Answering Your *BURNING* Questions lol.... (life update, heartbreak, living alone, depression)

[@sandydianabang]

Despite everything you’re going through, your aura feels so pretty and healing Fei. Your vulnerability is helping and healing so many individuals and for that, I know you have so much love coming your way❤️

[@heyitsfeiii]

Thank you Sandy 🩵 I hope this comforts those healing at the least. This meant so much to me.

[@ErikaBouquets]

To all of us who are suffering:The dawn will break. Be patient, and don't shame yourself for feeling big emotions. Lean in and be curious about those emotions. They will teach you more.

[@jessicaherman3528]

Damn I really needed to hear this today😭

[@WinningIsOverrated]

I read a quote once that really altered my view on dealing. "Sometimes the lack of closure IS the closure" what you were saying about not getting an apology and accepting thats how it's going to be is the only way forward in some situations. You can only control how you resrond to something. Good for you Fei

[@crybabv]

The 11:51 segment kinda hit because I’m 20 and I haven’t dated anyone because I’m afraid of heartbreak even though I like that person back this just motivated me to try and let that barrier down a little! Tysm for this fei! It was a real eye opener!!!!!

[@marajones1828]

10:20 whew chile, I felt those words in my soul. My psychiatrist just upped my antidepressant med dosage and I literally have to take a month off from work because my depression, anxiety and ptsd got so bad, I was so deep in burn out that I felt and feel like a ghost in a shell. I'm in a dark place right now but I'm hopeful that there is a light at the end of this season. Hang in there Fei, we got this ❤️❤️

[@veronicado1016]

Sending love and hugs and positivity. You got this.❤❤❤❤

[@mschons11]

Feii seeing you cry makes me bawled my eyes out . Hang in there and I’m with you going through this . Today I walked away and blocked my bf . Cause he was being aggressive insulted me on the phone and when I simply set a boundary he hung up the phone and gave me the silent treatment . That was my last straw . I am proud that I walked away and I deserve so much better .

[@liilkiyah]

I've had issues with depression most of my life. A on and off again battle. You'll learn what's best for you moving forward. Though, what I would advise, try to start realizing your starting ques... At the beginning of the darkness downfall... Try to see it before you go in. If you can begin to see it and actively... Intentionally, changing your thoughts, change your movements. We all have a pattern, you'll find yours.. it helps to pull yourself away from it before you really get into the dark place. I honestly adore you as a person, from what you provide us of you, it's all beautiful. I literally feel your light through your videos and it's easy to smile with you. You're great, idk you personally but I believe you have a beautiful character, soul and personality. You got this Miss Lady....

[@tyencee]

you are such a strong soul i don't understand how you're able to process everything, trying to stay afloat while maintaining your ever-so-sunshine personality and being a big sis to all of us. you deserve all the good things and all the good people around you. you are so strong you can overcome anything. love u!

[@Dez716]

You don’t know how much I needed this. I lost my dad 3 years ago and for some reason this fall/winter has been way more depressing for me. It feels good to know I’m not alone 🙃

[@yae4599]

I totally agree with you on the timeline Fei! Society seems to create a checklist that many people assume everyone has. Maybe there is, maybe there isn't. Either way, the time and order people check off the boxes aren't permanently set or only for a certain period! Anyone and everyone is allowed to take their time and create a new path!

[@independentjessy1634]

This chapter is the most important one❤ I’ve always admired your vulnerability and opening your heart over and over again! Keep being you😊

[@royaleromo8391]

Fei... I say that you are doing well. Being alone is hard, I'm not gonna lie. But you are doing good. I appreciate you in all you do and all that you share... Thank You... HUGS!!!!!

[@star0nyx]

Youve been so strong still filming and editing during this time of sadness! I hope you know us strangers care about your wellbeing. You are doing great. Emotions don't last forever

[@haileygalbraith6260]

As someone else who has recently made a difficult transition to living alone, for me at least for the first time in my life, I have found a lot of solace in podcasts and live actions shows at home, and making consistent efforts do spend time in public spaces. At first I felt so weird and cringe to just hang in coffee shops and libraries for hours at a time, but now it’s just such a lovely experience, I take my laptop and headphones and a feeling of productivity has just really helped close or at least shrink so of those gaps that a fuller household had left. I always seem to find that when I am having a difficult moment, Fei’s channel happens to pop up in my recommended and it’s always a comforting sight. I hope this helps someone, but if not, it felt good to express 💕

[@mm_c7]

I’m going to miss vlogmas this year truly 😢 I’m wishing you happiness and healing fei❤

[@Anna-ls6vk]

Yessss. They can choke🎉 Bravo Fei! You're so beautiful inside and out! Long time supporter and I am so here for you on your journey. Rooting for you❤

[@CA-hp9ir]

I totally understand by what you meant by not wanting to take space. We can push through this.

[@Abbistrawberry]

I know she was crying but I started dancing to the circus music at 14:15 😂❤

[@crashandtails7496]

I'm really happy your still here sharing your story I used to watch you pre pandemic and I love your personality still. Thank you for sharing your parental trauma I almost cried at work when you talked about the mom stuff. It feels like in my late 20s my resentment is at an all time high I'm not ready to forgive her yet. But one day I will and I look forward to that day.

[@iamktlyn]

this video was a big sister video that i needed

[@marajones1828]

Happy Thanksgiving Fei!!! Thankful for your channel and seeing you gradually become nicer to yourself and your body. You deserve nothing but love and happiness ✨️❤️

[@beatrizbranco3721]

Listen first of all i'm so sorry but when the videos and the clown song started I laughed, i'm so sorry i was just not ready for that 😂😭. I love you very much. I'm proud of you and the human being you're becoming. As someone who lives alone for some years ( even tho i go home for the summer, but i'm mostly alone all year ) i want to tell you its gets better. It's scary in the beginning but it gets better i promise. Being alone made me more connected to myself and made me realize somethings that i couldn't when i was around my family ( love them very much ), but as scary as it seems being alone can turn into peace and new adventures. I hope you get through this phase and be happy. I've been following your journey since 2015 and i'm really proud of you and what you achieved and ware achieving. You're very a very strong person that deserves happiness

[@lacywoooo]

Oh Feii I truly hope that your pain lessons very soon and your happiness can shine through. I'm glad you have a good support system from your family as it's always best to talk to someone when you're feeling at your lowest. You are such a beautiful person inside and out so I'm wishing you the best of times for the nearest future. I am someone who understands that depression can consume your body and life so it's always best to have someone, anyone to talk to. ❤

[@memaivthoj]

I’m here when you’re ready for your mommy vlogger era

[@heyitsfeiii]

I’ll be counting on you 🫶🏼

[@luvlylisa]

Aww, Fei. You're always so inspiring to watch grow and entertain and support us all. I'm 43 yrs old and for the first time will be moving out on my own next yr (yes, as a single woman) and it's scary but exciting at the same time. I know I will embrace it, but I also am anticipating what aloneness will be like and how I can completely lose myself in my solitude. I also deal with being big all my life and be defined by it from others-and although I can do better about my weight, I am trying to not let my weight get to me to better my mental health and focus on my happiness (and eating in moderation). At the end of the day, I choose my happiness first. Also, the backache from the chesticles is real!! 💯

[@grandmimm]

You are a strong vibrant woman, you wont be alone for long, i am 60yrs old & i remember when my daughter was younger, she hated to be alone, she would call me crying almost daily saying she was going to always alone & never going to find her person & never have kids. She always had a hard time making friends, she also hated the fact that at 40 she was still a virgin, but when she was 35 she finally met the guy she is with now, she is now 38 & has 1 daughter & expecting her 2nd one now, they bought their 1st house & foung really really well, YOU WILL find your person very soo

[@Jen_nifer99]

This gives me hope too.

[@t.mccullough2240]

I started following you bcuz your space was funny and cute. You were doing your own thing. I figured you would probably trying to find your own space bcuz everyone wanted to be in your space. Don't punish yourself while learning yourself. It's going to be OKAY!

[@hi-cx4wt]

As someone who’s gone on a trip through Trovatrip, if you arrive the day of Trovatrip offers transportation to the hotel or place where you’d be staying. As well as the day of departure, unless you extend your stay. If that makes sense, so you don’t even have to order taxi or go through public transportation. 👍

[@megashellybelly123]

Happy Thanksgiving Fei! You perfectly worded how isolating being by yourself can be, and just want to give you a big hug 💕 have you ever thought of having a fur baby(pet)? It can be your little side kick around the house 🥰

[@JulieYangXiong]

Sometimes, it takes breaking, losing, or starting from square one to find your way, purpose, or self. It's okay to keep restarting over and over. Your journey in life is unique and meant only for you. Remember, your bumps and obstacles weren't given to you if you knew you couldn't overcome them. You will in your own time.

[@distanteli]

The way you were answering questions about your trip was so kind, ahaha I would have been like what do you mean how do you get to the hotel from the airport???You got to be a little resourceful if you’re traveling mama, google is your friend!

[@marg9017]

I’m 51 and you are such a sweetheart this too shall pass. Enjoy you. You have achieved so much God Bless 💕

[@wassupwe2ne1xbigbangxbtsxBPxG7]

Can I just say I freaking love you Fei!!

[@leelakaczmarek2523]

Been watching ur vids for years and just wanted to say I'm so proud of you girl🩷✨

[@NailFantasy-v5h]

So relatable. Sending hugs❤

[@lacywoooo]

It's bull about things being done at certain ages, you do you at any time in your life. I'm 36 and having my 3rd child. I waited later on in life to have children because I wanted a career first, so I agree with you feii we do things at our own pace plus life throws things at us that can sidetrack us from our life goals.

[@leslieelizabeth3024]

lol Fei, the Wii sports music. I hope that through all of this you do get to enjoy living alone. Enjoy picking your food, and watching what you want, not compromising 💕 But yes, people can choke on how absolutely fabulous you are, and how they can't be you. Because you are fantastic 💕

[@ellen2805]

"I'm at the lowest weight I've been since college, yet I'm the most broken version of me". YESSS. Weight doesn't equate to happiness or health. I lost 30lbs due to health complications and everyone thought I was super healthy and took care of myself. People make so many more comments about what I eat now, too. Comments asking how I work out (I didn't at all). And skinny privilege is a freaky thing- I'm not used to the extra positive attention I never used to get when I was bigger. And I feel insecure in my appearance's change. I always thought the weight would come off and I'd be happy. Nope... So I am with you. Broken.

[@nadimamotlib1535]

Hi fei, i know your depressjon is obviously due to your break up but you knoe how youre saying this sadness is another level for you, could your mediction also contribute to this ?? I hear one of the side effects is depression and wanting to unalive yourself ..just want you to be careful

[@Rose_from_UK]

Feii, the most helpful thing in my depression journey was humanistic counselling. If you’ve not tried it, I recommend trying a few sessions.

[@dannygomez3497]

Girly live your life, enjoy every moment and all the things that come to you. Don't stress over things & most of all be kind to yourself❤😊 many blessings to you always 😇🙏

[@Sm.vanessaa]

Where is this top from!? You look great! And the not being digestible is the new mantra

[@annolov3r]

God sees your heart and is always there with you. In times you feel down and that there is no one to talk to or no one to hear you or understand, you can talk with Jesus.

[@Rose_from_UK]

I wish I could come on the trip, but I am quite disabled and my daughter is in hospital. Next time you do one though!! I am going to lose weight and get stronger and healthier.

[@sweetiekancoral]

I can already tell how emotional this video is going to be…. Grabbing my tissues because when you hurt Fei we hurt When you cry we cry When you laugh we laugh When you talk we listen When you need a hug we’re here to give one in spirit We love you Fei Thank you for answering our questions! ❤❤

[@londonclementine7644]

I wish I could afford to go to South Korea with you! I have an 8 month old, so money is tight. But I need a girls' trip & I want to give you the biggest hug!!! ❤

[@Ryay98]

Love this video. Just know you are amazing if no one told you today. ❤

[@sophiebixx]

Love you girly and thanks for the advice ❤

[@mirasdiary]

ugh i wanna go to the korea trip with you! do you plan to do something like this in the future? my last day of work is the 25th so i wouldnt be able to fly out!! if you ever do another trip, id SO go with everyone!!!

[@roseesthetic]

Happy thanksgiving Fei and everyone watching, I hope today is a good one for you 🧡🧡🧡

[@NaeK188]

I’m not sure how couples move in together before marriage, then breakup, and survive the heartbreak. I would find it so difficult, which is why I never moved in with “boyfriends”. I just got married and looking at moving in together now (which is a process as we’re long distance) but I’m so glad my first time living with a man will be with my forever ❤

[@Thatgirlllk]

The try-on halls are cool but I miss the talking and the vlogss ❤ wishing you the best !! ❤🫶🏽

[@marta9854]

I wanted to go to SK, but trying to get pregnant myself. However I’ve frequently visit Japan with my husband and the price you gave was way more affordable. Also, please don’t get a breast reduction until after kids (if you want kids.) Just get a breast lift after that and you’ll results will last longer

[@rosade_]

FYI, breast reduction dont impact your ability to breastfeed! I got one and my doctor made sure to explain that wether I fall into the category of women who can breastfeed or not, it won't be because of my reduction c:

[@b1h_fox544]

This seems like a time you’re supposed to get to know yourself. I relate to how you’re feeling when I was your age. I am turning 40 and honestly I love my own company more than anyone else’s. Invest in what your passions are.

[@usagimoon.x.o6256]

Happy Thanksgiving to you !❤❤ love the vlogs!

[@ukulelehehe]

from trova website if anyone was curious: Absolutely - as a Host, you get paid to travel with your community! Each travel Host is paid a portion of the trip revenue. Everything on the itinerary is included for you (and a plus one if you want to bring a friend along). We'll even issue Hosts an earnings advance to help cover airfare purchases. Exact Host earnings can vary - while the average Host earns $6,000 per trip, we let Creators determine how much they make as a part of pricing their trip, but encourage you to set the price within your community's budget.

[@gogontlesetlhare]

You are doing well ❤

[@NotMaria.]

I love your hauls so much!

[@lindaloud5009]

We seport you Fei and give you all love don't worry❤

[@sero0716]

Oh, girly.. I wish I could be your friend. I know what you mean about the depression.. I struggle so much and no one understands. I know I’m just a random subscriber, but I’m here if you ever wanna talk about the emptiness or the pain of loneliness. I live in Illinois so I’m not super far from you. Just putting that out there. Love you, girl. Take care of your mind. You’ve only got one life.

[@sayantani1231]

Can someone pls tell me what led to her breakup because last time I checked all was good? Just sending warm hugs 🫂

[@sueleelee8036]

You are beautiful and strong fei

[@whitneybaevlogs]

Wowwwwwwwwe!!!!!! You didn’t say my name once in this video!!!! Next time I see you, POST UP!!!! 😤 uhm but yeah, going on a trip with trova was incredible, can confirm!

[@amandadd3247]

Love and appreciate you and sending you good vibes always.

[@che-nyax]

I’ve been a fan for ages-like, literally can’t even remember when I started watching you. Your content has always hit different because you’ve been such an icon for self-love and finding what works for all kinds of bodies. That’s why this is hard for me to say, but I feel like I need to. When I saw your video promoting Ozempic, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. It honestly felt like such a miss, especially coming from you. I get that people grow and evolve, and your choices are yours to make. But promoting something like this? With all the evidence about how harmful it can be? It just doesn’t sit right, especially when so many of us have looked to you as someone who champions self-acceptance and body positivity. I’m not saying your body or lifestyle can’t change-that’s normal, and I fully support you doing what’s best for you. But endorsing a product like this, knowing how many of us see you as a role model, feels really off-brand and even harmful. So many of your followers are in vulnerable places with their bodies, and this just doesn’t feel responsible. I’m saying this out of love because I know you’re better than this. You’ve shown us how to embrace our journeys in a real, empowering way, and this kind of ad feels like the opposite of that. I hope you take a step back, reflect, and maybe reconsider this partnership. You’re a queen, and queens make money moves-but not like this. Wishing you nothing but health, happiness, and all the love in the world. You deserve it, and I hope you keep inspiring us the way you always have. ❤

[@chloenorton3729]

Thanks for this video I appreciate this. I am going through divorce and the feelings hit.

[@angeleeprice-lewis2827]

OMG YOUR SO BEAUTIFUL

[@emileed1326]

I loved the wicked refrences! Did you enjoy the movie?

[@jennytran4938]

Where did you get your top from Feiii?!? It’s sooo cute and I love you BTW 🥺❤️🫶🏼

[@whitneybaevlogs]

I asked you to make a Glinda inspired look book and you said NO! 😠

[@ack-ok]

😂😂😂

[@xx9aznfaith9xx]

3800$ for a one week trip without flights included 😰 i guess if i win the lottery...

[@Loriani93]

I dont even spend 3800 for 3 weeks including flights😭

[@HeyItsMeChelseyOnYouTube]

I hope you’re investing in your mental health by going to therapy. I thought I was doing good but I kept my monthly sessions booked and thank goodness I did because this month has been rough.

[@kittygirl8600]

You should try reading books in your loneliness. The best place to be is reading my books. Read about anything a story romance, thriller, phycological, horror, etc.

[@geekdiggy]

i think you're giving way too much credit to the lions. they've sucked spectacularly up until dan campbell came along. so if anything THEY should be thankful for YOUR support. as for weight loss, it only "means nothing" if the value of your weight loss was directly tied to your looks. for me, losing weight didn't help me nearly as much in the appearance department as it did in the quality of life department. it meant there were so many more things i would be able to do without my body being the limiter. to anyone looking to lose weight: ask yourself why first. if it's so things will fit better or your photos will turn out better or so strangers on the fkn internet will accept you more easily, then you don't need to fix your body so much as your mind.

[@miniknit]

The whole part around 9:00... I'm in the same boat right now. It's so hard.

[@Elvi9615]

Fei will you be doing another Korea trip during the summer?

[@ms.nobody6417]

Sorry to ask but I just got back on her channel. Did they break up? 🥺🥺

[@p.c1892]

Yes

[@kgalaxm22]

I'm I missing something?breakup?

[@itsrro]

yes she breakup with her bf

[@Alex-vt8lm]

I was thinking this too - I wonder what happened! I thought they had been together for quite a while

[@wtfandie6113]

yeah im shocked

[@rose191991]

i think you should get a kitty or doggie❤ you will not feel so much alone -> trust me i know what i am talking about

[@ElenaV.1314]

I've had my current kitty for almost 9 years; I always say she's rescued me just as much as I rescued her 💜💜

[@kawaiiluvlis5805]

You looks so good now.

[@genesismagana8640]

Girl what about hmong new year???!?!?

[@Elvi9615]

I wish I could go on the trip but I’m a teacher I wouldn’t be able to take those days off 😢

[@iamktlyn]

the beginning with the wii music T-T

[@49erWAGs]

❤❤❤

[@uhoh5395]

omg i WISH Fei was my auntie LOL

[@shersxtrustx2864]

Sleepovers every day

[@HeyItsMeChelseyOnYouTube]

I’ve gained and lost weight so many times, my boobs are saggy sad sacks. Ugh.

[@cutebunny123123]

❤

[@sueleelee8036]

What happened to you're car? Any chance we will see you're siblings

[@rimhammoud17]

I hate u being not happy💔, plz be💓💓💓

[@arissilva7326]

Do you take protein? When I lost weight, I lost a lot of my weight in my chest but I started taking protein and I actually feel fuller. Worth a try :)

[@cherineelkordy9572]

What kind of protein are you taking I am struggling to find a good one

[@arissilva7326]

@ It’s from Orgain, organic protein, 50 superfoods and I take the vanilla bean flavor but I think they have other flavors.

[@florasanlbimposeti194]

💖💖

[@Itstjmj]

❤

[@alexisc5640]

First of all, you’re at the ideal age to have a child. That’s simply not true that you’ve missed the boat.

[@exowthyou]

Make makeup content too

[@geekdiggy]

i would have loved if someone brought it up: will your trip to korea involve mina? i found you through her and i know it's been a good long while since the two of you went around with each other. was wondering if that's still there or if that ship has sailed. also, i'm out of the loop. how come you're living alone?

[@DandyParrott]

The double edged sword with GLP-1 is yes, you might lose unwanted weight, but this drug also might exacerbate depression.

[@gimmyherbert8217]

I think your boyfriend watches ...and wow Feii ...you make me hungry

[@richardc5100]

Reduction?! Never

[@bunnirotz]

Bro shut up omfg. Creepyass comment

[@celinees1684]

Do you have a pet? I think it would be really helpful!!! I wish you the best!! 🫶🏽

[@ItsRaecocoa]

I'm in a very similar life situation, I identify so much with everything you said about living alone. 🩷