Nrauj Koj Tag Cuag Nyob Ntuj Ceeb Tsheej. 3/30/2022

[@tengher2889]

The sad thing is so Many hmong women are wearing your shoes right now and they'll never leave their abusive, selfish and controlling husband because they feel there's no other man out there who can love them or they can be "just free" from it all. They have no idea they can walk away and he'll be nothing. Like hmong culture say... " there's plenty of hmong women out there" when i guy loses his wife. The same applies to hmong women. There's so many guys out there too! A woman's will to survive and become a better person is stronger than a man's will. Most hmong women in your situation don't see that they are doing everything with out their sorry husbands help. They can go and do it on their own. Like you said... Why do I need a man when I'm doing it all on my own. They have no idea not only will they suffer but the children will suffer to. If they don't hear your story and think it's just you. Let them feel the pain and agony years down the road when they realize 20 plus years and they still haven't found happiness. Let them learn. Let them suffer. Let their children suffer at the hands of treacherous, controling hmong husbands who has no respect and treat their wife's like slaves. What many hmong women dont realize with sorry husbands is that it isn't only about love. It's about being free and not be imprisoned to a dead beat husband. Being free is more important than love in a toxic relationship. Good story and good lecture. Im happy your are finally free.

[@iacha6870]

So....proud of u sis! We ladies needs to be strong like u.

[@autumnlossij-muas1490]

It's takes lots of courage to leave and stand up for yourself against these cultural by-laws that are instilled by clan leaders. When a woman is outspoken she is labeled as an influencer and difficult. Times have change so we need to stand up for ourselves when nobody does. Thank you for sharing your story, it resonates with me. Confidence is everything.

[@heysoniher]

Sister, I’m glad you were able to leave this toxic marriage! Your ex was projecting his own insecurities and cheating onto you. So many years wasted on a worthless human being. Hmong women need to stop enduring abuse. Don’t worry about what others say because they don’t pay your bills for you. You are the master of your destiny so love yourself because you deserve love and happiness, too!

[@dongdick1730]

Very true...love yourself first

[@haya3422]

Hmhhhmhhmhhjjyyjjjyymmmyymmmmmmmmm

[@Loves_GodSR]

Omg! This reminds me of old times. Their son is always right, even when he's wrong, and we nyabs are always the bad one. Don't matter how much we give, we nyabs are the bad ones. I'm so proud of this sister. You are strong. That's what we need more of

[@Eureka21567]

Og’s only criticize Hmong nyabs. I’ve witnessed them slave for and keep their mouths shut when they have non Hmong nyabs.

[@tophatmellon5739]

My mil kept telling me the same thing, be silent be silent don't complain its only my fault. Ok fine, when I left. I left silently. Whooom! Gone with my kids, house empty, gone silently.......

[@ShouaTojsiab]

I’m happy you left this relationship. Love yourself.

[@maivue3224]

Cas zoo li nws hais dab neeg nws pheej kov ub kov no ne yom! Suab loj suab me li nws pheej tig mus tig los na yom!

[@pajhmong56]

@@maivue3224 txi paub eg tab kuj zoo nug kawg tiam kuv txi paub mwg tug facebook li na

[@mcha331ify]

Wow what great advice. I'm happy you found happiness sister. Thank you for sharing your life experience and wise words

[@todayistheday3161]

I can resonate with this story. Proud of you sister

[@amyvang6074]

you are not the only one yog poj nrauj. my ex and his relatives told me that no one will want the ugly and dump women like me, if I divorce him, but I divorced the ass hole. found a man love and worship me like queen

[@kaoxiong6148]

Sister, your first husband was a horrible man and father. I’m glad that you finally realized who he was and left him. If you are a good person, God will give you someone who will love you for who you are…you received just that, your now husband, who loves you and your kids…😩👍

[@touyang3403]

Nyuj xaiv nyuj kev mus. Nees tshwj nees kev taug! Kev taug, yus xaiv yus.

[@kathyxiongchannel138]

koj mus ces zoo lawm es koj txiav txim siab yog kawg lawm os tus sister aws xav tau yog kawg nawb mog

[@chiaher3867]

I’m glad she’s not like those women in other stories where they be like “oh it’s my paper from heaven to stay in this abusive and toxic relationship bla bla bla”. Good for you for leaving!

[@SV-ii6fy]

I like your wordings lol

[@beebee1521]

Iol

[@hlubmykids5119]

Sister aw...if you still remarried that mean you still have love for man...I left my ex-husband when I was 29 because he married other women I'm 42 now and still can't date any man because of the torture of my ex-husband the hatred I have toward man..

[@johnmimisjourney3940]

I hope you’ll find true happiness soon. Don’t short change yourself.

[@johnsnow1669]

Koj hais yog tshaj plaws ua puam lem tag lawm tiag

[@kahouayang535]

Your ex-husband is crazy. I’m happy you found happiness.

[@bluelyvue4915]

Cas hais tau tu siab ua luaj menkauj hmoob aw

[@lindathao2181]

What a great story and glad you found that one that loves you.

[@Cug4430]

Hais yog tshaj plaws li

[@maitongvue5397]

Sister koj hais yog lawm os tsis muaj txiv mas khwv tau nyiaj lo tsis muaj tus los siv nyiaj yus yeej khaws tau nyiaj dua nawb thiab nyob ywj siab kaj siab dua

[@silenalee8018]

Yog lawm os tus niam tsem kuv lub Neej cas kuv yog tus swb txhua yam es kuv tus txiv yeej txhua yog tus yeej xwb os

[@leeyang7593]

Yog tshaj li lawm os sister aw.

[@etee8361]

Your ex sounds like my husband. He was like that when I was younger. Now that I am older, idgaf what he says, and now I am the one to kick him out to his parents house. Now he lives under my skirt and my rules.

[@mavang8366]

Me viv ncaus aw, leej twg ntsib tus phem li ko ces koj tham yeej raug 2 nws siab li os, qe leej ua tsis tau los koj twb ua tau lawm ces, pab nws zoo siab os mog.

[@leethao3975]

I ain't gonna tolerate a guy for 10 yrs. I mean depends on your situation...if u are able to get out of the relationship, then get out asap...if anything, I give him 1 year. But life is short. I'm not gonna waste time on a person whose only objective is to torture me.

[@christinabthao8825]

Peb ib txia poj nrauj nyob ntev tsis yuav ma muaj ib txia niam cem tias yog peb tsis tsim txiaj es thiaj tsis muaj neeg yuav tiam si tsis yog vim tau tus txij nkawm phem2 tsim2 peb li no peb thiaj tsis xav yuav lawm xwb vim lo ib leeg li no peb kaj siab dua

[@simvang7101]

Ua neej nyob koj twb ua tsis yog lawm es txob tu siab rau koj niam koj txiv nawb.

[@daovang7148]

nrog koj zoo siab

[@cassidyvue]

I like the fish comparatives.

[@exitgain8718]

Sister, you got some good point. I feel you and agree with you.

[@Mai1nOnly]

Love it! ❤️

[@saLLy0608]

Wow sister, our lives are so similar. I’m glad u found happiness. I left my ex after 8 years together. I endured so much emotional, mental, physical abuse. I was married as a teenager too, and it was the worse decision I’ve ever made in my life. Now, I am happily married to another man and I am living my best.

[@godness7770]

I'm so sorry of what you had gone through my dear sister 💗 💔 😢 but, I am glad you realized your worth and left the one who doesn't love you. I takes courage and strength to gone through what you had gone through. I'm so happy to see you had found someone whom truly 💗 loves you, now. Thanks for sharing your story and advices that we all can learn from.

[@kaciewanh1986]

Txivneej tsis tas nws 1 leeg tseem tshuav coob tus txiv siab zoo, mam pib dua neej tshiab.

[@chiliayang5832]

Txhob tu siab cov nkauj neab yeej muaj cov zoo kawg thiab os

[@diannaxiong693]

Nrog koj zoo siab vivncaus aw.

[@MsBL32]

I’m glad you survived and got away from an abusive and horrible husband. It’s time to love yourself and enjoy the rest of your life.

[@douatho220]

Txawm yuav yog poj niam lo yog txiv neej lo yog tias peb yuav tau ib tug neeg siab phem tsim txom peb daim tawv nqaij mob mus ti hlwb txha ce yu yeej ntxub thiab dhuav tiag2 yog leej twg tau rau nkawm khau no thiaj li tsis thuam neeg.

[@jackieyunan4899]

Most Hmong woman just don't know when to let go and move on, what a painful past.

[@Nlorbliaya]

Phem tiag hmoob txiv neej!

[@xeevang5907]

Yog kawg os Viv ncaus aw lawv twb tsis tau taug yus txoj kev ces lawv yeej hais tias yus tsis txawj coj xwb no os

[@phouaher7575]

Yog lawm

[@zouavue7684]

Good lesson 👏 👌 👍

[@neejhmoobvajchnnel6034]

Cas koj tug txiv es yuav tsim koj lub siab ua luaj,hos kuv tug poj niam los tsim kuv lub siab ua luaj thiab os

[@yd2819]

So happy you’ve found happiness within yourself. Live life like you said be the wife and man so you don’t depend on anyone.

[@meexb6368]

Twb yog tim koj niam lawv muab neb yuam sib yuav es koj thiaj txom nyem.

[@goldeneagle2394]

First to comment

[@bluelyvue4915]

Ua li koj thiaj li zoo os menkauj hmoob cas tau tej nyiag txiv siab phem

[@pagpaulxyooj8662]

Kj ua yog lawm yuav tau tog hl kj tus kheej txhob cia tis neeg g hl yus los taim yus

[@gaosayvu6554]

Ua neej tsis sib hlub tsis sib pab ces ntxov nrauj ntxov zoo xwb os , nrog koj zoo siab nawb uas koj dim tus neeg phem os

[@ialy9]

Marriage license is important.

[@misxyooj1799]

👍👍👍👍

[@molor34]

Cov niag tsov tom txiv neej zoo li no mas txub tshaj plaws li thiab. Xav kom nws ploj kiag mus xwb.

[@kuabmuajtsuasxiong8712]

Lawv ....kuv nim xav Tias kuv thiaj tau txoj Kev nyuaj siab no xwb no os lawv. Cas peb lub neej no yuav nyuaj ua luaj os lawv

[@vivoloas9057]

Kv lub neej raug tsim txom li kj lub thiab os tu niam laus

[@tubhmoobhmoob2944]

Tus niam tsev koj uv koj tus txiv ntev tiag2 cas tsis ntxov nrauj

[@สุเนตรแซ่ยะ]

Tus txiv nram ntej yeej tsis zoo nawj

[@bluelyvue4915]

Tus txiv zoo li kos muab nrauj mus zoo dua mas nrhiav dua tus tshiab os

[@mrsmichellemoua]

Thank you

[@aslisyaj6329]

🥺🥺🥺😢😢😢

[@shouavang3165]

oh tus niam tsev nov hais yog lus kawg li os txij nov mus peb cov niam tsev yuav tau ntse tuaj nawb cov txiv tsev liam txwv tiam 21 no siab phem kawg li nawb kuv lub neej los kuv yeej uv uv txoj kev lwj siab,nyuaj siab thaum 1990 los txog rau hnub no lawm ua rau kuv mob minor stroke kiag li lawm kuv yeej xav tias kuv twb uv los laus li no lawm ces kav liam es thaum twg kuv tuag ua ntej lawm los kuv mam li rov los cab nws mus ua kuv qhev xwb no os

[@tambinh7718]

Tsis xyaum tsim txiaj li koj txawm kuv yog niam yog txiv los kuv yeej tsi hlub thiab

[@ปานิศาแซ่เฮ่อ]

👍👍💯💯💯💯💯🥰🥰🥰

[@nouvang4059]

Poj niam lub neej kaj siab ces yog tib qho nrhiav rab ua zoo nyob tshaj plaws li xwb os

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

This lady even suggesting other ladies a 10 years of toleration first. Wow..just WoW! These women are like those dogs that got their asses sitting on nails/splinters. They bark they cry, but don’t move. Them dogs don’t move because it doesn’t hurt bad enough.. These women cry, they complain, but making no movement to change. Just no sympathy here, because if it’s that bad, they would’ve gotten up and run since when; like year 1 if not 6 months in.

[@cocopha5778]

Kuv ces 1 yam Koj thiab os raug tus txiv tsim tas li xwb

[@kuabmuajtsuasxiong8712]

Me niam tsev kuv twb uv tau 40 xyoo lawm os . Siab ntsws moog tag tsi muaj ntsawv khiav li lawm os . Kuv puas muaj hmoob li koj maj tu siab kawg vim yus lub siab zoo es yus thiaj txom nyem xwb os.

[@leexiong5741]

Qhov uas muab yuam sib yuav li koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawd ces zoo coj nkawd mus nyob nram tsev laj cuj xwb os.

[@panpanxiong7109]

Yog kawg os yog tau tus txiv tsi hlub tsi pab ces xum nrauj zoo dua kuv lo kuv tsi muaj hmoo tau tus txiv tsi hlub tsi pab ces xum nrauj nyias mus nyias kaj siab tshaj os kuv tus kuv nrauj tau 13 xyoo ...nrauj tag kaj siab tshaj plaws tsi muaj tus cem yus

[@pajthao4813]

Kuv nrog koj rau ib sab khau thiab os kuv uv tau 10 xyoo xwb kuv twb dhuav kuv thiaj tawm plaws lawm koj mas sivzog kawg lawm os txaus lawm os zoo siab nrog koj lub neej kajsiab

[@PM-oe5mk]

Marriage is not about putting up with your spouse's bad behaviors and/or mistreatment, it's about love and compromises. Anyone who follows the belief system of "uv thiab uv xwb" is guaranteed an unhappy and broken marriage. You have a greater chance of a happy and successful marriage if it's based on love, shared values, and compromises.

[@ScatteredYO]

Bravo! Nice story. Leave these losers. No regrets.

[@johnsnow1669]

koj thiab kuv taug kiag ib txoj kev tab sis tu siab kuv nyob tau 40 xyoo diam koj tseem zoodua kuv thiab nrog koj zoo siab

[@johnmimisjourney3940]

Oh…pab hlub koj os. 40 xyoo ces ntev kawg li lawm os. Kuv Nyob yuav luag tau 20 xyoo thiaj li dim kiag…

[@cal3243]

You have a terrible in law and husband. I hope that all those torture they do and say they will receive from the next woman or Nyab. Karma is a b

[@chaothao2900]

I agreed other woman will torture him and his family in next.🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@yingvang1276]

The way this mother in law brag about how she was able to control her husband 🤣 what a joke. I'm pretty sure her husband just wasn't able to get it up anymore and stopped cheating all by himself. If she was able to "teach" her husband then she would be able to "teach" her own son too. Don't worry about not find another Hmong man, there's plenty of men outside of Hmong.

[@suabcua1531]

Cas kv nim xav hais tias kv thiaj rau nkawm nkau zoo li ko xwb, me vivncaus kj yog tus muaj peevxwm lawm os, kv los uv kv tus txiv tau 34 lub xyoos ☹️☹️☹️

[@niamtsevxeemlaujlauj5003]

Sister aws never accept that kind of abuse. You are better off by yourself. Love yourself and your kids only. Love and care about yourself and your kids nit evil parents in laws and husband. They are wrong and evil.

[@clee7622]

Cas koj cov in-laws ntxim ntxub ua luaj nas. Your ex is such a waste of space. Do what you gotta do, go find that spark of joy.

[@orchidyang603]

Kuv lub neej ces txawv tsis deb koj lub thiab mas sister…..neeg cem tias peb cov poj nrauj mas luam taws laws nrhiav tsis tau txiv yuav….lam hais xwb os….txog txij peb tsis yuav ces yog raug tsim txaus lawm es tsis xav ntsib lub neej tsaus ntuj ntxiv lawm xwb…..txij thaum kuv muab kuv lub neej xaus nrog tus neeg tsim kuv….nrauj txiv tag kuv yeej kaj siab tshaj….thiab paub hlub kuv tus kheej dua qub lawm….txawm neeg yuav thuam thiab cem los lawv tsis rau peb txhais khaus….feem coob cov poj nrauj yeej yog neeg zoo thiab rau siab khwv noj khwv haus xwb…..cov txiv neej feem coob ces yog li koj tus ex- nrauj tag ces ua dev thawj thiab xwb…. I have been single for 15 years and still going strong and happy…..tsis yog txhua tus poj nrauj yog neeg phem…. Glad you found happiness….prove to your ex- he is nothing without you.

[@ncouazooxwbya1552]

Tus niam tsev zoo siab rau koj muaj cuab kav khiav tau tawm ntawm txoj kev tsim txom ntawm tus txij nkawm. Tabsis koj twb hais tias nrauj koj tag cuag nyob ntuj ceeb tsheej ua cas tseem hos mus yuav dua txiv thiab? If that’s was like Heaven, Wouldn’t not be married another man ever again.

[@cindyskenderovic6806]

OMG ! I used to be married to my ex husband for 21.5 yrs since 1997, glad I left him. Life was so much better and no stress and depression. I only have 2 kids, faces abuse and manipulation throughout my life, married to a narcissist is dangerous and no life, outbeats everything, we are pretty much on the same page in our life sister. Good job, Good luck with your life.

[@pohw405]

Niam laus zaj no zoo heev

[@kichang1005]

Narcissistic person are so dangerous

[@maipha8560]

Omg! I'm so annoyed by this lady story. That was too much time wasted on a douchebag and his family. 20 years is a long time, she should've invested all that time and $$$$ in an investment, she'd be a millionaire by now.

[@ableab2907]

Yog kawg.

[@aliu4796]

kuv ces uv tau 30 xyoo no lawm os cov viv ncaus aw muab xavv los mas lig rau kuv kawg lawm os

[@NkaujSeeThojUaNyabKevDeb]

sib tsim xwb a ta ua neeg zoo

[@cheryang3622]

Tos koj tus txiv tsi hlub koj los koj ruam npaum li koj ne yom.

[@yangntshavntuj]

Why my wife don't wanted to sleep with me You got nothing wrong with her. when she coming home from works she wanted to sleep alone doing this over a month. Should i moving on or stay with her?...

[@kuvxwb9555]

Koj ruam ces koj mob xwb tsis muaj leej twg K os. Txhob ruam ruam ma ua neeg nyob na!

[@somman9639]

Ham tsis txoj kev tsis mloog niam thiab txiv lus maj paub los sa , lawv ntshai li no ntag ! Thiaj niaj hnoob hais tab sis koj hom tsis mloog lus hwv ne !

[@giangthidua3766]

mloog kj cov neej neeg ua thiaj xav ua neej nyb xwb os..kv xav tau kj tug FB os

[@justforlove9784]

Most poj nrauj are innocent ones, but there are those that aren’t innocent. Lawv twb tau ib tus txiv tsev zoo tamsis mus ua zog xas ces cia li muab nws tus txiv tsev zoo nrauj mus ua poj nrauj. I don’t get it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@yiamoua2592]

Kj hais sis so sis so tsi yog naj hais kj yuav tsum hais tias hais tsi so tsi so no pob

[@yilengyang3325]

Twg kom yus pheej khaus khaus lub ntawv es nyob tsi taus ces thisj mag yuav txiv yus Txhob tu siab rau yus niam yus txiv os mog that’s what you got

[@leelaiyah789]

Yog, tsis txim txiaj nes.

[@a2dazgod539]

I said it before and I will say it again another victim of cultural tradition and religion

[@suxiong2240]

This is USA move on with your life y do u stay and complaining typical hmong woman.

[@mainancyher79]

Easy said than done.

[@myoutlaws]

Dam 40 minutes of lectures

[@MyStaryStaryNight]

Yiu know what they say, bad parenting is the result of bad kids. That why our Hmong community we some lazy Hmong men and women.

[@ncokojxublee8894]

tus muam kuv xav maj koj lub lwb ruam dhua kuv yog ib tus txiv neej thiab os. tag sij koj tus txiv koj niam yog lawv yog ib ntshe neeg siab pheem heev li koj tseem ntshais thiab lo xav ko zoo zoo nawb

[@vkaotxia7779]

Kuv tsis Xav tias yuav muaj ib co txiv neej Liam Liam muaj tus cuj pwm 1930 tuaj nyob mekas teb chaws thiab

[@heysoniher]

Oh, laws nyob thoob ntuj os!