the death of personal style

[@TheVirtualJenesis]

People are trying to find their personality in the style rather than find their style in their personality.

[@number_rack]

Beautiful sentiment, I agree with you and have experienced it myself.

[@eva.6987]

I really like this. I always felt kind of lost trying to find my personal style over the years bc my style would change. But to your point, my personality has changed. There have always been certain elements that weaved themselves through, but functionality kind of always took over. That's fine, but what made it difficult for me emotionally was that sometimes I would find and wear something that made me feel completely cool and myself, but then people would be surprised I was wearing it. I wanted to be perceived as creative, but not shocking, but that's difficult if you don't have a super strong aesthetic. I also didn't have the means to create an entire closet of clothes that I actually WANTED to wear all the time. However, I think this is the very real experience of being a normal person

[@fairyofprairie]

🆙

[@LilBitWasHere]

Similar to "its in you, not on you"

[@shannonberp]

Can someone explain what this means? I don't understand it

[@thescarediest]

"You can tell someone's screen time from their outfit" is DIABOLICAL🤣

[@Rhandomcurator]

Honestly, it should be the name of the video.

[@mmstmuk]

so true though

[@abigailb8206]

😂😂😂

[@insgrmnsk]

im crying 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@EyeGlassTrainofMind]

Ehh? This is only likely to be true if you're chronically online. My feed isn't fed frequently and isn't focused on fashion that I wear (i.e., I follow a few historical dress accounts).

[@laurenhirth5746]

As someone who makes her clothes and works a standard desk job: fashion is the only medium of art that you can force other people to look at in a socially acceptable way.

[@jaypark97]

Architecture too

[@Meringue-hd4ob]

​@@jaypark97and the architecture you're forced to listen to until it's done as well if the construction is going on right outside your window 😭

[@mialemon6186]

The number of people who have reacted positively to my many dresses (many of which I’ve made) has vastly improved my social interactions. Also people don’t forget what department I’m in, I’ve become the unintentional face for the team 😂 Sadly I don’t have enough time/mental energy to work full time and make clothes though so I have a never ending stack of projects I want to start and online window shop for the materials for.

[@beatrizruizdeaguiar148]

I get this!! When I worked as a recepcionist I tried to not loose myself in the business attires, like yeah this is my job but I'm still me.

[@Solarpunk_SciFi]

I just doodle on my jeans with acrylic paint. So like. Nothing is impossible! :P

[@CollaborativeDog]

I have to admit, I started watching your channel because of your initial fashion style. As a 2nd generation older(almost 60) Asian woman, I did not often get to see Asian women in eccentric, period influenced fashion, which is what I favor. As a child, I was discouraged from doing so by my immigrant mother, and ridiculed by her when I grew older and dressed as I pleased. The internet has allowed me to see young people, young Asian women, wearing all kinds of fashion. This has brought so much joy to the child within me. Thank you for being a part of that.

[@jackieewhackie]

As a millennial Asian woman, your comment touched me so much. Thank you for sharing this to Mina and all of us. ❤

[@jellyrolly]

I will definitely say that immigrant families discourage their children from dressing in something that isn't 'basic'. I totally get your sentiment.

[@melowlw8638]

​@jellyrolly im gonna sound a bit self centered for bringing the conco back to me, but as an asian woman not from an immigrant family background (adopted), i feel like even asians in my case, feel pressured to conform to not looking eccentric. ive met maybe 2 young asian women my age who dressed alternative, but who were immigrants (parents or themselves), subconsciously telling myself that they were brave for it, in a way (bc on top of being seen as a foreigner, they dont mind being perceived as "weird") but i guess, if that makes sense, there r also adoptees like me who dont rly explore having a "weird" sense of fashion, bc we get to look more like the other asians that r a bit more "normal", those who come from immigrant families who r seen as asian.. thats vaguely how i feel abt it?? the fact that me not having a weird style + not wanting to explore having one (out of laziness) is also convenient bc i get to "look" like the asians that r seemingly not disconnected from their heritage, so im not adding a layer of smth that makes me distinct on top of feeling neither too asian/too european (in my case) i feel like rhis is a whole lot of me projecting a subconscious thought, but i feel like its smth thats not unlikely to happen to other asians in similar cases as mine

[@petitefraise7385]

I’m a third gen asian american woman who also dresses as a form of expression/“eccentrically” and your comment touched me so much❤️ I’m so proud of you for expressing yourself this way in spite of your mom and society’s expectations/stereotypes. I’m sure it must’ve been hard in the time you were growing up. Thanks for your comment :)

[@CosmicKindness]

So so sweet I love this💚🐣💜🧡💛

[@Jessanadoll]

I'm dead serious when I tell you that I hardly noticed your style change? I've always perceived you as being a stylish person and you have a very distinct appearance that shines even if you have drawn brows or not 😂

[@tammystiletto]

Same

[@thebookworm8574]

Also, the way i saw it, she never "overdressed" or "overaccessorized", it has always been very pretty and tasteful, yet simple Like, "sure, she's wearing puffy sleeves, but it's all the same color, and built with less than 3 different fabrics" or "the fabric is quite simple, because the embroidery is the thing that should stand out", y'know what i'm saying

[@Charlene_____]

This. I never noticed her style change too much, because it is still distinctively her. I always just took it as subtle changes as one tend to do as they grow up and evolve or learn/feel comfortable about themselves.

[@erinwantenaar7206]

Honestly authenticity is beautiful so I love that Mina is doing what feels authentic to her right now ❤❤❤

[@dieSchreckschraube]

I did, and it made me sad to see her dress so boring all of a sudden.

[@luzm3319]

This is definitely another trend… suddenly everyone is pulling the capsule wardrobe back out of nowhere. It should help consumption levels so I’m happy, but it’s definitely just the start of minimalism again ig..

[@--romy--9017]

Love that point of view 💕

[@LaniSahulga]

Fashion and culture are so deeply intertwined. I have my own opinions on this topic but I definitely agree with this. This channel has covered how economic decline/recessions impact fashion multiple times. Probably a multitude of societal and personal reasons that we see such a big shift towards minimalism

[@cherryblossomings]

It doesn't seem like she's following a trend, but rather reflecting on how adapting her wardrobe to her new lifestyle has been freeing - using minimalism as a tool rather than liking the aesthetic itself. She admits that this is a snapshot of her relationship with clothing/style, and will likely evolve with time~

[@breathoffreshair7795]

@@LaniSahulgabecause of consumerism. in a world without the imprisonment of money marketing becomes obselete, without marketing there is no largely modeled "norm" trying to be sold. humans have become far too normalized to the artificial culture that is our society as we know it.

[@MoreLikeMerMad]

​@@cherryblossomings Exactly this. But trends do sometimes follow on the philosophy of fashion thinkers. As a fashion thinker, I fully think Mina is doing this entirely personally and for herself, but it's a realisation that others in the fashion industry will inevitably hit around the same time, make attractive, and start a trend with less philosophically minded dressers.

[@milkjeanz]

it’s a meme that occasionally recirculates on twitter but jemima kirke writing “i think you guys might be thinking about yourselves too much” on an ig story genuinely has helped me with building a stronger personal identity 😭

[@ailinbehar4432]

it unironically has helped me to realize no strangers give much of a fuck about you or anything you do

[@roger1724]

and it took me until now to discover that it wasn't Fiona Apple in that image lol

[@gremlita]

Yess i love that image

[@jungjaehyuns]

my current favourite jemima kirke insta story for getting through life is ‘what the hell, sure’

[@jackieewhackie]

@@roger1724STOPPP 😭😭😭

[@Angrywraithy]

Minimalism can be freeing but it can also get so boring which leads you to go back to maximalism, rinse and repeat. The cycle continues.

[@lydiathompson8618]

then just find balance ????

[@sEaSoNaLMiLk]

@@lydiathompson8618Nope. It’s quite literally historical fact. Over arching theme will always sway back and forth.

[@Premium_jack]

@@lydiathompson8618individuals can find balance but culture won’t ever.

[@safari8447]

@@Premium_jackfr U can rock simple pieces with statement pieces

[@Bae-f3w]

@@lydiathompson8618 okay. How? Come on we are listening because you seem to have a lot to say.

[@Backflipgal12]

28:48 I've heard this advice for many things: writing, comics, animation. If you're making art, the best thing you can do is have interests outside of the medium you're using.

[@dalierdiaries]

That's such an interesting advice!! I wonder what's the idea behind it... Im thinking it is to prevent the person from being too narrow-minded on just that one thing. But what about those who just started out in this endeavour? How does learning everything and not so much about the thing you are so interested in gonna help with the skill set

[@jdamourep]

Yeah you're supposed to live in your clothes. clothes are mean to an end not the the end of things. Good, you've put a shirt you like, now go do something. The currating of a closet isn't the same as collecting stamps or something. You buy clothes to wear. And your hobbies can impact your attire. I love soccer so it's not bloke core to me, it's just my hobby. And if I'm wearing jersey I like when playing I feel good.

[@sleepy-peepy]

​@dalierdiaries it keeps your perspective fresh. using the commenters example, a comic book that's only inspired by other comic books will naturally be less interesting than a comic that's inspired by music, fine art, fashion, and video games.

[@danieldsantiagorodriguez4955]

​@@dalierdiaries I wouldn't say its about learning everything. Its about having interests outside your "main thing" because those can enhance or benefit the main thing. For example if you had an interest in marine biology at some point, that information can influence or inspire you in textile design if that were the interest. This is the case for an actual textile artist named Erik Speer. The better designers out there are inspired by many things that aren't fashion itself. The school I go to (a fine arts and design school) offers degrees in a variety of art fields, fashion being one of them. All students regardless of degree have to take a first year of fundamental corses that include drawing (basic, intermidiate and anatomy), painting, print making and scupting to name a few. Those bases will later help inform or grant a richer variety of skills and applications to your work as an artist. Its about bringing knowleged from other places into another thing and that intersection creating something new or a different angle to the field of interest.

[@IshtarNike]

​@@dalierdiariesit's also about not burning out. It's rare for anyone to be able sustain a hobby for decades on end without a break or a move to another interest at least for a little while. Like when you have writers block the last thing you should do is keep trying to write. Same for all other creative pursuits. The brain needs novelty and variety to operate best.

[@charliewatts7577]

i think that personal style should be wearing what someone wants to wear - as someone who dresses goth, im not doing that to be "unique", its because i like how i feel when i wear it; being able to wear my favourite colours, chains, fun makeup - it makes me happy personal style should just be a conglomerate of what makes you happy

[@charliewatts7577]

for me, finding comfortable but fun clothes has been the best balance - my favourite clothes are not comfortable or practical and that's unfortunately not viable for daily living - which is another thing that people forget is practicality !!

[@Ruby...X]

Exactly, Victorian goth here, and i wear my outfits absolutely everywhere! And i don't do it for people or to stand out but for myself, if people like it cool, if people don't like it cool. I don't care and never will in my very honest opinion lmao. My outfits look extremely uncomfortable to wear, but to me they're really comfortable, the only time i ever feel uncomfortable wearing smth is when i wear normal outfits. And I sometimes get asked silly questions like "aren't your boots too heavy?" and i just reply with "no im used to it atp lol" or i got once "aren't you wearing alot of accessories?" and im just like well🤷‍♀😭😭. But all of that to say that im happy with the way i dress and it should be the same for everyone. People in general should do things to please themselves not others!!

[@empressfreya9872]

I sometimes feel weird for being a goth who doesn't like makeup on myself, but the subculture has weirdly helped me evade the issues with chasing tiktok micro trends. I did have a time where I dressed more "basic" and it was fine, but there's just a difference with wearing a black skirt and a chain belt

[@LunaLongbottomLove]

I my typical outfit is choosing a fun patterned skirt, a top that is in the same color palette or otherwise matches the skirt, and then some big “tacky” statement earrings and….. this is comfortable for me! My skirts are a comfy fabric with pockets and an elastic band My sister recently had a trip for her bachelorette and asked me not to ‘dress like Miss Frizzle this weekend’ it was her trip so I understand her wanting me to try to fit into the group and dress more lowkey and I complied on her behalf But honestly *that* made me feel uncomfortable, the sundress I brought (because she said I’d need a ‘casual dressy’ outfit) specifically because it looked extremely simple to me and I thought it would fit in with her sorority friends *still* stood out because it had a (very subtle imo) pattern and other people wore all black or a one color top and a jean skirts I tried specifically to not be eye catching but even when I tried to be plain I wasn’t plain *enough* I didn’t feel like myself at all, I tried to pick things I thought she’d approve of but even then I felt like I only did a ‘passable’ job I’d feel leagues more comfortable with my Miss Frizzle skirts

[@LunaLongbottomLove]

(for added context when I say ‘fun patterned skirts’ I mean like jellyfish or a multicolored germs or a desert landscape, they are genuinely Miss Frizzle-esque, lol and I take that as a compliment vs the ‘pattern’ on the sundress, think like Old Navy because I think that’s literally where I got it (so for me *very* understated!) It was even like a muted color palette like olive and navy but that was still the most ‘eye-catching’ thing there)

[@redenavari]

34:38 "I don't need to prove everyday that I'm an interesting person." That pretty much sums up my attitude. I like to dress up. I like to dress up for the grocery store: I put together a banging outfit, maybe even makeup. But I work & study from home + I'm a hermit, so that's basically my one outing of the month. On the daily, I wear no makeup & live my life in sweatpants. & I'm a happy camper x

[@shironerisilk]

I'm the same, I love dressing up going out (the few times I go out in the month) and I enjoy planning my outfits depending on where I'm going. But I refuse to be ''made up'' at home - if I'm not allowed to be free from societal pressures inside my own home, where will I relax and rest?

[@Buggytown]

Very much the same I love dressing up. Due to my job I spend a lot of time in athleisure . So when I go to the grocery store or out with my friends I love wearing a vintage dress that I get to wear maybe once a year.

[@chrissy138]

Sadly I feel like a lot of people don't don't give you a chance because they view you as uninteresting person who doesn't have personality solely because you don't wear anything stylish. Even nowadays a lot of people in the goth and alt community don't give you a chance because again.. they think you are not real goth/alt if you don't wear the particular style of clothes that are specific for them. Bruh.. being goth/alt isn't only about the clothing style. It's about music,movies,values etc.. but I feel like in this generation those things are viewed as less important and again if you don't have the style you are automatically not a real goth/alt.

[@redenavari]

@chrissy138 You'll be a lot happier if you stop trying to cater to people you disagree with instead of dissing an entire generation based on the bad takes of a few.

[@user-hj4sf5pi7i]

You basically described my life haha

[@MackenzieDaugherty-g4i]

i go to art school for fashion and have experienced the phenomenon of dressing more simple as i progress because im putting all of my creativity into my work rather than my outfits!

[@khaledkhalifa4902]

Fashion burnout is so real…dressing comfortably and ‘basically’ has been so freeing for the past year. I’m currently at a stage where that’s reconfiguring again, I needed this reminder

[@mhmlesbian]

Same thing is happening with me. It takes a lot of energy to make good outfits all the time and its so much more relaxing to just wear casual clothes. I still go back and forth, but the pressure is definitely off now as opposed to when i felt like i had to dress good all the time

[@webiorg6147]

It's a problem only when you are trying to dress in a certain way. When you just get clothes that you like (without particular search for them) and without wondering whether they fit your style or not, it's easy. I have been shopping at second-hand stores for ages and I always just picked what I liked the most from the given set, I couldn't be picky.

[@isfpoisson]

I have a very laid-back part-time job, and that's when I indulge my idealized "personal style." But my real personal style is whatever doesn't get in the way while I'm chasing my toddlers around, or doesn't show stains too easily😅

[@selkiefluff]

I think being truly "basic" (in a negative sense) is wearing what everybody else does just for the sake of fitting in. You can wear popular and easily available clothes and still unique in them as long as you love them and feel comfortable in them. And a lot of the time you can tell somebody feels more comfortable and confident compared to someone who just dresses up, even if their 'costume' is tee and jeans.

[@Loool_7656]

I mean, as someone who loves looking basic af. I don't even think the "uniqueness" matters. Personally, as long as I'm wearing something I think looks cute and comfortable. I literally do not care about going further than that or personalising my style more. It's not about fitting in for me, but my personal taste is genuinely just basic af.

[@LunaWitcherArt]

When I was like 13 I loved dressing alternative (i wanted people to fear me). There was this girl that hated me (warranted), and once I saw her out of school with her entire friend group. 4 girls, all dressed EXACTLY the same. Same dress with the same cut and color and very similar prints and same tiny shoulder bag, even same hairdo. To this day, I have NEVER felt so repelled by a fashion choice in my life. Like, dress in basics all you want, but at least don't be so uniform, y'know?

[@Loool_7656]

@@LunaWitcherArt What's wrong w ppl enjoying matching their outfits w their friends? Who cares if it's uniform. If they enjoy matching that's fine. It's fine if you don't like it. But there's nothing wrong w the way those girls were dressing, they were just little girls matching their outfits.

[@MsJoana111]

​@@Loool_7656 theres obviously nothing "wrong" with it, but it's boring and kinda sad. You don't have to be a maximalist to have cute clothes and even when it's basic, it can still have a personalized touch. But dressing EXACTLY like other ppl? It's lame and shows a fear of standing out even a little.

[@Loool_7656]

@@MsJoana111 If it's in a friendgroup and you're supposed to be matching it can be fun. Which is probably what it was. It's not sad or boring ur just looking to deeply into it, or perhaps it's something you don't like. Which again, is fine. But again, it's not a big deal and it doesn't necessarily reflect on some sort of lack in personal identity in the girls.

[@notjennybounmivilay]

I think it's a confronting feeling realising that your curated "unique" style is just rooted in algorithms and consumerism.

[@Lena-xy8id]

I honestly don't know why people care about being unique. Like as a 12 year old girl I wanted to be "not like other girls" but I grew to understand that I was being mysoginistic and a few years later I realised Im nonbinary and everything clicked. But like what adult cares about that anymore. I feel like making a huge deal about how you are different and sometimes better than others is kinda stupid and mean even unintentionally, just my opinion

[@ingredi8409]

I'm not so sure about algorithms because I've never consumed a lot of fashion content or really studied how to dress. But consumerism, yeah, that's an issue. It's not easy to find things I like to wear and I often end up buying them at Shein. And Shein's clothes famously don't last much...

[@Niyawearswhat]

Cutting back on social media changed my style SO MUCH. Staying off TikTok and finding inspiration in media has been a game changer

[@RedDrowned]

THIS!!

[@chrissy138]

That's how I want to be❤ working on my social media addiction so I can go back to myself and my authenticity and rawness

[@swamp_faerie_]

what do u mean “finding inspiration in media”? (my english is not very good, i just got curious what media u mean)

[@ellixadore9699]

@@swamp_faerie_i think they mean media as in movies, tv shows, magazines, etc., instead of social media platforms!

[@ihartm6scra]

100% agree it hurts the most especially when you’re a teenage girl and you see your peers wearing trendy things it makes you feel like you’re not doing enough

[@orangetreevintagewaresotvw9590]

66 years old. Dress to satisfy me. Yes, denim on denim, braided hair, leather boots....took a long time to be comfortable to be me. I feel more beautiful now than I ever did. Wrinkles, gray hair, chubby...really me. So happy.

[@jensendsflowers]

Congratulations 💛 inspiring

[@lynnielie8312]

That’s such a badass and unique look but also so practical. Love it! You sound like a joy to know

[@adrs1380]

About this time last year, I decided to find my "personal style", as most of my life I've worn the uniform or dress code of my job. I don't know if I found a style or not, but decided I love super long skirts, and that's what I wear now. I learnt to sew to be able to make clothes I like. And the best part of that is POCKETS! Pockets on everything, real pockets where I can fit my keys, cellphone, wallet, sunglasses, tissues, you name it.

[@babyqeels]

I’m a gen z and I firmly believe denim on denim is cool as hell, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise

[@puterwizardd]

You sound super stylish, I love a good Canadian tuxedo!!

[@DemureDarlings]

PERSONAL STYLE IS EXHAUSTING! I wear a “uniform” but my personal style shines with my ACCESSORIES ⚜️

[@luci_lene]

Same!

[@Aliiii831]

Same here! I like to “spice up” the outfit with cute bags, bag charms, jewelry, hair pieces, etc that are personal to me and things that i like

[@DemureDarlings]

@@luci_leneYass

[@DemureDarlings]

@@Aliiii831That’s wear you truly are able to SHINE ✨

[@amynellibabi]

The funny thing is, I feel the exact opposite about having a low-effort wardrobe. Wearing a simple pair of jeans and a t-shirt caused me a lot MORE stressed about how I look, and it made me miserable. No matter what, I always felt ugly (even though I looked the same as everyone else). A few months ago I found the most obnoxiously colorful LSD-looking sweater (with shoulder pads) and I couldn't let it go. Did I look pretty? I don't know, but having that in my wardrobe made me SO happy. I'm not saying my fashion style is unique✨ because it isn't (a lot of it is comfy, colorful, cozy and frilly), but it gives me comfort in the way a lot of neutral fashion doesn't. I feel a little more like myself when I wear these clothes. I always look like I put effort in, even if I just grabbed the first two things I saw. I have pieces that are special and meaningful to me (like my LSD-looking sweater). I really want to push my style further and get more unique and fun clothes. It makes me feel more colorful and alive and happy.

[@carolitoffana]

OMG YES! I feel empty if I wear boring clothes.

[@phoneypseudo]

I feel the same - I recently had to wear an old t-shirt for the first time in years and while it was comfortable, I felt like absolute death precisely because I had no control over it.

[@Shewhospeakesinverse]

Yeah i do feel self conscious abt wearing a tshirt jeans n hoodie. Though i still will i like having the energy to put together outfits and it boosts my mood.

[@vnat3179]

This! When I dress as basic as possible i just hate looking at myself i need to be look vampyre like all the time lmao to feel like myself i just hate feeling human lmao

[@lieselottekramer2302]

Yeah! I feel like I’m cosplaying as a “normal” person. Whenever I tried to blend in by wearing basic clothes I felt like a complete stranger to myself!

[@adinabeck469]

tbh i think the best way to have individual style outside of trends is just to have an actual personality. If you know what you like and don’t like you won’t be influenced. This includes what is practical for your day to day life. Easier said than done.

[@MsDecens]

Yeah even if your clothing looks a lot like other people's, you're still happy with it because it's genuine. The satisfaction is sourced internally.

[@yourlocaldyke]

This! I've been dressing the same way since I was a teen. I'm 26 now and I don't like most of the clothes that are trending right now. I like bold colors and patterns and I buy things that resonate with that. But these clothes don't grab people's attention, I'm the one commanding the attention because I have a personality that's much bolder and colorful than my outfits

[@jessiccablessngs1536]

Yes. Personality , as well as values. For example, if you value modesty and chasteness, then it doesn't make sense to try to dress the opposite.

[@Miranda_Moon]

100% I used to feel bad when shopping with friends because it's always been very difficult for me to find something I truly like, so I was always embarrassed to waste everyone's time. Lately, I've just come to terms with the fact that this happens because I know myself so profoundly that even if I find something pretty, I know it doesn't match with what I am/like/dream of.

[@maryn4150]

I hate my narc mom who is obsessed with following trends bc she believes she has to be in the loop at all times. I am extremely opposed to buying useless jewelry, bags, clothes, shoes just because “it’s what everyone is wearing”.🙄 I DON’T CARE ABKUT WHAT OTHERS ARE WEARING! ffs why *should* I care? It’s like she’s training me to *care* so deeply about things that don’t matter to me at all… I’m so sick of living with her it’s so dmging to my mental health. The worst part is, she will go out of her way to buy things for me when I never asked for it. She will buy me clothes, jackets, shoes, and force me to try them on. I hate my relationship ship with her. I honestly don’t have space to breathe from her constant smothering. I don’t have room to be myself because she doesn’t allow it, she doesn’t approve it. God help us all…

[@tripticentral]

I think it ultimately boils down to who you are and what you want. Fashion can serve as a bridge from who you are to who you want to be. And we all change over time. Buying fewer clothes/vintage/thrifting can all be ways to break away from the establishment and making wildly different outfits with a limited number of clothing pieces is a exercise in creativity. So, do you... whatever or whoever you are and whatever or whoever you become over time.

[@davidpachecogarcia]

The best fashion advice “learn about everything else except fashion” is spot on and applicable to a lot of industries. Marketing coworkers told me something similar ie “if you want to work in marketing, don’t major in marketing.” When you learn outside of the area your trying to be in, you bring in a different perspective and you’re opinion in those other topics will def start influencing what you do, value and eventually wear.

[@worstusernameintheworld9871]

this is definitely subjective, but a lot of people who are skilled at fashion often learn a lot about fashion. If I use myself as an example, I look through fashion through a historical lens and also research on WHY certain fashion senses come into trend at some point in time, and through that, I get to mishmash what I've learned and add my own spin to clothing in order to create what _I_ would like to wear and what items fit MY personality best without looking like I'm just blatantly copying a trend. People take inspiration all the time, it's just a matter of intention, and knowing how to put your own spin to an already existing idea. I assume it's the same for marketing, you see what forms of marketing work, and you add your own spin in order to learn what stands out, it may be risky, but it'll definitely make your brand stand out more, which is what you want when you're marketing something, right?

[@sarahbouzanis1438]

@@worstusernameintheworld9871 I think these pieces of advice are more warnings against getting too wrapped up in an echo chamber. There's a danger in fashion, marketing, and most industries in being so wrapped up in "the discourse" happening in the industry that you forget to look for inspiration outside of it, or forget how "normal people" (often your audience/demographic) interact with it. To be successful in an industry, it's helpful to know your craft and its history, as you point out. But it's important to balance that with diverse pursuits, so that one's work isn't just rehashing the same conversations but rather able to inject new ideas and perspectives.

[@grllwrfr]

very different area but i (law student) feel very similarly about the law - my classmates/colleagues who worked different (non-legal) jobs or even had full careers before law school consistently have the best insights and most nuanced/flexible analyses of legal theories!

[@abstractart7941]

This is it, but it lateral thinkers makes people uncomfortable : )

[@Meringue-hd4ob]

​@@abstractart7941this has been the exact phrase I've been trying to conjure and you had it right here for me. I love you 💀

[@joeyo3y]

I feel like people minimize what they’re saying by saying they are “yapping”. One is allowed to speak in depth about things. If people don’t wanna listen they don’t have to. Loved the video and rly relate

[@lanny007]

I personally love the word. It may sound depreciating but by god does it sound so silly. Like yes I am yapping and rambling and talking so much. However I will not stop because I have to say what I have to say

[@branthlysauveur359]

@@lanny007wow. I feel the total opposite. I cannot find the words to describe my dislike for that word and people’s use of it.

[@RyanCrochets]

the word actually originates from the mid 1800's, and has zero negative connotation! it's simply just come back into modern syntax :3

[@777cartcrash2]

recently i developed a hatred for my yapping after hearing a recording of myself going on rants that i think are ridiculous and stupid and i have felt ridiculous and stupid ever since my dear internet strangers!

[@stellacide]

@@RyanCrochets well if people keep using it as an insult it will develop negative connotations

[@stuckinaloop9556]

I had my kids young. We've never had money. I would only buy quality items, made from good material that would last but I could only ever afford ugly sale clothes or second hand clothes. This became me, I feel really glorious rocking something no one else wears as it's no longer in fashion or because it's a little ugly. My identity is poverty but I'm comfortable here, it makes me inventive, patient, and ever so grateful. I bought waterproof shoes this year and I'm so grateful to the person who gave them away. So for me my identity and how I dress are intertwined, I'm bougie poor.

[@MeltingOnYourMind]

"bougie poor"....this line is tickling my brain

[@duchessedeberne3909]

With children dressing too nicely is money thrown away, as the throw up on us or draw on the clothes etc.

[@kathartog3227]

At 13:45 you said the realest thing I've ever heard "I personally think it's rooted in the fact that many of us are unhappy with our own generation. We don't want to be like everybody else because everyone else is lonely, umbilically tied to their phones, doesn't know how to read, needs therapy, and is addicted to online shopping. But I think we're afraid to admit that many of us are actually somewhat similar to everyone else, dealing with at least some of the same pathetic problems." Mic drop right there. You got us.

[@CureSmileful]

Personally I don't relate to that at all, I have no problem admitting I have problems, I like relating to people and my distaste towards a lot of people wearing similar things is more that they don't stimulate my brain (which is fine), usually people don't wear the flatterng silhouettes (which is fine too) and choose cheap fabric with cheap prints, waistbands instead of belts (which is also okay especially on tight budget, it's just that I don't vibe with it). The last thing is that it feels inauthentic to me (depends on the outfit and person) like someone just saw the trend and mimicked it or that they are easily impressed or don't have opinions about clothes. I generalised a lot because the popular skirt cut and top cut together don't make me automatically apathetic.

[@Sirenqueen333]

I'd argue people have always been in dire need of therapy though LOL

[@potatorcat]

I actually find the therapy dig kinda.. interesting- she put it as a negative thing??

[@natasha5553]

​@@potatorcat yea kind it icky you don't even need to be mentally ill to go to a therapist just as a mental check up is good like your doctor's visit weird she said it srsly....alot of people need therapy doesn't make them bad

[@NathalieRydell]

​@@natasha5553it doesn't make people bad (and she said nothing contrary btw), but it IS bad, that most people need therapy. It shows the status of the world - of the sick systems and relationships we created over the last 2000 years.

[@littleseaturtle]

as a former ostentatiously styled teen to now pretty basic looking adult, this definitely resonated. i used fashion as a way to be interesting/worthy of attention but now that i've settled into my skin, i don't feel the need to chase trends in search of my next "look"/to prove i'm ahead of the curve. it's nice to just be and enjoy whatever beauty happens across my path.

[@MrMilokiki]

Agreed as a millennial mom! Fairly basic style now, I just try and buy sustainable clothing.

[@PerthiticPink]

I’m just in my early 20s, I went from trying these things to stand out to “oh that seems like it would be cute”. I wear mainly thrifted clothes with few new pieces added. I don’t care if I get compliments, I wear what I feel like wearing that day. I wear my mom’s old clothes and I appreciate compliments and all but I don’t need them anymore. Just last week I wore a pink sweater that was my moms in like the 90s, a brown pleated skirt, knee high boots my mom bought for me and leg warmers to add some break in the browns of my skirt and pantyhose to the black of my boots. I felt genuinely confident in how I was dressed and got more compliments than I ever have on an outfit and alternatively I wore a t shirt, jeans and a little velour hoodie and got cat called by a total creep the day before. Most of the time I’m in leggings and a comfortable shirt or sweater but I’m not trying to express myself or stand out. I just see things and I think they could be cute and go for it. I’m dressing how little 7 year old me wanted for me in my teens that I was too scared to do. Do I sometimes look “basic” yeah and? Do I usually try to wear things I like even if they’re in a basic look also yeah. I struggled so much with external validation that now, I just wear something I think would be cute and comfortable from the style I know I’ve always wanted deep down. Even my makeup, people at my high school were homophobic, so much so that I was called names because of how I dressed and acted when I’m not part of the lgbtq community. I never wore makeup as a rebellion and now I’ve discovered red eyeliner. I do dark red lips, eyeliner, glitter and white on my water line with red on my lash line. No one told me to do it, I just feel good like this. It’s fun and not everyone likes it and why should I care?

[@Flawlesslmperfection]

So true. In my teens and 20s I used fashion to try to represent or find myself because I didn't know who I was. I also desperately wanted to fit in and be liked. Everyday was a struggle to find the 'right' outfit, to give the 'right' impression. Now that I'm older, I feel settled in myself and free from all of that stress. I just wear what I want based on my mood or what feels comfortable or cute. I know who I am and feel confident that people like me, the person, and not just what I wear.

[@thatcoolcat12]

So do you ride the trends now? Or do you have a specific look you stick to? My mom told me normally your 20s is when your tastes lock in

[@PerthiticPink]

@ I wouldn’t say it’s one specific look but I’m pretty happy with my current closet just a few more things I want to find at the thrift and I’m almost 22 so I might still change but I’m happy as is with my closet. If I see something trendy that I like I’ll go for it but I can’t say since I started dressing myself I really tried to follow trends in the first place. I didn’t wanna be feminine when living with my parents because of the pressure they put on me despite them not being conservative people so I wasn’t focused on trends. It’s not like after age 13 I cared about being like other girls though I did have that “not like other girls” phase. I’m mainly dressing like my mom did but a bit more risqué but also how I saw in the movies growing up. It’s easy and I feel good like this considering I have my mom’s face and undertones too :3 I guess I like feeling proud of my clothes and their quality and sometimes uniqueness but I definitely use Pinterest to help sometimes but I’m usually trying to find real vintage looks to emulate with my closet

[@RenéKladzyk-z5x]

Girl you absolutely are a reporter. This is important fashion journalism!!!!

[@sebastianjaramillo2671]

if “you can tell someone’s screentime by their outfit” then that just means you’re just as online as them 😭

[@bonnieinlove]

Yeah but at least I’m not advertising it on my body lol

[@chrissy138]

But that screen time haven't brainwashed you like them

[@natasha5553]

​@@bonnieinlove wdym advertising on my body??

[@natasha5553]

​@@chrissy138you doing the opposite of what this vid saying to.....the whole better and holier than thou mentality is counterproductive

[@tanyapri9262]

Agre. more than that, you look down and judge those who basically do the same.

[@anniepoorman8393]

My Japanese language teacher told me about 部屋着 (heyagi) which just means room clothes and its like the clothes that aren't pajamas but clothes you don't wear outside because they'll get gross so they're clothes specifically meant for when you're awake doing things around your house and I've never been the same since discovering it. I feel like I need to change into different clothes to get into the mindset to be awake especially when it gets dark at like 4 now. EDIT: people keep bringing up that lounge/leisurewear exist but there are plenty of people who wear sweatpants outside and athleisure is a whole clothing type based in this usage. What I am talking about is clothes you specifically designate NEVER goes outside but you don’t sleep in. it’s like a different way to internally categorize clothes because as people have said in the comments they sometimes use like sundresses (traditionally not considered leisurewear) as their “heyagi” (ie inside only clothes)

[@TryinaD]

We Indonesians have this concept too! It’s called “baju rumah” (house clothes) and we wear them around the house in daytime.

[@johannaelloso9418]

Filipinos call this "pambahay" literally meaning "for the house"

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

ah, so like the hoodie i wear at home so i can eat pizza and be slobby and not have to care about getting stains all over

[@chesito15]

Ropa de entrecasa we say in my family. Yeah, my life improve A LOT since I started changing my pajamas, insane how something so small can impact your life.

[@Mangafrita533]

I'm surprised to know that not everyone had this concept! In Brazil we also have this, I think I actually have more "stay at home clothes" than outside clothes lol

[@M4GG0TM0UTH]

Although I don't 100% agree on everything you said, I appreciate your outlook on style and your sense of fashion. I had never thought about stressing about my outfits so I never considered that it might be an overwhelming activity for someone else, you opened my mind considerably on that topic. For me, fashion has always been about having a sense of control in the way I'm perceived by the world. I wasn't allowed to buy my own clothes or have any fashion input despite going to public schools until high school. I find my sense of fashion as a little piece of my soul that I can show off and the giddy feeling I get when a zipper looks exactly how I imagined it or when my shirt falls just right is unmatched. As much as I adored your previous style, this one also suits you too especially after learning the reasons behind it. I wish you the best in your style journey and where ever it might take you.

[@dorinisbaldera6392]

I think people talking down on those who dress basic is an outcome of those dress basic talking down on those who like to be stylish. There’s always a battle.

[@jessya.955]

This is so insightful, actually. 👌🏾

[@Pie-bb6wt]

I agree! You can kinda see the hatred coming out in this comment section too 😬

[@Skippy.1945]

I think the point however is to celebrate people wearing whatever makes them feel good and happy rather than crowning one sense of style as better than the other. No one should be talked down to because of their clothes. It's a superficial and weird thing to do regardless of the side that it's coming from.

[@annia3685]

This is so true. I feel this move back to basic is a move back to openly crushing those who are different

[@stephanyreii]

Totally. It's so sad how some people will put you in a box just for how "weird" you look, the weird you are.... Like you are MORE creative or not, MORE interesting or not. That's dumb. Being stylish, yes. Wearing basics, yes. Thinking people is x or y for how they look, that's stupid. In fact, if you are trying too hard to "look different" (not expressing yourself, just LOOK WEIRD) probably you're more basic than the basic.

[@philippa2772]

0:11 Mina really grasped us like that, holding space for anyone who felt some kinda way about that

[@bunnyfourseven]

Grasp us gently, Mina!

[@LucriArteMontagna]

😂❤

[@walterdrinker]

Mina out here grasping our attentions

[@pinkclogs]

i didn’t know this was happening, that’s really powerful.

[@F00L_Of_A_Took]

9:50 this is not a "tiktok thing". this has *always* been a thing. if you looked at how the majority of people dressed 10 or 15 years ago, you'll find the exact same tendency to homogeny, just with different styles. personally i think the fashion industry plays a much bigger role to this phenomenon than social media does. not ten years ago i couldn't find a baggy pair of jeans to save my life. skinny jeans were _The_ trend so that was all that was readily available. it's how trend cycles work and people have always been susceptible to the trends of their era with or without social media.

[@LunaWitcherArt]

As a plus-sized individual all my life, I've never had many eccentric/alternative fashion options to get saturated by. So I take my intensily-procured goth pieces and wear them as a trophy - I, too, can dress HOWEVER I want. I WILL express myself even though the industry doesn't want me to.

[@blu-]

I feel like because of this Im kind on the opposite journey to Mina. Growing up fat buying clothes was always so stressful and sad. Ive dressed for comfort and neutrality all my life, now as an adult I want to try more "eccentric" stuff.

[@stace_d]

SAME HERE!

[@LannaCatWag]

@@blu- I relate to this too! I was afraid to be shamed when I want to wear cute stuffs like lolita fashion because I'm fat and brown skinned. Now when I'm older and don't care about what others think, I started to wear what I want to wear, and it made my life happier!

[@velvetandverain]

I'm a 44 yr old mid-sized goth and just wanted to show support for this comment!! I will be 70 years old wearing dark red lipstick, and IDGAF if it "makes my lips look thin" or whatever stupid makeup rules are out there for aging women. In my local goth scene, there are people of all colors, shapes, sizes and I love seeing how creative everyone is with their outfits!

[@audddddd]

i went to an ✨art high school✨with no uniform, and i’ll never forget when we did a debate in one of my classes over whether or not we should have a uniform. when one student argued that we can’t express ourselves with a uniform, my teacher responded “why don’t you find a less superficial way of expressing yourself” 😂 i don’t think fashion is always superficial, but i think so about that moment anytime im stressing too much over my personal style or what to wear

[@audddddd]

maybe it’s something about the idea that to be an individual you HAVE to have a distinct style

[@bleuumscarlett7977]

I remember having that same debate in high school, and of course that same argument was giving, and i just think it's weak. You can have individuality despite a school uniform. The way you style your hair, pair the pieces of the set (it was an all girls school at that time, and the options proposed varied, there were skirts of any length, diffrenet types of shirts, pants and shorts), what schoolbag you use and how you carry it, and we're not even talking about anyone's personality... like wearing the same uniform does not suddenly make everyone the exact same. But my school was a private school and many a girl was from a rich family and was going shopping every week or so while some of us weren't that rich at all, so i just think these girls didn't want to look like the poors lol I really would have liked a uniform though, i always struggled getting up and ready in the morning so not having to think about what to wear would have been great for me

[@katemillard7565]

I went to school in the uk where every school had a uniform. I can’t imagine not having a uniform, the charity “non-uniform days” were so stressful with kids’ judgement, I can’t imagine doing that every day!

[@katemillard7565]

It’s supposed to be an equaliser - no brands allowed, no decoration or ornament showing value of the clothes.

[@eggzbllb]

I understand the suggestion for a uniform especially when it comes to wealth disparity but I would find it a little ironic to go to an art school to see that everyone wears the same outfit. I think its a bit pretentious to look at ones care for expressing themselves through clothing as " superficial " seeing how when we look back at history and the simple length of a womans skirt could be a form of rebellion and a political statement. Fashion can be way less vain than we give it credit for.

[@transitdogsays6886]

I went to design school and the students with the strongest personal styles were not only at the top academically but also came out on top within their career fields later on. It all comes down to having a strong visual identity: The ability & drive to envision something new and unique.

[@66kandFrends]

In the sewing world we are loving the younger millennials and gen X, 2020 lockdown all these amazing creative kids across the planet dug out grandma's old sewing machine and found the bag of 1970s clothing next to it and went wild with it. We've seen the same shift where they've calmed down a bit with the interesting design elements but have massively embraced upcycling. Don't believe what they say, The Kids Today are awesome.

[@sunflower9460]

Aw this is the most heartwarming comment I've ever read, I'm one of those kids, I love the 70s and up-cycling clothes and really anything creative and I'm very passionate about everything I do. This is so nice to read when so many articles only talk badly about us younger generations and so many employers won't hire us without 5 years of experience+ making it really difficult to get a job and countless rejections. This has genuinely made my day, I wish you all the best ❤️

[@Gr95dc]

SOME kids today are awesome. Just like in every generation

[@lysatronix]

it’s taken me years to feel comfortable in my style and learning how to sew has been a huge part of that. happy to join the sewing crew here on youtube ❤

[@86fifty]

Thank youuu! I'm going to be joining the ranks of home garment constructors soon!! I got a sewing machine for my birthday, and going to my local sewing hub to learn how to use it soon

[@66kandFrends]

@@Gr95dc There is no such thing as a bad kid, it's adults putting kids into situations they can't handle and then being shocked and judgemental when they act out over it that's the problem. You want to be 12 and go through the peer pressure of social media, because I don't. At 12 I was riding my bike to my friends house because her brother had a Playstation (1) and not a single photograph was taken that day.

[@coolchameleon21]

i don’t dress for attention or to be unique. in fact, i hate drawing attention to myself and i hate that many of my outfits to tend to make people stare a bit. i dress the way i do because it feels like me, it’s an expression of myself. it’s also a way for me to be creative. dressing up gives me confidence and makes me feel like i’m being authentic to who i am, i don’t feel comfortable in basic clothes. they make me feel like i’m wearing a costume and trying to be someone i’m not. there’s nothing wrong with basic fashion, and i do dress basic sometimes for practicality reasons, but not everyone dresses eccentrically because they’re looking for validation

[@painedgray]

It's so annoying when people assume fashion is just for attention or status. A. The weirdest clothing could not contain the alienation I feel in every day life B. If I dressed like a total normie, I would still stand out, but in a much worse way.

[@dieSchreckschraube]

I relate so much. The need for self expression outweighs the discomfort of being noticed.

[@aalmondmilk]

I used to hate people looking at me too. You’re dressed differently, of course people are going to look at you. lol. I have had people tell me “i wish i could dye my hair” so many people are appreciating your look. Dressing differently than most people will get you many compliments for trying something different. try to change your mindset on it.

[@suu1998]

Yep dressing basic makes me feel I'm killing a part of me

[@coolchameleon21]

@@aalmondmilk i mean compliments are fine, i still don’t enjoy the attention though. my outfits aren’t even that outrageous, but i tend to stick out because i live in a rural area where everyone wears leggings and t shirts everyday. anyone who dresses up even a little bit sticks out like a sore thumb here

[@livsalinger2935]

During the summer I got rid of probably 80% of my possessions in pursuit of a simpler life that upholds my values and interests - living and working in nature, being outside, not spending money. I noticed that when I started living out of a small suitcase I became a lot happier and more confident. I’ve had to take a break from that lifestyle for the winter and return to what I was used to and I’ve noticed I’ve been more preoccupied with my style again. It feels like it’s proving your point - I was happier with my looks when they were further from my mind. This video was a good reminder of that.

[@baxna]

Sometimes dressing with personality isn't always worth the stares, glares, and up & down looks. I understand why people dress to disappear -- people aren't friendly to style that has personality & individuality!

[@RoRo-vc9hv]

This!!!!! 👆👆👆 I used to like to dress creatively with flamboyant nature. Then I realized the extra attention that can bring. Now I dress to blend in!

[@baxna]

@@RoRo-vc9hv Life is so hostile to the creative & expressive ones! Where are we supposed to go lmao! I hope you find a place to wear those amazing flamboyant & creative outfits without negativity!

[@thatcoolcat12]

My dad is always hinting that he doesn’t like that I dyed my hair purple. It’s something I never expected from him! Like what does it do???

[@nekomeow3161]

​@thatcoolcat12 do you like having purple hair? That's what matters, if you'd be more comfortable without then do that..don't tone down because it's "extra"

[@hannabooklover]

​@@nekomeow3161 I agree that coolcat should keep it if they trully enjoy the color, but there's something about a parent's disapproval that can taint your enjoyment of something. I've experienced it before. I'm happy one second and one offhanded comment from my parent makes me second guess myself. Eventually I can get over it, but it's a tough cycle

[@Angers98]

I really appreciate this. I hate the concept of looking "basic" because often it is just clothing that is conformtable & affordable, while Statement fashion pieces are hard to find thrifted or just wildly expensive in stores. I feel similarly to the idea of "looking straight" or "looking queer." You are queer, whether you have a mullet or a septum piercing or tattoos or none of the above. People who categorize others superficially on their personal style and deem others "not real" because they're too "basic" are not people I want to be around.

[@ArtichokeHunter]

you're absolutely just as queer whether you look queer or not, but different types of flagging are valuable in the queer community for a lot of people. i don't have a mullet or a septum piercing or tattoos but i definitely want to read as queer to other queer people and not just because i'm trying to date. of course you can talk to people to let them know various things about you, including your personality and queerness, but you can get a head start with your style and i'm not really sure there's such thing as a neutral "basic" style in the queer community? i don't identify with any labels for my presentation but it's all a choice, a degree of femininity/masculinity/androgyny, a degree of edginess or not, that's going to affect others' perception.

[@Draggonny]

​@@ArtichokeHunter People find their people, however you dress. I'm not queer but I'm neurodivergent and many people are both. I'm not fashionable or trendy. I don't dress to stand out but I don't follow the current styles either. I'm low-key weird. But weird recognises weird and I have lots of beautiful peacock friends with rainbow hair or cosplay outfits because I'm loudly intolerant of bigotry. People just click even if they're not out or not diagnosed because it feels like coming home when people just get you.

[@Natalia-qs4fi]

the thing with "looking queer" I believe is that queerness started as a way of resisting and rejecting (in a very political way) cisheteronormative life/dynamics so of course this included fashion and personal style and hairstyles etc as these are culturaly very very binary in cisheteternormavity, and basically the way cisheteronormative gender and the binary is expressed. nowadays the word "queer" has become so popular that the initial meaning is forgotten and thefore the political work of resitance is not always done. of course there are many ways to be political through queernes (not only fashion) and I agree that to categorize superficialy other's queerness through their looks is ridiculous but I also believe it is ridiculous to use the word "queer" without any accountability to its meaning and therefore normalize toxic cisheteronormative ideas within the queer community...

[@sersergv]

Nah. Being visibly queer is a deeply political thing. The point is to take up space and be impossible to ignore in a very binary world. I paint my nails and wear a septum ring for the same reason I got on testosterone: I do not fit into the binary and I refuse to sand off parts of myself to conform to a category that has been thrust upon me without my consent. The point of flagging is not to prove to randos on social media that you're a "real" queer. The point is to build community in real life by showing other queer people that they are not alone. When I started wearing my they/them pin at my last job I had two different coworkers and a regular customer come out to me within a week.

[@doid4354]

this conversation goes downhill fast on other social media platforms lol. I see people fighting over who is allowed to wear what based on their sexuality or politics. I have literally seen “alt” people insulting and bullying other alt people for not being left-leaning in politics. Saying they can’t be alt if they are republican. Same goes for a straight person who apparently dresses “queer”? I’ve been called a baiter and a liar because I am straight but dress like a gay person.??? It is so weird.

[@apatheticowl3461]

I feel like everyone just wants to fit it, whether it be with the masses or with a smaller group so they can find an identity or hide in it. At the start, it can be fun and freeing, but sometimes once it becomes more synonymous with themselves it can either become laboring or unlike themselves and they crave change but have become comfortable and unable to find they're current self. There's nothing wrong with finding new style over time. People change and it's good to accept that and keep growing

[@MerryMoss]

Throughout the video I kept wondering if at some point I would also grow tired of dressing more uniquely... but towards the end you said something that made me realise we started dressing "weirdly" for entirely different reasons. I finally embraced myself being weird, when I would continuously not be accepted, no matter how hard I tried. And the _moment_ I stopped trying to be liked and accepted... I suddenly made new friends. People who were kind, and genuine, and liked me for who I was. Ever since then, whenever I make "weird" outfits, I know that others might find it weird, but I do it purely because it makes ME happy :) And that's the only thing that matters. 💚

[@jessya.955]

Exactly

[@mon4711]

My outfits feel like a "hey! like minded people come talk to me!" sign hahah and I love it.

[@mariem4631]

I’m closing in on forty - I wear eccentric things because color, form, pattern are exciting to *me*. I’ll never be beautiful, but I can be true to myself, and the people that like me for me like that about me as well.

[@wumologia]

Same here! I've wasted my "effortless youthful beauty" years in dead end office jobs which required me to dress like a beige inoffensive nobody. I'm 40 and I've been working from home for more than a decade now. My style gradually became more and more whimsical even though I do not have coworkers, therefore there is no one to impress. Ruffly maxi skirts, Edwardian-ish lacy blouses, vintage brooches, layered jewelry, basically everything that a Ghibli movie character would wear - it's what makes me feel at home. I do it for me.

[@psychedelicyeti6053]

This made me think of Phoebe Buffay from Friends. She's my favorite Friend and growing up, I liked seeing a character that did things for herself. My generation like to make fun of ourselves for trying to be quirky, but there's a difference in trying to present yourself in a certain way with just being yourself.

[@LeiaRipley]

I used to dress very 70s for a while. And any time I liked a piece that was not in the 70s vibes I was stopping myself from buying it. It all became like a costume, making me loose my personality. I felt restrained with clothing, just because everyone told me that I was so cool in 70s style. But then I got tired of it, and just wanted to wear what ever I liked, without questioning it. Without thinking about being in a categorised style. Your video really put my feelings into words ! Now dressing up feels less stressful and I genuinely like wearing basics my own way. It has made me feel like my true self !

[@TheRealHelenaDeluca]

Yesss this is me! I wear all black and also really love Victorian inspired clothes and if I occasionally liked something outside of that I wouldn't buy it. I've started to buy pink clothes- they're cute!

[@laurenneher1339]

Sooo interesting, I’ve also toned down my personal style and appearance this year, stopped bleaching/shaving my brows, wear more casual, simpler pieces, let my hair grow out untouched after shaving my head. It feels like a refreshing break for a while to tone down and break from keeping up with “cores” and faux internet subcultures.

[@laurenneher1339]

And it absolutely feels like a subconscious break away from wanting to be perceived as interesting, especially by other creative people. I no longer feel the need to prove something based solely off of my physical appearance.

[@annaifos]

I lost my style and found it again after having stayed off social media for a year. I started to recall my old inspirations and personal preferences once I was no longer constantly influenced by what I see on instagram.

[@TheSkeletonJr]

Me too! I realized what I really wanted to look like formed in my adolescence (pre-social media) and life circumstance kept me from dressing or looking how I always wanted. Now in my near 30s, I'm starting to rediscover my own personal taste/style that I've always had but never allowed to thrive.

[@artesiarastania5998]

I had the same situation. I stopped following a lot of fashion influencers because their ideas are completely different from what I am comfortable wearing. Especially during this all quiet luxury or old money trend. I feel like I am a 10 y.o kid who is playing around with her mom's clothes. Not to mention the over consumption because of the sense of FOMO to get everything that they considered must-haves so we can look as good as them.

[@annaifos]

@@TheSkeletonJr Yes, exactly the same for me!

[@annaifos]

@@artesiarastania5998 Oh that is such a great point about the fomo. I also shop waaayyy less now, less impulse buying both online and in store, and overall just less purchases period.

[@chrissy138]

How I want to be❤

[@Thistrueone]

For me personally, fashion is just a way to bring my personality to people. I'm autistic, so it's often really hard to show others who I am. I also adapt my outfits depending on my mood and vibe. It's really just about conveying my values, but I find it interesting that others use their clothes as external validation.

[@user-kw7mr6xt9n]

i feel this! i went to a school with uniforms, too, so i naturally compared myself and how i looked in the uniform to other students back in my school days. somehow, there were tiny, minuscule differences in the way we wore the same clothes, and i would be constantly chasing the smallest ways to make myself "fit in," whether that be wearing a certain color shoes, wearing a certain style of sweater, etc. don't even get me started in how i stressed over the outfits i wore on days we could wear regular clothes instead. by the time i graduated high school and realized i was autistic, i wasn't dressing to fit in nearly as much, and i started picking out clothing pieces that *i liked* and was reflective of *my* personality. i dress for the occasion, and while sometimes that's quirky statement pieces or vintage styles, whenever i'm not going somewhere it's almost always comfy shorts and a graphic tee.

[@Thistrueone]

@user-kw7mr6xt9n same!! I love to dress up when I want to and sometimes, I'll run around like I just woke up. Honestly, I think the clothes you wear are just there to make you feel more comfortable in your own skin: whether that's expression or comfort or sth completely different for you.

[@Dazychain]

I feel the exact same way. Some days I choose to dress down because I'm getting sensory overload, though.

[@too.annoyed]

I feel the same way about my fashion choices as you do. I'm also autistic. I never participated in clothing trends or dressed to fit in/to look like someone else though of course I did and do dress in ways that look like other people, just not purposely. I do not seek to gain external validation or stand out/fit in but I dress to feel comfortable in the moment - sometimes that means corset, puffy skirts, accessories and complicated makeup and sometimes that means a band shirt and jeans. I just wanna feel good in what I wear and that's it.

[@inesliagoovaerts]

i am also autistic and i never felt the need to fit in with my clothes! but i only got the most comfortable exploring my personal style when i entered art school. it was really nice and now, 3 years later, i’m really happy by the way i present myself. i think it really reflects myself and what i like. i have a question for you tho! do you get annoyed when something you like and it was deemed weird, gets trendy? like i’ve been hanging toys in my bags and purses since a long time, but now it’s a trend and tbh its i feel a bit weird about it. i guess seeing something that i worked so hard to embrace and not ashamed of (and thinking about all the bullying that i got in my life) it really gets me frustrated that now everyone can do it so easily :/ what do you guys think?

[@hermitgirl]

I stopped dressing eccentric when I started to feel that my personal style limited my ability to be seen. I tried everything to develop a sense of style that was my own and that spoke to my character, but in the end it just made it easier for people to force me into a certain box. My style no longer made me feel unique or attractive, but instead made me feel too easily minimized to a some pinterest or tiktok aesthetic category. This video is so well done!

[@mari-blanchard]

your editing in this video is INSANE, the doll outfits, the backgrounds !!!! this is the first video i’ve connected to in a while because style has become harder with dealing with depression. i was known for being the crazy colorful outfits girl and i’ve lost it a bit

[@thatcoolcat12]

I never feel like myself unless I’m wearing a fun color, but what do I do if I feel like I can’t put those outfits together anymore? Rot.

[@jhoniikemp]

Literally, the editing is phenomenal and super professional

[@electr.cdreammachine]

Sometimes the inner peace I'm trying to hold within myself is in a basic but comfortable and pretty sweater/sweatshirt etc

[@meremeth]

So real, when I'm depressed I just want to be so comfortable and so boring looking

[@flyingfranky]

you hair has gotten so long! it’s cool that i’ve been here since the rating disney princess dresses vid (WHICH IS 4 YEARS AGO HELLO??)

[@gremlita]

you're a real one omg

[@delinadilargachew7678]

same!!

[@VideosForYou90]

Wow same here! :)

[@jackie9397]

Same here, I remember being in awe she had so few videos but was so impressive and professional and cool!

[@marvel_warhead4458]

Hihi same here

[@LuLu-in-a-MuuMuu]

I love your vintage style, but I do have to admit that your natural make-up and hair is just so beautiful. You look fresh and healthy and beautiful.

[@albagordillo3919]

i'm not a newyorker, not an american, i'm a 21 yo girl in the south of spain and still I think your experience and your journey is so relatable... i for one think personal style has to do with naturalness in a way. dressing ''well'' one day, maybe to boost your confidence bc you know the world will praise you, but the next day...just borrowing your mum's clothes, not wearing any makeup, i don't know. even wearing something someone gave you, just to show them you care about them... fashion can be so meaningful. but we are NOT cartoon caracters, we don't need to be consistent

[@zoetjez]

I think about personal style in a very simple way. Do you like the item? Do you feel good when wearing it? That's personal style. Personal style is not about being unique or basic. If it's trendy or not. If it looks good or not. It's about being authentic and to dress to satify yourself. I've dressed kind of eccentric ever since I was a kid. Always been a weird, creative, extraverted girl (Combined ADHD). Never dressed for anyone, but myself. Have been insecure about it a lot. But the need to be myself is big. So I just wear whatever I want :)))

[@cloudykid7278]

This! My country is pretty restrictive when it comes to what's "acceptable" so the minutes I live for myself, I'll be seen as "weird". The thing is I've never done these things to be seen as "quirky". It's a natural thing and it's unfortunate that our culture is too restrictive. But I'm not gonna overhaul my entire closet just because someone said I looked ugly because I'm the most comfortable dressed as myself instead of trying to shove myself into a certaint aesthetic for the sake of conformity. And as someone who's also neurodivergent, I stand by the idea that wearing whatever you want is the goal be it it happens to look more "basic" or "quirky" as long as it makes you happy.

[@jannagrosse8057]

Yes! This is "personal style" in my opinion. It's your uncle who always wears cargo shorts and a metal bandshirt with a cap for as long as you can remember. And it's also your grandma dressing in midiskirts and a cashmere sweater. They found "their look".

[@katerynasirko1832]

When I was a teen I had this deep-emerald green blouse of an unusual cut, I have no idea where it came from. My mom told me she used to have a similar one when she was young. It was flowy and had these flowy sleewes, and I liked the colour and the look so much, I wore it as long as it fit me. I probably wouldn't wear such a piece now, but back then it was my favourite. It's the garment I remember the most from my childhood.

[@coolchameleon21]

@@zoetjez same

[@FletcherBH]

How serendipitous for this to come out as I’ve been feeling like my outfits have lessened uniqueness but the urge to accessorize has been feeling superfluous. I’ve been feeling like my daily outfits have become costumes of a character I want to be, which eventually starts to feel like an inauthentic whirlpool that I’m trapped in. This video has inspired me to ~consider~ purposefully dressing down as an act of confident power rather than a “loss” of something.

[@manyatandoori]

im so happy to have witnessed your personal style evolution :)) can't wait to see what the future mina has in store!!

[@m_here1]

Reducing my time on social media has helped a lot. When you can’t compare yourself to others on social media, you compare yourself less to others in general. You open the space occupied by attempting to fit in and fill it with discovering what you like and enjoy.

[@kristianapacheva]

Style is taking whatever th you really like, no matter if fashionable right now or not, and styling it in a way you feel comfortable and situation appropriate.

[@laraizdo]

as you said, when it comes to personal style the biggest problem (in my opinion) is that people don’t know themselves and it doesn’t look like they want to either. I used to try to be more “out there” with my fashion choices as I move in a fashion/art environment, and i didn’t understand why i couldn’t make it work, i felt like i was wearing a clown costume. Since trying to dress more intuitively and knowing what colors suit me best, I feel the most confident version of myself and getting dressed is SO easy, even tho i’ve become pretty basic. I’ve realized what my priorities are when it comes to getting dressed up (instead of trying to look a certain way) and everything else has fallen behind. Such a great take on you part :)

[@Meringue-hd4ob]

To add onto this and ill preach it like gospel; you cannot dress to your personality, as your personality is not defined by what you like but by who you are. And i think that's what messes people up. Because truly, a lot of people aren't as interesting personality wise to others as they try to convey. Me personally i LOVE cinnamoroll, 4 week old kittens, lemon meringue pie and cute chubby goldfish. I dress in all black, or white. Do intensive bodybuilding too. None of this is indicative of my personality. But me pulling a nasty face and not trying to hide it because i don't like somebody? Me having no issue with confronting somebody about them not picking up their dogs shit? Cussing somebody out because they're acting way out of line? *that* is part of my personality

[@laraizdo]

@ so what would be your advice to finding your own style?? because i get what you’re saying but for me it has been a purely intuitive process, so im curious if it looks different for other people

[@Meringue-hd4ob]

@@laraizdo "i like this" *grabs it* Because thats your style. Doesn't say anything about your personality. As "personal" in personal style is interpreted incorrectly. It's just what you like to wear

[@claraborgesbr]

Interestingly, I'm going through the opposite. I grew up in a poor area in Brazil, where we wore uniforms to school to avoid prejudice (since most of us didn't have the money for going out clothes) and, since there's a lot of sexism and a lot of racism, there's a sort of homogenous look that's expected of you when you grow up. Now that I moved out of Brazil and I find myself in a city where nobody cares what you dress like, I have the freedom to choose whatever. I grew up so used to wearing basic clothes because that's what's expected and now I starve for finding my style, wearing crazy outfits, crazy hair colors. So interesting to see the opposite happening to you!

[@luci_lene]

I see myself so much in your words perhaps because I came from the same situation, same place and also now live abroad, but it made me realize the freedom to not follow trends, I don't need to care for any of that because honestly working class people cannot afford to put another stress to their day.

[@DreamingOfStars02]

Best tip I ever heard when finding personal style was to look at things you love visually that are NOT related too fashion (art, architecture, cinematography, etc). I suppose it relates to ‘perusing other interests’ and it’s amazing what you can learn about yourself from them.

[@marianav9655]

oh i love giving myself a cartoon closet for every day, it definitely helps with decision-fatigue and over-stimulation. i buy several of the same items so i can wear the same thing for a week or two before doing laundry, and i save creative outfits for when i’m doing something special 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Martina_E]

Yes to this!

[@n9315]

As someone with Adhd, this is so real. I have so many styles that I would love to dress in. But Adhd makes decision making and timekeeping so much harder. Most mornings I don't have time to put lotion on my body, nevertheless decide which accessories go with which outfit. So for me, it's joggers and a T-shirt on a regular basis.

[@exwaifupillow]

This is the way

[@luci_lene]

Exactly! I have no energy to be thinking of style. And I honestly couldn't care less. Thank to the gods my job requested a uniform, which is very nice so I don't need to worry ever!

[@cecille5833]

Lynn Yaeger put it beautifully when asked about her closet of archival fashion “ these are my clothes,..,These are my clothes” which is how I feel compliments are nice and all but my clothes are for me to feel like myself in, they’re just my clothes

[@rosspoppy]

5:23 this is why i love scrubs so much. it makes life so much easier to just wear the same/very similar outfit everyday and then on the weekends or my days off i can dress myself up and it feels like a reward

[@ragdollrose2687]

Being disabled, my personal style is extremely important. I've always had a unique sense of fashion, but when I'm sick, I can't wear most of my clothes because it's too much to handle or too uncomfortable to wear. But so many disabled people are dressed by others, for the convenience of others, mostly because accessibility in clothes is highly overlooked and most pieces are functionality first (or made for old people's taste) I wanna shine and feel free to be myself when I go around with my cane and talking about disability rights and accessibility and joy. I spend so much time in conflict with my body, with clothes making me feel less than when I'm at my lowest, but anytime I can, I want to feel good and look good, give something more to my body than just the chronic pain and worry. Showing that disabled people can be and feel beautiful, even if I spend most of my time alone in my flat. It's humanizing to be seen as worthy of adornments, I feel

[@Shirumoon]

This is the most touching comment I've read in a long time, wow. My own chronic illness is relatively mild but your words hit me at my very core.

[@ragdollrose2687]

@ Hope you find some joy and a little bit of relief through it 💙

[@maxinemitchell6740]

I'm also disabled, and I feel this as well. I've often thought of it as like, "well, people are going to stare anyway--might as well give them something to stare at."

[@MarcellaisprobablyConc3rned]

Thank you for sharing this. I have more invisible chronic illness stuff going on, but it's been a huge deal having enough energy to express myself through clothing again. I resonate with what you describe about considering convenience and comfort in clothing out of necessity sometimes. It can feel so energizing and humanizing and grounding to have the ability to put an outfit together with creativity and purpose. It physically feels like interacting with my intellect and the world in a meaningful way.

[@ViolaSmith-w6l]

Your comment touches something deep within the experience of disabled people. I have been disabled for a decade, but it’s progressed to the point of obvious physical deformity - my posture has completely collapsed. I had given up on myself and was wearing old joggers in plain grey and black that didn’t even fit me properly, with old t-shirts a family member offered to give me before throwing them away. Then I bought a couple of fun patterned items of clothing on impulse one day. Trying them on, it ignited a new passion in me for fashion, one that lets me accept my physical differences (most of the time). In the past two years, I’ve built a beautiful wardrobe that is comfortable in my wheelchair but still sparks joy every time I look at it. Sometimes I can’t get dressed for a week… but when I do go out, I have this beautiful feeling of self expression. Now I don’t hate my body in the same way I used to; I can look forward to decorating it in colours, patterns, and textures that I find beautiful.

[@courtneyl0ver-s2w]

I'M SO GLAD YOU MADE THIS because I honestly feel so pressured to have a personal style by people around me and the internet but I just want to wear clothes and go out without looking like everyone else or feeling unaccomplished

[@EmL-kg5gn]

Do you mind explaining more why it bothers you? I’m curious because I often don’t like it either. For me I think it’s the idea of representing myself to others? Some people treat fashion as communication, which is valid, but it just confuses me. If I think of trying to say or represent or express something with my clothes it becomes like a costume. Even when I’m trying to represent or express myself! To me it ends up feeling like acting and dressing up as myself instead of just existing as myself while wearing some clothes I like. If that difference makes sense?

[@sideshowmob]

@@EmL-kg5gn because at the it end of the day, they´re just clothes. it doesn´t have to be more than it is

[@nothere9295]

⁠@@EmL-kg5gnthis is an interesting comment. I’m on the opposite spectrum, I like that clothes allow you to mask who you are, I like that I get to construct another version that I want the world to see. That imbues meaning into how I dress because I want it represent something about me. And an outward thought out construction of who you are can absolutely be like acting as you said. From my perspective, I want to act and from yours, perhaps you don’t. It doesn’t have to have any meaning, they’re just clothes not who you or I actually am.

[@EmL-kg5gn]

@@nothere9295 That makes sense! I do love thinking that way occasionally, especially for events, and I can see how it allows for more intentionality. It just doesn’t come as naturally for me. That’s probably why it’s often disorienting for me but meaningful for you! It’s so cool how we all have different thought processes even for simple things like this :) So true!!!

[@weezymo4456]

I might have to come back to this, had a hard time tolerating the "revelations" of what basically amounts to "finally understanding and acknowledging my privilege while attempting to justify it"

[@jordobuppo]

Right. Like dang, I wish I could afford to show off how anti-establishment and anti-oppression I am through buying quirky clothes online every day.

[@lanilynn1227]

Getting off of social media led to me spending less money on clothes and not really shopping, which led to me valuing higher quality pieces over having the most fun outfits meant to prove a point or signal "hey look at me! I'm this thing!!!". Plus, I work in a business casual setting now and am a chronic outfit repeater, and dress the same way now more or less all the time! I have never gotten as many compliments on my style as I do now wearing the same sweater for the 3rd day in a week.

[@Desros]

I’ll be sewing my own clothes soon bc I get disappointed every time I go to the mall. It’s cool to see you talk about your evolution of style

[@Vega921]

That’s so exciting! I’ve been sewing my own clothes for about a year and it’s really honed my personal style and made me so much happier. Good luck! Sewing is so much easier than it’s made out to be.

[@Desros]

@ yea I actually used to sew in quarantine but stopped. I’m finally getting back into it I know most of the basic stuff. Thanks for sharing though it’s cool to meet other seamstress.

[@HikariHolic]

literally got a sewing machine this yesr bc i was tired of what i saw online and what options i had, decided if i can't find what i want I guess i have to make it myself!

[@Desros]

@@HikariHolic yesss that’s exactly how I was feeling!!!!

[@Shirumoon]

@@Vega921 WHAT? I think sewing has an extremely steep learning curve. At least when it comes to making well fitting clothes, which is what I struggle with most. I don't want to wear anything that looks worse than fast fashion but better and it'll take me so much time, effort and costly fabric to get there. I'm in awe of everyone who has mastered this skill!

[@ravensong7128]

5:39 I like to have a balance of personal style and simple comfortable outfits. I mostly wear simple pants and an oversized hoodie or tshirt, and reserve more styled clothing for when I have a whim for peacocking. If I’m going on a trip I’ll pack mostly simple outfits but one or two pre stylized outfits for when I feel like showing off so that I’m not over packing.

[@lindseystein9676]

I love a basic look of solid colours, t shirts, sweaters, skirts, pants, dresses- but then I add bits of antique accessories I’ve accumulated along the way. Which mostly came from living next to an antique store while I was growing up

[@AmieTheCat]

I toned down my style this year for comfort but recently I put back an over the top outfit that I used to wear last year and it felt so good and so me!! Fashion is different for everyone

[@ChenilleSagoe-x9h]

What styles are you into?

[@mgam4963]

I’ve also toned down my style this year for comfort (because getting up super early in the morning and spending like an hour getting ready just didn’t feel good to me💀 also I became tired of being occasionally harrassed by people at my school and I’ve had nobody really bother me all year since I’ve started dressing “basic” which is nice I still like my outfits and I’ll dress up for special occasions like outtings with my friends. I do notice that people do infact seem to overlook you if you’re not dressed up because the way that I am treated when I have an outfit put together with makeup on as well- vs when I’m dressed casually, it’s night and day. I consider myself alternative💀 I like goth music and I’m pretty strong in my leftist beliefs, I feel like a problem today with fast fashion and what not is that I can’t automatically trust other people dressed alternatively because it seems a lot of them don’t really embody the political or moral beliefs of the subculture they’re imitating.

[@prayeraliciawilliams6005]

I resonated with this video so much. In previous years I would effortlessly put together fashionable pieces and I thoroughly enjoyed dressing up, however as I've gotten older it has become a chore. As well as a subconscious competition when going out, to see if I could have the more flattering outfit. Ive resorting to clearing out my closet around twice a year, sticking to more simplistic or "timeless" pieces. I related very much about how easier it is to dress myself in the morning now. Laying out an outfit the night before or having an idea of what I want to wear is so much easier, shopping is incredibly easier and less time consuming. I have recently been feeling a bit guilty that I have peers who look gorgeous while embracing their own personal style, whereas although I like what I am wearing, I find myself comparing my outfits to theirs and feeling underdressed even when I am not. This video has helped me to come to a realization that my sense of style being rooted in comfort and few colors is not something I have to change or will "grow out of". My personal style reflects my lifestyle as well as portraying a sense of elegance that makes me feel beautiful when I don't have underlying feelings of not being "creative" enough. Which has me thinking that I do not have to dress a certain a way or do my makeup differently, rather than change my mindset.

[@candyapple5389]

your eyes are just glowing omg that lipstick really brings them out

[@malikastlaurent]

personal style is a big outlet for creative expression in my life because clothing was the first way i was able to establish my transfemininity. fashion helped me experienced a world aligned with my gender identity. i am passionate about style because i look at it with childlike curiousity and nostalgia for a time in my life where clothing could unburden me from dysphoria and enrich my imagination. today i look at fashion and glam always centering the anarchy of good dress. i broke all the rules when i put on a dress and my first pair of heels and it was the happiest i’ve ever been. there are no rules for fashion that i am bounded by save for the bliss of a look that’s true to me. fashion for me, then, is truly a release from the expectations of polite society. absolutely loveeee this video 🥹

[@beanosbourn5492]

Yes!! Gender queerness and queerness highlight how whilst fashion can be an individual and person style, it can also be a rebellion, and a revolution.

[@sevenleaguesunderthesea]

I feel the same way as a trans man ❤

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

preach!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@kaw8473]

Thank you for being vulnerable. I finally nailed down my uniform and couldn't be happier. A simple color palette of black bottoms with purple, peacock, or forest green tops. Colors that are guaranteed to look nice together so I can mix without owning a lot.

[@coppertop182]

Your disection of "basic" and your personal style journey is fascinating. I am constantly reflecting on my clothes and how i want to feel in them; do i want comfort, confidence , utility, fun? It feels like magic and an extension of myself, ever since i was a teenager. But also im sure theres a little insecurity there of me needing a personal style to feel interesting and unique. Being a human is so funny. Love your videos as always!

[@gisella5402]

love this comment, super relatable honestly

[@MsJoana111]

We're all insecure, might as well have fun with your style and not think about it too much. Enjoy your style, whatever that is!

[@nothere9295]

I really love this approach to fashion. Incorporating this philosophy in my life too. Thank you for sharing.

[@bijou4104]

i had a huge “personal style” journey when i got sober! i was a major party girl up until 01/06/24 when i quit drinking/drugs altogether after another disastrous black-out. i was majorly insecure when i was using/partying and covered this up by wearing ott (specifically-gothic) outfits. i thought this is what my “friends” and even my boyfriend found cool/attractive/interesting. i thought they’d never actually find me interesting…so i essentially compensated to take the attention away from myself-a person i fundamentally thought was never good looking/cool enough. i tuned out my insecurities in elaborate clothing and liquor. when i quit i had a major fashion existential crisis…i hated everything in my closet and just realized how inauthentic many items were, and how impractical and agonizing getting dressed was everyday. i essentially felt like i had to get to know myself all over again. something that ironically helped me was finding a “style uniform” embracing a some minimalism in my closet, and limiting aspirational fashion content on my feed. i feel more comfortable and truly myself when i get dressed now. i feel much less burdened with a need to perform for my peers. my insecurities are not perfect or cured by any means, but eliminating means i was using to harm myself further is allowing me to better address those issues honestly. i love my closet now, and am thankful for my sobriety everyday with the gifts it has given me 🫶🏻 this video really makes me feel seen!

[@EmL-kg5gn]

Congratulations on getting sober!!! That’s such a big achievement 🥹 I hope you can continue to maintain sobriety but if you ever relapse I hope you’ll remember how to find the way out. Either way recovery has ups and downs so be kind to yourself! I hope you’ve got people supporting you and that you’re so proud of yourself ❤️❤️❤️

[@Becky-pu5js]

You are so strong for this! It takes great effort to find the clothes you're comfortable, without fighting addiction at the same time. I'm proud of you!

[@croftslife]

So I've just found out about you, my loss, and after a couple videos, which all resonates with me so well, I check out the other titles, and I'm like "what a treasure". I love your thoughts, the way you present them and your energy. Thank you for sharing 💖

[@jehnuhsuhs]

I’M HERE AND I’M SAT! Personal style is so interesting. I believe I “found” mine when I started flipping my closet for autumn and winter. I concluded my style was inspired by the ladies of Living Single. I think with how much culture changes, what we infuse as we share culture, and fashion trends: we should remember that we bear the responsibility of personalizing instead of looking at references 24/7. Ok, watching the video now lol.

[@ambre4144]

Being inspired by Living Single fashion wise is so real. Max is all over my mood board.

[@Honeybee-yt6qs]

the way you spoke about having to prove to others that you were interesting through your outfits resinates so much with me. Years ago i would get up several hours early just to find a fit that i deemed cool enough, so that i could feel confident with myself. The way i dressed meant everything to me like the clothes were the real person I was just a mannequin...

[@kfish6347]

I have watched your videos for a long time and found the decrease of eccentricity in your style interesting, thank you for explaining it! This video resonated with me but in an opposite way. I dress very plainly, I do not wear make up or style my hair daily -- I realised that all of my confidence was fake and relied on being made up in a certain way. I don't want my self-worth and mental health to rely on vanity, I want it to rely on feeling happy and sure of myself. I'm still working on this, and maybe when I feel I have 'achieved' this I will open myself up to fashion & beauty once again. Thanks for a really interesting video!

[@marmoth9786]

my relationship with personal style feels healthy. i take most of my inspiration from people i see in real life, and i'm very aware that nothing will ever be truly unique to me - i'm simply an amalgamation of influences that came before me. it feels like the only times we can create something genuinely new is when we invent new materials to work with.

[@darklycute00]

It makes me super sad when someone I follow who’s eccentric outfits I enjoy either leaves the fashion or just stops being super into that style anymore and starts dressing “normal” even though I did the same exact thing!!! In 2020 I was newly single and started experimenting with my personal style, buying new clothes and doing really fun makeup all the time. Now that I’m in a relationship again and working a desk job I would love to spend time dressing up and doing my makeup but I just don’t have the time or the energy - and I also have other things that bring me joy. I think a lot of people went through that after covid restrictions were lifted.

[@jimin8006]

Are we the same person lol. I used to be so into fashion before covid when I was in uni. Now I am a post grad, working every day is a lot. I don’t have time or energy to think about what part/style of fashion I like. I have gone back to reading and gaming to make me happy instead. What an odd turn of events, I thought I would spend the money from my first job on fashion but I don’t. Or maybe I am just having a post grad identity crisis.

[@seabreeze4559]

don't let a man steal your beauty, just by being around

[@seabreeze4559]

a BF air glowdown is a WHOLE thing

[@extrashotofespresso_]

So getting into a relationship and having a job makes you boring?

[@katerynasirko1832]

​@@seabreeze4559 I actually found my personal style in my current relationship and while working at home. I put together outfits because I get bored of sitting at home in pyjamas and I look for reasons to go outside, and it's usually very nice) and my now-husband often compliments me on my outfits and rates them in a humorous way 😂 "you are dressed as a lesbian librarian" is my all-time favourite review of his)

[@beautyandthingslyndsie9998]

I've been in a clothing slump due to weight gain and I've recently been working out and eating better gradually. Thank you for posting this. I remember caring about my wardrobe 😢and I honestly miss it. I'm looking forward to my new aesthetic

[@Soleils]

I work in a school. Last year was incredibly stressful. Dressing creatively was my saving grace. It was something I had control in and allowed me to express my creativity for the day.

[@LenaMeetmein]

thank you for sharing! respectfully disagree. nothing gives me more energy and brings me more joy than putting on something interesting and bright in "my style" every morning. nothing cheers me up on a cold grey morning in the city than seeing, among people in the same long puffy jackets of grey-black-brown, another fashionista... also smiling at me

[@Becky-pu5js]

I am also a big fan of colorful winter clothes! Right now everything is black or gray, so I will wear my bright yellow and light blue jacket to bring the color in!

[@tnatnatna]

Same ❤❤❤❤

[@mon4711]

I think it's also obligation vs choice. I also love experimenting daily going to work and dopamine dressing. However some days I just don't feel like doing anything, I throw on some pants and a top as I drag myself to work. It's my choice, I don't feel like I owe a standard to others. It's an hobby of sorts. But living in a city where you see experimental people daily, having to film videos which you talk about fashion and having a clear visual brand... I can see how it can be exhausting and feeling like a costume after a while, like a burnout. It becomes an obligation, work. I understand how she feels and it's a good idea to rest that part so she can focus on other things that bring her joy.

[@Ishouldnthavebeensopublic]

But why do you take pride in standing out against regular people. Why do you feel the need to be superior in that sense? It’s Odd.

[@NovaMeteora]

​@@Ishouldnthavebeensopublicbestie, I don't think them dressing up because they really enjoy it and believe it lines up harmoniously with their personality is ANYWHERE close to the reasoning of superiority. Its honestly rather odd that you'd jump so far to that conclusion right off the bat?

[@marial2382]

I'm not into fashion but when my algorithm finds your video and I watch it - I always find it educational in many ways. You never let me down, thank you :)

[@KaylenKowald]

This is really interesting as it's so different to why I dress alternatively or interesting or "weird" clothing is a form of self expression and joy and is an extension of myself for me, it allows me to connect with others too and it can be a conversation starter I dress for younger me and for present me it reflects to people like me that I'm a safe person or that we possibly have things in common. I do drag too and fashion and style has a big part to play there too maybe one of the reasons we differ is I come from more of a costuming background rather than fashion

[@ChenilleSagoe-x9h]

I’ve always wanted to dress alternatively/ quirky I just need to save up 💷💷💷💷💷💷💷

[@ColtChile]

OMG what Iris Apfel says in regards to fashion is now being pushed to the body itself. "People feel secure if they look like other people". Now everyone is starting to look alike due to cosmetic procedures. Absolutely terrifying.

[@EmL-kg5gn]

That’s so true and super scary to think about! Especially considering the kinds of ideologies that historically idealise everyone looking the same physically… Like it’s natural for people to want to fit in, we’re social beings. But what are we trying to fit in with?? Who’s deciding that? What are the consequences for those who can’t fit in?

[@maverickbull1909]

I mean… what’s your definition of everyone? You mean fake influencers… who all live in LA? Or celebs… who mostly live in LA? Or what? Because I’ve never actually gone anywhere where plastic surgery is actually popular enough to see it reflected in the faces of people around me.

[@Shirumoon]

@@maverickbull1909 Yup, especially in my little corner of Europe that's a complete non issue. I rarely see women who got their lips done, maybe the occasional nose job but even that is just not a thing here.

[@Odumase]

@@Shirumoonit’s definitely popular in Germany and England

[@VivianRiehle]

I was scrolling on instagram reals when I came upon a random dude praising your content. This was the first video I have watch of yours and can I just say wow. To have a journalist such as yourself in the fashion industry is so incredibly inspiring especially among a sea of influencers and others hoping to shut out controversy. Much of what you talked about resonated with me and my own journey with personal style. Recently I was burned out and have felt less confident in myself and my identity because I felt by dressing more minimalist I was a loosing something. I have been trying to learn how not to tie my identity and confidence to my self worth and creative identity. This video gave me hope that I was moving in the right direction! Amazing video about to go binge watch like 30 more of them lol.

[@HikariHolic]

admittedly, i did really love how ostentatious your style was in a time where things like fashion were getting super conservative and boring, but you still shine through in your analysis and that hasn't changed on personal style, ive swung between being super fashion forward and then comfort based and as ive become more confident in myself as a person im coming to have a nice blend of both my outfits have never really been a representation of me as a whole though, i dress boring and think im boring but my colleagues and friends continously remind me of how interesting my life/hobbies/thinking is so idk what to make of it lol

[@dewdropmushroom]

Like many, I started watching you for your style and, can't lie, I do miss seeing your outfits. However, the outfits were just icing and it's your actual content I enjoy the most. And if you're more comfortable with it then who can ask for more?

[@thevelvetwatchband3469]

Your hair grew so fast! I like all your different fashion styles.

[@sarah1kt]

Life is too short to worry about what future you might think of your photos. The photos will bring back memories. Wear what makes you happy, if you can, if that is simple or unique, more power to you 😀

[@Hell-Catx]

I hardcore agree with CJ the X when they said, "Fashion is language, and you're babbling incoherently". You can have a personal style that communicates who you are as an individual while also signalling to others where you "fit" in society.

[@dii0ny5us]

This was a really interesting perspective. I also noted the Van Gogh quote. Thank you for sharing that, it is very evocative. I think my personal style is quite me. I take from trends like the barrel jeans, because I love baggy pants and they're the only ones I wear, so trends that further spread items that fit a category of style you love is great. But, I also have a different perspective on fashion than most. Like you, I don't want to be so wasteful, and I also want to have the clothes I own for a long time, so I think it's smart if people think about the colors that are their favorite and have been since forever/wear similar hues so things look cohesive. This way, people don't have trouble thinking up outfits to wear, and can just pull from their closet without worry. I agree people should worry way less about their fashion.

[@cmulo]

My sister is in your video! She is Bethanymulo she was watching and so happy ❤❤❤❤❤🥹🥹🥹 I’m so glad too!!

[@gremlita]

Omg that video she made was so good

[@HY-qn2es]

Which video are you talking about? I would like to have a look :)

[@belenhernandoscocchi649]

this video has a very strange perspective to me... i find it kind of atypical and unusual for people around me irl to actually care about serious establishment fashion? i have a few friends that half give a shit so they tend to have some trendy item or another, but none that seriously follow microtrends, and certainly none that would speak negatively on the way people dress (which might've been self-selected by the fact that I dress like an original oc do not steal). mostly people around me dress in ways that express their interests and values and personalities? my friend who's punky has a lot of black t-shirts and puts patches on his stuff, my friend who studies history dresses in pastel colors and and sturdy fabrics, my friend who does lesbian activism dresses like a father and has his hair long... most of these people have dressed like that for years, slowly evolving their closet so that it adjusts to them as they grow and change. they're easy to buy gifts for because they're cultivating themselves and expressing themselves through their clothing in a feedback loop. that's how most people irl are like, in my experience? i go to college, i go to music shows, i go to parties and i go to political marches, and that's what i see in people around me. it might really be a 'i can tell from your outfit how much screentime you get' situation but for the entire duration of the vid i felt like i was learning about an alien culture. the people around me and myself all have some form of personal style, it balances between comfort and style, between situational awareness and authentic self expression. this video made me sad, i think.

[@manuela1044]

agreed. I think Mina has a very new york / social media personality / trend perspective, - which is fine! - It’s just not what real life is for me, personally.

[@lillyk.265]

Right?! Like ironically saying how revolutionary it is to dress “basic” kinda proves how out of touch you were in the first place. In what world do most people around you not have every day comfortable clothing?? Even most alternative people have day clothes and work wear.

[@sunnisideupplz3920]

@belenhernandoscocchi649 I felt the same way- I'm so used to being around the same crowd of alt friends. And it's odd to me to take about minimalism as revolutionary because.... a ton of people where I live think like that. Like my little circle of alt friends are the minority? I really feel like she lives in a different world than us.

[@tmiss971]

I love this video Mina. So honest and introspective. I definitely relate as a early-mid 20s person constantly evolving how I think about my identity and how I present myself and it’s nice to see someone also so open to that constant evolution

[@Conysims]

17:10 I did a model course in 2022, they told us "if you go to a casting, go as basic as possible, that's the way they can imagine you in any style they want their brands to be". They would also add "unless you know the casting is 'your style' ". i don't remember the explanation but I got the concept, let's say the casting is looking for goth models and you are goth, well then go with your own style and they'll love it