Anger Intervention

Quinn is a soldier who spent four years in the U.S. military and completed two tours in Iraq; yet he says his deepest physical and emotional scars are not from fighting at war - they’re from his abusive wife, Sara. He says his wife has smashed a glass door over his head, punched, slapped and kicked him in the face. But why won’t he leave her? Plus, Sara
and Quinn’s mothers, Tracy and Rene, say they’re worried the couple’s 2-year-old daughter has also fallen victim to the alleged abuse. Dr. Phil confronts Sara about the alleged abuse. Can he help mend this fractured family? (2210054)
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[@elainebernier]

I think her ( sara) husband should absolutely leave. This will not Change

[@nakiaharper276]

If this was reversed he was the abuser they say leave him. Gotta love a double standard.

[@perfectlyimperfect9129]

And take those kids far away!!

[@LindaEckertBallard]

@@perfectlyimperfect9129 The kids are already going to be adversely affected by what they have already seen/heard but sadly when these divorces between parents with children .. Selfish partners always use the kids to control their spouse...one way or the other the kids will not be mentally healthy when their moms and dads go away,

[@mariannehavisham8323]

It might change. He should leave anyway

[@alishamthiel]

Ooooh Phil you even got the ladies mad up in here!

[@MrAdal206]

He needs to divorce her. There’s no fixing that kind of anger, and it stopped mattering anyway after he touched his mom. She has to go, and he needs to get full custody of those kids before she destroys them.

[@courtneycoletto9732]

What a nut job. I think the guy needs to get away with the kids.

[@jd-it4on]

She wasnt abused ,she is nuts ang trying to be the victim

[@nakiaharper276]

He needs to divorce her and take custody of the kids. She can have supervised visits. Those childres will not be spared her wrath.

[@IOUAAK]

At some point, she needs to take accountability for her behavior. She's an adult, a wife, and a mother. Grow up.

[@nancymorris995]

I agree. And I so don’t get how she was taken by surprise that he would be gone a lot… He’s in the military, lady!

[@akaya714]

At some point you mean, she needs to take accountability as soon as she knows right from wrong which is before you are a legal adult. 6 year olds know right from wrong so I’m completely confused by this it’s absurd

[@adelepattonxxx]

Abortion is there for a reason Don't have children!

[@lizg.8626]

Telling a man who has been brutally beaten and has had his mother’s face bashed in by his abusive wife that he has to abstain from divorcing her? That is reckless and wrong. I usually agree with Dr. Phil, but this is beyond comprehension.

[@howulikethemapples]

this made me so angry. the advice should have been the same he would have given a woman. leave and stay away

[@Lynnda86]

There is ALWAYS hope for someone to change. I agree 100 to protect the children AT ALL COSTA, but that woman deserves a chance at redemption. We ALL do!

[@wendyhardin5259]

Oh good The Experts are showing.

[@a.b.2850]

@@howulikethemappleshe doesn’t say differently to women btw

[@rustynails8756]

I know his philosophy is to be sure to do everything before divorce to try and save the marriage so you know you have given your all. In this case there are children and a woman who admits she has a problem and is seeking help

[@alientourist4171]

If it was the husband being abusive, would he be telling the wife to give him 45 days? I find that very strange.

[@howulikethemapples]

Just wow. A man is supposed to put up with abuse. If this was the other way around the he would have been vilified. She is a victim and he needs to stay with her? wtf. and I'm a female btw

[@sr2291]

The public is in denial about female predators. The male is usually blamed.

[@jayboogie5669]

💯 I couldn't agree more. I found this episode just to say this ! It's not fair because he's a man he needs to stay and put up with it. NOPE 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@crystalsswtor3760]

Exactly! There is NO excuse on EITHER side to put up with abuse. It's ridiculous!

[@kathleenhenselder5846]

Leave her and take the kids.

[@joywebster2678]

Husband is at risk, not from just her violence, but having his life, career, and reputation ruined. She will happily make up stories about him.

[@MichelleMarchia-fk9es]

He needs to get custody of the children sole custody at that and divorce Sara!!!!!!!!

[@chilo8187]

Child and spousal abuse - she should be sent to jail

[@nocomments.5776]

She is such a disgusting person to be around. Like crying on interview after child abuse, leaving literal scars on somebody and cracking someone teeth.

[@andreajones886]

"there comes a time when you gotta RISE ABOVE YOUR RAISING!"💯

[@mariannehavisham8323]

It's hard though.. impossible for some people.. some people have wounds so deep they never heal

[@ebastian_x]

fighting with your husband when he gets home from iraq😭😭😭

[@andreajones886]

epic!

[@andreajones886]

priceless

[@liz3169]

Divorcing her is protecting the children!!!!!

[@puddysue]

WHY are they still together? Why are children subjected to this dangerous situation?

[@promeym2587]

"It is premature to divorce her." It is not. It is utter malpractice and insanity to tell a spouse that has physically abused them and their family members to say, "it's too early to divorce her. I can fix her in 45 days." How about, he divorced her for his own sanity and safety. You take your magical 45 days. He comes back IN A YEAR, and sees what's there. The above is why this man is a quack and a carnival barker.

[@sr2291]

How is she being allowed to raise children?

[@alanaadams7440]

I was hit slapped pushed hair pulled shoved into walls and my bottom black and blue.....but I don't hit people. She needs to grow up

[@benjaminperez1149]

You learn SELF CONTROL Sarah. This is a you problem.

[@NH-tb2sm]

He needs to leave and take his children with him. Dr. Phil should be ashamed of himself

[@debo398]

Dr. Phil asked him to give him & his team 45 days to to help her...he also told him that his primary responsibility was to his children...the children were not to be around their mother unsupervised...but the children deserved to have both parents if possible...waiting 45 days while she is in therapy is not too much to ask...if she refuses therapy...the husband can file for divorce and permanent custody of the kids. She won't have unsupervised access to the kids as long as Dr. Phil is involved and if she refuses help Dr. Phil WILL notify whatever CPS has jurisdiction that she is violent and should NOT have contact with the kids unsupervised.

[@LisaSummerlin]

She can blame all she wants but it won’t solve anything. Until she gets into therapy and works through her issues, her husband needs to take custody of those kids and go. PERIOD.

[@gloryakiepper7918]

Young man take your kids and run don't walk away from her

[@libbypaige6160]

She says the possibility of spending a year in jail terrifies her?! Damaging her kids for life should be her biggest fear.

[@maxamillion26093]

Especially when she went through the same thing with her own parents

[@libbypaige6160]

@@maxamillion26093 yeah exactly! She should be hyper aware.

[@KerrieWakeman]

Huh?! Give me 45 days to turn this around?! Dr Phil, I don’t agree with you. This woman beats up her husband, her mother-in-law and her 2 year old daughter 😮 Those little children are first and foremost above everything else! She won’t change, her parents won’t change. Those babies are in danger! If I was this guy, I’d grab my children and keep running. Her behaviour is set in stone 😮 Physical abuse and mental abuse stick with you. You can’t erase the pain with the flick of a switch. It doesn’t work that way. I wish this man his children and family the very best lives. God help them 😢

[@tamaravanvoorst448]

If it was a man abusing his wife, they would tell him to leave and take the kids with him.

[@laurensauvageot1196]

Legal separation and the father has full rights to the children. She gets the help she needs. IF he decides to go with couples counseling afterwards, so be it, otherwise file for divorce with full custody of the children.

[@lizg.8626]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this is a great solution! She has not had to suffer any real consequences and she should have a long time ago. People like this don’t take these things seriously unless they hit rock-bottom. I cannot believe Dr. Phil would insist that this poor man stick around just in case he can magically cure her. What about the protection of this man and all he has endured and their children?

[@chrissnyder5584]

I get what Dr Phil is saying to a point, but he has NEVER said this stuff to a male abuser. I cannot imagine him telling a female, multiple times domestic abuse victim, to stay with her abuser. Is he right about why she abuses? Likely. Could he help her change? Also likely. But that doesn't mean the abused husband should stay. That history will never be erased.

[@happycatlady2012]

Wow this woman is unbelievable.

[@lottianne]

I hope this woman gets the help she needs. This is a terrible environment for children to be in. This whole situation is very bad.

[@JohnKlue-h9p]

where are they now? Need to follow up on the things you preach

[@PearlsandRoses]

Yeah, I don't think she's a victim here. If she were a man, she'd have been incarcerated a long time ago.

[@maryhirsch7170]

He needs to take the kids and leave her. She can work out her problems alone.

[@gaetanocarminefrancescopao5623]

This woman is CRAZY!!!! She should be in prison!

[@reneepallo7779]

She needs counseling. And maybe some medication

[@nakiaharper276]

She needs to go to prison.

[@anniewallace3601]

Dr. Phil is wrong. I'm so glad he doesn't hit back because she's the type of woman who woud abuse that saying I can call the cops and get you in jail for years claiming you're the abuser so you better not tell any one or I will. I hope he got the help they needed and that she was able to overcome her anger, but I would have said you need to take those kids and get a restraining order until she is cleared by a therapist that it is safe. Your first priority is those kids.

[@CrystalAnneCompton]

Wtf? Would Dr Phil tell a woman who is being physically abused to not divorce her husband? This is wild.

[@joywebster2678]

He said " premature" not to never divorce her.

[@KC1up]

Exactly. Can you imagine if it was the other way around & the husband beat up his wife & mother in law?

[@joywebster2678]

@Happypaleandfree its an inaccurate declaration. That's the point. Confabulation of Dr Phil's point. Hecwas saying let us fix her issue, then decide for the sake of the kids. But the comments here are determined to make it a sexist issue against Dr Phil. THATS the matter.

[@sallyglynn9762]

Dr Phil just shut up , she’s an adult she knows what’s wrong and right so stop blaming the parents

[@salzwell25]

She should go to jail.

[@sammospencer8641]

She’s not going to change. He has every right to leave.

[@jaxonjaxoff3291]

If she was a soldier like he was, I would absolutely want her to get help, I would want her to get better and have him help her. She’s not a soldier.

[@andreajones886]

Sara first needs to take full accountability,&& responsibility for her own actions in order for anything to change going forward!

[@amysilwood7968]

Her husband has given her so many chances. Yes, childhood abuse, neglect, etc do have problems later in life. But there comes a time when you have to seek treatment and face reality. Some of us had horrible childhoods but we grow up and decide to be better than what we had. If that means treatment, seek it. Find it. Let the family help you.

[@gingerthomas5758]

The reason she did that to her mother-in-law is because she COULD!

[@chrismifflin3862]

Refuses to take accountability, wants to be seen as the victim. When asked why she did something, "I don't know." She has no intention to change. She just wants pity and sympathy.

[@crystalsswtor3760]

You need to spend that time in prison because you know why you get angry and you still wont' take responsibility for it? You would never EVER be allowed in my house again if you ONCE put your hands on me.

[@lamboskambo]

Wouldn’t say that to a woman who was abused 😂

[@Aurora4350]

Seriously? Premature to divorce her? Why not separation and let them live separately from her? This is dangerous!

[@gladyw7037]

She needs a thorough assessment, her explosive anger is not normal. It may be wilful, a trauma response, or there could be something not quite diagnosed yet.

[@elainebernier]

Omgosh...this is awful. How disturbing

[@melissahartley6698]

She’s dangerous.

[@BellaLuna11]

I'm engaged to a man who was ill treated by his ex wife..he spent time in prison thanks to her lies and manipulation. Women often use the law against men because they know they can get away with it. He was raised not to lift his hands to women and it got him nowhere. If he hit her back, he would go to prison anyway. Prison is full of men who have been abused by women cause they have been given the 'power' to lie about many many things. I apologise to all men who have gone through this and are going through this. The justice system is a mess and corrupt.

[@EvilAzn3000]

She's terrified of going to jail and not the fact that she could possibly kill her own husband?!

[@EarlBaldbear]

She needs to STOP! He should divorce her, and have her arrested if she assaults him again.

[@davidcjones3100]

Fella, my advice to you is to move into the barracks on the base, an extreme case of toxicity.

[@kimberlys.7097]

The kids poor kids

[@PennyJackson123]

Not an excuse… I got abused by my parents and I’m not abusing my husband or my children. Quite the opposite! I’m determined to never be towards my loved ones, the way that they were towards me during my childhood. Poor kids…

[@debo398]

She needs therapy...he needs therapy...her whole family needs therapy. The husband needs to focus on his children...they do not need to be around their mother.

[@puddysue]

If he DOESN'T want a divorce, there's something wrong with him.

[@SabrinaLWilliams]

Guilt tripping him into staying with that abusive woman? Really?! What does he always say? The only thing worse than being in an abusive relationship for a year is to be in one for a year and one day. Practice what you preach. He doesn't deserve that nor do his children. He needs to take them and leave

[@rahhappy904]

This husband is done. I know that look. I’ve seen it first hand. Those “feelings” are gone for him. He’s moved on after he made that decision. Heck… I wouldn’t be surprised if he had another woman lined up.

[@a.b.2850]

I get anger.. but this a total absence of a frontal lobe.

[@maxievandeventer1141]

I was brought up with my mother and step father who hit me so much that marks were still on my back on my wedding day. This only happened after I showed the Welfare what my face looked like from after he smashed my face again and again against the wall. I was put away from in a place of safety until the courtcase against my step father.

[@marybowesobrien7185]

Double standards because it’s a woman …excuses

[@akaya714]

In America yelling in your house in front of kids is considered abuse so I’m perplexed what makes this any different? She’s violent physically and verbally abusive seems like an unsafe environment but she’s a victim of her childhood so let’s not hold her accountable and might as well start preparing for when her kids become just as screwed up as her or worse it’s awesome. I love it.

[@wendyhardin5259]

The Humanity being shown here is staggering. No wonder I prefer the company of animals over people.

[@crystalsswtor3760]

I learned that when I was a kid. I went through quadruple compared to what this woman went through. She doesn't know what real trauma is, and not once did I cause any of this to happen in my family. I dealt with it all, including my mother almost getting killed. I have no patience for people like this I don't. She would be sitting in jail the first time.

[@JoAnn1108]

I couldn't agree more. My mantra has always been that I prefer animals over humans. All animals want are food and love. Most humans are evil .....

[@elainebernier]

"Perception is reality".

[@joannamall7773]

There is a point when the anger becomes a drug. The endorphins and the chemical release takes over. Like a drug addiction, they have to have it. Someone made her angry and now she uses it to high. She needs therapy. You can't blame your parents once you become an adult. You HAVE TO learn to do better. She is addicted to the anger. That's why she is crying. 😢

[@M2161]

Sorry, but you don’t get second chances after beating my mother and myself. Give all the excuses you want and take accountability on your own time but the kids and myself will not be apart of it. Dr Phil should never have told him to abstain from divorcing her. That’s beyond reckless, if the kids get caught in the cross fire of her and him getting into it, Dr Phil will be responsible for those kids being exposed to domestic violence. Imagine what that will do to them.

[@parelpaardje]

I don't want to be this person but if this was a man beating a woman on a regular bay Dr. Phil would have told her to run away from him as fast as possible🤷🏼‍♀️. So I don't see why it's okay when it's a woman.

[@GhostTweeHubBub]

She is completely toxic. She refuses to take accountability for anything. He needs to take the kids & get out ASAP before she kills them.

[@akaya714]

All it’s going to take is for a woman to show him kindness, and that relationship is over. It’s the same thing for women being treated the same by a man of a man was to treat them nicely. They would absolutely leave but there’s a reason he’s holding on because currently he doesn’t feel his value, it doesn’t take much to make a man value and doesn’t take much for a woman to feel valued

[@diane4488]

Her parents are lying big time. Their level of ignorance is huge. She needs to break away from them, imho. They are very toxic.

[@tiger1976]

This episode is frustrating... this dude needs to leave and protect his kids. She needs to clean her act up.

[@Lolatorres2022]

He should divorce her there is no excuse for her to be abusive she should off break those chains stop with excuses.

[@idkausername4035]

Would he have told a woman to cool her jets because she wanted to get out of an abusive situation?

[@christinebrument6851]

You're wrong dr Phil. Take those children and run.

[@liz3169]

In pain or not this lady is gross

[@hihoremy3940]

Just watched it. Would love an update.

[@laurenclark3150]

Her mom is the same. Taking no accountability

[@marcicatterton9792]

She needs the kids taken n he needs to file for divorce.

[@s.k.m.8756]

She looks like Rachel McAdams

[@Baconpretzel-e8n]

Yes she does!

[@MARKYPERTH]

I'm sorry if he was beating her, Dr Phil would tell her to LEAVE. Such a double standard. Then men don't understand why it's so unfair?

[@calila650]

borderline personality disorder or sociopathy… she’s not sorry

[@lizkoykkari3048]

Dr phil was wrong for that....

[@slujano]

She needs some serious therapy and medication. In our household, where I gotten my share of whipping with belts, extension cords and vehicle snow scrapers. I was rebellious, did things to deserve that, but that doesn’t mean I was gonna react on some type of way by growing up to be violent and make excuses to justify crazy behavior. I grew up and have my children that I did give spankings sometime, but I started talking more to my children and having them understand what is right from wrong. I I pour nothing but love to my children and set an example for them to have a loving home. But not all people are built to change for the better. So I wish this young lady luck and I hope that this young man leaves for his safety.

[@stitches318]

Everyone goes through everything differently. Some kids shake off corporal punishment. Others it stays with them forever and effects them in negative ways

[@kimberlys.7097]

Same I have excellent grown children because I decided to do things a bit different. I wasn’t a bad kid either but the discipline should have been less abusive. My father was abused as a child and grew up in an abusive home. He did his best to control his anger so I’m doing what I can as well. Living and learning everyday.

[@lizg.8626]

You sound like an amazing person and parent. I really admire you for taking something really traumatic that happened to you as a kid and using it to be great mom.💕

[@catherinechapman7974]

Question: Was the house harmonious, and did you nurture your daughter and make sure she felt good about herself? Answer: She didn't give us problems until she was twelve or thirteen. Ma'am, that was not the question. In my experience, it is not uncommon for kids to behave in a dysfunctional home when they are young and do not know better. But at a certain point, they realize that their parents are not infallible and that their behaviors, etc., are not normal. Once the parent's misbehavior is understood, kids are less likely to blindly follow rules. This could have been what happened at twelve or thirteen.

[@pamelacarlson3342]

She has been given power because her temper makes everyone afraid of her!.she should not be raising these kids! And her husband should've called the police many times!

[@carlintaylor3229]

Men can be victims of abuse just as much as women they deserve to be taken seriously too stop making excuses for it learn to keep your hands to yourself and things like this won't have to happen goes for both sides

[@gm-wv2yt]

Often it’s the person who is being abused who ends up getting in trouble after they hurt the abuser. Often this happens in self defense or after extreme reaction to the abuse. I think she can change AND he should leave. They can be good parents but no one should put up with abuse.

[@Summer09824]

Noo im sorry how can dr Phil tell him to not divorce this maniac? Would he be telling a woman the same thing? That’s terrible. He needs to get as far away from her as possible and find a new loving partner

[@trishblackham5766]

He needs to leave her - take the children; the risk is too high for him and the children --- as most of the comments say - dr Phil wouldn’t be telling him not to divorce if it was the other way round -- how bias he is

[@nathanielrichardson4054]

Believe that Jesus Christ died for your sins and rose again on the third day

[@andreajones886]

praise the Lujah!!!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Lynnda86]

Amen 🙏🏻

[@alisonchancey6726]

I been watching these episodes domestic violence and some people are abusive to each other

[@Rhaenys888]

If there are any men watching this please don't listen to dr.phil if you are in a similar situation! This only ever gets worse and you deserve better and you WILL find better for yourselves/and or your children when you leave. If you where the one doing this to her she'd put your asd in jail and divorce you do not let anyone tell you staying with someone who abuses you is admirable its not!!! Escaping to a new healthier life is!!!

[@Happypaleandfree]

Yes! Please leave, you deserve better. She is not going to change because she refuses to be held accountable. There is no shame in saving your life and living a better, happier life.

[@monteandmichelehadleyinteg4653]

They get along enough to make two babies (recent). WTF?

[@faith_God]

🙏🏼

[@mickeyking1011]

Telling this man to cool his jets and stay married to this abusive monster is sick. Cool your jets yeah she beats you yeah she beat up your mother no she is not safe to be around your children and I’ll make sure you’re held accountable for leaving them around her alone but you can’t leave I’ll fix her. Disgusting. He needs to run with his children.

[@stephm5877]

It's worse for the kids to see their father being abused, but I'm wondering if Dr. Phil was trying to protect him from family court and potential unsupervised visits. Maybe her going through that helped him get custody later on?

[@alvarezsarah30]

Is she bipolar