Anger and the Unfaithful Spouse

[@leeballestrin5142]

When you are ashamed that you resorted such hurtful fights thank you for making me feel not so alone

[@SamanthaHardmon]

If my husband is so angry at himself, why does he continue his affair?

[@samshealingpodcast]

it's a cycle of shame. he probably feels he's in too deep to get out and why try and resist. he may struggle with addiction to it.....he also may not be being honest with you. there are a ton of variables. will he get any help with you? will he do any recovery work at all?

[@SamanthaHardmon]

@@samshealingpodcast I moved from California to Mississippi while pregnant and with our 9 month old son. A year later, he is still so manipulative that he could sell ice to an Eskimo! And it looks like it will be another year because he just signed a new 1 year lease on our old apartment with his affair partner. She posts pictures of them online and disrespects me badly and he never stands up for me. I have no idea why he leads me on. I cant have sex with him or give him.money. I'm on the other side of the country... But I've finally decided to just act like he's dead and focus on my own healing. His actions show that he is in love with her.. I can't even truly call her the "affair partner" at this point. It's more like she's the wife and I'm the dumb affair partner. However, your videos are so helpful! I pray God bless you richly!

[@TrophyHunterTyler]

My wife had an emotional affair over a year ago. She can't stop crying and feeling angry at herself. She feels upset at herself and she's just angry. Anyone know why?

[@dmcv3389]

You were angry you got caught! Wow! This is just devastating what the betrayed has to be subjected to and the betrayed is not supposed to be angry they are supposed to walk on eggshells because the unfaithfull doesnt want to deal with their anger they created in the betrayed.

[@williamarmstrong8266]

Great blog, I see I am not dealing with my anger well and it has come out wrong towards my Bride at times, when I am actually angry with myself. I have put so much of the infidelity from my sex addiction locked away that more and more stuff that I forgot or cannot remember to disclose keeps coming out and setting us back. Not sure what to do? Financially I have ruined us and the pain I see in her hurts so much.

[@samshealingpodcast]

william, did you post on the ar site as well? it sounds like the same comment for the most part. if so, here is my response from that site as well: if not, to be honest it's still applicable: BillA55, great thoughts/questions. when we hate ourselves or the like, we focus on us and again, make it about us. we don't make it about our spouse and their pain and hurt. you're being, as Rick would call it, 'selfish with your shame' as you're allowing the focus to be on you and what choices you made, rather than about her and her pain and her hurt. you may also be angry at you but it's coming out as anger on her and pushing her away, further wounding her and again, as i was an expert at, making it about you not her. this series will help on shame: www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/infidelity-recovery-understanding-the-paralysis-of-shame you have much work to do friend. like forgiving yourself which will the help you find freedom to be purely empathetic to her and what you've done to her. what sort of world view do you come from? that will help me make some suggestions as well for you if i know that. we have scholarships for all the online courses my friend. go here to apply for a scholarship to any program we have, minus the in person weekend: www.affairrecovery.com/scholarship-application-request you'll get through this. if i k now more about your worldview i can help with forgivness for you which will then spill over into compassion for her and what you've put her through. till then, you run the risk of again, being about you and your pain and not hers and her need for healing. does that make sense? i would also do the hope for healing course asap for you my friend: www.affairrecovery.com/product/hope-for-healing

[@stevenvas8681]

Need help with my anger. Can you send me link to approved counseling in dfw area?

[@samshealingpodcast]

hi steven, i'm sorry but I'm unable to send anything here. if you'd like to email [e-mail] we can see how we can help.

[@barbaraburkart2655]

Can I find a good marriage in Spokane? BABS

[@fraserstaley1]

How do I get my husband back from her. I think its just an emotional affair. He still sleeps in my bed. He wont talk to me. I need help please.

[@simfora8053]

I’m the unfaithful and I’m struggling with wanting to be with my girlfriend. Try watching the video, 4 ways to win the unfaithful’s heart back. It’s a video by affair recovery, I’ve never watched it so I don’t know if it’ll help. Sorry I don’t really know what too do because I am the bad guy.