tiag li os yom? Yog li ces kam ntsis qlaas hluav mus dais tuag los mas nes nas. I understand May’s answers to the mom in the beginning. Its a nicer way of saying “just accept it and move on” …. Lol

[@nploojsiabhlubheuly7797]

Neb txhawb thiab zoo siab kom lwm tus los yuav neb tus txhais tus hluas nraug neb phem kawg li

[@AluSong2244]

Tim neb xb

[@maexiong2]

Cas neb ob niam txiv koj ua thawj coj es ua li neb xwb puas tsim nyog ua thawj coj vim neb xav tau ntsej muag thaum kawg neb thiaj tau taug txoj kev tnawm koj ne neb lub hlwb tseem qub dhau lawm os av tsij kho neb tus kheej xwb zoo dua

[@Lucasgaming10213]

Zaj no hais yog tshaj lawm

[@yhyh7477]

Kuv xav tau ib tug txiv neej ib yam thiab pua muaj tu lo pom kuv e kam tham nrog kuv os hmoob😢😢

[@yl7495]

Niam ntsuab teev aw, tsis yog txhua txhua leej ua niam ua txiv es xav xav kom tej menyuam tau lub neej zoo os. Kuv niam kiag tseem yog tus xav pom yus lub neej txomnyem nws thiaj zoo siab hos vim nws foom qhov phem rau yus xwb xwb li.

[@cibthoj813]

Wouah cas tus leej niam no ho txawv ua luaj. Ib leej niam tsuas xav kom yus tus me nyuam ua lub neej zoo xwb. Txawm tau tus zoo li cas los yog lawv xaiv lawm ces yus ua ib siab txhawb

[@chiliayang5832]

Neb 2 niam txiv tsab ntse dhau lawm nes kav tsij mus ua tus coj xwb txhob tu siab rau leej twg mas lo

[@maihouavue6440]

Mob kawg puas yog. U ua niam ua txiv ces u yug ntau lub cev yug tsis natu u siab os nawb. Just be happy for them. Even if u can’t win her heart back. As long as u see her smiling and living life happy. Dnt think too much. Now u and your husband is old. U two should think about your happiness and how to be there for the other grandchildren. Make good memories and enjoy life. Take many pictures and spend a happy moment with your husband. B4 life is over. Ok. They are making their life and their memories. Dnt think about what the Hmong clan or ppl. As a Hmong person we will always be judge. No life is perfect life. Good luck and stay healthy

[@LisaLee-k1c]

Yog neb tsi zoo siab no ces neb 2 niam txiv tuag zoo dua lawm os vim yog Tim neb lawm ne

[@songvang1309]

This is why our generation is different from our parents it's not that we are all living in the life of 1975 anymore we have to listen to our parents for a better life. Mental abuse in a child is more suicide back than, then now.

[@shoualee8558]

Tus me viv ncaus aw nyob lub teb chaws no ces kuv pom tias peb cov me nyuam zoo li koj tus kom ces peb muaj yuav luag txhua xeem li lawm tsis txhob nyuaj siab txog lawm take care neb ib niam txiv xwb os.

[@maisuavang8666]

Kav tsij txais tos qhov tseeb tswm sim nawb, xaj maim tshiab lawm xyoog raws lub ntiaj teb.

[@gamerboylogan3655]

Tus me niam tsev peb cov niam cov txiv txhua tus yeej ntshaw ib yam tab sis cov tub ntxhais niam no txawv lawm ces cia lawv ua tus xaiv nawb mog yog lawv lub neej lawm es neb ob niam txiv ua siab loj txob chim heev2 thiab tsam yus ob tug laus ho muaj mob .mog

[@seethoj2082]

Teb chaws no luag twb muaj tshuaj kho cov neeg mob ruas ntawv lawm es neb tseem coj lub siab 75 thiab ces tim neb xwb mas. Tsis tas chin li os. Tsis xum cia yuav nwsvtus hluas nraug tsam no mus yuav poj niam lawm ces zoo neb siab lawm po.

[@mom6113]

Hmong tus coj ces coj dev dev twb tsis yuav ob nyiag niam txiv laus kav tsij mus tuag o neb na tuag kom neb menyuaj thiaj tsis nyuaj siab nawb.

[@pathao8182]

As much as it is hard to accept, as parent, you should just be glad they're alive and well. As long as your child is a good person and has a job then that's all that matters in life. Life is all about fulfilling your purpose, and society is all about helping each other. So whether you're gay or straight, rich or poor, black or yellow, just live life as you want it. Don't make life difficult than it already is.

[@pppp8532]

Nyob zoo os kuv xav xa kuv lub neej tu siab rau kj hais neej neeg os niam ntsuab teev aw

[@tsisyoojyim3875]

Kuv to taub hais tias niam thiab txiv yeej muaj txojcai ua tus lajkab, ua daim paib stop los tiv thaiv peb tej menyuam, but do it wisely. Ua tus thawj coj yuav tsum ua tus thawj coj paub tab, siab loj, txhob siab ti, siab ntev txhob coj nruj2, txhob ntxub ntxaug (discrimination). Ib qho mas neb twb ntshai2 luag tsev neeg muaj mob, tsis tsim nyog neb yuav mus koom lawv rooj tshoob...lawm. nyob tebchaws no yuav tau siab loj rau yus tus kheej, siab loj rau lwm tus yus thiaj tsis tuag vim muaj kev nyuaj siab ntau yam thiab txoj cai nyias ntsais li nplooj nqeeb tiag. Hnub no koj yog tus thawj coj tagkis koj tsis yog lawm, hnub no koj muaj ib ntsais muag yuav txom nyem, hnub no neb sib hlub tagkis yuav sib ntxub. Koj tsis txhaum plaub los tej neeg koj hlub yuav txhaum koj yuav poob ntsej muag nrog. Siab loj thiaj tsis tuag xwb.

[@eiathorthor9867]

Txawm ua li ca lo yeej tseem yog yus me nyuam txai yam lawv xaiv kom lawv hlub yus xwb lo ma

[@pahouayang1063]

Let them choose their own partners

[@R3DpandaBear]

If you really love your child, then love her as who she is. You're too obsess about controlling to the point your daughter thinks becoming a man was the only way to control her own life. Shame on you

[@nengxiong9799]

Tab Tom haum neb kawg yom pog laus thiab laus aw neb ces tuag mus lau yog nej tsis tso tseg nej kev phem ntawm ko o tab Tom haum ua tsaug Cia nws ua Kom neb tuag mus los mas

[@yerthor4207]

Neb Tsi Yog thawj coj os neb Yog cov Ua lawv hai tia ruam tsab ntse pluag tsab muaj ce Yog neb ntag ma tau Ua yam twg ce khoo kom tuag nti zoo li ruam tua tsov ce Yog neb os Lwm tu hai ce Tsi ri siab ce zaum no yu ghia yu ma txo hwj chim ceev kawg yom

[@ShortyThankyou]

2 tus no tsis yog thawj coj nkawv yog thawj noj xwb thiaj tsis tau vauv

[@paxiong4502]

Don't be sad. They're just not meant to be together.

[@nkaujmoobleeg]

Wow! Your daughter taught you n your husband a good life lesson! She has a good point, you refused her boyfriend then n now you refuse her partner. Wth

[@meeyang8411]

Parents always want the best for their children but children today are no longer like children 20 30 years ago. This is exactly why Americans kick their children out of the house after age 18. Now we know why. Let them go and decide on their lives. Good or bad it’s their problems, not yours. Do not stress your health. Love yourself! If they don’t care, why should you care!

[@koumoua2980]

Txhua yam teeb meem no yog tim neb ua niam ua txiv txoj kev uas tsa, tsa meej mom ntag. Txoj kev khav2 tias yus yog tus thawj coj, yus tej tub tej ntxhais mas yuav tsum yuav cov neeg muaj meej mom, yuav nas yuav kom kawg tsis pub kom tau ua poj nrauj li lwm leej lwm tus, thiab txoj me kev uas xyeej, xyeej lwm tsev neeg es yus twb tsis paub tsis pom los cia li khaws tsis nyiam luag es tsam no thiaj khuv txim lawv tus tub npaum li ko. Zoo qhov neb txo neb lub meej k mom lawm os es txhob xyeej cov neeg tsis muaj koob nto npe lawm nawb.

[@Justin-q4w6d]

That’s what y’all get for not letter her marry that dude hahahahahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mailauj9325]

Neb phem dlau lawm txhob ua thawj coj lawm

[@bvang8370]

Cov tibneeg kws hais kom neb accept qhov neb tus ntxhais yuav pojniam ces hais hais xwb yog lawv tus ces lawv los yeej tsis txaus siab ib yam. Thov kom cov tibneeg kws hais kom neb accept 1 hnub lawv cov ntxhais yuav pojniam thiab cov tub mus yuav txiv kom lawv paub.

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

Txog thaum kawg - ob niag niam txiv tsuas tseem care txog nkawv lub nyuag koob npe. After all, these parents only care about their reputation and image, but they claim they did because they love and care about their children.

[@hlubyang4072]

Mloog xiam sij hawm

[@yangnisha]

Ob niam txiv no xav tau ntsej muag xwb twb tsis hlub nkawd tej ntxhais tej tub li. Ib qhov ob qhov los xav kom menyuam ua kom nkawd tau ntsej muag xwb, menyuam kev zoo siab ces tsis tseem ceeb li. Ntuj aws....cov niam thiab txiv zoo li no mas muab lawb xwb.

[@kalayawang4171]

Sister…. Don’t worry about your child now a day most people man become women, woman become man, marriage same forest let them be. Just support them one day they get old they will realize everything already too late. Take care you n your husband health the most important thing for now…. except whatever in the front of you, pray for them more n harder….. that’s all might hurt you so bad but you’re not ganna die easy too.

[@mainenglee-xiong3344]

Learn to love your children unconditionally. Teach them the way and allow them to choose. Be there to support their decision.

[@MklaoMk2023-tk8zz]

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[@youashengtocu3350]

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